5 Ways To Spot A Fake Dom Every Submissive Should Know

Episode 24 • 19th July 2024 • Love Beyond Limits • Desire and Purity

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In this episode, we’re diving into the world of doms and how to tell the real ones from the fakes. Desire shares her wild experiences and why it’s super important for submissives to find the right match, even if someone seems super attractive at first.

We’ll talk about what makes a dom legit and explore the little differences in how they start the kink conversation. Ever wondered why consent is such a big deal in BDSM, or how to spot when it’s being respected? We’ve got some eye-opening insights.

Curious about what real doms do when planning a scene or providing aftercare? Or how to handle things when they don’t go as planned? Tune in to learn how to find a genuine dom and make sure your experiences are awesome. This episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the kink world with confidence.

IN THIS EPISODE

Desire's experience with fake doms.
What is a fake dom?
Why submissive should avoid fake doms - even when they really fancy them
Sign #1: Fake doms tries to dominate you from your first interaction.
Fake doms VS real doms: how to start the kink conversation.
Sign #2: Assuming submissive = consent.
Fake doms VS real doms: how to plan BDSM scenes.
Sign #3: Fake doms are only interested in his pleasure, not the sub's pleasure.
Sign #4: Fake doms don't provide aftercare.
Sign #5: Fake doms get angry when the sub disappoints or doesn't want to obey unconditionally.
Fake doms VS real doms: How they react when a sub stops the play.

3 VALUE BOMBS

Don't assume submissives are down to play with anyone. A sub gets to choose her dom and what she submits to. Always have a conversation about desires and boundaries before play.
Being a real dom is about having control. If a dom loses it when a sub doesn’t want to do something or calls it quits, they’re not truly dominant.
The difference between a fake and an inexperienced dom? An inexperienced dom is eager to learn and please their subs. A fake dom couldn’t care less about their subs and just wants to get what they want.