The fear of being seen started for me at age 10, when my family became highly visible in the press and I learned to associate visibility with threat.

A couple of weeks ago, I put the word visibility in the middle of a blank page and let myself freestyle write. What came through was that I'm taming myself in my most visible channels, bumping up against a ceiling: the old belief that when you become highly visible there has to be loss.

So I posted the content I had been holding back. Within minutes 40 unfollows started, and I felt physically sick. What happened next is the part most people leave out of the conversation about the fear of visibility.

So how do you name the visibility blocks sitting underneath your content and attract clients without performing or being controversial for the sake of it? That is exactly where this episode goes.

Topics covered on Fear Of Being Seen:

1. The fear of being seen is not a confidence issue. It is an old responsibility you never chose to carry.
2. How a visibility block hides underneath content that looks authentic but holds back your real opinion.
3. What happened to my followers count the moment I stopped taming myself in my most visible channels.
4. The childhood association behind a fear of visibility that resurfaces every time your business grows.
5. The one question to ask yourself about visibility, plus what it means for attracting clients who invest at the highest level.

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Why Your Business Has Hit A Visibility Block

[00:00:42] I am Rachel Pearson, global brand and business strategist, skincare obsessed, and always distracted by booking the next mini break. Here you will learn how to position like a luxury brand, attract clients who love to invest, and build wealth that lasts, so you can create the business and life you want, not someone else's version of success.

What It Takes To Hold Visibility At A High Level

[00:01:24] I have not done it. I am very transparent about this. But in this week's episode, I am going to be sharing a perspective on what it takes to hold visibility at a high level, one that has come from my experience working with clients, but also from my own personal experience. And when I say visibility at a high level, that often means more people, but it can also mean being visible because you are getting sharper about what you communicate and clearer around your truth.

[00:02:19] And I do not think we have this conversation enough in the online space. We have lots of conversations around the importance of visibility and how to be strategic, which platforms to be on, how to use Reels, how to trick the algorithm. You cannot trick the algorithm, by the way, but that is another episode.

[00:03:05] I find it easier to present and talk in front of large groups than I do in front of 20 people. I do not know. Maybe it is that I put on my equivalent of Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce, and I can get into that mindset, and it really energises me to talk in front of a lot of people. The hard part for me is that it has carried a negative association, which I have worked on a lot, but it does keep coming up and bumping up, and this is what I am going to be sharing in this week's episode.

Where My Fear Of Being Seen Came From

[00:04:11] Their parents mentioned it to me, and it was to do with a business in my family. It was a lot of visibility that I was not personally dealing with on a mass scale, although I experienced it through my parents managing it, so I had it through their filter. But because it really impacted the dynamics of my family, where we had this big amount of visibility and it was negative, it had a negative effect.

How I Reframed My Fear Of Visibility, One Live Video At A Time

[00:05:38] And I knew that I really wanted to expand my capacity to allow my visibility to grow. So as I started to get more visible, I have continuously been working on my capacity to hold visibility, and that started off with really simple things like going live more on Instagram. And honestly, my first live, I was absolutely terrified.

[00:06:23] When I say I started small, I started with baby, baby, baby steps, and then I moved into doing smaller events, and I also started to really look at how I could experience visibility differently. How could I reframe the association I had with visibility so that it had a new identity within my story?

Why My Fear Of Being Seen Became My Strength With High Profile Clients

[00:07:04] But through doing this work, I started to see that through the experience I had in my childhood, and my fear of being seen, it is one of my key strengths that I have a very acute and intuitive understanding of the impact of high levels of visibility on the nervous system, on relationships, on family dynamics, the importance of creating safety and reassurance in your body, but also the conditions you are setting, the circumstances around it, to have some feeling of control over visibility, whether that is what you say to yourself or the kind of boundaries you have on social media.

[00:08:13] So celebrities or CEOs of very high pressure businesses that have a lot to lose. Their visibility comes with a threat to privacy. They have wealth, which is also something that can feel really threatened. They do not have a sense of normality, and so visibility is both a driver and a necessity in their business, in their life, and in every bit of success they have built, and attracting clients at that level means it can feel the hardest thing to navigate and to manage.

The Work On Fear Of Being Seen Is Never ‘One And Done’

[00:09:37] This is continuous work. This is me strengthening the positive association I have with visibility, with me standing in my truth, with me being sharper in my beliefs and what I stand for, and it is something I continuously connect back in with.

[00:10:29] It is the unknown of visibility that creates the sense of, I do not have certainty in this yet, and that unknown is where the fear of being seen tends to live. But that does not mean you need to shrink back or create a new strategy around visibility. The key part for you is being able to strengthen your self trust and your own association with what visibility brings to you.

The Morning I Realised I Was Taming Myself Online

[00:11:14] Over the last month, I would say, I have been going through opportunities where visibility has really been circulating me. I have had opportunities through magazines and other PR. I have been invited to record podcasts in studios. When it comes to attracting clients, the ones I am getting inquiries from and starting to work with, they have high levels of visibility or are looking to really move to that as well.

[00:12:06] And the thing that came through was, I am taming myself in my most visible channels. What that looked like for me was, I am having conversations, I am really direct in my client work. With my clients, I have direct conversations about where I see gaps in their business, where I think they are holding back, and the limitations.

[00:12:51] But when I am just sitting here recording it, it just feels like a conversation between me and you. And I have the debrief, a free Telegram channel, where you get unfiltered thoughts about what is going on in my business and the work I am doing with my clients. There I am open, nothing is off limits.

[00:13:32] But when I look at my content and how I was showing up on social media, I can sense how I was not bringing forward my opinions, the truth of what I am here to create and what I am here to change. And I could sense it is because that feeling, that association I have, is that social media is high visibility.

The Kitchen Table Exercise That Broke My Pattern

[00:14:29] I was like, okay, so what does stopping hiding look like for you? This is where I am that weirdo who just coaches herself at the kitchen table on a Saturday morning. And the thing that felt edgiest for me at that time was being unapologetic about the wealth I have and the life I have created.

[00:15:06] Maybe it is my messaging. And it is like, no, this is not it. I love messaging, I work on it a lot, but underneath it, it is a belief. It is wild what your brain can do. But that was the story. So I knew I needed to go to that place in my content to start breaking through the visibility block I had created. And because I had done this process of writing everything down, I had processed it myself, so I knew this content was not going to be reactive.

What Happened When I Posted The Content That Scared Me

[00:16:11] I just spoke really openly about what I am here to do, what I am here to change, and I was the most specific I have been about my life openly and what my Saturday had been like. And after I posted that piece of content, when I posted it, I felt sick. And I think it is important to say this, because sometimes it is like, no, you should just go out there, be really audacious, post the piece of content, not care what other people think.

35 Unfollows And 3 Client Inquiries From One Post

[00:17:27] In time it will. In the long game it will, because by me coming more into my specific truth, speaking more to my specific person, I know this will attract more of them. I have this saying that the power of one goes to the power of many. So when you speak to one person directly, that is when you start to compound, because you will attract more of those right people.

[00:18:13] Again, if it comes from that place, it is a mirror, you will get that mirrored back to you. But I created it from the truth of, I do not need to prove this, I am not performing it, this is what I stand for. And I knew that was where I was capping myself. And wherever you are capping yourself in your beliefs is also where you are capping yourself in the growth of your business every single time.

You Do Not Need To Be Controversial To Attract Premium Clients

[00:19:28] You do not need to be controversial or have people dislike you or create hate comments in order for people to pay you a lot of money, and that is the story, the narrative I am seeing go around online. What I am saying is different. Did I have people who did not agree with me from that post? Yes.

[00:20:05] And this is not to shame people who do this kind of highly controversial thing, who know it is going to create this sort of rage reaction. It is their way of doing it. But what I am saying is, you do not have to do it that way. I believe you do have to go to the edges of your truth and call out your own bullshit when you know you are holding back on saying something publicly that you would say to somebody if they were in a room with you.

[00:20:47] That is not what this is about. Leadership is about unwavering truth. It is about unwavering certainty. So I do not think anybody is really challenged with a fear of visibility. I think they can be challenged with how consistent they are with their content, but again, I think there are beliefs that sit behind that.

[00:21:22] And that is what is going to bring you back into your truth, and it is also going to open up a different way of talking in your content, of tapping into those, what will probably be more controversial opinions, that will have an edge, that will be the things that get unfollows or get comments from people who do not agree with you.

The One Question To Ask Yourself If You Feel A Fear Of Visibility

[00:22:19] Is it the responsibility of holding success? Is it responsibility around failure? Is it responsibility around what other people perceive about you? Who does she think she is? She has changed. God, she sounds arrogant. She is talking about money all the time. What is that responsibility? And then what is the perception you have created for yourself that means you are not showing up in your truth?

[00:23:10] There are so many different ways you can do this, but you have to get clear on the responsibility you are no longer willing to carry, the one that is capping you from getting more visible and from attracting clients who are right for you, that is holding you back from sharing your truth, the truth that somebody will hire you and pay you highly for.

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