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Episode #106 - Start Living & Start Doing: An Interview With Juanita Gaynor
Episode 11025th April 2024 • Speaking From The Heart • Joshua D. Smith
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Being able to thrive in your calling means acknowledging not just what has happened in your past, but also embracing what you have been given as gifts. Those gifts, however, can be manipulated easily by people, places, things, events, and a combination thereof that throw us off course. The ability to empower ourselves to move forward, regardless of the risks & obstacles, all lies in just doing it. Today's guest, Juanita E. Gaynor, shares her incredible story of persistence where others may have given up. Her struggles and her ambitions through opportunities received as a child, while also overcoming the struggles of being held back, demonstrate the number of entrepreneurial opportunities she has started as a result of this adventure she continues to excel in. Her concluding message will empower anyone, including you, to start living, and start doing today.

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Juanita, a triumphant Success Mindset Coach, Empowerment Speaker, and accomplished entrepreneur hailing from New Jersey, has risen above the shadows of childhood trauma, emerging stronger. Armed with degrees in Business Administration and Accounting, she leads five thriving ventures, such as EABJ Consulting and Event Management, Elite Financial Management, Restored 2 Life Ministries, Stella Publications LLC, and Stella Notary Services. Beyond her entrepreneurial prowess, Juanita is a versatile artist with a flair for music and culinary arts. She hosts the Moving Past You Radio Show and co-authored empowering books like "I Am Who God Says I Am," "100 Words of Inspiration," and "When a Woman Prays." Juanita's life's mission is to shine as a beacon of purpose, attributing her achievements to unwavering faith and an open heart. With global expansion plans for her enterprises, she is poised to continue her inspiring journey, leaving a positive mark on the world.

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Intro:

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 106 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Today we have Juanita Gaynor with

us, and Juanita is a triumphant

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success mindset coach, empowerment

speaker, and accomplished entrepreneur

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hailing from New Jersey, right next

to me here in Pennsylvania, and has

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risen above the shadows of childhood

trauma, emerging even stronger.

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Armed with degrees in business

administration and accounting, she

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leads five thriving ventures such as

EABJ Consulting and Event Management,

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Elite Financial Management, Restored

2 Life Ministries, Stella Publications

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LLC, and Stella Notary Services.

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Beyond her entrepreneurial proudness,

Juanita is a versatile artist with

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a flair for music and culinary arts.

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She hosts the Moving Past Your Radio

Show and co-authored empowering books

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like I Am Who God Says I Am, 100 Words

of Inspiration, and When a Woman Prays.

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Juanita's life mission is to

shine as a beacon of purpose,

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attributing her achievements to

unwavering faith and an open heart.

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With global expansion plans for her

enterprises, she's poised to continue

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her inspiring journey, leaving a positive

mark on the world, and I have to say

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with our conversation that we have today,

she leaves not just a positive mark, not

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only the things that she's achieving,

not only rubbed off on me being an

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entrepreneur starting out myself, but

I think you'll find that the backstory

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that Juanita brings is not only one

of strength, but also determination,

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one of the values of even my business

for that matter, that push us forward.

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It allows us to grow and not be held back

anymore from the undeniable opportunities

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that we have, not only to leave a mark on

this world, not only to help others, but

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you'll see with Juanita and what she's all

about, that it makes such a big difference

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in being able to overcome all the traumas

that might ever face us in our lives.

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But with that, let's go to the episode.

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All right.

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We're here with Juanita Gaynor.

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Juanita, thanks for sharing

your heart with us today.

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Hey, how are you?

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Juanita: I'm doing well.

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How are you?

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Joshua: I am doing swell and I

really am excited that you're

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a part of the show today.

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One of the coolest things about you that

I haven't had on the show yet is just

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because of the things that I had just

introduced the audience to about you is

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that you have a unique story in itself,

but before we get into that, I really want

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to talk a little bit about your background

and what caught my eye right away,

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knowing that I have two master's degrees

myself, I have business administration

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and public administration, but I noticed

you have your degrees in business

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administration, woohoo, and accounting.

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Can you talk a little bit about what

got you into education to learn a little

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bit before you started going into this

impressive career stance that you've had?

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Juanita: Absolutely.

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I have been always an avid learner.

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Even as I was younger, I was what they

was considered very bright, so they had

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to do a lot to keep me with attention and

keep going and things, and so I remember

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when I was about, say about nine or 10,

I was living with my aunt in Boston and

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she had property, so I was her accountant.

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I would collect the rent, I would keep

the ledgers and things, and just making

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sure bills or expenses, anything that

had to do with any of the properties, I

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was the manager of it at nine, and so,

I said, "Hey, I can make money doing

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this.", but I wasn't a school person.

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I didn't like how people told

me what to do, so I always knew

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I would be an entrepreneur.

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In my senior year I was

working for, Bear Stearns.

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Bear Stearns doesn't exist in the

state that we know it, and I remember

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one of my mentors said, "I want you

to go to school to get your degree."

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He said, "You may not need it right

now, but you may in the future and

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it will open up additional doors."

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I was like, "Okay.

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Fine.", but I didn't.

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I waited It was like three or four

years before I got my first degree

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because I wanted to open a business

and I was going for a business

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loan, and the banker, he was great.

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He gave me great new information, he says,

"But I want you to do this: go to school."

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He says.

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"Even if you get your associates, it

will carry you very far, and it will

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open doors for you more so than just a

high school diploma.", and he was right.

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I got into companies.

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I have worked for some of the

largest fortune 500 companies.

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I worked for CableVision.

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Now, CableVision was what Xfinity is now-

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Juanita: So I was on the team

that was working on the transition

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and the buyout when CableVision

was bought out to become Comcast.

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Joshua: Wow, and CableVision was

like, it, like you wanted to be

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there, and I remember that growing

up, like I always like, "CableVision.

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What is that?"

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Yeah.

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Juanita: I worked for NyNex, which

was a part of the "baby bells.",

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so one of the original "baby bells"

that is now, of course, Verizon,

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so a switch over to Bell Atlantic.

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Worked for Bear Stearns; worked for

Liberty Mutual; worked for Sunoco.

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These are the doors that education

had opened for me, and it

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gave me a sense of structure.

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It gave me a sense of how things worked

in, so when I started my own businesses

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and was working and had employees myself

at the height of my event management

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company, I knew what expenses to put in.

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I knew how to treat my employees, I knew

what to include with that; how to deal

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with clients; how to make sure that bills

was paid, how to deal with state and local

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government when it came to ordinances

and permits and things like that.

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I was able to use the degree not only

to get connections, but to see the

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actual textbook in working order.

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Joshua: With that much that you've done

to be able to see that bigger picture,

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there has to be something that drove

you, Juanita, to really work hard.

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I'm wondering if you could tell us a

little bit about your childhood because

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there is always those roots that makes us

become stronger and maybe even motivate us

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to become the best versions of ourselves,

which I consistently talk about.

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Juanita: Right, so as a child,

I am a survivor of childhood,

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sexual and physical abuse.

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At the age of six, my mother was

a heroin addict and at the age

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of five, six, she started using

me as her currency for her drugs.

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Joshua: Oh my God.

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Juanita: So that is where the abuse

came in, and then she was also very

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physically abusive, so that continued

on until she had left us at a friend's

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house one day and then her mom found us

and that's how we ended up in Boston.

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For the sexual abuse,

you get into the church.

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Let's not even get into the church.

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Joshua: Yeah, that's a

big topic in itself, but-

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Juanita: It's a big topic.

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Joshua: I understand what

you're talking about there-

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Juanita: So a lot of additional abuse

carried on until one day I just was tired

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of it and I threatened to start talking

and telling people so it stopped, and the

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problem for me was, is like, not having

control of situations; not being able to

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tell people to stop, and I remember there

was an episode of Oprah that was talking

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about childhood abuse and sexual abuse,

whatever, and when they were going and

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people were talking against it, and I'm

like, "What do you mean?", because this

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was an everyday occurrence in my life

for many, many years, so I didn't know

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it wasn't normal, so you're listening

to these famous people say that it's

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not normal, that things shouldn't happen

to you, now my identity is questioned.

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Who am I?

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What am I doing?

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I didn't deal with it immediately.

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I was at that time modeling and I was

doing event management with a girlfriend

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of mine's and I decided, "You know what?

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I'll just start a business.", and

my event management company is

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what I call a trauma business,

because I could control the outcome.

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When you look at any type, not all event

planners, but most of us come from a

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life of trauma, and when you look at

these perfectly curated events that goes

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off without a hitch, that the client

doesn't know that there's hiccups, that

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is because that's situations we can

control to within a minute millisecond.

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We pull the shots.

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We call the shots, and no

one else can tell us not to.

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The people who are reporting to us,

you do as we say or you can get the

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step in, and that is where a lot of

my keeping it maintained, because

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I could control everything that's

going on and so I'm like, "Okay.

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Fine.", and I did that for a long

time, but I still wasn't happy.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Juanita: Then, I had a graphic design

company for a while and I was great with

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that and doing a lot of work with the

ministry and I wasn't happy with that,

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and so I let that one fall off, but the

event management company, I would get

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back to it, and when I moved to Georgia

finally and started therapy, I no longer

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wanted to do the event management anymore,

and I didn't understand why at the time,

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so, fast forward to the accounting firm.

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That came out of just basic,

everything I did had to do with money.

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As I've gone through this initial stage

of healing, I was working with other

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women and other small businesses who

wasn't having great, foundational bases,

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and they didn't have the money, per se,

to go to the big five accounting firms,

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or find reputable accountants, or really

could speak to them in the language in

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which they understand, and that is how

the accounting company came about to help

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small businesses get greater foundations

and stop being audited and sued-

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Joshua: Yeah.

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Juanita: Cause I don't

like problems with the IRS.

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Me and the IRS are friends.

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Joshua: Yes.

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We are all friends here, right

Internal Revenue Service?

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Do you hear me?

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Juanita and I are friends.

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Juanita: I don't, I don't do, I don't

like anybody, cause my theory is

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is that once you get involved with

them, they never leave you alone,

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so just do it right the first time.

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Joshua: Which I find it funny you

just mentioning that, which I have

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this follow up because as you were

even sharing where all these business

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ideas came from, there's just this

one critical point that made me think.

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Is it because you were starting

these businesses that you really

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wanted to make a difference with

other people so that they didn't have

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to go through the same things that

you were going through growing up?

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Was that your motivation

or was it something more?

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Juanita: That was one of the motivations.

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That was the ultimate motivation

for me, because, again, I

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could control that feeling.

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Joshua: Hmm.

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Juanita: You know.

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Even though I hadn't gone through that

full healing process, I knew that if I'm

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doing this, when you're doing somebody's

event, you're making a dream happen.

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You are bringing to life a dream

of a little girl who's had,

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since she was a little girl.

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When you do that 50th birthday party,

you're giving someone something that they

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may have never thought they would have.

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You're helping their children give them

something that they may have never had.

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When you're doing corporate events

or whatever, you're helping the

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employers do something for their

employees, so it's always about helping

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something on some level, even in all

of the other businesses, it's making

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sure that somebody's whole, and the

thing is, we're trying to make other

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people whole because we're not whole.

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We think we'll feel better

by making other people whole.

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Joshua: Yeah.

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That is so deep because putting

myself into other people's

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shoes might be like, "No!

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You shouldn't do that.", and there's a

lot of culture behind that that says,

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"Well, I'm trying to build myself.

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You need to stay out of this!", but what

I think some people forget is that we need

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to build upon some of the other things

that other people have done, because they

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have been doing something really good,

and it doesn't mean that you can't ask for

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help, and sometimes asking for help is the

most vulnerable thing in itself to be able

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to get to that point, and I know that's

not exactly what you're saying, but-

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Juanita: No.

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It is.

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Joshua: The bigger- yeah.

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Well.

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Yeah.

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Oh, great.

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Well, I'm glad we're on the same

page, Juanita, because I was

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worried for a second, like, "Yeah.

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Am I on the same page with-

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Juanita: You are.

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Joshua: "Building what I want to

build with you, or even somebody

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else", because we were literally just

talking about this, because in your

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style of working with other people,

you're getting into the trauma.

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You're getting into what they have

been through, and my sort of style is

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finishing, and that's really helping

people get to where they want to achieve

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with their goals after they get through

a lot of this things, which doesn't mean

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though that we're not done processing what

some of the scenes up because those can

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matriculate above the surface, so, going

into what you do if you're consulting.

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Tell us a little bit about what

drives you every day to help someone

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see that opportunity in themselves.

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I always like to call it the best

version of themselves because I think

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that we all have that capability inside

of our hearts to be able to be the best

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version of who we are, but I don't know.

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I always find it interesting that people

have different perspectives, especially

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that are on the show, and I'm curious

what your perspective is on that.

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Juanita: My perspective with my consulting

and coaching company; my perspective

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is that I want people to actually

dig down and identify what really is

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the problem that's holding them back.

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What's holding them back

from asking for the raise?

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What's holding them back for getting

to the next level, and it's always

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surrounded about success and money,

if you really think about it.

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Trauma always affects those, and I was

able to help people, especially women,

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identify what those were when I was

able to identify what they were for me.

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When it came to success, I remember

I was in the third or fourth grade

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and I used to have this book that I

used to sketch and different designs

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and dresses and things like that.

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I used to sketch really great, and I

remember the teacher got upset with me

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or whatever, and she literally ripped my

book up, and she threw it in the trash.

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Joshua: Oh my gosh.

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Juanita: And, I never sketched again.

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I've never sketched, and what that

taught me at that time is that

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success was never supposed to be mine.

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I was only supposed to go to a certain

level, and if I went beyond that

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certain level, somebody was going to

snatch it away and take it away, and

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then it's like Candyland, and you're

back to the beginning, and when I think

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about money, and actually charging

what I was worth and making sure I did

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that, what used to happen is because

I came from a trauma environment,

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my money was always someone else's.

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It was never my own, so I would only make

enough just to cover the bare minimum.

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I would never go any higher, because

knowing if I went any higher, then people

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would have their hands out for more, and

so once I've identified that and realized

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that that was why I didn't reach the

stars, that was why that even though I

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have successful businesses, they should

be 10 times more successful, or making

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10 times as more, than what they're

doing right now, and I identified that.

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I realized that there's a ton of people

who are having those exact same issues,

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but some of them don't understand why

they can't go in and say, "Listen.

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I want the $20,000 raise, or

I'm going over to ABC company

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because they're giving it to me."

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They're willing to stay in a beaten

down position, and that's because they

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haven't identified that trauma that

happened that made them believe that they

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couldn't ask for no more, that they were

only limited to what they were getting.

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Joshua: Do you think people hold back

from getting that extra raise, or maybe

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even achieving that business that they

always wanted to open, or even get into

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a venture that they never thought they

could not do, because of trauma, or

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maybe because of some sort of thought

that was deeply seated when they were a

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child and they just never acted on it,

or do you think it's something more than

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that, that you have seen in your clients?

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Juanita: Well, trauma presents

in different ways, and I know

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when people think about trauma,

they think about physical.

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That's the first thing that they go to.

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A lot of trauma that happens with young

people, especially children, is emotional.

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I'll give an example.

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If mommy and daddy, all they ever do

is work and they never pay you any

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attention, they never give you any time.

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You have now created a correlation, a

bad correlation, between success, getting

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success and getting attention, so your

thing is like, "I'm never going to

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climb that high in the company, because

I'm going to neglect my children, and

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I don't want to neglect my children."

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It doesn't matter what you want to achieve

or if they want to, you're hunted by that

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because all you've ever seen aligned with

that success is abandonment; is neglect,

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and parents don't do it intentionally.

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They're trying to make ends meet, but

as a child, that's what you see, and

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so they're carrying that emotional

trauma and they never speak it because

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they don't know what it is, or the

child who sees their parents, they may

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have money, but they never spend it.

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They never do anything with it.

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They're extremely hardcore.

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They don't do anything, whatever, so you

programming yourself like, "Well, what's

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the point of making all that money?

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I can't use it anyway, so why do I need

to ask?", and so, a lot of those times,

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a lot of the traumas are emotional and

mental traumas that happen throughout

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the course of their life, even watching

another family do better than you, cause

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now you feel that you've been left out

of the loop or something and that you

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must not be good enough, or your family

must not be good enough, to obtain

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what your friend's family has, so now

you feel inadequate not realizing that

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y'all are on two different paths, and

there's two different educations and

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you know, this is where they're going.

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You don't know if it was an

inheritance from the grandfather.

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You don't know if they're coming

in on old money or new money.

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As children, we don't know that and that

is the benefit of communication with

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your children about life and what goes on

and what goes into it, so we take those

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traumas, and we carried on in adulthood

and the minute they want to give you

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that promotion, you're like, "Yeah.

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Nah.

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Nah.

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Nah.", because then, that means, I'm

going to have to abandon somebody.

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That means I'm going to have to neglect

something and I don't want to do that.

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Joshua: It's almost like we overcompensate

because we don't want to let someone else

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down, and I can relate to that so much

because I felt like, for most of my life,

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I always was trying to please someone

else, to help them with their dream or

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their journey, to get to somewhere that

they wanted to be, but I was left in

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the dust, and I sort of felt that way

sometimes, and I know that some of it

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was probably manufactured because of some

of those beliefs or some of those trauma

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memories that I had, but I think that we

often have to look at the bigger picture

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too of how does this intersect with what

our reality is of what we're trying to

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do in the world, if it's a good thing?

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Whether it might be something that needs

some fine tuning, especially, I know I

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can get off the tracks real quick too,

and I need to get back on track as well,

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so, I think there's so much opportunity

with what you just said, that people

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often don't give themselves the love

and grace to be able to do and start.

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Juanita, I love the fact

that you're an author.

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I love authors because they have written

on a variety of different perspectives,

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so let me run through the list again

for my listeners so that they know.

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You've written some books that

you've co-authored, which include:

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I Am Who God Says I Am, 100 Words of

Inspiration, and When A Woman Prays.

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I always ask when I have somebody

that has written multiple books:

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Which one's your favorite, and why?

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Juanita: My favorite one

is I Am Who God Says I Am.

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It was a collaboration of women.

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We had some men, but they fell off, but

what it was is that mines was restored,

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and so when I was just writing about the

traumas and things that I had in my life,

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I remember saying that, "I'm restored."

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It wasn't that I'm a survivor, that I'm

living in this, I'm restored completely

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to what God wanted me to be and to

who I am, and there was so many moving

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stories within that anthology, but I

realized how important it was to tell my

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story, because I got so much feedback.

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People were just crying

like, "Oh my goodness.

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We didn't know this about you, but

you could never tell you've gone

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through that.", and that let me

know that I have to continue on

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with doing it like I am going to be.

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My book should be out in December

because that's been a journey.

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It's called Beyond Broken, Beyond Healed:

moving Past The Pain Into Your Destiny,

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and I've been stuck on a chapter that I

had been unable to write for a long time,

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and when I was finally able to start

doing that, God was saying I had not fully

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forgiven my ex-husband, and it was true.

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I was still harboring that resentment,

so it was amazing that I had accomplished

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all these things, but the one thing that

I couldn't do was because I was still

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holding on to a point in my marriage, and

holding on to that hostility toward him.

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He's doing whatever he wants.

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He's not necessarily successful

at it, but it was holding me back

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from getting this book out and

I'm like, "Why can't I get it?

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I've done all this stuff and I've gone

through all the healing.", because I was

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still harboring resentment towards him,

so I want you listeners to know that even

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in our healing process we can have moved

through past certain things, but there's

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still some things that could be still

holding us back because we keep holding

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on to it, because, a lot of the times, we

would rather hold on to the pain, instead

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of letting it go and becoming something

new, because, see, we're used to the pain.

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We know what that feels like.

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We know what that looks like.

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We don't know what the new person becomes.

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Joshua: Man, were you supposed to be

on episode 106, because you definitely

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have been on episode 106, because I

was literally just thinking about this

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earlier today as the day that which

we're recording this for my listeners,

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which now will be several months in

the future, but I was just thinking

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about this because I'm like, "Yeah.

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I got a lot of warm squishy stuff

that I need to get out because I've

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been so comfortable with it, and a

lot of involves pain.", but yeah,

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I'd like to go back to it because

that's just what I'm attracted to.

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You're so right.

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We have that magnetism towards it, but

that's not what we should be living

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in, because that's not allowing us to

live in that bigger worldview of what

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we are trying to create, and so that's

what makes this conversation interesting

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for me, Juanita, is you've done all

these things, and you've written all

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these things to help other people out.

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What pushes you to just keep going,

because anybody that has been through

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your situation, especially with

sexual abuse, would easily say, "Yep.

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You're right, world.

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I got to give up.", but,

you keep pushing forward.

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It's almost like sometimes I even say to

myself, "There's something driving me."

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I don't know what it is.

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It's something that I can't explain, but

it keeps pushing me forward, and I've had

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a lot of different answers on this show.

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It was God.

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It was paganism.

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There was all kinds of different

things that have been expressed.

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What is it for you, when you live

through this, that you really want

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people to get out of Juanita that

has helped you to become this person

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that's just going to continue being a

powerhouse now and even in the future?

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Juanita: Right, so,

I'm going to be honest.

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God is always the top of everything,

but the insight that he has given

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me for my journey is so that

someone knows that they can do this.

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It doesn't matter what it is.

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Someone's watching you

and you don't know it.

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They're looking at you to see how

you come out of the situation.

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They're looking at you

to see how you respond.

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They're looking at you to see how you

serve others even in, sometimes, the

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height of the pain, because I think

people realize or think that once

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you've gone through counseling and once

you've got through a certain healing,

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you're never going to be through pain.

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I'm sorry.

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Their trauma didn't happen

overnight, so the healing isn't

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going to happen overnight.

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There's going to be things that

re-trigger, and what I say about things

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that are re-triggering, what that lets

you know is that you're still here.

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You're on the other side, and I would

tell somebody, "I would rather be on

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this side of the pain and feel it, than

it'll be on the other side and not here."

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Joshua: Mmm.

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Wow.

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Juanita: Because in feeling it, it

lets me know that I'm still here.

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It lets me know that there's still

some more work to do, but it also means

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somebody else is going through it so now I

can push; I have more of an incentive now

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to push to find out what is the core of it

so that I can get through it a little bit

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quicker than when we do the initial ones

we spent, we did it a couple of years.

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Now I have more of an incentive to

be like, "Let me call my therapist.

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Let me get to the root of this now.",

because someone's watching and someone

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needs this healing now because when I

was young and I'm Gen X, I'm a Gen X er.

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We didn't have the

access to mental health.

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We didn't have the access.

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We didn't talk about this.

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There was no talking about

what was going on in your home.

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There was no talking

about what's going on.

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We didn't have emotions.

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They ran commercials that asked

the parents, "Do you know where

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your children are?", or, "Have

you hugged your children today?"

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There was real commercials on television

to do this for parents, and so the

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younger generation, you guys have access

to that, and what that does for us,

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it means we can dilly dally and play

around when it's time for us to go into

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the healing mode, because the younger

generation is ready for that healing.

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They know it's there and it's time for

us to impart our wisdom, so that's what

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keeps me going, because if they can

see me transparent, healed and whole

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and working through and even when I

don't feel like it sometimes, and they

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can see me operate that and they see

that I have businesses that are worth

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a million dollars and I have books

that are going out and I'm speaking

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in spite of what happened in my past.

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In spite of the mistakes that

I've made, I've still ascended.

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They're going to know that, you

know what, I may have made this one

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mistake, or I may have had this one

thing, I can still go on and continue.

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I don't have to wallow in the

pity of it because I'm seeing

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how someone has come out.

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Joshua: Heh.

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First off, there's a lot

of deep things right there.

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There's a lot of truth bombs that you

just put on the floor, and they're

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not exploding because some people

need to take a look at the circuitry

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and make sure they actually do work

before they drop them, but, wow!

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I think you're so right because for many

of us, we want to wallow in what has

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been the past versions of ourselves,

but we're not the past anymore.

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We're in the present and we got to keep

moving with time even into the future, and

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I think that even for me, this is a hard

conversation to have in my mindset that

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I'm having at this very moment, because I

have to think about the fact that, "Wow!

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There are things that I need to

transform", and that means an ongoing

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process of wanting to move that needle

forward, so, Juanita, with all that

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said, I have this last question for

you because we're almost out of time,

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and it's something that you had said in

your bio that I've already said to the

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listeners, but I want to read it again.

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You said this when you submitted

this to be part of our show.

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You said, "With global expansion

plans for enterprises, she's poised

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to continue her inspiring journey,

leaving a positive mark on the

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world.", so my question to you is this.

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Did Juanita leave a positive mark

on the world, or is there still

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more work to be done by Juanita?

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Juanita: Oh, there's still more work.

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There's still more work.

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I want anyone who has

gone through anything.

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I don't care what it is to

be like, "You know what?

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I can make it today.

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I can have this business."

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Yeah, I may have created it in

trauma, but I can make it a global

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business and help others with it.

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I know that I can get through anything

because she laid the blueprint, because

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she was transparent in everything

that was going on with her life.

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She didn't hold back.

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I still got more to lay out there.

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Joshua: I love it.

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You got that sass, too, like, what?

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You think I'm done?

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No way, and I love that because I think

we need to have that push and especially

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hearing from someone like you that has

continued to push that needle forward is

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really an important aspect of getting not

only the motivation, but also the positive

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creativity, even if we're drawing it in

our little sketchbooks that get taken away

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from us, to be able to go back and get a

new sketchbook, and just keep on drawing.

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Juanita, I want to give

you the last few moments.

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How could people reach out to you?

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I know we really didn't dive much

into the four businesses overall

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that you have, but I know there's

even more that you're working on.

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If people are interested in checking

out more about you and who you

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are, where could they reach out?

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Where can they contact you?

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I'm going to give you the last

few moments to go ahead and

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share that with our listeners.

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Juanita: Sure.

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They can reach out to me on my

website, which is juanitaegaynor.com.

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You can also reach out to me

on all aspects of social media

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at the hashtag @JuanitaEgaynor.

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We're talking Snapchat,

YouTube; all of them.

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If you put that in, you're going

to find me on all of the major

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social media platforms as well.

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I think my pride and joy

is my podcast radio show.

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It's called Moving Past You, and again,

we have these conversations, so you

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can always go to movingpastyou.com

and check that out as well.

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The most important for me is my coaching.

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It's the coaching and helping people break

these trauma bonds so that they can live

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their most best life, and we're working on

our masterclass, which is called Transform

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Success Mindset Mastery; transforming fear

into fuel for success, and that is going

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to be launching probably in the summer.

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Your listeners; I'll provide a nice

little package for them so they can

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get a nice discount on that, because

I feel that sometimes we think fear

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is bad and it's not always bad.

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It's fuel is what you build foundations

with; is what you change the world with.

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You don't let it stop you.

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You let it propel you, so

juanitaegaynor.com is where you

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can reach me for everything, and

you can see about the different

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businesses, or even on LinkedIn.

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I think I have everything

linked on LinkedIn.

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You can find everything on LinkedIn.

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LinkedIn is the hot spot,

but yeah; just reach out.

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If there's questions, want

to connect, definitely.

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Joshua: Awesome.

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I'll put all that in the

episode notes for my listeners.

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They want to go check it out and it

sounds like there might be a little bit

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of a special if you mentioned Speaking

From The Heart when you register, you

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might get a little bit of a discount

with that, so thank you Juanita for

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gifting my listeners that as well,

but I want to tell you, this has been

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eyeopening conversation for me because

of what you've been through, but there's

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something that you said that I never

even thought about with my own business

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that I want to close with is that we

both have something that I never thought

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we would have in common until tonight,

which is we both have trauma businesses,

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but we don't let the trauma from those

businesses or even from our life put us

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down, make us feel like outcasts, don't

make us feel dejected, don't make us feel

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any sort of negative emotion or energy.

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I think that for all that, you definitely

are continuing to build something that

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I'm impressed by just from looking at

from a distance, and from a millennial to

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the Gen Xers out there, I will say this,

that we all have something in common,

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and I think that no matter what your

generational differences, I think you can

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learn a lot from this conversation, and

for all those reasons, Juanita, thanks so

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much for being on Speaking From The Heart.

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Thank you for sharing

your heart with us today.

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I was really privileged to hear this,

along with my listeners as well.

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Juanita: You're so welcome.

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I appreciate you for having me.

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Joshua: I want to thank Juanita again

so much for being part of the show and

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just sharing so many amazing tidbits

for us because if you think about it,

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how we able to grow starts with not

just our family, not just with all the

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things that we're learning to be able

to become better as an entrepreneur,

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but it's about learning new skills.

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It might be even finding

a degree for that matter.

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You might need to find the structure,

the support necessary for you to grow

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into something that you never thought

possible, but it means that you have

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to keep moving that needle forward.

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It's something that I've even talked about

on variety of different shows before,

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not only with just guests, but even some

of our monologues, but the importance

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of understanding and growing into this

big accumulating factor, whatever that

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means that we impact the world with

means that we have to stand behind that

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structure, that level of commitment,

that support, that sometimes might

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not be there when we first start out.

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I think that we have to learn that we

have to grow, not only just with people

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and their backstory, but we also have to

learn that the things that we have, the

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things that we cherish, whether those

are good or bad, help us to formulate

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the strategy in which we're able to move

forward with, and Juanita talked about

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this so much about what she does, really

dealing with the trauma business; being

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able to curate events, being able to

learn with other women, with other people

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for that matter, the ability to grow.

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The question becomes:

how are you giving back?

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Even if it's through one small

act, maybe if it's through several

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businesses like Juanita has with five

of them, in order to commit that one

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absolute truth to help other people.

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What's holding you back?

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Why aren't you getting that raise?

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Why aren't you doing the things

that you should be doing?

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Are you just doing the bare

minimum just to carry through

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life, because that's all you have?

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I think that we often get trapped in

this thought process of wanting to always

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do the same things over and over and

over again, thinking that it's going

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to come up with a different result.

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The very definition of insanity, but

what are some of the good and some of

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the bad that we can pull from each of

those experiences, so that we're able to

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learn and understand, and I think Juanita

touched on that quite a lot, about the

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importance of not only those undertones

that we have, but also the ways in which

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we can correlate, be able to grow into

places where we might not be able to

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grow, but yet overcome at the same time.

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How do we connect all these things?

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How do we connect the story, this

dream of possibility that we have?

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Well, I think for some people, getting

over your own past, your own emotional

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and mental traumas can not only move you

from leaving that big impact, but push

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you out of the way so that you might

not be able to succeed, and I would

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hate, along with probably Juanita for

that matter, having that happen to you.

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What is the best way?

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It's always that enduring question that

we have to ask of, how do we overcome?

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How do we stop ourselves from

seeing that sort of situation

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play out in the first place?

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I think that many of the books that

she's talked about, even the new one

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that's coming out, Beyond Broken,

Beyond Healed, which will be debuting

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sometime in December of this year,

really shows that the process might mean

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that we have to let go of a little bit

of ourselves; those things that really

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hold us back to achieve greatness.

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Healing means letting go of the

things that might be not only

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traumatic and toxic, but re-learning,

re-educating ourselves in the

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ways in which we're able to grow.

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The ways in which we're

able to expand our minds.

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The ways in which we're sometimes

might be a little bit hard for us to

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just start out with, and I think I

understand, even listening to Juanita's

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story and why she has all these

businesses, why it's important for

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her to keep pushing, to keep moving,

to keep seeing, and to keep learning.

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No matter what stage of life you

are in, no matter if people have

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long forgotten about you or are

constantly stalking you, which even

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in itself might be a good thing.

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Sometimes stalking is thought of as a

negative thing, but in this context,

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if you think about the overall picture

of seeing what other people are doing,

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you can make a big difference in your

own life, but if people are watching

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you at the height of your pain, and

they're not doing anything about it, we

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need to be able to learn to walk away.

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We need to be able to hit that block

button, which I've done, even myself

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for that matter, because I know that

those people are just looking at me

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and wanting to strike at the right

opportunity because their negativity

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has overtaken their positivity.

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Even if I thought that this mindset, this

mindfulness, which some people can even

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challenge as if whether I'm authentic

or not, could even challenge Juanita

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in terms of whether she's authentic

or not, means that you are not happy

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with what we're saying, and maybe it's

challenging you, but even at the same

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time, you can challenge us, and we

might be wrong too, and that's okay.

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We're learning and growing

all together, which is what

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I think we continuously miss.

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How can we feel the things that we need

to feel, and how can we hear the things

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that we need to hear, without sacrificing

our overall ability to learn and grow?

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We can wallow in the past all we

want, and I know that even with

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wallowing, it also means that we

have to understand that there's

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some grief, and it's okay to grieve.

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It's okay to understand that the family

that we're growing, the people that

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we're interacting with, and even the

skills that we're developing, all go

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through ebbs and flows of our lives.

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In other words, the things that we have

in terms of structure and support, might

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not be there when it counts the most,

so how do we build those opportunities?

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How do we experiment with all the

variety of different things, and unlike

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other coaches out there that will give

you a framework for $99, or work with

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you for $3,000 to $5,000, whether it's

something in between that or maybe

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it's something that Juanita provides,

I want to give you my perspective.

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Just do it.

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Huh?

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That's it?

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Just do it?

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Is that all I need to do to be

able to achieve this awesome

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opportunity that I always wanted?

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I just need to do it?

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Yes.

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When you put both feet forward, you

know that you're entering into something

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that you might not be able to succeed.

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You might fail, but you did it.

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Are you really going to fail, knowing

that you did put both feet forward, and

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you pushed that feeling of fear aside,

knowing that if you were able to do

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all the things that you ever thought

imaginable, and you were successful,

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that you were able to actually accomplish

it, then I think you're finishing

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what you should have started a long

time ago, and that's what I love

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about Juanita, she's a finisher coach!

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She wants you to finish the job.

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She wants you to see yourself be so

successful that she wants you to be able

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to stand on your own two feet as well.

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Whether you've been abused, whether you've

used drugs, whether you had something

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else that has held you back, stop letting

it hold you back today and just do it.

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I know it seems so simple.

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I know that it seems so

abstract yet at the same time.

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What am I exactly doing?

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What am I exactly trying to achieve?

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This is where purpose is so important,

not just the purpose of what you used

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to do, but what you're going to do now.

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You need to be at the height of not just

the things that you're achieving, but at

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the height of overcoming that threshold

of pain, so that even when it feels really

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bad, when it feels really disgusting to

walk through, and that the healing process

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:

might still be going on even as you go

through this overall identity crisis, or

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maybe even that growth spurt that you're

experiencing, just know, that people

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like Juanita, and people like coaches,

and people that are just there that

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genuinely care about you, will be right

behind you putting a hand on the back of

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your shoulder, holding you up, maybe even

lifting one of your arms, one of your

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legs, because when they're jumping up and

down, so are you, and when you're able

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to do it on your own, you're going to be

able to do that with other people too.

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When you're jumping up and down,

you're succeeding, and I want you to

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finish what you started, because it's

worth it, not just for the things

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that you have been holding back in

doing, but that you're able to get

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away from the trauma and just do it.

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The emotions, the mental inabilities

that you once thought that you couldn't

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do, stop feeling them today and start

doing what your purpose is all about.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 106 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart, very soon.

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Outro: Thanks for listening.

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