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episode 37 ditch goals, adopt habits.

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Welcome back my friends

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Is there anything better than a

fresh brand new year, especially

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if you are a Golnar like me and

you like fresh starts and you like.

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Accomplishing things and setting

up goals and systems and things in

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place for it, an amazing new year.

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It is so exciting.

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It's like my favorite

time in the whole year.

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But today, I want to look at goals a

little bit differently because everybody

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in their dog is talking about goals this

week and what I don't want for each of us.

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Is to create these big, massive goals,

and then just feel disappointed when

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we don't know how to reach them.

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Or we don't reach them

in the timeframe we want.

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I want to look at goals a

little bit differently today and

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I originally read two books.

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That prompted this discussion.

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the first one is.

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John, all it takes as a goal.

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And the other one is atomic habits,

both really phenomenal goal books.

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And.

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Coincidentally, I got the same

message overall out of both of them.

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And it was this.

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Stop trying to conquer

the world with your goals.

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Start small.

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That's not to say we

can't conquer the world.

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That's not to say we can't do amazing,

huge, incredible things, but we have

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to start with small habits first.

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Now being a dreamer myself,

I love to live in the chaos.

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Of doing all the things, I always set

huge new year's resolutions and big goals.

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And to my credit.

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I accomplish a lot of things and I'm

pretty proud of myself in that way.

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But, you know, come August,

September, I tend to lose.

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Motivation on the things

that I started in January.

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So we're going to look at things

completely differently this

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year, and I hope it helps you.

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But being a dreamer is

a double-edged sword.

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You have so many things

that you want to accomplish.

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So many things you want to do

and become, but it can be hard to

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avoid becoming overwhelmed by all

the things you want to accomplish,

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especially in a fresh new year.

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Now you may have heard the term

big, hairy, audacious goals.

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This is a pretty common.

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Term thrown around in the business

realm, especially, and it refers

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to those goals that are impossible,

Impossible goals, where we want to go

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out and conquer the world and do things

that we never imagined we could have.

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I'm all for these types of goals.

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The problem is when we create these goals

without any sort of path to get there.

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Now we might have a few ideas,

like, well, I want to make a hundred

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thousand dollars in my business.

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I'll do so by getting, you

know, X number of clients and

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charging them X number of dollars.

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Well, yeah, that's the math behind

it, but how are you actually

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going to get those clients?

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What is your day to day actually

look like to get you to this goal

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of a hundred thousand dollars.

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The reason I like this atomic habits book

so much is because he breaks it down into

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like the submolecular level of goals.

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Your goal does not look

like slapping a big.

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Motivating sign on the wall and

then just hoping you get there and

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kind of manifesting in your mind,

although that's helpful as well.

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It.

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Involves breaking it down into very

basic step-by-step processes that

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you can work on every single day.

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So I think there's a place for

those big, hairy audacious goals.

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I think there's a place

for the impossible goals.

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But if they're not set up with the kind

of structure that is going to create

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success, then you're going to find

failure and you're gonna get disappointed.

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And you're gonna think it's your

fault when it's not really your fault.

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You're just lacking the systems.

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Now in atomic habits, the author

James Clair has this amazing

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quote that I love so much.

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He says you do not rise to

the level of your goals.

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You fall to the level of your systems.

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So how many of us have created

this big, amazing, impossible goal?

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And if someone had asked us,

what are we supposed to do

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every single day to get there?

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We wouldn't know.

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We would just say, well, Work on

my business or work on my health

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goals or try to get more fit.

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Do we have actual tasks every single day.

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What does this look like?

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What does accomplishing these goals

look like on a daily or hourly basis.

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It looks like small

and consistent actions.

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So, let me give you an example here.

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Let's say that you have a

goal to fly to the moon.

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And so you think the best way to do

that is just to climb to the top of

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the biggest building in your town

and jump off as far as you can.

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Well, after a couple of concussions,

you would realize this is never

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going to get me to the moon.

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But it seems like a good idea to get

as close to the moon as possible.

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The tallest building you

could find I just sleep.

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And it seems like a

very brave thing to do.

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Wow.

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That's so amazing.

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Look at her up there.

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Just jumping until she gets to the moon.

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But realistically, we know that you don't

get to the moon by jumping off a building.

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You get to the moon by spending a

lot of time in a laboratory, figuring

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out how to create a rocket ship.

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But look at those two different scenarios.

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Hiding inside a lab with rocket

ship parts does not look like

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you're actually making progress.

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Getting to the moon.

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You look a lot closer standing on the

edge of that building and leaping.

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But we know that's not how

you're going to get there.

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You're just going to end up.

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Bruce unbroken.

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So the important thing to realize

here is that the systems and these

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daily habits that, that lead us

to our goals are not glamorous.

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They don't look like

million dollar businesses.

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They don't look fun.

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They don't look exciting.

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Some of these tasks might even be boring

and require some discipline for us to do.

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Now another aspect from atomic habits

that I want to share is that the author.

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Teaches that we have to actually

identify with the person who accomplishes

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these types of goals before we ever.

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Can accomplish them ourselves.

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Now our identity can actually work

for us or against us, depending on

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what kind of identity we hold on to.

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Let's take the weight loss example.

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If I identify as someone who is trim

and healthy, I am going to take actions

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that a trim and healthy person would do.

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The trick being, even if I'm

not trimming healthy, I can

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adopt that identity early on.

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And then develop those habits.

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And create evidence for my brain

showing it that I am trim and healthy.

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As a business owner.

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Someone who never works on our

business or does it once every 10 days.

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It does not create a lot of

evidence showing her brain that

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she's actually a business owner.

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So ask yourself, what do I want to become?

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Do you want to become a successful

Christian business owner then

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what do successful Christian

business owners do every day?

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What do successful life

coaches create every day?

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How do entrepreneurs talk?

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What is a mom who

balances work and family.

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Successfully do everyday.

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What is her life look like?

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And how can we start

living that right now?

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Admittedly you buy, sometimes this feels.

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Like you're a fraud, that's

imposter syndrome for you,

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when you go in your office and you work

on a business that nobody knows about

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yet, that has no clients that is making

no income, but guess what everyone who

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is ever successful, has to work on their

business before anybody knows about it.

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They have to go in their office and

slog away at those tasks that might

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be kind of boring before they ever

get any compensation or any notoriety.

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Now I personally did not identify as

an entrepreneur for many, many years.

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I identified as a blogger as a podcaster,

as an influencer, as a designer, as an

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e-commerce owner, all of these things,

but I couldn't wrap my head around.

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Saying that I was an

entrepreneur that I was at.

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Um, business owner of multiple businesses,

even though that's exactly what I was.

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Once I finally was able to convince

my brain, Hey, you know what?

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According to the dictionary.

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You are an entrepreneur.

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I started acting more

like an entrepreneur.

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Because a blogger can just do that for

a few hours in the afternoon when our

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kids are napping, but an entrepreneur

has to get regular childcare.

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A podcast or might just carve out an hour

here and there to podcasts in her closet.

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But an entrepreneur needs a real office.

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And I even recently signed up for

a coworking space because sometimes

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I need to get out of my house and

have a nice, quiet place to go work.

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That in my mind was what an

entrepreneur would do to dedicate

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time to her business and space.

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Once I identified as an entrepreneur,

I created a custom email address.

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It was no longer.

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My regular personal Gmail address,

it was now info@bonniewiscon.com.

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It looks professional.

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I have a professional email

signature at the bottom of my email.

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Did I feel silly sending that out

the first couple of times you betcha.

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'cause like when I first sent

that out, I didn't have any

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coaching clients and I didn't, it

wasn't making any money as coach.

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But I had to do it to convince

my own brain that I identified

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as this entrepreneur.

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I also created specific working hours.

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And honored them.

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I bought a business planner and I take

an hour every week at the beginning

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of the week to plan out my week.

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And then I follow that plan.

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That is what entrepreneurs do.

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So if you're trying to convince yourself.

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That you need systems and processes

that an entrepreneur would do.

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It's time to start identifying as one.

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Or else.

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That identity is going

to work against you.

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You're going to say, oh, but I'm just

a mom with the side hustle and a mom

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with a side hustle does a lot less.

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Then a successful entrepreneur.

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Okay.

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Now I'm going to give you a

little heads up that next week.

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We have a phenomenal podcast coming.

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It is with my friend, Danny fake.

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She is a therapist and she is

going to teach us about parts work.

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Essentially, what that looks like is that

we have different parts of our brain,

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that advocate for different things.

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Kind of like the movie inside out.

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We'll talk about that.

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How there's a character called

joy and a character called fear

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and one called sadness and they

all have different jobs to do.

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And your brain, this is

exactly how your brain works.

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When I'm building a business, I

acknowledged that there are some very key

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characters that step up inside my brain.

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One of them is a complainer and

she has like a victim mentality

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and she's kind of a bummer.

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She sits there in the corner and

is like, I don't want to do this,

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and this is never going to work.

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How, and I haven't been

successful at this in the past.

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And whininess.

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Another one is kind of shame filled.

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And feels like an imposter.

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And every time I post something on

social media, that part of me is like,

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oh, people are going to see this and

think, I think I'm an expert and move.

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You know, Another part of me is

lazy and she just wants to curl up

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on the couch with some herbal tea

and a book instead of being on the

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internet and putting myself out there.

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I Guarantee you have characters

in your brain a lot, like these,

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maybe yours are slightly different.

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But I also guarantee that you

have a character in your brain.

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Who is.

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The dreamer and the doer.

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She needs to be the boss.

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I know this because if you're

building a business, you

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have a dreamer inside of you.

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I want you to find her and I want you

to put her in charge of everyone else.

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I know this sounds crazy.

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. But if she is the one in charge, she

is the one that will get things done.

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If you put the victim mentality.

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Character in charge.

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You're just going to be

a victim all the time.

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If you put the lazy girl in charge, you're

never going to actually get any work done.

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And you get to be the kind of boss

you always dreamed of having you

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get to be the boss who is kind and

loving to yourself and to others.

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But, but who also doesn't

put up with any garbage.

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She can kind of hug the other parts

of you and say, I get your pain.

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I get what it feels like

to feel like an imposter.

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I know this seems hard, but no excuses.

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We're doing it anyway.

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Now, if, if you can

get past the craziness.

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About that sounds.

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I promise you this will be helpful.

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Find that no nonsense boss

character inside your brain and

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put her in charge of everyone else.

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She will get things done.

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Now.

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I want you to also realize that your 2024

goals will not all be made this week.

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Those who try to create

new year's resolutions and

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create them all in this week.

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I tend to fall off 10 to quit.

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Did you know that there's a quitter's day?

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I think it's January 17th.

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It's like a nationally acknowledged

day when everybody quits their

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resolutions, that's not us.

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Instead, what we're going

to do is we're going to have

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some rough sketches of things.

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We want to do this.

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This week.

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I went on a walk earlier this

week and just kind of sketched

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them out in a note on my phone.

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I wanted to do this for my health

and this for my business, this

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for my spirituality, et cetera.

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But I'm not starting on all of them

today or this week or this month.

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Instead.

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I am going to create quarter one goals and

they're going to be like two or three tiny

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things and they are going to be so easy.

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You would probably laugh at them.

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They're going to be things

like eat one vegetable a day.

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Because, you know, Christmas, new

year haven't been eating so great.

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They're going to be things like spend

some time on my business every day.

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Super super simple things for me.

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To adopt and keep them in my arsenal

of processes to get to my bigger goals.

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And then when I've nailed those in January

or February, or maybe it takes me all

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of quarter one, then I'm gonna take it

a step up and I'm going to involve a

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few more, slightly more difficult goals.

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Okay.

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I've eaten a vegetable every day.

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Now I'm going to eat two or now I'm

going to write down every vegetable I

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eat each day so that I can keep track

and see if I can do more than one.

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Or whatever that may be.

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Whatever your big goal is.

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For the year.

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I want you to break it way

down into systems processes.

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Habits that you can incorporate today.

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And I want you to start so small that it's

laughable because the bigger you start.

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The easier it is to fall.

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Start so small.

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Give yourself a couple of quick,

easy wins, and then move forward.

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So.

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If your goal is to make $10,000

in your business, then I want

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you to work backwards from there.

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Well, in order to make $10,000, I'm going

to have to find X amount of clients.

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Great.

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In order to find X amount of

clients, I'm going to have to start.

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Telling people about my business, neuro

to tell people about my business, I

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have to have some place to send them.

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So I'm going to make sure I have

a landing page up or a website.

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I'm going to make sure I have a

way for people to schedule with me.

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So little by little we're working

step-by-step to get us to the next place.

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That will draw us closer to our big goal.

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Scratch out some big goals for this year,

but then work backwards and then create

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a ladder to your goal or a scaffolding.

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Remember our business is a rocket ship

that is going to take us to the moon.

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So let's stop jumping off buildings and

thinking we're being so brave because

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that's not the work that needs to be done.

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It's not the flashy stuff.

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It's the boring processes that

need to be done every single day.

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Conversely, if that's not

your temptation to go big.

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And dream about these huge

goals that never have any.

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Support to them.

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You might be the type that goes back

to the lab and hides in the closet.

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Don't be that person either.

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We need to be in the lab,

working every single day.

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Getting your office, get to work,

start small, create those habits.

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And I promise you, you will

not even recognize where you

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are by the end of this year.

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Thank you so much for listening this week.

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I can't wait for next week's

episode with Danny about parts work.

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Don't miss it.

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I'll talk to you then.