Increasing Confidence Is A Process
In this episode I discuss my discovery about how to increase my confidence. A book called A Little Spot of Confidence by Diane Alber provides a simple guide to building your confidence spot.
Good evening and welcome to the humble. Podcast abode. I am Cocoa Griot. A fifty- something single mom enjoys talking about life love and a host of other topics. There is something I want to talk about tonight and it is totally based on a book I read to one of my mentees. I was reading the book in my sing- song cheery voice, but I actually wanted to cry. This simple book was giving advice on a major issue in my life, having
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confidence. The book is called A Little Spot of Confidence by Diane Alber.This little 12 dollar book is invaluable to me. The book actually gives suggestions of how to grow your confidence spot. I want to address my struggle with spot shrinkage first, and then I will share some of the gems of wisdom in this little book. So first let me talk a little about spot shrinkage, the things that people might do that shrink your confidence
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spot. You are stepping out of the house and you know from the last glance you took in the mirror, you are looking good! Your steps are light and you have a gigantic smile on your face. Walking into work you expect to hear compliments, get high fives, and see smiles of approval. Nothing of the sort happens. You immediately
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start to review every inch of your attire and try to figure out what you got wrong. This is something that happens frequently in the workplace. People don’t always acknowledge your efforts to look your best, oh but the minute you look your worst, and step in there raggedy wrong, you will get attention. It is important to be okay with you. Don’t look for external affirmation, if it comes great, if not, you feel good about yourself just
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same. Our social media driven culture has created a need to be approved by others. Internal likes should be our goal. If no one else validates what we treasure that’s okay. It takes work, but in the end protecting your confidence spot is worth it.
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This is a sign. You have been waiting for to invest in blue light glasses. We know you will love your Baxter's and we know you will feel the difference so back to the topic at hand. This book may meet. Think of confidence sort of like a plant. If I put effort into nursing plant it will grow. I know there are actions that will support an enhance the plants growth. Neglect will cause the opposite effect. I know because my husband almost didn't marry me.
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He was going out of town and he left in charge for a week to take care of one of his plants. I have a brown thumb and subsequently the plant died. Now I am not going to get into that. If want my confidence to bloom, I have to take deliberate steps to foster its growth. Let me share a few tips from the book. That I took to heart. Number one was anxiety can be so overwhelming it is impossible to see the good things about yourself. When we are lost in anxiety, it clouds our vision.
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A second point was to develop a mantra that you repeat daily and it recommended you do this in front of a mirror. You can certainly develop one of your own, but I liked the simple mantra in the book. I am loving, I am kind, and I am brave. It might seem awkward at first to stand in front of a mirror and talk to yourself, but if it helps to foster confidence, I say go for it. Positive messages to you from you can help you wade through storms of self-doubt.
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Let’s face it, we live in a society that constantly sends us messages that we don’t live up to a certain standard. If you have not watched Fake Famous on Netflix, please do! This documentary revealed how many of the people with “perfect” lives on social media are faking it. This is hypertoxic behavior that makes people feel inferior. This documentary exposed how people buy followers that can even comment on
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posts. The numbers are not real and oftentimes the photos are faked. I don’t want to give away too many spoilers, but you will never look at photos on Instagram the same way again if you watch this documentary.
You are enough! Focus on your positive points and love yourself, believe in yourself, and grow your confidence spot. I received a piece of advice once that I will never forget. In a room full of thermometers, be the thermostat.
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You set the intentions for your own life, not anyone else.
Thanks for listening and as always I wish you good health, good fortune, and a goodnight!
Cocoa Griot out!
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