The primary focus of our discussion centers on the profound inquiry into the nature of self-reflection and the inherent challenges many individuals face when confronted with their own image in the mirror. We explore the notion that such an act transcends mere physical appearance; it is, indeed, a quest for self-understanding. Through our dialogue, we uncover the psychological barriers that inhibit individuals from engaging in authentic self-reflection, as many are conditioned from a young age to avoid delving into their emotional landscapes. This episode highlights the importance of confronting one's emotions and the difficulties associated with sitting in silence, which often reveals deeper truths about oneself. Ultimately, we aim to illuminate the complexities surrounding the question of whether one can genuinely look themselves in the mirror, both literally and metaphorically.
Takeaways:
The act of looking in the mirror often signifies an individual's quest for self-discovery and self-knowledge.
Many individuals are conditioned from a young age to avoid introspection and emotional confrontation.
A significant number of people struggle to remain silent and reflect upon their inner thoughts and feelings.
The responses gathered from others regarding mirror gazing reveal complexities surrounding personal identity and self-perception.
When individuals quickly assert that they can look in the mirror, it often indicates a superficial understanding of the deeper question.
The exploration of personal emotions is critical, as unresolved feelings can hinder one's ability to truly confront oneself.
So I have down here as a question, what is somebody looking in the mirror for?
Speaker A:
And so YouTube answer to that question would be, they're looking for self.
Speaker B:
Getting to know who they are, basically looking for self.
Speaker C:
There's ways to solve problems.
Speaker B:
The reason why I say it's about looking for at yourself is because we are programmed at a young age a certain way.
Speaker B:
We are taught and programmed not to go within to deal with our emotions.
Speaker B:
And that's where a lot of people get stuck at, is they.
Speaker B:
They go to tell their story, but they fail to realize that they are attached with the emotions because they never dealt with the emotions.
Speaker B:
They never sat there.
Speaker B:
And.
Speaker B:
And basically, it's.
Speaker B:
It ties in with sitting in silence.
Speaker B:
A lot of people can't sit in silence.
Speaker B:
They struggle with that.
Speaker B:
That's gonna be another topic, another episode on this same subject.
Speaker A:
All right, two words.
Speaker A:
As I was listening to y', all, two words stood out to me.
Speaker A:
But I'll come back to it.
Speaker A:
Rafiki, you had a conversation with a couple people about this topic, right?
Speaker B:
Yes, I did.
Speaker A:
When asking this question, for the most part, what was people's initial response as what do you think?
Speaker B:
I was actually shocked because it was basically even.
Speaker B:
First it was a yes or no question.
Speaker B:
Then I asked other questions.
Speaker B:
On top of the yes, no question, a lot of them answered yes.
Speaker B:
So half answered yes and half answered no.
Speaker A:
Now, here's another question.
Speaker A:
Now, you said under further review, you started asking more questions.
Speaker A:
And as you started asking more questions,
Speaker B:
what ended up happening after all that?
Speaker B:
At the end, they all asked me my point of view.
Speaker A:
Well, well, did you find that someone who quickly shouted, yes, I could look in the mirror under more questioning, did their answer kind of shift?
Speaker B:
Some did and some didn't.
Speaker A:
All right, the ones that did shift it, what's your opinion on that?
Speaker B:
When I asked the line of question that I did, because each one of them, I asked him different questions.
Speaker B:
It wasn't the same question over and over.
Speaker B:
It was different questions.
Speaker B:
And the reason why I done it that way there, because to me, if you answer it real quickly, real fast, yes, I can.
Speaker B:
To me, you didn't really sit there and think about.
Speaker B:
Because a lot of them would say, well, of course I look in the mirror due to the simple fact that, you know, I got to put.
Speaker B:
Gotta put my makeup on or I gotta do my hair or I gotta wash my face.
Speaker B:
You know, I was getting some answers like that at first until I got into it deeper with, like, a couple questions.
Speaker B:
I would ask them, well, what do you Tell yourself, when you're looking in the into the mirror, what do you see?
Speaker B:
Who are you?
Speaker B:
I don't even ask that question.
Speaker B:
That's what made them started to thinking.
Speaker B:
And it boils down to that.
Speaker B:
You can't actually judge a book by its coverage.
Speaker B:
We are technically books.
Speaker B:
We.
Speaker B:
Our shell is our out outsider period.
Speaker B:
But a lot of people don't know the inside.
Speaker B:
We might be able to put a smile on our face, although we're in pain.
Speaker B:
We might be able to put a front on, although we are the deep stated depression.
Speaker B:
And that's where people need to actually understand where this topic was actually going in the first place.
Speaker B:
Because I did ask quite a few friends of mine this question.
Speaker C:
So I got a question Rafiki, out of, out of the people that you interviewed and the ones that quickly responded with yes, what percentage of those yes answers after further questioning did you find out that they could not look themselves in the mirror?
Speaker C:
If there were any.
Speaker B:
There was one or two that I picked up on that.
Speaker B:
You know, when it boiled down to it, the final answer was no.
Speaker B:
They really couldn't do it because they said, well that's, that's hard.
Speaker A:
Well, in all actuality, logically speaking, mental someone who can't look themselves in the mirror, should we expect them to say, nah, I can't look myself in the mirror?
Speaker A:
Because in all actuality, not being able to look yourself in the mirror, ain't that actually hiding from yourself?
Speaker C:
Yeah.
Speaker B:
Oh yeah.
Speaker A:
So I guess one could logically put together that hey, if you can't look in the mirror, I can't expect a straight answer from you.
Speaker C:
If they're lied about, if they said yes.
Speaker C:
And then after push back and you know, in further push, their answer ends up turning no.
Speaker C:
Like Rafiki said, they responded too quickly.
Speaker C:
But I would, I would have a, a, a bit more respect or trust for the person that told me no from the jump.
Speaker A:
And Rafiki.
Speaker A:
What?
Speaker A:
My comment just went to that one question.
Speaker A:
I'm not talking about as a whole.
Speaker A:
Not trust.
Speaker B:
True.
Speaker B:
Right, right, right.
Speaker B:
Okay.
Speaker A:
You know, not as a whole.
Speaker A:
So all y' all think I'm talking about in general.
Speaker A:
Nah, I'm just talking about to that one question.
Speaker A:
You know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:
Hey, hey, can you look yourself in the mirror?
Speaker A:
Yeah.
Speaker A:
And then after three questions, your answer is no.
Speaker B:
Well see, like I said, the ones that did, they said, well, because I got to do this like, but put makeup on, I gotta get ready for work, things like that.
Speaker B:
So that's what, that's what made me from the very beginning start asking people questions.
Speaker A:
So wait, now here's the question for you.
Speaker A:
That person that responded to you that way and.
Speaker A:
Yeah, well, yeah, I gotta put my makeup on.
Speaker A:
Do you think they didn't understand your question or that was just the answer?
Speaker B:
I think they.
Speaker A:
And wait, wait, wait, wait.
Speaker A:
Hold up.
Speaker A:
Think about it.
Speaker A:
If they truly understood your question and that was their answer, it, well, yeah, I gotta put makeup on.
Speaker A:
Did they truly.
Speaker A:
Can they really look in the mirror?
Speaker A:
Because if they understood where you was coming from, that wouldn't have been their answer.
Speaker C:
Exactly.
Speaker B:
So, but.
Speaker A:
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Speaker B:
But.
Speaker A:
There's a but to that,
Speaker B:
right?
Speaker A:
So it could be that they understood it and didn't want to answer.
Speaker A:
But then what if they didn't understand you, your question and that was their answer, then what can I draw from that?
Speaker B:
So let me get this.
Speaker B:
So I know that I'm understanding it.
Speaker B:
So you're asking me when I asked the question to the people and they answered yes, because they gotta, you know, they gotta put their makeup on and things like that.
Speaker A:
Yeah.
Speaker B:
And I stopped him and said, no, no, no.
Speaker B:
And then I broke it down.
Speaker B:
So when I was doing this experiment, when the ones that would say yes because they had to look, I said, well, you didn't understand the question.
Speaker B:
So I had to break it down.
Speaker B:
But some of them, to me, when I done the further questioning, they was actually, they probably knew and understood what I was talking about, but they was deflected.
