The next round of "The Love Affair," starts on September 9th. This 30-day intensive is all about making yourself a priority, dating yourself, and exploring your sensuality and sexuality through the female gaze. Save £100 (use code SEXY) when you join before 13 August.
Welcome to another episode of "The Star Monroe Show," where we dive deep into all things relationships, confidence, reinvention, and of course, sex in midlife. In today's episode, we're going to explore the obstacles that may hinder you from reclaiming your sexy at midlife. And let's get one thing straight from the start – it's not just about blaming menopause or aging. Feeling sexy at midlife is a more nuanced journey.
Join me as we explore six archetypal energies that might be getting in the way of your midlife sexy. But before we delve into them, let's paint a big picture. A woman embracing her sexy at midlife, in touch with her libido, knows how to turn herself on, and feels empowered, connected to her body, and attuned to her desires. On the other hand, the antithesis of sexy at midlife is a woman who feels disempowered, disconnected from her body and desires. She struggles with self-doubt, lacks confidence, and may suppress her sexual needs and desires. She may even rely on external validation for pleasure and feel dependent on others to ignite her passion.
So, let's address these archetypal energies that can stand in your way:
1. **The Good Girl**: Programmed to play it safe and hide her desires, the good girl struggles to prioritize her own joy, seeking approval and validation from others.
2. **The People Pleaser**: Always looking for validation, the people pleaser masks her true desires to fit in, often at the expense of her own needs.
3. **The Mother**: The ultimate nurturer, the mother puts her needs on the back burner and tends to fix everyone's problems, leading to a sense of martyrdom.
4. **The Wounded Inner Child**: Yearning for someone to fix and save her, the wounded inner child seeks external validation and often lacks self-empowerment.
5. **The Performer**: In search of approval, the performer adopts a façade and may even perform in bed, seeking external validation and struggling with intimacy.
6. **The Independent Woman**: Having learned to do it all herself, the independent woman can be hesitant to ask for help and may have built a protective wall around her heart.
Reclaiming your sexy at midlife requires awareness and a willingness to confront these archetypal energies. Remember, you are not these energies; they are parts of your psyche that have been conditioned by experiences throughout your life. The journey to reclamation is about reconnecting to your true essence and shedding societal constraints.
As you integrate all parts of yourself, embrace your shadow and light, and dance with your soul, you'll rise untamed and free, owning your libido like wildfire, unapologetic and raw. Your path to midlife passion is ever-evolving, not linear, and will require perseverance. But as you reclaim your true essence and activate your midlife libido, you'll command your destiny with strength and conviction.
If this wisdom resonates with you, consider joining the next round of "The Love Affair," starting on September 9th. This 30-day intensive is all about making yourself a priority, dating yourself, and exploring your sensuality and sexuality through the female gaze and you can save £100 if you join before 13 August.
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