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008 The Power of Decision: One Simple but Shockingly Powerful Tool to Transform All of Your Limiting Beliefs
Episode 8 β€’ 21st August 2023 β€’ A Changed Mind | Mindset That Matters β€’ David Bayer
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Ready to pull back the curtain on your limiting beliefs and create powerful shifts in your life? This episode will guide you into the realm of transformation with ease and simplicity, shedding light on the four primary categories of resistance that hold us back from our true potential. Hear about David's transformative journey, from attending self-help events and exploring meditation, all the way to a retreat in an ashram in India. Through this journey, he uncovered how quantum theory, astrology, numerology, and sacred geometry can illuminate our path to inner growth.

Discover how the seemingly simple act of decision holds immense power in shaping our beliefs. David shares how his encounter with the top 100 advisors of a 24 billion dollar financial firm reinforced the significance of our unconscious decisions in directing our thoughts and actions. We'll delve into neuroscience and the reticular activating system, revealing how they play a crucial role in our decision-making processes. David unravels the mysteries of the decision matrix and how it can be employed to form empowering new beliefs.

The final part of this episode is about putting knowledge into action. David guides you through the process of identifying your limiting beliefs and replacing them with new, empowering decisions. You'll learn how to gather evidence to support your new beliefs, laying the foundation for a brighter future. Remember, transformation doesn't have to be a strenuous journey, with the right mindset, it can be a simple yet powerful process that can lead to incredible changes in your life. So gear up for an enlightening encounter with your own beliefs and decisions!

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What We Explored This Episode

  • 00:00 - Transformation and Changing Limiting Beliefs
  • 08:02 - Transformation Through Personal Growth and Healing
  • 14:51 - Beliefs Shape Destiny
  • 23:12 - Transforming Beliefs
  • 35:40 - Transforming Limiting Beliefs Through New Decisions
  • 42:23 - Deepening Your Knowledge With A Changed Mind

Memorable Quotes

"Our beliefs, as it turns out, are simply decisions we make – often unconsciously – and these decisions shape our thoughts, experiences, emotions, and actions."
"If you believe that money's hard to make, you're gonna have these thoughts around how hard money is, how scarce money is. You're not gonna have thoughts around how abundant and prosperous the universe is."
"Beliefs are decisions. When I had that experience with my father, I unconsciously made a decision that I didn't know how to do it right. It was a decision."

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David:

Hey, it's David. Welcome to another deep dive episode of A Changed Mind. I am your friend, your host, your mentor, your guy who's just been through some things and is passing it along. I am so grateful that you are here with me today and have this opportunity to share with you one of the most powerful distinctions I learned that allowed me to actually transform my limiting beliefs. I'm going to be getting that into that with you today. And as always, what I want you to get out of today's episode is a deepening of your belief that things are going to be okay. The certainty of the goodness of the future. The reason why this episode was recorded was to be a sanctuary for your spirit and to remind you that you're moving in the right direction, right? You've been asking, you've been receiving. This is part of the answer. Because today I'm going to be demystifying the idea around limiting belief. If you're here, you're aware that your limiting beliefs are holding you back. You're probably aware that thoughts are things and your thinking is creating your reality. And you may, like I did, be experiencing a deepening of your self-awareness. But now you're sort of in this question of, okay, how do I change my beliefs? How do I change my habitual thoughts? How do I get out of these cycles of emotional habit that are creating unnecessary stress and anxiety in my life and affecting my ability to create more abundance or prosperity or to attract or have meaningful relationships or to give your body a break so that you can heal and experience deeper levels of vitality and vibrancy or health? Maybe you want more clarity around your purpose. Maybe you've been thinking about leaving the job you have to start your own business or you're already in business. You want to grow your business and you know that you are responsible for what you are creating. And you have an awareness of the beliefs that don't serve you any longer, but you don't know how to let them go. Are you with me? That's what we're going to be talking about on today's episode. And the distinction I'm going to be sharing with you, which radically transformed my life in, I break down limiting beliefs into four different categories of resistance. I actually talk about that episode three, if you have not caught it yet. And it is the foundation of the 12 step technology we teach called the whole human framework to achieve whole human healing. There's four types of limiting beliefs or resistances that we experience. And what I'm going to be sharing with you today can address about 50% of them. And I want you, I'm going to, this is one of those things where it's a spoiler alert. I'm going to tell you in advance. I want to let you know that this is a very simple distinction. And the truth is that transformation does not have to be that hard. I was recently speaking at a very special event for the Raymond James organization. I was able to meet the Raymond James CEO. They're a $24 billion financial advisory firm. And I was invited to present to their top 100 producers or advisors at the end of the conversation. One of their advisors said, yeah, you know, I've been working on my beliefs for a long, long time, but it's very difficult to change. And I said, well, that's probably not a belief you want to hold if you're looking to change. We have layers and layers and layers of these limiting beliefs. And even your belief about what it means to create change or how easy or difficult it is to overcome your childhood traumas or the wounds from the past or your limiting beliefs have an impact on how easy or difficult this journey of transformation is for you. And so this is going to be a very simple distinction today. And it's going to be part of this theme of, hey, we're making it a lot harder than it needs to be. And it doesn't have to be that tough. Now, my journey is not an example of that because I had to go through a process that I went through in order to become the person that I've become and learn the things that I've learned, just like you are in your own hero's journey to achieve my purpose, right? Which at least at this moment in time is being here on this episode with you. And so my journey of wanting to learn how to change my beliefs was a long journey. In fact, if you've heard some of my story from our earlier episodes, I had no awareness of personal development or self-help until I realized one day that my life had become unmanageable and that I was a drug addict. I was an alcoholic. I was a pornography addict. I was a work addict. I'm sure I had some codependency tendencies. I'm sure I was obsessive compulsive in the way that I was thinking. I was an A-type personality. And all of that came to a crashing halt and I realized I needed help. And so I started working a 12-step program. And as I was working a 12-step program, going to 12-step meetings, working with a therapist that specialized in addiction recovery, and I started getting some variety under my belt, I was like, wow, this is really incredible. I lucked out because the therapist I was working with had a particular focus on neuroscience and neuroplasticity and the science of brain chain. And so I began to realize if I can change these habits of addiction, man, what can't I change in terms of my habits or the way that I think or the way that I feel? And where's the limit in terms of what I produce? And so I decided one day to go to a bookstore to see if they sold any types of books on the way to improve yourself. And I went to the front desk. It was a help desk and the woman behind the counter, I waited in line until she was available. And I said, hey, do you have a section here in the bookstore for people who want to improve their lives? And she said, you mean the self-help section? And I was like, oh my God, like what an appropriate name for the section. She said, yeah, it's up on the second floor. So I went up to the second floor and I walked over to the self-help section and there lying on the floor was a little book with a white and red book. And I kid you not, there it was. I picked it up. It was a little book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon. If you're not familiar with Think and Grow Rich, it's considered to be the number one bestselling business book of all time, but it's not really a business. It's a book about how thoughts are things. And by learning how to change your attitude, you can change your life. And that was my entry point into self-help. From there, I started reading any of the books that I could get my hands on. And then from there, I started going to the events. I did the Landmark Education Series with the Landmark Forum and the Advanced Series. I went to a couple of Tony Robbins events. I went to some other events that maybe you have or have not heard of. I went to a live presentation by Esther Hicks, who channels this infinite intelligence, Abraham. I started going really, really deep. I mean, if there was something that could contribute to my transformation, I was open to it. I started a meditation practice. I started getting into breath work. And while I was experiencing all of these different transformational teachings and modalities, and while I was also having some incremental changes in the way I was thinking and feeling, and therefore my life, I started making a little bit more money. I started having better relationships. I started getting more clarity around what I wanted to do and really what I didn't want more, which was running the types of companies that I had been starting and running for a couple of decades. I was still experiencing a lot of what I would call suffering, stress, anxiety, overwhelm. There was like a disturbance in my fort. And it was almost like the more I was learning about personal development, the more I was convinced there was actually something wrong with me because I was still fairly unhappy. Like if I added up all the time that I was either happy or not happy, there was way more time that I was spending in unhappiness, even though I kind of had a pretty good life. I was CEO of a company that I raised $4 million for. You know, I was able to pay my rent. I wasn't kind of money at the time because I was paying myself salary. Friends, recovery, felt a little bit spiritually connected. But I was still more unhappy than happy. And I don't know if you can relate. So I started going deeper in my journey. Eventually, I attract Carol, my wife, who's also president of our organization. And I drug her to India. We went to study at an ashram that I had heard about there. It was like a five from sleeping on the floor. We stayed there for a week. We ended up staying there three weeks. And I started engaging in other types of healing modality. I ended up studying things like quantum theory and consciousness theory and field theory. I was getting into astrology and numerology and sacred geometry. And again, you may have heard of some of these things. You may have been on a similar journey to me, or maybe this is all new. It doesn't really matter. The point is, I spent three or four years really trying to figure out how I could reduce myself. And so my self-awareness continued to expand. I was like, oh, I got these limiting beliefs about money. And I've got these beliefs about myself that I'm not good enough or that I'm not as far along as I should be. And I have these beliefs around sort of my experience of life. Oh, there's not enough time where you can't really trust people. But I just kept experiencing those beliefs over and over again. And I kept attracting those experiences over. And so, you know, I set up an ashram in my home. As I mentioned, I developed a meditation practice. I really couldn't afford to be going to India. We ended up going four times. And so finally I found the most spiritual place in the United States, where whether you know it or not, it's unanimous. It's Sedona, Arizona, right? So I went to meditate on red rock for four weeks. And I remember being in the crystal shop in Sedona. And I was looking for a crystal. One of my friends was like, yeah, maybe you need a particular type of crystal. Maybe there's energy inside of you that you need to have released, removed. Okay, well, let me figure out how to do that. And it was a teenage girl working behind the counter. And in between her chomping on her chewing gum, she came over to me. And she said, Oh, are you here to see the Arawakan and Kogi Indians this weekend? And I had no idea what she was talking about. But I was so far down the rabbit hole. And I was so desperate to actually eliminate my personal suffering that I looked her dead in the eye. I'm like, that's exactly why. Tell me where they are. So I ended up spending the entire weekend with this ancient of ancients, Amazonian tribe had traveled out of the out of Brazil for the first time in Colombia for the first time to share what was going to be happening with. Remember that 2012 shift where the world was going to end? And so it was a very interesting weekend that really took away two things. Number one, they said, Hey, stop taking the crystals out of the ground. You people don't know how to use them. And number two, they said, Hey, ease up on the masturbating because it's draining all of your energy. So I had already handled the second sex addiction. So I ended up in this place where it was sort of like a Dante's Inferno type purgatory. I wasn't in heaven. I wasn't in hell. But I was acutely aware of my limiting beliefs. And I developed a deep self-awareness in my recovery and personal development work. But I had no idea how to change my life. Now, if you're listening on the podcast, you can just nod your head if you relate. If you're joining me on YouTube, you can comment below and tell me you relate or don't relate to this. But this is sort of the journey of person. And as I was getting to the other side of my healing, and I don't, I don't think our growth ever ends, but I'm saying I can divide my personal development journey into chapters. And a big flip of a big page in the middle of that book is that this distinction I'm going to share with you around how to actually transform your limiting belief right here, right today. But I was looking around and seeing everybody else who was in personal growth kind of suffer. You know, they could go to an event and jump up and down three days, change their emotion state, but ultimately they went back home with the same brain. And so I was understanding that real transformation is real brain change. So how do you change your brain? It's real perceptual change. So how do you actually start experiencing the experiences that you've had for a long, long time differently? It's a change in that internal inner critic, inner voice. So that's not an inner critic. It's an inner champion. And real change isn't about having to brute force that. It's that that inner dialogue starts to become sweeter and more self-enforcing and more loving and more confident and more courageous. And so that's been really the focal point of my journey. You know, I sat in this question, which was like, is this it? Is this all there is to life, to personal growth? And I started getting answers because asking you shall what? Receive. And so one of the answers I got was this distinction, and it's called the power of decision. But I want to walk you in. And if you've listened to other episodes of mine, especially the early episodes, episode two, episode three, where I'm laying out foundation of why we teach what we teach. Some of these distinctions may be familiar, but it's worth hearing how they weave together right. And I want to start by acknowledging that your beliefs dictate your destiny. In other words, what you believe determines on a moment by moment basis what you think. And if you believe that money is hard to make, you're going to have these thoughts around how hard money is, how scarce money is. You're not going to have thoughts around how abundant, prosperous the universe is. You're not going to have thoughts that will actually lead you to making money easily, right? If you believe, for example, you're looking for a relationship that there's no good people left out there, you're not going to have thoughts and ideas that would lead to you meeting your soulmate. You're probably going to stay at home. You're probably going to isolate. So what you think on a moment by moment basis is determined by your belief. And when you have a thought, you experience that thought as an emotion. So if you're thinking that there's no good ones out there, you're probably experiencing some form of depression, some form of frustration, what we would call a prime state of being. If you're excited because you know that your soulmate is on the way and it's just a matter of time and you can go on and live life, trust the intelligence of life itself, whether you call it God or Jesus, Allah or the universe, force is going to bring you this person, right? Then you're going to have good feelings or what we would call powerful. So your beliefs determine your thoughts, your thoughts determine how you feel and your feelings determine what action you do. So if you believe that your soulmate is on their way, you're probably going to go out and enjoy your life. And while you're out enjoying life, you're going to meet this, right? If you believe that money is easy to make, then you're going to start to inspire a thought, make money that are going to inspire you and excite you and build curiosity. And then that's going to lead to action, right? That is going to be in alignment. And given enough time, that action will produce the result and the result will reinforce belief. So your beliefs determine thoughts, thoughts, you experience emotions, your emotions then drive behavior, right? Actions and your behavior determines your results. Results will reinforce. So when I was growing up, I believed that I didn't know how to do it right. And so as I was trying to make sales calls, I would have thoughts about, I don't want to bother people. I'm not very good at my sales script. Oh, it's a market. I doubt people are going to want to buy. Maybe our product isn't good. Before I'd even sit down and actually pick up the phone to make a call, I'd be experiencing these thoughts, emotions. So I'd actually start to experience bothering someone or rejection or a no before I even took any action. That's how amazing the human being operating system, right? You start to experience a future that hasn't happened. And then based on me experiencing rejection or failure without having yet taken any action, right? That would then determine what I did. And rather than making sales calls, I'd go to Starbucks. I'd get another latte, Starbucks my happy. And so those were the actions I would take. And so the results would be not more sales, but a hypercaffeinated Dave. And then that would then reinforce the original belief. See, I don't do it, but it's not that I didn't know how to do it right. It's just that we, all of us operate. It's called, we call it the five primary drivers. It's core of behavioral psychology. And it's what's called a psychocybernetic loop. Basically means what you believe is going to determine results. Results are then going to see, I told you there's no exaggeration. I told you trust. See, I told you, right? I'm never going to be able to get wet. There's no way to limit. It doesn't matter what it is. Now, where do these original beliefs come from? Well, they come from when you were a child. Most of your beliefs come before the age of seven, before the prefrontal cortex is fully formed. Neuroscience says that your brain is developing all the way up until age five. But when you were born, you were born with about a hundred billion neurons and about 25 billion synaptic connect, little connect drive just between the neurons. So what you can see is that you're born with more neuron connection. So what's connected? Well, it's the survival part, the eating, the sleeping, the pooping, the breathing, the crying, right? You come in built in with survival mechanism. And then what happens is over your formative years, so your first seven years of your life, you go from a hundred billion neurons and 25 billion synaptic connections to a hundred billion neurons, really synaptic connection, I was trillion, synaptic connection, you build out this massive neural network in your brain. And the way that you've done that is you've been recording every experience that you've been having. You've been recording what, uh, sight, the smell, the sound, the touch, the taste, all of that data is getting sent through your nervous system to your brain. And you start to form these new connect along with one other thing, which is the meaning you give the experience. So when I was seven years old, working on a school project with my dad, my dad said, Hey, why don't we do the project this way instead of the way you were doing it? And I interpreted that as, I don't know how to do it. And so what happens is now all of a sudden you begin to shape the lens through which you perceive reality. So you start to notice all the times where you think you're not doing it and you ignore all the times that you're actually doing it just, and so, and this begins to build momentum. We can actually see that the neuron represent for, in this case, the belief that I don't know how to do it and the synaptic connection, they develop deeper miles, they start to become more electrically charged and so you start to find evidence for this idea that there's not enough time, it's hard to make, or you're not good enough everywhere. It starts over. And that's why so many people in their late thirties, forties, fifties have sort of this midlife crisis stress breakdown. It's because these limiting beliefs have become so predominant in your thinking and your perception that it creates too much stress. Good news is that's normally what brings us person. So your beliefs dictate your destiny. Beliefs determine your thoughts, determine your emotions, actions, determine your results and the result we believe. Beliefs come from the meaning we give the experiences of our life, whether they were true or not at a very young age. So it wasn't true that I didn't know how to do it right, but that was the meaning that I gave experience working on the project with my dad. In fact, part of our definition of limiting belief is that it's a inclusion you came to that simply was, it was a missing. And so some people call these deeper limiting traumas, right? Or child stories. I don't really like the word trauma in a sense that I make it sound like really. Um, I really like what Gabor Mate, one of the leading experts on trauma said, which is trauma is not what happened to you. It's a happenstance. So we're all carrying these traumas and their limiting beliefs and they're creating these undesirable emotional adults. They're limiting our capacity to think, and they're limiting what we are able to create in our lives. So we have a limiting belief. And again, if you're listening on the podcast, you can just think about like, are you aware of a limiting belief you have? Right.And it may be some of the ones that I already gave, or it might be you can't trust people. It might be something like if you want to do it right, you have to do it yourself. It might even be a belief that you have that you really need to control things around you, otherwise you're insane. It might be a belief that people don't listen, which may be the case once in a while. Not everybody listens to me. I can give you a long list of people who don't listen to anything. Some of them are very close relatives. But for the most part, it's a limiting belief. And if, again, you're joining me on YouTube, you're watching the episode, comment below. Let me know what a limiting belief you're aware of that you'd like changed is, because we're going to change it right here, right now. So I had been working through all these different modalities, trying to change my beliefs. I was using tapping. I was using some other emotional release techniques. As I mentioned, I was using meditation, tools from behavioral psychology. And Carol and I were walking on the beat today, and I just had this overwhelming, profound down. And it was so simple. And I said to her, oh my God, I just realized something. She said, what? And I'm going to share this with you. It's a two millimeter distinction, but it's going to make all the difference. Because if you've been trying to transform your belief, and you've had a challenge doing it, it's probably because you feel like you're working with something that's almost invisible. And it really is, right? You can't see these thoughts, can't see these emotions. In many ways, a limiting belief feels like clouds, like how do you even wrap your hands around it to work with, to transform it? And the distinction I had was that beliefs are decisions. When I had that experience with my father, I unconsciously made a decision that I didn't know how to do. It was a decision. And because no one ever really taught me how psychology worked, and how neuroscience worked, and how the human being operating system, I just made that same decision over and over and over again. The next time I had an experience that seemed like the experience I had with my dad, my brain just automatically came to the same conclusion. I was in class, teacher asked a question, I raised my hand, question, teacher said that it wasn't the correct answer, ah, that's because I don't know how to do it right. I ended up running for school office at one point. I didn't win for school office, I think I was running Treasure or something like that, because I didn't know how to do it right. I started dating girls, I went out on some dates with some girls, they wouldn't want to have another date with me, I didn't know how to do the date. So I was deciding this over and over and over again, because it was taking place at an unconscious level, because I didn't understand how the human being worked. But make no mistake, it was a decision that I was making. I remember another experience where I was supposed to meet my little buddy in the second grade by the drinking fountain, and they didn't show up. And I concluded that you can't rely on people, right? Was it true that you can't rely on people? No. It was an unconscious decision that I made, I don't know what happened to my little friend in the second grade that didn't meet the fountain, who knows what happened. But the meaning I gave it was that I couldn't trust people, and so I started looking for evidence that I can't trust people, and I built up an entire portfolio of memories that by the way, weren't even true. 90% of the evidence that I have, that I didn't know how to do it right, or that I can't trust people, that's not even what was going on there. But it seems like it was. So now again, we're 30, we're 40, we're 50 years old, now we've got this thing called a belief, and we don't know what to do with it. And step one is to realize that beliefs are simply decisions. Why is this so important? Because you know how to make, you don't know how to create a different belief, but you know how to make decisions, too. In other words, you had some job at some point, realized you didn't enjoy that, and decided to leave that, left that, decided you wanted to do something else, and then ended up doing that other thing, right? At some point in time, you were in a relationship, unless you were just with your high sweetheart your entire life. You decided you didn't want to date someone. You got out of the relationship, then you decided you wanted to date someone else, and then you got into the relationship. You know how to make decisions. And so, if beliefs are just decisions, that means, and stick with me here, that you can change your belief by simply making a new decision. Now, when I suggest this, at first, most people have a lot of resists, wait a minute, you've been telling me I've been going to all these events and reading all these books, trying to work on my limiting beliefs, change my limiting beliefs, and you're telling me it's as easy as making a new decision? Yes, I am telling you that. Now, there are some more integrated limiting beliefs that you might have that are a little bit more difficult to transform. Those are the upper fifth percent, and I'll talk to you in other episodes about how to transform those. But look, let's be honest here. If we can take 50% of the limiting beliefs you have right now, and I can give you a tool that works to actually change them, that's a chunk transformation. Your whole life is going to be radically different if 50% of the limiting beliefs you've been carrying around are transformed. People will say to me, okay, so if beliefs are decisions, and all I need to do is make a new decision, what decision should I make? That's the question. What decision should I make? Well, if the belief you've been carrying around is limiting, and your beliefs dictate your destiny, and whatever it is you believe is going to produce thoughts, emotions, actions, resolve in alignment with that belief, shouldn't you just make a decision that's the opposite of the limiting belief? In other words, if you believe money is hard to make, shouldn't you just decide that abundance and prosperity flows to you? If you believe that you have to do it all on your own, shouldn't you just decide that collaborating with others is the most effective way to create extraordinary results, and people are willing to help you? If you have a limiting belief, which is you can't trust people, shouldn't you just decide that most people are trustworthy, and it's worth trusting others for the benefit and experience that it gives you? If you've been believing that you're going to be alone for the rest of your life, shouldn't you just decide that the man or woman or person of your dreams is actually on the right track? The decision that you want to make, which is the new belief, is the opposite of the limiting belief that has been creating you the stress, the anxiety, the overwhelm, and the stuff, and that has been preventing you from producing the results. The opposite. Now, most people will say, don't I need to know how? Don't I need to know how I'm going to attract my soul? Don't I need to know how I'm going to start my own business? Don't I need to know how I'm going to overcome my autoimmune disease when I decide that I am healthy, vibrant, going to live a fully expressed physical life without pain? Don't I need to know how? I don't want to get children to listen to me and behave very near and dear with a one-year-old. Actually, I'm not even dealing with that with a one-year-old. It's a banana republic. Don't I need to know how? These new decisions are going to come about, and this is where, throughout history, we've gotten completely back. You have to make the decision first, and the how comes. So there was a study done in 2009 where they brought in piano players to play the piano, and they studied their brains. This was featured in Time Magazine. They studied their brains as they played piano, and they identified which parts. Then they had the pianists come back in and imagine playing the piano and the same parts of their brain. So what this showed us, and there have been plenty of studies since, is that your brain does not know the difference between imagination and reality. And so what happens when you're willing to decide without needing to know the how? You decide that your soulmate is on the way. You decide that abundant prosperity is your birthright. You decide that you're a lovable person. You decide that you're going to grow your business to a million dollars plus a year. You decide that you're going to leave the job you have that maybe you appreciate, maybe you don't like, to start your mission, passion, purpose, or side hustle in the world. You make a decision, which is the opposite of the limiting belief. Start to imagine. Think about it. As we're talking about it right now, you're imagining all the time. But most of the time, you're imagining the same future that's undesirable over and over and over and over again. It's just some diversion. It's the same story. And so as you're willing to make a new decision without needing to know the how, so it's important that you know. You don't need to know how. You start to imagine. As you imagine it, your brain doesn't know the difference between it actually happening or you imagining it. And you start to build new neurosynaptic connections. Your brain actually starts to grow as if it were an actual memory. I want you to get this. You're able to build a memory of an experience in your future that you desire that has not. So let me ask you a question. If it had happened, if you had met your soulmate, if you did make a million dollars, if you overcame your inflammatory condition, if you had loving relationships that were supportive with the people around you, if you had achieved it, wouldn't you know how you achieved it? So by not needing to know the how and making a new decision and beginning to unlock your capacity to imagine and visualize it, you start to build memories of a future that has not happened yet. And it is that brain change that starts to tune you in and tap you into the thoughts, the ideas, the perceptions, and we'll talk in a moment about creating the synchronicities and coincidences to materialize that reality into your physical, to make that your life. So you do not need to know how. You have to decide first. Now, this is the power of decision. This is distinction that I want to teach you today. If there is some area of your life right where you're experiencing something you don't prefer, look at your reaction because that reaction, whatever the thoughts are, the beliefs are that you have to the experience that you don't like in your life, those are your limiting beliefs. Those are actually the beliefs that created this experience, whether you can remember where they originated from or not. The experience is not invoking the beliefs and thoughts in you. The beliefs you've been carrying for a long, long time, your beliefs dictate your destiny. Your beliefs have created this experience. So leverage this area of your life that you're not preferring as a way to become self-aware, become aware of your limiting beliefs. Then realize beliefs are just decisions and you have an ability to respond or a responsibility when you realize that you have been operating according to a limiting belief to make a new decision. There's nothing else that needs to happen. You make a new decision. Now, I'm going to teach you this incredible tool we have called the decision matrix here in a moment. But the moment you make a new decision, you start noticing evidence for the new decision and you stop paying attention to the evidence that has been supporting the old false limiting belief. The moment you make a new decision, three incredible things happen. Number one, you start to have new thoughts and ideas. You literally start to be able to access thoughts and ideas and alignment with new decisions. Number two, your perception of reality changes. There's a part of your brain called the reticular activating. We filter out about 88% of everything that's going on. It would be too overwhelmed. Right now, I'm in the studio. Right? I'm not paying attention to the lights around me. I'm not paying attention to the microphone around me. I'm not paying attention to the cameras that are around me. I couldn't possibly bring all of that information in at once. I wouldn't be able to focus and share this with you. Well, the 12% that you actually pay attention to is what's in alignment with whether they're empowered beliefs or limiting beliefs. You just start to find evidence to support whatever it is that you believe. In other words, what I'm saying is beliefs are extremely flexible. You flex that flexibility through making a new decision. Have you ever bought a car and you start to notice that car everywhere on the road? This is that part of the brain called the reticular activating. If you believe money's hard to make, you're going to notice that everywhere. If you believe your birthright is abundance and prosperity and wealth flow to you, then that's what you're going to start to notice. You say, yeah, Dave, but that hasn't been my experience. I'm going to say, yeah, but that's because you've been believing the limiting belief. You have to be willing to make a new decision. Number one, new thoughts and ideas. Number two, it starts to change your perception. Number three, your beliefs inform your unconscious. All of the things that seem like synchronicities or coincidences, they're actually micro-decisions that you make on a daily basis that add up into this thing. The people you randomly run into at a grocery store or at a conference, ad that you actually see in your newsfeed, click just that. All of these things are highly architect experience that are based on unconscious micro-decisions that take place in order for you to experience that which you believe. Now, there's a deeper understanding of this that I teach in episode two and episode three. If you haven't listened to the episode, you can listen to those because of the nation. But the truth is that the reason why, as a business owner, you keep running into people who are very excited about working with you but don't have the money to do it is because you keep unconsciously selecting the seat at the networking event you go to to sit right down next person who's going to be there. If you are trying to find a partner and you keep dating the same person over and over again, all of those little micro-decisions that led up to how you met that person, including which direction you swipe on an app you use, is going to lead you to the fulfillment of the belief that started the whole process. The power of decision. You make a new decision, different thoughts and ideas, different perceptions and awareness of reality, and different coincidences and time in your life. One of the tools that we teach, part of our whole human framework 12-step transformation program is called the decision matrix. The decision matrix is really, really simple. You can come back to this episode and listen to it if you need to. You can go to our website, check out all the resources we have, enroll in one of our programs if you want a deeper level of support. Real simple. Three columns on a piece of paper. In the first column, you write out your limiting belief. How do you find your limiting belief? Well, take a look at thinking in relationship to the experiences you have in your life. You don't write down the limit. I can't find any good help. Life is unfair. Things don't work out. I'm not as far along as I should. Bad things happen to good people. Whatever it is. Middle column, new empowered decision. First column, limiting belief. Middle column, new empowered decision. Dave, what decision do I make? Some form of the opposite of that limiting belief. Now, there's an elegance to this. There's a mastery to it as you start to use the decision matrix, but you could just go with the opposite, right? Not enough time, plenty of time to accomplish things that I need to get and I can leave the rest, right? Can't trust anybody, can trust most people. Most people are good. Column number three, what evidence do you have for the new empowered decision? See, remember that part of the brain, the reticular activating system? Well, it's been filtering out all of the evidence that supports the new decision, but it's there. Sometimes when you're looking to grow your abundance and you want to believe that you can attract prosperity, you got to count the dollar that you found on the street, right? You got to count the fact that you've got your elect bill, right? There are billions of people on the planet that don't. And if you're willing to sit in this inquiry of what evidence do I have for the fact that my new decision is true, and I'm talking about sit, sit until you can list out 10, 15, 20 things. It'll start out slow, but what happens is you start to access parts of your brain that have been dormant for a while that hold the memories that support this new decision because they're there. And before you know it, you've got a whole list of evidence and you look back at the old limiting belief and you go, man, that was never true in the first, never true in the first. That's the decision. Again, as much as I can give you in this format, right, of a 45 minute podcast episode, but here are the big takeaway. Your future, no matter where you are in your life right now, can be supremely bright. And the way that you are going to get there is through a changed mind. You are 100% responsible for what you're creating and what you've created up. And anything that you don't like, you've created out of it. The way for you to identify that limiting belief is to just think about that experience or observe that experience in your life and notice you're going to find the limiting belief. Next step, beliefs or decision. Beliefs or decision. You've decided that belief and you can decide something different. What do you do when you've identified a limiting belief? You have a responsibility to make a new decision. What decision do you make? Opposite of the limiting. When you do, activate the power of decision. Thoughts change. Ideas change. Perceptions change. Life starts to show up differently to you because you're programming your unconscious mind different. Really simple process. Decision. Column 1, limiting belief. Column 2, new empowered decision. Column 3, the evidence you have for the new decision. Commit to this process. This will clean up 5% of the misunderstandings that take place in your mind right now. Transform. If you loved this episode, if it was valuable, do me a favor. If you're listening on a podcast, leave me a review. Leave me a comment. I leave all of them. Leave me a comment on YouTube. Subscribe. Whatever it is. Let's stay in this conversation. We're going to go so much deeper. But this is a great starting, finally demystifying what beliefs are, limiting beliefs are, and how you. I love you so much. Love yourself. Do something yourself today.

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