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Stephanie: Along with the everyday.

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Before you say chart, I've given

my kids may chore a must chore

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and it get out the door tour.

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And the may chore is something

that they can do for an extra

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point or two on the chart.

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The must chore is something we really

need for the family to function.

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Well, it might be setting the

table or unloading the dishwasher.

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And they get out the door chore.

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They need to do.

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And it was so helpful to say, okay, one,

person's going to check on the bunny

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and make sure he's got hay and water.

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Another person is going to

fill up the water bottles.

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Another person is in charge of snacks.

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And then they would work with me to

figure out what we need to pack for that.

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And another might be in

charge of entertainment.

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If it's a long traveling trip, they would.

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Maybe find.

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Audio books or.

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Pack up the switch or.

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A movie and then, if we're going to

the library, they would help me find

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all the library books and they would

pack the books for the long trip to.

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Betsy: And you take your

suitcase to the library.

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Stephanie: Yes.

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It's like a big crate.

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Betsy: I think you used to take a

suitcase when your kids were little.

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Stephanie: It has wheels like a suitcase.

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And my kids love books.

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And I always think if I ever

have back issues, it's probably

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because of all these library books.

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But it feels like a worthy sacrifice.

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I've always been pretty relentless.

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With having them go to the

library a lot and I still am.

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when the kids were younger, they would

let you get 60 or so books at a time.

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And now I think they even

let us get up to 150.

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Obviously you have to be careful about

what you're checking out, but I just

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think the library system is fantastic.

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Betsy: Oh my goodness.

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And I hope you're never late on them.

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Now you have a library at your house.

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Stephanie: I will admit that over

the years, there have been a couple

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ripped books and our bunny even

took a bite out of one last week.

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Really when I think about that

overall cost of literacy, I

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have to remind myself it's okay.

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If I have to pay for a

couple of books for this.

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Betsy: And then they also

learned to respect the books.

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Now, when my, one of my children did a

team project, this would have been in

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high school, with a friend, they went

to the library together, but my child

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was the only one that had Library card.

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So they checked out the books that

they needed and many months later

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we got a overdue notice for $150

and we didn't even have the book.

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Stephanie: Oh, no.

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That's awful.

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I will say, as diligent as you are

with it, it's so hard because you know,

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maybe they read the books in the car

or they read the books on the couch.

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They read the books in their bedroom

and then one falls behind the loft.

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And you're looking everywhere The

summer, we were looking for an

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adventurous and Odyssey CD, and

I'm like, guys, where could it be?

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There's only a couple places we listened

and we just searched high and low.

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And you go back to the library and

take, can you please do a shelf check?

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And then you have to humbly go back.

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You know, the week later, a couple of

weeks later and say, we're so sorry.

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We found it.

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But I'm sure every librarian has

had many of those experiences.

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Betsy: Let's talk a little bit about

those transition times when your kids

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get a little bit older and during

those teen years that you're easing

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up a little bit on the control, you're

letting them manage their own, some

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of their decisions and possibly their

bedroom and maybe they have a bathroom.

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So maybe their bedroom and bathroom.

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What we did in those years

is I wasn't making sure that

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they made their bed every day.

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I knew that they knew how to

make a bed, that they knew how

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to make it properly, but I wasn't

going to be on them every day.

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If that was part of their chart

for a while, did you make your bed

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just to learn the discipline of it?

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But when they're teens somehow a lot

of this bedroom care just falls apart

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and if you have three boys in a room

that's going to be very interesting

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Stephanie: Definitely.

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And I have to be honest about

the bed making and say, I am not

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a stickler because those high bunk

beds, it's above eye level in.

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When I walked by their rooms, I barely

can notice if their beds are messy.

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And so I just, haven't been a stickler on

that as much, but I know I need to hold

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them to that standard more consistently.

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Betsy: Yeah, and that's totally fine.

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That's totally fine.

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My husband always says you

achieve what you emphasize.

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Is it important to you or not?

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Is it the end of the earth?

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Can you just be flexible on it?

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And that's fine.

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But during those teen years, you're

definitely going to flex a little bit.

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But you might be surprised how

messy the rooms get as a result.

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And so rather than just say

you get too willy nilly, just

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You know

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hang stuff from the lampshade.

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I would say that every Friday night,

afternoon, after school, you have

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to make your room so that it, it

meets my standard, my definition

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of a clean room once a week.

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So they are learning not to let it get

so bad that they can't get it right.

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Clean it.

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And I love the word housekeeping.

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Like, how are you keeping

your living space?

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Because you function

better in a living space.

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We know that when kids are playing, they

get everything out and it's a big mess.

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They don't play as well.

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And you have to take a little time out

and say, Let's reorganize, straighten

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up here and then you can, play again.

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But so Friday nights, they always

had a big social thing that they

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wanted to do, but before they could

go out, they needed to have it meet

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the definition of a clean room and

the definition of a clean bathroom.

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And if they did, they would

get a certain amount of money.

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Now, it's not like I usually

withheld it, but it might not

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be as quick as they wanted it.

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They really had to meet the

definition of a clean room.

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And I don't have the list with me

right here right now, but, of course

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it had to be no clothing on the

floor, no towels on the floor, but

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also not all piled up in the laundry.

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You can't just say, I'm not

going to fold my sweaters.

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I'm going to just stuff them all

in the laundry basket . It can't

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be any clothes under the bed.

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The drawers,

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need to be

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And sometimes I'll even check

a drawer and say, did you

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just throw everything in here?

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We understand, sometimes things get

messy like that, but for the most

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part, as the surface is cleaned, it's

vacuumed, the bed is made, the drapes

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are straight, that kind of thing,

and the definition of a clean room

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was taped on the back of their door.

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So if they wanted just to maintain

housekeep, they could, make

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sure that they were doing that.

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The bathroom was interesting because

it wasn't their own bathroom.

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They shared it with one other teen.

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So the two, the four teens had You

know, each a bathroom every other week

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to clean and I knew that when it's

not your own responsibility, there

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could be a little bit more shirking,

leaving it for the next person to

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clean a little bit more thoroughly.

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And in fact, I used to go in and do

a mercy cleaning myself because I

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felt like This really has to be done

right, and I'm going to do it once

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a month, but they did really well on

that, so that would have been an added.

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Responsibility before they would go

on Friday night, and I would look in

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the bathroom, and I realized it's you

need to say This is the cleaner you

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use for the mirror, but it's different

than what you use for the countertop

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This is the cleaner you use for the

toilet bowl, which is different than

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what you use for the shower So all of

those things you do that writing it up.

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They know which cleaner they're

supposed to use And Everything

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under the vanity, this was one of

my big rules, has to be upright.

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So I went in there and you know

if you have a bottle that's

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tipped over, eventually it's going

to leak out and that's awful.

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And so everything that was

under there had to be upright.

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That was one of my rules.

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And the shock to me was one time

when, one time I did go in there and

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everything was down and I'm like, okay,

I guess that this has to be a roll.

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But I went in and then one time

I went in there was actually

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a ketchup bottle in there.

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So I had to say, no condiments,

no food under the vanity.

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Who'd have thought?

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Stephanie: That is such a crazy story.

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Who would executive I'd catch up?

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In the bathroom, but.

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You've heard it here.

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I think that that's so great

that you taught your kids exactly

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what the expectation was and

taught them to maintain it.

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And then even did that mercy cleaning.

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I think there is a lot of wisdom there.

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And that definition of a clean

room is such a fantastic tip.

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Betsy: So it's a pretty basic

definition that's written out.

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It's not something that's going to

take them two hours, especially if

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they've, it's been done the week before.

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Stephanie: That's fantastic.

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I have some principles that I'm

going to link in the show notes

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as well, just to give people a

little bit of a starting point.

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I know we all have a different standard.

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But we're all looking for

somewhat similar things and it

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could be a jumping off point.

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Betsy: Yeah, your definition

might just be real simple or it

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might be a little more elaborate.

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And Alchin, with that idea.

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That she's a good friend and

she put me on to that idea when

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my kids were about that age.

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Stephanie: I have another Popsicle stick

system that I created for cleaning.

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And it might sound a little

bit elaborate, but I love

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systems that are easy to change.

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And.

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It's so simple to replace a Popsicle

stick in a system rather than, you

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know, creating a new chart or something.

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I suppose they're not

actually the Popsicle sticks.

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I used to larger tongue depressor,

ones and I colored the end.

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So I had purchased all the

neutral color, but I colored

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the end of some of them yellow.

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And these were the yield chores.

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I explained to my kids because

you're a part of our family.

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You're going to do these chores.

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It's kind of like, do not press

go before you do these things.

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And I would write on a Sharpie, what it

was, perhaps it was a morning routine

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and then I have little cups sitting out

for them and when they completed it, they

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would put the Popsicle stick in the cup.

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So I could tell.

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And then I took a bunch of.

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The tongue depressors and I

colored the end of them green.

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And these were ones that

they could earn points for.

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perhaps they would vacuum the downstairs.

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And they could get 10 points

or they would clean up.

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The basement toys and get 10.

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Maybe they helped sharpen

all the pencils and got five.

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And I got pretty specific with

those, because as I said, they're

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inexpensive and you can just

write a lot of things on them.

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So when we would have our family

clean, I would set out all of these

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green chores and I'd say, okay,

you need to pick at least three.

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And it didn't matter which they picked.

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And some of my kids might be

more motivated and they want

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to take all the 10 point ones.

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Someone might be, wants to get done

quickly and try the five point ones.

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But then, you can add it up and

say, when you get to this number.

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We could get a little gift card

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are there could be extra screen

time or some sort of a reward or

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a little, donate date with dad.

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And we would never do a huge reward, but.

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It was, fun for them to

accumulate the points.

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And then I in the same container.

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I had some that were marked the end with

purple and those were mom chores that

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I knew were too difficult for the kids.

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Easy way for me to say,

okay, I've done this.

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I'm going to put it.

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Back in the container.

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And, perhaps when was the last

time that I washed those drapes.

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So there are some chores that are

less frequent and I just had a

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visual to see all of these Popsicle

sticks with the different chores

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and to remind myself of them.

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But, you know, if we're.

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Running at a time and I

didn't get to everything.

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That's okay.

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It'll be next week.

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We'll get to it.

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Also took some sticks and

colored red on the end.

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And I might have a little

warning there, like, Hey, Mr.

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At minus five.

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And so if they were really

complaining or having a poor

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attitude, not being diligent, then

I might put that in their jar.

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And then I also had some blue bonus ones.

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And they could get a bonus for just

having great initiative and follow

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through and a joyful attitude.

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Throughout.

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It really took me, maybe a half

an hour to create this system.

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And.

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Like I said, I love how flexible it was.

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For the kids and that it provided a great

visual of what was done and it was just

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easy to pack away and think about next

week when we had our next family clean.

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Betsy: Yeah, I think what we're

doing here is giving a lot of ideas.

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It might seem like a lot, but maybe

you're going to say, Oh, this one

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really meets a need that I have.

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Now what you're saying here I think

is a really great idea because you're

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sharing the load with your kids.

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I remember a story.

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A popular method when I was a young

mom was similar to that, but obviously

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the woman was doing all of the work.

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And the way that one worked was you

took a three by five index cards and

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you wrote down every single chore

that's required to keep your house.

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everything.

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So let's say wipe off the top

of the refrigerator or pull

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it out and vacuum behind it.

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Then you have to decide how

often you're going to do this.

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Maybe you're going to do that once

a year or, wipe off the top once a

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month or whatever, but not every day.

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So then you break, if you're doing

it once a year, you decide which

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month you're going to put it in.

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Bottom line, what you're doing

is you're making a system of what

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you're going to do every day.

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Once a week, once a month, once a year.

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And you're slotting them in

the appropriate time slots

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throughout the whole year.

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So if it's a weekly thing, I'm

going to take out my little pack

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of weekly cards, set them on my

counter, and I'm going to, I'm going

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to have my weeklies with my dailies.

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But the routine changes all

the time, so it's different.

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But you will have your dailies, and it's,

maybe wiped on the kitchen counter, and

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that's a given, but put it out there so

you feel like you accomplished something.

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And that's when I came up with my

gold chore, clean the kitchen floor,

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because that was just one I just had.

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Really never ever like to do.

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I'm like, I will pay money, but I

like your idea of well Why not train

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the children when they're younger?

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To really and you're really helping them

in the future, you know for their futures

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Stephanie: That's a great system

too, because it is so flexible.

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And It's inexpensive to do the index

cards and it's easy to adjust if needed.

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I know for sure there would

be things I'm like, huh?

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Yep.

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Didn't think of putting

an index card for that.

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And adding those in later.

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Marilyn Boyer is a really wise woman

that I heard at a homeschooling

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conference one and she had 14 children.

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And I loved that.

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She said we cleaned on Tuesdays.

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Tuesday was family clean day.

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So if they had company over on Friday.

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They didn't reclean.

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She said we had really stewarded our home.

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And we were maintaining

things the rest of the week.

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But I love that perspective because

We're training our children to

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steward the house onto the Lord.

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We're not doing this for someone else.

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We want to enjoy our home and the

blessings alerts given us, but

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we're taking care of it onto him.

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So we're not all of a sudden scrambling

because someone's coming over and

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we want it to look right to them.

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And I love that her perspective.

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And if I'm honest, I, although I

completely embrace it in my heart.

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I feel like there's, sometimes people

are coming over and I'm scrambling

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and to me, I'm thinking, oh man, I'm

just like knocking these projects out.

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And it's just like a

motivating little rush for me.

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To get things done.

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And for my kids, they're

probably watching me thinking.

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mom, are you doing this just for others?

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I think we should just always be

aware of the messages that we're

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sending, even within our systems.

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Generally it has worked well for the

kits and I will clean maybe on a

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Friday night or a Saturday morning.

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I'll together.

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And just enjoy it.

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But if companies coming, I'm not

going to be cleaning while my

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mother-in-law's there, my mom,

I'm going to enjoy their company.

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And, we either adjust the day

or we get to it the next week.

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It's important to allow for a little

bit of flexibility to, and to let people.

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Trump our to do list.

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Betsy: Stephanie, when we're done with

this, we're scrubbing the kitchen floor.

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Yes.

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You thought you were getting out of it.

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Oh man.

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Yeah, that's not my favorite word either.

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And I like that you said we're just

giving a lot of tips at once because

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there was this season where every Saturday

morning I told my kids, all right,

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everybody bring down your sheets to me.

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And once you bring your sheets

to the laundry room, you can

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have pancakes for breakfast.

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And I did this for a season

and I think I blogged about it.

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And then recently I was thinking,

oh man, How often am I really

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washing those bugs bed sheets and.

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It's not a weekly thing anymore.

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And I realized I had put that out

there and sometimes you adapt for

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a season and we can be so used to

hearing other people and their lists.

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But.

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They do change and.

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That whole comparison trap.

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We don't want anyone to fall into that.

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We just want to pro.

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I'd a variety of ideas.

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Betsy: Some things you do for

a while and they're effective.

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And then you change up.

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Yeah, we're not doing all of these

things at the same time by any means.

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Stephanie: You develop the system first,

so you know where you can flex and where

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you can have a little freedom from it.

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If we did a really great job last week,

and then something happens this week and

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we don't get to it, it's not that bad.

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There's going to be things we still

do and things we still maintain.

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And when you're training the kids.

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And the bathroom mirror

has smears all over it.

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That's one where I'm not going to go fix

it right before someone comes over because

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I'm just so proud of them for trying.

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Oh yeah, so that's the kind of smear.

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The cleaning smear, I thought, okay.

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Yes exactly.

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But I'm not going to go in there and

fix that because I don't want to teach

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them that their job wasn't good enough.

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Then a couple of times, maybe I say, oh,

okay, remember how we cleaned the mirror

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Betsy: somebody will look at it and say,

Hey, somebody just cleaned this mirror.

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Yeah, I had

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I had a friend who always said

when company's coming, just make

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sure you don't run your finger

along anything and upset the slight

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little dust that might be on there.

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And another one that said light

candles and dim the lights.

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Stephanie: That's not your usual tip.

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That's funny.

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In preparation for this, I went

online And I found clean mama.

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She has some zone cleaning and

checklists that remind me of the

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system you were talking about.

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And if you feel like I don't

really think I was trained well,

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how to clean and maintain a home.

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And you're often discovering places

like, oh yeah, that's green door.

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Vacuuming data that is not in my rotation.

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She has a great list of

things that you might do.

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And her method is to do certain

things every day and never to

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have this big cleaning chunk.

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And I know a lot of people like to

do that and I can definitely see

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the validity of a system like that.

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Personally for me.

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I like to get it all done at once and

then get in the shower and feel queen.

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That's just how I like to do it, but I

still think that her checklists can be

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really helpful for managing the dailies or

even just knowing what to get to, even if

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it is in a big cleaning chunk like that.

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She also has cleaning recipes.

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If you're wanting to make DIY cleaners.

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So I would definitely check out

her free resources that was clean.

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Mama.

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Betsy: I made a weekly cleaning

thing for David and I, but

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by weekly six days a week.

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But you could work ahead and have

Sunday, Saturday and Sunday off.

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But for him and I to break

down the chores, and I love it

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that he's working from home now

because I'm sharing them with him.

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And he's really good at the

gross motor vacuuming and things.

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He has his chores.

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We each have just a couple

little chores to do every day.

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And and they might not

be every single week.

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Because next week it might,

it's a little different chore.

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So basically it's a whole month laid

out, but in that whole month the entire

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house is cleaned between the two of us.

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And it's broken down into just

really small chores so that

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it's very manageable, in a day.

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Could do it in, a half an hour.

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And especially if you keep up

with it, it's not so to do.

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When you're newly married, the

division of labors is a big thing.

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Because people often

struggle with it for a while.

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Like, why am I doing all this?

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And maybe you could do this better.

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And there's a little bit of figuring

that out that's necessary to take place.

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It's, you don't want to overload.

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One.

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there needs to be a sharing of the load.

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Stephanie: Actually have

Googled division of labor.

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Worksheets recently, this

came up in my small group.

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And I think it's tricky if you

didn't start off on the right foot.

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Managing it well, At the beginning

and then you add kids in and the

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mom is doing so much for that.

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It can get very overwhelming.

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And hopefully you're both humble

enough to be able to sit back

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down at the drawing board and say,

okay, let's evaluate this again.

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So if you want to do

that, Google, go ahead.

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Just like now they have stair baskets.

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It's amazing.

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The things that are available now.

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you talked recently about there

just so many transitions in life

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and you feel like you have it down.

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And then all of a sudden someone new is

potty training and someone's teething.

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Betsy: And someone's learning to drive.

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Because I told my husband, I don't

know if this was a good bargain or not,

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but I will wash all the dishes forever

if you teach all the kids to drive.

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And so now all the kids drive, and I'm

still doing all the dishes, but he does

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a lot of help with getting the grandkids.

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I just don't want to do that.

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My husband does a lot of returns and the

ladies at the store go, Oh, hi again.

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But I also, he does something

very nice for me on Saturdays.

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We will go out or maybe

not even Saturdays.

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This is different because we're empty

nesters now, but he will drive me around.

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So drive me up to the door.

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I'll run in, do the quick

thing, come back out.

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And we get a lot accomplished that way.

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Anyway, too many ideas probably,

but hopefully one of them.

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Might help you had a really great,

interesting quote from that lady.

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Stephanie: Yes.

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And it connected so well to entrusted.

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We thought.

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it was from Charlotte Mason.

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She said here indeed, more than anywhere,

except the Lord build the house they

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labor, but in vain that build it.

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But surely intelligent cooperation

in this divine work is our

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bounded duty and service.

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And she's saying that habit

formation in our children.

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As we're trusting the alerts so

much to develop our children,

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to save and to sanctify them.

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But certainly we want to

be a part of their habit.

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Formation.

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I think we can all look back at our

own childhoods and be thankful for

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the habits that our parent gave us.

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But then maybe we're also thinking

all, man, I wish that one would

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have been solidified more.

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That would have really helped me.

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And that's the part of the Lord working

on each of us, but if we can really set

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our kids up for success in the beginning,

that's such a blessing to their marriages.

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Their future careers.

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And their households,

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the habits that we're helping them

establish will really bless their

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futures and bless those around them.

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And it's a godly mothers duty

to make that part of our day.

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And Charlotte Mason said that about 150

years ago, but I think it's still so true.

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And even though she didn't

have children herself, she was

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an educator and she saw this.

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And the students that she taught.

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And as long as we're on tidiness,

I thought this was so interesting.

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She said that when you're teaching

your child to hang up their coat, And

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this really relates well to entrusted.

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You're thinking, is this age appropriate?

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Can they hang up their coat?

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And you know that they

can hang up their coat.

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So you're teaching them

to hang up the coat.

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And she said, you present the benefits

to your child and you're lovingly

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teaching them that this is something

you're expecting that with them.

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And from now on, I want

you to hang up your coat.

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So she says, when you come along and you

see that he has not hung up his coat,

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you don't say, come hang up your coat

because you're training him to now wait

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for your voice to go hang up the coat.

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But what you should do is say, come here.

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Oh, man, just stand by the coat and he

smile And then visually he's going to see

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it and realize, oh, I forgot to hang up.

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My coat.

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And she said, you could say, I told

you, I'd remind you, but you're not

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going to let your voice be the cue.

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Otherwise you're training their

brain and your kids to wait for

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you to tell them or to nag them.

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And she talked about the brain science of

it a little bit more than I am, but I've

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had that, that was really an interesting.

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Thing, because as moms, we

can really fall into the habit

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of our voice being the queue.

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And she also says, do one habit at a time

and keep, watch over those already formed.

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And you're going to do a new habit.

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For about six to eight weeks.

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And that could be about 10 a year.

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And when you think that in

10 years, they could have 60

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really well-developed habits.

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That's just fantastic.

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And so you want to pick ones that

are important and it's the slow

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growth, like the water drinking.

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And I want that to be a

lifelong habit for my family.

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So we're going to focus on it for

a while and I want it to stick.

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Good point.

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Before you go, I want to pray

this benediction over you

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from 2 Thessalonians 1, 11 12.

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We're rooting for you.

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To this end, we always pray for you,

that our God may make you worthy of His

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calling, and may fulfill every resolve

for good and every work of faith by

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His power, so that the name of our Lord

Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in

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Him, according to the grace of our God.

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And the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Amen.

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Until we meet again.