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Episode 1506th March 2023 • Lets Be Honest Before We Start Pretending • Kelly Mobeck
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What does it mean to “transform”? The dictionary says “make a thorough or dramatic change in the form, appearance, or character of.” At its simplest form it's creating a change in something you want in your life.  We have been doing it our entire lives, if you think back as far as you can you may come up with the various transformations you’ve made in areas like mindset, health, relationships, professional and other personal goals.  It’s pretty amazing what we can create and today we are going to explore the power of focusing on the transformation(s) you want in your lives as a way to stay motivated and be compelled to keep moving towards them.  Game on!

Highlights from this episode:

(02:11) Transition from fear to health

(05:29) Nothing gets transformed until your mind gets transformed

(07:42) I am a loving, joyful, courageous, worthy woman

(11:34) Commit to recovery

(13:54) Focus on the work in front of you

(15:35) Don’t minimize your transformation

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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it and go out and make an impact in your life and the lives of

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others. This world needs your leadership, your gifts, your

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unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders don't wait.

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They create. I know firsthand that life is going to throw us

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curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness, our ideas

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and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe in

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yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world. So let's jump in. Hey there, everyone, it's Coach

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Kelly. Happy March it is March 6, this is episode 150 watt 150

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episodes of let's be honest, before we start pretending I am

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stoked about 150. Let's go. Let's go. So how much fun was

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it, having coach mag on the podcast last week and her

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stories I'm sure you could find something to resonate with. So

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great, it was so fun having me on and you know, continuing that

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conversation of when we're really up against it. And thank

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you again, make because it was super great to hear your nuggets

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and all the things that you shared. So I know, it was a

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great way to wrap up February. And here we are. It's a March

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March 6 to be exact. And today, we are talking about

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transformation, data transformation, because, you

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know, we're always transforming in our life, if we're not, we're

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probably staying pretty stagnant, and maybe even live

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even living a little bit on autopilot at some level. And now

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I will tell you, we are recording, I am recording this.

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Prior to knee surgery, I am recording this a week before

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knee surgery, I am still scared, I am still nervous. And I am

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still leaning into courage, and my mindset, and all of the

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things still happening. All systems go, all tests have been

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passed. Everything is working tennis. And you know what I'm

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pretty excited about that. I'm pretty proud of it. Because it

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has been transformational. It truly has been transformational.

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Taking this on, it really has already. And I thought like this

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was gonna be a year of transformation. And it is, it's

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a year of transformation. In my health. Remember, I am working

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on being vibrant. And having that vibrancy, just flow all

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over inside out, right. And it's requiring me to also stay in

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integrity with myself, no other calm conversation. And it is

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requiring me to hold two things is true fear and courage. But

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really understanding that something else is more important

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than the fear. And that is health. Because without this

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health without creating the optimal health that I want to

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create, like all this work, I mean, you know, I want to keep

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doing it. I want to keep contributing and helping others

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take the lead in their life. And that's got to start with me,

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that's got to start with me taking the lead in my own life

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and having integrity and committing to the transformation

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of me, not just events like surgery, number one, and then

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surgery number two, because I don't know about any of you, but

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I know whenever I do anything event based, yeah, it works all

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all all hit the goal. It's just not sustainable. That's the

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thing. It's just not sustainable for me. When I focus in on the

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transformation, what is the transformation that's going to

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occur in my life, personally, professionally, in my

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relationships? I mean, what is going to change? What's that

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transformation going to be? By focusing on that? Right? So like

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who is Kelly a year from now? Who is she a year from now?

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Well, a year from now she'll be 57 A year from now she is

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enjoying life. She is active, She is dancing, she is hiking,

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and seeing beautiful landscapes. She is keeping up like and I

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don't mean keeping up like we If the Joneses, right, like I don't

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mean that I don't mean it that way, like comparing myself and

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keeping up to what others have the summit. I mean, keeping up,

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like in my pace in walking and like my husband such a fast

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walker, and I used to be able to keep up with him, I can't

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anymore, right? I mean, he'd be like, a block.

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Me, like I'm keeping up, right? Like, I'm walking with purpose

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and passion and the way that I used to, okay, so this is why

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health is super important. This is why it's super important to

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me, this is the transformation in me. She is doing trainings,

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live in a training room and being able to make a difference

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in person. I love being with people, you know, I love it. And

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so, so many different things. And the transformation to me and

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more will get revealed I will share more along the way. And I

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wanted to talk today about the things that I know to be true to

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help create that transformation. Right? I found this quote, you

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know, I love quotes and it says nothing gets transformed, until

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your mind is transformed. Oh, let me say it again. Nothing

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gets transformed, until your mind is transformed. And this is

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by a fini, a knock on new Ah, okay. And I think it's

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brilliant. I think it's brilliant. Nothing gets

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transformed until your mind is transformed. And I'll tell you,

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in this transformation, to me, there are lots of things that

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I'm doing. There's lots of things that I'm practicing, the

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thing that I am working the most on, is my mind, okay? Meaning, I

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have got to believe beyond reason in this transformation.

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Okay, so take them on for a second. Something that you want

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in your life, you've got to believe beyond any reason

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believe beyond a shadow of a doubt. Okay, that it is

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happening. It's happening. See, this transformation is already

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happening. It's already in play. Why? Because I said so. And

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because I got to work on it. And the first place I started was

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with my mind. We've done a few episodes recently about

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directing your brain in the way that you want it to go. Right?

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Yes, yes, it's so true. And so in order to create

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transformation, you've really got to look at who are you in

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this transformation? What's your identity, not your roles, the

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roles that you play? In life, the roles you play out in the

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world, not your job. But really, who are you being? Who's your

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identity? I am a loving, joyful, courageous, worthy woman. That's

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who I identify as, that's who I identify as I am a loving,

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joyful, courageous, worthy woman. Yes, I am. And in order

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to have that be sustainable, that means that my beliefs have

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to align my values have to align, the things that I'm

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doing, the action has to align in the things that I'm creating

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align, okay. doesn't always mean that I got to hit the mark or be

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perfect about it new. No, not at all. But they've got to align.

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Right. And so that's a contract that I have with myself. I am a

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loving, joyful, courageous, worthy woman. Yes, I am. And it

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has served me well. Gosh, for about 27 years now. I think it

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is. Yeah. And I want to credit that I didn't just wake up one

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day and make that up. I literally went through a series

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of personal growth seminars and created a contract in a seminar

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that was facilitated by one of my favorite mentors on the

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planet Lou Dozier and she literally, along with her

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amazing staff helped all of us in the room create our contracts

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with ourselves our promise, right? It's a promise it's a

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contract. I don't even have to think twice if someone you know

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if she would ever say to me one day like hey, what's your

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contract? Me? Like? I'm a loving, joyful, courageous,

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worthy woman. Yes, I am. And she would say yes, you are. Yes, you

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are. And so that became my identity. That's who I identify

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as right I am a loving, joyful, courageous worthy woman. Yes, I

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am. And now I get to help people create contracts I get to help

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women create contracts with themselves, you know, in their

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lives so that they have that and and I do that in lifter, that's

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one of the things we do in lifter is that we create

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contracts with ourselves. So you know, it's, it's a powerful it's

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a powerful anchor. It is a powerful way to direct our

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mindset. Okay. And so, what do you think I'm going to be

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bringing in with me as I go through the surgery, even though

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you are going to be hearing this surgery will have been complete

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when you hear this episode, but that's going to be one of the

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things that I'm going to bring in like I'm already imagining is

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there like you You know, counting down as they're putting

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me under anesthesia that that's how I'm counting down. I'm a

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loving, courageous, joyful, worthy woman. Yes, I am. And now

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I'm asleep, right? Like, that's how I'm gonna count down because

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I want that in my whole entire being that is going to support

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vibrancy as we have this surgery, not just the event, as

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I move through, right, as I move through as I recover, as I

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continue to take on the things that are going to support my

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health, because that is directly affecting my mind. And my

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mindset, here, period done. And so the thing that I want you to

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know about transformation, is that we can create them

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sometimes in nanoseconds. And sometimes over some time, this

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transformation, the one on who I'm being is a healthy, vibrant,

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Integris woman. And again, I have integrity in my life, it

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doesn't mean that I don't, but in the area of health, I haven't

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always been Integris. Okay. So in that transformation in me, I

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can see who she is, I can feel that actually, when I imagined

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myself a year from now, in the transformation to me, Listen, I

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feel lighter, I feel more like flexible, I feel stronger, I

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feel this energy. It's incredible. Try it on, don't try

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it, but try it on and see the fit, right imagining the

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transformation, something and an area that you want to create

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transformation because it can happen. And so you've got to

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commit to the transformation. In this case, I've got to commit to

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recovery, and all the things that are going to be associated

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with recovery, like physical therapy, it says in all my

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paperwork, if you're willing to do the hard work, this surgery

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will work. And it will be worth it. It says it everywhere. I

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can't tell you how many times I've read it. So I'm like, Yeah,

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isn't that how it goes with transformation, if you're

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willing to do the work, and it's going to be hard work, it's

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going to be worth it, it's gonna be worth it. So I'm already

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like, okay, one of the three things and in a, you know,

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mindsets, the thing, but one of the three things that's gonna

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really help me with this is focusing in on what is recovery

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going to be like, now, I've never had a knee replacement. So

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I can't say all the things that I can begin to imagine I can

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begin with, like, you know, I know what the house looks like,

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I know how it's been set up to move, I know who my resources

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are, I know where I can call for help. I have all the things I

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have all the things like so many things to help with this

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recovery, I can see myself doing physical therapy, like I can see

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that happening. I can see myself, you know, even in the

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moments that it's hard pushing through doing it anyway, right.

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And I can feel that. Now listen, you all know the thing that I'm

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the most afraid of is waking up with a bunch of pain or having a

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bunch of pain. Now I have a very high tolerance for pain. So

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because of the elbow surgery, I've said this before, that part

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gets me a little bit it gets me a little bit now. That is a you

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know, I just like it gets me a lot, it gets me a lot of it. And

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it's the part that I'm working on every single day my mindset

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when it comes to that. And so I can see myself like, this hurts

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right now. And this moment will pass the the ease and the peace

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and the pain free is it's here. It's here. Now I don't even say

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it's coming. I almost was gonna say it. But then I remember like

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it's here. It's happening. Now, you see, I think this journey

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can be different than whatever doubt and fear has painted in a

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picture. Whatever I've made up for that. I think I believe it

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in my bones. Right? And so really focusing in on that

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recovery. So for you all, it might not be something that

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you're going through where you need to recover, but like, what

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would you be focusing on? Then I would suggest it's the work in

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front of you. So I'm saying recovery, but what that equates

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to, what's the work in front of me? What is it I must do to

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support who I'm being in the transformation? Okay? And then

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you've got to number two, really remember? What's your

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motivation? What's your motivation? I'm going to say

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we're not going to always feel motivated, okay, we're not

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always going to feel motivated to do the things. But what is

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your motivation going back to your purpose? And understanding

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why remember, you know, something else is more important

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than the pain than the fear than the, you know, it's hard today.

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I don't feel like it's something else is more important focusing

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in on that. Okay. And then finally, and this is the third

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one, reminding yourself, it will be worth it. And when you say it

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to yourself, what's worth it? And that's going back to looking

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at that transformation of you. And who is that person? What's

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happening in their life? What's going on? What are you see? What

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do you feel? What do you hear? What do you have? Okay? That's

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the worth it. So reminding yourself and go visit and go

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visit often. Go often, I have been going daily, multiple

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times, multiple times, so that I'm ready for this, okay. And

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there was a part of me that was feeling a little bit silly about

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talking about having a knee replacement, as you know, like,

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I could just hear it like is like, do people even really care

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about this? Like, there's so many other things happening? So

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many, you know, bigger things to take on and in health and in the

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world in the summat? And you know what? Right there, right

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there starts the, what's the word I'm looking for you guys,

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the minimizing your transformation, right there

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that's comparing in a sneaky way. Right? Like, I'm not

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sitting here comparing myself to other human beings, but it's

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just like, Does this feel silly? Am I being silly? Like, is this

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silly? This feels silly. Like, I'm probably being really silly

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about this, stop it, stop it right now. Because that's

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minimizing the transformation of you and don't do that. And we do

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that we don't give ourselves permission to be where we are

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and honor where we are. Right? We don't give ourselves that

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permission. What is happening for you matters, what is

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happening for you matters. So please, don't minimize, don't

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like, oh, you know, like, there's that thing up there

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first world problems. Yeah, there's a thing about that

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that's true. And also remember, it can also become a way that we

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minimize what's happening with us, we get to have feelings we

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get to, we get to honor what's true. And I'm not saying being

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victime about it, and being like ineffective it. And like, Woe is

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me. That's not what I'm saying. Because remember, what I talked

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about here is mindset, the quote, nothing gets transformed

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until your mind is transformed, right? Do you don't want to be

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in that mindset of learner, you know, you that's not going to

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serve you, okay? But please don't minimize whatever's in

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front of you. You get to have your feelings, and you get to be

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supported. And you get to move through that. And that, my

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friends, is exactly the way you will create transformation in

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your life. And it's important. It's really, really, really

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important. So I wanted to share that with you today. I trust

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that there was absolutely some nuggets. And you know, what I

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just realized I forgot to tell you.

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I wanted to let you know that the the next cohort for lifter,

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which is the group coaching program for women is coming. The

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next cohort starts April 12. So I wanted to bring that in it is

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for women who are ready to take on the transformations they want

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in their life. And it's a year long program, the details are on

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my website there in the show notes, check it out. I've talked

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about this many, many times on different episodes, so I wanted

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to make sure that you all know about them. And the other thing

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that I have coming up, it is going to start on March 22. And

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I will tell you more about this on next week's episode, but I

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have three workshops coming up. It's like a bundle of workshops.

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One is going to be on march to the will please. One is going to

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be on March 22. One is going to be on March 29. And one is going

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to be on April 5, and they're going to be in the evenings.

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It's one hour and we do stick to one hour. And I will reveal more

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about what these amazing workshops are going to be about.

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You will see them in the show notes. And I will talk about

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them on our next episode because they're going to be amazing. And

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I want you to come and play come and play. Because we are here to

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take it to the next level. Yes, we are. All right. So I wanted

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to give you that little teaser and to listen for that next week

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and give you the dates. So here we go. Remember, we have a

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choice to lead our lives or follow our circumstances and

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transformation is about taking that lead in your life. Life's

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about knowing your passions, your purpose, your values, and

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sometimes we lose a little bit of sight of that but it's okay

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to come on back. Okay, we are work in progress. And we get to

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create an impact in our life and then go ahead and create impacts

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and other's lives. That's what we're here for and who emerge

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Just from taking the lead in their lives are authentic,

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vulnerable, courageous, and creating the transformation that

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they want in their lives. It is not always going to look the way

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we think it's supposed to. And we get to trust that more always

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gets revealed as we move forward. So remember, take those

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pauses, let go of worry, let go of doubt and live fully the best

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version of you. Thank you so much for listening today. And

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next week, I've got an amazing guest coming on. This is going

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to be great. She helps people create transformation, she helps

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women create transformation in some of the most amazing ways.

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She's a dear friend of mine. I've been a client of hers, and

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I cannot wait for her to come on. And we're going to talk

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about the way that she creates transformation. And as I

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promised, I will also share with you about those workshops that

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are coming. So excited. So you guys, thanks for listening here

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is to a great march ahead of us. So have a great month ahead.

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Have a great week ahead. And you know, if it's not shaping up the

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way you want it to take the lead and create a fantastic one. I

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will talk with you next week and prepare your hearts. I've got an

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amazing guests coming. Okay, talk to you soon. Bye. Thanks

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for listening to another episode of Let's be honest before we

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start pretending for more resources on taking the lead in

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your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com. And connect with me

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on Instagram at coach Kelly mobile. If this episode was

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at any time feel free to connect with me and let me know what you

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want to hear next or what you're working on. I'm happy to help.

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Thanks again for listening and here's to you taking the lead in

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