Welcome to "Lone Wolf Unleashed", the podcast for solo operators who want to stop trading family dinners for never-ending workdays.

I’m your host, Mike Fox.

In this episode, we’re tackling the entrepreneur’s dilemma! That's where we face the dark truth behind those glossy LinkedIn wins and 200k years: entrepreneurs have a 15% higher divorce rate than employees, and it’s not because we don’t care about our families.

It’s because we’ve been taught to chase business metrics that look impressive on the outside, but quietly trash our life outside the office.

If you’ve ever found yourself missing out on the moments that matter most while your business demands 'just one more email', this episode is your wake-up call.

We’ll dive into the real cost of ‘success’, including missed dinners, kids’ and drawings taped to an empty chair. I'm also going to help flip the script.

You’ll hear about entrepreneurs like Marcus, who broke free from the grind by redefining what winning really means: more time, stronger relationships, and real freedom.

Ready to optimize for a life you don’t want to escape from?

Listen in to find out how you can switch off sooner, live larger, and build a business that actually supports your life—instead of devouring it.

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Entrepreneurs have 15% higher divorce rates than employees,

making more money but losing what matters most. That's the

entrepreneur's dilemma. And there's a way out.

You're listening to Lone Wolf Unleashed, the podcast for solo operators who want to

switch off sooner and live larger. I'm your host, Mike Fox,

and today we're talking about the entrepreneur's dilemma.

So you got a LinkedIn message from a mate. Hit 200k this year,

living the dream with a fire emoji and a photo of him at his

desk at 11pm on a Sunday. So you do what any good

friend does and you stalk his wife's Instagram her

stories from that same Sunday family dinner with their two kids.

Empty chair where dad should be sitting. The kids had drawn a

picture for him that was still stuck to the fridge, probably from last

week. That's not living the dream. That's

optimizing for the wrong bloody metrics. And here's the

thing that really gets me. He thinks he's winning. Revenue up,

clients happy, industry recognition rolling in. But he's losing

the game that actually matters while celebrating a game that doesn't. Let me hit you

with a stat that should make every entrepreneur pause. Business owners

have 15% higher divorce rates than employees.

15%. That's not a coincidence.

That's because we've been sold a definition of success that's slowly poisoning

our lives. Here's how the entrepreneur's dilemma works.

You start a business of freedom, control over your time, your

income, your decisions. Makes sense, right? But

then traditional business advice kicks in. Scale up,

add services, automate everything, build

systems, hire people, optimize for growth. So you do.

Revenue goes up, you hit six figures. Then multiple six figures.

The LinkedIn posts write themselves. But something weird happens.

The more successful you become, the less free you feel.

Now let me talk to you about Mark. Real guy making $180,000 a

year, works from home. No boss. Sounds pretty good, right?

Mark's Tuesday starts at 6:47am with his phone

buzzing, three urgent emails, two

meeting reschedules, and a text from his wife asking if he'll be home for dinner.

He already knows the answer is probably not. By 7:30,

he's responding to emails while his coffee gets cold. His kids wave

goodbye for school. He waves back without looking up from his laptop.

Mark works 65 hours a week. Hasn't taken a real vacation

in two years. Can't remember the last time he read a book for pleasure.

His sophisticated business requires 15 to

20 hours per week just managing the systems designed to Save him time.

He has created a machine that requires a full time

operator. Him. And here's the kicker. When he

calculate Mark's true hourly rate, factoring in all the hidden

time costs, the system management, the mental overhead, he's making

less per hour than many corporate jobs he could easily get. And that's

just the financial cost.

The real cost is a 15% higher divorce rate.

The miss family dinners. The kids who've stopped showing their dad their drawings because

he always is just finishing something up. We've been

taught to measure success with metrics designed

for traditional businesses. Revenue growth, client volume, market

share, system sophistication. But these metrics create a

specific type of success that's impressive, measurable,

and and completely unsustainable for someone who

chose solo work for freedom. Most entrepreneurs are optimizing

for financial metrics while their life metrics collapse. More

money, less time, better business, worse

relationships. Professional success, personal failure.

That's the entrepreneur's dilemma in a nutshell.

Time to take you a little bit out of the depressing scene. I know many

of you there. I've been there. So here's what I want you to do. I

want you to grab your phone calculator. I'll wait for you.

So here's what I want you to do. I want you to grab your phone

calculator, take last month's revenue, divide it by the actual hours

you worked. The actual hours. Okay. If you're not tracking your hours that you're

working now, you need to begin. If you're not doing that, step one for you,

start calculating your actual hours that you're working. This is

not billable hours. This is all the hours. The

emails, the admin, the lying awake at 2am thinking about

client problems, the weekend quick checks on your phone.

That's your real hourly rate. Now

here's the hard question. How many family dinners did you miss

last month? How many date nights did you not get with your partner?

How many kids events did you have to skip? How many times did your

partner go to social events alone because you were too busy? Hey, Kate. Where's

Mike? Oh, he's probably busy recording his podcast. When you

factor in the relationship costs, the conversations you missed, the connections

you didn't make, presents you didn't give, what are you

really earning per hour of life lived? This isn't about making you

feel guilty. It's about getting real about the true cost of traditional

success. This is what I've learned. Most entrepreneurs would gladly

pay their current hourly rate to get their earnings back. To be Present

for family dinner, to go to bed without checking emails one more time.

You're paying that hourly rate. Right now, you're just

paying it with your life instead of your money.

So here's the pack question of the week. I'm making more

money than I ever have, but my partner says I'm never really

present anymore. Even when I'm home, I'm on my phone or

thinking about work. How do I know if I'm actually successful or just

really busy? That's the question that

nails the entrepreneur's dilemma. When business success

comes at the cost of personal relationship quality. You're not

successful, you're just well paid and increasingly alone.

The stat I mentioned about entrepreneur divorce rates. It's not because we're

bad people. It's not because we don't love our families.

It's because we're optimizing for metrics that have nothing to do with

what actually matters. Your partner isn't complaining because they

don't understand business. They're complaining because they

can feel you disappearing even when you're physically available. So

what's the brutal truth? If your definition of success

is destroying your most important relationships, it's not success.

It's just expensive failure. Let me tell you about

Marcus, a creative director from Sydney. Classic entrepreneur's

dilemma case study. Before making $95,000 annually,

working 50 hour weeks, constantly stressed miss family

dinners because he was just finishing something up. His wife felt like

a single parent. His kids have stopped asking him to help with homework because he

was just too busy. What was his wake up call? His eight year old

daughter drew a picture of their family. Four figures. Mum

herself, little brother and the family dog. Dad

literally wasn't in the picture. And when he asked why, she said,

oh, you're always working, so I drew you at work. Instead,

she drew a separate picture of him at his computer.

That hit different. So Marcus did something radical.

He looked at his service offerings and he eliminated 80%

of them. Kept only brand strategy for tech startups. The work

that energized him and paid the best. Then he doubled his rates.

What's the result? Revenue goes up to

$130,000, a 37% increase. Working

hours dropped to 35 hours a week, a 30% decrease. And

he's present for school pickup. Now he's got energy for weekend family

activities. But here's the one line that got me his wife said, I got my

husband back. Marcus didn't just save his business,

he saved his marriage by changing how he defined success.

Revenue up, hours down relationship stronger.

That's what real optimization looks like.

So what's the switch off move for this week? It's simple, but it might be

harder than you think. Have dinner with your family or partner or hell,

by yourself if you have to, without checking your phone once. Put it in another

room, turn it face down whatever it takes if that feels

impossible. If you're twitching to check emails between courses,

if you're thinking about the client response you need to send, that's your answer right

there. Your business is eating your relationships. Real success

isn't being able to work anywhere anytime

you've been sold a lie with the laptop lifestyle. Real

success is being able to choose not to work on a

Tuesday afternoon. It's being present for the people who will matter

long after your business is gone. The family dinner test

isn't about dinner. It's about whether you own your

business or whether your business owns you. Try

it. See how it feels. Notice the urge to

check messages. Notice whether you can actually be present for

conversation, or if part of your brain is always somewhere else. Because if you

can't switch off for one hour to connect with the people you love,

what exactly are you working for? Do you want a full

framework for escaping the entrepreneur's dilemma or increasing revenue

while actually saving your relationships? The Lone Wolf Unleashed

newsletter breaks down exactly how to build a business that supports your life instead

of consuming it. Real strategies. No motivational

fluff. No 47 step frameworks links in the show

notes it's free because I'm not trying to scale a newsletter empire.

I'm trying to help solo operators get their lives back. But fair warning,

it's not about working harder, adding more systems. It's about the

counterintuitive stuff that actually works. Remember,

the goal isn't to build a business that impresses strangers while

alienating the people you love. Don't optimize for LinkedIn post

metrics while your kids forget what you look like without a laptop.

Build something that gives you your life back. Switch off

sooner, live larger. See you next episode.