IMPOSTER SYNDROME. I've felt it, you've felt it, but we can work past it to take on our summit speaking - and our business in general - with confidence. Faith is sharing her simple strategy to overcome imposter syndrome so you can show up with confidence in your business and life so you can make a bigger impact and difference in the world!

Get access to Faith's free masterclass

If you want access to the full session, where Faith shares more about imposter syndrome and how to recognize it in yourself, go to sellwithasummit.com/speakeredition/ and you'll be able to watch Faith's full session, along with all the other amazing Sell With a Summit: Speaker Edition sessions for free. I'd also love to know your biggest takeaway from this episode and how it's going to change how you approach imposter syndrome, so leave us a review and let me and Faith know what your next action step is going to be. I can't wait to hear from you!

Learn more about Faith at https://www.RaisingYourImpact.com/ and https://www.faithrumerspeaker.com

Mentioned in this episode:

Summit Speaker Strategy Audio Training

If you want to learn more about summit speaking strategies and how you can use it to grow your business, jump over to virtualsummitspeaking.com. I put together a free audio training that you can take on the go in your regular podcast player!

Speaker Audio Training

Welcome to Virtual Summit Success.

I'm Jenn, founder of Virtual Summit Search, and you're in the right place

if you want to make the most of your virtual summit experience, whether

you're a host or virtual summit speaker.

Let's get going with your next step to virtual summit success.

In this snippet from a Sell With a Summit: Speaker Edition session, Faith

is talking about imposter syndrome.

I've felt it, you've felt it, but we can work past it to take on our

summit speaking - and our business in general - with confidence.

I'll let Faith take it away though and tell you more!

I am excited to introduce you to the wonderful Faith Rumer, founder of

Raise My Impact and coach of Grammy and Academy Award winning performers.

Thank you so much for being here, Faith!

Oh, I am really excited.

Alright, so I know that you've got some stuff prepared for us, so feel

free to just go ahead and jump right in!

Okay.

So I'm Faith Rumer, as Jenn said, and I am passionate about helping creatives

and leaders share their message with confidence and authentically connect with

their audience and powerfully express themselves so that they can get their

passion out into the world and create a bigger impact and make a difference.

So welcome to this workshop, Share Your Message Confidently: Engage

Your Audience with Impact and Ease and Grow Your Business Now.

I want to start by asking you a really simple question: what would your life

look like if you had the confidence and the certainty to fully get your

gifts and talents out into the world?

Now, just imagine if that were true.

You could be making a real difference in your own life, your community,

your family, and even the world.

You'd be speaking and presenting your message with power and

impact and truly connecting with your audience every single time.

You'd be creating success in the world as a creative professional

or a leader or a speaker.

Now, so many people have a voice inside their head that constantly tells them

- I mean, constantly tells them - that they're not doing a good enough job.

It's called your Inner Critic.

And it's the voice of the teacher or your parent or marketing that told

us that we're not doing it right or that we'll never be good enough.

And one of the major things that really feeds your inner critic is

what we call imposter syndrome.

And imposter syndrome is that idea that you don't deserve your success,

that you're an imposter, a fake, and you don't really deserve to be

in the position you're in, that the real you is just not good enough.

So let's dig into imposter syndrome.

Let's check this out.

Imposter syndrome is destructive and it's painful.

First of all, why?

Because it keeps us from doing our work that we came here to do and then it keeps

us from helping the very people that need to hear our message or be helped

by our process or our information, but imposter syndrome is just another lie

that we tell ourselves to try and protect ourselves from being embarrassed or being

judged, and no one wants to feel the way.

No one wants to be embarrassed and no one wants to feel judged.

Now, it's really great to have something to work with to help fix

this 'cause it's not going to go away on itself, it's just there.

So I developed this process called the Call Out the Lie process, and

the first step is that you're going to identify some negative imposter

lies, self-talk that you have.

For example, I might think as I was creating my courses, or you might

think as you're trying to create, you know, something or speak at a summit,

"I don't know what I'm talking about."

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

"I don't know what I'm talking about."

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

So the second step is to call out the lie and you're going to call BS on it.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

You're going to call it out loud and you're going to say "that's a lie!"

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

Let yourself feel the lie you've been telling yourself and get passionate.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

Say the words louder.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

"I don't know what I'm talking about.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

That's total BS!

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

I am not accepting that."

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

Now the third step is to replace the lie with the truth.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

Well, you probably don't want to use that very similar wording or flip the

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

sentence from negative to positive because when you try to replace, "I don't know

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

what I'm talking about" with, "I know what I'm talking about," it might not

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

work because your brain or your body or your psyche just may not believe that.

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

So instead of "I know what I'm talking about," I can say, "my knowledge and

So you say the words, the lie out loud:

my expertise can really help people."

"my knowledge and my expertise can really help people."

That's a truth I can get behind!

And the fourth step is to add a word of encouragement so

that you can take some action.

And I would say, "I can do this.

I can really help people.

I can do this.

I can get out there and help people."

So it would look like, first of all, number one: "I don't

know what I'm talking about."

"That's a lie!

That's total BS.

I'm not accepting that."

"My expertise and my knowledge can really help someone."

And then I say, "I can do this.

I can really help people."

How does that sound?

I love that process, especially 'cause when you say it out loud, it's a

lot easier to recognize that no one else is going to say that about you out loud

because they don't believe it either.

Yeah.

So true.

You think that people are saying that about you, but

you're saying it about yourself.

So call out the lie, and then let yourself believe what's really true.

Our expertise and our knowledge can really help people.

Yeah, I love that sentence, too.

That's perfect.

So once you find the root of your imposter syndrome and you work

past that, it can still be hard to build some of your confidence as a speaker.

So after working with thousands of actors and speakers and entrepreneurs and

all of these people, I discovered that there are three pillars of confidence

and that these three pillars build your confidence, but they're also

necessary to help sustain your confidence because sometimes we'll work on one

and then we go, "what's happening?

I don't understand why I'm not confident anymore," because we need to make sure

that all three of these are working.

The first pillar is the body.

And we need to ground ourselves and our energy and our body, because that

creates a foundation for our confidence and the ability to express ourselves

powerfully and to speak authentically.

When you get nervous and your energy is all over the place and you're up in

your head and you're judging yourself?

I help my clients release that excess destructive tension and get them out of

the head and then back into the body.

So their body works to support their voice and their expression,

and also their visual impact.

That builds their confidence so then they can create greater impact when

they share their message, and they connect with their audience in a more

authentically and spontaneous way.

The second pillar to our confidence is the mind.

And this is where imposter syndrome can really sabotage.

You want to remember that our thoughts create what we experience

and there are no neutral thoughts.

So first, you want to identify, what are your negative thoughts and release them.

You cultivate more empowering thoughts, and then you shift

your energy - that shifts your energy - and then rinse and repeat.

Now, there are many great processes that I use with my clients to

create more empowering thoughts, and they're not complicated - they

shouldn't be complicated - but simple ways to create empowering thoughts

that can really change our lives.

What's most important is that we have something that helps us and that

we're willing to use that process.

And it's important to do this daily - rinse and repeat, just rinse and repeat.

Okay, and the third pillar.

Now this is our soul, our spirit, this is our why, it's your purpose.

It's what is your intention when you speak or create a summit or

design a program or even perform, if you were a creative artist.

Your why moves you forward and it keeps you on course.

A "why" can either empower us or move us off course and destroy our confidence.

I just worked with a client and she was creating a video for her project,

but she felt so uncomfortable and wasn't happy with when she looked

at back at it, what she filmed.

So we discovered that her why had become, "I want people to really like me."

Of course, she was in her head and she got lost - she lost herself.

Once we shifted her why to "I'm creating this video so all women can celebrate

their own beauty," everything changed.

It was so amazing to see the difference.

So you might ask yourself, "how do I create confidence in my everyday life?"

Well, it's not fake-it-til-you-make-it, 'cause some people say that,

'cause that's not really true.

It's about being who you are right now and sharing where you are right now

and offering what you have right now.

And working with those three pillars of confidence.

Remember that every time we step out a little bigger, we're going to feel a

little scared and a little nervous, but that's what we've been doing our whole.

Think about all of the times that you had to step up in your life: getting

an education, being a parent - if you're a parent - being a partner in a

relationship, running your own business, even when you learned to drive a car.

I remember that being pretty scary.

Remember that it's okay to make a mistake; we're not something at first.

And for me, willingness is my biggest ally.

All you have to be as willing to put yourself out there.

And even if things sometimes go wrong, it's okay.

If you're willing and you don't give up, you're going to experience more

success than you can even imagine.

So we are always moving from where we are, from what we know, and from what

our skillset is to where we want to be.

And this is true for every successful person.

Awesome.

I'm so excited to be able to go through that, 'cause that, especially the process

that you gave us, that is something that I know is going to help so many

people, because having something tangible to do, rather than just keep getting

into your own mind is so important.

Oh my gosh, yeah.

Yeah.

And there's a lot of ways we can work on our confidence, but that

one really seems to work well.

Yeah, it's really great.

So I know that you have a free training to help us take this even further.

So can you tell us a little bit about that so that folks can go and check that out?

Sure.

Oh, I'm so happy, to, great.

So I've given you this process, the same process that I've used with

my successful clients, and you've got a couple of options, right now?

We've broken it down so you can use this information to get rid of some imposter

syndrome and gain some real confidence.

You can come in and lean into this process even more with me and develop what you

need to get to the next step and make a difference in your work and your passion.

You just don't have to do this alone.

So I'm inviting you to join me on my free live training - it's a 90-minute training

- Raise Your Impact and Influence, where you're going to learn how to share your

message with confidence, authentically connect with your audience, and powerfully

express yourself and make a difference.

Even if you don't think you're ready or lack confidence or feel like you're

an imposter right now, this training is exactly where you want to be, because

we're going to take care of that.

So you want to register for your free training now, and here's

the link to register for that.

It's raisemyimpact.com/free-training.

I'll say it again:

raisemyimpact.com/free-training.

I'll say it again:

And you probably already know that you want to be on this training, because

I'll say it again:

we want to go a little bit deeper with us, but especially if you're tired

I'll say it again:

of waiting to commit fully to your dream career and your talents, and you

I'll say it again:

feel like you're not fulfilling your purpose in your life, and you just feel

I'll say it again:

like you're surviving day to day, you really want to be on this training.

I'll say it again:

And this training is really good for you if you know that you want to make a real

I'll say it again:

difference in your own life and in your community, your family, and the world.

I'll say it again:

You want to speak of present with confidence and power so that you

I'll say it again:

can really inspire your audience.

I'll say it again:

And then you want to authentically connect with your audience so you can

I'll say it again:

help them transform and get them to take some real action either within

I'll say it again:

your business, or help them to get their business out into the world.

I'll say it again:

And you want to go after your dream with awesome speaking confidence

I'll say it again:

- we're going to call that a phrase, "awesome speaking confidence" - and

I'll say it again:

create a life that you really love.

I'll say it again:

And you're going to want to join me on this training and there's the link again.

I'll say it again:

You can go ahead and read that.

Yep.

We'll have the link in the button down below too.

I'm so excited for folks to get to go and take action on that with you, especially

since it's live training, like that's something that a lot of the times you're

going onto a recorded webinar, and that's valuable, but it's so much more valuable

getting to go and do Q &A with Faith, so make sure you go click that button down

below and sign up for that free training.

All right, Jenn, thank you for having me here.

This was really exciting.

I know that virtual summit's really exciting.

Yeah.

Thank you so much for being here.

I'm really excited.

And if you have any questions for Faith, make sure to go and ask them

in the community and let Faith know how it impacts your speaking and

confidence, because that is the end goal with this, is to help you

get past your imposter syndrome and become a much more confident speaker.

So thank you again for joining us, Faith.

Thanks so much, Jenn.

Thanks for listening to Virtual Summit Success.

Don't forget to leave a review and let others know your biggest

takeaways from this episode.

Every review helps others find us, and the more successful virtual

summits there are, the more tips we'll have to share with you.

For show notes, links, and other resources, go to virtualsummitsuccess.live