Kimberly Rash: If you've been feeling like you're ready for something different, but you don't know really where to start, this episode is probably for you because there's a moment when you just know. You just know something isn't working anymore. You know, you've grown something, you know you can't keep doing the things the same way, but you don't quite know what to do next in that space.
That's the in-between space where you're not. Quite you used to be, but you're not who you're becoming yet. And that can be really uncomfortable. It can feel confusing, overwhelming, even a little scary because part of you is ready to move forward. And another part of you is like, but what if I do it wrong?
What if I make the wrong decision? What if I change? And everything around me changes too. So instead of moving, you stay right where you are. Not because you want to, but because you don't know where to begin. And I wanna take that pressure off of you today because you don't need a full plan. You don't need to know how everything's gonna work out.
You don't have to have everything figured out. You just need to know your next step. And I'm gonna show you how to do that. Let's talk about the InBetween season, You feel ready, but it's unclear, right? You, you wanna make the jump, but fear and hesitation, just really keeps you hanging out in that InBetween space.
And then we try to do it all at once, right? We just think if we jump in with both feet, we have to have it all figured out. And if we don't and we fail, then we're. We're silly and we shouldn't have even tried. but let's break this down into clearer steps, what it looks like when you do it in smaller steps.
Just one step, one step at a time because you're not stuck. You're just overwhelmed by too many options and not enough clarity.
I think for me, myself, a time when. I knew something had to change was just recently, In the practice that I work in, I've been there 21 years and my physician that I work for, she's an oral surgeon, she is five years older than me, so retirement for her is a little closer than it is for me. And so I started thinking and I always thought.
In my head, I'm not even sure if we ever discussed it. We have like this, this plan, we would retire together and the closer she's getting to retirement age, the more she's all like, eh, I'd like to speed that up a couple, a couple years. So instead of her retiring at 70 and me at 65, now it's looking like 65 and 60.
sometimes I'm sure she'd really like it to be 60 and that would only make me 55. And I'm like, well, who's gonna wanna hire a 55-year-old? Like, hello? So it really got me in my feels and, and really got me to start thinking like, well, what becomes of me? What do I do next? If she leaves and say a new person takes over and we don't like each other, or they don't wanna pay me my salary, because more seasoned people get most often a higher salary and maybe they won't wanna support that.
it really got me thinking about my future. Then I had to figure out what I wanted to do. Is this podcast going to make me money? I don't know. Is my new company Rooted Essentials, where I'm gonna be making beeswax wraps and fire cider and all the things that I already kind of make anyway, and selling them?
Is that gonna be my next job? I don't know, but unless I actually took the step. Put myself out there one little step at a time. How would I ever know? So it started with just inquiring with the town and then going from there, I was aligned with a, a podcast coach. Her name's Kim Parkinson. she's wonderful.
And this organically just started outta nowhere. And here I am. So I can tell you if I was to just jump in it and do it myself, if I was to just do it without researching or taking one little baby step at a time, I definitely would fail here. Could I still fail? Absolutely. the whole process of everything that I'm doing well completely change me.
I will learn something. I will morph. Into a different version of me just by walking through this experience. So I don't have to have it all figured out. I'm just, I'm just doing, and it is scary, but I'm doing it anyway. And so when we do things like this, right, when you're trying to transition, trying to change who you are and you're going through one thing to another, I do the root.
Release and rise, right? Like, that's kind of been my little mantra of what I, what I kind of say to myself. So if you're sitting there right now and you know, something in your life needs to change, but you don't know where to start, I want you to walk through something simple. this little mantra, root release, and rise.
And it's not complicated, it just kind of works. The reason we start here is because most people try to change their life by jumping straight into action. They try to fix everything. They try to change everything and figure everything out all at once, and it becomes overwhelming and they end up right back where they started.
So instead, we're gonna slow it down and we're gonna start with rooting. Rooting is about coming back to yourself. Nothing about you needs to change. These parts don't need to change. These are the parts of you that are already strong, that are already good, that are already aligned, but when you feel stuck, it's easy to forget these roots of who you are, right?
The things that have shaped you. It's easy to feel like everything is wrong or like you need to become a completely different person, but that's not necessarily true. I just want you to ask yourself. What do I actually like about myself? What feels true for me right now? What parts of me do I wanna keep and build from?
Because this is your foundation, and this is where clarity starts.
And once you've taken a moment to come back to yourself to recognize what's good and what's really true, the next step becomes a little clearer. And for me, after I've realized the rooted things about me, the things that I love, I am, I am honest, sometimes too much. I am giving, I'm loving. I'm generous.
Those would be some of the rooted things that I love about myself. And then I'm gonna go into the whole thing of releasing, right? Let's, let's figure out the parts of me that could either use some love or could just totally be gone. They just need to go. Uh, and this can be kind of hard because sometimes the things that we need to release are the things we've been holding onto the longest old beliefs.
Old patterns, old expectations, even versions of ourselves that we've outgrown or versions of ourselves, that we've chose to believe that we are, because that's what people told us we were. And it was not necessarily true. And it's not always obvious. Sometimes it just shows up as overthinking, hesitation, or that feeling of being stuck even when you know you want more.
So I want you to gently ask yourself, what am I holding onto that no longer feels aligned with who I want to be, who I'm growing into? What am I afraid of letting go of? What are emotional crutches? What are mental crutches things? Victimhood. Because of my childhood, because of that past relationship, those things, let 'em go.
What might be possible if I did do that right? What, what does that look like? If you let go of stories or words spoken over you that you believe, or words you've spoken over yourself that are, have become part of your belief system of who you are, when you look in the mirror, when you self-reflect, let's, let's let go of some of those things.
You can do them one at a time and listen, when you let go of them, I'm not saying in 24 hours you're gonna let go of something and, and then that's like, whoop, like set it and forget it. It's all done. You may have to do it every single day, every 24 hours until you truly believe it, until you truly have accepted that you don't need to believe these things anymore because you can't fully step into something new if you're still carrying around what no longer fits.
And from there, I sit there and think, all right, I've rooted, I'm releasing something and I'm purposely gonna rise into the next version of me, and whatever that looks like today, in the next 24 hours. So you've created that space, even just a little bit of that space, and this is where things are gonna start to shift.
This is where you're gonna be able to move forward. This is where you rise, and I want. To make this really simple for you, rising is not about becoming perfect. It's not about having a full plan or changing everything overnight. It's about stepping one step, one decision, one action, one small move in the direction of the life that you want.
Even if you don't feel it in your bones, even if you don't feel ready, even if you don't feel, Strong, even if you're unsure, even if it feels small, small is great. Small sometimes is better. Start a journal about your actual feelings so you can actually look at yourself, because that's how clarity comes, not from thinking, but from moving.
So I want you to ask yourself, what is one thing I can do in the next 24 hours that makes me move forward? Not 10 things, not everything, just one, and then just go, freaking do it.
Just do it.
Clarity comes from movement, not from thinking, that little system of root release and rise is something that I actually really do do. Kind of how I got like the Rooted Essentials Rooted to Rise podcast, and understanding that Rome wasn't built in a day. That full change comes from little steps every day and truly having the mindset to know.
What you want to look like, what you wanna feel like, how you wanna be seen by others, how you wanna pour into others, how you want other people to receive you. And you need to keep that in your mind's eye when you're doing this because your body is gonna resonate with who you wanna be and not who you were.
Your mind doesn't know the difference between your past and your future. Your brain doesn't know that. The emotions that your body's gonna feel, the endorphins that you're gonna feel. You just need to kind of make yourself feel as excited and and joyful as you would be when you're the version you wanna be and get in the practice of feeling that and seeing that.
I just wanna leave you with a couple of thoughts. If you take anything from this today, let it be this. You don't need to have everything filled out, filled out, figured out. You don't need a perfect plan. You don't need to become somebody completely different in order to change your life. You just need to come back to yourself, release what no longer fits, and take one step forward.
That is it. And I know it can feel small, but small steps are what actually create change, not the big overwhelming moments. The quiet decisions you make every day to do things differently. So again, in the next 24 hours, I want you to choose one thing, one step, one move that brings you closer to the version of you you're becoming.
And if you need a place to start, I created a simple reset guide for you that walks you through the root release and rise so you can get. Clear in your head and actually move forward. You can grab that in the show notes. Just take five or 10 minutes to come back to yourself because you're not stuck.
You're just in a moment of becoming, and you're allowed to grow through it at your own pace. I thank you so much for joining me today, and I'll see you and the next episode.
