Today I had the honor of talking with a high-conflict divorce attorney from NY, Lisa Zeiderman. During this episode, we discuss how Minnesota and New York divorce processes are similar and different. She discussed her divorce journey and how she and her ex-spouse could co-parent. She shares a story of a high-conflict divorce that she worked through and the lessons learned from that divorce. Tune in today to learn some great tips on going through a divorce as a parent and tips on becoming financially savvy.
In this episode:
[3:15] What is Lisa’s background, and how did she become a divorce attorney? [5:41] What was Lisa’s divorce like? [11:23] Does NY require mediation for a divorce? [13:20] When should an attorney be looped in for a MN divorce? [14:30] Lisa shares a story about a high-conflict divorce. [16:39] What is the best way to disclose all the assets?
Key Takeaways:
Children will remember the experience they had with each parent over the number of hours they spent with each parent. It’s really about the quality of time that was spent with the kids over the quantity of hours spent. When going through a divorce with children, it's key to remember that their needs change as they grow up. What is necessary for a 2-year-old will differ from a 15-year-old. Co-parent and work with your ex-spouse throughout the years to do what is best for the child. Be honest and straightforward with the information you are disclosing. If you are hiding something, it will get found out, and when it does, it reduces trust.
Quotes:
“Overall, I think what we did do well was we did not demean the other parent to our child. And I think that was something that was very important, and my child, who is now a grown woman, actually has a great relationship with both of us.” - Lisa Zeiderman
“Mediation is great when it's simplistic, and everybody is in the know, and everybody comes with an equal playing field essentially, and both parties can advocate for themselves. And I think mediation is great when the attorneys are down to an issue to two, but if you are looking at an entire financial partnership between two people, you really need to make sure you have all of the facts.” - Lisa Zeiderman
Guest Bio:
Lisa Zeiderman is a highly accomplished attorney in all areas of matrimonial and family law. Named both Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer and a Business Notable Woman Lawyer for 2022, Ms. Zeiderman is also a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators, and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.
Resources:
Lisa Zeiderman’s Website
Lisa Zeiderman’s LinkedIn
Lisa Zeiderman’s Facebook
Lisa Zeiderman’s Instagram
Savvy Ladies Website
Lesa Koski Website
Lesa’s Online Courses
