If you would love to understand the source of your polarized emotions, bring balance to any perceived emotional imbalances, and learn to master or govern your emotions and your life, then what Dr Demartini shares below will provide some answers for you.

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Emotions are feelings that

are polarized and incomplete,

and therefore a sense lies.

A lie is an exaggeration or

minimization of some perception.

What if I was to tell you that

the emotions that you feel

are not exactly the truth?

In fact, they're lies,

lies about reality.

They're subjective

interpretations of your reality.

So let me elaborate on

that so I can explain that.

Let's say you meet somebody that

you're attracted to, in fact,

you're infatuated with,

and you're conscious of

their upsides and blind,

ignorant or unconscious of

some of their downsides. Now,

most people have had a moment like

that when they first meet somebody and

they're a little enamored and they think,

wow, this one's different. This one,

this is going to have more

positives than negatives to it.

And you end up getting enamored and you

end up having your amygdala activated,

which is a survival area of the

brain that wants to consume prey and

avoid predator. And so it

basically, it creates an impulse.

It assigns a valency to your

interpretation, sensory perception.

Stores it as an episodic

memory in the hippocampus,

which is adjacent to it and

gives you an impulse to seek out

that thing that you are infatuated with.

Because you're perceiving more

advantages than disadvantage,

more positives than negatives.

You're conscious of the upsides,

unconscious of the downsides.

Your unconsciousness is

really a form of ignorance.

But as a result of it, you

have now a joyful motion,

because you're seeing that they're

exceeding your expectations so you have a

joy, you have a happy,

you even say with a false causality

and a false attribution bias,

you make me happy, when

you're first with them.

And then what happens is

days or weeks, maybe months,

you start discovering

some of the downsides,

some of the things that you are ignoring,

even though your intuition may

be whispering them to initially,

you ignore the intuition with your

impulse and your animal passion and you

basically sought this individual

out. But slowly but surely,

one day after another,

you gradually pick up a few of

the downsides of this individual.

So the impulse to seek them out,

and the infatuation starts to wane.

We have what is called

a hedonic adaptation.

And anytime we get a

little bit happy like that,

our system automatically counterbalances

that to bring us back to a set point.

Same thing if we go down the opposite

direction, it goes back up again.

So what happens we get a little

infatuated, we're blind to the downsides,

we discover over time

some of the downsides,

and we calm down the infatuation and calm

down the attraction and calm down the

impulse to have to have them.

I can't live without them.

I'm frightened if

somebody takes them away,

to calm down and to eventually

get them back in equilibrium.

And you eventually over time

discover that they had both upsides

and downsides. Everybody does. And the

behaviors that you thought were upsides,

you discover some of the

downsides of the behaviors.

And eventually come to see both sides of

that individual simultaneously and you

finally love that individual.

While you're infatuated with them,

you're seeing the upsides without the

downsides and you have an emotion.

And that emotion activates your cerebellum

and makes you have motor coordination

to go and seek it out.

You seek with an impulse and attract

the things that you have an emotional

attraction to and you're infatuated with.

So anytime you see more positives thsn

negatives and pleasures than pains,

more gains than losses, more

advantage than disadvantage,

you have an impulse towards it, and

your misinterpretation runs your life.

You're not actually running your life.

Your impulse of your subcortical area

of your brain is running your life.

You're out of your executive center,

which is a seat of the real self,

and you're down in your amygdala

and you're reacting like an animal,

trying to capture prey. And you

want to quickly impulsively do that.

And then you go, wow. And you

realize within weeks possibly,

days or weeks or months,

that how gullible you were to

the misinterpretation you had.

So you had an emotion because you

lied to yourself about what was there.

You saw the positives and

you ignored the negatives.

And now you're seeing both sides.

And that emotion was a distortion

in your perception that you

chose to believe. So

that emotion was a lie.

Emotions are polarized perceptions.

Positive without negative or

negative without positive.

And then what happens is you eventually

those things come down with hedonic

adaptation and hedonic treadmill to a

set point where they're more balanced.

And then instead of being infatuated

with them, you get to just love them.

When you love somebody, you

see both sides simultaneously,

the things you like and dislike

and you're honoring both sides.

When you're infatuated

you're only seeing one side.

Now this same thing can

occur on the opposite side.

You can meet somebody and you go, whoa,

stay away from this person, danger.

And you can resent this person, you know,

and you are now conscious of the

downsides, unconscious of the upsides.

And you desensitize to it over time if

you're surrounded by it over time but

slowly but surely, the thing

you think is terrible, a day,

a week or a year later,

you find out that, oh,

maybe there's some blessings to that.

That behavior actually

catalyzed independence and

more of a less gullibility and

more skeptical understanding, more

objective views, asked new questions,

it became resourceful,

it made me more think about running

my own business and not dependent on

somebody because that terrible boss.

And then you find out that there were

upsides to the downside over time.

And then you all of a sudden realize that

your interpretation initially that was

all downside, just like

when you're infatuated,

all upside or more

upside and more downside,

you eventually realize

that there was both sides.

When you're able to see

simultaneously both sides,

you're seeing things more

objectively, more neutral.

When you're seeing things only one side

and you're polarized to seek or avoid,

avoid with an instinct or seek with

an impulse, you now have an emotion.

Emotions are feelings that

are polarized and incomplete,

and therefore a sense lies.

A lie is an exaggeration or

minimization of some perception.

You're exaggerating the positives,

minimizing the negatives.

We call that a false positive where we're

exaggerating the positives and aware

of the positives, unaware of the

negatives, and a false negative,

unaware of the negatives.

Or a subjective confirmation bias

on the positives and a subjective

disconfirmation on the

negatives. And this perception,

this distorted perception,

we call it emotion.

Emotions are stored in the hippocampus

and stored there in the subconscious

mind, if you will,

for you to make sure that if you see

something we think is terrible is to

protect you from that again,

or something you think is

terrific to grab that again.

But the reality is it's

a misinterpretation.

Eventually you find out that the very

predator that you think is so terrible,

strengthens you,

makes you independent and drives

you and makes you the entrepreneur.

And the other one makes you dependent.

When somebody supports your values,

you become juveniley dependent. When

somebody challenges your values,

you become more precociously independent.

And maximum growth and development

occurs at the border of those two.

You actually need both.

So anytime you're labeling one

or the other and not seeing both,

you're in a sense distorting

the whole picture.

Because Inside that person that you

think has got all positives without

negatives, you discover over

time there's negatives to it.

And in that terrible event,

you find positives to it.

So why have the wisdom of the ages when

you can have the wisdom of the ages

without the aging process?

Why have the wisdom of the ages without

over time when you can have it by asking

the right question? See,

if you ask questions,

what's the benefit of that thing that's

terrible and what's the drawback of that

thing that's not,

you bring yourself back into balance

quickly and stabilize your emotions,

see things objectively, don't get

run from our external circumstances,

don't create false attribution

biases and contributions,

they're the cause of my happy,

they're the cause of my sad.

Then you realize that you're the cause

of your own happy and sad because you're

the one that perceived it. And

if you change the perception,

you change the feeling. Now,

I'm not against feelings.

I think feelings are magnificent,

but I'm interested in the feelings of

gratitude and love and inspiration and

enthusiasm and certainty and presence.

The ones that are the joy and

sorrows are the ones that distort,

because that means you've exceeded

expectation or not met up to expectation.

And these expectations

may not even be sound.

They may be moral hypocrisies that you're

running and projecting onto the world

about life's supposed to be one sided.

And life isn't. Life's got two sides.

Every human being. If you look

carefully, if I went to you and I said,

you're always nice, you're never mean,

you wouldn't believe it. If I said,

you're always mean, you're never nice,

you wouldn't believe it. If I said,

sometimes you're nice, sometimes you're

mean, you would believe it immediately.

So anytime we have an

imbalanced racio of perception,

it's not believable in our brain.

It's believable when we

actually see both sides.

So instead of letting the emotions

which are incomplete awarenesses and

distortions of reality run you,

and then cause all of your autonomic

nervous system to fire and cause you to

seek and avoid,

and you're basically an at automaton

reacting to misinterpretations,

why not ask new sets of questions?

Bring yourself back into balance.

See the objective fact

and truth that's there,

that people have both sides

and events have both sides.

And then instead of being victim of

history and be run by the outside world,

you run from within.

And you're now master of your destiny

instead of victim of your history.

Now I've said that in

many different angles,

because I find that people get trapped

in these emotions and want to run their

stories and dramatize their

life and and that's a lot of

draining energy on something

that's not even true.

So what I do is I hold people accountable.

When I do the Breakthrough

Experience seminar that I do,

I've been doing it for 35 plus years,

I hold people accountable

to look for both sides.

And after doing 125,000 people in that

program and helping people see that

there's two sides to it,

and that's not even that hard to do

if they just stop and hold yourself

accountable,

they realize that these things that

they thought were emotions that running

their life and the drama and the

stories they were telling are BS,

and they're not even complete awarenesses.

And the second they see both sides,

the story that they see is, thank

you, I appreciate you, I love you,

and they love themselves.

And that's why I teach the Breakthrough

Experience so people can transcend the

emotional baggage that they carry and

the incomplete awarenesses by asking

astute questions that help balance

the mind and liberate the mind.

And when all of a sudden they're

not run by this external thing.

I know that everybody here has had a

moment when they've been highly resentful

and they couldn't sleep and highly

infatuated and they couldn't sleep.

Well just take that to any

degree. The milder degree,

the less disturbance of

sleep, the more extreme it is,

the more intrusive the thoughts.

That's why emotions that are

extreme are really stored there,

in a sense we think they're there to

protect us from predator and prey,

to capture prey and avoid predator. But

if we balance them and transform them,

every opportunity in life,

every experience in life has a capacity

to be turned into something you can

love. And then you don't have the baggage.

You don't sit there and act like

an animal with predator and prey,

avoidance and seeking mechanisms, and

the world running you on the outside.

You get to run you from the inside.

And that's what I teach people in the

Breakthrough when I show them how to do

it, and I've yet to see that anything

that they've experienced in their physical

body,

I can show them how to turn

it into something they can

be thankful for and feel

love for. And then you get

to have more meaning in life,

the mean between the pair of

opposites. So emotions are lies.

They're basically incomplete awarenesses.

They make you emote and get out,

dramatizing these incomplete awarenesses.

And I'm a firm believer of actually going

in there and turning those emotional

polarities into synthesized transcendental

states of love and appreciation,

inspiration, enthusiasm,

certainty, and presence.

So in the Breakthrough Experience,

if you'd like to have a transcendent

state where you have feelings of gratitude

for life,

come and let me show you how to ask the

right questions to see these emotional

experiences that you think are

the cause of your problems,

and balance them out and liberate you

and free you up from that and make you

realize that there's nothing

but love, all else was illusion.

And therefore the emotions that you

had and carried around and stored as

baggage, are your lies.

So if you'd like to live truthfully in

your life and authentically in your life,

I really believe that everything that's

going on in your life is trying to help

you live authentically.

So that's why I want to take a moment

to talk about emotions or lies,

to make you stop and reflect

and think about that,

but come to the Breakthrough Experience

so I can show you actually how to do it,

so you have that tool for

the rest of your life.

And if you learn them the

Demartini Method of doing that,

you'd be surprised on how much

baggage instead of carrying it around,

you can just lift yourself from baggage

instead of blaming things on the outside

or blaming you on the inside,

there's nothing to blame,

there's just something

to appreciate and love.

So come to the Breakthrough Experience

and let me show you how to transform the

lied emotions and turn them into something

that you're truly grateful for in

life.