Do you have a word, words, or a theme for 2023? If so, do you find them valuable?  I sure do, and this year my words are Vibrant and Integrity - wooooo! Powerful words that I talk about in today’s episode and how words, themes can be incredibly helpful during times of uncertainty and the feeling of being “up against it”.  We explore the 3 things I know work to help move you through “up against it” to “I’ve got this, really. Let’s GO!

Highlights from this episode:

(02:09) Are your goals still worthy?

(07:34) What does it mean to feel vibrant?

(14:31) Why everything happens for a reason

(17:14) How to transform your mindset

(22:02) What’s in front of you today?

(24:36) Focus on the transformation of me

(26:38) The importance of having a game-changer

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Hey, everyone. I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you. Find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it and go out and make an impact in your life and the lives of

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others. This world needs your leadership, your gifts, your

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unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders don't wait.

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They create. I know firsthand that life is going to throw us

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curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness, our ideas

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and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe in

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yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world.

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So let's jump in. Hey there, everyone. Hello. Hello, this is

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Coach Kelly, and welcome to episode 146. Of let's be honest,

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before we start pretending, and we're back and season four, I am

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so excited. I have spent much of January sort of plotting and

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planning, season four, reaching out to people we have some

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amazing guests coming February, I've got a fantastic guest, a

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fellow coach that's coming on in March, I have a great guest

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coming on and then beyond. So February, March, we'll have one

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guest in the month and then beyond, you can expect multiple

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guests as we move through season four. I'm really really excited.

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And I trust that you enjoyed January's revisit of really

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important episodes that helps set us up for success as we move

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into our new year. And just as a reminder, we started with happy

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with I love the crossover episode with Paige Killian was

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resolutions versus lifestyle choices. And you know really

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what it takes to commit to those lifestyle choices. That was such

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a fun episode. And then we visited a worthy goal. Are my

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goals still worthy? Even if I didn't complete them? You all

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know the answer you listen to the episode, if it's worthy to

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you, yes, keep going. 100%. And then we looked at in your time,

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which also visited you know, I get this a lot where people go,

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I don't know if I know what I want this year, can I take my

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time in January? Or do I have to have it all figured out January

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1, and you if you listen to the episode, you know that the

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answer is yes, take the month of January and really be thoughtful

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and purposeful to plan out. The year ahead. I do it it works. I

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love it. So I highly recommend so we talked about that. And

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then we looked at the million dollar question how that is the

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million dollar question. If we have the answer to people's how

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we would probably have a million dollars if not more, right? How

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is a trap? So we talked about what is really required versus

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moving directly to how and it's natural. It's natural as human

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beings. That's the first thing. I want to create something how,

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how am I going to do it right? It's a trap. And so we visited

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ways to get beyond the trap of how. And finally last week, we

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looked at shiny papers, shiny papers, everywhere we get we got

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clear on our vision. It's an alignment with our purpose, our

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goals are set. And then you begin to create those action

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steps and the how it gets done. That's awesome and happy dance,

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right? And so then what then all of a sudden, we're like, Oh, I

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feel like I'm Alice in Wonderland. Which way do I go?

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So we address staying out of Shiny Paper syndrome. And we

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also talked about Jomo the joy of missing out so if you have

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not listened to those episodes, do not pass go without

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listening, I highly encourage them. They are chock full of so

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many golden nuggets to support you as you move through 2023 and

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beyond. So I promised you that I was going to talk with you about

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a little Malakut me minimizing this next adventure that I'm

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going to be taking on I promised you that I would share an

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adventure that I'm going to be embarking on this month as a

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matter of fact, and if known it for some time, there's been some

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things that have been occurring, you know, that could possibly

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get in the way blah, blah, blah. And it's going to be part of the

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podcast. Not every episode, but we're definitely going to visit

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this adventure through the The next couple months and I will be

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giving you updates and things like that. And today's episode

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is up against it because that is truly how I've been feeling. And

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I want to talk with with you all about what up against it, you

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know what happens when we're up against it, and what we can

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actually put into place so that we move from up against it,

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because two things can be true, we can be really excited about

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something and we can be really scared at the same time both are

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true, right, both can be true. And so this adventure that I'm

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going to be embarking on this year, and I may have said this

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in previous episodes, this year, for me, my word of the year is

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vibrant, and integrity. And these are really important. At

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first it was like health and integrity. But health is like

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why it's wide. And I'm always looking at health, mental,

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emotional, and physically. And I feel really solid in the mental

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emotional Dental, so much hardcore work, not only do I

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coach people, but I also am coached. And I also do my work

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is important. And I feel really solid in both mental and

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emotional. And that's not to say that there's not still things,

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I'm still like a super anxious person. And I still work through

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that all the time. And I have strategies that work, right. And

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so I feel really great about that. And as I looked at 2023,

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and I looked at what's the transformation of me going to be

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in this next year ahead. It's just like, I would get this like

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sinking, whoo, like kind of feeling, which, you know, I get

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excited about the transformations in people I

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really do. It's why we have the lifter group coaching program.

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It's why I work with clients one on one, or it's why I work with

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companies and create leadership trainings for them because I

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believe in transformation. And I believe that when we focus on

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transformation versus events, or, you know, simply just, you

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know, what's the next thing that we can really create so much

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more mileage. And so I found it so interesting that when I was

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looking at what's the transformation of me, in this

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next year gonna be and I would just like bull, right. And so it

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had to do with health, and staying in integrity with

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myself. And it took something to get to that place. It's not like

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I just woke up one day, and I was like, I'm going to be an

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integrity with myself. And I'm going to transform my health. It

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took a lot. It took a lot in working with my coach and really

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getting down to like, how do I feel about my health right now?

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How do I that was the focus and the big question for several

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months, before I decided, you know, what I want to feel

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vibrant and vibrant for me is having energy having strength

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coming from not only the inside which it which I can, I am

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typically a pretty vibrant person, but like I want the

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outside to match that. And so what that means is that I get to

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take on some health challenges. Now for the past 20 years I have

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been on. Yeah, now weight goes up, weight goes down, weight

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goes up weight goes down for about 20 years. And that was

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almost shocking to when I sat down and really looked at how

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long this had been going on. And I definitely had some shame

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about that I had some guilt about that. I had some regret

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about that. And I did not want to stay there. So what I

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realized is that this word integrity and this word vibrant,

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which vibrant is where I chunked down health to the word vibrant,

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really go hand in hand, they go hand in hand, you see, I will be

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in integrity with others all the time and very consistent. And

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sometimes I'm not in integrity with myself, okay, many areas,

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I'm in integrity with myself. And then there's other areas

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that I'm not health was one of them. Health was one of them.

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And you know, without our health, oh, it's very

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challenging. It's very challenging. And I love working

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with people. I love my job. And I love being a mom, I love being

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a wife. I love having friends. I love having colleagues I love I

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love it. And so I realized that while mentally and emotionally I

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feel very healthy and strong. I don't when it comes to my

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physical health. And part of that has to do with my weight.

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Okay part of it. You've been listening to the podcast, how

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many times do I use weight as an example? Often why because I

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feel masterful in that area. Okay, so what it means is,

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having gone up and down in my health has definitely challenged

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me in many, many, many different areas. And one of the Mmm Is my

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knees are rotten, y'all are rotten, they are rotten. My

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knees are shot, they're done. They are done. They are

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exhausted. They are. They're done. They are completely like

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bone on bone. And they are full of arthritis, they are tired,

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they are tired, and they hurt. And I'm in pain almost daily.

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And it's exhausting. It really, really is. Now I am one to push

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through, I am one to shoot suit up and show up. And let's go and

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all of that. And I realized that by not addressing my knees and

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really honoring the support that they've been giving me for so

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many years, and not honoring that boy, they're tired, and

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maybe they need some help. I was doing a disservice to myself and

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my knees and being really out of integrity with myself. And

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believe me, the pain that I feel every day can definitely become

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my number one excuse for not taking on my activity,

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nutritionally awesome. Drinking my water. Awesome. And the one

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thing that I avoid is exercise. I love to be active. I can't say

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that I love exercise. Okay. I don't know if any of you can

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relate to this. I love to be active. I love to dance. I love

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to be outside in nature. I love to swim. Traditional exercise. I

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don't love it. I don't love it. Now I love walking, walking

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hurts. Really bad dancing hurts really bad swimming is great.

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And you know, I don't have swim acts I well, I probably could

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find access to swimming year round. But I haven't. So here's

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the thing, it has become too hard, and it has become an

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excuse. And so I've decided to remove those excuses. And I've

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decided to be kind to my body physically. And I've decided

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that this year, we will have knee replacement surgery. And

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I'm going to have not one but two, not at the same time. I am

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a high achiever but not an overachiever. So, but But the

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plan is to have this happen this year. So this is good news. Yes,

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absolutely. And I am both excited and terrified at the

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same time. So I have felt really up against it in many, many

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ways. Now I have known about this surgery for about six

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months that it's been coming. And I've been preparing for it

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lots of different ways to prepare for that working on my

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upper body strength and also working on those muscles around

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the knees. Right. And that's great. And I will tell you, for

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those of you that have been listening, about a year ago, it

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was just like, a couple of days after Thanksgiving, 2021 I fell,

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and I shattered my elbow. Now, I had wanted to have these knee

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replacements in 2022. And that quickly changed not because of

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my circumstance of having an elbow surgery, right. And if

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you've listened, I shared some some some lessons from that in a

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few of the episodes. I remember immediately, in my mind

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canceling the possibility of knee replacement surgery done.

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We're not doing it. Why? Because I had never been in more pain in

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my life than after my elbow surgery. And those first two

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weeks were really hard. They were really hard and something

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went into my system that was like, Nope, we're not doing it.

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We're not doing it. And so like my brain just cancelled it,

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there was no possibility of it. None, none. None, I was not even

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addressing it. Well, the knees kept getting worse and worse and

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worse. And so about six months ago, I decided, you know, I've

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been doing a lot of work on getting, you know, removing the

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pain is like that, you know, PTSD part of it, because I

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really did feel that, and I can still feel it. Like sometimes

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something will trigger it. And I'm like, woof, you know, so

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I've done a lot of work on it. And I really got very clear

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about my health and what, what, like, who am I going to be a

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year from now? Not like, you know, who am I going to be after

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knee surgery, like the event of it, but who will I be a year

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post knee surgery post knee surgeries, right? Who am I

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being? And that's been great. And I'm going to be talking

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about that in in some of our episodes because I think that

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everything happens for a reason and everything is useful in some

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context. And so some of the things that are occurring I want

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to share with you all and even though it's a super vulnerable I

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I'm I'm here for that. So one of the things like I said I knew

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six months ago, you know we were going to have knee replacement

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surgery the first one and I remember my surgeon said,

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listen, all you've got to do is maintain your BMI, maintain it,

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don't gain any weight. If you lose some weight, you know,

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that's bonus, but maintain that BMI. Okay, so that was six

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months ago. And I don't know what happened. Something went

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in, because you know, I thought, Oh, cool. Okay, maintain Sounds

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easy, right? Maybe even, like, lose some weight. So we lower

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the BMI. That's why not right? Well, something went in that I

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couldn't quite get clear about something went in. And I did the

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exact opposite, I gained about 10 pounds, not right away, not

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right away, didn't right away. But certainly, within the last

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three months of it, we we could blame it on the holidays. But

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I'm not going to do that. Because I know better. Something

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went in at the subconscious level, that triggered something,

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and I'm still exploring it. And as I continue to move through,

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and get clear about it, I'm going to share with you all

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because I think it's really important. And I knew something

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had clicked there was a block in, you may remember I said it

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earlier, I am masterful at gaining weight, losing weight,

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gaining weight, losing weight, right, and my goal, and my the

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transformation of me, she is vibrant, she is lighter, she is

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active, she dances, she hikes, she's back in training rooms, on

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her feet for eight hours a day, because you know, think we're

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gonna move away from zoom. Right? She's enjoying life,

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right? And I keep envisioning that, but that somehow we missed

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that that vision, somehow the memo got lost in the mail,

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right. And so I was blocked. And so I had my pre op appointment,

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that mid January. And I already knew I knew I just I knew. And I

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remember the nurse was saying, you're going to have to prepare

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yourself, the your surgery is probably going to be canceled

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because you haven't maintained your BMI. On fact, you've gone

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over just a little bit. And so in my mind, I thought, okay, I

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hear the words, I hear it. And I know I can transform, I know

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this, it's going to take something, it's going to take

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something and I'm going to get really clear about what it's

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going to take and I'm going to get into the business of that

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action. Those disciplines. That's what's going to happen.

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But first, I've got to enroll my doctor and letting me like,

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let's not take the surgery off the off the table. So Anywho. So

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we the doctor came in, we talked about it, and he didn't cancel

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the surgery. But he did say you have two and a half weeks to

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lose seven pounds, seven pounds. Now there was a time in my life

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where I thought not a problem. Seven pounds, let's go all day

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every day. Yeah, that hasn't been the story for quite some

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time. Certainly definitely not at my age. And I don't really

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love to say at my age, but there's there here's the thing.

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At 55 Things are different things are different. There are

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changes in women, right. And we're addressing them not the

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excuse, not not the excuse, we're addressing them. So I know

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that it doesn't just melt off, it's going to take something

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it's going to take something. And so the great news is he

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agreed to keep it on and then I just have to call him and now by

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the way, this episode when it's airing is February 6 on February

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7 is when I've got to call my doctor's office, my the surgeon

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and let them know what the scale says. So I had about two and a

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half weeks to to handle that. And so in my mind, I thought

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okay, wow, I went home and there was a part of me that was like,

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Yeah, okay, we got this. And there was another part of me

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that's like, you don't got it. You don't got it? Who? What?

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Like, you know, let's just start looking at the benefits of

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postponing the surgery. Let's just give up, you know, and I

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was so clear, I was so clear, because I'm so incredibly

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thankful that integrity is one of my words, because what would

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it take to be in integrity with myself, to believe in myself to

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get on my own team? What would be required of that? What would

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be required of that? Well, it would require mindset and a

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shift in my mindset, it will require a shift in my belief,

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and committing to a belief and committing to the identity of me

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and the transformation of me and it would require me to act it

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would those three things so right the those things down when

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you are up against it. And we all get up against it in many,

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many ways you can think of different things in your life,

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it may not be, you know, working on to new nifty knees, but it

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could be or may not be working on weight loss, but it could be

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working on you fill in that blank, whatever it is for you.

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And I know that what happens is we get up against it. And up

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against it feels awful. It feels stuck. It feels like a trap.

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It's the it's awful, okay. And I remember that day I was in so

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guy, I still showed up. I showed up for I that was lit lift her

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group coaching day, and I showed up for the cohorts and, and we

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did our thing, and it was great. And then in between, my

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goodness, the pity party I was in was serious, serious. It was

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a pity party to the 10th degree. If there's a 10th degree, you

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know, it was a serious pity party. And I cried, I cried a

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lot that day. And the next day I woke up and I said, Okay, let's

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go, we have got to get in to this. And I have a five minute

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quiet practice that I do every day that helps me set the day

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and helps me direct my mind in the way that I want it to go. My

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mindset because here's what I know, mindsets, everything. You

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can have all the knowledge, you can have all the experience, you

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can have a clear plan. But if your mindsets, not where it's

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got to be forget about it. It's not happening. And that's that's

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the truth. So where did my mindset get to be? Well, my

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mindset got to be in a place of curiosity. It got to be in a

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place of confidence. It got to be in a place of possibility. My

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mindset got to be in a place of learning and growth versus

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fixed. Every single day I got to visit. Where's your mindset

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today? Where is it today? Yes, I'm a positive person. Yes, I'm

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optimistic. However, that wasn't going to necessarily be the end.

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All right, it was about today. What's in front of you. Today, I

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believe in me today, I believe that I will stay in integrity

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with my plan. Okay. And then I really got to address my belief,

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because here's the thing that's so interesting. And I'm going to

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just say this, and I don't know if this happens for any of you.

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But do you ever, like you're setting out on something? And

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there's a part of you that's like, Yes, I believe. And

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there's another part of you that's like, I don't believe I

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don't think it's true. And like it sort of is like on a teeter

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totter. Like, whoo, I believe who I don't believe who I

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believe I don't believe right. It's like a teeter totter. And

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then suddenly, the teeter totter stops. And there you are. And

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it's either I believe, or I don't believe, okay, well, for

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the last three months, I didn't believe it was as clear as a

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bell. I knew the goal. I knew the assignment. I knew the

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assignment, but I didn't believe I didn't believe in me. Okay. So

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we had to shift that in, focusing in on who am I, in this

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transformation of me, and continue to focus on that see

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her a year from now with two knees, built lighter, more

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energy dancing, hiking, training, and a room full of

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people ready to rock, right? I had to keep seeing that. And

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like imagining that and seeing her in that five minute practice

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so that between my mindset and my belief, I could take action,

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I could act because I knew sitting on my butt wasn't gonna

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do it. It wasn't gonna do it. And then part of that action was

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asking for help. asking for some help from trusted people around

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me that I knew could support me. I have been doing some

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hypnotherapy to remove some blocks that I have, which has

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been outstanding. I have been very vulnerable and not

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pretending like I don't have to lose weight, right? I had to

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really take on some coaching to remove. You know, like, I it was

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funny. I had this moment where I was like, Am I like the heaviest

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person that's ever had knee replacement done? This cannot be

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true. I'm sure it's not true. But he doesn't matter. What was

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I just doing comparing myself to people? I don't even know. That

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doesn't work. Okay. What Works is focusing in on the

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transformation of me. So write that down. What's the

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transformation of me? Where am I headed through this year and

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imagine yourself a year from now? Whatever date you're

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listening to this podcast episode, imagine yourself a year

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from now. What happening in your, in your life as a result

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of you taking on that transformation? What's

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happening? Get it all over you. Okay? Because on the days that

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you don't feel like it on the days, you don't feel the

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motivation, let that help you create some urgency. Okay, let

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that help you. Because I will tell you, I don't know that I

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felt motivated. And you would think that constant pain every

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day would be a motivating factor wasn't enough. It wasn't enough.

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Maybe it is for some, but it wasn't for me. But I'll tell you

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the transformation and imagining myself a year from now and who

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am I? And what's happening and what do I have in my life? I'll

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tell you what, that that that woke me up. That woke me up. So

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again, the three things mindset. What's the mindset required? How

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will I direct my mind today? What's the belief? And if my

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belief isn't solid? Where will I get some help with that? And

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then what's the action I'm taking? And part of that action?

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is imagining yourself a year from now and the transformation

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and noticing what are the behaviors that are occurring,

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and behave that way, behave that way? I am drinking my water

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every single day. I am eating per my plan, and we're not

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deviating from the plan. I don't feel like I'm missing out on

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anything. I definitely dropped all alcohol. It's been a game

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changer. You've heard me do that. I had a challenge one year

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remember when it was? My I think it was in October one year,

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right? So what are the things that are going to support me in

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the coming vibrant, okay. And also, I asked for help from my

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youngest son on creating a plan that would help me at the gym.

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And, and I have other reason he did he delivered, I am so

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grateful. And so you know, all the things that are helping me

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prepare, I also have the most amazing hype squad, other women

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who are like you've got this and really supporting me to help

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keep my mindset in the way that it's going in the way that it

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that I want it to go. So when you're up against it, and it

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feels so crappy, remember this, you can change that you can

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change anything that you want to change in your life, you've got

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to get your mindset moving in the way that's going to support

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you, you've got to be certainly strong in your belief. And a

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belief is truly nothing but a feeling of certainty. So anytime

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that I've ever lost a good amount of weight, whatever good

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amount is, I noticed that judgment right there, I was

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certain that it would happen. Okay, I am certain that this

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knee replacement is going to happen. And it's happening this

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month, it's happening and in a couple of weeks. And I am

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certain that it's going to take some hard work in the recovery

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process, I am not naive that there will be pain. And I'm also

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certain that it will be managed and that that experience does

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not have to be the experience I had after my elbow surgery.

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Okay, so those are the things and I am acting through daily

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activities that are supporting me mind, body and soul to be

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ready for it. Okay, ready for it. So that's what's up. I have

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been up against it. I don't feel up against it in this particular

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moment. And I think by being vulnerable and sharing something

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that's really true, with all of you has been super helpful. So

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thank you for listening and being part of that team as well.

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Because I trust that there's something in here for you, no

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matter what you're up to this year. And I'm going to share

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along the way and it's going to be vulnerable today was

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vulnerable. I was super, super nervous to record this episode.

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As a matter of fact, I procrastinate procrastinated on

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it for quite some time, and then decided, You know what, we're

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gonna do this thing. Let's go. Let's go. So, join me on this

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adventure. We're not going to just talk about the knee

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replacement and what it's taking, but I'm going to drop it

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in every now and again for the purpose of learning and growing

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together. And I'm super excited, super excited about the episodes

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that are coming up this month and in March and I'm super

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excited to bring you all along the way. So thank you for

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letting me share with you something that has been

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on my mind and in my heart and something very real ahead of me

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something that I am both excited and terror If I about at the

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same time, both can be true, both can be true. It's, it's

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what I'm going to give more attention to. And I'm going to

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I'm going to stay excited about this while feeling terrified at

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the same time. All right, so you know what, remember, we have a

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choice to lead our life or follow our circumstances. And

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life is about knowing our passions, our purpose, our

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values, and really creating an impact in our life and the life

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of others and who emerges from taking the lead in their lives

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are authentic, they're vulnerable, they're courageous,

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and they are slaying those transformations of self is not

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always going to look the way we think it's supposed to. So we

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really do get to trust that more always gets revealed as we move

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forward. Remember, take a pause, let go of worry, let go of doubt

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and live fully the best version of you. Let's go. Thank you

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again, for listening today. I trust there was value for you as

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you move through your day and your week taking the lead in

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your life. And I am stoked about next week's episode. So come

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back and tune in. And you know, here's to a great week ahead and

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a great month ahead. And if it's not shaping up the way you want

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it to take the lead and create a fantastic one. I'll talk with

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you all soon. Take care. Thanks for listening to another episode

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of Let's be honest before we start pretending for more

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resources on taking the lead in your life, head over to Kelly J

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mo beck.com. And connect with me on Instagram at coach Kelly

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mobile. If this episode was helpful for you, please feel

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free to share it with friends rate and review it on iTunes.

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That's Apple podcasts now, and at any time feel free to connect

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with me and let me know what you want to hear next or what you're

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working on. I'm happy to help. Thanks again for listening and

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here's to you taking the lead in your life.