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Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis experience I feel very motivated and excited to continue on this path and to bring you value, hope and love.

In today’s episode we will cover 3 more pillars of well-being / relationships/ emotions/ your history

Last episode I talked about the well-being of the body and how the mind is tightly connected to our overall but especially physical health.

Today we cover how intense relationships can influence our well-being.

The way we relate to our environment is the same way we relate to ourselves.What happened between age 0-7 years will greatly influence us as adults as well What belief systems did we take over without questioning ?Then I quickly touch on emotions

What are emotions and how are they created ? The emotional response we go through gives us a big clue on how healthy we are The last point I want to address is our history Which experiences — consequences— conclusions did we make back then and which filters from the past might be limiting us What story do you tell yourself which holds you back from evolving ? Voila !! Mind , body , emotions, relationships, history is what I feel makes us up as individuals and if we look at all the levels we can dissect and reflect and in doing so move on from unhealthy habits In the following episodes I will go through examples on how this could look like :) Thank you so much for listening I’m so excited to have you on board and would love to hear your thoughts Just comment on fb - warriors among us Share and like this episode

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. Thank you so much for choosing to spend some time

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with me today. I'm very excited to help you focus on yourself,

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learn more about yourself and create a space where you can

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recharge your batteries and just disconnect from a busy life you

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might have. Or if you're locked down and bored at home, add some

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positive vibes, some goodness to your life. This is my third

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episode. In the second episode, we talked about self improvement

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and which areas of our life or which areas of ourselves we can

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improve on, there's the body, there's the mind, there's the

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spirit, there's the emotions, and our relationships we have

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outside of our family, with our family and with ourselves. I

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also want to give you a heads up that the Borealis experience is

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not just for ladies, I will be posting episodes and also label

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them specific for men. Because I feel there's too many warriors

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out there that feel misunderstood, not appreciated,

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not seen and just pushed to the edge of the society. And I want

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to cater to those guys to I used to have Internet TV show called

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the Borealis show where I invited guys. And it was an

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incredible experience they open up about their stories about

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their pain and in doing so we were able to help so many people

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out there. And my biggest dream is to recreate this maybe over a

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podcast with interviewees. Maybe videos, maybe in person

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interviews, that would be my biggest dream. So I will be

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starting posting those episodes soon. But today, I will continue

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with the other pillars of well being. So we covered the body

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and the mind last time. And today I want to talk about the

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role we have in our community, the relationships, we entertain

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emotions and our history, how the story we tell ourselves

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about history is strongly influencing how we feel in the

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present.

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Alright,

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let's dive in. How did family and society shape you so far? So

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if you think about the environment, you were born into

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school system, first kindergarten, then school, then

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job maybe even college and university not necessarily

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though

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how

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did your environment shape you? Was it always easy for you and

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you just flowed through that your puberty and had an

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easygoing life or where there are difficult times difficult

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people difficult situations that really matter to you? Also, are

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you single, are you in a committed relationship open

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relationship? Are you married? Or as you strongest

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relationship, the relationship to your parents are you a son or

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a daughter and take that job very seriously. And then of

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course your job is also defining you Are you happy with your co

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workers? Are you happy with the duties that you fulfill each

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day? So how do you relate to people in general? Is it

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healthy, balanced bond being trustworthy people, or are you

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more insecure avoidant and very judgmental. I talked about it in

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the second episode I said, beautiful successful, Healthy

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People usually have very strong supportive relationships. And

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sometimes when we feel bad about ourselves when we are just in a

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weird space, then we become insecure, avoidant, judgmental.

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But if we know what can make us feel insecure, or judgmental,

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then we can change that and be happier when we step out into

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the world. So all this to say it is really dependent on how we

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feel about ourselves on how intense and good and nourishing

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supportive our relationships are. I really want to emphasize

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this because with my podcast here, I want to increase self

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respect, self love. Because I know that when a person is happy

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with themselves, then they see goodness out there, then they

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spread goodness, and then they help other people out and are

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compassionate. So when we feel good about ourselves, we are

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awesome, we are radiant, and we feel supported, and we can give

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support to others. And when we feel shitty about ourselves,

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then we are clingy, avoidant and even manipulative and fucked up

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things Sorry, I'll have to make this episode explicit, is really

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that most of the time, we are not aware of that behavior when

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we feel bad. So especially manipulative and clingy. We

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often just see, feel and receive the consequences. And that is

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confusing and disappointing. And then we make conclusions. So

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let's say you're having a bad day, and you are super clingy

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and judgmental, and just, I don't know, sour. And your

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partner doesn't feel like dealing with it, and starts

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diving into another topic and starts to avoid your pain, then

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you might make the conclusion that he's not interested in you

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and he doesn't care about you. And if you were aware that you

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brought negativity and poison into that conversation or into

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the relationship, then you would self corrected because your

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partner is not there to make you happy, he's there to share and

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to be there in good times and in bad times. But it is not his

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job, her job to fix you and to cheer you up extensively, right.

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So when we are in a bad place, then we get weird reactions from

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people back and that makes us feel even worse. So it's like a

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vicious cycle.

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Really.

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Another point I want to address is Who do you want to impress in

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life? I think we all have that person or these people or the

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groups where we want to seek approval from? Is it your

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parents? Is it your friends? Is it your partner? Or is it your

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inner critic that drives you to do things. And last but not

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least the way we were relating to primary caregivers, it's not

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always parents. But the primary caregivers between age zero to

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seven years, really dictates how we feel in relationships, in

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general and about ourselves. So it is really interesting to look

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at how children that age. Their brains are are like sponges and

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they really soak up information and process it in their little

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brains, but don't really question that they don't, they

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don't look at their parents and say, oh, wow, that was weird

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behavior. And I'm not going to do that, they're going to

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replicate that behavior. So when you do expose children to

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very negative,

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confusing experiences, they usually make it about

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themselves. So when there's someone angry or aggressive,

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they are not capable to leave it with the other person and tell

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themselves, okay, it's nothing about me, my mom has a shred

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day. They make it about themselves. And that inherently

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influences your self esteem. And this is very, very important to

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know, I can highly recommend you look up Bruce Lipton. He's done

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extraordinary work, when it comes to epigenetics, and what

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happens to the child's brain and how to reflect about the belief

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systems that you took on an early childhood, and are still

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carrying with you without questioning them. And they might

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not even serve you anymore. So Bruce Lipton, please look him

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up. So we had relationships. Now I want to quickly touch on

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emotions, because the way we react, respond in situations can

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also give you a clue on if you are in balance and happy or if

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you can work on that. So what are emotions, emotions are

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energy in motion. And it makes sense, it's more clear when you

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think about getting really really upset and angry like you

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can usually feel it in your belly and your throat in your

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head like you get Rochus you sweat you. Yeah, I don't have to

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go more into details there, then Joy, joy is also something

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really sweet, and you just feel light, and you feel butterflies

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in your belly. And then there's sadness that feels heavy and

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sluggish. And so those are emotions. And it is not

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something that just happens randomly. It is inflammation

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from the outside that enters your brain, your emotional body,

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your emotional body is where emotional experiences were

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stored. And those informations that info from outside is

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evaluated based on the experience you made in the past.

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And it is really interesting when I started meditating, how I

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realized that a lot of the times, my thoughts are just a

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random reaction chain of something that got triggered

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inside of me. And same with my emotions. There's lots of

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examples I could give you there. But emotions can also be more

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related to your past experiences than what is actually happening

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in your life right now. It is very, very fascinating. And I

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would definitely dive in deeper, deeper when it comes to emotions

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in later episodes. And then we have our history that also

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defines us. What experiences, consequences and conclusions did

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we make about our past, about things that happened to us? What

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filters from the past can limit us? Think about the mom who is

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paranoid of spiders, and the little child, six years old,

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sees that spider is scary and goes to kindergarten the next

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day and encounters a child where the mom is totally fine with

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spiders and even nerds. Should stem they would have a conflict

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here because that child a would not feel understood by a child B

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because child B is not scared of the spider because he or she

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grew up differently. And Chad, a would still be stuck in that

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story that spiders are dangerous and totally limit him or herself

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for life.

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Because she or he didn't really learn that there is only some

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spiders that are poisonous and others are not. So that is just

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a quick touch on history here. Just to have everything

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complete. This is what we will be talking about in the next

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couple episodes. I think I will bounce around between the mind

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the body emotions, history and the spirit. I will come up with

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examples to really make it clear to you on where are you still

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limiting yourself? Where can you still grow? Yeah, I find

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examples always. Very, very good to bring up this is it. This is

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episode number three of the Borealis experience. Thank you

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so much for listening. If you have any questions, please

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message me on facebook warriors among us or directly Aurora

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Eggert and I would gladly answer your questions or if you have

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comments, then I will incorporate them in future

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episodes. Take good care of yourself and we'll talk soon

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again. Thank you so much. Bye bye