Change Decoded – My System for Difficult Decisions

Often even when our circumstances, and our gut, tell us it is time, even absolutely necessary, to make a change, we struggle to make the decision and act on it. 

I developed a system to help me download and declutter all the confusion and fear; “false emotions appearing real”, and confidently make the choice that served me best.

The Change Decoded System works for personal and business choice analysis. 

As an entrepreneur, I have used it many times over decades. It literally is a game changer!

As an evolutionary woman; this system has been a life saver!

Join me for a guided audio tutorial about how to use and maximize the system.

Sign Up HERE for the Change Decoded System PDF.

If you have a friend struggling with a decision right now, tell them about this free tool.

You might be the change that someone else needs right now. 

EXTRA! EXTRA!

Our series about #CHANGE began with Episode 35, “Driving Change” so take the wheel and enjoy that episode too!

Cosmic cameo appearance from #KevinCostner – find out the secret connection that #FieldOfDreams star and I share!

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Isabel Banerjee - Your Next Business

Strategist and Transformation Catalyst

Dynamic, a self-made entrepreneur who overcame obstacles with an unrelenting positive nature, a farm girl work ethic, and a conscious choice to thrive rather than survive, Isabel Alexander Banerjee cultivated an award-winning, $10 million+ global chemical business and grew it from dining room table to international boardrooms.

Isabel’s strengths include the ability to initiate & nurture strategic relationships, a love of lifelong learning and talents for helping others maximize their potential. An inspiring speaker within both industry and community, she is a driving force behind those with the courage to foll0ow her example of thriving against the odds.

With 50+ years of business experience across diverse industries, Isabel is respected as an advisor, a coach, a mentor, and a role model. She believes in sharing collective wisdom and empowering others to economic independence.

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Chief Encore Officer, The Encore Catalyst (www.theencorecatalyst.com) – an accelerator for feminine wisdom, influence, and impact.

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Hello again my friends!

Welcome back to the second episode in our series about change.

If you joined me on episode 35...

Called, Driving Change...

You know that I shared my Summer vacation story of getting lost on purpose...

To try to sort out a mental mess.

Something that I was really struggling with on a decision I

felt I needed to make, but I wasn't fully in a place of saying...

Yes...

I am a 100% sure that this is the change that I need to make.

This is the time in which I need to make it.

I also had some fun on that podcast, as I shared with you...

That my driving partner...

At least part of the trip, was Kevin Costner...

At least in my imagination he was.

But I did also tell you that Kevin Costner likes road trips, just as much as I do.

And I shared something cool that he's doing.

So double back...

If you haven't already listened to episode 35, and find out what I'm talking about.

And also, I just take this opportunity to say if you know...

A friend, a loved one who is also struggling right now...

Like I was...

With making a decision and feeling good about having reached that decision.

Then please, share these episodes with them as well.

You'll be doing them a really, really great service...

And you will be lifting...

As you climb.

So...

Today's topic about change...

This is about...

The mess, the model, the confusion, the fear...

That often comes with making a big lifestyle change decision.

It's scary.

It's so scary.

What if...

You're making a mistake?

What if...

You should stay where you are?

What if...

You haven't thought this through properly?

I get it, because I've been there...

Often in my life...

As the Transformation Maven, and a woman who is constantly reinventing...

and proud to be still evolving in my late 60s.

Many times, I have faced myself in the mirror thinking...

What the F...

Isabel...

Are you doing?...

Thinking about making that change?

Wouldn't it just be easier to stay where I am right now?...

Even though I don't like it...

And I'm not feeling comfortable and I'm feeling...

Suppressed and contained...

You know, it could just be safer to stay in that little place.

Well...

Ultimately, I realized that's not what I want.

And I know that as afraid as I am, of making this move to change...

I am much more afraid of the regrets of not having taken the

chance and acted on the change.

I know when I talk with my besties, my Vitamin G network...

And my clients, we all agree that making the decision and having the confidence...

That the right decision is hard.

It's really hard.

And there are various processes and approaches, but...

I've found one that I modified, and maximized, over

the last couple of decades.

I have created a tool which has been very helpful for me and for many of my clients.

It's a resource that was shared with me decades ago in a business group.

But it wasn't quite as robust or encompassing as I needed.

So over the decades...

I modified this and refined it to become what I call...

the Change Decoded System.

This is what I go to...

It's my go-to...

When my gut is churning, and my head is aching...

And I know I have to make a decision...

But my limiting beliefs...

My monkey mind...

All of those obstacles that are subconscious, and

conscious, put in front of us...

Get in the way.

Today, in the notes...

I'm going to include where to download this for free, so that

you can use it for yourself.

But even more important I felt was to explain really how to get the

most out of using the Change Decoded System, and share a little bit about...

How it's really helped me.

So...

Buckle up!...

We're going to talk about change!

You will be able to follow along if you're just on audio with this...

But also, if you have an opportunity to go ahead and download it...

Then you'll actually see the pages I'm talking about.

It's simple...

But it's elegant and it's very effective.

It's only four pages.

And...

If you're like me...

Sometimes 4 isn't quite enough space...

Then just grab your journal, or any other piece of paper, and continue

to download all of what we're going to pull from you using this tool.

The first thing we need to do is decide what are we decoding?

What is the change that you are contemplating?

Frame that in a single clear sentence.

Don't try to solve all of the world's problems...

Or plan your entire life at once.

But let's pick one significant area...

The change that you think...

And you've been thinking about for a while...

But weren't quite clear on what that would mean for you.

What is the change that you are contemplating?

Try to get rid of the noise and the clutter...

Of what somebody else may want.

Because this is all about you, and only about you.

My focus is on you.

All right...

So when you have written that sentence down...

Read it out loud...

Get it really clear...

Cemented in your brain.

And then...

On the page in front of you, there are two tables, and I want you to brain-dump...

Free flow...

Allow what you don't even know, is in your subconscious, to come out on the paper...

Without editing, without punctuation, without concern for penmanship.

Remember, this is only for you.

No one else sees it.

No one else is going to judge it.

Please...

Do your best not to judge yourself.

Everything you can possibly dump...

To ask and answer these 2 questions...

What is the best thing that could happen if I do it?

Keeping in mind what you wrote down for...

What is the change you are contemplating?

I now want you to answer...

What's the best thing that could happen if you do it?

Again...

Just let it flow.

And no matter how sublime or ridiculous or far-fetched...

Or unnerving any of the answers are...

Put them down there...

Write every single thing that comes to you.

And when you think you can't think of anything else...

That would be the best thing that could happen to you if you do make

the change you're contemplating...

Then I want you to switch to the other side of the page,

and free flow, brain dump...

Let it all pour out...

What is the worst thing that could happen if you do do it?

What's the worst thing that could happen?...

If you do the change that you're contemplating.

I, don't put any governors on this.

Let it flow.

Sublime...

Ridiculous...

Crazy...

Impossible...

At this moment in your thinking...

Whatever resistance that you are feeling...

About...

What could be the worst thing about the change you're contemplating?...

And dump that all out there.

Now depending on how far you are in this process of evaluating

or decoding your change.

You may need to journal for a couple of days.

You may need to write 5 items...

Or you might write 2.

You may come up with 105, for the best and worst things that can happen...

But just let it flow.

Okay.

Now my recommendation is that you get up...

Walk around a little bit, go get a coffee, get a glass of wine...

Kind of just go...

Just shake up your brain for a little bit...

Because we're going to move to the second page of the system.

And again, keeping in mind the question and the answer to...

What is the change you are contemplating?

I want you to again...

Thought download, brain dump, let it all come out...

Unfiltered...

Unmasked...

Uncensored...

And answer the question first...

What is the best thing that could happen if you do not do it?

Got that?

Be clear.

This is the opposite of the first part of the exercise.

What is the best thing that could happen if you do not make that change?

After you've emptied your psyche out onto the paper...

Then I would like you to shift your thinking around...

What is the worst thing that could happen, if you do not do?...

You do not make the change you're contemplating.

Again, don't judge, don't limit, don't sensor yourself.

I'm pretty sure that you will experience, like I usually do...

Some big surprises.

You may not have been aware of what was hiding back there in your thoughts.

that's a good thing, because getting it all out...

Removes the conflict that you're having...

Removes a lot of confusion...

Certainly reduces stress, and it allows you to release all of the energy around

things that you're holding onto...

That no longer serves you.

Now...

At this stage of the process, the Change Decoded System...

I want you to stand up, stretch, jump dance, sing...

Whatever you need to do...

I want you to give your brain a little space here for processing, and

now you will answer this question.

Very important question.

What choice serves the future you desire?

Maybe you already know, because you've been processing as

you've been journaling...

But if it's not immediately evident for you...

Then take a highlighter...

And go back through the brain dumps that you did in the 4 categories, and

look for the things that jump out...

That resonate to you, and think about why...

Why is that triggering a feeling in you, an emotion in you?

There's a clue...

Trust me.

There's lots of cues and clues, in how we are reacting to our own answers.

And now, taking a little time, try to summarize what is the choice

that serves the future you desire.

I should have given you a heads up at the beginning of this to say before

you start the Change Decoded System...

Make sure you clear the deck...

Be in a private space...

Have a box of tissues and lots of your favorite beverage.

And allow yourself the time and space, to dedicate to this.

Don't have other people coming in to your space and interrupting the flow.

Don't be concerned about anybody else listening in or being over your shoulder.

Let the emotions flow.

Try to do this all in one sitting.

If you cannot...

If there are physical reasons you cannot.

Or emotionally, this is too much in one go...

Then make sure you come back to complete the next 2 stages very quickly.

I want it all to stay fresh for you...

And you will get the best results from this process.

All right, everybody...

Shake it off again...

Blow your nose if you have to.

I have shed many a tear...

But it's been very cleansing for me every time I go through this process.

Now I'm going to ask you...

Based on your answer to what choice serves the future you desire?

Answer for yourself...

What or who, must you release to get the outcome you desire?

When we change...

It does require us to let go of something to have capacity.

In episode 35, I shared with you that a big part or revelation

that occurred for me on the road trip was that the change that I was

contemplating, processing, could only happen if I released some things.

I had to release some expectations and judgments, and habits,

and even some relationships.

I'm not saying disposing of relationships, but changing the dynamics...

And changing my expectations of those relationships, is very important.

And for you...

I ask you now to think about...

Are there WHOs in your life...

That you need to release?...

Or at least reallocate?...

In terms of their priority in your life.

So that you have the capacity to grow and to evolve.

And to really be successful and enjoy this change.

My friend Marg Hachey says that no one really likes change except a wet baby.

And yeah, as you change and evolve...

it's going to be unsettling for people around you.

So we'll talk about that in an upcoming episode about...

How to create positive change in your relationships as you are moving forward.

Letting go of someone doesn't mean that you don't care about them any more...

But really...

You have to care for yourself first...

Before you can give back the best of you.

There's also the WHATs that we have to assess.

What do you need to do differently?

What is the way that you want to show up?...

And must show up...

If you want to affect this change successfully.

Take some time and think through...

What you're doing now?

Where's your energy going now?

Where are your resources going now?

And which ones of those will no longer really be of value, as you move

into this new chapter of your life?

Again, No one's going to see this.

No one's going to feel like they have been exorcised from your life.

Only you will choose what things you're going to stop doing...

Subscribing to, habits that you do...

And let that...

Again, be uncensored, free flowing...

And out of that...

Stand back...

And circle the things that really resonate with you...

That are priorities and are essential.

And if it makes you uncomfortable...

Take a little time to journal more about why that specific...

Who or What...

and changing it...

Makes you nervous?

The conclusion of the Change Decoded system...

Because it brings us to a very positive place...

I'm going to ask you to answer for yourself...

What and Who do you now need to attract to yourself?

What relationships do you need to cultivate?...

Or existing ones, that you need to nurture, to make this change

Positive, Possible, and Probable.

Looking at the positive side of this...

What do you need to add?

The resources, and the relationships, and the skills that will help you

affect that change, and be very happy that you made the decision to do it.

I know it's a lot to take in all at once.

But the good news is...

With the PDF.

You can use my process...

Change Decoded...

Again, and again...

Each time something comes up...

And I hope for you...

Many opportunities to consider change come up, because that means that

your life is expanding, and your opportunities are expanding, and you are

continuing to become more of yourself.

The best of you.

With that...

It means that you are able to do more for others, and you are bringing

your superpowers, your abilities, your leadership, and your example

as a role model to the world.

And we all need that.

Love to hear your feedback on how Change Decoded System worked

for you, helped you in any way...

That is my dream come true.

My desire is for it to help you.

If you're ready for the next steps in your transformation process.

I have a fabulous tool that would be perfectly timed now for you.

It's a fabulous confidence building tool that will help to unlock and unleash the

potential that you have built up in you.

That perhaps you need some reminding of what an incredible

vault of value you have.

That is also with my compliments to you, in the show notes...

But easy to remember...

It's MyEncore.ME

So for now, to conclude our episode on change, I'll be back next week...

As we continue to evaluate all the aspects of change.

It is a multifaceted...

Challenge and Opportunity for all of us...

If we choose it to be so.

There's a quote that says that...

Choices, Chances and Changes, are the 3 Cs of life.

You must make a choice to take a chance...

Or your life will never change.

For today, I wish you positive change and exciting change!

Look forward to talking to you next week!

And please, if there's someone in your life that you think this

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Or these tools and resources would be helpful...

Let them know...

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