In this episode, I speak with April Baker, CEO of the loneliness charity TogetherCo, about combatting loneliness and isolation by improving your social health. They discuss the differences between being alone, loneliness, and isolation. April shares her personal struggles with loneliness in her twenties while outwardly appearing to have an active social life.
We explore how the COVID-19 pandemic impacted people's social connections and mental health, especially for those already isolated or lonely. They talk about how to strengthen social health even for busy, successful people who still feel lonely. April offers practical tips like taking stock of your current relationships, performing small acts of kindness daily, and getting involved in your community through volunteering.
Key Takeaways:
- Loneliness is feeling disconnected even if you're around people; isolation is being unable to leave home or interact.
- You can appear to have an active social life online but still feel profound loneliness.
- The pandemic severely affected social health for many, especially older adults.
- Strengthen social health by taking stock of key relationships, showing kindness daily, and volunteering in your community.
- Making social health a priority is just as important as diet and exercise for overall wellbeing.
Quotes and insights from the episode:
"Loneliness is feeling disconnected even if you're around people...you could be lonely in a room full of people and look like you’ve got loads of friends."
"Loneliness is as bad for us as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. It really is a killer."
"The pandemic was a destroyer for some people, some people I know, older people... Soon as that was taken away, their mobility went right down, their movement went right down, their health often collapsed."
"Everybody deserves somebody. We come, we don’t come into this world fully alone...we shouldn’t go out on our own as well. And then sadly, people do."
"Making social health a priority is just as important as diet and exercise for overall wellbeing."
April's Quote:
"Loneliness is feeling disconnected even if you're around people...you could be lonely in a room full of people and look like you’ve got loads of friends."
Get in touch with April & Together Co:
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Hello and welcome.
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:Do you feel lonely and isolated sometimes?
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:By strengthening your social
health, you can improve your
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:physical and mental health too.
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:Now this is a really, really important
topic, which I'm delighted to have
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:April Baker from Together Co, which
is a loneliness charity, join me.
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:Together is a specialist in this
field, does amazing work around
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:people, social health and loneliness.
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:And loneliness and isolation is something
that we all experience, whether we perhaps
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:in a personal space, maybe you're a leader
or a founder, it's lonely at the time.
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:Loneliness can touch anyone and
it can have profound effects.
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:So I'm delighted to welcome April and
we're going to share with you a lot of
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:thoughts and understanding and things
that you can do to deal if you're
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:dealing with loneliness and isolation.
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:April, welcome!
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:April Baker: It's great to be here
and talking all things social health.
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:excited.
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:Sal Jefferies: Good
stuff, lovely to have you.
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:In terms of definition, words
are powerful and sometimes words
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:can be, interpreted differently.
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:I'd like to talk to the three things of
isolation, loneliness, and social health.
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:So what's your definition of isolation?
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:April Baker: Yeah, so I think for
me, loneliness and isolation can be
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:mixed together and used together where
people think it's the same thing.
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:So isolation is objective
part of loneliness.
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:So isolation is you are unable to
leave the house because of, let's
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:say, a physical health condition,
or we have become isolated because
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:of a pandemic and we're locked down.
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:So we are isolated.
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:So that's the objective part.
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:Loneliness.
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:Now that is subjective.
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:That's something we feel and, and that's
got many layers to it and probably
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:a lot more connotation and when you
pitch a loneliness for me, I picture
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living on their own kind of, I always
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Eleanor Rigby plays in my mind, that
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and I still think that even though I
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:have been lonely as a young person.
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:So loneliness, it's a feeling.
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:And there's different forms of loneliness.
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:So it's around a
disconnection from something.
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:So it could be a
disconnection from yourself.
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:So you just don't get yourself,
you don't know who you are.
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:So it's quite existential in that regards.
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:But also there's a
loneliness of not belonging.
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:So you're not belonging to the
job that you go to every maybe
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:the wider community and network.
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:It's a real felt thing that One person
that has been a supporter of for many
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:years and also used to access our
services beautifully described it,
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:where they said, I feel homesick, but
I don't know where my home And that
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:It can be very stigmatizing.
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:I would say you've got
isolation, loneliness.
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:Someone can become lonely because
of their isolation, but you could be
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:lonely in a room full of people and
look like you've got loads of friends,
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:but you just don't feel connected.
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:And so I think that's more what
people feel and go, what is this?
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:Because I've got loads of friends and I'm
in this room with 400 people and I've got
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:That's the loneliness that feels
different, I think people, feel, but
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think more people need to understand,
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and something is not quite connected
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:Sal Jefferies: Lovely,
really eloquent and powerful.
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descriptions there.
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:I know you work with us in depth and
what you said there about Being social
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:beings, of course we are, we're hardwired,
humans are powerful as a social species.
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:We're, we're quite fragile as a, as a,
as an animal compared to say, a lion
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course we, we now dominate the earth.
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we work well as groups and
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in the brain, such as mirror
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we very much know now.
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for some people where you've got friends,
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be successful in all these, what seem
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be this loneliness, this sort of
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you don't know what's going on with me.
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come in and try and figure out stuff.
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cognize and think through problems.
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it's a feeling problem as such, as
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and that really struck from when
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listeners, I think if that lands for
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empowerful things, right?
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:Wonderful social health.
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go into, into some, some depth here.
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:Please describe your
interpretation of social health.
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:April Baker: bit of a journey has, has
happened with, TogetherCo, starting to
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loneliness can be the negative aspect
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talk about an For us, we're trying
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different parts and all those parts
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:need to be working well, which will
equate to being and us to thrive.
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with us and normalise this feeling.
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:social health.
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:is about your relationships.
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:So your network of relationships,
the importance of relationships and
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:connections, like I was saying before,
your social health with your close five.
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three or four very close networks.
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community, friends, and it's,
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:what's that looking like?
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:And we have to put social health
into the conversations alongside
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:physical health and mental health.
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:Health.
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our mental health, have social
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three combined equals well being.
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now more than ever from the pandemic
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together, this must start being spoken
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what is shown about The key to the good
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:life is It's your So that's where we're
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:Sal Jefferies: Thank you.
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:Yes, really, again, eloquent,
lovely, very succinct.
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:and as you know, for my regular listeners,
that my entire philosophy is based
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:on an ecosystem of the individual,
how our mind works, our emotional
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:mind or body and our physical body.
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missing out on, on the, on the other.
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not deal with your emotional challenges.
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and do your mind stuff but if you're not
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:moving, and you're getting your body in
a good place, you're missing out on how
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:the whole system works as an ecosystem.
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:But of course, we are a
system within a system.
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:It's basic science, right?
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our atomized, particularly our
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life that, We are individuals.
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of I am separate from the other, it's
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problem I see in coming up on one guy or
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social health is, it's, it's,
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either don't get on with those
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as social health, and then
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week and, no, we work as a system.
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:April, I'd love to learn a little bit
more about how you got into the field of
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this space in the world?
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:April Baker: I think there's
that led me to where I am.
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tell, very passionate about talking
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an So I grew up with, mum, dad and myself.
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larger families and groups of people.
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is as a little girl, I used to, so we
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all the gardens were interconnected
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gardens of these little Victorian houses.
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tea and then try to invite them back.
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girl going, why are they on their own?
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England, me, mum, dad, my family
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:What's going on?
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:Then I went to work in, different
areas within the charity sector.
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including hostels for people
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with mental, health issues.
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I've ever managed or worked in,
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label people homeless.
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they want to belong.
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they got better was through feeling like
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than their condition or their experience.
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journey for me and this interest.
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psychology and I'm now studying a
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with what's right with us.
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in well being, in positive psychology, one
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realise the importance of what I
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of connection, of social beings.
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this role came up at TogetherCo, and
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and Hove that for 20, over 20 years
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waving the flag saying people need
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together, please don't forget that.
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become their CEO a year ago.
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building towards this.
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:Sal Jefferies: Wow.
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as a single child, my niece,
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course I grew up with a sister.
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and see what it's like, yeah, these
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said there about, not the label,
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condition it's, it, we get caught
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labels in today's culture is that we,
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like, people say to me, I've got
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think the problem I have with labels is
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become a prison that we're stuck in.
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it out is because our brain is
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Cognitive Philosophy at Sussex
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machine and we're thinking we are,
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person, people don't love me.
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behaviour and this is the work I do
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mind and look at what are our biases?
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predicate actions and behaviour
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or might lead to isolation.
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from the outside and from the inside,
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these identity types and labels and
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for good measure to understand.
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find, which is really, really important.
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for a long time and I'm generally,
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or I have an introverted nature.
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but I can only do so much.
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my space and re, regroup.
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like this before the pandemic.
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in quite a lot of ways.
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to do with the pandemic.
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nearly wiped me out, which is surprising
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and it just absolutely knocked me.
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how I am now and, and I'm okay with
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some people, some people I know, older
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say a little bit of shopping, catching
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their mobility went right down,
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their health often collapsed.
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older generation who have to move.
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that have come out of the pandemic.
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certainly with the work that you're
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since the pandemic, what's this, what
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how loneliness and isolation has, has
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in, I would actually say it's locked up.
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which is an imprisonment of sorts.
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it, but there's a collective.
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echo of this still going around.
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around collective trauma.
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depends on how they entered the pandemic.
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COVID, and I'm really sorry to hear how
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then what is our opportunity coming out?
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TogetherCo is a much higher level of,
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people are being referred to us.
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just say in terms of even my own
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that have never experienced anxiety.
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fearful to go out and about.
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because we got told stay in.
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would say we're experiencing.
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we went into the, lockdowns, there was
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very lonely and now they are chronically.
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were saying, that one person that
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out was that one bit of movement, that
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that, we decline very, very quickly.
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loneliness is a really powerful piece of
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bad for us as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
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once a week contact.
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only been once a month.
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comes, sees that person and takes
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becoming chronically lonely as well.
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that, what I've noticed is They're
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again and not coping with that.
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two years of my life and I've got to
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we had a slower pace and now we're
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more Busy and so you hear how are you?
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book to see some of my friends five
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much and then people are Needing,
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and I need to go and talk to someone.
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fast back out of it because
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of, okay, this could happen again.
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what came into the pandemic, what
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and how you're coming out of it.
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years we are going to realize or see.
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the younger generations growing up.
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information that I have on that is
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they were having retention issues with
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about knowing their own boundaries.
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of the pandemic, go straight to
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managers, Oh, is it okay if I go out?
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didn't have those really formative
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go through GCSEs and school together.
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the years prior to that, the generations,
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is going to be some impact, definitely.
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saying social health, because also,
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to learn how to do that, and some of,
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in terms of maybe neurodiversity.
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tribe, but know that you belong somewhere.
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got to do more and be more aware now that
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in terms of what we're seeing and
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the pandemic definitely have shown
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it the amplification, of what's going
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anxiety, overly, I work with a lot
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sensitive, and I used to use that
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accurate term without the labels,
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sensitive and shame go together.
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who are 40 plus, right?
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from a neurological point of
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thoughts and all sorts of activities.
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which is awareness of what's
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the higher responsiveness you have
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which put a pandemic in, put a world
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to my space with a lot of this sort
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do the work and change them.
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listening, if you've come out of this and
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April, how did you go in?
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amplified and it may need some work.
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might be work with a therapist.
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naming and writing it down.
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is part of the solution always.
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social media and the issue of connection.
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where computers came in roughly
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teenage, something like that.
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live for a long time because of the way I
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and built on social media and connections.
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:I love my phone.
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:I love all the tech that gives
us lots of opportunities.
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:I think the issue that we have is,
is that if we are a lonely person
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:and it's not comfortable to be in a
group, hence if I'm out, out for a
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:drink or out for some food, If a group
of people, two people at a table, and
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other person can't not use their phone.
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:If that's you, then, we all
do it to some degree . And I
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:find it absolutely fascinating.
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:We just knee jerk towards that addiction.
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:like a smoker reaches for the cigarette.
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:It's exactly the same.
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:Addiction's addiction.
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:And it needs to be named.
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:But as you rightly said, there
can be this, let's say, veneer of
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:connection, which could be, thousands
of Facebook friends or whatever.
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:When actually human contact now is,
is probably less and absolutely more
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:required and more needed to solve this
challenge of like, I feel alone or I
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:feel lonely, And I think there's an
easy out to use a phone or piece of tech
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:to go, Oh, on WhatsApp or on TikTok or
whatever it is that you're playing with.
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:Rather than meet that, probably
that existential angst, which
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:is, I feel really uncomfortable.
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:Yeah, and I think it needs naming, and
I'm a big fan of naming stuff, because
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:once we name it, it's not a shame.
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:But if you're feeling massively
uncomfortable, in my experience,
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:that feeling of loneliness is a tell.
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:all emotions have a reason.
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:It's a tell that, yes, you're
disconnected, or you need
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:to reconnect with somebody.
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:And I think that's a really important
thing for those of us who are a little
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:more biased towards tech for connection.
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:than we are going out for a coffee
with a friend or, talking to a
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:colleague and maybe, going out
for some food or, or going to some
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:sport together, something like that.
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:What are you doing with your, certainly
with your work and with TogetherCode
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:to, to address that very challenge?
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:April Baker: So I think for me, what
I wanted to start with, as well as
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:I will come to what we are looking
and seeing at with TogetherCo,
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:is something I haven't mentioned
yet, is my own loneliness journey.
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:So I was in my 20s.
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:Living in London, and I'd moved up there
for work, with a relationship that broke
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:down within the first year, going to work
every day, trying to, climb up the career
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:ladder, also during that time I'd had a
bereavement, so one of my close friends
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:had sadly died, so there was a lot going
on, but what I didn't realise, which
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actually the main thing that was going on
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:for me, was, disconnection from people.
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:So what you were saying about, if you
looked at my Facebook, because that's
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:what I used back then, because it's my
Facebook at the time for TikTok, I looked
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:like I was having the time of my life.
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:I had.
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:Loads of friends and, you know, atting
people and going to these parties
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:and, Oh look, I've just been promoted.
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:But actually, I was living in a part of
London where I, I didn't know anybody.
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:Up my road, I didn't know my
neighbours, I didn't know the
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:people I was house sharing with.
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:I had to travel across London
to see anyone at a weekend.
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:I remember some weekends
where I had no plans.
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:where I would literally go and
get my nails done or my hair done.
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:And again, that's a privileged position.
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:I could do that, so I'm very
mindful of my privilege within that.
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:But that was just to connect,
to have a conversation.
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:And for me, it took the realisation,
I'll never forget the moment, I was
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:on a train back from Dorset where
my family lived after Christmas.
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:And I was going back to London,
going to, go back to work,
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:go back to the shared living.
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:And I said, enough's enough.
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:And actually, what I had to
do is go What's going on?
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:And I really had to look inside
myself to be like, What am I missing?
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:And that's why I said, What am I missing?
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:What am I missing?
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:Because all the lead up to that was,
I'd been diagnosed with depression.
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:I had been diagnosed with, panic disorder.
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:I was going to therapy, but there was
something else that was not working.
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:The biggest thing that wasn't
working was where I was living
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:and not knowing anybody.
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:That started my journey back to Sussex.
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:And back to Brighton, because I also
realised through that journalling,
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:which was really powerful for
me during that time, I realised
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:the sea was really important.
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:So some people might find woods or
parks, the sea is really important.
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:I grew up in Dorset,
it was very important.
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:And also Brighton was where I
had the most amount of friends
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:in one place, which wasn't a lot.
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:I think it was four, four people.
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:so I was like, they're where
most of my friends are.
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:It's by the sea.
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:I know, I know some of the area and so
I made the move and I think for me, the
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:reason I'm sharing that is to say, like,
all of what's shown on social media and
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:what we do on social media absolutely can
be beneficial, during that time, I got
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:to message people and, and, Thank you.
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:connect with someone that I once
spoke to when I lived in Australia and
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:things like that, but it was not the
same as being physically in a place.
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:like actually on your street or in your
town, city, village, knowing people.
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:And that is really, really important.
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:And that is something like,
there is a lot of things that
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:social media can be good for.
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:So you can, through social media,
find your tribe of a particular
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:condition you might be suffering.
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:So for me, I got to join
a forum about anxiety.
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:Brilliant.
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:But it's not going to replace
that connection of an actual
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:person being in front of you.
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:And like I said, it doesn't
have to be best friends.
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:It can be going to the corner
shop and knowing Joe, who runs the
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:corner shop and having a chat every
day, going, to the coffee shop.
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:And that's another thing that we're
losing less and less of is those.
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:places of connection in
our town, cities, villages.
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:So recently, I'll give you an example.
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:They are looking to close ticket
stations at train stations.
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:Big concern for me.
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:And so when I bring into what we do at
TogetherCo, so TogetherCo has spoken
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:about that and said, hang on a minute.
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:Firstly, people need to connect
and a lot of people going to the
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:train station need a conversation.
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:And secondly, their reason
for it was modernization.
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:Surely modernisation in this world is
actually being inclusive of people,
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:and I was reading about the RNIB did
a survey for people who are partially
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:or blind, and only 3 percent of people
surveyed from that community would
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:feel comfortable using a machine.
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:actually, this isn't modernisation at all.
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:For me, this is choosing
convenience over connection.
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:And that is something bringing
TogetherCo back into it.
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:TogetherCo is trying to say,
Look, let's not do convenience
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:and cost cutting over connection.
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:Because those small moments of
connection, it doesn't have to be big.
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:And that's why I don't want people
to feel like, Oh, but I still don't
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:have any, that I don't know people.
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:It doesn't matter.
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:Go and just have a conversation,
in your local shop.
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:Go and have a coffee and get
to know the coffee owners.
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:Those few moments of connection,
it's been proven biologically.
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:Help us every day with
our positive emotion.
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:that's what, so we're
campaigning it together, Co.
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:But also there's a real personal message
from me that I wanted to share at
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:this point to say I have felt lonely.
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:It did cause my mental breakdown.
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:It was caused by my loneliness.
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:My social health impacted
my mental health.
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:Sal Jefferies: thank you.
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:That's a very powerful story
and I'm very touched by it.
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:So thank you for sharing and obviously
sorry for the loss of your friend.
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:Isn't it interesting, the labelling, and
whilst the conditions you may have had
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:at that time, I call them expressions,
we call them conditions if you're
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:medical, but depression, panic disorder.
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:I think if we don't look at the
environment, like you've already
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:alluded to, like the social health
environment, we don't look at
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:what's the bigger picture here?
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:What's going on?
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:And I would actually also say
the better question, certainly a
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:question I drop in my coaching a
lot, is like, what is not going on?
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:Because we often look at what we're
doing, but what are we not doing?
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:I haven't gone to the shop
this week, or, I know, I know a
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:client and they work in, tech.
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:and they spend a lot of time
with them, tech is what they do.
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:And they don't go out much.
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:I'm like, what do you mean
you haven't been out today?
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:What do you mean?
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:I've been out like eight times,
I've done seven miles already.
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:And they're like, oh no, I didn't go out.
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:I'm like, wow.
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:And of course, that's, that's not healthy.
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:Humans are wired to connect.
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:And sometimes it, the, what am I not
doing question is really powerful.
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:Cause if you are having the experience
of depression or you're pulling back, or
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:there's a lot of panic or anxiety, there's
a reason why your nervous system, your
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:brain body system is expressing that way.
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:There's a reason for it.
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:It's not wrong.
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:For some people, it's a,
a maladaptive condition.
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:And there are other elements to it.
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:But if we don't ask what is going
on in the bigger picture, certainly
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:with connections we're speaking to
now, then we're really missing the, I
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:think, the message in those situations.
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:And, yeah, amazing.
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:Thank you for sharing that.
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:That was really powerful.
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:And I too heard about that
shutting down of ticket offices.
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:And, yeah, the word
modernisation, it's very careful.
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:That doesn't mean it's better.
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:oh, it's modernising.
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:It's yeah, the modern world.
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:It doesn't mean it's a better world.
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:And, us...
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:Are rates of anxiety
and depression going up?
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:Are suicide rates going up?
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:Hmm.
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:Are we having issues with the
economy and the environment?
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:we know the answer to these questions.
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:They're pretty bleak.
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:And there's a reason for this.
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:Now, we can't solve all
the problems in one go.
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:But if one of the issues are
disconnection from other people,
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:the answer is quite simple.
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:Not necessarily easy, but simple.
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:It's reconnect with other And let's
look at how that might happen.
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:I want to speak to...
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:So some of my audience are...
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:like you said to, earlier in our, in
our conversation, they're surrounded
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:by lots of people and they have people
in their lives and they're busy and
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:probably successful to some degree and
yet have that gnawing feeling, that
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:feeling if you're in, you're on your own
for a minute in the shower or there's
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:something missing, there's something
wrong with me and I coach a lot of people
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:who do really well in many aspects,
but existentially there's a hole,
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:there's a problem and we go to that.
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:We're like, what is that?
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:And as you've already alluded to,
that if loneliness is, you're at
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:the top, you're, hey, look, you're a
CEO of your company, but it's lonely
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:at the top for a lot of people.
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:A lot of people don't challenge that.
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:And there's also a facade.
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:If you're a CEO or
founder, there's a facade.
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:People don't get to see the
real you, perhaps, because
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:that's just not how it works.
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:And I noticed that that's a.
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:Pernicious, slightly more subtle way
of people being lonely or isolated, and
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:yet they're in a busy room and they're
in a busy life, and yet they're empty.
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:And, and that's a really interesting one.
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:How would you speak to that person?
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:What might they be doing to change
their experience of loneliness, even
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:though they have physical people around?
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:What would you say in your, your
professional experience, what can they do?
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:April Baker: I think that's
such an important point you've
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:raised because often people get
alone, confused with loneliness.
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:And actually some people are alone.
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:And solitude is actually something
very positive and be, can be really an
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:amazing space to connect with yourself.
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:But then you'll have individuals
that are in this room ha look on
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:paper like they've got great social
health, but they just don't feel that.
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:And I think for me, the key.
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:message, and I can only speak really
of my own experience, as you said, of
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:being a CEO or being a senior leader
for many years, somebody who has
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:themselves struggled significantly with
loneliness, it has been, for me, about
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:meaning, what gives meaning to my life?
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:What is it that makes buzz?
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:What gives me flow?
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:What is it that I just love doing and
having that filtered out in parts of
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:your week so that you can come back to
that because a key point for me is when
621
:I am going to these big events and, when
I am CEO at work, accountable to the
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:staff that I serve, accountable to the
board that I serve, sometimes I feel
623
:like I've had to armor up or I feel
that there has to be a few shades of me.
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:And then you, you can move
away from your authentic self.
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:So we need ways, and I, and I really
recommend coaching, and speaking to
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:someone on this as well, we need ways
to come back to who we are, what gives
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:us meaning, so we're not the Fifty
Shades, maybe we're three shades of
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:ourselves, but we know who we are.
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:So I think that's what I've had
to think, how can I bring...
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:me to my work as much as possible.
631
:So firstly, becoming a CEO
was never important to me.
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:The loneliness mission was.
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:So that's, because I'm, I'm
working for a cause I just
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:believe in, it's really helped my
wellbeing in many different ways.
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:also knowing, and it's very
interesting, you spoke about,
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:being introverted, knowing.
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:that it's okay to be an introverted
leader because I didn't know that.
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:I thought, you look at all leaders and
it's extroverted and I should love this.
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:I should love all these networking.
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:And I don't, I do it and I do it for
the cause because I'm passionate for
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:the cause, but I have to the next day
have a day free with no socializing.
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:So I do things a lot more like I go
to the cinema on my own quite a lot.
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:I go for walks on my own.
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:I go to the sea on my own because
I know that's where I find some I
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:also know what's important to me.
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:But I've, I've done work.
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:I've, I've always had a mentor,
that's important to say, and a coach.
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:And I believe so much in the power
of someone standing next to you,
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:holding that mirror and, and being
able to talk back to you, but that
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:you don't have to on your own.
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:You really, really don't.
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:So I think if you're feeling
like that, It's okay.
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:You need to find a way, whether that's
through journaling, whether that's
654
:through coaching, whether that's
through, you can do some great strength,
655
:free strength finders to look at
what your strengths are, values and
656
:action, the VIA surveys, brilliant.
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:Oh, that's what I love.
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:I know I love learning.
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:So I'm always going to want to
be in a role that's learning.
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:Try and look at who, you have strengths.
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:Everyone has gifts and strengths.
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:Find those, find that part of you.
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:Thank you.
664
:And that's what's going to bring you back
to yourselves in moments that sometimes
665
:we have to perform or have to bring a
certain different self to a role, but you
666
:don't want to be out in that all the time.
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:And I think for me in my loneliness,
when it was really bad and I may become
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:lonely again in life, but when it was
really bad, it's because I felt like I
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:was dipping into everyone else's life.
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:I feel I was performing at work
and I was like, where's April?
671
:Who is April?
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:So that's for me what I feel.
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:Sal Jefferies: the term I use when I've
had that experience to some degree, not as
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:much as you, but it's I've lost my centre.
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:I've lost the centre of who I am
and, we, we are chameleon esque.
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:Humans are very good at chameleon
esque people and leaders and people
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:in their businesses are good.
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:It's great to be a salesperson, perhaps
the ambassador, maybe it's the front
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:of house, whatever it is you do.
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:And, and this sort of flexibility
itself is utterly natural.
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:And I think it's a great skill
set we should all master.
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:not at the expense of losing your centre.
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:It's like if you're not anchored to a
centre point of who you are at your core,
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:then we start to, we slip into patterns.
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:People know people
pleasing, imposter syndrome.
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:They're all built on very shaky
egos or very fragile egos, which
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:are actually not really egos.
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:They're conceptual egos, which
is a lot of work I do is to
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:break that ego, not healthily.
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:And let the real ego come
out, the real self come out.
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:It's, it's deep.
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:it reminds me of the old.
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:quote, or the existential
theory around bad faith.
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:If, I like a bit of existentialism.
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:Yeah.
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:And I've, as from positive psychology,
I trained with, one of the guys
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:who used to lead the course there.
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:brilliant guy.
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:we talk about bad faith in the
existential, that the example
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:is this, it's a very old one.
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:If there was a waiter, being all
gregarious and lovely and serving the,
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:serving the coffees and teas, and they
went home, was all miserable and downbeat.
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:They, they would call that as bad faith.
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:We might call it, in
modern terms, disingenuous.
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:I think there's something really important
about not losing your core centre,
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:even if you're a leader, whatever you
have to do, because if you've still
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:got those attributes, those qualities,
those strengths, they shine through.
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:How you apply those strengths is skill.
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:So if you are, passionate about what
you do, honest, trustworthy, don't take,
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:don't take any rubbish from people.
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:That can be your way of being, how you
deploy it can be skillful and elegant,
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:but if you start to not meet those honest,
authentic parts of you, I think that
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:starts to become in some ways an isolation
from our inner self and Little steep
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:into there's internal family systems.
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:There's a psychological principle model.
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:You might Psychosynthesis sort of
deals with this . We talk a lot about
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:the, the internal family, the parts
of ourselves, and, and when you do
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:the inner works, sometimes we have an
isolated part and those who've been
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:through therapy, you might know this,
those who, if you haven't had al therapy,
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:we often have a part of us, which we
don't like, or we've closed it down.
721
:It could, it could be the Revel, it
could be the kid, it could either it's
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:one of these parts or it got shamed,
certainly in the male domain, which I
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:can speak to with my own experience.
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:is that part got shamed.
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:So that's not okay to
be that version of you.
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:You have to be, certainly the nonsense
I was growing up in, strong, masculine,
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:I'm a really sensitive individual.
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:I was like, no, that's
not going to cut it.
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:You have to be strong and tough and hard.
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:And, and, and so part of that softer,
gentle part of me got closed down for many
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:years until I did the work to let that
part be seen and also brought back in.
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:So that internal isolation and
loneliness can happen as well.
733
:It's a more of a...
734
:Deeper level of working, but I think
it's worth naming because it can be going
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:on for many people and that internal
It's like there's something wrong.
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:There's a dissonance within It needs
looking at because actually it's it's
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:an expression what often happens on the
outside That we April social health.
738
:Let's let's get let's get practical
now Let's we've got our listeners
739
:have lots and lots of understanding
and knowledge What are the pillars,
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:what are the pieces of social health?
741
:So if someone's thinking, yeah,
you know what, this is exactly the
742
:stuff I need to attend to right
now, that's what's going on for me.
743
:What are the key things in social
health can we flag up and go,
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:these are the pieces that make it.
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:What would you say?
746
:April Baker: So the first thing is
with social health is relationships.
747
:So what I would suggest is looking at
your current relationships with people.
748
:So I don't know if people are
aware of, Dunbar's rule of the 150.
749
:people, which is actually shown through
anthropology that that's our limit.
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:Actually, the hundreds of thousands of
followers, it's not going to happen.
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:So firstly, it's okay to only
have a few people in your life.
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:Maximum of people you can actually
connect with, they say, is about 150.
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:But what's key is, think about those
individuals that are important to
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:you in your life, that when you're
with them, they give you energy.
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:Note those individuals down.
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:Think about those people that
you like an activity with.
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:You go and do an activity.
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:Note those people down and think
about how much time you're spending
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:with those individuals or how much
timing instead of spending with those
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:individuals, you're scrolling on your
phone or you're working overtime.
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:So I would just do a bit of a summary of.
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:These are the people that give me energy.
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:It could be one or two as well.
764
:And it may be at this moment you're
not sure, which then that's telling
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:you I want to find those people.
766
:That's okay as well.
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:You can start to find these people.
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:So you want to build up a network of
people that you know in your hardest
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:moments you would be wanting to call on.
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:And that takes time, I've got to say as
well, but just key is people that like
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:what you like, and you're going to go
and do stuff together, like one of my
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:friends, when they moved to Brighton, they
didn't know many people, they knew myself,
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:they didn't know many people, they loved
volleyball, so they joined volleyball,
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:they've now got a massive network of
friendships, and it's fantastic, and
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:friends are meeting friends, so that's
the first thing, I would say, is do that,
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:start building that up, and just in your
week, just like we do with mental health,
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:where we go, I'm going to do mindfulness,
Physical health, I'm going to go to
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:the gym, social health, I'm going to
see Joe because Joe and me have a great
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:giggle and I've had a really tough week
and I'm going to commit, I'm not going
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:to work late, so you add that bit in.
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:The other thing I would say is
don't overlook kindness and giving.
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:So every day you have an opportunity
to increase your well being by
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:doing really small acts of kindness
throughout the day, giving to others.
784
:So that could be, get off your
phone, look up on the bus and smile
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:at the person in front of you.
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:You see someone struggling with their
shopping and they live three doors down,
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:pick up that shopping, carry it for them.
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:I promise you, that will help
you just as much, if not more
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:than the person you're helping.
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:You can take that help further as well.
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:And actually, things like volunteering,
and I know I'm obviously going to speak
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:about this because of being charity
CEO, but I cannot tell you the amount of
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:corporates that bring their teams to our
social events and the teams afterwards say
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:it's one of the most amazing experiences
they've had because they get to give
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:back to their local community, they
get to have conversations with people
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:they never usually get to meet, and so
volunteering really is an incredible
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:way to help your own well being.
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:It doesn't have to be massive.
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:It doesn't have to be long term.
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:It could be, okay, I'm going
to go and do this fundraiser.
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:I'm going to go and do one
event for this charity.
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:Think about a cause.
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:We talked about meaning.
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:What gives you meaning?
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:What has helped you in your life?
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:So obviously, as you can tell, for
me, loneliness is important for me.
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:for my, Dad, um, his sister, got early
onset dementia, so he does a lot of
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:work supporting, dementia research.
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:the real, there will be, that will give
you meaning, because it's something that's
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:important to you, but also, you're giving.
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:And, thinking about this the other
day, actually, I took a picture
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:in a, a local bookshop I went
into for the self help section.
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:Massive self help section.
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:And I was like, one day,
wouldn't it be amazing that
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:there's a help others section?
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:Because, and you spoke about this really
well earlier, Sal, about the individual
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:being prioritised, which obviously is
important, but actually, helping your
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:community, helping one another, needs to
be equally prioritised, because that's
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:what's going to help you feel Thank you.
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:more grounded, more connected, that's
going to help you recognise what you love.
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:But also those daily acts of
kindness, just like your daily acts
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:of gratitude, really are powerful.
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:They increase your positive emotion.
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:They're just as powerful as
going for a run, in the gym,
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:which is really equally as good.
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:But we must start thinking of
these other social aspects as well.
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:Sal Jefferies: Really, really nice.
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:Absolutely amazing.
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:We're going to capture those and put those
points in the show notes for everyone.
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:amazing.
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:what struck me when you said there
about, yes, we're individuals,
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:that's what I coach with.
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:Here's the thing, we're also the other.
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:I'm the other to you, or to a
person who passes me on the bus, or
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:on the street, or whatever it is.
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:So we're actually the other anyway.
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:We forget that.
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:We are the other, as
well as the individual.
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:So when we realise that, we
realise that, actually we're both.
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:And I think that...
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:Hopefully you can break down
the barriers a little bit, the
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:psychological barriers about oh,
should I do this, should I do this?
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:No, you're the other.
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:It's okay, because what if someone helped
you if you, I don't know, had a shoulder
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:injury and you couldn't carry your bag?
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:Someone said, oh, do you want a hand?
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:Oh, thanks, lovely.
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:amazing.
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:Really, really cool.
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:Last, I really want to just capture
some clear things on what Together
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:Code do, because it's really important.
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:You've got some great programming,
and it also will help encapsulate
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:for everyone listening, what's...
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:You do as a profession,
what you know works.
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:What, tell me a little bit, just
a little, the pricey of your, you
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:guys, what you do in your programs.
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:April Baker: Fantastic.
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:Yes.
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:So Together Co, as we spoke
about, it's a loneliness charity
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:based in Brighton and Hove.
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:So it's all about developing
your social health.
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:We have two main programs.
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:The first one is social prescribing.
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:And this is something really important
just to touch on actually, is National,
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:program and you can go to your GP or you
might find us in job centers and basically
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:it's a professional called a link worker
that will help you around ways to connect.
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:So it might be connecting with some
financial advice or housing advice,
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:but also it might be ways you want
to connect in your local community.
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:You might be a newcomer to the city.
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:So we oversee social prescribing.
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:So wherever you live in the UK,
you can look up social prescribing
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:and also you can go to your GP
and talk about that as well.
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:The other part is befriending.
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:And so I talk about with volunteers.
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:So we match people across the city
in neighbourhoods to become friends.
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:And I cannot tell you the
amount of beautiful stories of.
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:people needing people and that people
are just wanting to be together.
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:But also, if it wasn't for TogetherCo,
which has been going for 20 years,
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:way before, I came on board, those
friendships wouldn't have happened.
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:And some of those
friendships last a lifetime.
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:And because of that, people at the end,
so dying well is as important as living
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:well, people have a friend at the end.
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:And if TogetherCo hadn't matched
them, they wouldn't have had anybody.
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:this is powerful.
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:everybody deserves somebody.
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:We come, we don't come into
this world fully alone.
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:Our wonderful mothers bring us
into this world and we shouldn't
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:go out on our own as well.
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:And then sadly, People do.
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:So that's something very, very important
to us and something we've been delivering,
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:like I said, for many, many years.
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:But we need more volunteers
and we also just have a whole
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:range of volunteer programs.
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:So anyone that wants to get
involved, we don't say no.
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:We say, come on board, what's your skills?
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:How do you wanna get involved?
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:Because then they build up networks.
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:'cause we have volunteer events,
so they become friends as well.
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:So that's a range of,
of what we do, locally.
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:There is other, so if anyone's.
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:thinking, wow, okay, but
I don't live in Sussex.
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:There's lots of other fantastic
loneliness charities across the uk.
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:You've got the Joe Cox Foundation
in London, you've got the
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:Marmalade Trust in Bristol.
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:so there's lots of others as well.
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:Age, UKs across the country do a lot
of, uh, working with older people.
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:But what I would just wanna
stress as well, that loneliness
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:is not an older person It affects.
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:All of us have many points of our lives.
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:Young people are really
affected by it right now.
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:There's a brilliant co op foundation
program called Lonely Not Alone.
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:Really, if you've got, children, I
recommend going and just being mindful
913
:of that and what that might be happening
for your children around loneliness.
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:It can affect people who
are newcomers to cities.
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:It's affecting men that we've
talked, you've spoken about with,
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:the connection and being able to
reach out sadly high suicide rates.
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:New mothers.
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:Seriously affected as well.
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:So it isn't just, Oh,
it's an old person thing.
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:I don't need to worry about it.
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:Actually, it can affect us all.
922
:Like I've spoken about, it affected me
in my early twenties and it may do again.
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:So lots of options.
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:I hope that explained quite
well a range of what we do, but
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:also I'm just very passionate.
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:Wherever you are, go and have a research
about ways you can connect locally
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:as well.
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:Sal Jefferies: Brilliant, thank you
for sharing and we will of course
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:put your show note, in the show
notes, details to, to learn more,
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:to, to see it together, code, all
the programs that will go in there.
931
:yeah, I'm really struck, because
we, we, we, we had a, an initial
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:conversation before this and.
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:The feeling of loneliness.
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:It's so easy in a busy world to not think
about social health and to get caught
935
:up running a business, super busy, maybe
you're a parent and then it's when you
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:sit down that, that uncomfortable feeling,
there's something up and disconnection
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:wherever it is, between your mind and
your body, between you and your family,
938
:between us and our community and I
see between us and the environment.
939
:If we can reconnect, good things happen.
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:a really powerful subject.
941
:Thanks.
942
:I am so thankful for you
sharing your experience, but
943
:personally, professionally,
it's really fascinating to hear.
944
:Thank you, April.
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:And of course, let's meet up for
a cup of coffee in real life.
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:April Baker: Yes, let's do it.
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:Social health.
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:Sal Jefferies: health.
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:So my dear listeners, I trust
there is many, many things
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:that you've got from that.
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:But if there's one thing you can
take from it, action is traction.
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:So if there's something going on for
you, whether it's you want to find out
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:about volunteering, whether you want to
solve your own challenges, or a friend's,
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:whatever it might be, take action.
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:Action means change.
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:until the next time, take care.
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:Thank you so much for listening.
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:If you enjoyed the episode,
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959
:would benefit from hearing this,
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:If you would like to get in touch
yourself, then you can go to my website,
961
:which is sal jeffries.com, spelled S
A L J E F E R I E s sal jeffries.com.
962
:Hit the get in touch link and there
you can send me a direct message.
963
:If you'd like to go one step further
and learn whether coaching could help
964
:you overcome a challenge or a block
in your life, then do reach out and
965
:I offer a call where we can discuss
how this may be able to help you.
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:Until the next time, take care.