You don't need to wait until you feel ready, because confidence was never meant to arrive before you do.

So many women are standing at the edge of the life they want, holding back until they feel bold enough, certain enough, or ready enough to step into it. Kimberly Rash breaks down the confidence myth, revealing that confidence is not a personality trait you either have or you don't. It is something built, decision by decision, through small acts of courage rooted in the things you already do well. She gets honest about the voices, the comparisons, and the critical people that quietly chip away at a woman's sense of self, and why releasing that old noise is where the real growth begins.

The version of you that you have been waiting to become is not someone you have to find. She is already inside you, ready to rise one step, one choice, one brave moment at a time.

Kimm: At some point, you have to stop waiting to feel confident and start becoming the version of you that you're waiting for, because confidence doesn't show up first. It doesn't arrive when everything is perfect or when you're fully feeling ready to, it's built. It's built in the moments where you show up anyway.

Will you try? Will you take the step even when you're unsure The truth is a lot of us are waiting to become someone different before we change our life, and it actually works the other way around. You become her by what you do, by what you choose, and by how you show up starting now.

Hi, I am Kimberly Rash. Welcome to Rooted to Rise.

Let's talk about the confidence myth, I feel like a lot of the women that I have encountered in my life when I have seen them and gotten to actually talk to them who I thought just are so confident and they have their stuff together, are usually just as insecure about something in their life as we are.

And confidence is really the boldness in which they choose to step out in that moment, in that time for whatever it is they need to do. Confidence is built, but it's built by small steps, small actions, right? You know how we always say take one step in the next 24 hours do something different, to change your life, to walk into the next version of you?

That is what confidence is. It is. taking the one small step. Becoming bolder, having a boldness, and not being afraid of what other people think. when you start to build through action and you start to take those things other people are gonna notice and all of a sudden, next thing you know, you are going to be the woman in the room that people are looking at and going, man, she's just so bold.

She's just so confident. And I don't even think that. It's intentional. It becomes a part of who you are. When you can walk into a room and you're like, yes, that's awesome. Let's do this, let's do that. You can analyze a room, you can analyze people. You can look at a project that you're about to undertake and go, yep, we got this.

We can do this. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. And it's a feeling. It's, it's a confidence that comes. Really from all the things that we've been talking about, about having gratitude, about saying no, about stepping out and, and not being afraid, rooting in the things you love about yourself, releasing the things you don't love about yourself, and rising up being bolder, being stronger, being the more confident you

it's tangible, it's doable. You can do it. What would the next version of you do today? if you could be the person you wanna be, so say you're a little more timid, maybe you're shyer, maybe you are someone who follows the leader, so to speak, but knows in your heart that you would choose to be the leader, except you just don't know how to make that happen.

What would you do?

Maybe if you're gonna do something, do something that you're good at, right? So let's say you're a confident knitter, or a crochet. You could start a knitting class or start a knitting group. Or if you're good at canning or you're good at doing a lot of these ecky things that you could stand up and offer.

To share your giftings and what you love to do with other people, but it's in something you, yourself, personally are already confident in. And you can take that to the next step, to the next level by bringing it into a small group and once you're good with the small group, you can offer it on a larger group.

And then once you're good with the larger group, you can make a YouTube video or do the things that you're comfortable with to be able. To feel confident, use those skills, and those women who are gonna learn from you are gonna be like, man, she's so confident in what she does. And as you grow, your self-esteem is gonna grow and you're gonna be able to take strides and you're gonna look back and be like, I am awesome.

Like I'm a bad ma, ma. Jamma. Like compare yourself when you get there to who you were today when you were thinking about taking the one small step. Just activating to do something.

It's pretty amazing, honestly, how our confidence can just get diminished, right? You could be so good at something and it just takes one person to knock you off your horse, right? Just to be like, to do it better than you, or to have some derogatory person kind of like come up. And be like, yeah, that's all right.

and you're so proud of what you did. And they're just like, huh? Yeah. Or they're just mean, like, there are just mean people out there that would maybe just take something that you did, something that you wrote, something that you sang, something that you made. Literally just tear it to shreds and then maybe even tear your character down with that, and your confidence just went from being like a 90 to like a 30 because other people can be really mean that can really kill your confidence.

Or maybe you set out to do something and. the initial response from the public or from people was not that great. And you're like, Ooh, I'm gonna do this. And like, two people liked it, you know? And, and you're like, huh, well maybe this isn't gonna be as good as I thought it was gonna be, or whatever that looks like.

And that can kill your drive. But you know what? You have a plan and a purpose. You have a hope and a future, and you don't have to. Discouraged by other people. You really don't because the only thing that matters in this world is what your creator thinks of you.

And like if you're married to be great, if you, if you like what your spouse thinks of you, what your family thinks of you, but those strangers on the street who may or may not like whatever it is you are trying to do or who you're trying to become, it does not matter. And you know, I, I had written this thing and I'm gonna have to get it out and actually like read it on here about what I learned when I turned 50.

Which I'm going on 51 next month. So what did I learn when I turned 50? But one of the things, and I have to say like I still struggle with it, is that other people's opinions are none of my business. And a lot of the times I'll come back to that and like the minute I start getting discouraged or.

Annoyed or angry, about what someone else had thought about, something someone else had said to me about something that I maybe had pride in or I was excited about. I had to remember. Other people's opinions are none of my business. The only thing that matters is, Kim, are you proud of you? Are you proud of you when your children and your grandchildren.

Go back and look at your life, will they be proud of you? That's what matters to me. They are my hope in my future. They are my heritage, and that is what builds my confidence, being the best woman that I can be for myself and for my family. And if that building up my confidence and being a great, Mom or grandma, or I'm an ahma. I, I'm not a grandma, AHMA., Whatever that looks like.

that's just what matters. I, that's all it should have to be. I wanna encourage you, if you're feeling.

That you don't like, you don't have the self-esteem or the confidence. Maybe you always had a sibling that overshadowed you, you know, and they're like, oh, you know, I dated somebody once, but if you're listening to this, uh, sorry. But I dated someone once and his parents literally had one brother up on a pedestal.

Who could do no wrong? They were both athletes and both good at what they did. And I remember sitting at uncomfortable dinners where the mother and the father would sit there and be like, oh, hey, how did your match go today? How did your thing go today? And with confidence and joy, This, this young man would say, oh, like I did really great.

Like this was my score. This is what happened, blah, blah, blah, blah. I did kind of flub up here, but you know, I came back there and then you would just see like the father shake his head, or the mother be like, now, now I won't say brother's name, but you know, if you could just be more like brother. You know, he's just so wonderful.

Like look at him and all his glory and no offense against the brother, but it wasn't his fault that his parents did this. But there was totally a comparison, which was 100% the thief of this poor guy's joy because he was really good at what he did. So if you had parents like that, that would compare you to your siblings and be like, why can't you be more like Bobby Jo?

We love Bobby Jo. Why are you such a menace? Why are you such a problem? Why are you so quiet? Why can't you do anything that those kinds of people have spoken over your life that have ripped parts of your confidence that maybe you kind of had? You have to block 'em out. You have to release the old noise.

You have to get rid of the things that no longer suit you. They don't resonate with you anymore. They are not who you are. They're not. You cannot let people take who you are supposed to be and take you down brick by brick, layer by layer. Build up your confidence. Just build it up.

There's a vision for your life, and I know you have a vision for your life. You wouldn't probably be listening to me if you didn't have any kind of vision for your life. Even though we're still walking the path of what is rooted to rise and how is this gonna shape? And I don't know. I'm letting it authentically just do what it's gonna do and it's gonna shape the lives of the people who listen to it the way it's supposed to shape their lives.

And I hope that it brings you joy, and I hope that it brings you confidence like you wanna go and kick some butt and just be better than you were today. Be better than yesterday and love yourself where you're at, and that in itself when you learn to love yourself. Your confidence does go up by, by like Trumps like big leaps and you deserve to be able to love yourself and then be like, yeah, I can try this if I fail.

I have like so many people, like people in my lives, like they just go and do one of 'em, like. Since we were young. He, he just goes and he does. He's like, I'm gonna do this, and this is what's gonna happen. This is how it's gonna work. His confidence is undeniable. I have a friend who, she and I went out to dinner just a couple of weeks ago and I just look at her and she's like, yeah, I'm just gonna do this.

I'm like, how, how are you just gonna go do this? These people. And, and I'll introduce you to some of them on this podcast. You're gonna learn, who some of the close people in my life are, the people that I just admire. So we're gonna chit chat with them, but it's gonna be great. But you're gonna see what I mean by like, they just go do.

And so I decided myself, I'm just gonna go do, why am I gonna wait? I'm already 50. And granted, I feel like I got at least another 40 years in me. So if that's the case, and I got another 40 years and I've already lived 50 years. My life has been a new lifetime in every single one of those 50 years. Why can't I go out starting at my fifties like it's brand new, the most confident and happy and loving person that I can possibly be, and I'm going to, and I'm just going to abide by the two simple rules that I know.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, and soul. So love your creator. And love your neighbor as yourself. Those are the two rules that I will live by and just build up my confidence and I encourage you to do the same. I really, really do. 'cause you don't have to wait to feel ready. You don't have to wait to feel confident.

You do have to make the steps. You don't have to wait to become the version of you you've been thinking about because she isn't someone you have to find. She's already in you. She's someone you bring back out piece by piece and start building her one decision, one action, one step at a time, and the more you show up as her.

Even in the small ways, the more natural it's gonna feel to you. You're not even gonna know. You're gonna end up just being a different person and everyone's gonna say, wow, you're so different than what I remember. Well, good, I'm glad. Thank you. You're not behind, you're not late, and you're becoming, you're becoming the next level of you, and that starts with what you choose to do today.

So don't be afraid. To change. Don't be afraid to be bold, to be confident, to be yourself, and that new version of you, that confident version of you, is just gonna come shining through. I thank you so much for joining me today. As usual, it has been wonderful. So I am just so grateful for your participation, and as always, I will see you in the next episode.