Today, we’re diving into a powerful conversation with Tar'Lese Rideaux, a holistic stress management coach who truly embodies the warrior spirit.
Our discussion revolves around the idea that every setback can serve as a launch pad for a comeback, a concept that resonates deeply with both Tar'Lese's personal experiences and the work she does with others.
She opens up about her own journey, including the challenges she's faced, like health issues and the loss of her parents to suicide, and how these experiences have shaped her perspective on resilience and healing.
We also explore the importance of sharing our stories and the connections we build through vulnerability, as well as the common stressors that affect many people today.
Join us as we unpack what it means to have a warrior spirit and how we can all strive to embrace our own journeys toward healing and empowerment.
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I've walked through fire with shadows on my heels Scars turn to stories that taught me to feel lost in the silence Found in the flame now we're my battle cry without shame this isn't the end it's where I begin A soul that remembers the fire.
Speaker B:Welcome back to another episode of A Warrior Spirit, brought to you by Praxis33.
Speaker B:I'm your host, Daryl Snow.
Speaker B:Let's dive in.
Speaker B:Once in a while, you come across someone who you just know is the right fit for what you're doing.
Speaker B:And today, my guest, Charlize Rideau is someone who actually embodies what a warrior spirit is about.
Speaker B:She is holistic coach, and she's also faced and overcome her own obstacles, and she believes that every setback holds the opportunity for a comeback, a powerful comeback.
Speaker B:So I'm just honored that she decided to join me today and share her story.
Speaker B:So you would think that after 143 episodes, I could get the intro right.
Speaker B:And I so apologize for fumbling all over that.
Speaker B:You just make me nervous today.
Speaker A:I'm glad to be here.
Speaker B:Goodness gracious.
Speaker B:I know you're in California.
Speaker B:Did you grow up in that area?
Speaker A:I did, yes.
Speaker B:So in the same region that you're currently living in?
Speaker A:I'm in Fresno, which is a couple hours away from San Francisco, but close.
Speaker B:We're close, yeah.
Speaker B:So even I can't get the state right.
Speaker A:We're okay.
Speaker B:So Fresno, I know, is not a huge area.
Speaker A:No.
Speaker B:What was it like growing up in midtown California?
Speaker A:Pretty boring.
Speaker A:I came back here.
Speaker A:I came back here.
Speaker A: I had a seizure at the end of: Speaker A:So I moved back to Fresno to be with family so that I could heal and overcome what.
Speaker A:What I was going through.
Speaker A:So I didn't expect to be here.
Speaker A:I. I was in San Diego for a long time.
Speaker A:I went to Illinois.
Speaker A:I lived in Tennessee.
Speaker A:I've kind of bounced around, and now I'm back here.
Speaker A:So I'm going to be here for a little while, and then who knows what's next?
Speaker B:Nomadic life.
Speaker B:I actually used to throw a dart at a map and just move wherever it landed so I can appreciate the nomadic life.
Speaker B:What got you into coaching?
Speaker B:Because especially holistic coaching, there's, you know, business coaches, there's life coaches or transformational coaches.
Speaker B:But holistic coaches, in my experience, seem to have a specific connection to spirit and self.
Speaker B:So what got you into holistic coaching?
Speaker A:So I'm a holistic stress management coach.
Speaker A:So I focus on Stress management.
Speaker A:And I got into that because I was working online with a lot of people, and I just realized that everyone had some sort of stress.
Speaker A:They were coming to me to help them with social media.
Speaker A:But what I realized is they weren't really needing help with social media.
Speaker A:They were needing help with something much deeper than that.
Speaker A:And so I decided to go into that field almost 10 years ago, and it's been amazing.
Speaker A:It's like you never realize what is stressing you out until you kind of put it all out there and it's financial or health related or family related or business related.
Speaker A:So we just get to the bottom of what's stressing them out and then work from there.
Speaker B:And I know from being a coach myself and from being in the business for quite a while, when you have to pivot off of that, what you're passionate about, when life takes you in an entirely different direction, it can be hard and challenging.
Speaker B:So when you had your health issues, you had to make a decision to kind of step back from your coaching, Is that right?
Speaker A:Yeah, yeah, I did.
Speaker A:I. I felt like I needed to be in the right mindset to coach other people.
Speaker A:I didn't.
Speaker A:I wanted to be congruent, you know, and so it's like if I'm going through my own stuff, I. I chose to take a step back because I wanted to be 100% for my clients, and I didn't want to have anything else going, running in the background.
Speaker A:And so I took a little bit of a leave from it, if you will, but it was needed.
Speaker B:And I know that you, you know, you mentioned your seizure, Whether was there other internal things that you were battling going on that.
Speaker A:No, it came out of nowhere.
Speaker A:Honestly, it was just a fluke, random thing that happened.
Speaker A:And I've had ekg, eeg, CT scan, mri, had all of it.
Speaker A:And they didn't come up with anything, which is a good thing.
Speaker A:But also it's kind of frustrating because I wish they would just say, here's what happened, here's what was wrong.
Speaker A:But, you know, so.
Speaker A:But I feel.
Speaker A:I feel good now.
Speaker A:It took quite a bit.
Speaker A:I've had 87 doctor's appointments, I think, since then.
Speaker A:And so it's like I lived at the doctors for a while, you know, and it's.
Speaker A:It's a lot.
Speaker A:It's like mentally having to replay it over and over and over and over again and, you know, explain my story to the doctor again and explain my story to the nurse and tell them what happened.
Speaker A:And so, yeah, it's Been a lot.
Speaker B:So as people who have listened to my story in my show, they understand.
Speaker B:My wife has had breast implant illness for.
Speaker B:We've been battling it for 10 years.
Speaker B:And you sound a lot like what we went through.
Speaker B:For the first two years of her illness, we were at the Mayo Clinic three, two, three, four times a week, saw every physician they could ever find, ran all the myriads of tests that you talked about, and, you know, she didn't get healed or start her healing process until she did her own research and figured out what was going on.
Speaker B:And we had doctors who, you know, she.
Speaker B:She'd take this to the doctor and, you know, they'd look at what she was saying, and they literally toss it across her desk going, nope, that's not it.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:So did you find that?
Speaker B:Because they couldn't find any thing on their testing that they kind of said, you know, a lot of it was in your head, because she got that a lot.
Speaker B:They literally said, it's in your head.
Speaker A:No, no one said it was in my head, but I feel like.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:It's just interesting.
Speaker A:It's like I don't have any answers, you know, and so it's just like, I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't know what happened.
Speaker A:I just had a seizure one day, and luckily someone was there to help me when I.
Speaker A:When it happened.
Speaker A:But, yeah, no one's really said it's.
Speaker A:Who knows if they think that, though, they might think that, you know.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I find our medical system is like, if they can't put you in a little tiny box, they don't want to deal with you, and they just kind of want to pass you on.
Speaker B:So one of the reasons that I wanted you to come on my show is because you've been through a lot.
Speaker B:You know, 87.
Speaker B:And doctor appointments and all that you've gone through.
Speaker B:But you mentioned in.
Speaker B:In one of your Facebook posts, and that's where I came across you as on social media.
Speaker B:But you mentioned that your therapist or your doctor had said it was a good idea for you to share your story.
Speaker B:What was.
Speaker B:What was your physician or doctor or therapist?
Speaker B:What were they referring to?
Speaker B:And how did you feel about it at first?
Speaker A:So I've been through just a lot of random things in my life.
Speaker A:Like, I had both parents pass away unexpectedly.
Speaker A:I've been in the hospital before with different issues, gallbladder and just different stuff that happened.
Speaker A:And I was in the hospital for almost a month while they were figuring it out.
Speaker A:And so I'VE just been through a lot of stuff, if you will.
Speaker A:And the doctor or the therapist was like, it's not good to keep this stuff bottled up inside.
Speaker A:You need to talk about with someone other than just me.
Speaker A:And, you know, you need to get to the bottom of what's holding you back or what.
Speaker A:What's bothering you?
Speaker A:And so I just started kind of sharing my story here and there, little pieces of it, and it's helped.
Speaker A:I mean, I had.
Speaker A:I had several hundred comments from people, you know, that were like, oh, my gosh, I feel this, or I resonate with this, or this is me.
Speaker A:And, you know, it just.
Speaker A:It felt good to not have to hold stuff in and be able to take a deep breath and go, okay, all right, we're.
Speaker A:We're good.
Speaker A:I can talk about this, you know.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I'm not alone in all this.
Speaker B:May I ask how old you were when your parents passed?
Speaker A:I was 20 when my mom passed and my dad passed away a couple years ago.
Speaker A:So in my 40s.
Speaker B:So not a small child, but still unexpected.
Speaker B:And as you're finding these outlets to share your story, what is the message that you're trying to impart, other than the fact you don't have to carry this alone?
Speaker B:What is your big takeaway from it?
Speaker B:And where are you sharing your story?
Speaker A:So I think that every setback is a great launch pad for a comeback.
Speaker A:And I feel like everything that happens, it's.
Speaker A:It sounds so cheesy, but it's meant to happen for a reason.
Speaker A:And, you know, there's so much to learn from it.
Speaker A:And I've been just sharing my story on social media, really, but I have hundreds of messages of people messaging me like, wow, that post you made really resonated with me.
Speaker A:And sometimes people won't comment on my wall.
Speaker A:They.
Speaker A:They will come to my messenger and just talk to me.
Speaker A:That way, they don't feel comfortable saying, I, I, I have issues, too.
Speaker A:I got.
Speaker A:I got problems as well.
Speaker A:You come to my inbox.
Speaker A:But I love it because I feel like people are resonating with me and resonating with the story.
Speaker A:And there.
Speaker A: arted a Facebook group called: Speaker A:And it was.
Speaker A:I just did it for people who are in the same position that just want to have a comeback and want to move forward on a positive note.
Speaker A:And it's been great.
Speaker A:Like, every.
Speaker A:Every week, there's more people joining, and it's kind of become its own little movement of people that are ready to stop making excuses or ready to let go.
Speaker A:What's been bothering them and move forward and have a comeback of their own.
Speaker A:And so it's been, it's been amazing.
Speaker B:I think if I've, I mean, I've been doing this show for almost four years now.
Speaker B:And what I've really learned through it is that everyone has something that they're dealing with that they're not always comfortable sharing, you know, and, and to find a light in the darkness like you, who is raising your hand and saying, you know, come join me in this sphere of safety and we'll launch your comeback as well, you know, I think that's really powerful, especially in today's world.
Speaker B:We really need, you know, people like you out there doing it.
Speaker B:One thing that I, that I admire about you, there's a lot that I admire about you.
Speaker B:You know, I followed you on social media.
Speaker B:I found your comeback group.
Speaker B:But one of the things that I really appreciate is that you're an entrepreneur.
Speaker B:You're an entrepreneur at spirit.
Speaker B:You share not only your message of hope and overcoming, but of opportunity.
Speaker B:And some people who are in the entrepreneurial space don't want to offend anyone.
Speaker B:So they don't share.
Speaker B:They only share, you know, the opportunity and whatever thing they're in right now and whatever, you know, but they don't share their story or their message.
Speaker B:And it kind of takes away the humanity of the person because then you feel like, oh, they're just trying to sell, sell, sell all the time.
Speaker B:Yeah, they're not trying to connect.
Speaker B:And I think you balance that really well.
Speaker B:You know, you, you try to connect as well as offer your entrepreneurial opportunities.
Speaker A:Yeah, I, you know, I feel like if you're going to share the good, you should share some of the bad too, and just be transparent, you know?
Speaker A:And I, I do feel like people resonate with me a lot more because I do share my personal story.
Speaker A:I've always shared my personal story.
Speaker A:And a lot of people say, don't put your life out on Facebook or don't, don't put your business out there.
Speaker A:And I'm like, I'm always putting my business out there, but that's just how I've always been.
Speaker A:Like, talk about the good.
Speaker A:And I share the good often, but I also share what's going on with me when things aren't good and letting people know, hey, we all go through our stuff.
Speaker A:We all have something.
Speaker A:We all have something.
Speaker A:There's something that everyone's facing right now.
Speaker A:And so helping people with stress management, it's been an eye opening experience because I realized we're all a lot more similar than we think we are.
Speaker A:And we all have.
Speaker A:There's only a couple different categories that the stress is happening in.
Speaker A:And so you fall into one of those categories, you know?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I was, when I was getting my degree in psychology, I was 50 at the time, and I was amazed, not surprised.
Speaker B:But it just struck me as like, we've been doing these same questions of humanity for the past 3,000 years and not much has changed.
Speaker B:It's still very common and very basic of how we're trying to get through the world and get through life.
Speaker B:So, yeah, it's not surprising that you can put the stress ers or the stress things in a bucket of four or five.
Speaker B:I want to ask you about the comeback code.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:I love your photo, by the way.
Speaker A:You know what?
Speaker A:That's AI.
Speaker A:Isn't it crazy?
Speaker A:It looks so much like me.
Speaker B:Yeah, I. I know, I know online you use a lot of your AI images.
Speaker A:I do, I do, yeah.
Speaker B:I'm like, she's.
Speaker B:She doesn't need AI.
Speaker B:She's pretty in life.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:But anyway, explain the comeback code.
Speaker A:So the comeback code is.
Speaker A:It's a one hour coaching session where we get to the bottom of what's holding you back and we uncover and identify that and then we move forward with a plan of action.
Speaker A:So a lot of people will.
Speaker A:They need someone to bounce ideas off of or they need someone to mastermind with, or they need someone just to talk to.
Speaker A:And so I become that sounding board for them during the one hour coaching call and then I send them off with a plan, a plan of action.
Speaker A:So I'm not leaving them, you know, just dumping their stuff on me and saying, okay, see you later.
Speaker A:Bye.
Speaker A:So ciao.
Speaker B:Yeah, I'm out.
Speaker A:Yeah, see you later.
Speaker A:Yeah, so it's.
Speaker A:It's been great.
Speaker A:And I just.
Speaker A:It's just a one hour call where we just jive and talk and.
Speaker A:And people, they're like, oh my gosh, I feel like I was talking to a friend.
Speaker A:Like, it feels so comfortable.
Speaker A:It's just like.
Speaker A:It's like the conversation you and I are having, it's just one on one, just going back and forth.
Speaker A:And yeah, I just put that offer out again.
Speaker A:I haven't done it in like a year.
Speaker A:So I was like, you know what?
Speaker A:I'm ready to do those sessions again.
Speaker A:Let's do it.
Speaker B:Yeah, I actually have a couple of things that are a little older because you've been going through your.
Speaker B:Your stuff and you step back, but you.
Speaker B:One of the things that I mentioned is like, you're an entrepreneur.
Speaker B:I love that phrase.
Speaker B:Because without the doing or without the action, not much happens.
Speaker B:What does entrepreneur mean to Terlise?
Speaker A:It means getting after it and doing it regardless of what is popping up at that time.
Speaker A:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:Like, doing it regardless.
Speaker A:I guess you'd say so action.
Speaker A:Action trumps ideas every day, if you ask me.
Speaker B:You know, so, yeah, action trump's ideas all the time.
Speaker B:Because otherwise it's just information.
Speaker B:So if you were working with individuals and they came to you and said, you, I don't know where I.
Speaker B:Where to start or what, you know, where is your starting point with people?
Speaker B:Like, how do you process to get to know them better, to help them better?
Speaker B:Because coaching shouldn't be.
Speaker B:And I don't think it is for you either.
Speaker B:It shouldn't be.
Speaker B:It's not a one size fits all blanket thing.
Speaker B:So where do you start with folks?
Speaker A:So the number one, the starting point that I do is I have them do a brain dump.
Speaker A:I have them get everything out on paper, and you would be so surprised what pops up.
Speaker A:And people are like, where did that come from?
Speaker A:What?
Speaker A:I didn't even know that was bothering me.
Speaker A:And so I always have them do a brain dump.
Speaker A:And I just say, just write and just what's.
Speaker A:What's holding you back?
Speaker A:What's bothering you?
Speaker A:What's on your mind?
Speaker A:What's keeping you up at night?
Speaker A:And they just write and write and write and then we come up with a plan from there.
Speaker A:Because like I said, a lot of things pop up that they don't even realize, and they're like, oh, my gosh, I didn't realize this was bothering me.
Speaker A:I didn't realize this was on my mind until I had to like, dump it all out, whatever.
Speaker A:So I always start there.
Speaker A:And it works.
Speaker A:I mean, I've been doing this almost ten years.
Speaker A:It works.
Speaker A:And it's a good way to get to know someone as well.
Speaker A:Like when I have a brand new client, it's a good way to get to know them and their stressors, if you will.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:When, when you were growing up, did you grow up in kind of an entrepreneurial house?
Speaker A:No, I did not.
Speaker A:My dad was in construction and my mom was in retail.
Speaker B:That's vastly different.
Speaker B:That's very blue collar.
Speaker B:So where do you think you got your entrepreneurial heart?
Speaker B:Because you do a lot of different things.
Speaker B:So where do you think that came from for you?
Speaker A:I just didn't want to have to go to a job 9 to 5 or 8 to 5 or 8 to 6.
Speaker A:You know, I just felt like I was meant for more and not saying anything bad about anyone that has a 9 to 5 job.
Speaker A:I just.
Speaker A:I didn't like having to be somewhere at a specific time and getting to only having a lunch break and getting to the end of the day and still being at work and not being able to do what I wanted to do.
Speaker A:And so, yeah, it kind of fell into my lap and so I was, like, running with it.
Speaker B:I find parallels to what you're saying because my dad worked at the local press as a pressman for the paper for 25 years.
Speaker B:My mom was in banking until later in life, and then she was in retail.
Speaker B:But I always, like, I've had nine to five jobs.
Speaker B:Like my wife and I, she's had one job for 30 years, and in that time, I had 30 different jobs.
Speaker B:Like, yeah, I can't, but.
Speaker B:But I. I've.
Speaker B:I find that I can't conform to the 9 to 5 politics desires.
Speaker B:Like, this is all you.
Speaker B:You can work it.
Speaker B:You can work as hard as you want.
Speaker B:Charlise, you and I are going to work as hard as we want, and we're going to only make X amount of money, and the guy next to us isn't going to work at all, and he's going to make the same amount of money.
Speaker B:Yeah, I just couldn't rectify that in my brain, so.
Speaker B:I've always done entrepreneurial things, too.
Speaker B:You said it fell in your lap.
Speaker B:What was your first entrepreneurial experience?
Speaker A:Doing social media for restaurants and commercial people.
Speaker A:Commercial businesses, if you will.
Speaker A:Yeah, I. I was in commercial finance for quite a few years, and it was like feast or famine.
Speaker A:Like, you would work on a deal for months and then it would either go or it wouldn't.
Speaker A:And so sometimes I would work on a deal for five months and then it would fall apart, you know, and so it was.
Speaker A:It was stressful, if you will.
Speaker A:And I. I worked with a lot of churches, I financed a lot of churches and, like, working on golf courses and hotels and stuff like that.
Speaker A:And I just got fed up with it.
Speaker A:I was just like, this is not how I want to live.
Speaker A:And so before I was in commercial finance, I worked at a bar.
Speaker A:I was a waitress and a bartender.
Speaker A:And so those were my first clients.
Speaker A:I went and asked some of the bars.
Speaker A:I was like, hey, can I help you with your social media?
Speaker A:And this is like, we were building an email list and getting people to come and do promotions and working with Liquor companies.
Speaker A:And this is 15 years ago now.
Speaker A:And, you know, a lot has changed as far as social media, but I was just getting people in the door, and they were happy.
Speaker A:And then I went from one restaurant to another to another to another, and that just kind of became my thing.
Speaker A:So I started launching my own social media products and teaching people social media.
Speaker A:And then that is when I realized that I wanted to go into stress management because people were coming to me for social media, and they were stressed out about not converting and not getting clients and xyz.
Speaker A:And I realized that's not really what you're stressed out about.
Speaker A:This is.
Speaker A:This is much deeper than this.
Speaker A:And so it.
Speaker A:It just kind of parlayed into that.
Speaker B:What's.
Speaker B:I'm quite a bit older than you, so when I hear you talk about, you know, you just kind of fell into social media.
Speaker B:Like, that was right in the beginning of social media really taking off and.
Speaker B:And starting to become what it is today.
Speaker B:So you were really kind of on the ground floor learning how to, you know, marketing in my day was different than marketing in your day.
Speaker B:So you were just learning how to use marketing on this new platform and make it beneficial to you with a broader audience and more views and follows.
Speaker B:So did you have someone who guided and mentored you that.
Speaker B:That helped you, or did you just jump in?
Speaker A:No, I just jumped in and figured it out.
Speaker A:And I figured it out quickly.
Speaker A:You know, like when.
Speaker A:When you're responsible for bringing butts in the seat, you figure it out quickly.
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker B:Especially when.
Speaker B:Well, especially when you get your first paycheck for doing so.
Speaker B:You're like, yeah, oh, I'm gonna figure this out more because this paid me really well.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:What's been your.
Speaker B:And I'm gonna bring up this one, I think.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So I know this was a few years ago, but the reason I have this on here is it shows again how you really quickly became successful in what you were doing, because you were in the top 10, and you weren't in this particular organization very long when you.
Speaker B:When you received this.
Speaker B:So can you explain what this was?
Speaker A:Yeah, that was a network marketing company that I was promoting, and I just.
Speaker A:When I do something, I go all in.
Speaker A:You know, it's like there's no halfway doing it.
Speaker A:It's like 100% or nothing.
Speaker A:And so I just decided that I wanted to be in the top 10.
Speaker A:And it happened.
Speaker A:I was number seven, which was really cool.
Speaker A:And I had to bring in quite a few people, and so I just just went on social media and started sharing.
Speaker A:And that's what happened.
Speaker A:Just sharing my life and sharing my results.
Speaker A:And this was a health and wellness company, so I was sharing my own health and wellness results and just worked out.
Speaker B:You say that so humbly.
Speaker B:It just worked out.
Speaker B:No, it was a lot of work.
Speaker A:It was a lot of work.
Speaker B:It was a lot of effort.
Speaker B:It didn't just work out.
Speaker B:Like, you know, you don't have this magic wand where it just works out.
Speaker B:You actually do the work to make it work out.
Speaker A:Yes, I do.
Speaker A:I do.
Speaker B:You don't have to be so humble here.
Speaker B:What's been your most.
Speaker B:What's been your most favorite network marketing or entrepreneurial thing that you've gotten yourself into?
Speaker A:So almost 10 years ago, probably like eight years ago, I joined the company that was giving discounts on travel and retail items or whatever.
Speaker A:That was the coolest experience.
Speaker A:We built a team of 15,000 people really quickly.
Speaker A:We had a huge event.
Speaker A:We went to Dubai.
Speaker A:60 of us went to Dubai, and I ended up spending a month in Dubai.
Speaker A:It was so much fun, and it was just a really amazing company.
Speaker A:They ended up going out of business, so couldn't move forward with them.
Speaker A:But while it was working, it was amazing and it had so much momentum and there were so many people winning.
Speaker A:It just makes me happy even thinking about it.
Speaker A:Yeah, it was a great company.
Speaker B:I saw your eyes light up.
Speaker B:It's really cool.
Speaker B:Now, I can't imagine that the trip was a whole month in Dubai.
Speaker B:I imagine you decided to stay there.
Speaker A:We decided to stay, yeah.
Speaker A:The trip was, I think, eight days.
Speaker A:Our team was there, and then we just.
Speaker A:We stayed another week, and then we stayed another week, and then we stayed another week.
Speaker A:And it was fun.
Speaker A:We just popped around to different hotels and did excursions and all kinds of fun stuff.
Speaker A:It was.
Speaker A:It was quite the experience, but it was a lot of fun.
Speaker B:Now, as a world traveler, is Dubai your favorite place that you've been or do you have.
Speaker A:I would say probably I had a lot of fun there.
Speaker A:We had.
Speaker A:We had a great time.
Speaker A:Yeah, I would definitely go back.
Speaker B:Well, you know, you.
Speaker B:Because you're doing other things like this, you can.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:What's this one?
Speaker B:I love the turn your bucket list into a lived list.
Speaker B:That's like.
Speaker B:That speaks to my heart.
Speaker B:So what's.
Speaker A:Yeah, I've been.
Speaker A:So I've been.
Speaker A:I was in a travel company about eight years ago.
Speaker A:After.
Speaker A:After that other company went south, I joined a travel company and just got to go around the world.
Speaker A:And these are Just a couple pictures of different excursions, like ones in the Cayman Islands, ones in San Diego.
Speaker A:Hollywood went skydiving.
Speaker A:Just did a bunch of stuff.
Speaker A:So that's what I've gone back to, is travel and helping people turn their bucket list into a live list.
Speaker A:Doing the things that we want to do and not having them sit on the back burner, you know, that's.
Speaker B:A great opportunity for people.
Speaker B:So if you were to say what's on your bucket list that you want to still turn into your lived list, what would it be?
Speaker A:I want to go to Bali.
Speaker A:I want to go to Thailand.
Speaker A:I want to go to the Maldives.
Speaker A:Maldives.
Speaker A:Want to go.
Speaker A:There's a lot of things that I have on my bucket list.
Speaker A:Just traveling and traveling the world, because I haven't.
Speaker A:I haven't seen very much of it, you know, I mean, I've been to a lot of places, but not.
Speaker A:Not nearly as many as I want to.
Speaker A:So that's my goal for the next year, five years, is to go see as many places as I can, to be honest.
Speaker B:Do you just keep a backpack packed, ready to go, like your go?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker A:I know.
Speaker A:Seriously?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Got my little go bag.
Speaker B:I'm good.
Speaker B:Use your home now.
Speaker B:Are you healed or healing or.
Speaker B:Pretty close.
Speaker A:I feel.
Speaker A:I feel like I'm.
Speaker A:I feel good.
Speaker A:I feel.
Speaker A:I feel like there's not really a need to keep going to doctor's appointments because I'm not getting answers anyways, you know, so.
Speaker A:But I feel good, and I didn't feel good for a really long time.
Speaker A:And so now that I can say that, I feel.
Speaker A:I feel whole, I feel good, I feel energetic.
Speaker A:I feel like I'm healthy again, which is amazing because I didn't feel good for so long, you know, And I felt.
Speaker A:I felt hopeless a lot.
Speaker A:A lot of the visits because I didn't get any answers.
Speaker A:And so I was like, when is this going to end?
Speaker A:Like, what is going on?
Speaker A:And so I just kind of realized I'm staying in therapy, but other than that, I'm not.
Speaker A:I'm trying to not go to the doctor anymore, you know, I don't need it.
Speaker A:And I. I just feel like it's not good for me mentally.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:Yeah, so I just decided I'll go to therapy.
Speaker A:I'll.
Speaker A:I'll deal with that stuff, but other than that, I don't want to step foot in hospital.
Speaker B:Yeah, it takes.
Speaker B:It takes courage, actually, to go to therapy, especially when you're coaching others and, you know, helping others to admit that, hey, I, too, Need some additional help.
Speaker B:What was your moment?
Speaker B:I'm going to call it your come to Jesus moment.
Speaker B:What was your come to Jesus moment that said I need help?
Speaker B:What?
Speaker B:What.
Speaker B:What got you there?
Speaker A:So I didn't start therapy until after my seizure, and I needed help because I was in just a dark spot.
Speaker A:You know, I felt like, what's next?
Speaker A:You know, I was just like, God, what now?
Speaker A:What?
Speaker A:I mean, come on, give me a break.
Speaker A:You know, things were going so great and then they weren't.
Speaker A:And so I just needed to go because I didn't want to stay in that stinking thinking.
Speaker A:I didn't want to keep rehashing and going over the same thing.
Speaker A:And so I needed someone to kind of help steer me in the right direction.
Speaker A:And so it helped.
Speaker A:It helps, I think.
Speaker A:And I still actively go to their therapy, and I think that.
Speaker A:I think it's been beneficial for me, for sure.
Speaker B:I think, personally, I think most people should have a therapist.
Speaker B:You know, we have coaches, coaches have coaches.
Speaker B:We have people that, you know, we can talk to.
Speaker B:But being able to effectively go and deal with the underlying stuff that you don't normally get with others, I think is extremely valuable.
Speaker B:You know, mental health is.
Speaker B:Is as important as physical health, in my personal opinion.
Speaker B:So if.
Speaker B:If you were to look back at your life from 10 years ago, 12 years ago, how would you be.
Speaker B:How would you.
Speaker B:How would that woman be different from the woman who sits here today?
Speaker A:The things that.
Speaker A:I've just had a lot more life experiences that have made me kind of humbled me a little bit, you know what I mean?
Speaker A:I am more adventurous now.
Speaker A:I feel like when your life is.
Speaker A:When things are, like, in turmoil and when your life isn't going well, you always look for, like, what's wrong.
Speaker A:And I tried to look for what's right, what's going well.
Speaker A:And so I think that that person a few 10 years ago didn't have as many experiences as I've had so far.
Speaker A:And so I'm just taking them day by day and learning from them, but sharing my whole thing is I'm sharing more and I'm sharing the good and the bad.
Speaker A:And so I think that this, the person that I've become, is beneficial to other people because I'm sharing.
Speaker A:I'm just a couple steps ahead of you, you know, and I'm.
Speaker A:I'm sharing my lessons along the way, and I think that that's beneficial for a lot of people.
Speaker B:And what has been your biggest lesson that you have learned in this journey?
Speaker B:That You've done so far.
Speaker A:That things never stay as they are.
Speaker A:Like the.
Speaker A:The bad happens for a little bit of time.
Speaker A:The good happens for a little bit of time.
Speaker A:The bad happens for a little bit of time.
Speaker A:The good.
Speaker A:You know, it's like, there's always ups and downs.
Speaker A:There's always ebbs and flow.
Speaker A:It doesn't have to be negative, quote, unquote.
Speaker A:Just because something's happening to you, it doesn't have to be negative.
Speaker A:There's as many great things that happen to me is bad things that happen to me, and I just choose to focus on the good.
Speaker A:So my lesson, I guess you say, is get familiar with the ebbs and the flows and just work with it.
Speaker A:Do what you got to do at that time.
Speaker B:Yeah, you got to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, for sure.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker B:Earlier you mentioned that you were working with churches or, you know, they were part of your early beginnings.
Speaker B:Did you grow up in a spiritual or religious household?
Speaker A:No, I did not.
Speaker A:Well, my grandparents are very spiritual or very religious.
Speaker A:They're Catholic and they were very.
Speaker A:My Grandma still.
Speaker A:She's 90 years old.
Speaker A:She still goes the choir.
Speaker A:Like, she's.
Speaker A:She's in the church.
Speaker A:They're.
Speaker A:They're in it.
Speaker A:But my parents were never.
Speaker A:They never really chose to go to church or felt that it was necessary.
Speaker A:They just.
Speaker B:Did you find a connection somewhere along the line, you know, with.
Speaker B:With God or spirituality or higher self?
Speaker A:Yeah, and the older I get, the more I feel like I relate to it, both spirituality and God, you know, so I'm learning along the way.
Speaker A:I've.
Speaker A:I currently doing a faith and finance challenge, if you will, for the.
Speaker A:For the month of September, where every day is either a Bible verse or some sort of message that has to do with your finances and faith and how God provides and stuff.
Speaker A:And so it's been really interesting because as someone that didn't grow up in a spiritual or religious household, it's all new for me.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And I. I grew up in a very Catholic church house on my mother's side and then a very evangelical church on my dad's side.
Speaker B:So we had Saturday mass and Sunday church.
Speaker B:So, yeah, I call.
Speaker B:I consider myself a reformed Catholic, for sure.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yep.
Speaker B:I. I've said millions of times I find more spirituality sitting on a beach listening to the waves than I do some person in a pulpit.
Speaker B:So, you know, where we find our connection doesn't matter.
Speaker B:As long as, you know, we know that we can have it and we count on it.
Speaker B:You've mentioned several times that you, you want to share your story and share your message.
Speaker B:What is the main thing you want people to walk away with after they've heard your story or what is it that you want to convey in your message?
Speaker A:I think it goes back to the bad times don't have, they don't happen forever.
Speaker A:And it, it's really, I, it goes back to your setback can become a comeback.
Speaker A:And that's my main message is like you're never, don't ever count yourself out.
Speaker A:Just keep going and get the help that you need.
Speaker A:Talk to someone else, get therapy if you need it, reach out, get a coach, whatever you have to do.
Speaker A:But yeah, I just think that the bad times don't last as long as we feel like they do.
Speaker B:How does that relate to your story?
Speaker B:Like that's an overarching message and theme.
Speaker B:But what elements of your story do you share or relate so that people can understand that arc of good times don't last, but neither do the bad.
Speaker B:Like, well, part of your message.
Speaker A:I lost both of my parents to suicide, for instance.
Speaker A:And so I share, I share a lot about that.
Speaker A:I share a lot about my family growing up and how, how that kind of molded me into who I am today.
Speaker A:And I talk about my parents a lot and I talk about, I talk about my seizure a lot too because that was a very pivotal moment in my life.
Speaker A:It was a bad, bad time, a really bad time.
Speaker A:And so I tried to share my personal stories as much as I can, but it's really growing up, loss of my parents, health related issues.
Speaker A:So like that's why I did well in a health and wellness company because I had issues before and I worked through them and made it through them.
Speaker A:And then with the seizure, it's just been constant growing and learning and figuring it out and just keep going every day, you know.
Speaker B:So it is.
Speaker B:And I'm sorry for the loss of your, your family, your parents especially.
Speaker B:It is unique that both of them passed via suicide.
Speaker B:What would you, if you're looking back, what would you say was their moment of this is my only way out.
Speaker B:Like what was happening?
Speaker A:That the interesting thing is I didn't know either one of them were going to do it.
Speaker A:They seemed really happy.
Speaker A:Like my dad.
Speaker A:I talked to him the day before and he was showing me pictures of the remodeling his house and he's like check this out and really happy.
Speaker A:And I had no idea.
Speaker A:And I text him and it went to green instead of an imessage.
Speaker A:And I was like, that's weird.
Speaker A:So I called him and he didn't answer his phone.
Speaker A:I'm like, that's weird.
Speaker A:He always answers my phone call.
Speaker A:And so he just passed away, and I had no idea.
Speaker A:And he, like, it was totally normal the day before.
Speaker A:Nothing.
Speaker A:Nothing changed everything.
Speaker A:He was showing me pictures of the remodel and, hey, here's what I'm doing and excited and happy to share, you know, and so I'm like, someone that's doing that and sharing their future plans, you wouldn't think that they would do that, you know, and my mom, same thing.
Speaker A:I was away to college when she did it, but I talked to her three, four times a week when I was gone, and everything was fine.
Speaker A:There was.
Speaker A:There was no.
Speaker A:There was no sense that any of that was going to happen.
Speaker A:And so they were both just out of nowhere, really.
Speaker A:It wasn't like they were depressed or they were stressed or they were like, none of that.
Speaker A:And so it's, It's.
Speaker A:It's interesting because there were no signs.
Speaker A:There were.
Speaker A:There weren't any.
Speaker A:There were no signs.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:And are you a only child?
Speaker A:I have a younger sister, so.
Speaker B:Was her.
Speaker B:Was she as surprised as you were?
Speaker A:Yes, we were all surprised.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:That's it.
Speaker B:It is interesting that there was zero signs at all.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Two years now, my daughter tried to commit suicide.
Speaker B:And when we got, you know, the phone call that she was in the hospital, in recovery and whatever with her life, there were signs.
Speaker B:Like, we could see that she was, you know, in this dark spot.
Speaker B:You know, we still weren't able to help get her out.
Speaker B:But to have both parents know signs, that's very interesting.
Speaker B:Do you find in your work with others that there's a commonality to the stressors?
Speaker B:Because in my work with people, when they have taken their own life, it's usually because they've lost hope.
Speaker B:Do you find in the work with your people that there's some commonalities on the stressors that they come to you with?
Speaker B:I know you put them in five buckets, but do you have an overall.
Speaker B:Like, this is a really big common one?
Speaker A:Not really.
Speaker A:I mean, it.
Speaker A:It's kind of even across the field, like, it's either financial or family or health, but a lot of them, a lot of it is trouble at home that's pouring into their work life, and whether that be a spouse or children or something that's stressing them out that's causing them to not be able to work and not be able to focus.
Speaker A:A lot of it has to do with Money.
Speaker A:People are stressed about money.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Do you find.
Speaker B:I found that since COVID people are more isolated and they're feeling less connected with others.
Speaker B:Do you find that similar things have happened in.
Speaker B:In the people that you've come across in since COVID I feel that for.
Speaker A:Myself, I feel like, you know, I've.
Speaker A:I've become a little secluded and thank goodness that I have, you know, meetings like this or webinars I'm on with my team or, you know, I'm tapping into other people.
Speaker A:But I feel I didn't expect to come home to Fresno, you know, and I feel a little bit isolated as well.
Speaker A:And so I just try to tap into either a team or some.
Speaker A:Some sort of other community that I can be a part of and just make sure that I'm actively pursuing that because otherwise I would be at home by myself a lot of the time.
Speaker A:You know, the.
Speaker B:And I find this in social media, you know, especially with the younger generation, it has become more anti social than it has been social.
Speaker B:Like, I think it's really labeled wrong.
Speaker B:It's not really social media.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:Do you find over the 15 years that you've been deeply involved in it, that it's kind of arced that way too?
Speaker A:A little bit?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I feel.
Speaker A:I feel like people live their life on social media a different way than they do in person.
Speaker A:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:It's like there's like a Persona of who they are online and that's why I try to share my story so much, is like make me human again and not some influencer or whatever you want to label me as.
Speaker A:It's like this is a real person and, you know, she's not living one life on social media and one life in real life.
Speaker B:Well, it's like I said in the open, I considered you as an influencer because you have so many things going on.
Speaker B:But I respected you because you did share, you know, that you do have these hardships and these personal things going on as well.
Speaker B:So it made you unique in the fact that you're willing to talk about who you are as a person, not just what opportunities you're involved in.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:You know, so I know that you have a huge network of people that you obviously you don't get to where you are in network marketing without the network.
Speaker B:What would you say to someone who's trying to bust into business in general entrepreneurship or network marketing specific, like, what would you advise them in order to be successful?
Speaker B:Because there's a lot of sharks and charlatans out there that'll sell you everything under the sun, and then you'll never hear from them again.
Speaker B:And, you know, there's a lot of people who get into those opportunities that don't make it.
Speaker B:But for the ones who really want to.
Speaker B:Who really want to give entrepreneurship a shot, they're tired of the nine to five, tired of the grind of somebody else telling them their time.
Speaker B:What would you say to those people?
Speaker A:You have to figure out your why.
Speaker A:Like, why are you doing what you're doing?
Speaker A:I think that if you can constantly tap into that, it helps a lot.
Speaker A:And just showing up.
Speaker A:Showing up is like half a battle right there.
Speaker A:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:It's like showing up for yourself, remembering your why and being consistent and just networking and meeting new people.
Speaker A:I think that that's such an important task that a lot of people forget about.
Speaker A:They just project to the world what they're doing, sell this, buy this, you know, do whatever.
Speaker A:And they're not thinking about the actual connections.
Speaker A:Like, I have.
Speaker A:I have connections with people from elementary school, you know, and I still.
Speaker A:I still talk to those people.
Speaker A:And so I just.
Speaker A:I try to look at someone as a human being, not just another number on the other side of the screen.
Speaker A:And I think that that helps because a lot of people, it is all about the followers and all about the numbers and all about the how many sales they get, and not.
Speaker A:Not really about the relationships.
Speaker B:And connection on a human level is huge of importance in any field.
Speaker B:But specifically in that field, you mentioned earlier that you kind of fell into the entrepreneurial path.
Speaker B:You didn't want to do the 9 to 5.
Speaker B:I don't fully believe that not wanting to be in a nine to five is the only why.
Speaker B:So what was your big why?
Speaker B:What was.
Speaker B:What was your like, this is why, other than I don't want to be in a 9 to 5, what was your why?
Speaker A:I wanted to be able to live life on my terms and be able to be the one making the decisions.
Speaker A:And like, I. I didn't see that in my parents.
Speaker A:Like, they.
Speaker A:They were in the grind all the time, and they were just constantly, always working, you know, and it's like, I didn't see them before work because they were gone early, and I didn't see them after work because they were working late.
Speaker A:And so, you know, it was like a lot of meals made.
Speaker A:My sister and I were making them ourselves and fending for ourselves and really growing up by ourselves a lot of the time while our parents were at work.
Speaker A:And so I Didn't.
Speaker A:I just didn't want that.
Speaker A:I wanted to live a life on my terms and do things as I wanted to do and be able to come and go as I please.
Speaker A:And so, yeah, that's pretty much it.
Speaker B:Which is a huge, you know, not wanting to be told what to do, when to do and how to do it is like, okay, well, what's the alternative?
Speaker B:Well, go do it yourself.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:So what.
Speaker B:What's on the horizon for you next?
Speaker B:I know you're getting healthier.
Speaker B:I know you're itching to move and travel, but what's.
Speaker B:What's on your.
Speaker B:What's on your horizon?
Speaker A:Diving back into my stress management business and coaching business because I did take so much time away from it after my seizure.
Speaker A:I feel like I'm just stepping back into it.
Speaker A:Brand new, fresh set of eyes and new people talking to different people, and I really want to focus on that.
Speaker A:I think that there's a lot of people that need it right now, and I just want to help other people have their comeback as well.
Speaker A:And a lot of people don't even realize how much stress is affecting their health and how much stress is affecting their.
Speaker A:Their relationships and their business and everything.
Speaker A:They.
Speaker A:They don't realize that stress is the thing that's the common denominator in all of this.
Speaker A:And so they're not getting along with their spouse, or they're not getting along with their children, or they're not getting along with their co workers.
Speaker A:And it's.
Speaker A:It's much deeper than, you know, than a lot of people realize.
Speaker A:So that's on my horizon, is diving back into that tenfold, honestly, and just helping a lot more people.
Speaker B:And what would you want your legacy to be?
Speaker A:I want my legacy to be that I did the difficult things and that I put myself out there and that I was someone that people could look up to And.
Speaker A:And when it comes to persistence and drive and.
Speaker A:Yeah, someone that doesn't take no for an answer, I guess you'd say that's kind of who I am and what I stand for.
Speaker A:So I'd like that to be a legacy is that I showed up when other people might not.
Speaker B:And, yeah, I think you're well on your way to doing that, for sure.
Speaker B:From the limited stuff I'm able to see online, maybe when I come to Fresno, my wife and I will take you out and see if it's true there.
Speaker B:But what do you.
Speaker B:Your illness.
Speaker B:And like I said, I've watched my wife battle her illness for 10 years.
Speaker B:And what it took away from her because she could no longer work, and she almost died a couple times.
Speaker B:And so I've seen how it's taken its toll on her.
Speaker B:What was.
Speaker B:What is your biggest takeaway from your illness?
Speaker B:How has it changed you?
Speaker A:It's made me more understanding and empathetic towards other people because it's like we're all facing a battle that people don't know about, and there's a lot of things that we don't talk about.
Speaker A:And I do talk about it, but it's made me realize that there's just a lot of people that suffer in silence, and it's made me a more loving person towards others and just realizing that life is short.
Speaker A:I could have died, you know, and I didn't.
Speaker A:And so moving forward, I just want to make sure that I'm doing what I can do to help other people get out of their own situation as well.
Speaker B:Well, like I said, the world needs more light like yours, you know, empathy and sympathy and.
Speaker B:And understanding and compassion.
Speaker B:It's not fortunate that, you know, you had to go through your illness to.
Speaker B:To experience some of that, you know, for yourself.
Speaker B:But, yeah, you know, I just.
Speaker B:I'm grateful that you're out there doing what you do, and I think it's.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker B:It's an important platform to be doing it, and I hope you definitely share your message and your story and every aspect of, you know, what.
Speaker B:What you're going through.
Speaker B:I mean, there's plenty of people who have been touched by suicide.
Speaker B:You've been touched by it in a very unique way.
Speaker B:I think that gives you credibility when people want to come to you with, you know, hardships like, oh, she does get it because she's lived it.
Speaker B:So I just hope you go out there and just share your story and your message and everything, you know, everywhere you get the chance to.
Speaker B:So I think it's very important.
Speaker B:I'm gonna ask you one last question, and again, I just appreciate that you came here to share your behind the curtain, but what does a warrior spirit, or having a warrior spirit mean to you?
Speaker A:It means not giving up and going after what you want and doing it despite whatever's happening around you.
Speaker A:I think that that's what a warrior spirit is to me, is showing up regardless, doing it despite whatever is happening outside of yourself and showing up for yourself, honestly.
Speaker B:And I think you're showing up for yourself every day.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Doing my best.
Speaker B:Yeah, I do my best.
Speaker B:I think you're doing a fantastic job.
Speaker B:So, you know, thank you for.
Speaker B:Thank you for sharing it here and doing it on this platform.
Speaker B:So I appreciate you.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker A:I appreciate you as well.
Speaker B:And if you'd like to get in contact with her lease you can get a touch with her on her website, tarlis.com Master your stress and on our social platforms, Facebook, Instagram, X, LinkedIn and YouTube.
Speaker B:And thank you for joining us on this edition of A Warrior Spirit.
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Speaker B:And as always, the journey is sacred.
Speaker B:The warrior is you.
Speaker B:So remember to be inspired, be empowered, and embrace the spirit of the warrior within.
Speaker A:You.