Today we want to ask whether our low self esteem is impacting on how well we can do the Good Fail? And what we can do to remind ourselves we're all awesome creations.

DOES LOW SELF ESTEEM EFFECT HOW WE DO THE GOOD FAIL?

Yes, self esteem does effect us doing the Good Fail.

HOW HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM EFFECTED US?

We definitely suffer from low self esteem and this has held us back from opportunities. There is an inner narrative that we will always fail that unconsciously shapes our reality.

SHALL WE INTRODUCE THE CONCEPT OF THE INNER CRITIC?

Tara Mohr’s book Playing Big calls this inner voice our Inner Critic and she has this to say about it: 

We don’t need to have had particular life experiences to develop a harsh inner critic. We’re hard wired for it. The inner critic is an expression of the safety instinct in us - the part of us that wants to stay safe from potential emotional risk - from hurt, failure, criticism, disappointment, or rejection by the tribe.

CAN WE EXPLORE THE LINK BETWEEN LOW SELF ESTEEM AND THE INNER CRITIC MORE?

The Inner Critic is motivated by keeping us safe from emotional pain and in doing so is happy for low self esteem to keep us from taking risks.

IS IT POSSIBLE TO BUILD UP OUR SELF ESTEEM BY GETTING RID OF THE INNER CRITIC?

It is unlikely we can get rid of it completely. Separating its voice from our own is vital and then we can work on building our self esteem.

WHAT CAN WE CONCLUDE FROM ALL THIS?

That by recognising and separating the voice of the Inner Critic from ourselves we can start to build our self esteem which is vital for failure.

WHAT’S OUR RECOMMENDATION FOR THIS WEEK?

Playing Big by Tara Mohr

Still working through this book but the work on the inner critic alone makes it worth reading.

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