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Bridging Gaps in Mental Health Trainings: Vanya Garabedian on Facing Fear and Facilitating Change
Episode 321st December 2024 • Continuing Education for Mental Health Professionals • Natasha Moharter
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Join host Natasha Moharter in an engaging CEU Provider Spotlight Conversation on the Continuing Education for Mental Health Professionals podcast. Featuring special guest Vanya Gadabedian, founder of Intentional Path Counseling, this episode dives into her 20+ years of mental health expertise. They discuss Vanya's journey into content creation and training, the importance of cultural humility, tackling unintended harm, and supporting providers on their own healing journeys. Vanya also shares her experiences with in-person and virtual trainings, the Ethical Provider Collective, and creating a supportive community for New Mexican providers.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:25 Meet Vanya Gadabedian

01:03 Vanya's Journey and Philosophy

01:51 Challenges and Rewards of Content Creation

03:13 Navigating Anxiety and Vulnerability

04:47 The Importance of Passion and Alignment

09:54 Supporting Providers in Their Healing Journey

18:28 Personal Growth and Professional Development

24:26 Addressing Unintended Harm in Care Systems

26:15 Challenging the Expert Culture

26:54 Personal Journey Through Addiction and Recovery

27:47 Navigating Unintended Harm and Missteps

31:20 Building a Local Professional Community

42:01 The Ethical Provider Collective

45:32 Balancing Business and Social Justice

49:54 Embracing Discomfort and Growth

53:59 Conclusion and Resources

Vanya Garabedian, LCSW

vanya@intentionalpathcounseling.com

Intentional Path Counseling

https://www.intentionalpathcounseling.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanya-garabedian-lcsw-56a8631b/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100076038402754


CEUs New Mexico - Lifelong Learners in Mental and Behavioral Health (for New Mexico Providers and Residents Only) - FB Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/320921537151296


NATASHA MOHARTER

https://www.linkedin.com/in/natashamoharter/

https://facebook.com/natasha.ocd

https://instagram.com/natasha.ocd

YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/@learnocd


Continuing Education (CE) for Mental Health Professionals FB Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/continuing.ed

https://www.youtube.com/@continuing-education

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Natasha Moharter:

Welcome to the Continuing Education for Mental

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Health Professionals podcast.

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Today we are hosting another CEU

Provider Spotlight Conversation.

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This is where we learn more

about CEU providers in our

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community and their journeys.

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My name is Natasha Moharter, and I'm a

licensed counselor and OCD specialist.

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I run the Facebook group CE for Mental

Health Professionals, and if you're a

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mental health professional, we'd love

to have you join us in that space.

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I am so excited because we are joined by

our very special guest, Vanya Gadabedian.

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With over 20 years of experience in

the mental health field, Vanya offers

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a rich and diverse range of expertise.

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As the founder of Intentional Path

Counseling, she is dedicated to fostering

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supportive, engaging, and informative

environments for learning and growth.

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She has expertise in supporting providers

to engage in their own healing journeys

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so they can better support the people

and communities they care for with a

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focus on trauma, diversity, equity,

inclusion, ethics, and supervision.

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Welcome Vanya, it is such a

pleasure to have you here today.

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Vanya Garabedian: Thank you.

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I'm so excited to be here.

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Natasha Moharter: Can you share a

little bit about your background

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and what got you interested in

becoming a creator and CEU provider?

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Vanya Garabedian: Oh man.

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So I really enjoy facilitation and

supporting others and showing up

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in ways that I can be helpful in

the communities that I'm a part of.

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So kind of combining my passion

with recognizing that I'm effective

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at doing these things has really

driven me to, start doing this.

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And I have a really strong belief to

like with privilege comes responsibility.

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I have this information, I

have this skillset, I have this

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perspective, I have this experience.

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And with that, I feel pretty

strongly comes a responsibility

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to do what I can to share support

and enable growth for others too.

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Natasha Moharter: What have been

your favorite parts of this journey

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into content creation and training?

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Vanya Garabedian: Oh my gosh.

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I think my absolute favorite part

is the people that I get to meet

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and the growth that I get to see.

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Like there is nothing that I like

better than watching someone go from

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one place to another in a direction that

they haven't been able to move before

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or a new insight, a new awareness.

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I'm really driven by people, uh, and

community building and connection.

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Yeah, that's what I love.

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I also get pretty nerdy with

information and research.

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So I really enjoy the deep

dives too into information.

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Natasha Moharter: One of the things

that I think about with content creation

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is by the time that they are done

taking our training, what is it that

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we hope to help them to accomplish?

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What can they implement as soon as

they are done with our training?

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And it sounds like you have

discovered your ability to be able

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to be that support that bridge.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah.

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I love that you use the term "bridge."

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Cause that's kind of how I think of myself

because of the different worlds that I've

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had the privilege of getting to walk in

like whiteness and, and people of color.

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Like I have always just naturally

been a bridge in these two worlds

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because of my different experiences.

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There's so much divisiveness in the

world today and in our country and

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how can I do my little brick in the

wall to support bridging these gaps.

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Natasha Moharter: And from

what I see, it seems like you

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really are making an impact.

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It can be scary to have an opinion

that some people might not agree with.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yes.

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So like that is something that I

have had to work on a great deal and

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continue to work on is that anxiety and

anxiousness around, oof, the more I do

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this, the more I'm putting myself out

there and the more I become a potential

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target or, whatever you want to say a

potential person people look to, and

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that's kind of terrifying to be honest.

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That scares me.

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And, And I guess like I learned, uh, in

my, my mid twenties, I guess, uh, that,

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uh, courage is walking through that fear.

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So I've really kind of held onto that.

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It's like, okay, we're

just going to keep walking.

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We're going to keep walking.

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Natasha Moharter: I so appreciate

that realness as well, because, one

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of the things that has been brought

up in conversations about content

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creation and putting our work out

there and picking up the training and

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expertise that we have and sharing it

even in these types of CEU trainings.

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It can be intimidating.

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It can feel like.

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But do I really know this?

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When we have a subject to teach we know

that we learn it a little bit better.

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And so we get a little bit more

in depth knowledge with it.

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But it can be really intimidating to

just kind of take those first steps and

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say, Hey, I'm going to post the thing.

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Hey, I'm going to put myself out there.

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I'm going to be seen because we know that

not everybody is going to agree with us.

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And yet there's going to be so many

people that need us with our voice,

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with the way that we look, our

experience, our background, to bring

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that voice and to be that contributor.

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Vanya Garabedian: Absolutely.

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It's like uh, how do I do

it even though it's hard?

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That's kind of a mantra that goes

on in my head, as well as like,

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slow down without stopping is

something I'm currently working on.

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Yeah, it's challenging and

scary and all the things.

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And I don't know how to not do

it cause it's so important to me.

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And there is a personal benefit I get from

it too, because you're absolutely right.

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I gain knowledge.

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I gain understanding into myself and

my experience, which is invaluable.

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Absolutely.

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And I, I, that's one of my favorite parts

about it too, that you asked earlier.

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It's like the learning and

growth that I get to do.

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Natasha Moharter: That was something in

our first meeting that really stood out

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to me is, I think we're both learners

and we like to continue to learn.

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And we're also maybe willing to challenge

ourselves, to be open to new information.

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I think you have to be, especially in

your role where you're teaching and

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you're presenting on some of these really

important topics that people might have

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feelings about, but to be confident

in what you're saying and also willing

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to learn and take in new information.

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And that's very much

what I see you embody.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah, thank you.

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It's really important.

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I believe this strongly that those of us

that are working in the service fields

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of supporting people through their

growth to say the hard thing, to bring

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the hard conversation and to do it in a

way where we're not, isolating anybody.

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I mean, it's not going

to be perfect, right?

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I make mistakes all the time.

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And I actually use that

as part of my learning.

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Like, I'm going to demonstrate to you

how fallible I am and how human I am.

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And hopefully that creates space

for people to be vulnerable.

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It's really, I think, like, it's important

for me to say the hard thing and bring

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the, because if we're not, if not us, who?

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We are like the front lines in

mental health and supporting

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people in their growth.

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Who, if it's not us?

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Natasha Moharter: Right.

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Going back to that sense

of kind of responsibility.

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And what keeps us going, for sure.

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So, next question, what have been

some of your least favorite parts

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into this journey of content creation?

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah, so I

am pretty severely ADD, like

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I have been my whole life.

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So I get lost in information and

I have like this, and I don't know

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if it's my least favorite part.

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Well, I guess this is the

most challenging part.

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I'll say it like that.

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So I get, I, I, I'm out here, I'm

in the macro and it's a lot of time

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and energy for me to bring it in.

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So the most challenging part I'll say

is when I'm doing the deep dive and

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I'm doing the research and all of that,

I end up with so much information and

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such this huge kind of thing that it's,

it's a process that I've learned about

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myself and how I go through it and have

worked on some acceptance around it.

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And it's still challenging to bring it

in to where we are right here, right now

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and how I can kind of get lost in that.

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I guess maybe the least

favorite part might be.

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Putting the folders together.

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Like, yeah, like that, that

actual administrative part, right?

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Like making the copies, putting the

folders together and PowerPoints.

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I'm not, I'll be honest.

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I am not a fan and I do them and I

provide them because it's beneficial

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and there's different kinds of

learners and it's a struggle.

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So that's challenging for me as well.

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Natasha Moharter: Again, I so

appreciate your realness with this.

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What I've kind of stumbled upon

is that a lot of us content

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creators are neurodivergent.

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And that natural struggle that comes with

it and like, we can get bored easily.

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Do you have any kind of tips

and tricks for anybody who

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might also struggle with this?

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Vanya Garabedian: Oh my gosh.

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It's so funny.

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Cause I do get bored easily, which is

also one of the reasons I do so many

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of the things that you see me doing.

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Cause if I'm doing just one thing,

I just, I can't, I need to do other

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things as well to keep myself invested.

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And for me, what's really important is

I have to be passionate about it because

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of all the, you know, the background

work, like there's so much that goes

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into for me, like a training, like what

people are seeing is like just a tip of,

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the iceberg of work that's underneath.

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And in order for me to be able

to stay engaged in that iceberg

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of work, I have to be, for me, I

have to be passionate about it.

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So I really encourage people to go with

what they resonate with, what they, it's

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not hard for them to get their values

in alignment with, like I'm not going to

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do workshops around topics that they're,

they're important and they're helpful.

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And I'm going to let the ones who

have that passion and drive do those.

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Cause it's just going to end up feeling

tedious and laborious because it,

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it is a lot of, it's a lot of labor.

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So I, I really need to be invested

and in alignment with my values

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and what I think is important.

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Natasha Moharter: And time is

our most valuable resource.

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And so if we're going to spend time

engaged in research and training,

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it really does matter what we're

studying or what we're interested in.

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And then I think it really can come

across in our trainings as well.

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Vanya Garabedian: Absolutely.

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I don't know if you've ever been to

a training where you can tell the

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person is just really not, they're just

doing their job, that I can't do it.

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I learned that about myself

at a very early age too.

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Like if I'm going to be working,

I'm going to do something that

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I'm really passionate about.

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Natasha Moharter: So another question, you

have a passion for supporting providers

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to engage in their own healing journey

so that they can better support the

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people and communities they care for.

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What is it about these topics that

gives you energy and commitment to keep

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getting out there and training others?

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Vanya Garabedian: Oh my gosh.

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It's so important.

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It's such important work.

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And it's one of my top values as a

person in this world, existing with

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other people in this world, and

also my own personal experience.

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And when I was in school, they're like,

Oh, this whole cultural competency.

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And I remember thinking, how am I

expected to be culturally competent

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on other people's cultures?

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And it didn't make sense to me.

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And what I understood was I, the

only person I can be an expert

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on is me and my experience.

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And that for me and my practice and

how I show up in the world is the most

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important thing for me to be an expert on.

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Cause if I can understand

my life, my experience.

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I remember when I first learned

like that, I had a story, it was

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before I got into this field, right?

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Like, I was like, Oh,

everyone has a story then.

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It's so important for me to

understand my own experience, to

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do my healing around my wounds.

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So many people get into this field,

let's be honest, because they've

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had really challenging lives.

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And it is a wealth of information

and experience people bring to it.

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And sometimes there can be a

missed opportunity to do the

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healing and work around that.

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And then unintended harm happens.

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And I've experienced the unintended harm.

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I've watched the unintended harm.

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And again, it goes back to

this core value of mine.

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Like we're fallible, we're human,

we're all doing the best that we can.

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And how do we do better?

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So how do I be a part of that solution

to support people in doing better?

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I can't be an expert on you.

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I've lived in New Mexico since 2002.

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I'm not an expert on New Mexican culture.

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And it would be insulting

and rude to say that I was.

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Cause we all have our glasses, right?

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That we're seeing the world

through literally and figuratively.

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So how can I get clear on what

is mine so I can put it aside.

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I'm not trying to get rid of

my identity or anyone else's or

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erasure or anything like that.

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If I'm committed to supporting people

and their journey, how do I put my

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experience aside so I can be present

so they can teach me who they are.

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And that is such a core to what I do.

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Natasha Moharter: How does my

lens influence how I'm showing up?

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We're all the, the hero in our own story.

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Vanya Garabedian: It's so important.

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Like the storytelling, right?

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Like my family history is storytelling.

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We don't have a paper trail until my

grandparents made it to the United States.

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So previous to that,

it's all storytelling.

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And there's a lot of

bad people in my story.

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Like there's a lot of bad characters.

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And of course we're the ones who were, you

know, whatever, like we're in the right.

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And I'm not saying that isn't

correct because genocide's a

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part of my, my family history.

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What I'm saying is the people who

harmed my family in my story were

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also the heroes and their story.

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I so appreciate that you said that.

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And we were the bad guy.

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And how can I, and it requires me

doing my own, I do a lot of, I do

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a lot of trauma work for myself.

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And how do I heal these, these wounds,

these generational experiences.

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And so if somebody comes into

my office that represents

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whatever, my "bad guy", right?

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Like how can I get to a place where I

can create a space for them as well?

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And again, I feel like if we're

going to be in this type of work

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and I know everybody doesn't feel

this way, and I want to be clear,

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people get to have boundaries.

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They get to decide populations

that they work with.

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For me, I have chosen,

I want to be a bridge.

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That means I'm going to be working

with people who don't agree

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with me, disagree, whatever.

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I'm going to be working

with all walks of life.

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So it becomes incredibly important for

those of us that choose that to be able

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to create the same inclusive space for the

person that agrees exactly opposite of me.

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The other thing that you made me think

of is like the decolonizing work, right?

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Like we talked about a little bit

before we got on here, like that

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idea of what is professionalism?

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Well, how are we supposed to show up?

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And I was nervous.

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I mean, I told you I'm nervous being here.

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I've never done anything like this.

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So if I can just like name that, and who

told me I had to be perfect and upfront

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and, you know, not make any mistakes.

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It's not realistic.

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We're all doing the best that we can.

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If I have not had an opportunity to learn

to do something differently, why, why

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am I going to be expected to do that?

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And what makes me feel like I

can judge someone else for it?

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Cause I don't know their story.

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I don't know if they've

had an opportunity.

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It can be controversial even in

the circles that I walk in because

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there's people like wrong is

wrong, like right racism is wrong.

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I agree a hundred and ten percent.

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How do I see the human that is caught in

these beliefs so I can support that human?

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And getting through

that to the other side.

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And I've actually gotten to witness

that, which is really exciting.

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There's nothing more exciting than having

a racist come to me for, for therapy.

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And I get to support their transformation

and come to the other side.

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Like that is like everything to me.

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So for me to be up at the front or

teaching people and acting like, so

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this is what we're going to do today.

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And this is what's professional,

blah, blah, blah, blah.

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I am doing people a disservice.

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I'm not giving them any

permission to be human.

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I'm not giving them any

permission to be fallible.

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I'm unintentionally possibly creating

self judgment in people and it no longer

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is a space where people feel like they

can speak up and say, say the hard

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thing, which is, or challenge themselves,

which is really what I'm focused on.

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Natasha Moharter: It's so neat to hear

just your values and what's important

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to you and how you show up with

clients, the framework that you use

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when you say, you know, I am choosing

to work with certain people that

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might very heavily disagree with me.

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And I'm okay with that because I've

done my own work and I'm willing to show

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up and, like you said, be that bridge.

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And it's definitely okay that

we choose and we have certain

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boundaries on certain things.

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There are people like that, if we only

stay in our own little groups, then how

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does that information get communicated?

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How can we humanize each other if

we are just othering all the time.

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And I think about the topics that

you teach on that you train on.

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All of that, I could see where that is

so incredibly important to have the value

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system that you do and your willingness

to go into very uncomfortable spaces.

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It's not fun when people disagree with us.

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And yet to be able to say,

okay, but you're human.

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And how can we go forward here?

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Conflict doesn't have

to equal disconnection.

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Vanya Garabedian: Absolutely.

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And like with that, it's funny.

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Cause somebody reached out to me,

another clinician, a colleague who

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was like, you teach the hard stuff.

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You do the hard trainings.

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And it's so funny.

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Cause to me, it's not hard.

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Is it challenging?

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Yes.

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It's almost like, I don't

know what else I would do.

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And being aware that for a lot of

people, it's really hard to like look at.

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And I mean, there's so many

reasons why it's not hard for me.

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Uh, Not meaning that I know

it all or get it perfectly.

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It's just, I don't know

how not to be challenged.

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Is that a trauma response?

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Is that this overdeveloped sense of

responsibility and all of these things?

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And I don't even know if it matters as

much as like, what am I doing with it?

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And if this is what I'm skillful at,

I'm, I'm good at being challenged.

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I'm okay with that.

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Like, let's do it.

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You know, let's get in there.

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I also want to be really clear.

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People get to have their boundaries.

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Like I know people who want to only work

with this population or that population.

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I think that is just as important.

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I think there's room

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of providers to be able to show

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up, and supportive people to walk

alongside of them and give people

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neat how even just now you're talking

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about how your history, how your story

influences the work that you do, the

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trainings that you put together, the

topics that you're interested in.

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unfamiliar to be challenged or to be

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in that space of critical thinking.

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egotistical and feel free to edit it out.

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a young age, in my twenties, I'm like,

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I worked in mental and behavioral

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front line staff positions.

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do I just get paid to be myself?

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person in this world.

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I was not somebody who wanted

to even be on this planet.

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to find something that was meaningful,

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that was in line with who I am.

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That's no small order.

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I got my master's degree when I was 40

and worked my way through school, right.

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how do I get paid to be myself?

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beautiful life that I have today.

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get paid to be myself now.

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And it took a minute, you

know, I'm like 53 now.

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to get here and I'm here.

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before, they're like, wait till

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you're grateful for all of it.

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I'm like, all of it?

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that inkling early on.

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and spend all my time doing that,

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or a lot of my time, how much time

we spend at work earning income to

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exist in this world, I gotta like it.

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I gotta just be able to be me.

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in all of it and for people who may

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not be there yet like it is totally

possible to get paid to be yourself.

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that that's actually a huge piece

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of hope that I see in finding

income outside of the therapy realm.

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I have other interests or I have

other dreams or I have other expertise

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and how can I share that as well?

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And training for a lot of people,

can be kind of a natural avenue.

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lot of us like to share that knowledge.

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to be me, I need to be representative

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of who I am, my story, my history,

what I bring to the table, right?

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I heard this thing and it sticks

with me and it says, we don't have

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to be experts to be contributors.

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It can take some of the pressure

off of us to say, you have to

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wanting me to do a good job.

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I might mess up and I might

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say things that sound weird.

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and somebody might not like that.

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because there are going to be people

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that this is going to resonate with.

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Vanya Garabedian: I do experiences

where people think somehow

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I'm special, I'm different.

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I was not supposed to

graduate from high school.

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I wasn't raised with awareness that I had

intelligence or capability of learning.

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I was raised with what was reflected

back to me as being someone who

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wasn't intelligent, someone who

isn't able to do big things.

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I wasn't raised to go to college.

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I am a person in long term recovery

from addiction and trauma, like

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none of this has been easy.

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This is like decades, decades of work

on self and willingness to be really

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good at being uncomfortable, which I

think has to do with my history and

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willingness to do the hard thing and

there's been a lot of privilege and

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support, which comes back to that bridge,

and also adversity, which I believe

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really puts me in this unique position.

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I guess I just share that to bring it down

a notch when people, it's really easy to

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look at someone and say, oh yeah, but.

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And the realization that no man,

like we're all just figuring it out

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as we go was really helpful for me.

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It's hard.

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I know I got the idea that life

wasn't supposed to be this hard, and

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I'm not sure where I got it because

that hasn't been my experience.

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I think that's an important

thing to kind of call out too.

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Like, if I can do it, anyone can.

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And whatever that do it is,

whatever that is for you.

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It's going to be different for everyone.

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ADHD and women just recently being

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recognized and some of how that

might influence internalized ableism.

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And sometimes I think

about, overnight successes.

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Because we're like, what happened?

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You know, the universe must have gotten

together and like pushed them forward.

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We don't see, that's the tip of the

iceberg, we don't see all the hard work.

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Vanya Garabedian: I don't know

any overnight successes, even the

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people that we're pretty sure are.

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There's a lot of work that

isn't seen and it's so worth it.

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And I guess I was fortunate cause

I was diagnosed at a young age.

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was in middle school.

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And they didn't really know what to do

with me, so I would get put back and forth

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between gifted and special ed classes.

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And, just feeling kind of like

an alien most of my life, which

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is also a common human trait,

is to not feel like you belong.

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It was helpful in some ways

and not helpful in other ways.

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And for me personally, it created

a lot of shame because it wasn't

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talked a lot about back in the day.

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It wasn't out there like it is today.

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Like, and I'm talking about the

seventies and eighties, like when

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people were like, they're just like.

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Special ed kid or something, you know,

there wasn't any sort of template

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or role model to be like, Hey,

actually you have all these gifts.

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Though my mom was amazing and recognizing

my artistic talents at a young age.

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And she used to like really push me

in that direction to be an artist.

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I have a strong creative streak

and I'm really grateful for her.

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Like she used to tell people all the

time, Oh, this is my flower child.

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She was just born in the wrong era

because I was so just different.

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Like, you know, just

different from everyone.

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I used to think I was born too late.

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Now, as I'm seeing these

younger generations that are

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phenomenal and amazing, I'm

like, maybe I was born too early.

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Being different was not, it

wasn't helpful in any way.

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It was really challenging.

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me to our next question.

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You are an advocate for addressing

unintended harm within our care systems.

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Can you share with us your

perspective on how focusing on our

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own development can enhance the

quality of care we provide while

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reducing burnout and vicarious trauma.

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So I mean, this is debatable and people

argue with me about this, I don't think

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there are any inherently bad people.

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I don't believe that.

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I think I've worked with

three sociopaths in my career.

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It's not as common as people think.

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And these people need some

special containers and handling.

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Most people are not bad.

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I just don't, I don't believe that.

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So if I am walking around with

this idea that there are, then I

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am going to act from that belief.

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Like, like there's deeper things

that affect and influence who we

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are and how we show up in the world.

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And it's implicit.

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If I am not willing, humble enough, or

however you want to word it, to take

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a look at that, like the unpack your

knapsack thing, then I'm going to do

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unintended harm all over the place.

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Not on purpose and not because

I'm mean and not because I'm

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evil, because I just don't know.

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And I haven't taken the opportunity.

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How many people come from this I really

want to help perspective without having an

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opportunity to take a look at themselves,

heal their own wounds, get the care and

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concern that they want to provide others.

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How do you find that for yourself?

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So you can actually show up and

walk alongside with someone versus

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this hero thing that we can get

caught up in or somehow I don't,

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I don't believe in experts.

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I think we can have really extensive

knowledge in different areas.

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I'll take that.

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Like if we walk around in this idea,

especially in our system, Oh my

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God, where what is admired, what is

celebrated are experts and people

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who get to be seen as better than and

saviors and all of this kind of stuff.

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I don't buy it.

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And I see so much

unintended harm happening.

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I'm not saying people don't know a lot

about their fields and that's really

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important and education, whatever that

looks like, whether it's the traditional

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or the life experience or whatever, all of

that is important and creates knowledge.

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There's a saying like

hurt people, hurt people.

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And I did this for a while.

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I don't have any shame around it.

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I was an IV drug user.

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I used heroin and cocaine, until

I was 25 and I did unintended

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harm, whether I meant to or not.

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And when I got clean, when I had

the privilege of being able to be

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supported to even find recovery,

which is a privilege for somebody to

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even get to see us is a privilege.

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For someone to get to

walk through the door.

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Even in the early years, I was so angry

and I was so depressed and I was just,

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so disappointed that I was still alive.

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I don't mean to be dramatic, but I

didn't want to be on this planet.

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And I really, I thought for a long

time that I was only harming myself

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in my use and in my early recovery.

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And that's not true.

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Like it's, it's just not true.

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I didn't learn that to later

through work that I've done.

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And if I hadn't done that work, I might

still be an angry, resentful person.

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And then you look at like the, when

people talk about wokeness and being

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politically correct and all of that

kind of stuff, how do we normalize and

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create spaces where there's opportunity

to just see people for who they are,

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allow them to tell me who they are.

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No one's going to do it perfectly.

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We're going to make mistakes.

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It's not about the missteps.

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It's about recognizing when you

have a misstep so you can walk

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through it and do it differently.

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Not being afraid to take risks, because

I see that frequently with the white

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people in my life and colleagues.

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The fear of saying the wrong

thing keeps them quiet.

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So then they do say something

offensive without realizing it.

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Now it's going to happen.

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How do I support myself and learning

how to navigate it to not just

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decrease my suffering and hopefully not

contribute to the suffering of others.

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Natasha Moharter: One of the things

that is really standing out is your

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willingness to be vulnerable and open to

new information while also having done the

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work to know what's important to you, to

know your boundaries to know, you know,

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hey, I want to show up in certain ways to

be like we're talking about that bridge.

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And that requires me to not

just immediately, push back on

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people, or it requires me to kind

of show up in a different way.

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Vanya Garabedian: And

I want to be clear too.

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The people in the streets are important.

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The people who are calling out injustice,

All of these roles are important and

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necessary, and this is what I see as mine.

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I can't do it all.

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What I can do is what I feel passionate

about, what I feel like I'm effective at,

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and I can put my little brick in the wall.

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I have a lot of friends who are

very active in different social

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justice scenes and hit the

streets and sometimes I do too.

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And, some will be like, you know,

like, No, I'm not going to tolerate it.

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And for them, their different

identities put them in a much

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more vulnerable position than me.

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So it's also recognizing where

do I sit with my privilege?

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So, I'm not getting mad at my friend.

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I'm actually in an alignment with them

and supporting them and understanding

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they're in a different world than I am.

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Like my friends who are part of the

LGBTQI community, my friends who

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are darker skinned than me, they're

having a different experience.

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And by no means, am I saying, put yourself

out there in these ways, I'm saying,

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what do you have to do first to keep

yourself safe and participate in the way,

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I like to say this a lot too, like with

my white friends, that's sustainable.

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So you don't quit, slow

down without stopping.

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Which again comes to like, my own

identity and my own privilege.

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I don't want my, one of my trans

friends to go out there and make a

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big statement unless they want to and

they feel support or whatever they get

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to do whatever, what they want to do.

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I know I can do that and not fear

that I'm going to be attacked

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for being a trans person.

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Natasha Moharter: We can have the

same sort of goals and that might look

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different in how we actually do that.

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So we discovered that we had similar

passions for trainings and getting

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the word out about these opportunities

to facilitate provider growth.

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While the Facebook group I facilitate

focuses more nationally, you've

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created a growing community of

local professionals in New Mexico.

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Can you share a little bit about how

that community came to be and what it's

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like focusing on a local population?

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah, so it's funny

because for me, it came down to me

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and another colleague kind of being

a little overwhelmed and frustrated

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with the local practice page.

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The frustration was how do we sort through

all the noise, cause there's so much

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participation there to find a workshop.

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I'm really passionate about

like support local when you can.

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Me and a colleague were talking,

were like, ah, so like, how do we

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create a space that is just for CEUs,

for New Mexicans, by new Mexicans?

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So it's a lot simpler to be able

to find what you're looking for if

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you want to support local versus

one of the big companies out there.

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New Mexico is a very unique state.

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So a workshop that works on the

east coast or even in Texas or on

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the West Coast, may not work here.

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So being considerate and conscientious

of that and taking into account

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all the different indigenous

people who live here and all the

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different populations and identities.

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It's a very LGBTQIA plus friendly state.

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So I guess that's where it birthed

out of frustration, like, which is

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kind of something that I do too.

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I create the things that I wish I

had is a big part of it as well.

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I wanted a place to be able to connect

with local providers doing CEUs.

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I wanted a place to be able

to let people know about mine.

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So that's really where it was birthed.

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Natasha Moharter: You had mentioned

earlier that you like when

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things make sense to you, right?

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And even if you have to figure

out different avenues to make it

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work, you are willing to do it.

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And that group is growing.

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That group really seems like it's a

very valuable resource in the community.

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And for providers who actually

might also want to start a local CEU

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focused virtual community, do you

have any suggestions on how to do

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that or how to even go about starting?

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Vanya Garabedian: Well, I was

really fortunate that the person

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that was also frustrated, Antonia

Montoya, she is a local amazing

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therapist here, knew how to do that.

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So to be honest, I was

like, how do I do this?

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And she's like, I've done this.

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I know how to do this.

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So then we paired up and I

learned with her while doing it.

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So I guess I would recommend finding

somebody, if you don't know how, find

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somebody who does, that's something else

that, is a skill that I have, like, I, if

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I don't know how to do it, I go find the

person that's doing what I want to do.

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And then I ask them how they did it.

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Natasha Moharter: And one of the

things that I think is really neat

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about some of the virtual spaces is

you can have multiple people support.

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So whether that's through moderation,

through different admin roles, right?

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And so it doesn't only have to be on you

if that's not your strength or your forte,

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but your interest can very much fuel that.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah.

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And so it's, it's restricted.

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We do our best to restrict it to

people who live in New Mexico.

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We don't allow groups in there.

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So we're staying away from the big

CEU group providers, national people.

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And if you, if somebody is watching this

and you live in New Mexico and you want

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to find CEUs that are by New Mexicans for

New Mexicans, or you want to get yours

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out there, it's called CEUs New Mexico

- Lifelong Learners in Mental and Behavioral

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Health on Facebook so please join us.

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Natasha Moharter: You are a CEU

provider approved at the state

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level by the New Mexico Counseling

and Therapy Practice Board.

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Can you share a little bit about

what that process was like getting

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approved at the state level and any

pros or cons that you've seen to

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being approved at the state level?

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Vanya Garabedian: I mean, the cons right

away is my CEUs that I provide may not be

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accepted by boards outside of New Mexico.

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I know some, like the New Mexico

board will accept CEUs from anything

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that is accredited by a board.

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So I don't know if there are

other States that do that.

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So that's a con.

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The pro is it was a lot less cumbersome

and less expensive, and it was

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more accessible than the national

organizations, which I get frustrated

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with because I'm not a fan of barriers.

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And so, I am a social worker.

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Social justice is my passion.

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If anyone from the National Association

of Social Workers is listening, is

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there a way to make the accessibility

to become a provider more accessible

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for those of us that are just single

practice people, that don't necessarily

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have the money and the resources to

do the things that they're requesting?

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I haven't looked at it

lately, so maybe it's changed.

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The last time I looked at

it, it was really expensive

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and I haven't counted it out.

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I just haven't figured out a way to do it.

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And what I see happen is

these large corporations have

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the resources to do that.

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But the small, local, whether it's local

in where you are or anywhere else, really

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struggle with getting that, accreditation.

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So is there a way to ensure

quality, because I imagine

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that's a large part of it, right?

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While also creating bridges for

the small provider to also be

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able to get that accreditation.

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I haven't given up.

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I just haven't found the

time yet to navigate it.

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Being a small business, there

isn't a lot of extra income to

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pay for people to do it for me.

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So, or to pay the fees that

it was the last time I looked.

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Which really makes me scratch my

head because social work is all

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about social justice and breaking

down barriers and accessibility.

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And here's the national board and

there's some really challenging barriers

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and the accessibility isn't easy.

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And I understand we're only seeing the

tip of their iceberg, so I just know

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there's more to it that I don't know,

and I, I'm just a big believer in being

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somebody who focuses on the solution.

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I'm not saying I have the answer.

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I'm just saying there's not

just one way to do things.

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Cause I've had requests from, lawyers

and nurses and doctors who want to

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do the trainings that I provide.

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And because my CEUs aren't

accepted by their board.

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They go elsewhere.

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So I don't know, I don't know the

solution, but I'm open to finding it.

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Like the New Mexico Counseling and

Therapy Practice Board is amazing.

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It's as if they want to

support you in providing CEUs.

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Like the fee is reasonable,

the process is reasonable.

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And my, I want to support local as well.

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So it's a both and I'm really

passionate about our dollars go further

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when we are focused in our state

and being a small local business.

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I want to support that as well.

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Natasha Moharter: So you've mentioned

that you prefer in person trainings.

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What about this format do you like most

and what advice would you give to a CEU

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provider wanting to provide in person

trainings as opposed to a virtual setup?

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Vanya Garabedian: For me, I'm a big

believer in the co regulation and the

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communication of our nervous systems.

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So I believe in the value of people

being in the same room and the

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container that can be created in a

different way when we're in person.

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Our nervous systems are all communicating,

we're co regulating, we're creating

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more personal space where more people

take risks with their questions

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and what they're willing to do.

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Of course, a lot of that has

to do with how it's, you know,

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how the container is created.

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And honestly, I mean, that's

what I've always loved.

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I did not know anything about Zoom.

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I think maybe like a lot of

people pre COVID and when COVID

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happened, I was like, I think this

will be about like nine months.

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I was changing my practice.

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I was in private practice.

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I was moving everything into online.

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I was, like a lot of

us, all hands on deck.

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The number of people that I

was seeing were off the charts.

721

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I don't recommend it.

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The amount of emotional and

physical labor that my practice

723

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took increased exponentially.

724

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So there was a lack of time.

725

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I'm seeing people online.

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And I thought it wasn't going

to be as long as it was.

727

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So now what's interesting is this past

year, I did my first online workshop.

728

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And I've been contracted with a couple of

places to do online workshops for them.

729

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And I also do therapy online

and I've done trainings online.

730

:

So, now I've had this experience of like,

Oh, we can still create a container.

731

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It's different.

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I'm not going to lie.

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It is different.

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And I can also reach more people.

735

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So I've got a lot of learning to

do a lot of catching up to do.

736

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I got contracted with

another great local business.

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If I can give a shout out, Envive, it's

two women own it and they really focus

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on helping local, small business owners

develop their businesses and they support

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the local community, and addiction and

recovery community in so many ways.

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So they're amazing.

741

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They contracted me to

do a workshop with them.

742

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And they had this team of people

that is amazing that supported it.

743

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So I just got to show up and do my thing.

744

:

And that was like, just such a

beautiful, different experience

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:

than when I just do them on my own.

746

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I still prefer in person.

747

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And I also like, like, I have

food, I have coffee, I have tea.

748

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Like, I like to be able to create

this supportive environment

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where I do what I wish I had.

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So whenever you go to a workshop and it's

like, really, there's not even water.

751

:

Like what?

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So I provide all these things that

I couldn't if they were at home.

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I like to be hospitable,

I guess is maybe the term.

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Natasha Moharter: Think it's really

neat that you keep coming back to

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that, that you're creating the things

that you wish that you had or that

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you weren't able to experience.

757

:

Coming back to your point of community,

and being in relationship and being

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able to support and collaborate and

do really cool things because of it.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah, I'm huge on

community and that's another thing

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where it's like I need community, so

I do what I can to create community.

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Natasha Moharter: Along with your

CEU trainings, you've created

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an excellent resource called

the Ethical Provider Collective.

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It's a monthly drop in Zoom session

aimed at reducing burnout, addressing

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ethical dilemmas, and fostering

meaningful connection among fellow

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providers with a focus on ethics,

supervision, and cultural humility.

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It's free to attend, but you also

offer one CEU per meeting, at a

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rate of $25 plus state tax, if

anybody is interested in that.

768

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Can you share a little bit more about

the Ethical Provider Collective with us?

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah, absolutely.

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Thank you for asking about it.

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So what it was birthed out of

was people reaching out to me

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for supervision and consultation.

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And I just don't have the time to

meet with everybody that was asking.

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And also seeing providers struggling

with being able to have access to

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groups and communities where they

could get some extra support and

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supervision that was affordable, because

it can cost money if you don't have

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supervision at your place of employment.

778

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It serves so many purposes.

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So with my own workshops oftentimes

people have follow up questions or

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they want to talk about something more.

781

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So now, if that's the case, you can

drop in once a month and we can talk

782

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about whatever follow up questions

that you have from one of my workshops.

783

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If you haven't been to my workshops,

you can come in and get support and

784

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get to know other providers as well.

785

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And I guess my belief that it decreases

burnout is the more supported we

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are in the community, the less alone

we feel, the less we're burnt out

787

:

and just feel so isolated, which

it can really feel that way, even

788

:

particularly in private practice.

789

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So that's what brought it about was

my desire to be able to be accessible

790

:

to people who have questions after

my workshops, accessible supervision

791

:

for people who might not even

know me to be able to drop in and

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:

also benefit from a community.

793

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Natasha Moharter: You're creating

different parts of your sales funnel.

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So you're allowing people to get to know

you a little bit better and potentially

795

:

take a training from you afterward.

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:

When women have access to resource and

money and finance, we really do tend

797

:

to invest it back in our communities.

798

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And we can vote with our dollars.

799

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This is one of the reasons that I see a

lot of clinicians wanting to provide CEUs.

800

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And yet we're in a field that we, you

know, we don't want to feel salesy,

801

:

or we don't want to feel pushy and,

yet, being seen and having a pay me

802

:

now button can be really important to

continuing our work, to reducing burnout.

803

:

So it's just neat to kind of see that

from the business side, what you've

804

:

naturally created and you've brought

into this, that is working for you.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah.

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Thank you.

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And I can't say that isn't

part of the hope, right?

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That people come, they meet me, they want

to take my workshops and they sign up.

809

:

That would be excellent.

810

:

And it's so challenging.

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This is one of my struggles that I've

been working on too, is, is that business

812

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side, the advertising, the charging,

like my husband jokes with me and he's

813

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like, you give away too much for free.

814

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And it's challenging for

me to find that balance.

815

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Because my inclination is if I can

do it, I'm just going to do it.

816

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And if something comes out of it, great.

817

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If nothing comes out of it, okay.

818

:

And I hope something comes out of it.

819

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I'm not immune from the capitalistic

system that I live in and needing to

820

:

make a living and keep all this going.

821

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And it's, it's a really

challenging point for me.

822

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I'm experimenting with this

social justice model the green

823

:

bottle method and how I charge.

824

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So there's three different categories

that you get to choose which one you

825

:

fall into for my actual workshops.

826

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Trying to find ways that I feel

good about in line with my values

827

:

and my belief in access and make

money is a learning curve for me.

828

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These are the things that I'm kind

of working on is like using a social

829

:

justice model for a sliding scale,

not giving away all the seats, which

830

:

is something that I've done before.

831

:

Finding those balances is challenging.

832

:

And I was just actually thinking about

this this morning when I was getting

833

:

ready to come to work that like I've

got, I give spots away in my workshop.

834

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So I will give myself the boundary of only

having one scholarship spot for the in

835

:

person ones and two for the ones online.

836

:

Let's see if I can

stick with it this year.

837

:

Natasha Moharter: I so appreciate

your authenticity and your genuineness

838

:

and your realness with that.

839

:

Vanya Garabedian: Absolutely.

840

:

Right.

841

:

And I'm getting more effective at it.

842

:

Like I'm more willing to ask for

more when I see how long it takes

843

:

me to create a workshop and, that's

something people should know.

844

:

It's like the amount of time and energy

that goes on the backend to produce

845

:

like a three hour or one day or two day.

846

:

It takes a minute to make a profit.

847

:

Right.

848

:

So, I think it's like a word of

caution to people who want to do this.

849

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Just know that there's

a lot of front end work.

850

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And, the funding piece is

something that I struggle with.

851

:

Cause again, I see these larger Practices

able to have the resources and time to put

852

:

into getting funding that I don't have.

853

:

I haven't figured out how

to also be able to do that.

854

:

Or when I talk to different funding

sources in New Mexico they're going

855

:

with this person or these people or this

agency that has well known and really

856

:

popular and everybody knows who they are.

857

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Like, I totally get it and

how I'm learning, how do I

858

:

also get to go in that way.

859

:

And one of the beautiful things about it

is when I'm seeing these agencies that

860

:

get the funding, I know them like they

started as one or two people businesses.

861

:

So that tells me if they figure

this out, there is a way.

862

:

I just haven't figured out my way yet.

863

:

So that's hopeful.

864

:

Natasha Moharter: The mission and

the values that surround the creation

865

:

of this podcast was let's spotlight

some of the people that are doing

866

:

incredible work that maybe we are

kind of one, two person businesses.

867

:

But we have goals.

868

:

We're on our way somewhere.

869

:

So many of us clinicians are

trying to figure out, how do we

870

:

add additional income streams?

871

:

What does it look like for us to market?

872

:

How do we learn the

business aspect of this?

873

:

Because that is very different

than providing therapy.

874

:

Vanya Garabedian: When I look back at the

first workshops I created, like at the

875

:

time I was like, Oh, this is pretty good.

876

:

And now I'm like, Ooh, like, so

there's a natural process that I have

877

:

learned and become more effective

and skillful at while doing it.

878

:

So it's like not waiting until

I have it figured out to do it.

879

:

It's like do it and I'll

figure it out as I go.

880

:

And I think that's part of the

privilege of ADD is like, I jump and

881

:

I land somewhere and I figure it out.

882

:

Doesn't always work out.

883

:

What does happen is I learn more skills

and I keep progressing and now when I

884

:

look at a workshop that I present today

versus one that I did like seven or eight

885

:

years ago, it's like, okay, I can see

how far and how and like my learning.

886

:

I think that's important to like if we

wait until we get it right or perfectly,

887

:

we're not going to get anything done.

888

:

Natasha Moharter: You don't have to get

it right, you just have to get it going.

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Vanya Garabedian: Yes, the change

and growth happens in the 1%.

890

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It's not this zero to a

hundred that, sometimes we

891

:

mistake it for or people want.

892

:

It's just 1% of change a day, and

that comes from Atomic Habits.

893

:

Just to put that out

there, that's a great book.

894

:

But like he talks about that 1% just

make a 1% change in the day and that's

895

:

going to change your entire trajectory.

896

:

And it's scary and it's

hard and it's not easy.

897

:

So just know that if it's scary,

hard and not easy, it probably

898

:

means you're doing it right.

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Natasha Moharter: In OCD and anxiety

treatment, so much of what I work with my

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:

clients on is embracing the uncertainty.

901

:

We don't know how it will happen.

902

:

And yet if it's in alignment with our

values and it's something that we want

903

:

to pursue, we're gonna do it scared,

and that might not be our favorite.

904

:

We might have to accept that we feel

really icky when we're doing this.

905

:

And yet we can still push forward

and it can get easier over time.

906

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Vanya Garabedian: Yeah that was the other

thing I wanted to mention, the values.

907

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It's like suffering comes from

living against our values.

908

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So if somebody's watching this or

listening to this and you're not

909

:

maybe certain what your values are,

like there are places to participate

910

:

in figuring that out for yourself.

911

:

Like when I was putting a needle in

my arm, that was going against all

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:

my values and my suffering was great.

913

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So living in accordance to our values

makes the hard things a little bit

914

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more like you're willing to do it.

915

:

And our suffering decreases.

916

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Can I tolerate the pain of the moment,

the discomfort of the moment in

917

:

exchange for a decrease in my suffering?

918

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Or am I going to not do whatever

I have to do to avoid that pain

919

:

and it increases my suffering?

920

:

And it's a skill.

921

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It's a skill like anything else.

922

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So if people don't know how

to do it, there's no shame.

923

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It's just, you haven't had an opportunity.

924

:

So how do you learn how to tolerate

discomfort is such a huge part of it.

925

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And Certainty Principle.

926

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Love it.

927

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I'm a certified brain spotting therapist.

928

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I'm really passionate about it.

929

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And I'm going to be starting

my CIT, which is a different

930

:

process of training in that area.

931

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And it's all based on the

uncertainty principle.

932

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Natasha Moharter: Like you said, even

CEU trainings can take some time to

933

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get through from beginning to the end,

to marketing, to putting it out there.

934

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And so how do you keep showing up?

935

:

Even when it's scary.

936

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Vanya Garabedian: Even

when you get a bad review.

937

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You're not sure you know what you're

doing or it's even successful.

938

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Are you giving half the

seats away for free?

939

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Like, it's like, you just,

if it's something that's

940

:

important, you just keep going.

941

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And if it's not that important, let it

go and go try something else you know?

942

:

Natasha Moharter: And you

bring up a good point.

943

:

We will get bad reviews.

944

:

We will, they're out there statistically.

945

:

They're gonna happen.

946

:

Somebody's not gonna like something.

947

:

And, it's okay, right?

948

:

It does, it hurts.

949

:

It stings a little bit.

950

:

That's where support comes in, community.

951

:

It's funny, my most recent training that I

did, one of the reviews was, the training

952

:

materials don't look as professional.

953

:

I'm like, I've never

gotten this one before.

954

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So I look back and I'm

like, I can see that.

955

:

I can see where I can improve here.

956

:

Okay.

957

:

And I have a lot of hope because

if you look at Facebook's original

958

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page that they first created.

959

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It does not look good.

960

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It is.

961

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It's really basic and plain.

962

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And I'm like, if Facebook

can do it, why not us?

963

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Thank you very much.

964

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Vanya Garabedian: Absolutely.

965

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And look back at one of your first

trainings and it'll give you like

966

:

a little bit of like, Oh, wow.

967

:

Okay.

968

:

I've come a far way.

969

:

Yeah.

970

:

And those reviews are like, I look

at all of them and like, sometimes

971

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they're really valid points.

972

:

I'm like, Oh, wow.

973

:

Man, thank you.

974

:

I'm going to take this into consideration.

975

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And sometimes it's, you know, I see

that I'm just not your cup of tea and

976

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I'm not going to change how I do this.

977

:

Natasha Moharter: That

is so important as well.

978

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Being able to not just take it at, you

know, because you've said this now I'm

979

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going to, I have to change everything.

980

:

Because there are going to be

people that just don't agree with

981

:

us, and that's okay, that's okay.

982

:

Not comfortable.

983

:

I don't have to like it, I

can have feelings about it.

984

:

And we can still show up for our

next training, because somebody

985

:

out there needs to hear it.

986

:

Vanya Garabedian: It's like getting

comfortable with the uncomfortability.

987

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Natasha Moharter: Absolutely.

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And like you said, it's a skill.

989

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It's such an honor to have you here.

990

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This is newer for both of

us but here we are doing it.

991

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Showing up despite the discomfort

and being willing to be seen, so

992

:

that way we can make a bigger impact.

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Vanya Garabedian: And I just want to say

thank you because what an opportunity.

994

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Hopefully people learn more about

me and see what I'm doing and

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want to like come and hang out

either at the Ethical Provider

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Collective or one of my workshops.

997

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So I'm really super appreciative.

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:

Natasha Moharter: So where

can we find you online?

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Vanya Garabedian: So my website

is IntentionalPathCounseling.Com

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Natasha Moharter: For those of you

who are interested in learning more

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00:53:36,911 --> 00:53:41,241

about Vanya, her CEU trainings, and

the Ethical Provider Collective, we

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will link in the description below to

all of her resources, to her website.

:

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So again, Vanya, thank you so much

for your time and for being here and

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embracing discomfort with me and doing

something new and also being seen.

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I hope that this brings

lots of success for you.

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Vanya Garabedian: Thank you so much.

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What a privilege and honor for me as well.

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