The 'Confidence by the STARS' podcast features host Dorrissa Griffin, an astrologer and self-proclaimed Horoscope Hype Woman, in conversation with guest Sofia Adler, an astrologer and coach specializing in personal growth using astrology, psychology, mindfulness, and energy practices. Sofia shares her journey from working in marketing and events at Soul Cycle to finding solace and purpose in astrology following significant personal changes. The discussion delves into how astrology serves as a tool for understanding oneself on a deeper level, helping high achievers prioritize their needs, and assisting individuals in realizing their unique potential. Sofia emphasizes the significance of self-care, the importance of acknowledging one's cyclical nature, and the role of astrology in facilitating self-empowerment and transformation. Resources such as Sofia's free astrology for self-care course are mentioned as avenues for listeners to explore astrology's benefits further. The podcast closes with personal insights and affirmations that have aided Sofia on her journey, alongside an invitation for listeners to connect with her for guidance on their astrological path.

00:00 Unlocking Zodiac Secrets for Empowerment with Special Guest Sofia Adler

01:22 Sofia Adler's Journey: From Marketing to Mastering Astrology

04:48 Astrology as a Tool for Personal Growth and Understanding

09:39 Embracing Women's Empowerment and Astrology's Role

17:26 Navigating Life Changes and Embracing Authenticity

26:40 Practical Steps Towards Personal Transformation

32:52 Sofia Adler's Personal Insights and Resources for Growth

36:45 Wrapping Up: The Three Wise Insights from Sofia Adler

About the Speakers:

Host: Dorrissa Griffin Esq., Astrologer and Founder of Cosmusic™ (@cosmusicapp and @dorrissa on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube; LinkedIn Profile)

Guest: Sofia Adler, Astrologer and Coach (@sofiaadler_ on Instagram ; LinkedIn Profile)

Sofia Adler is an astrologer and coach who specializes in helping high achievers prioritize themselves and their needs using psychology, mindfulness, and energy-based practices. She appeared in many of the top wellness and lifestyle magazines such as Bustle, Well+Good, Women’s Health, and more! A born and bred New Yorker, Sofia traded the city streets for the mountains of Santa Fe, NM.  When she's not working, you can find her hiking, at the farmers market, and walking her dogs. Sign up for your free self care astrology course www.sofiaadler.com.

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- Sofia Adler:

@sofiaadler_ on Instagram  Sofia's Website

-Dorrissa Griffin, Esq.:

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Welcome to the Confidence by the STARS podcast,

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an astrology podcast that unlocks

the secrets of your zodiac sign and

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provides astrological insights for

personal growth and empowerment.

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I'm your Host and Horoscope Hype

Woman, Dorrissa Griffin, and

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I'm here today with here today

with special guest, Sofia Adler.

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Sofia is an astrologer and coach

who specializes in helping high

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achievers prioritize themselves

and their needs using psychology,

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mindfulness, and energy based practices.

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A born and bred New Yorker, Sofia

traded the city streets for the

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mountains of Santa Fe, New Mexico.

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When she's not working, you can

find Sofia hiking at the farmer's

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market or walking her dogs.

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Welcome Sofia!

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Sofia Adler: Thank you.

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I'm so excited

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Dorrissa Griffin: to be here.

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Yes.

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I'm excited to have you on too.

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I was just so impressed by you when

I saw your profile on LinkedIn.

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I was like, Oh my God, I

have to meet this woman.

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She's done all this cool stuff.

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She looks like an awesome astrologer and I

would just love to be connected with you.

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So it's just a pleasure to finally get

to meet you and to have a good little

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chit chat about women's empowerment.

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Sofia Adler: I can't

think of a better topic.

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I'm in.

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I'm ready.

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I'm excited.

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Now back to the show.

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Yes.

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So I'm very excited and I would love

for you to just tell the listeners a

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little bit more about yourself and what

your journey has been with astrology.

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Yeah,

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Sofia Adler: so I guess I should say

right off the bat, I never thought

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I would be an astrologer ever.

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There's that famous saying, when the

student is ready, the teacher appears.

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And I really feel like the

teacher for me was astrology.

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I have a master's in psychology

from Columbia University.

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And before I went back to get my master's

degree, I worked in marketing and events.

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at SoulCycle, which is a likely

well known by your listeners fitness

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studio throughout the country.

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And I went back to graduate school because

I wanted to learn how the mind worked.

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I had recently had a big

shift in my family life.

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My parents got divorced.

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I'm an only child.

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It was a definitely a

pivotal Moment for me.

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And as a result, I got really

into the mind and how it works.

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And it started with yoga

and then mindfulness.

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Like I was just desperate to find

anything that would make me feel better.

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I'm a born and bred New Yorker.

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I played sports in college.

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I really used to live and die by a

do more, be more, achieve more ethos.

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And it wasn't until my life changed

that I started to slow down.

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That I started to look for

practices that would help me

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on an internal level and scale.

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I thought graduate school

would be the answer.

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I thought, you know, Ivy

League, master's degree.

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In psychology, I'll be set.

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This is how I'm going to help people.

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This is how I'm going to help myself.

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And I did start off with, you know,

Ended up being a really successful

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kind of traditional corporate mindset

and leadership coaching business.

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And I still had this nagging

thought of something's missing.

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There's gotta be more out there.

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Like, something is off.

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That voice didn't stop

until I found astrology.

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Until I have now come to realize I found

a tool that doesn't just give your mind

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something to chew on, doesn't just allow

you to think about yourself in a new way

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and provide a new language and framework,

but also addresses the parts of you that

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cannot be contained by your human body

that aren't necessarily logical, right?

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And, and kind of understood by the mind.

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As I see it, astrology really addresses

the multitude of what makes us who we are.

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It addresses and acknowledges

the multidimensional nature of

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what it is to be a human being.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Wow.

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Yeah, I really resonate with that.

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I totally agree.

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Astrology does do a much better job

of encapsulating all the layers of

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who you are in a way that I think

a lot of people don't experience

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through a lot of other modalities.

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It gives you an insight into

yourself, that person that

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only you know inside your head.

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And people are like, wow, I didn't

realize you can pick all of that up

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and really give me a better insight

into who I am and how I think

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and how I move about the world.

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Like that's what's

really powerful about it.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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You know what a lot of people,

astrology obviously is super popular,

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which we love and it's, it's not only

popular, but it's cool and hip and

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while that's great, I think that the

root, the core of astrology, why it

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matters, what it does has really been

lost in translation due to the rise in

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stardom, should we say, for the stars.

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When we look at the What I'm looking at

is a picture of where all the planets were

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in the sky the moment that you were born.

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I'm getting a snapshot of what the

energetic imprint was the moment that

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you came to life as a human, right?

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You took your first breath.

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But the reason that this matters

and is significant is because your

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soul doesn't just choose this life.

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It also chooses your moment of birth.

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The moment that you were born, the

way in which you were born, the timing

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of your birth, whether you were early

or late, or came by surprise, or came

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in like this, or it took a while.

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All of that is written in the chart.

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So to your point, astrology reveals

what our soul chose for us in this life.

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It goes beyond our

professional development.

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You know, quiz or breakdown.

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It really addresses who we, not only

who we are, but who we're meant to be.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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And I love hearing about your journey,

how you found your way through your

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own business, and then you went to

graduate school, took psychology.

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That was actually a field

that I was very interested in.

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And I actually have a

marketing background as well.

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And it's so crazy how psychology

and marketing are just.

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really cousins or maybe

even sisters of each other.

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But then like still feeling like

there's something else, there's

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something more, there's something

that I feel like I want to get to.

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And that's kind of what led you to

astrology as a profession for yourself.

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I think that's really magnificent.

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Sofia Adler: Thank you.

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I really appreciate it.

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And again, like for everyone listening,

you never know where life will take you.

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It's one choice after the next.

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When I became an

astrologer, I was terrified.

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My friends are lawyers and

docents and, or not docents,

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excuse me, curators of museums.

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My friends are consultants and, and have

what I would call like these really like

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high ticket, like really impressive.

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Kind of traditional corporate careers.

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And when I decided I was going to

really do this, I was like, Oh my God,

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like, what are people going to say?

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What are they going to think?

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Like, God, what are my

parents going to think?

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Like, Jesus.

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And it was, in the end, the

joke was on me because it was

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really beautiful to see how.

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My family, my friends rallied around me

and were like, yeah, this is amazing.

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Do it.

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And it goes to show, like, I never would

have become an astrologer or leaned

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into who I am fully and completely

without being buoyed by astrology.

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Without that support from being

like, oh, yeah, like, I'm validated.

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I'm affirmed.

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Like, those two words I hear

from my clients all the time.

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And it, you know, the stars

empowered me to friggin go for it.

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And then I did.

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And life has just unfolded in a way

that I never would have expected.

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I always say, if you would ask 18 year

old me, like ahead, like just go a couple

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of years, more than a couple, but you

know, whatever, you're going to be an

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astrologer and have your own business.

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I think I would have been like,

what are you talking about?

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Like, no way.

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So I'm lucky.

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I'm grateful.

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It's, again, it's wild

to see how life unfolds.

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I think when we allow it to unfold, when

we don't control, when we don't feel like

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we have to follow a certain path, because

The universe always knows better, has

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bigger dreams, and, and more opportunities

than are available to us in our minds.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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That the universe, I love

Oprah's quote, the universe will

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dream a bigger dream for you.

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I wrote this.

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I mean.

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But yeah.

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She's perfect.

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Of course she is.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And speaking of perfect, like, I feel

like you and I are like a perfect

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connection too because I was reading your.

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Your website and you're an Aries

with Aquarius, rising Aquarius moon.

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And I was like, Oh my God, I'm

probably going to really vibe out.

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Cause I'm an Aquarius sun

and rising and a Pisces moon.

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So I was like, we're going to vibe

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Sofia Adler: out.

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Oh yeah.

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Oh yeah, for sure.

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I mean.

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Aquarians are a vibe.

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They're just, they're just a vibe.

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A whole vibe.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, I was

really excited to, to talk with you.

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And just like on the topic of women's

empowerment, we have so many amazing

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things that have happened during Pisces

season already, but we're, what's really

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going to be, I think, a really pivotal

time for everybody is Aries season and

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coming up this, this, uh, This month,

and it's so pivotal that Pisces and Aries

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take place during Women's History Month.

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And I just think those things

are like not coincidental.

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I think, especially during this

time, we have eclipse season coming

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up, so many different things.

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And I think it's just going to be a

really pivotal time and the topic of

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women's empowerment, the topic of.

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Women really having ownership of

themselves, I think, are really

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what we're going to see during

the season, during this year.

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Big shift in that.

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And so I would love to get your take

on this women's empowerment and kind

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of like what your views about how we as

women can really step into our own and

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really own who we are and move forward.

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Not this, not just this month,

but just in general using

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astrology or whatever modalities?

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, such a good

question and I'm honored to answer it.

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At the most macro level, what astrology

is doing is it is affirming, confirming

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that there's something going on here.

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That we are all connected.

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That you and me, we are One with

the earth and the trees and the

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planets and the animals, the land.

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We are brought up in a world that has

taught us to think that everything

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is separate and equally that we

have to be like everybody else.

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Whereas when you really lean in and you're

like, oh, damn, like, I I am connected

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to the frickin planets, like, it's pretty

remarkable and crazy, like, I have done

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hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of

readings and I have never met anybody that

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doesn't resonate with their birth chart.

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On a big picture, without even getting

into the nitty gritty of your sun sign

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or the current season we're in and

things of that nature, you can just

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take a step back and be like, wow,

like, I am connected to the planets.

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I am magic.

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Like, it's really wild.

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And, and really remarkable and

astonishing and abundant to think

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about ourselves from that perspective.

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And equally, when you consider that you

are one with the universe and also a

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unique expression of all that is, right?

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You and I are one and the same, and we're

also incredibly different and unique.

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We've each been assigned, or our

soul has chosen, if you will, our

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own way to bring our magic to life.

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And that's what astrology

helps you figure out.

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It helps you see who you are meant to

be, your potential of who you can be.

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What I often find with people

is that they're super heavy in

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a specific part of their chart.

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So for example, Someone might have a

Scorpio stellium and an Aquarius stellium,

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but they're super in their Scorpio.

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And I'm like, listen, we don't

want to get rid of your Scorpio.

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I love this about you, but we

got to pull out the Aquarius.

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We got to pull out these

other parts of you.

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Not only do we compare ourselves to

others, but we also Especially as

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women, it often feels unsafe or is

taught that it's wrong to embrace

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the bigness of who we are, to

really allow all of us to be seen.

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And you can make these

connections on so many levels.

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What about all of the messaging around

the size body a woman's supposed to have?

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It's just, it is endless, right?

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And so using astrology, using, and by

the way, I really consider astrology

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an energy practice, and I can share

more about that if that's okay.

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of interest and exciting here, but I

think astrology really at its core, and

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you spoke to this in our intro, astrology

helps you remember who the hell you are.

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And it is as micro as your specific

quirks and talents and gifts and growth

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edges, and it's as macro as, damn, like,

I'm alive, and I'm alive now, and me and

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the trees are connected, and the animals

and the earth, and like, it is my duty,

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my purpose to be and express who I am.

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Me.

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My vibe.

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My energy.

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My passions.

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I actually wrote this in

an Instagram post today.

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There's 8 billion people in the world.

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And there's only one you.

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And so, that famous saying,

Who am I to do this?

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The question really

becomes, who are you not to?

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Astrology provides that new language,

that new framework, that new toolkit

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to help you kind of snap to it

and be like, so this is who I am.

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So this is the power that I possess.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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It really can.

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I, I really resonate with that.

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That was actually part of my experience

with feeling that affirmation

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of who I am through astrology.

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It was one in which I was questioning,

okay, should I do this with my?

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Career paths, should I do that and

having that reading and kind of getting

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that understanding of myself and really

saying, yeah, I do have these skills.

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I do have these gifts.

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I do have this way of seeing

the world that is uniquely mine.

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And if I don't take the time

to express that, to live that,

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to allow that to be present.

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And how I exist.

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I'm missing that part of myself and

I'm missing out on life in that way.

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And who wants that?

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Who wants to look back on life and

be like, man, I had it right there.

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I knew it, but I didn't choose

to go with that and honor

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that intuition about who I am.

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So I totally resonate with that.

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And I think that's one of the things

that we get reminded about with

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women's history month, how much we

are, in a sense, through society.

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Even throughout history, taught to

play small, taught to really not fully

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express and accept who we are as whole

human beings, but instead a role or

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a service that we provide through the

fact that we're feminine or we, we are

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women or we have feminine qualities.

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And that's the world's loss, but

that's why I was really excited

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about this season and this year in

particular, because I feel like a lot

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of that is going to shift quickly.

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A lot of that is just going

to be something that's not

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going to be holding us back.

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I mean, when you think, when you look at

technology, I feel like a lot of the roles

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that were traditionally done by women,

secretarial work, a lot of note taking, AI

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is taking all those responsibilities away.

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And I think it's freeing women

up to really say, I don't

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have to be a clerical worker.

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I don't have to be someone who is

waiting in the wings to do this, that,

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and the third at someone else's service.

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I can be.

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In a leading role, I can really

have ownership of who I am.

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And I would love to dive deeper into

that and kind of figure out from your

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perspective as an astrologer, how can we

tap into more of that energy and saying,

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this is a time for me, this is a way

that I can really let go of the barriers.

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And the limitations that other

people have placed on me and

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really take ownership of who I am.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, I think what really

comes to mind as an exercise is Sit

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down, maybe you meditate or just

close your eyes to get quiet, and then

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write out a list of like, what are the

rules that I think I need to follow?

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Right?

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And these are sneaky, by the way.

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Like, these are sneaky rules.

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Like, this might be something that

you are doing for a long time.

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The reason that I start with that, what

rules are you following, is because

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then the question Who made this rule?

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Did I?

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Like, right?

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Because it's like, oh

my god, we are adults.

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Like, if we're gonna follow rules, I'm not

saying go out and break the law and all

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these things, but like, if you're gonna

be following a list of these rules, you

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damn well better be the one who made them.

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Or, or at least know, know

who gave you those rules.

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Know who you are following.

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Know who you are choosing

to say yes to over yourself.

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Because I think what is really coming

to mind for me, it's not gonna be.

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It's not going to be kind of

permanent until the end of this

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year, but Pluto moving into Aquarius.

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Pluto is in Aquarius now, it's going

to dip back into Capricorn one last

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time, and then it's going to move back

into Aquarius at the end of the year

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and stay in Aquarius moving forward.

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Pluto in Aquarius really speaks

to this energy of like, As I

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see it, all bets are off, right?

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Aquarius is the rebel.

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Aquarius waves that freak flag high.

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Aquarius, though, wants to fit in.

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Wants to fit in, but doesn't want to

conform to be like everybody else, right?

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I always say to my Aquarian clients,

community for you means that there

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are people around, they're doing

their thing, but they're supporting

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you and you doing your thing, right?

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It's not that we're all meant to

be like each other, but Aquarius

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is really This, this commitment,

this reverence for authenticity,

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for being our own unique selves.

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And so Pluto, uh, a generational

kind of societal influencing planet,

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for those who aren't as familiar.

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Pluto's M O.

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Cos every planet has an agenda, is

transformation, is change, is looking

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at what needs to be alchemized.

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What needs, what is lead that

needs to be turned into gold?

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And so, Pluto in Aquarius to me

really speaks to an encouragement

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on a macro level of, Be you.

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Drop the, drop the shoulds, drop the

rules, drop the things that you have

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subconsciously or consciously, the masks

that you have put on to fit in, to belong.

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Again, when I say Aquarius wants

their free flag to fly, it doesn't

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mean they want to be solo out in

the desert somewhere by themselves.

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It's more that they want to create a

new future that doesn't echo the past.

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And so, in order to step out of these

clerical roles, or the boxes that women

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have been put in over the years that are

being broken both by women and also, to

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your point, by changes in society, um, I

think you first gotta know who you are.

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And authentic expression changes.

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What's authentic for me this month might

not be authentic for me next month,

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might not be authentic for me next year.

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And that's okay.

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But the more you know yourself The more

you get clear on, I like this, I, I

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don't actually think I like this, or I

thought I didn't like that, but damn,

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like, I love it, it's super exciting.

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The more that you can lean

into your unique, authentic

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expression, the rest will follow.

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Wow, yeah.

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And it's crazy to think about, like,

what are the things, like, I remember,

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I remember when I first was out of my

corporate job, and I was in grad school,

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and I said something, Once of like,

well yeah, you work from nine to six.

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And the person was like,

oh, I didn't know that.

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And it was like this realization of

like, right, I'm following a rule about

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when and how long I'm supposed to work.

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But I didn't make this rule, right?

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Corporate America made the rule.

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Working at the time I

lived in New York City.

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Working in New York City made the rule.

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So it's sneaky, the influences.

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That have hold

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Dorrissa Griffin: over us.

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Yeah, it really is.

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And so pervasive and being able, as you

said, to really take stock of who you

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are and then what rules or what things

you feel are requirements that you

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have to adhere to, to be a certain way,

really taking ownership of what that is.

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And parsing out, okay, this is the

expectation, but this is what I want.

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This is how I feel that

fits or works better for me.

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And not allowing yourself to always be

so, I guess, restricted by those things.

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And I think that's.

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Very much like you said, the Pluto

and Aquarius, that's very Aquarian,

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like going deep subterranean

through the Pluto part of it.

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But then also with the Aquarius,

Aquarius is going to know the rules.

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They're going to learn the

rules, but that doesn't mean

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they're going to stick to them.

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Sofia Adler: Nope.

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That is certainly right.

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Aquarius likes to learn the rules so you

can decide which ones you want to bring.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Exactly.

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So I would encourage people to really tap

into that as we're getting and shifting

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these energies and find that inside

of you to figure out what's working

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for me, what isn't working for me.

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How can I go about figuring out why that

isn't working for me and then changing

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those things in incremental or radical

ways, however it fits, you know, for you.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, and something

else that comes to mind too is

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we have to be open to change.

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Like, I think that people talk

a lot about fear of change, but

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in reality, what's scarier is

everything staying the same forever.

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And the cosmos and astrology

really teach us that.

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With Mercury retrogrades, with

eclipses, with the changing of

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zodiac seasons, if you look at the

energies of the stars and the planets.

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It's constantly in flux and inflow.

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It's constantly moving.

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So I think that that's something too

of like taking note of what limiting

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stories are you telling yourself?

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Like where are you keeping yourself

boxed in or telling yourself that

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everything has to stay the same?

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Part of this new version of self

that Women are being called to

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step into, and by new I really

just mean like, unexpressed.

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I don't mean that, oh, you

have to find a new s It's like,

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it's always in you, right?

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Like, women's empowerment.

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It's like, be the woman you know you're

meant to be without society telling

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you to be small, and all the things.

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Um, But like, it's okay

for things to change.

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It's okay for things to be in

flux and in flow, to go with it.

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It doesn't need to be rigid.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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It does not need to be rigid.

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And I love how, when you talked about.

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Your transition into astrology, you

kind of mentioned some of the stages

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in your life and then some of the

fears that you personally had about

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taking on this new role or taking on

this new way of of being you and using

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astrology as a way to help other people.

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I would love if you could like,

maybe give people some ideas about

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really doing that for themselves.

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I wanted to read a statistic

from the Pew Center.

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About the gender pay gap, as you

know, that's like a huge, huge thing.

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The difference between the many,

the median earnings of men and women

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has remained flat in the United

States for over two decades now.

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And in 20, 2022, the U S.

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A woman typically earned 82 cents

for every dollar a man earned.

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And that's on average, I think if you

break that down by demographics in

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terms of race is even lower than that.

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And that the main reason why women or

people in general in the study felt

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that women were earning less is because

they were being treated differently

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and they had a different, um, choice

or different circumstances about the

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work and family balance dynamic, as

well as they were working in jobs that

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typically just paid less in general.

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And as an entrepreneur, the

both of us are entrepreneurs.

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I really feel like that's something

that is also shifting in the world.

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I'm not encouraging everybody to

necessarily go out and start a

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job, start a new business tomorrow,

but you know, that is an option.

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That is an opportunity.

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And for people who are looking to maybe

shift into, let's just say a different

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role in life, maybe not necessarily a

different business or whatever, but like

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a different role in life, what might be

some suggestions that you would have for

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them to be able to Assess that and make

that shift and to be fearless about it.

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How to like, really

think about their fears.

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Cause like you mentioned your

family, like, what would they say

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or what would they think about me?

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And then all of a sudden you announce

it and they're like, that's awesome.

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You know, and it's like crazy.

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How would you like.

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Coach somebody into making those

types of changes in their lives.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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And what you're asking is so much of

the work that I do with my clients.

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And, and I would say this one, I won't

lie as a double Aquarius and an Aries,

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I'm not only an Aries sun, but I'm

a Aries, Venus, and Mercury as well.

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I'm kind of an energetically

wired to like, go for it, to

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take the risk, to do the thing.

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So.

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I need to acknowledge that.

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It wasn't easy for me, but it's

definitely, I think based on other

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energetic profiles out there,

it was easier for me to be sure.

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But you know, this is, I'm pretty sure

Martha Beck said this originally, but

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one, go towards what feels warm, right?

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What lights you up?

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What makes you feel alive?

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What ignites a fire in your belly?

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Go towards those things.

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Because I will also say, my

astrology business just took off.

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Right?

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Because it's what I'm meant to be doing.

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And so, we've been taught that we

need to struggle, that we have to do,

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like, it always has to be hard work.

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And I'm certainly not implying that

we shouldn't work hard, even though

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my astrology business took off.

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Entrepreneurship is not

for the faint of heart.

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But there's so much success to be found,

personal success, meaning, purpose,

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in doing something that lights you up.

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So that's kind of a first thing.

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I would say that's kind of for the person

that's like, I want to do something

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else, but I don't know what it is.

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Start taking note.

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What are the things that feel warm?

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What lights you up?

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What feels exhilarating and exciting?

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The other thing to consider is,

Discernment around discomfort.

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And what I mean by that is, we've been

taught that discomfort is a signal

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of something being wrong or bad.

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Instead of having the wherewithal

and the recognition that in order to

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change, in order to carve out a new life

path, to pivot careers, to walk in a

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different direction, you're going to be

uncomfortable because it's unfamiliar.

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Even when it feels like the

110 percent right thing to do.

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You likely won't feel super cozy

and at ease because the thing that

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you were doing before, in some

sense, felt comfortable, right?

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It felt familiar.

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So a lot of times I get from people, oh,

you know, it's like the discomfort stops

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them before they've even tried or started.

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Or they think, well, because I'm

uncomfortable, because things feel

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wrong, then that means it's not right.

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And so having the wherewithal, talking

it out with someone, leaning on the

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stars, right, what do the cosmos

have to say based on the timing of

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your life, to really consider, Am

I uncomfortable because I'm doing

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something I've never done before?

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Or am I uncomfortable because

I'm really going down the wrong

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Dorrissa Griffin: path here?

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Yeah, I think those are great

suggestions and it's so powerful.

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I was actually like joking with

myself today and I was thinking

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about how can we help people.

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make these shifts and take

advantage of these new energies

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that are presenting themselves.

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And the song from The Great Prince

came to mind, and it's gonna sound

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kind of cheesy, but I loved it.

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And there's a song he has

called The Beautiful Ones.

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And at the climax of the song, he

says, I may not know where I'm going.

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I may not know what I need,

but one thing's for certain.

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I know what I want.

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And I was like, that's it.

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Sofia Adler: Yes, that's totally it.

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And also normalizing that.

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I always say to my clients,

clarity is based on action.

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You have to do something to get clear.

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Clarity doesn't just appear, right?

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And of course, it's funny, I'm sitting

here smirking to myself, I'm like, this

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is the reminder you needed today, kid.

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But clarity comes from doing things, from

trying it out, from taking action, because

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you don't know what you don't know.

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You gotta put one foot

in front of the other.

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So you have to start.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, you gotta start.

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Sofia Adler: You gotta start.

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And also, the last thing I would say is,

You reserve the right to change your mind.

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I think too, what can hold people

back from starting a new path or doing

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something new or walking a new line,

if you will, is that they're like,

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Oh my God, what's going to happen?

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It's like, you're not

stuck in this forever.

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You get to pivot.

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You get to change.

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It's your life.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Right.

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You have to take ownership and

really know that even if you take

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ownership, a step and you think,

Oh man, this wasn't what I needed.

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Make another one.

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Take incremental change.

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If you can start small and make little

shifts, those make all the difference.

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And those things add up to really,

really big changes in your life.

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But like Sofia said, you have to

start, you have to make those changes.

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You have to make those shifts.

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You have to take an assessment and

then wherever you think is going to be

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the easiest for you to make progress.

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Start making progress just

a little bit at a time.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, I was about

to say like, it doesn't, anything

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is better than nothing, right?

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Like it doesn't have to be.

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Big or grandiose.

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Mm hmm.

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Absolutely.

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To be, to be considered

something that counts.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah.

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And I love you have a resource that,

that you are helping people with.

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It's this free course that you have.

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Would you love to tell

people more about that?

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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So, I have an astrology for self

care course, and it is free,

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you can get it on my website.

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Um, and it's really a tool for helping

people understand how to use astrology as

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more than just like a pop culture thing

and a party trick, and really use it as a

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tool that can allow you to get into better

relationship with yourself and to help

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you figure out and understand and give you

permission as well around what you need.

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around how you can support

yourself so that you can go

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out and make these big changes.

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Yes.

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So, so that, because that's a thing.

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If you don't feel supported, if

you don't have your own back, it's

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a lot harder to make these shifts.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, it really is.

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And I think on the topic of like, just

putting what you need first, like that's

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something that you also help people

with, like how to step from this kind

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of mindset of like, I I'm here to help

other people and that's kind of like comes

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before anything that has to do with me.

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No, it's like, how do we get from

feeling like everybody else's

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needs are more important than ours.

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Like you have also another resource that

you use to help people with that as well.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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And I think, I think too, we Especially

for my high achievers out there.

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You can have big goals and big dreams

and big ideas, but they don't have

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to come at the sacrifice of yourself.

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You know, like you, I think people

are so quick to shove down their

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needs, their desires, their feelings.

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in order to get the thing, create

the thing, accomplish the thing.

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And I'm really a big believer,

and use astrology with my clients

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to help them with this, that you

are just important as your goals.

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You get to exist alongside them.

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You don't have to give up on your

goals to prioritize yourself.

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And also, prioritizing yourself doesn't

mean that your goals are less important.

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You get to be one of those goals.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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That's a really powerful message.

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I think a lot of people forget that in

the day to day churn of going from one

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thing to the next and having me after

another and all these responsibilities

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that you get to be your own goal.

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Having that sense of prioritizing

you is just so powerful.

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I see we have a new visitor.

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Let's get this.

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Um,

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Sofia Adler: this is Penny.

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Hi Penny.

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Hi Penny.

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Penny is a Sagittarius.

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I guess.

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Um, she also is an 11 pound

dog and hikes 10 plus miles, so

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she's definitely a Sagittarius.

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But since we started today, it has, the

reason I looked to the side earlier is

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that we had a hailstorm and now it's

kind of snowing, but there's also thunder

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and Penny's very afraid of thunder.

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So that is why she ran over here.

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And decided to join us.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Penny's

like, I need mama now.

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Yeah, exactly.

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Exactly.

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Wow.

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That's a lot going on.

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And you said you're in New Mexico.

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Beautiful.

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That is really beautiful.

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I love that.

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Well, yeah, I'm so, so glad for this

time that, that we've had together.

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And I love to close and wrap up my podcast

with asking the "Three Wise" question.

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And, um, just like the gifts of the

Magi, I would love to know three

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sayings, sages, or sounds that have

helped you on your cosmic journey.

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And that could be.

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Books or people, those are the stages.

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Sayings can be affirmations

or principles that you follow.

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And then sounds can be music

or films that have helped you.

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Just three, three of those.

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Hmm.

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Sofia Adler: Um, sayings.

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I'm a cyclical being.

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I'm not meant to be on all the time.

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That is honestly my own,

learned from the planets.

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Another is the more fun I

have, the more money I make.

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That's a great affirmation, right?

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And it kind of speaks to this, you know,

it, I can get serious and in my head too.

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So that's a reminder of like,

it's valuable to have fun.

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It's valuable to go do

things and enjoy yourself.

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That also contributes to business.

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Um, and just because it's top of

mind, a sound that I've really been

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loving lately is birds chirping.

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Spring is coming, birds are chirping,

and it just feels like everything's

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coming back, coming back, coming back

to life, coming out of hibernation.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Wow, that's beautiful.

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I love that first message that you gave.

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We're all cyclical beings and I

don't have to be on all the time.

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Like, wow, I'm going

to steal that from you.

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Please do.

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Please, please do.

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Yes.

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Well, it's been so fun.

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I would love to know how we can

stay connected with you or where.

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We can find out more about, about you.

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Sofia Adler: Yes.

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So, you can follow me on Instagram.

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It's Sofia Adler underscore, I

spell my name with an F, not a PH.

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And also my website, Sofiaadler.

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com.

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You can find information there about

booking sessions, more about astrology,

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grab that free self care course that

we were talking about earlier today.

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And I would love to hear from you.

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So definitely, if you're listening

to this, reach out, say hi.

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Such a pleasure and an honor to have

been here today, and I look forward to

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staying connected and talking to you soon.

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Hey,

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Dorrissa Griffin: thank

you so much, Sofia.

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This has been awesome.

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I've really enjoyed getting to know you

and the cutie pie you have with you.

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Thank you.

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Well, uh, Go and check

out Sofia's website.

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As she said, she has so many

great resources available to

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help you and support you on

your cosmic journey as well.

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on Confidence by the STARS.

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