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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Andrea Aguilar, an embodiment coach and psychedelic facilitator, to discuss the importance of self-care and balancing masculine and feminine energies. Andrea shares her personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and the impact of losing her mother at a young age. The conversation delves into the concept of embodiment, the significance of listening to one's body, and the transformative power of psychedelics. Andrea also offers insights on how to approach psychedelics safely and the importance of finding the right facilitator. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of self-discovery, healing, and the practices that support personal growth.

What We Explored This Episode

00:00:32: Introduction by Amie Barsky

00:02:36: Andrea Aguilar's Background and Journey

00:04:32: The Concept of Embodiment

00:07:07: The Role of the Nervous System in Embodiment

00:09:47: The Practice of Embodiment and Authenticity

00:17:03: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

00:24:43: Andrea's Personal Story of Loss and Healing

00:31:31: Introduction to Psychedelics for Healing

00:35:33: Finding the Right Facilitator for Psychedelic Experiences

00:38:05: How to Connect with Andrea Aguilar

00:39:10: Andrea's Daily Self-Care Practice

00:40:04: Closing Remarks and Gratitude

Memorable Quotes

“When we become an embodied leader, an embodied mother, embodied sister, it is being able to hold the fullness of our lives with grace, with compassion and dignity and reverence.”
"We are shifting into the next level of our human consciousness. And how we do that is we can start to play and manipulate the chemicals in our brain that bring us back to oneness, to a remembrance of who we are and why we're here."
"For most of my life, the word intuition didn't exist. The word self-love didn't exist. I was so programmed to believe that if I give everything outside myself, everyone else and everything, my full and divided attention and love and appreciation outside myself, that was what I was supposed to do."

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Amie Barsky 0:32 - 2:36

Hello, hello and welcome to the I come first podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish, it's self care. And self care is essential. Yes, you heard me right. Here we are flipping the script and I'm going to show you how. I'm your host, Amy Barsky, and I'm so excited you're here. If you're tired of feeling overworked and underappreciated, this is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a guide to help you break through your patterns, limiting beliefs and societal pressures to be perfect. These juicy weekly conversations with myself and guest experts will be filled with practical tools, advice, inspiring stories, and unstoppable energy. So if you're ready, then buckle up. It's time to ignite your inner fire and make I come first your new daily mantra. Today on icome first, we are diving into this fascinating realm with medicine woman drea Aguilera. Drea is an embodied leadership coach, an exceptional psychedelic facilitator, and a dear friend of mine. With her masterful ability to hold space for profound healing. Through psychedelics and transformative coaching, she guides you to feel fully embodied in your leadership and your authenticity. Get ready to have your curiosity satisfied as we unpack the wisdom of plant medicines. This is definitely an episode that you will not want to miss. And before we jump into today's episode, here is a quick and exciting announcement. All right, all right. Oh my gosh, what a beautiful opportunity we have today. Welcome to the Icon first podcast. Drea, my dear friend and beautiful, beautiful, conscious mama of the world that has supported so many women. Thank you for coming. I'm so excited to dive into this conversation, so let's get right to it. First and foremost, do a little snippets of how you arrived to where you're at sitting in this space today.

Andrea Aguilar 2:36 - 4:01

Oh goodness. A little snippet. Okay, bye Renee. A little bit about me my name is Drea Aguilar. I'm an embodiment coach, a psychedelic, basilic leader, and a mother. And how I arrived here is the story of my mother journey and at two, I lost my mom to a heart attack. She was only 25 and we had just immigrated from South Korea to California. And at the same time, my dad could not bear the grief and actually abandoned me and left me with his sister to grief. And so I have been on a journey of healing my abandonment wound and a big catalyst for that has been my own motherhood journey and my own birth trauma that happened and healing that somatically through my nervous system, healing my PTSD, depression, and anxiety through all of these beautiful modalities that, you know, have been such a great influence in my life and has really just in the last five years, have completely changed the way I be, how I interact with the world, and how I communicate with myself.

Amie Barsky 4:02 - 4:26

First at four loss. Thank you for sharing so openly and vulnerably. Wow. Like, my heart is just feeling so much compassion for your journey. And as a friend and colleague, being witness to each other's journey for quite a few years now, I feel so privileged. So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

Andrea Aguilar 4:28 - 4:30

We have seen it all.

Amie Barsky 4:32 - 5:09

Around. You know, one of the hot topics that is on the rise is this word embodiment. This term embodiment, specifically for women. I feel. It feels like, you know, it's. It's a common phrase used. It's, you know, I'm an embodied woman. And you'll see, like, the dancing on the Instagram or the tiktoks, and. And I'm all for dancing. Just. I want to be very clear on that. I'm curious, in your perspective, what Dorothy's embodiment means. You. What does an embodied you leader and embodied feminine, what is that for you?

Andrea Aguilar 5:10 - 7:06

I absolutely love this question, and you kind of prompted me. Right before we hopped on, I was thinking about it, and, you know, we spend so much time using 10% of our body, which is right here. And if you're not seeing us, it's from the neck up. Right? Right. We spin our wheels in our thought, in our ego, trying to protect us all the time, and we forget that 80% of our intelligence lives below the neck. And so when we can tune in to ourself, by slowing down, getting present and feeling connected, we can activate those intelligent intelligences from our heart, our womb, our pussy. Hopefully, I can say that on here and say, and even the intelligence of our feet, our feet, that holds us, it keeps us grounded. It's feeling in the body, and it's intuitive. Knowing those little veins and those little, you know, tense spots, that's all communication. That's all language, our body speaking to us. And so in tune with that communication. We are in our body embodiment. And yes, faith, the dancing's all great and feeling and into ourselves. But there's another level to that. When we become an embodied leader, an embodied mother, embodied sister, it is being able to hold the fullness of our lives with grace, with compassion and dignity and reverence. Right. And then also being able to communicate from that place, which I'm still working on. And I feel that for me is embodiment.

Amie Barsky 7:07 - 9:47

I love that. I love that so much. And I really love that you brought it back to the nervous system and how it's always communicating. Our body is always communicating. Our heart space has incredible information to be to us all the time. And I also love that you brought it to the feet. Like that grounded sensation of connecting not only to, to our own feet, but then to root into, we'll say, gonna go a little woo pachamama, right? Really being in the earth and allowing ourselves to feel that fart beat as well. And it is so important, you know, that we listen to our intuition. And for most of my life, first off, the word into it, intuition didn't exist. The word self love didn't exist. I was so that concept of what are you even talking about? Because I was so programmed to believe that if I give everything outside myself, everyone else and everything, my full and divided attention and love and appreciation outside myself, that was, that's what I was supposed to do. There wasn't an internal dialogue of filling up your own hack that didn't exist for many decades. And so this concept of embodiment, right, bringing it into the body, the internal landscape is powerful. And I like to add to everything you shared, which was extremely valuable, is it's the walking of the wall, right? I'm not just saying, oh, I'm this, and I do these things and I'm not just doing to check the box. Oh, I did my meditation, I did my dance, I did my journaling, I did my fill in the blank to say I did it in check the box. That it's, how am I arriving on a daily basis? Like you said, when it comes to relationships, how am I showing up powerfully in relationship to myself, to my friend, my community, my clients, my parents, my partners, my children, whatever it might be, it's that aspect of it. And also I have to put this in here because my brain goes, it's gotta be perfect. And if I thought they were bad human, I'm a bad person, right? So we are still human beings and that comes responsibility. So yes to the embodiment, yes to bringing all of that and walking the walk and remembering that we're human. So let have self compassion and yeah, that we just get to take responsibility when we get into those ways of, you know, reacting without actually feeling first and going, oh, that's my own shit coming up right now. Maybe I shouldn't say that to that.

Andrea Aguilar9:47 - 9:58

Person all the time. I'd like to add something. I'd like to add the point of checking the boxes, right?

Amie Barsky 9:58 - 9:59



And it's like if I meditate, then I'll feel better when I go outside. Then I'll feel better when it's like, actually we get to flip that around and like, train ourselves. Those are all modalities in which we can do the reps, train ourselves to feel that way, to create those habits that then turn into lifestyle when you aren't even, you know, thinking about it anymore. Oh, I have to be happy, right? It's just it. I feel that would be like the true, like, hitting that, like, pinnacle peak of embodiment is when you are being this way at all time and it's okay and giving ourselves that permission and grace to be human and fuck up. But also just like, know that that is our new baseline feeling is that I can feel this peace, joy and happiness and fulfillment at all times because I'm honoring who I am and why I'm here on this planet.

Amie Barsky:

Yes. And like you were saying, it's building the practice, building the muscle to practice this because it's already innately in us and we forget. We forget that it already exists. Joy already exists innately within. Love already exists. Light already exists. It's. We're so disconnected from it. So these amazing practices get to be a part of that so that we can ignite it within. And I love that you really brought this forward because I feel and I'll be my own experiences for a while. When I was new to these practices and these ways of creating space to open up the love and life within me that I didn't really know it was there because I thought it was an extra healthy. I was handing my power over to the meditation or the breath or the yoga or the whatever the thing was that was fueling me. I was giving my power away versus going, I'm empowering myself. And this practice supports that amplifying of whatever the opinion that I desire more often within, you know, if I want to feel the joy that's available. Sometimes, you know, a practice can help amplify it, but know that it's not that doing the thing, it's me, you choosing that totally from the inside, you know?

Andrea Aguilar:

And I notice a lot of ways in which we can get in our own way when it comes to that type of practice, is believing that it's hard. Oh, it's so hard. Tell me for my clients all the time, oh, it's so hard doing this work. Oh, it's so hard loving this person. Oh, it's so hard being myself. We're already linguistically putting us in a box that is impossible. Or when we're saying we're trying, right. It's like, no love. You're doing it right now. It's being in the moment and seeing yourself in this space of, like, I'm there, I'm here, and I'm in this space because I'm aware and making art, just decisions to feel more joyful, feel more fulfilled, right? And it's not some, like, destination we're waiting to get to finally feel that. Feeling it in this now moment that you're creating that future memory, as Doctor Joe dispenser puts it. So it's like really cultivating our language and attuning and nourishing and feeding into our body, and then also giving ourselves the capacity and space to relax our mind and regulate our emotion.

Amie Barsky:

I love all of this so, so, so important. And I really want to touch on the point that you said around. It's so hard to be myself because. And again, I'm turning the mirror back on me to give it as an example of. I pretended to be somebody I wasn't for so long. I pretended to be the good girl, the people pleaser. I put all these masks on because one, that's what I thought would get me what I wanted, which was to feel that fit in, let that belong, feel appreciated, right? So I pretended to be all these things because I thought if I was. Well, I was taught at a very young age I was sensitive and too much. So all of those things said, you can't be yourself. So put all these other masks on to fit in. And so, yes, it would definitely and still is a practice for me to be myself. And sometimes it is like, oh, shit, if I should, how is it going to be received? And that's the gain we get to play when we practice. The muscle of. I kept the thought, am I being authentic and being me, or am I pretending not to know or not to be something for the sake of fitting in or getting something else in return, that love or that belonging.

Andrea Aguilar:

So, yeah, I would just love to reflect to you, by the way, because we have known each other for so long, like, the level of range that you are willing go with your personality and your emotions and your vibrancy. It's so inspirational just to see the range that Amy has. And I'm just like, I'm enamored by it. I'm like, wow, this is incredible. If. What if we were all this way too much, quote unquote right, or sensitive. It's just you having this, like. Like, outward vulnerability that, like, gives a lot of people permission to be themselves.

Amie Barsky:

Yeah. Thank you. Thank you. I receive all of that, so thank you. Don't make me tear up. And it's interesting because as a child, that was a thing. Literally, constantly. It was, why are you crying? What's wrong with you? This was a constant conversation. And I'm like, I don't think. Right. And so I started to shut that off. And then as I grew into my own body, meaning in body comfort of this is who I am, and I get to accept all of me, which is still an ongoing practice, to realize that vulnerability is a gift. Vulnerability and allowing people to witness is a gift for me to free myself of any of the guilt and shame I might be carrying around it. And like you mentioned, that gift of the permission slip for others. And so this is something I have had to got to practice being comfortable enough to go, okay, this is simply who I am, and I'm sharing my journey as a Christian slip as a way of going, hey. Cause I know I'm not alone. And I think that was that. I know that was my story most of my life. I'm alone. Nobody understands. Shut down, shut down, shut, dissociate, depress. Yeah. Shut the world out, which created a lot of insane depression.

Andrea Aguilar:

Yeah, exactly. So, copy paste.

Amie Barsky:

Copy paste. Yeah. I love that. So let's jump into the balancing, which is a weird word, because one of our mentors firmly disagrees with the word balance. However, let's put it out there for the sake of the term balancing the masculine and feminine energy. Like, what? What is to succeed in both professional and personal lives?

Andrea Aguilar:

Like, there's something that, you know, another word, maybe mercy could be it.

Amie Barsky:

I like to say.

Andrea Aguilar:

For me, oh, my goodness. This whole topic is something I've been absolutely working on by swinging all the way into one pendulum, then to the next, and then now I'm. Right now I'm, like, finding that balance. And what I'd like to share is, I spent most of my life in. In my masculine. I was raised by my father and my stepmother didn't know too much about being a girl. And so I thought that I had to prove myself through my. How I excel. What was I succeeding in? I needed to be number one in everything, or I would be a failure. And that is really just, like, a mindset that my dad put in me.

Amie Barsky:

A lot of pressure.

Andrea Aguilar:

That creates a lot of pressure. I mean, it served me well. Like, I've gotten so far, and with this mindset, that of ambition and drive and motivation. And, you know, in college, I was given the compliment, which isn't really a compliment anymore, but I was the hardest person that that person knew, the hardest working person that they knew. And I. I was like, oh, that's such a great compliment. No, I don't want to be the hardest working person anymore. Like, that is not serving me. I'm a projector. Four to 6 hours of work days is my prescription for one half life. And so I worked super hard throughout my twenties, which led to alcoholism and addiction and numbing out. And in my thirties, I worked nine years in reality television as a producer. And in this industry where you cannot say no or you are easily replaced, that was another condition that was put on me. And I was like, okay. And so working twelve to 16 hours a day, accounting for every minute, every hour, every person, every meal, every hotel, every piece of equipment, every vehicle, I needed to know it all. I needed to know exactly how it was running. And then I finally quit that because I was depressed and anxious. And then I became a mother and it just went all out the window or anything. Can't keep track of text messages or calls. I'm pretty sure a piece of my brain is missing. And it was also this invitation to really fully step into learning what it means to be in my feminine. I'm going to quote that. And being in that flow, right? And that's stillness. And what I'm really working right now is the act of receiving, being in receivership. And so how able to balance that as a mother, which is not very feminine. It's actually quite masculine, especially when you're a single mom, of keeping track of schedules and taking care of like our children and applying discipline and all these things while also being an entrepreneur and then also a mother to many adult babies. That is my client requires balancing ugly all the time. And when I'm not in balance, what happens is I get sick, I get knocked out, and I can't work for a month. And so I get to have these preemptive rituals and exercises and practices to put me in a place where I can pull it all that comes back to embodiment, right? And for me it is actually being quite masculine and strategic about my time and having schedule that is time blocked, that has prioritized the times in which I get to be in my feminine, which is the self care, which is the stillness, the time of being in nature. And I say all that and I'm still a work in progress because my natural proclivity is to work, you know, is to stay on top of it.

Amie Barsky:

Well, you're decoding decades of a pattern. Yeah. And it's only been, you know, a quarter of your lifetime, probably, or something like that. So can you imagine, reapatter 30 years, and you've been in the practice of this new way of being and living for, let's say, I don't know, five to ten years? So it's that. And so again, we're back to compassion and we're still human.

Andrea Aguilar:

Yeah, but, I mean, it's more like four years. Like, I didn't really understand whatever, like, this work. Right. And it's so much a part of the work that I get to do with my clients is like, understanding and dismantling any of the conditions that made us believe that we had to prove ourselves through how hard we work.

Amie Barsky:

Yeah. And that's it. It's about the work. I am only worth what I did, what I produce, what I write. That is my work. And it's unfortunate is what we are programmed to do or to believe.

Andrea Aguilar:

We're not human doing. We're human being. And I think that's, like, the part of the feminine that gets to be called forward is to be in full love and acceptance and allowance of how we be and exactly where we're at in the present moment.

Amie Barsky:

And that feels so alive for me right now. As I'm hearing you say that, I'm like. The words are, like, ruminating inside. There gets to be a relationship between one's own masculine and feminine. It's not one or the other. It's, we exist here because both came in. Right? Both had to come alive and go online in order for us to be here. So it's that energy of respecting my own masculine and what really serves and support me, in a way, because I'm a very efficient person. Because similar to you, masculine was my underlying drive through my entire life, which I actually learned from my mother, not my father. And so.

Andrea Aguilar:


Amie Barsky:

The irony there, you know, when we. When we say things like, I'll never.

Andrea Aguilar:

Be like my mom or I'll never.

Amie Barsky:

Be like so and so. And we're like, oh, I'm just like them. And so it's the accepted. And then so what is. And then how to work with it. So that actually works to my present day life, not the pack programming. And be stuck in that vicious cycle of whatever the thing is that you might be going through. Anxiety, depression, feeling alone, feeling not enough stories that we tell ourselves. Yeah, and, wow, all of that.

Andrea Aguilar:

I want to go back to my story, when my father, right when he left at the time of my mom passing, what did it do? What effect did that have on me? That baby girl who was like, well, I just lost everything. And the one thing, my whole world has collapsed. I don't even know where I am. I'm in a different country. Who are all these people? And then for the masculine to drop me have created a severe mistrust of the masculine, that it can't hold me, that it will eventually leave or it will essentially or eventually just disappear. And so I've been unpacking this for, like, the last seven, eight months of recognizing that I had been so hyper focused on losing my mother and that maternal and a feminine working on that for the last, you know, 37 years meant to only finally be ready to be like, okay, but there's this other piece that has been running the show for so long, and I didn't even realize. And how it comes up is like, it affects my money, it affects my relationships with men, it affects my relationships with women, because I have this bracing fear of let's run away before I get left and abandoned. Before I abandon or get abandoned. So just been interesting to acknowledge that part of me and acknowledge that father mood that I have and how it is affecting all areas of my life and bringing in awareness and consciousness to do the work to heal that masculine part of me so I can come back and spell it.

Amie Barsky:

May I ask a perhaps more personal question? Sure. So you spoke about how a few months ago, seven, eight, I think, was the number that something happened that maybe perhaps shined a light on this particular wound, this particular thing. What was that?

Andrea Aguilar:

It was, I think, a combination of things. It just kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. You know what? I think it was actually when we were at burning man, it was like. Right, it was. It was at burning man. And I had really, really big hearing about my mother. And then when that felt like it had, like, lifted itself, I had this ceremony where I recognized, and this was with Sigrid and the mother women. I had realized I never grieved or closed the book on the moment my mom died. I never said goodbye in my consciousness, in my conscious life. And I did. And then that was just like, well, now that back chapter is closed. Here's all the rest of it. And then, you know, I was also going through a relationship shift really bad, like, heartache. And recognizing that in my relationships. And I realized this very recently, in my relationships with men, I have made them the villain and I've actually, and I'm going to be honest here, I have made them the villain. And it's almost like the dark feminine wants to defend all the men that have hurt women. Absolutely resentment to hurt them or put them in this box that they're not ever going to be good enough and they're always going to drop me whether I can't provide or they can't take care of me. And what is the result? All the things that I've just, you know, like made them out to be. And so it's just, it's been like, oh, oh my God. Moment. Like, whoa, haz. Let's take a really big look here. And if there is the part that I'm calling in and desiring and wanting the desire to be hell, the desire for a man be like, babe, I got you. Don't worry about it. You do your crazy little witchy thing over there and I got the rest. You're faithless me. You're no way to be. Calm down. And how it gets to happen is doing that for myself, being the man in my relationship and saying, babe, I've got you.

Amie Barsky:

And oh my gosh. So thank you for sharing. Thank you for going there. It's almost like full circle right now. In the beginning of our conversation we're back to embodying the masculine feminine energy that exists within all of us. To say, I've got my own back. I am not going to self abandon. I've got my own back. And when my partner in shine shows up in the divine timing of whatever that is, that person will also be able to say that and I'll be in receivership of it in a more authentic and truthful way because I've owned my own internal of I've got me first. For me, that's the game, that's the medicine that I've been working with lately because yes to all of it, yes. Gosh, we could just yammer on all day long. I do want to really touch on this very I feel potent question because you are a psychedelic facilitator and psychedelics have had extremely impact on my own life. The transformation best healing that ever had have been under particular plant medicines. And so what would you say to a listener who might be interested or curious about psychedelics and what that could do for their healing journey but they're scared to death. Could even like step into that arena?

Andrea Aguilar:

I love this question. And I'll start with. I'll start with a scared to death part. That scared is part of you. That is unwilling to let go. It's the ego part of you that says, but wait, we are used to feeling this way every single day. I know that it's not really serving you and it's keeping you from your dreams and your desires, but we know that we won't die if we just stay right here. And so can we shift that fear, right? It's the same energy as excitement. And so just to see it as, like, a form of reverence that we're able to be in communion with all of this, all these medicines that nature has provided, right? Nature doesn't make any mistake, Pachamama. Mother Earth has created everything we will ever need, and it's all on purpose. And so why these psychedelics are on the rise and becoming more popular trending is because we are shifting into the next level of our human consciousness. And how we do that is we. We can start to play and manipulate the chemicals in our brain that bring us back to oneness, to a remembrance of who we are and why we're here, and it pulls us out and gives us this bird's eye view of, like, oh, okay, I see earth, mama. Life, it's all on purpose. There's all like. It's all for a reason. And it comes and enters in your life at specific times. These psychedelics, right? It's like that shoulder tap, and they're like, hey, are you ready? And you're going to keep hearing the voice, and it's going to keep showing up in your vortex, because those are clues. And it's telling you like, hey, I'm calling you forward. This is divine intelligence at its best and knows exactly how to work with you and what you need so that you can elevate into the next iteration or of your human being. And all of that to say is, it's okay to feel scared. And in order to not feel as scared is to find the right facilitator that is going to walk you through this process. And that might look like going into the jungles of the group, that might look like going to a small group ceremony. We're working one on one with a private facilitator who will pour in all their energy and attention on you. And so it's finding the right facilitator, the right set and setting that makes you feel the most safe to let go. I think it gets a little sticky when we're entering the space out of one, desperation, two, confusion, or three, magic bullet, fix me. Those will not work. Mess the top. It will only make it a little bit harder before it gets better. And again, it's all perfect, and it's all good timing. I've had some. I've had my ass handed to me when I thought I needed something to do it now, and I wasn't doing it for the right reason. But if you ask question, you know, who's your facilitator? Where does this medicine come from? Why do you do this? And these are my intentions. Can you guide me and help me through my healing process? Once you have all those questions answered that settle in your body, does this feel like a yeah to me? Then you'll know, right? And, I mean, I could go on.

Amie Barsky:

I absolutely love that beautiful answer. To those who are curious, and I'd like to invite in the simple curiosity isn't underlined yet. The fact that you're asking the question, you know, that a listener might be saying, gosh, you know, I've thought about it, or I'm curious. That's already a portal that's just kind of cracking it open, right? Like, even more. And, you know, even for myself, in my own journey, I had. It was a clear time. It was a clear, it's time. And I didn't understand what that meant because everyone said, oh, you'll know. You'll know, you'll know. It was. There was already curiosity that I was kind of, like, deflecting, like, no, later, later. And then I was like, oh, no, it's a yes, it's time. And so, yeah, and it's different for everybody. Like you said, totally different for everybody. And we can go. We can, let's say, ayahuasca journeys. And that part for sure.

Andrea Aguilar:

I heard your conversation over story. I will. I do want to add, you know, like, I am finding such great benefit in the micro low dose protocols when working with psychedelic. There are micro dosing programs, and you can do it with different medicines as well as like, this introduction with low doses, just so that it can really land body and you start to build rapport and trust and a relationship with these medicines. I feel like we live in a culture that says we have to go real hard, do the Herok dose, full blast off all these things. When it's like, actually, when we stay in, like, that middle place where we're still kind of human and in our body, we can actually retain and remember more and then actually kind of, like, start to work that in your mind and rebuild these new neural pathways of thoughts and beliefs because you're still kind of sitting in your human. So while I have to say, I.

Amie Barsky:

Haven'T put no other fibrinosis. So thank you for that introduction to it as we start to wrap up because we are at time and time. What is time? First off, how can people connect with you outside of our podcast?

Andrea Aguilar:

Awesome. The best way is through Instagram. Mother again, that's mother. If and when you follow me, just know that there are imposter handles that look like my name and aren't my name and might ask you, beloved, for a reading, please say no. Just block them. I always have to say that and it's awful. But you can also go to i offer private retreats, one on one work, which include integration work, which is, I think, really important conversation for another day. I do group ceremonies for women and also offer online microdosing protocol.

Amie Barsky:

Amazing. And I will have all of that in the notes with details for those who are listening. And, Dre, what would you say your one I come first daily practices to take care of you yourself and filling up your own cup.

Andrea Aguilar:

I'm like, okay, because I want to do this. I come first orgasm. Yeah. Yes. No, definitely when needed, for sure. But as a daily practice, I would say getting in cold water, cold showers, cold plunging. It is what helps me reset my baseline every day. And there's nothing more worse body to experience the shock of cold. And so what happens is I get to regulate myself. So anything that comes out my way during the day isn't so reactionary. It's more like, well, I got it. You won't brace.

Amie Barsky:

I love that. I love that. Kudos to you on the cold showers, the cold bath. I am not there yet. I've done, I've played, I've dabbled. Not a regular practice. Don't know. Full transparency will be. However, perhaps if I had a fool or a with the tub, maybe it would be. Maybe. Maybe someday. Well, anyway, thank you so much for sharing everything here. My God, so much insight, so much information. Please, everybody, go and follow drea. She's an epic woman being. She's a beautiful mama, and her heart is always on fire to serve and support human beings. And so, yes, to all of it, thank you for being here. We definitely got to come back and do some more conversations around specifics of psychedelic practices and things like that. And until next time, have a beautiful, beautiful rest of your day, and I will see you soon. Thank you. Thanks for tuning into today's episode. I know your time is valuable, and I'm so grateful that we get a chance to share this space together. If you're wanting more from myself or any of my guests right now. I am a hell yes to that. I love your enthusiasm, so let's make it happen. Simply check out the links in the show notes for all the information on the latest offerings, programs and possibilities to connect outside this space. Or feel free to send me a DM on Instagram. Amybarskycoaching and of course, if you have any reflections or feedback, I am all ears. Also, if you feel this episode supported you, will you please leave a rating and a review. Your reviews really help people to discover the show and if you know of anyone you feel would benefit from this podcast, please pass it along. A special thanks to my parents for always watching over me and for my team at fullcast for making this show possible. I cant wait to be back in your ears next week. Trust trust me, you won't want to miss this next episode.




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