How are you feeling about you and your overall health? Are there changes you want to create?  Did you know that we all have an invisible checklist in our head?  Today on the podcast my special guest Sylvia Fox and I dive into freedom from the invisible checklist in our head, what it is and what to do with it so that we are feeling our best at any age.

Sylvia Fox is a Dynamic Aging coach who passionately believes we are never too old and never too young to dream BIG and make choices to support our dreams. Her joy is in helping clients be happy, healthy, whole and fearless. She integrates a lifetime of learning and experiences to help clients identify their current roadblock, their current dream, whether it's a new career, a lifestyle change, or simply want to be more satisfied with life.  She is a Certified Dynamic Aging coach, Life & Wellness Coach, Certified Restorative Exercise Personal Trainer, editor of the Dynamic Aging 4 Life online Magazine, sailor and hiker.  She is also an emeritus Professor of Journalism from California State University, Sacramento. She resides in Portland, Oregon and Point Richmond, California. 

Highlights from this episode:

(04:12) What is a dynamic coach?

(11:28) The best client transformations

(19:34) What do you want to feel like?

(22:48) The impact of not feeling good in your own skin

As mentioned in this episode:

Share your Curiosity Challenges, learnings, and any questions 

Episode 151 Transform Your Confidence with Elisa Ellis

Episode 140 Creativity Is A Mindset with Tim Stephenson

Episode 138 Creativity with Joan Virginia Allen

Connect with Sylvia:

Website: fitzfoxcoaching.com

email: fitzfoxcoaching@gmail.com 

Upcoming Events with Sylvia:

Group forming now: Your Body, Your Self: Exploring the secret thoughts that hold you back from a world of possibilities.

This group focuses on the critical voice in your head that continuously critiques your appearance and how this voice narrows your options in life without your knowledge or permission.

Will meet  virtually on zoom for 12 weeks. First meeting is a 90-minute orientation meeting on Monday, April 24 at 5:30 p.m. PST

If you have any interest in bringing this topic to Teens in a group OR having a workshop on this topic, ANY AGES, please contact Sylvia.. She does individual coaching for this and any area where you don't feel like you're living your fullest life. Sylvia  also works with women with eating disorders.

The 'Take the Lead Workshops' will help you stay unstuck & create the results & success you want. I've learned a few things along the way & created these workshops to help you move past being up against it & have focused action on what's important to you.

Our next workshop is March 25th and it’s right on time! 

We can’t wait to see you there! Read more and join our amazing community at the link below:

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Imagine if you had the tools you require to create the transformation you desire personally and professionally. Imagine if you woke up each day feeling energized instead of overwhelmed. Imagine if you woke up each day knowing, in your gut, that you are enough.

The next cohort begins June 2025

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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it, and go out and make an impact in your life and the

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lives of others. This world needs your leadership, your

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gifts, your unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders

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don't wait. They create. I know firsthand that life is going to

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throw us curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness,

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our ideas and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe

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in yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world. So let's jump in. Hey, there, everyone, this is Coach

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Kelly, welcome to episode 155. Of let's be honest, before we

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start pretending, where we get to take the lead in our lives

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every week together, and I am like a kid in a candy store.

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when you hear who my guess is coming on the choice of candy

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store might have been a fun, fun way to describe my feelings. I'm

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like a kid in a candy store today because I am super

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excited. I have a fellow coach and friend who is doing such

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amazing work, helping people transform the experience they

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want in their life and health, real, real amazing emphasis on

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health. And we've had many conversations about it. And I

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was like, Can you please come on to the podcast? Because we have

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been talking about? You know, we've been talking a lot about

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transformations lately. And all the different ways that we can

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transform and what is transformation, it's essentially

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creating the change you want. What do you want to experience

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in your health, right. And so we're going to continue with

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that conversation of transformations and being able

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to stay the course with Coach Sylvia Foxx, who is a dynamic

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aging coach with a ton of experience. And I can't wait for

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you to learn from her. I met coach Sylvia. And I want to say

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it was in her coach training when she was getting trained as

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a professional coach. And it was well if y'all have had, you've

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all have heard CAMI McClaren, so in transformational coaching

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essentials. Sylvia is a graduate couple years now. And she's

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amazing. She's amazing. I have literally been able to

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experience coaching by Sylvia. And I've gotten to know her

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work, and I think she's tremendous. So let me share a

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bit about Sylvia Sylvia Fox is a dynamic aging coach who

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passionately believes we are never too old and never too

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young, to dream big and make choices to support our dreams.

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Her joy is in helping clients be happy, healthy, full and

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fearless. She integrates a lifetime of learning and

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experiences to help clients identify their current roadblock

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their current dream, whether it's a new career, a lifestyle

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change, or simply want to be more satisfied with life. She's

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a certified dynamic aging coach, life and wellness coach,

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certified restorative exercise personal trainer, editor of the

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dynamic aging for life online magazine. You all might remember

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when Coach Joan was here. She is part of the team when Joan was

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introducing the dynamic aging for life online magazine. So I'm

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super excited about that. She is also a sailor and a hiker. She

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is also an emeritus emeritus Am I saying that right? emeritus

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emeritus professor of journalism from the California State

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University in Sacramento. She resides in Portland, Oregon, and

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point Richmond, California. How great is that? Welcome, Silvia

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to the podcast. How are you?

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I am great, Kelly. I'm so excited to be here. And I'm so

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excited to have this conversation with you.

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Yes, me too. Me too. And I was like, we did this quick. We did

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this quick. We were talking about some things that Silvia is

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up to which you guys will hear a little bit later in this

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episode. And I was like, Can you please can you please come on

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and just drop all your wonderful nuggets. So thank you so much

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for being here. Sylvia. First of all, I would love to hear what

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your perspective is of a dynamic aging coach and what do you love

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about it?

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So Kelly, I love what I do. So I work with people of all ages to

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help clients clarify their intention of what they want for

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their lives, and how they want to feel right now, because how

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you feel right now has a lot to do with how you're going to feel

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in the future too. So for me, dynamic means a force that

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stimulates change or progress at any age. So it's a force that

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stimulates change or progress at any age. So a lot of people

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might think that dynamic aging is only for old people. But if

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you're thinking about at in your 20s 30s, and 40s, of what you

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want your life projectory Yeah, let's make it dynamic right now.

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That's going to be your future. So I

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love that I just I want to jump in really quick, because I have

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said this on several different episodes. Whenever I'm talking

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about accountability, how do you want to feel 20 years from now?

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Because today's choices are going to contribute to that. So

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that's essentially the same thing that you're saying, right?

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lengthly. And keep going, keep going.

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So the way that dynamic agent came about, and Coach Joan has

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talked about this is that Katie Bowman, who is a bio mechanist,

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published this book with Jonah in 2019. And it was about 2019.

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And it was about the physical movement, as we age, it was more

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movement. And what Coach Joan and I have come to believe

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together is that it's much more than that. It's about curiosity,

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and habits. And so it is much more robust than movement. It's

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about our thinking, and our intentions.

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Brilliant, brilliant. And I love how you've expanded that right

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to like, there's more here. And there's more that we can bring

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in to have that be even more dynamic, right? So it's

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fascinating. I love it. Why is this focused work so important

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for us?

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So I think I want to do a quick sidebar on how I got here,

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because it's my own personal transformation. We were talking

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about transformations of our clients and the people that

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we're working with. So what happened for me is I retired

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from teaching journalism at Sacramento State in I was 59

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years old. And I was just about to move out of the country and I

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discovered Zumba, this dance thing that was happening, I

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discovered I love to dance hadn't danced since I was a

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child loved it. So I was moving to Mexico, and I thought, who's

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going to be teaching that there? So I became certified in at 59

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years old. And I went off to Mexico to live on this grand

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adventure, and I started teaching Zumba on the beach in

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Puerto Vallarta and down south. And then summers, we went back

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to upstate New York, and I taught in some of the wineries.

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It's a big wine country in upstate New York. And then I

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ended up moving back to California. And when I moved

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back to California, I was lucky enough to get to start to teach

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Zumba in body wisdom studio in point Richmond, which is Nancy

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Allen burns studio, who is also a trance transformative coach

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through the McLaren program. Yes. So when I got there, she is

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a force of nature. And before I even knew what was happening, I

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was in the certification program for restorative exercise, which

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is this whole thing of how we move more of our bodies. Right

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then, just as I started that certification program, dynamic

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aging, the book came out. And it was profound. For me, I thought,

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this is so important, because by that time, I'm in my 60s, and

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I'm trying to make a decision of how I want to age. And I'm also

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seeing how other people have this issue as well. So I took

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the restorative exercise, became certified was teaching at the

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studio. And then Nancy and Joan, both went and became coaches.

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And I could see how much it transformed their lives. And so

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I went, I wanted a piece of that. And so then I followed

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them into the coaching program. And now I've gotten into my own

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personal passion where this trajectory has happened. But

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this has been my transformation transformation between 59 years

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old and I'm 71 right now incredible, a lot of changes and

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and building like there's a lot of excitement and possibilities

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and life left. And that's certainly what I want to bring

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to my clients.

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I wish you all could see Silvia right now because as she sharing

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that, is she sharing that the glow, and the joy on your face.

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Silvia is so contagious, it's so contagious, and it really it's

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so I think this work that you're doing is so important, because

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we really get to decide what that is like how do we want to

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feel what is that? You know, what is that going to look like

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and to be able to have resources like yourself out there that we

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can, you know, connect with to help buss Get really clear with

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our intention, and then what is that focused action that we're

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taking? How do we set that up is amazing. I think it's amazing.

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Now, I really do want to hear why this focus work is really

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and truly important for people.

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So this, this has become my passion. So what I've discovered

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with working with clients, and in my own work, that all of us

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have this inside voice and this critical voice, and it sounds so

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reasonable, it sounds so factual, and it sounds so

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truthful. But this voice as we know, and coaching is what's

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keeping us stuck in a place where we aren't even aware of

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that this isn't true throw that there that there are other

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options. And there's a ton of other possibilities. So what

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happened is I started working with clients and with groups and

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I started to do this visualization. To explore our

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bodies, we explored the skeleton and explored the soft tissue. So

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it's just an exploration. And it was so amazing how I never,

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ever, never had anyone come away with that, without new

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information about their thinking about their bodies, there wasn't

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information about their bodies, it was what they were thinking

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about their bodies. So that's so from that came to this this work

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that we do that I do now working on, what's the secret list that

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you have going on? That, you know, there's this critical

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voices telling you, you have to do these things in order to be

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okay. And okay, with whom we really work on that the

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external, but it's really about what are the kinds of things

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that you don't even realize you're checking, before you walk

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out the door before a meeting? Or you're gonna go out with your

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friends? And it's this really kind of internal pressure of, I

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need to feel okay, I need to be okay, if and then you got this

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checklist go on that you don't even understand that you got

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these checklists going. So the work that I'm doing right now,

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which is so much fun, yeah, is that as people are identifying

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their own checklist, and it's different for everybody?

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Absolutely everybody. And it could be a body part. It could

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be hair, it could be skin, it could be movement, it could be

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it doesn't matter, you've all got your own little, you know,

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bag of rocks that you're carrying around, it is not

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working for you. We get to take that out, examine that list,

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decide what is working for us, what isn't what we want to keep,

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and we can decide for ourselves how we want to show up in the

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world, which is an incredible freedom. Incredible.

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I could feel that freedom, right when you said that right? When

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it was. It's so freeing. But I love to that with examining. And

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I remember when we talked before, I was like, wait a

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minute, the checklist, right, that we may not even know that

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we have is it? Is it you know? Is it external focus? Is it

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internal focus, what parts do we want to keep? What what what

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what do we let go of? And then how do we transform our

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experience of freedom? And like really having that in our life?

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I think it's extraordinary, extraordinary. Yeah, it's pretty

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important work

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is really important work. And what's so important of it is, if

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you're up in your head all the time, if you've got this thing

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going this is you know, subliminal messaging going all

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the time. It's exhausting. Yeah. So if you can get rid of some of

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that, or own it or change it, you're gonna have so much more

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energy for making positive choices are deciding how you

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want to feel. You're, you're not reacting, it's sucking up energy

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all the time. So this is really a process of finding your own

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freedom.

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Oh, I love that so much. I love that so much. Because we do. And

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I don't know if we always realize this, but we spend, we

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can spend a lot of time ruminating on things, whether

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it's conscious or subconscious, right, that can really, you

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know, on those days where you are feeling extra exhausted, but

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you're not sure why. Hello, exactly what you just shared

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Soviet could be a clue on what's happening. So this is brilliant.

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This is brilliant. What are some of your favorite, you know,

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client transformations that you've experienced? So

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one of my earliest clients, it was such a profound experience,

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I think for both of us because she had been laid off from work,

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she had had a good position and there were layoffs going on, and

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she'd laid off and she came to me and we were working on, you

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know, figuring out what jobs she wanted to go career and just

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working on jobs. And we got down to this core beliefs that she

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didn't know she had is that she had this belief that she needed

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to lose weight in order to show up on a job interview, because

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she would be judged As if I can't manage my own weight. How

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could I manage a team? I choose, you know, it's that that wasn't

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true. She wasn't morbidly obese already. They it wasn't like

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that. It's just, she had this thing that was holding her back

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from going to job interviews. And when she could discard that,

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that idea, and she could be just, Oh, why do I want to

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believe this? How is that working for me? What else would

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I want to believe she could get to an interview, got the job has

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a great job in San Francisco working with the team. So that's

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a that's a very concrete example of how it's holding you back.

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But it holds us back in so many little ways, is like the maybe

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you don't feel like you could apply for the promotion. Or you

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don't think that even though you're in the band, you can't be

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the lead singer, because you don't look like a lead singer. I

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mean, it could be anywhere, sure that this kind of stuff is

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really holding you back. But you are not aware. It sounds like

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the truth.

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It's so true. Because, you know, I've worked with through the

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years, I've worked with new coaches, and many, many times

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and if I had a dime for every time I heard, but how could I

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work with someone on XYZ, when I haven't quite figured it out yet

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or mastered a yet one of them? Actually, one of them is a great

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example of weight loss. How can I coach others when I actually

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have not, you know, I'm not at the weight that I want to be at,

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or I'm supposed to be at or whatever that is. And my

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response to that is, how can you not? Because, I mean, that's the

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beauty of coaching, we don't have other people's answers.

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Right? And it's, it's just like you're saying that conversation

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that we have, like, how can you not, I think that it helps you

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understand challenge, and getting clear and all of those

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things? And what if it actually helps you do your work? I mean,

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it's it's so interesting, what you're saying and where people

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can hold themselves back from a very whether it's true or untrue

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story, right? Because I think even the true stories, you can

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begin to reframe them and create a different story. Exactly. Do

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you experience that with some of your, the people you work with?

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Yes, absolutely. I think that, you know, the big part of the

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work is at least knowing what the thought is. Yes. So then you

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can decide if it will, is this true? Yeah. And how do I want to

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work with that? Or is it not even true?

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Right, right. Right, right. Like, what did I make up about

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that? Interesting. And

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I would say, Kelly, that a lot of this is cultural? Yes. You

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know, it's cultural. But it doesn't mean that we have to

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accept it, it means that we can be the source of change person,

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by person by person exam that starts with simply being okay

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with ourselves in our own skin.

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Absolutely, absolutely. And I'm so happy that you're saying that

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because things can be societal or cultural or things that have

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been around for time and time again, it just takes one person

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to change that, you know, just to change that and create a

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whole different, a whole different story about that. So I

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think what you are up to is so important, really assisting

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people in that belief system in that story, and being able to

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change it so that they have the freedom that they want in their

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life. It's amazing. Amazing. Now, I know that you have a

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fitness background, and you still teach fitness to older

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adults, what does being fit or exercise or health have to do

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with your focus on the secret thoughts about your body that

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you hold back?

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Well, I am definitely an advocate of healthy lifestyle

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and movement. I don't think that that is necessarily the answer

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to everything. And I've worked with so many clients who think

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that they have to exercise their way into feeling okay about

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themselves. And I don't ascribe to any of that. I think that

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that is the motivation behind what you're doing in the gym, or

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what you're doing with the diet. If we can move away from the

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external validation. I'll be okay when you know, wipe that

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erase that off, and we take them Kate, we can take care of our

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bodies for ourselves. Yeah, period. That's when fitness I

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think works the best, but not if, if I just work out harder,

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and I lose this weight or whatever, then I'll be okay in

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some external way. I think that you know, it would look the same

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how your workout is or how your health was, but you wouldn't be

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beating yourself up over it. It's like yeah, I'm doing this

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because I love my body and I want to age well and I want to

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feel good.

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I I love that so much, because we've been talking a lot about

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transformation. And you know, sometimes some people hold

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transformation as something to get to, and not in this place of

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who am I being right now? Right? So like what you're saying

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Silvia deciding what does aging look like for me? What does

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health look like for me? What does fitness look like for me?

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And what are those behaviors or actions that I'm right now so

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that you're actually being in the transformation? Like, you're

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like it's happening now? Not something that we are getting to

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or like, with what you said, I'll be happy. When what has you

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happy today? Like? Did you did you do the exercise? Happy?

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Like, right? Like, I'm being happy in the exercise? Or the

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healthy eating or whatever it is that you that you're up to

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supporting? Like, you need to have that. All right, today. So

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I love that you bring that to people, because I feel like we

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have a little epidemic out there. Like, I'll be happy when,

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right versus what is happy now. What is it today?

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And, and my experience is also if your motivation is for

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yourself, your own happiness, your own aging, it's easier to

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do those things that you don't want to do. Sure, but if you're

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doing it because I need to do this, because I don't feel okay

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about my body. So if I do this, that's like bad homework. It's

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just, you know, it's just harder, not that you can't do

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it. But it's harder. It is so

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true. It's so true. You know, you and I've talked about it.

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It's why I and all all of my friends out there listening

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know, I've had a knee replacement. It's one of the

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things like, how do I want to feel, as I'm aging? Well, I want

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to feel active, I want to hike, I want to dance, I want to you

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know, like all these things that really are hard for me,

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currently. So like, here's the first milestone, let's get that

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knee replacement happening. So we get the second one and I am

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dancing and probably a mild hike, but a hike by the end of

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this year. Right. And so it's that's the motivation that's

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like, it's right now, it's right now.

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And that motivation is probably to really follow the directions

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of whatever your physical therapist tells you to do. very

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motivating,

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so important. It's really, really important. And then to

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also, I think one of the biggest things that I'm learning is

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that, you know, when I go and I work with a therapist, it's

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really easy, because like, here we are, we're together, he's

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watching me, we're doing the thing, but like to be in my

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integrity, I gotta go do that when I go home to, you know,

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because the motivation then is to keep it up. Keep it up. I

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love this. I love this. Okay, hey, this is a really, I think

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this is an important question for everyone to hear Sylvia's

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answer on this. So the what is the impact of not feeling good

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inside your own skin, that you've noticed?

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I have a friend who calls it being in their body backwards,

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and I can understand what that looks like it feels like and I

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can sometimes see it and other people. And it's also is if

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you're shadowboxing with yourself, so it's a lot of

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energy, going into just not feeling good inside of your own

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skin. So if you're spending a lot of mental energy trying to

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fit in, you're putting mental energy into feeling okay about

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how you look, whether it's weight, muscle tone, clothing,

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style, skin, tone, it whatever, it doesn't matter. That's energy

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you're not putting into the life you want to lead, and the

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quality of life you want on a daily basis. So I would say

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ultimately, the impact of not feeling good in your own skin

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has personal professional and financial consequences. You're

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making decisions all the time that you're not even aware of.

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Because you don't think you're good enough, you don't look

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right, to whether to apply for a position or become a dance

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instructor or even take the dance class or whatever that is.

Unknown: 00:24:03

That's incredible. That's incredible. It reminds me a lot

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of times I talk about on here, like we're living a life of

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shoulds. Right, like I shouldn't be because someone else said or

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this is that probably coming from that internal checklist,

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perhaps that is shooting all over. Right? So that's a pretty

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major impact of time, resources and really feeling amazing.

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That's a major impact. Wow. So that would be the thing that we

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want to stop doing immediately. It's so that we are living

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dynamically. Does this mean that we can't take pride or enjoy

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fashion or our looks? And does everyone have this need to look

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how we're supposed to look? Is it just our culture? What are

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your thoughts on this? This is a big topic lately.

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Right? So you You know, I think that it's, it's once again,

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motivation, who are we trying to look at have pride or enjoy or

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fashion or looks for? So if we look in the mirror and you know,

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you just feeling good, that's an awesome sensation. But if

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there's a, I wonder if this is going to fit in, I wonder if

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this is going to look okay, or who's going to think and trying

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to get it right. Yeah, that that's, that's not the energy

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probably, that we want to put into it. And I don't know if

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you've ever noticed that. But I am so attracted to women who

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feel comfortable in their own bodies, and then their own style

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is like a magnet for me. And I want to talk to them and say,

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How did you get here? What did you do? Right? It's just so that

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you can tell when people have that energy? Yeah, that's what I

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ascribe to because I can see what that looks like and what

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that feels like. Yeah, absolutely. It doesn't mean you

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know, there's a lot of a lot of different cultural programs

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going on about whether it's its acceptance, whether it's fat

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acceptance, or body neutrality, and all of those things. All of

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that aside. Yeah, we want to feel good about how we look. And

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that's fine. Yes. Yeah. Who are we doing it for?

Unknown: 00:26:13

Will and I think that's the most important thing. Who are we

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doing it for? I had on the podcast a few. It's been a few

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episodes. Now. I want to say it was February or March, my

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stylist Elisa Ellis came on the podcast. And I always giggle

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because I'm not one that's like, you know, I've just now I grew

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up a tomboy, really was like, you know, what's my style? And

Unknown: 00:26:37

what I learned from that is so in alignment with what you're

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saying, because a Lisa helped me transform in my confidence by

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feeling good in my clothes, right? It wasn't like what, you

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know, a magazine said, This is what you wear. Or even when

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Elisa told me to wear like her number one question immediately.

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You put it on? And she's like, how do you feel right now. And

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if there was even a hesitation, she's like, take it off, take it

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off, because she was looking for the confidence factor that

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immediate. So it's so in alignment with what you're

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saying, I love this. I love this. Yes.

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So in alignment,

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I am really, really excited about the group coaching program

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that you have coming up a little bit later this month. So I want

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to give you this platform, can you tell everyone what you have

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created and what it's about?

Unknown: 00:27:31

Sure, I am very excited. It's called your body yourself. And

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it's exploring the secret thoughts about your body that

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holds you back from a world of possibilities. It's just what

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we've been talking about. So there'll be six to eight women

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in there of all ages. It's not for men yet, because I just

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think that we're going to start with women. And the, if you're

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interested, please get in touch with me. And I know that

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information will be in the group notes. But the group orientation

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is on April 24. On it's a Monday at 530. Pacific Time, and we'll

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meet for 90 minutes. And you know, we'll do a visualization,

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you get the lay of the land. And then you can decide if you

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haven't already, if this group that starting the following

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Monday for 12 weeks will be a good fit for you. And what we'll

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do is do the explorations, we'll find your secret checklist, you

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can start making your coaching plan of what what's the work you

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want to do over 12 weeks, where do you want to be 12 weeks? And

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how do you want to feel? What are your goals there? And then

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we'll have a lot of it'll be really great in the group to

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know that you're not alone, thinking these thoughts. And the

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other thing is, you're going to think you don't you won't even

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know you had that thought and somebody else will say that you

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go, Oh, that's exactly how I feel. So I think it's going to

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be amazing to be in a group of people who are willing to be

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honest about how they how they're feeling about their

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bodies, and how they want to treat their bodies who do they

Unknown: 00:29:01

want to be at the very end. So, and all of that is on my

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website, and I guess it will be on yours as well.

Unknown: 00:29:11

100% Absolutely. I am super excited about this group

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coaching program. And I think that it's brilliant that you're

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making this group coaching because there's something about

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when women come together and you know, are vulnerable and

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authentic and willing to do the work and it's and, and really

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support each other through this entire process. It's like,

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you're not alone. You're going together. Let's go i love this.

Unknown: 00:29:37

This is yes, everything will be in the show notes. So you can

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absolutely click onto the show notes from wherever you're

Unknown: 00:29:47

listening to your podcast. It's also going to be on my website.

Unknown: 00:29:51

So you will be able to get in touch with Sylvia and I highly,

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highly encourage it. Is there at or are there some other ways

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that People can work with you to Sylvia, if they're not

Unknown: 00:30:02

necessarily, you know, tell me the other ways. Yeah. So

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I definitely still do individualized teaching, which I

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still love. So if you have other work you want to do, or you're

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not sure that you feel comfortable in a group, at this

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time, please come see me for individualized coaching. And in

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the individualized coaching, I can do this, I could do anything

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having to be, you know, any feeling of stuck or a dream that

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you want to achieve. And so, and also, I do some fitness, I have

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multiple packages. So if you sign up, you want to do

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individualized coaching with me, and you're working on some of

Unknown: 00:30:38

these life issues. But you also want some personalized fitness

Unknown: 00:30:43

training, which is very much movement. It's not like going to

Unknown: 00:30:45

a gym, I can add that in as well. So I also speak to groups,

Unknown: 00:30:50

if you have an organization or a book group or friends, let me

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know when I can put together a specialized virtual event for

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you. And someone who has just become aware of my work asked me

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if I would do this with teens. And who think Boy, wouldn't that

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be brilliant? To get young people thinking about this? Now

Unknown: 00:31:09

I'm 71? Why wait? Right decades. So if you have any idea of how

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who should hear this message, and you want to put a group

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together, or you just want a 90 minute speaker, engage and do

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some visualization, have people experienced this, as opposed to

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have me just talk about it? I'm happy to do any of those things.

Unknown: 00:31:28

I love that so much. And I love that you said Why wait. I mean,

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the whole premise of this podcast is, you know, leaders

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don't wait. Right? We create what it is we want right now.

Unknown: 00:31:39

And so I think that that's brilliant that someone was like,

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hey, what about teams and that you're really looking at that.

Unknown: 00:31:45

So I'm so happy you said that. And for all of you who are

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listening, you might remember visualizations, if you remember,

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at the end of the year, we had Tim Stevenson on and he created

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a visualization for all of you and how you wanted to experience

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your year going ahead, that's what Sylvia's talking about is

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that she has these visualizations to really help

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you get so in touch with that transformation that you that you

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want to create. And she's so good at them. She's so good at

Unknown: 00:32:16

them. And really such an advocate for you having your

Unknown: 00:32:21

freedom, living the life the way you want, you can see why I'm

Unknown: 00:32:25

having her on here because it just is so in alignment with

Unknown: 00:32:28

what we talk about all the time. So, Sylvia, I cannot thank you

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enough for taking time out of your day to come here and really

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share about the gifts that you bring in this world and how you

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support people to really age dynamically. And they have that

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freedom that they want in their life and and see what that I

Unknown: 00:32:49

love. I love the invisible checklist. I think that is so

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fascinating. And what part of it do you want to keep what part of

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it? Are we letting go? what's working, what's not, it's

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brilliant. It's brilliant. And it's such important work that

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you're doing. So thank you so much for being here.

Unknown: 00:33:04

Well, Kelly, this was so much fun. The time has flown by. So

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thank you so much for letting me spend the time here with you.

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You are

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so welcome. You are so welcome. You'd be welcome back anytime we

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could talk about this for hours and hours for certain. So y'all

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I just want to remind you at all of Sylvia's information is going

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to be in the show notes, it's going to be on my website, I

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highly encourage you to connect with her. If there was something

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in here that sparked something in you, please contact Sylvia

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because she's amazing. And so remember, we have a choice to

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lead our life or follow our circumstances. And life is about

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knowing your passions, purpose, your values, and really creating

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that impact that you want in your life. And then going ahead

Unknown: 00:33:49

and helping others create it as well. And who emerges from

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taking the lead in their lives. Well, they're authentic, they're

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vulnerable, they're courageous, and they are transforming and

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creating that freedom that they want in their lives right now.

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It does not always look the way we think it's supposed to. So we

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get to trust that more always gets revealed as we move

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forward. So please remember to take those pauses let go of

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worry, let go of doubt so that you really are living fully the

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best version of you. Thank you for listening today. I'm so

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excited. We are back live. We have some amazing episodes

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coming up. We have more guests coming up. And so we got we got

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season wheat Season Four is happening, it is happening. So

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thank you for listening. Remember, go to the show notes

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so you can find out everything about Sylvia connect with her.

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And you know, have a great week ahead and you know the drill if

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it's not shaping up the way you want it to take the lead and

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create a fantastic one. All right, everyone, have a great

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week ahead. We'll talk with you next week. Take care. Thanks for

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listening to another episode of Let's be honest before we start

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pretending for more resources on taking the lead in your life,

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head over to Kelly J mo beck.com. And connect with me on

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Instagram at coach Kelly mo back. If this episode was

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helpful for you, please feel free to share it with friends

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at any time, feel free to connect with me and let me know

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what you want to hear next or what you're working on. I'm

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happy to help. Thanks again for listening and here's to you