Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is F and F is for Freedom – Sexual Freedom.
Susan Wright founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom in 1997, and currently serves as Chairperson and Director of Incident Reporting & Response. Susan also serves on the advocacy committees for AASECT, the Kink Clinician Guidelines, the Kink Knowledgeable Program, and the Diverse Sexualities Research Education Institute. Susan has conducted six surveys on discrimination and violence against BDSM practitioners; consent practices and attitudes; and the mental and physical health of BDSM and non-monogamy practitioners that have been published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sexual Medicine, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, International Journal of Social Psychiatry, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation and Journal of Homosexuality.
In this two part talk, we started by speaking about the reasons for founding the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and the projects they have been involved in. Susan talked about the research that NCSF has done on BDSM, relationship styles, polyamory and consent and that these have been the largest surveys done so far. The research has demonstrated the psychological health of people involved in these alternative relationships and alternative sexual practices and was part of the evidence that caused the APA to modify the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders –V so that the vast majority of people practicing BDSM and/or polyamory no longer qualify for a diagnosis of paraphilia in relationship to their sexual and relationship choices.
We spent a lot of time talking about consent incidents and how we as a community identify these, manage these and apply sanctions. Susan spoke about the groups that they work with. The NCSF has developed a framework and a lot of resources for community groups and businesses around defining and dealing with consent incidents.
We spoke about the NCSF’s role in educating law enforcement, psychologists and other mental health professionals. NCSF hosts the Kink Aware Professionals list which is an international list of mental health professionals, medical doctors, lawyers and other professionals who are kink aware. The NCSF regularly educates professionals about BDSM and other alternative lifestyles and sexual practices.
We spoke about how important it is for individuals to be educated about consent and that some of the research that NCSF has done has found that 75% of consent violations happen with people who are in their first 3 years of being involved with BDSM.
We spoke about how individuals and groups handle consent incidents and the differences between someone making an error and someone being a repeat offender. We spoke about needing to get information first hand if you are to make a judgement on a situation and that one of the problems is that often people don’t have first hand information and are being asked to make a judgement. We spoke about liability for people organising events and conferences and how important education is to limit liability and that decisions around excluding someone from an event are often taken because of liability issues.
NCSF has also educated people in the hospitality industry and made it possible for events and conferences to be held at these venues.
We finished up recognising that we had not managed to cover all the topics we set out to cover and will be doing another show on custody and divorce soon.
Susan Wright can be found at www.ncsfreedom.org
Twitter @ncsf
Facebook: http:www.facebook.com/NCSFreedom
This week we talked about: Consent violations, consent definitions, education and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF). If any topics that we brought up caused you concern or triggered you, please write to me at drloribeth@atozofsex.com and I will help you find resources to resolve your concerns.
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