Joey B welcomes listeners to an engaging discussion with Coralyn Jewel, a multifaceted entrepreneur and certified master sexologist, known for her vibrant personality and extensive work in the adult industry.
The episode delves into the intricate dynamics of swinging, emphasizing the paramount importance of communication and consent within such relationships.
Coralyn shares insights into her journey from Olympic figure skater hopeful to a prominent figure in the adult entertainment scene, and she candidly discusses the emotional complexities that can arise in open relationships.
Additionally, she introduces her innovative CBD lubricant, designed to enhance intimacy while prioritizing safety and comfort. As the conversation unfolds, listeners are invited to explore the nuances of sexuality and the importance of self-acceptance in a society often laden with stigmas.
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Hey, what's up, everybody?
Speaker A:You know me, my name is Joey B.
Speaker A:This is this degree.
Speaker A:Welcome back to the show.
Speaker A:It's been a while.
Speaker A:It's been a while.
Speaker A:We got a new name.
Speaker A:I got a new shirt on.
Speaker A:And I'll tell you why.
Speaker A:We got a new guest coming in, coming on.
Speaker A:It's gonna be a great time.
Speaker A:Coralyn Jewel is here, everybody.
Speaker A:Coralynjewel.com is the spot.
Speaker A:She is.
Speaker A:She is.
Speaker A:She does a lot of things.
Speaker A:She's an entrepreneur.
Speaker A:She's a certified master sexologist.
Speaker A:She's a lifestyle coach.
Speaker A:I got so many questions if you want to get in on the fun.
Speaker A: -: Speaker A:We're over on Twitter.
Speaker A:What's up, Twitter?
Speaker A:We're over on YouTube.
Speaker A:What's up, YouTube?
Speaker A:We're over, man.
Speaker A:We should [email protected] and we will be.
Speaker A:Blindknowledge.com is the spot.
Speaker A:That's hot.
Speaker A:That's enough from me.
Speaker A:People are probably wondering why I'm wearing a colored shirt and what the hell I'm doing.
Speaker A:I'll tell you why.
Speaker A:If you've seen this woman's videos, you would know that she likes men in collared shirts.
Speaker A:Carolyn Jewel, welcome to.
Speaker B:Hi, thanks for having me.
Speaker B:How are you?
Speaker A:I am good.
Speaker A:I am good.
Speaker A:I'm so glad we could finally do this.
Speaker A:How did you get into all of this stuff?
Speaker A:Like you do so much stuff.
Speaker A:And that's really what we're going to touch on throughout this interview, I think is the best way to approach it.
Speaker A:You're an entrepreneur.
Speaker A:You are an author.
Speaker A:You have a number one, ladies and gentlemen, she has a number one international book.
Speaker A:This woman does a lot.
Speaker A:And we're going to touch on all of it.
Speaker A:We're going to get touchy feely.
Speaker A:Let's start here.
Speaker A:And it's just something that's been on my mind for a long time.
Speaker A:C, B D, Intimate oil.
Speaker A:What is it?
Speaker A:How did you come up with it?
Speaker A:What's the deal there?
Speaker B:Okay, so the CBD oil, that was probably one of my most recent projects, I think I launched a year ago.
Speaker B:I'm an adult performer and when you are on set and they know the director, the producers, they pass you lube.
Speaker B:It's always tastes like crap.
Speaker B:It's sticky, it gets tacky.
Speaker B:You know, it smells terrible.
Speaker B:Whatever it is.
Speaker B:I just, I just, I can't stand the loop.
Speaker B:So a friend of mine had asked me if I'd ever tried CBD lube.
Speaker B:And I said what's the difference?
Speaker B:And she says, well, it's organic, it's PH balanced, and, you know, it'll help you with relaxation and especially like if you're sore or if somebody's tried anal, something like that.
Speaker B:So I was like, well, I don't really endorse anything without trying it.
Speaker B:So I went out and I tried a couple CBD lubricants on the market.
Speaker B:But the problem is if they are coconut based, you can't use them with a condom.
Speaker B:And if they are water based, then they're still a little bit sticky.
Speaker B:So I decided I was going to, you know, get together with some scientists and embark on a journey to create a lubricant that had no taste, no smell, you know, helped your muscles relax, soothing, PH balanced, organic, and, you know, could be ingested.
Speaker B:Because if you look at the ingredients in lube, you'd be surprised what you're ingesting because you're ingesting it.
Speaker A:I have never, I have never looked at the ingredients in lube.
Speaker A:I should probably do that, go look.
Speaker B:At the ingredients in lube.
Speaker B:And then.
Speaker B:So my, my lubricant has three ingredients.
Speaker B:It's 100 ingestible.
Speaker B:I'm not saying drink a bottle, okay, legal system in the United States of America, but you can ingest it.
Speaker B:But we, what we did is we actually extracted the thc.
Speaker B:And the reason that was a real, it was an iffy decision.
Speaker B:But the reason I did that is because anybody who is in the military or, you know, if they even come over to my trade shows in my booth and they say, like.
Speaker B:And I said, you want to feel it or touch it?
Speaker B:They go, no, I can't touch CBD because I can still test for it when in the military.
Speaker B:And so.
Speaker B:And because they get nervous with the thc, even if it's under the zero.
Speaker B:So we do not have THC in ours.
Speaker B:I might do another, another, you know, another product and include the thc.
Speaker B:So that would be two products, but I just couldn't do both at the same time.
Speaker B:So that's my lubricant and, and I'm excited about it.
Speaker B:It's available on my website.
Speaker B:It's available in some stores.
Speaker B:And I've got a possible deal with the Love Store in Mexico.
Speaker B:He owns a bunch of Mexico bunch of the Love stores.
Speaker B:And so maybe with him as well.
Speaker B:So we'll see.
Speaker A:That is amazing.
Speaker A:It's actually over @coral and jewel.com.
Speaker A:I, I gotta mention erotica, TV, swinger, lifestyle jewelry, all kinds of good stuff.
Speaker A:What's up with the jewelry?
Speaker A:What's.
Speaker A:What's going on there?
Speaker B:I make it.
Speaker B:So that kind of came about because I do lifestyle coaching.
Speaker B:And so I.
Speaker B:My pr.
Speaker B:My outshine team was my pr and they had mentioned to me that they.
Speaker B:I should do something when I coach my couples, like, give them something to, you know, symbolize that they're going into the lifestyle as a couple.
Speaker B:Always remember that why they're there.
Speaker B:And so I, you know, as he said, you know, maybe a crystal or this or that.
Speaker B:And I dec. Decided, why not make swinger jewelry?
Speaker B:Well, first I looked online, and it's so expensive, so I decided to make my own, and so started doing that, and now I have an Etsy store, and I have it on my website, and I'm actually branding out and also doing like.
Speaker B:Like positive energy, like karma stuff like this.
Speaker B:So what I'm doing is I make the jewelry.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Where you would not know that that's the swinger symbol right there.
Speaker B:That's the universal symbol for swinging.
Speaker A:You're gonna have to educate me on.
Speaker A:On.
Speaker A:On all that because I. I have no idea.
Speaker A:I'm sure some of our viewers and listeners have no idea.
Speaker A:Oh, how.
Speaker A:How'd you get into it?
Speaker A:What's.
Speaker A:How would you define even?
Speaker B:I had a lifestyle event last weekend, and even, like, my members of my community were like, what's the symbol?
Speaker B:And I said, that's the swinger symbol.
Speaker B:That's the universal.
Speaker B:And they didn't even know it.
Speaker B:So that's how the screens.
Speaker B:I make my jewelry that you can still wear it out and about, but, yes, discreet.
Speaker B:I made the earrings I make.
Speaker B:I'm like, having a blast.
Speaker B:I love it.
Speaker B:I think I like it more than porn.
Speaker B:Is that bad?
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I'm gonna stop playing with the screen now.
Speaker A:How'd you get into this, this gig?
Speaker B:Well, it all.
Speaker B:I mean, that's what I wrote my book about.
Speaker B:My book is pretty much, you know, how do you go from Olympic figure skater hopeful for South Africa to married living in Sweden to divorced, you know, and then selling panties on the line online to make money, to webcaming, to content creating, to dancing, to directing and in the foreign industry, to working in the foreign industry and so on and so on and so on.
Speaker B:So that's how, you know, and where I ended up today.
Speaker B:But we got involved in the swinging lifestyle because we had a client that requested a video of my husband and I having sex, and he said, okay, I'll do it, but not letting somebody else film us that we know.
Speaker B:So we got like, some complete strangers to do it.
Speaker B:And then it didn't work.
Speaker B:Got too drunk.
Speaker B:So nervous.
Speaker B:Got drunk, passed out, woke up in the morning.
Speaker B:I looked at him, I said, we didn't do the video, huh?
Speaker B:He says, no, but I think I like that.
Speaker B:So, like, liked having people around.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Yeah, so that's kind of how we got involved.
Speaker B:And I'm actually divorced because of the lifestyle.
Speaker B:And so a lot of.
Speaker B:A lot of my message to people is that if you, you know, you know, if you're going into this to save your marriage, it's not going to work.
Speaker B:And so I offer guidance on the things that I seen.
Speaker B:I now own a lifestyle club.
Speaker B:I have 20,000 members in my club.
Speaker B:And it's all about.
Speaker B:Yeah, so what I do is, you know, teaching people the, The.
Speaker B:The guy, like the stuff that I wish I had been guided on.
Speaker B:I wish I had somebody to turn to because we made every mistake in the book.
Speaker B:My husband and I made it.
Speaker B:So that's why we're divorced.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker A:And is that.
Speaker A:That's what your books are about?
Speaker A:Is that correct?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So my first book is.
Speaker B:It's called when the Ice Melts, the Story of Coral and Jewelry.
Speaker B:That's my first book.
Speaker B:And that is, you know, kind.
Speaker B:You know, it's just.
Speaker B:It really.
Speaker B:I think a lot of people read it there.
Speaker B:My reviews are on Amazon, and it's available on Amazon, Kindle and Audible, and it's also available on my website if you want a signed version.
Speaker B:But it's really just, you know, everybody seems to relate to it because we all are told, you know, you're going to get married, you're going to have, you know, the house that.
Speaker B:Why picket fence, the two dogs, the, you know, the kids, the dog.
Speaker B:You're going to go to college, you're going to, you know, work a 9 to 5 job, and God forbid you step out of those, you know, those expectations.
Speaker B:You're looked down upon.
Speaker B:And so a lot of us live our lives for other people, you know, to make our family happy or to impress them.
Speaker B:And then you.
Speaker B:So many times we hear, I call it the I should have what a coulda syndrome, which is, you know, you hear people say, I should have left that relationship sooner.
Speaker B:I wasn't happy, or I shouldn't have been in that job.
Speaker B:But, you know, now I'm 65 years old and I'm starting all over.
Speaker B:And so that's a lot of, like, my book is, like, all these different things that have taken me, paths that I, you know, I wanted to detour, but I had to stay on track because I knew that was what was expected of me.
Speaker A:That happens a lot to a lot of people, too, for sure.
Speaker B:A lot of people.
Speaker B:A lot of people.
Speaker B:I mean, I travel and I do seminars all over, and I do seminars about embracing your sexuality and being who you want to be and living your life for you and.
Speaker B:And then my second book is going to be all about things I've seen, being in the lifestyle as an single couple running a swingers club and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker A:So, hey, if you're listening, if you're watching this, Coral and Jewel.
Speaker A:Coral and Jewel.
Speaker A:Dot com.
Speaker A:My name is Joey B.
Speaker A:We're over at this degree.
Speaker A:It's a podcast.
Speaker A:I own Blind knowledge.
Speaker A:Check out blindknowledge.com Enough about me.
Speaker A:More about Cor Lynn.
Speaker A:Cora Lynn.
Speaker A:Such a beautiful name.
Speaker A:Is there a story behind that?
Speaker B:There's a little bit of a story.
Speaker B:I mean, what I never realized until recently, actually, is that my name has the word oral in it.
Speaker B:Did you know that?
Speaker B:Think about that.
Speaker A:I did not notice that.
Speaker B:O, R, A, L, Y, N Lynn.
Speaker A:I guess so.
Speaker B:That goes along very well in the porn industry.
Speaker B:It was just a combination of, like, my dancer name and.
Speaker B:And, you know, someone said, well, you can't.
Speaker B:You can't be in the industry as.
Speaker B:As.
Speaker B:As your.
Speaker B:My dancer name was Nikki Jewelry.
Speaker B:And that's too.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker B:Nikki is too common.
Speaker B:How many porn star nickies do we know?
Speaker B:And so, you know, my.
Speaker B:My webcam, I was lady paradise, and then my website was Paradise Panties for you.
Speaker B:This was like back in the day.
Speaker B:And then, you know, then I went to, you know, people would say, well, what's your real name?
Speaker B:And I'm like, Nikki.
Speaker B:And then they were like, okay, Nikki what?
Speaker B:And I'm like, Nikki Jewel.
Speaker B:And so, I mean, just comes out of my house.
Speaker B:I'm like, that's cool.
Speaker A:That's cool, though.
Speaker A:That's very.
Speaker A:That's very unique.
Speaker A:I viewed some of your videos and it's very.
Speaker A:Y', all, if you haven't noticed, if you haven't saw it, if you've never heard of Coralyn Jewel, you have.
Speaker A:Now, I definitely recommend checking out some of these videos if you are above the age of just 18.
Speaker B:I think it's 18.
Speaker B:I think it's 18.
Speaker B:And I have a. I have content on my website, and I have a.
Speaker B:My website, we just rebranded everything.
Speaker B:So my website's got my podcast, my Blogs, my coaching information, my lifestyle jewelry, my books, my merchandise and my content.
Speaker B:And I think that's all.
Speaker B:And I also have an Etsy store.
Speaker B:And the Etsy, the Etsy store.
Speaker B:I, I, I actually run my own Etsy store.
Speaker B:So I'm, I upload there more my website, I have to give it to my guy and he has to do it.
Speaker B:So if he's listening, he's slow.
Speaker B:He's very slow.
Speaker B:So if I pick it up, dude, I do, I handle all the content on my website and the blogs on my website.
Speaker B:But I think he does my store different platforms, so I haven't learned that yet.
Speaker B:So Etsy has all my stuff and it's called Jules Custom Gems or Jules Lifestyle Custom Gems, I think.
Speaker A:Which one do you have?
Speaker B:No, it's on there.
Speaker B:I just changed it because it was Jules Lifestyle Gems and then because I'm now also doing like positive energy jewelry and not only swinger jewelry, I changed it to Jewels custom gems.
Speaker B:I think, I think I dig it.
Speaker A:I dig it.
Speaker A:As an entrepreneur, isn't branding just a bit?
Speaker A:Yes, and sometimes it's just, it's.
Speaker B:Well, that's what I'm going.
Speaker B:I just was telling you, that's what I'm going through.
Speaker B:So anybody who's listening and you go to my website, it says hanky Panky podcast.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:That will soon be changing to high profile life podcast.
Speaker B:So yes, we'll leave it at that.
Speaker A:Very cool lifestyle coach.
Speaker A:Tell me about that.
Speaker A:Tell us all about that.
Speaker B:So those sessions are for either singles, men, men or women, or couples who are either intrigued about the lifestyle of the swinging community, want to know more, are involved in having issues or concerns, or are involved and want to make sure that they don't make the mistakes that I made.
Speaker B:So I offer one on one coaching.
Speaker B:I, I do offer in person, but mostly because of the pandemic, it's just been zoom, just like, you know, back like, just like this.
Speaker B:And I do an evaluation first with them to see.
Speaker B:Yeah, so if it's a couple and they're having issues, I'll do them together first, then I'll do him alone, her alone, and then back together to reevaluate and see if we fix any issues.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:I might have to talk to you about that after the show.
Speaker A:That's, that's very.
Speaker B:Yes, I did that.
Speaker B:And then I also do, I travel to, I travel to different, like adult industry shows and I do seminars all about the lifestyle and embracing your sexuality and stuff like that.
Speaker B:Oh.
Speaker A:Oh, wow.
Speaker A:Oh, wow.
Speaker A:So you do, do you like public speak to a lot of people or is this more.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah.
Speaker B:So those are actual.
Speaker B:Yeah, so those are seminars.
Speaker B:They're to the public.
Speaker B:Anybody that attends the events, they get a schedule of.
Speaker B:You know, it's a big, it's a big expo.
Speaker B:It's like the exotica expos I do at Matt.
Speaker B:So I'll be in Miami actually July, I think it's July 16th, 17th and 18th or something like that, or 15, 16, 17.
Speaker B:It's a Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and I'll be doing that also.
Speaker B:My tour schedule is on my website.
Speaker B:So that's from my tour the Miami.
Speaker B:And then I actually will put up the times that I am speaking.
Speaker A:Please do, please do.
Speaker A:I'm about to drive to Miami.
Speaker B:Oh, there you go.
Speaker A:The Hanky Panky podcast with the new name, very popular podcast, a good podcast.
Speaker B:We're going to be doing a lot.
Speaker B:We're changing it actually.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Right, right, right now it's very much interview based.
Speaker B:I interview anybody in the adult industry, anybody in the swinger lifestyle community.
Speaker B:I interview therapists who specialize in kink, bdsm, erotic writers.
Speaker B:So anything adult oriented, you know, we talk about how they got involved and stuff.
Speaker B:But I'm switching it up a little bit.
Speaker A:So here we go.
Speaker A:Live interaction.
Speaker A:Coralyn, what would you say is the most important thing for beginners in the lifestyle?
Speaker B:You know, to know most important thing, number one is that if you is communication.
Speaker B:So communication is key.
Speaker B:So if you are going into the lifestyle to try to save your marriage, it's just, it's not gonna work.
Speaker B:Absolutely not going to work.
Speaker B:So, you know, you have to go in either even as a single or as a couple.
Speaker B:The communication, you have to have your boundari, your rules set and rules change.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:So you may go into a situation and say, I'm totally fine with this.
Speaker B:And then when you're in the situation, you realize, I'm not fine with it.
Speaker B:You have every right to stop and say, you know what, I've changed my mind, and then leave the situation.
Speaker B:Discuss with your partner.
Speaker B:So communicate.
Speaker B:That's the key.
Speaker A:Ellie me one more question or maybe some more after this one.
Speaker A:Any advice for people who are interested in trying the lifestyle but are scared of the stigmatism and everything around it?
Speaker A:What do you think, Corinne?
Speaker B:Okay, so first of all, like when you, you know, when you go online and you join like swinger websites, okay.
Speaker B:To meet people or find about, about events in your area.
Speaker B:If you go to my website, there's free, there's links to different swinger sites.
Speaker B:And you get a free trial for 30 days on all of them.
Speaker B:Because different sites are better in different areas of the country depending on where you are.
Speaker B:And you don't have to show your face.
Speaker B:Okay, so if they require images, same with, you know, my, my swinger website.
Speaker B:You don't have to show your face or anything.
Speaker B:But the one thing that I always try to explain to people and the easiest way to say this is when someone comes to my event and they go, oh my God.
Speaker B:And they like run away.
Speaker B:And I go, where are you going?
Speaker B:And they go, that's my neighbor or that's my mom.
Speaker B:Because I've had this happen.
Speaker B:I look at them and I say, well, why don't you go say hi?
Speaker B:Because your neighbor and your mom are here for the exact same reason as you are.
Speaker B:So isn't it better to just like, like, just let it, like, let, let be you?
Speaker B:That's kind of what I talk about.
Speaker B:You know, I'm an adult performer and I hid that from my family.
Speaker B:And if you can't be you and, you know, I know that you're still a good person just because you want to dabble in the lifestyle or work as an in the adult industry and you can't accept that for you, then how are you going to get anybody else around you to accept it?
Speaker B:So as far as I'm concerned, if you go into the lifestyle and you run into somebody or somebody finds out and they give you shit about it, well, it's not their life and it's not their problem.
Speaker B:And you're not hurting anybody.
Speaker B:And that's.
Speaker B:We've got to get more people to embrace your sexuality.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:I sure, I mean, I'm sure it's tough for people to bring up.
Speaker A:I know from my own background, some women that I date, you know, maybe I don't bring it up, maybe I do.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:I can, I can totally see that perspective.
Speaker A:But you bring it out of them, right?
Speaker B:Really?
Speaker B:I do.
Speaker B:You know, and also I say to people, because I coach people coming into the adult industry as well, and I say, you know, if you think for a second because I did that you can be on the Internet, even webcamming, and that nobody's going to find out.
Speaker B:They'll find out one way or another.
Speaker B:Your brother, your uncle, your aunt, your mom, your sister, somebody's going to see it and they're going to come to you and say, I think you're a porn star.
Speaker B:I just saw it.
Speaker B:Or I think you're I thought.
Speaker B:I think I saw you on webcam and you go, and.
Speaker B:And what?
Speaker B:And what?
Speaker B:You know, and.
Speaker B:Yeah,.
Speaker A:So that you.
Speaker A:You wear.
Speaker A:You wear with a badge of honor.
Speaker A:So you're saying that everybody.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And I think.
Speaker B:I think that if you're not hurting anybody, okay, physically or doing anything illegal, then it's your life.
Speaker B:And you can pretend that, you know, you're.
Speaker B:You're very, you know, boring.
Speaker B:And you.
Speaker B:You want.
Speaker B:You have no fun and you have no fetishes and you have no fantasies and you have no kinks.
Speaker B:But in my opinion, I think every single person in this world, religious or not, you still have your fetishes, your fantasies, and your kinks.
Speaker B:You just don't want to talk about them or you're not allowed to talk about them.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker A:So you think people, you.
Speaker A:They stuff it down, you know, they don't really get in tune with who they are.
Speaker A:Absolute.
Speaker B:Absolutely.
Speaker B:I mean, most of the time when I.
Speaker B:When I.
Speaker B:If I do a webcam show or if somebody calls to speak with me from Dr. Susie, it's waiting till the wife goes to sleep, you know, because they don't want to tell their wife.
Speaker B:And I'm like, why don't we go get your wife?
Speaker B:Why don't we bring your wife in here and why don't we have fun and role play it out together, you know, or whatever it is, you know?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:That could save them hiding it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So that's my advice.
Speaker B:And that goes back to the communication.
Speaker A:Interesting stuff.
Speaker A:I am learning a lot.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker A:I should have taken notes.
Speaker A:I usually have a notepad here.
Speaker A:Coral and Jewel.
Speaker A:Coralyndul.com what's up, Twitter?
Speaker A:What's up, YouTube?
Speaker A:What's up, everybody?
Speaker A:BlindKnowledge.com Like I said before, I got this collar shirt on.
Speaker A:I took the hat off because it is hot in here.
Speaker A:And I'm hoping she takes my shirt off for me, but I hope so.
Speaker A:You're gonna be over in Miami.
Speaker A:Where else you.
Speaker A:Where else you at?
Speaker A:You ever go to Vegas?
Speaker B:Yes, I was just in Vegas two weeks ago.
Speaker B:Filming in Vegas.
Speaker B:I'm gonna be in Miami.
Speaker B:And what month are we in?
Speaker B:So July, Miami.
Speaker B:October.
Speaker B:At the end of October is New Jersey.
Speaker B:That's the biggest exotica expo.
Speaker B:And that's actually my birthday.
Speaker B:And that's in.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Edmonton, New Jersey.
Speaker B:And then after that is Washington, D.C. it's Chantilly, Virginia is actually where it is.
Speaker B:But that's for the December, like second through the fourth or something like that.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I travel all over the place.
Speaker A:That's very cool.
Speaker A:That's very cool.
Speaker A:Is it because this lifestyle really gives you that freedom to do so?
Speaker B:Well, it's that.
Speaker B:That's where I do it.
Speaker B:I go to the.
Speaker B:Where the seminars are.
Speaker B:And then there's, you know, I've been asked to speak on some panels now for the CBD industry.
Speaker B:And so they're exposed to talk about, you know, the possible benefits that CBD lubricant, the sexual benefits that it can have.
Speaker B: ng to fit that in my schedule: Speaker A:I wish I came up with that idea.
Speaker A:I think that's genius.
Speaker A:Ellie May, we got another question.
Speaker A:Coralyn, I noticed that you have your own sleeve for male toys, and I want to say I completely admire you for that.
Speaker A:There are women out there who aren't so comfortable even looking at their personal areas.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker A:Is there any advice you can give them to possibly help them become comfortable getting more intimate with themselves?
Speaker A:Coralyn?
Speaker B:So, I mean, that's a fair question if you kind of.
Speaker B:Let's look at it this way.
Speaker B:Everybody hates to hear their own voice, right?
Speaker B:Like, I hear my own voice and I'm like, I hate my own voice.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Or.
Speaker B:And we're always.
Speaker B:We're always most critical of ourselves.
Speaker B:So if you're out and about and you have a tiny little zit here that nobody can see, you're aware of it the entire time.
Speaker B:And, you know, that's just how we are.
Speaker B:And so the same goes with, like, personal body parts.
Speaker B:You know, some people just, you know, they don't like their breasts or they just don't like how they look.
Speaker B:I mean, even like, when I did that, what?
Speaker B:I actually had to get, like, scanned and pictured for the flashlight, and then it arrived in the mail.
Speaker B:Well, I'll tell you what, I did not notice, but I was like, ew, I don't like myself.
Speaker B:Like, you know, that's just how you are, you know, so.
Speaker B:But you have to.
Speaker B:It just goes with everything in life.
Speaker B:You know, we are who we are.
Speaker B:We're all unique, we're all different.
Speaker B:And, you know, just, you know, like you and love you and show your confidence.
Speaker B:Because I think confidence means everything, honestly.
Speaker A:Yeah, it really does.
Speaker B:It really does.
Speaker B:You can be the most beautiful woman or the most, you know, good looking man.
Speaker B:And if you're arrogant, cocky, and you have no personality or whatever.
Speaker B:Three seconds and I've had enough of you.
Speaker B:You know, you.
Speaker B:I'm.
Speaker B:Yeah, you need to be confident in who you are, but not.
Speaker B:But you know, but still be you.
Speaker A:It can't be, it can't be easy to do that every day.
Speaker A:I, I know that there are some days that I wake up and I feel like I'm friggin awesome.
Speaker A:I got this, this life thing, this relationship's great, this blind knowledge is great, you know, everything's great.
Speaker A:And then there's days where I'm like, I suck.
Speaker B:Me too, Me too.
Speaker A:You know, and I, and I end up carrying that like a big, you know, just a big weight all day.
Speaker B:Well, you know what I just recently got into.
Speaker B:And don't call me crazy because I'm not like, I can't.
Speaker B:This, I can't claim knowledge about so much yet is when I started getting into this karma jewelry, okay, I started looking at like, you know, negative energy around you and burning sage and stuff like that.
Speaker B:And so I've been studying about it and the different meanings of like, the different, like when I do my jewelry, like the different crystals and the different gemstones and what they mean.
Speaker B:And you know, my mom has been really not feeling good and so I made her like a piece of jewelry with health and prosperity.
Speaker B:So, you know, but what I was saying was that, you know, I wake up too with those days where I'm like, I can't.
Speaker B:I mean, my PR guard, you know, like, I just go, I can't do it anymore.
Speaker B:I'm done.
Speaker B:I'm done.
Speaker B:I can't.
Speaker B:I, I'm physically and mentally drained and I'm being pulled in so many different directions.
Speaker B:But, but I know that there's the light at the end of the tunnel and I know I'm getting there.
Speaker B:So, you know, you have to be positive and we all have those days when, when have somebody around you to be able to lift you up.
Speaker B:When you have those days, that's for sure.
Speaker A:So that's, you know, I appreciate that.
Speaker A:I'm sure others do too.
Speaker A:Coral and I always do interviews where I, I try to ask.
Speaker A:Ask questions that are curious.
Speaker A:Not just for me, but I think that maybe, hopefully will connect.
Speaker A:But I, I always try to ask questions that like, come.
Speaker A:I don't want to sound selfish or an a hole, but I, I think of questions that really I'm interested in.
Speaker A:I think that's the best way to go.
Speaker A:So you do your podcast and this is a total 180, so we'll just go into podcasting.
Speaker A:But you know, when you do your podcast and you have guests on, do you, do you find that some of them are harder to work with or do you find your own flow, and they got to keep up with you.
Speaker A:Like, what's your approach?
Speaker B:You know, so honestly, I've only.
Speaker B:I've only had one interview.
Speaker B:Like, one interview very early on when I started doing my podcast that, you know, when it ended, I just looked at my producer and he looked at me, and we just went, what the hell was that?
Speaker B:Like, it just.
Speaker B:It's just.
Speaker B:It was.
Speaker B:It was just like, you know, I was so excited about this interview, and I was so excited about this person.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And I was so prepared because this person, you know, from what I understood, had so many.
Speaker B:Had so many different variations of positions of jobs and careers in the industry.
Speaker B:Okay, journalist, photographer, fluffer, actor, performer, you know, and I was like, oh, my God, I can't wait to, like, dig and learn.
Speaker B:And every question I asked was like, I said, you know, if you could go back and do it all over again, like, which one would you.
Speaker B:What was your favorite?
Speaker B:And the.
Speaker B:And then no, the answer was like, so what do you think about Biden versus Trump?
Speaker B:And I'm like, where the hell did we get into politics?
Speaker B:Like, that's, you know, and.
Speaker B:And so my interview.
Speaker B:So that was the only one that I just couldn't jive with my.
Speaker B:My.
Speaker B:In my podcast, my current podcast, I believe, and I truly believe this, every single person in this world has a story.
Speaker B:A lot of people say my life's boring, or I don't have.
Speaker B:I don't have a story.
Speaker B:I don't have anything to share.
Speaker B:I don't have anything interesting about me.
Speaker B:And I call on that.
Speaker B:That's not true.
Speaker B:Everybody has a story, and if you listen to their story, you can learn something from them.
Speaker B:So that's what I do for my guests.
Speaker B:I want to know, how did you get in the industry?
Speaker B:What did you want to be when you were growing?
Speaker B:You know, what did you want to be when you said, when I grow up, I want to be, you know, how do you do your parents know?
Speaker B:Are you happy with yourself?
Speaker B:Are you happy with your job?
Speaker B:You know, I mean, I've had some of my guests were.
Speaker B:One of them is.
Speaker B:She's a.
Speaker B:She's one year away from being a physician's assistant, and she is, like, known as the, like, the gang bang queen of, like, the industry, you know, and, yeah, she says she is not going to stop until she makes the word slut a positive word.
Speaker B:Like, she's, you know, so a word like, yeah, so, you know, and then there's another one who was, um, six years as a Medic in the Navy.
Speaker B:So, like, it just.
Speaker B:You just learn.
Speaker B:You learn a lot.
Speaker A:So all different people, all different places.
Speaker A:I like what you said there about making that word slut, you know, a positive word.
Speaker B:She said, like, I'm trying to remember.
Speaker B:She said, I'm not stopping until the word slut is a God.
Speaker B:What did she say?
Speaker B:The term of endearment or something like that she had said.
Speaker B:Or empowerment.
Speaker B:That's what she said.
Speaker B:When the word slut is a word of empowerment.
Speaker B:I'll go to be.
Speaker B:I'll.
Speaker B:I'll then go on to continue.
Speaker B:My physician's assistant.
Speaker B:I was like, wow, I love her.
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker B:That's a shout out to Ms. Ray Ray.
Speaker B:That's a shout out to her.
Speaker B:She's amazing.
Speaker A:Y. Shout out to Ms. Ray Ray.
Speaker A:What made you get started in the adult industry?
Speaker B: So it goes back to: Speaker B:I was married to my husband and we moved back to California and I was running a fitness company for children.
Speaker B:So I. I started my own mobile fitness company and I was traveling from preschools, and I still have that business.
Speaker B:I just don't do that as much.
Speaker B:But I was traveling to preschools and I was teaching kids about the importance of health and fitness.
Speaker B:And when the housing market hit, my daycares, they're all home daycares, they were all closing because the parents were losing their jobs.
Speaker B:So parents were pulling their kids out of daycare and daycares were closing, and they definitely couldn't afford to have the extracurricular activity, which was me.
Speaker B:So my husband came to me and he said, you know, you got to do something.
Speaker B:And he said, women sell their underwear online.
Speaker B:And I was like, no, they don't.
Speaker B:And then I was like, what the hell are you even looking at that?
Speaker B:And then when he left to work the next day, I looked online and sure enough, they did.
Speaker B:And so I built a website and went down to Ross and bought my up panties and took pictures and put them up on Craigslist at the time.
Speaker B:Said, buy my sweet juice, my sweet juicy wet panties.
Speaker B:Husband came home, showed him.
Speaker B:He said he was just joking.
Speaker B:And I said, but I made 400 today.
Speaker B:And that's where it all began.
Speaker B:I always say, you could.
Speaker B:I always say if you have, you know, blame my husband for the play, my ex husband for the reason that I'm in the adult industry.
Speaker A:But that's some real cash for just some.
Speaker A:Some cotton and an ad on Craigslist that's amazing.
Speaker A:That's amazing.
Speaker B:But you see, the thing is, you know, then risky, though, too.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah, I know, but people are.
Speaker A:People are weird out there.
Speaker A:You never know.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:Yeah, so.
Speaker B:But now.
Speaker B:Now there's like.
Speaker B:It's like, there's websites everywhere.
Speaker B:There's, you know, panty Deal and Warren Fantasy.
Speaker B:Oh, I have to return a message from somebody on Warren Fantasy, but I'm taking my notes.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But, you know, girls now are selling their underwear for $5 and then shipping is $5, so I don't know what they're doing.
Speaker B:Girls, I want you guys to stop that it.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker B:Minor, minor.
Speaker B:45.
Speaker A:45.
Speaker A:Get yours.com.
Speaker B:They're not on the site.
Speaker A:They're not on the site.
Speaker A:But yeah, you can contact her, I guess.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:Is that the spot?
Speaker A:I don't know everything.
Speaker A:I've never bought those before.
Speaker A:No, I have no idea.
Speaker B:Again, it's like.
Speaker B:It's like a fed, you know, not my thing.
Speaker A:Yeah, not my thing.
Speaker B:Everybody's got their fetish.
Speaker B:You know, when I.
Speaker B:When I.
Speaker B:When I went to get my certification in sexology, I did it because I wanted to understand the underlining of these fetishes.
Speaker B:Why does somebody have a foot fetish?
Speaker B:Where does that come from?
Speaker B:Was it a childhood thing?
Speaker B:You know, all these different kinks that are out there, except for the ones of like.
Speaker B:Like having sex with dead people.
Speaker B:I mean, I'm just not okay with that one.
Speaker A:Oh, that's.
Speaker A:There's got to be a line drawn somewhere.
Speaker B:But having sex with a mannequin, like.
Speaker B:Like a rubber doll.
Speaker B:Totally.
Speaker B:I get that because the can't talk back to you.
Speaker B:Like, you see, that's.
Speaker A:That's a good point.
Speaker A:I've seen some of those.
Speaker A:I've seen some of those rubber dolls too.
Speaker A:It looks like they're getting really lifelike.
Speaker B:Oh, God.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah, they came to me.
Speaker B:They were.
Speaker B:They talked about.
Speaker B:About making one of me to sell, but.
Speaker A:Making one of you to sell, huh?
Speaker B:But, like, very.
Speaker A:It would be weird, but it's cool at the same time.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Like, I would go.
Speaker B:I would go to LA and they would, you know, digitally, whatever you call it, scan my.
Speaker B:Yeah, they make.
Speaker B:They make the doll so people think they're having sex with Coraline and they even.
Speaker B:You can choose, like, your nipple colors.
Speaker B:You can choose your labia colors, everything.
Speaker A:Oh, wow.
Speaker A:I can have.
Speaker A:I can get a doll with blue Labyrinth if you want.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So you can do, like.
Speaker B:You could create your own doll.
Speaker B:Like your own eyes, whatever.
Speaker B:Eyes you want nose?
Speaker B:Or you can get a porn star or somebody else.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:I'm like, I'm taken back because I've seen these things online, right?
Speaker A:And all the power to whoever they help and.
Speaker A:And make happy and.
Speaker A:And discover whatever they gotta do, you know, not my thing, but I've seen them online.
Speaker A:They look really cool.
Speaker A:And I'm just like, I'm flabbergasted because they look so real.
Speaker A:They look so real.
Speaker B:You should see them in person.
Speaker B:Like the company.
Speaker B:Like, this is the company's only dolls is what they're called.
Speaker B:But they end up.
Speaker A:They feel real.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And like, oh, gosh.
Speaker B:Like, okay, how do I say it nicely?
Speaker B:Let's just say that one of my friends at the show wanted to see what they felt like on the inside so he could see if it felt real.
Speaker B:And he was like, coraline, it feels real.
Speaker B:Come over here and do it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And I was like, I don't need to do it.
Speaker B:Just thank you for telling me.
Speaker B:That feels real.
Speaker A:So that's fair.
Speaker A:That's fair.
Speaker A:That's interesting, though.
Speaker A:It's an important question, I would think, for a condosaur of that nature.
Speaker A:Question from Ellie me.
Speaker A:What's up, Ellie me?
Speaker A:If someone wanted to enter the adult entertainment industry, how would they do it?
Speaker A:What would be the best way to do it?
Speaker A:And also words of warning or wisdom to people wanting to get into the industry.
Speaker B:Okay, so that is a very, very more like, intricate discussion.
Speaker B:So I do offer coaching on that.
Speaker B:I do like a consultation if somebody wants to contact me.
Speaker B:Because the industry has changed so much.
Speaker B:It's not.
Speaker B:Not very much anymore.
Speaker B:Like, you have to get an agent.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Are there agents?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And then it also depends if you're a male or a female getting into the industry.
Speaker B:And then you can also, there's porn stars that actually film for the companies, and then there's a content creator, which is somebody that maybe just creates content for their only fans page or their loyal fans page, or maybe puts up a pornhub page.
Speaker B: egalities, the paperwork, the: Speaker B:And then when you get offered a job to shoot with somebody, you've got to know, are they legit?
Speaker B:Check their references, run their phone numbers, background checks.
Speaker B:And so there's so much that goes into this.
Speaker B:And I actually just recently started a networking group.
Speaker B:It's photographers and models in a private group.
Speaker B:So that if someone has a job to post and someone once is interested in that job, we can already clear Them as both legit people because there's some sites out there where you just have scammers like crazy.
Speaker B:So be careful.
Speaker B:Call contact me if somebody wants to be involved first and I will guide you through.
Speaker A:Ellie me.
Speaker A:She's gonna guide you through.
Speaker A:There's a lot of people that need guidance for that stuff.
Speaker B:Yeah, I mean, I, I had that thing.
Speaker B:I, I, I had, I didn't have it in the beginning going into the adult industry and then come to find out.
Speaker B:One of my friends said, why don't you just ask so and so?
Speaker B:And I said, why would I ask so and so?
Speaker B:And she says, because she's a porn star.
Speaker B:And I didn't even know.
Speaker B:So one of our, like really good friends was a very well known porn star.
Speaker B:I didn't know.
Speaker B:And she was the one that kind of guided me.
Speaker B:Like, no, you're doing to.
Speaker B:You're with the wrong person and you need to go this direction and stuff like that.
Speaker A:So very, very cool.
Speaker A:Very cool.
Speaker A:So you're making positive light out there.
Speaker A:It's such a taboo industry for some folks, depending on where they're from.
Speaker B:No, I think it shouldn't be because what we're doing and we're actually, I actually think we're going backwards now with the social media and everything.
Speaker B:I mean, porn stars pages are being shadow banned.
Speaker B:So on Twitter, even if I say like at and I know who I'm tagging, it, it, I won't find them.
Speaker B:I just have to know that that's them.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:It won't show them up at all, but they're there.
Speaker B:Their profiles.
Speaker B:I mean, when I do the red carpet interviews for the award shows and when I interview the performers as they come through, I say, you know, how can my, your fans find you?
Speaker B:What's your Instagram?
Speaker B:And they go, well, my instagram for the 10th one now because they keep getting taken down even though they're not posting nudity, you know, they're just, they're really coming at you.
Speaker B:My pod or my, my event that I just had was, it was called called Sip and Shoot, a networking event for photographers and models.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:And they came to me and said, that's been removed from your page because guns are not guns.
Speaker B:Referring to guns or something is not appropriate.
Speaker B:And I was like, okay, tell your bots to go get a education.
Speaker B:Excuse my language.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:Yeah, because shoot shoots, you know, and so that's the whole thing.
Speaker B:And so now I think that, you know, they took their, their re.
Speaker B:They're, they're making sex like it's bad and masturbation is bad and porn is bad.
Speaker B:And so now what's going to happen?
Speaker B:People are going to go back to walking the streets.
Speaker B:You're never going to stop people from having sex, you know, and you're never going to stop people from watching sex and watching porn.
Speaker B:You're just not.
Speaker B:So why not make it legal?
Speaker B:Embrace it.
Speaker B:And it's, it's healthy for you and it's good for you.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Yeah, no, I think that's what, that's one of the biggest things that really actually, like, irks me.
Speaker B:And I'm a member of X Biz, which is a big networking site for the adult industry.
Speaker B:But, but it's.
Speaker B:People forget that there's, you know, the people that run these porn websites and the technology behind that and who sells the adult websites and the branding and the marketing and the answers and the bat, the banners and the designs and, you know, there's so many different people that work in behind the scenes of the adult industry.
Speaker B:The editors.
Speaker A:And that's, that's, that's their income and yet their life.
Speaker B:And yet they can't.
Speaker B:Like, some of the writers, like erotic writers, they're like, oh, I can't tell my family that I'm an erotic writer.
Speaker B:Why not?
Speaker B:You published nine books.
Speaker B:Why not?
Speaker B:So you write, you write stories about, you know, it's got to be tricky.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's got to be tricky.
Speaker B:I know.
Speaker A:I, I can only imagine.
Speaker B:I hope it gets better, but I don't think it ever will, to be honest with you.
Speaker B:And as, and as as much of an impact as religion plays still, you know, the way people are brought up, they're brought up, you know, you're brought up to believe what, you know.
Speaker B:If your parents tell you that's, you know, of.
Speaker B:You need to be monogamous and swinging is bad, and being with more than one person bad, or sex before marriage is bad, then that's what you're going to believe unless you step outside to experiment on your own.
Speaker A:And Coralyn, one more at the moment, how do you tell your partner that you want to join the industry or you think they would do well in the industry?
Speaker A:How do you tell them?
Speaker B:Okay, so if you are, that's it.
Speaker B:So I'm gonna break that up into two segments.
Speaker B:If you.
Speaker B:If for me, because I'm already out there and in the industry, if I go on a date with somebody and they don't know who I am, my date pretty much starts with, I'm Coral and Jewel.
Speaker B:I'm an Adult performer.
Speaker B:I have a degree in theatrical production.
Speaker B:I was an Olympic figure skater for South Africa.
Speaker B:I speak Swedish, I have two kids and you know, and then I own a swingers club.
Speaker B:And if any of that bothers you, because I still webcam and I still masturbate and I still have sex, then by all means I'll buy my own drink.
Speaker B:So that's easier for me now.
Speaker B:I used to not tell people and then it was just a nightmare.
Speaker B:So with your partner, if you want to get into it, or you guys want to, or you think that you guys would do well in it together, it's communication.
Speaker B:You just have to tell them.
Speaker B:But you also have to take into consideration.
Speaker B:I get this a lot.
Speaker B:Don't turn to porn because you think it's quick money or easy money.
Speaker B:I get people that write me all the time, Coralyn, I'm in big, I'm in big trouble.
Speaker B:I need money and I need money now and I need to get it to porn.
Speaker B:And it's not like that.
Speaker B:You know, you have to build your brand.
Speaker B:And a lot of the companies have shut down because of content creators and stuff.
Speaker B:So think about your financial situation, the career that you're in now.
Speaker B:And sadly, is that career going to accept you if they ever turn on the Internet and see you in a poor non pornhub.
Speaker B:So again, it's that kind of stuff.
Speaker B:You really want to just have a con, like a consultation with me.
Speaker B:It's really important.
Speaker A:Pornhub X videos, all those websites, they haven't been around forever.
Speaker A:You know, we've gone from like Playboy to pornhub basically.
Speaker A:How do you think that's changed the industry?
Speaker B:A lot, A lot.
Speaker B:I think, I think the Internet has changed a lot.
Speaker B:You know, DVDs are almost non existent anymore.
Speaker B:Nobody buys DVDs, right?
Speaker B:And the problem with the production companies is that when they make content and then they put it up on their website for memberships, you know, basis there's, you know, people that are stealing it and then they're putting it up on pornhub and putting it out there for free.
Speaker B:And so it's a constant battle with fighting the DMCA complaints to get your free content that was stolen taken down.
Speaker B:You know, some of the performers, we just look at it as that's free marketing.
Speaker B:You know, I'm like, go ahead, steal it, piece of.
Speaker B:You know, and it's free marketing.
Speaker B:But when they steal stuff from like our only fans pages because they can they even access that, you know, or I once webcammed with A boyfriend.
Speaker B:We just webcammed, and one of my fans wrote me and said, oh, my gosh, that was such a hot.
Speaker B:I love the video of you webcaming with your boyfriend.
Speaker B:And I was like, where did you see that?
Speaker B:And somebody had actually videoed us and pasted it everywhere.
Speaker B:And I had to spend probably three days doing a DMCA complaint to get it down because it was my boyfriend.
Speaker B:So it's.
Speaker B:Yeah, it's changed a lot.
Speaker B:And now the merchant account processors.
Speaker B:I don't know if anybody's heard about that.
Speaker B:Where pornhub currently is not accepting Visa or mastercard.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So now, though.
Speaker B:So those of us that had content on their website for sale, we can't sell it.
Speaker B:So it's either just sits there or I took it down.
Speaker B:I took all my.
Speaker B:I took all my, like, porn content off of my page down.
Speaker B:I just have, like, content that says, go to my website.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:I don't even know how they're monetizing, like, the clicks, you know, like, if you.
Speaker B:If your video is free and you get a certain amount of clicks, I don't know how many it is.
Speaker B:Like 10,000 or something.
Speaker B:You make like 10 cents or something.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:It's pathetic.
Speaker B:But they.
Speaker B:They're not allowed to monetize.
Speaker B:And it has been like that for over a year and a half now.
Speaker B:So all my stuff's.
Speaker B:My pornhub page is up.
Speaker B:It's up there, but just tail.
Speaker B:Just.
Speaker B:Just teasers?
Speaker B:No content?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker A:So all that stuff up there is just for kicks?
Speaker B:Yeah, well, it's either.
Speaker B:Yeah, it's either a studio that has their pornhub page and then they've got different performers, or a lot of people will use their pornhub page to get people to come over to their only fans or their loyal fans or their website, like me.
Speaker B:So I'll put.
Speaker B:I'll put little trailers up there, and I'll say to see the full video, go to coralandjewel.com but I used to have my stuff for sale up there, but I had to pull it.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:It's a trip.
Speaker A:This.
Speaker A:This interview is a trip.
Speaker A:Coralyn, I appreciate you coming on.
Speaker A:I hope we're learning a lot.
Speaker A:You know, you have this book.
Speaker A:What's the name of the book?
Speaker A:How did it become a number one international hit?
Speaker B:My publisher is very, very good.
Speaker B:And she knew when to release and how to release and what to do on my release.
Speaker B:And she actually, throughout that day, because you have to, you have to, you become, from what I understand, it has to be a certain amount of books downloaded or in a certain day or whatever.
Speaker B:And so literally she was like, I was just on pins and needles around the house, and I'm like, where am I?
Speaker B:And she goes, you're fine.
Speaker B:And I go, but, but is it, is it as bestseller?
Speaker B:Is it an international bestseller?
Speaker B: And then it was like: Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker A:So what's the name of it?
Speaker B:So this, where is it?
Speaker B:When the Ice Melts, The Story of Coral and Jewel.
Speaker A:Very cool.
Speaker B:That's that one.
Speaker A:Very cool.
Speaker B:Like I said, it's Audible, Kindle, Kindle, Amazon or my website and Barnes and Noble and everywhere.
Speaker B:And then the second book is almost done.
Speaker B:But I was gonna call.
Speaker B:Well, I can't tell you I was gonna do something with Hanky Panky because it's really about, like, how did my swingers club Hanky Panky come about?
Speaker B:You know, But I might be.
Speaker A:Can we know that?
Speaker A:Can, can we talk about that or.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah, we can, of course.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:But I'm now, now that I'm getting rid of the Hanky Panky name, I don't want, I don't know if I want to have it on the book.
Speaker A:Oh, oh, yeah, that's right.
Speaker A:That's right.
Speaker A:What's the name of the new podcast for everybody?
Speaker B:The new podcast is High Profile Dot Life.
Speaker A:High Profile Dot Life.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:So, hi.
Speaker A:Still, still with that swinging Hanky Panky attitude.
Speaker A:New name, new branding.
Speaker A:That's cool.
Speaker A:And what's something we haven't touched on?
Speaker A:I, I, I don't know.
Speaker A:What else is there to what you think?
Speaker A:Yeah, tell us.
Speaker B:Let's see.
Speaker B:I've got, My documentary is coming out on my first book.
Speaker B:So, so by, By October, by the New Jersey Exotica Show, I hope to have my documentary done.
Speaker B:We are editing now, and I hope to have my second book out and hopefully another international bestseller.
Speaker B:And the lifestyle coaching, the therapy, the webcam shows, the custom videos, the porn, the jewelry, the CBD lube.
Speaker A:CBD lube.
Speaker A:I love that.
Speaker A:Hashtag, CBD lube.
Speaker A:I've never heard of it.
Speaker A:I've.
Speaker A:I might be buying some.
Speaker B:I'm gonna bring you some.
Speaker B:I'll bring you some to Miami.
Speaker A:Please do bring it down to Miami.
Speaker A:It's a trip.
Speaker A:Coralynn.
Speaker A:Coral Lynn.
Speaker A:Coralynn is oral in there?
Speaker A:We are hanging.
Speaker A:I got a few more questions if you got Some time.
Speaker B:Of course.
Speaker A:You got some time for us?
Speaker B:I do.
Speaker B:And Ellie has another one too.
Speaker A:Yeah, Ellie's got one.
Speaker A:We're gonna get to it in just a sec.
Speaker A:We are hanging out.
Speaker A:We're talking about all things Coraline.
Speaker A:We're talking about the adult industry, we're talking about jewelry, we're talking about books, we're talking about all kinds of things.
Speaker A:And here's a question from Ellie me.
Speaker A:How do you ensure a safe environment when you're doing an event?
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Good question.
Speaker B:It's a very good question.
Speaker B:And I always tell people that every single club has their own set of rules.
Speaker B:And even if you're involved in the lifestyle for 20 years and you've never been to this location, always say, can I please see a copy of your rules?
Speaker B:And how do you guys ensure safety?
Speaker B:So safety std wise, I always provide clean sheets, towels, lube, lubricant, condoms.
Speaker B:And I have staff that goes in and out of the playrooms and takes, you know, cleans them frequently.
Speaker B:So that's for that.
Speaker B:And then encouraging as, you know, condom use.
Speaker B:We have a no locked door policy.
Speaker B:So if the door is closed, that means that somebody's in the playroom and they do not want to be watched or disturbed.
Speaker B:If the door is open, that means that they want to be watched.
Speaker B:That is not an invitation to get on the bed.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:And we don't, we have a no lock door policy.
Speaker B:So my staff has the right to not lock twist to make sure that the door is not locked.
Speaker B:And then if they need to go in, they'll go in.
Speaker B:That's for emergencies.
Speaker B:And then I have a security team that, you know, walks around and makes sure these good.
Speaker B:Everybody has to be a member of my club to, to attend an event.
Speaker B:They have to have a profile on my website, a pre approved profile if they do not complete it, such as their age or they, you know, their phone number doesn't run.
Speaker B:So if you guys try to apply for my website and you haven't been approved, that's because I've done a background check on you.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:So everybody.
Speaker B:And then if you're new to my club and just your first time, my doorstaff comes and gets me and we go down, we.
Speaker B:I go over the rules with you guys and you know, so that everybody's on the same page.
Speaker B:So that's how we do it.
Speaker B:Plus I'm just feisty.
Speaker B:I'm five feet of like firecracker.
Speaker A:So five feet of firecracker.
Speaker A:We'd never know it.
Speaker A:It looks like I'm four feet of firecracker.
Speaker A:Yikes.
Speaker A:I need to.
Speaker A:I need to become taller, I guess.
Speaker A:But that's okay.
Speaker A:I say this happens I.
Speaker A:Every time.
Speaker A:I'm always like, here and everyone's here, and that's fine because I.
Speaker A:It's the last thing I want to do is be on and talk about myself.
Speaker A:So do you have.
Speaker A:Is there a team with you besides just, like, the security and the staff?
Speaker A:Like, do you have, like, other women maybe, or other gentlemen maybe, that are part of, like, your umbrella?
Speaker B:No, for my.
Speaker B:For my swingers community.
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:I know that there are a lot of clubs that, you know, you'll go to, and those are actually hired, like, escorts, shorts to be there.
Speaker B:Like, because I see the ads on.
Speaker B:On the adult sites, like, you know, sexy jobs and stuff, looking for girls to be at a swingers party and stuff like that.
Speaker B:No, everybody that's at my events are my guests.
Speaker B:And then I've got my staff.
Speaker B:Most of my staff has been with me for a long time.
Speaker B:We were just talking about that the other day.
Speaker B: door guy's been with me since: Speaker B:I recently had, you know, like, he was a parking attendant slash bartender.
Speaker B:He just left.
Speaker B:He did 10 years with me.
Speaker B:So, yeah, my team's pretty good.
Speaker B:And we kind of, you know, we have it organized.
Speaker B:We just trained some new people last weekend because we were in Los Angeles, so a new venue.
Speaker A:All my links.com sweet blue C.J.
Speaker A:That's.
Speaker A:That's really the spot to see Coraline, if you want to see that side.
Speaker A:But definitely coralyndule.com Ellie me.
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker A:Someone feel like there's a stigma to wanting to watch, especially if their partner is with someone else.
Speaker A:Interesting.
Speaker A:I've heard of that.
Speaker A:Is there anything you can say to ease their sense of shame when people think of swinging?
Speaker B:Like, okay, so when people think of, like, the swingers community, most people in their mind, society has made us think that it's you.
Speaker B:You and your boyfriend or you and your husband show up at a party and somebody rings the bell at 11 o' clock and says, all right, penis is out, vagina's open, and let's go.
Speaker B:You know, and it's a.
Speaker B:It's a free for all orgy.
Speaker B:And that's not what it is.
Speaker B:Because there is, like, you're saying there are men that just want to watch their wife be with another man, and they don't even want to be with another woman.
Speaker B:Maybe they just want to watch.
Speaker B:That's like, you know, taught wifing or maybe it's a couple that just wants to come and watch.
Speaker B:They're just voyeurs.
Speaker B:They just want to watch.
Speaker B:Nobody touches them.
Speaker B:And then they go home and they go, now, honey, let's try that.
Speaker B:Or they're exhibitionists.
Speaker B:They just want to be watched.
Speaker B:Or you're looking for a unicorn for that, you know, illicit unicorn for that threesome.
Speaker B:So there's so many different variations and avenues of the lifestyle, and a lot of people don't know yet what they may like or not like.
Speaker B:You know, I always say when fantasy meets reality, sometimes it's not what you expected it to be.
Speaker B:Like when a guy has a threesome and he has two girls, he goes, crap, I had to please two people at the same time.
Speaker B:Like that.
Speaker B:That didn't like that, you know, so that, like, helps with the question.
Speaker B:Is that saying you have to talk with your partner and, you know, did you like it?
Speaker B:Because sometimes, like, even.
Speaker B:Even like me in the lifestyle, I still get jealous.
Speaker B:I have a boyfriend.
Speaker B:I still get jealous, you know, because my husband was cheating on me with.
Speaker B:With a woman in the lifestyle.
Speaker B:Even though we were having sex with them, he was cheating emotionally.
Speaker B:And the emotions is the hardest part.
Speaker B:You know, you.
Speaker B:You look at your partner and you see the way he looks at someone else.
Speaker B:Or, you know, I said.
Speaker B:I used to say the googly eyes, you know, And I was like.
Speaker B:Like, is there.
Speaker B:Is there more to it, or is it just sex?
Speaker B:And he was like, you're crazy.
Speaker B:But I wasn't crazy.
Speaker B:I found out, you know, and that still today is something that I can see couples in my events, like, walk in and I can say to my door guy, that's not gonna work.
Speaker B:You know, I can tell right away.
Speaker A:So you.
Speaker A:Yeah, so you must pick and choose.
Speaker A:I mean, there's.
Speaker A:There has to be limits.
Speaker A:There has.
Speaker A:It's your.
Speaker A:It's your show.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker A:You know.
Speaker B:Exactly.
Speaker B:That's why it goes back to the jewelry.
Speaker B:You know, I say, I make these unity bracelets.
Speaker B:So you wear those bracelets to every single event.
Speaker B:And at any given point that your husband comes to you, or you go to your husband or partner and you say, honey, I'm not comfortable.
Speaker B:There's no discussing the drama there.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:We apologize.
Speaker B:We've had a change of heart.
Speaker B:Thank you so much for your time.
Speaker B:To whoever you're with.
Speaker B:And you leave.
Speaker B:Leave and you talk about it.
Speaker B:And that's supposed to remind you that you guys came into this for experience together.
Speaker A:Communication.
Speaker A:Communication, emotion.
Speaker A:I can only imagine.
Speaker A:So if, If.
Speaker A:If it started like you said, it starts up here, right?
Speaker A:The thoughts.
Speaker A:The thoughts start this whole process of where things could go sour in a relationship, I call it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I say it's a slip.
Speaker B:You know, the.
Speaker B:The best way to.
Speaker B:The best analogy is it's a slippery slope dope, or you can ignite the fire if you do it right.
Speaker B:But if you don't play with fire, right, you're going to get burned.
Speaker B:You know, and that's the best way to kind of, you know, analyze it, is that, you know, there are certain things in the lifestyle that people do that I don't condemn, you know, and that's, again, everybody can be their own.
Speaker B:But for one, I don't condemn hall passes.
Speaker B:Letting my, you know, my boyfriend or my husband fly off on a vacation or, you know, five, go.
Speaker B:Go off with some other woman and, like, go on a vacation with her or, you know, go on a business trip, because that's where the emotions can develop.
Speaker B:That's what I think.
Speaker B:And that's happened to me three times now.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Yeah, so I think that, you know, you came into this together as a couple, together to experience together.
Speaker B:So how can you experience it if they're off, you know, with somebody else in another.
Speaker B:Behind closed doors?
Speaker B:You don't know what kind of verbal conversation.
Speaker B:Conversation is happening.
Speaker B:Not the sex, the verbal, the emotions.
Speaker A:Do you find that people are.
Speaker A:I know I phrase this.
Speaker A:Do you find that people are very open when they speak with you on a coaching session?
Speaker A:Like, do you get them to just say everything?
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker B:It takes time.
Speaker B:It takes time for people to trust.
Speaker B:You know, that's normal.
Speaker B:You know, the.
Speaker B:The best way for me to get somebody to open up with me is I'm open with them.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And so when, you know, I can say, you know, anything and that.
Speaker B:I think that helps because am.
Speaker B:I am an open book.
Speaker B:I don't hide anything.
Speaker B:I mean, my mom, she listens to my podcast.
Speaker B:I'll tell her, you know, she'll go, I don't.
Speaker B:I didn't like that one that was about anal.
Speaker B:And I said, oh, yeah, you shouldn't have listened to that one, mom.
Speaker B:Sorry.
Speaker B:You know, but, you know, it's just people.
Speaker B:Yeah, people do open up to me because I think that I don't judge.
Speaker B:I mean, that's why, you know, Dr. Susan says I'm one of her best therapists, you know, like one of her best chat agents, because I don't judge him.
Speaker B:I really don't.
Speaker B:I'm more intrigued to learn.
Speaker A:That's cool.
Speaker A:And I think people need that.
Speaker A:I, I would not be able to.
Speaker A:I wouldn't be able to operate correctly if it was all judgment.
Speaker B:Yeah, I mean, there's a lot of.
Speaker B:I mean, you know, I'm not going to say that somebody calls to do some kind of roleplay scenario and I'm.
Speaker B:I cringe, I go, oh.
Speaker B:You know, but what I do is I.
Speaker B:We go through it again, we analyze it.
Speaker B:What is your reasoning to want to do it like this?
Speaker B:And, and would you.
Speaker B:Have you ever thought about putting a twist on it like this and so on, you know?
Speaker A:Sure, sure, sure, sure.
Speaker A:Yeah, it's.
Speaker A:It's got to be different.
Speaker A:Different strokes for different folks, I believe is how they say it.
Speaker A:Ellie, what's up?
Speaker A:Thanks again.
Speaker A:What is your favorite part of the lifestyle and what is your favorite part of the adult industry?
Speaker A:If they're different.
Speaker B:So this is an interesting one because I used to really, really say, like, the lifestyle is like a sense of community.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:My favorite part, you know, is going.
Speaker B:Going to event sense the freedom that you can wear what you want, say what you want.
Speaker B:Nobody says you look a slut.
Speaker B:Nobody says your tits are hanging out of your shirt, anything like that.
Speaker B:Because you're just, you know, the, the themes like schoolgirl night or, you know, lady in red or whatever it is.
Speaker B:So the vacations, the cruises, and just that sense of community and, you know, no, I call it no holds bar.
Speaker B:Like when you say something, you don't have to like, walk on eggshells.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:However, I've also noticed that the lifestyle and people in the lifestyle can be very lack of morals or, you know, for better judgment, I guess you could say backstabbing, you know, turn their back on you, you know, And I've seen it multiple times.
Speaker B:I've seen it with couples to their husbands and wives.
Speaker B:I've seen it with clubs to other clubs.
Speaker B:I've seen it with friends trying to use someone to get into the lifestyle and then turn around and run their own club or whatever it may be.
Speaker B:So I've seen a lot of that in the adult industry.
Speaker B:I personally haven't experienced that, but I do know adult performers that have.
Speaker B:The adult industry to me is more of a sense of community.
Speaker B:I really feel like for my experience, we actually have each other's backs.
Speaker B:So, you know, the thing about checking to see if you're going to get into the adult industry and then is this, shoot, is this person who's contacting me legit?
Speaker B:Are they really A director.
Speaker B:Are they really filming?
Speaker B:I have a group of porn stars.
Speaker B:And so we text each other.
Speaker B:Have you.
Speaker B:Have you heard from this person?
Speaker B:Did you guys work with him?
Speaker B:Can anybody else run this phone number and tell me what you find?
Speaker B:Stuff like that.
Speaker B:And then I feel like, you know, with all this stuff that's been going on with the shadow banning and the porn industry really being, you know, shoved down, we band together and we lift each other up.
Speaker B:And, you know, I say to people, no matter how much society wants to get rid of it and get rid of porn, you're not going to.
Speaker B:You're not going to, because we just keep on.
Speaker B:You push us down, we get back up two steps further, you know, and that's what I really.
Speaker B:Anything else, like, anything else.
Speaker B:That's what I've noticed about that.
Speaker B:So adult industry, in my opinion, is more of my family.
Speaker B:In fact, like, I just put on.
Speaker B:I think I wrote on Facebook, can't wait to see my family in two weeks.
Speaker B:You know, like, there.
Speaker B:Those are my.
Speaker B:Those are my.
Speaker B:They're my heart.
Speaker A:So that's awesome.
Speaker A:I'm really interested in these coaching sessions.
Speaker A:Not for really myself, but just learning more about it because it's got to be tricky to even think about doing that, having the balls to do that, you know, calling you to.
Speaker A:To.
Speaker A:To.
Speaker A:To realize that, you know, they're normal.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's the thing that, you know, that's.
Speaker B:You just said a very good point.
Speaker B:I can't tell you how many people will get on a session with me or on a phone call or a webcam.
Speaker B:Okay?
Speaker B:So any of the different avenues that I do and say, I'm not sure that you're going to be okay with this.
Speaker B:I think I'm the only one.
Speaker B:And then I go, well, just tell me.
Speaker B:We'll see.
Speaker B:I used to say I've heard it all.
Speaker B:I don't say that anymore.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:I have not heard it all.
Speaker B:And then they tell me and I'm like, oh, sweetheart, you're like one in, like 8,000 million.
Speaker B:Like, that's totally normal.
Speaker B:It's a normal fetish.
Speaker B:It's a normal kink or a normal fantasy.
Speaker A:Yo, Coralynn, I think our time has come to an end.
Speaker A:I hope you come back on sometime.
Speaker A:This was so fun.
Speaker A:Thank you so much.
Speaker A:Thank you.
Speaker B:Thank you for having me and Elliot shout out to you for all the good questions.
Speaker B:That's great because it gives us something to drive off of it.
Speaker B:So thank you.
Speaker A:Yeah, thank you, Ellie, and thank you, everybody, for listening for watching, for being a part of the show.
Speaker A:Coralyn jules.com Check her out.
Speaker A:She is a lot of things.
Speaker A:She's so cool.
Speaker A:Thank you again, Coralyn.
Speaker A:She is a certified master psychologist.
Speaker A:She is lifestyle coach, motivational speaker, podcast host.
Speaker A:She is extraordinary.
Speaker A:Check her out.
Speaker A:Coralinjule.com get some jewelry, get the book, Talk to her, Be a part of this lifestyle that she does.
Speaker A:Coralyn, thank you.
Speaker B:Thank you.
Speaker A:Thank you very much for being on Coral and Jewel, everybody.
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