You've been disappointing yourself for years to avoid disappointing other people. Shelly McClintock is here to say: that's not purpose. That's a pattern. And it has a name.

Candy sits down with Shelly McClintock, founder of Pioneer Together and a coach with 30 years of experience in human services, trauma-informed care, nonprofit leadership, and psychology. Shelly has lived this journey herself, the overgiving, the unraveling, and the hard, slow work of learning to trust herself again.

In this conversation, Shelly talks about what it really costs to give permission to everyone else and withhold it from yourself. She shares why the pain of staying where we are has to be worse than the fear of change before most of us will actually move. And we talk about what happens when high-achieving women in the helping professions finally stop and ask: is this dedication, or am I disappearing?

You'll also hear a new word get created in real time - "undisappointed" and why asking "what would undisappoint me today?" might be the most useful question you haven't been asking.

This coaching business mindset conversation is for anyone who's been living outside themselves for too long.

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