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Changing With The Seasons: Autumn Equinox
Episode 121st September 2022 • Sensitivity Rising • Tonya Rothe
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Autumn is the time of year to think about letting go. As our planet shifts, we are along for the ride. Join Amber of Soulful Nature and Tonya of Sensitivity Rising as we discuss this important change of seasons. We talk about ways to harvest what we've grown in our lives so far this year and ways to release some things that are no longer needed and have an honest look at ways to let things go.

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Tonya Rothe

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Tonya 0:03

Welcome to the sensitivity rising podcast where sensitive people learn how to turn down the noise, and tune into their inner guidance systems. Welcome Friends, I'm the creator of sensitivity rising. And I'm here with one of my regular co hosts Amber of soulful nature. Hi, Amber. Hi, Tonya,

Amber 0:28

so excited about this

Tonya 0:29

know, I know, this is our very first episode of the new podcast. And we're so excited to hold this space for other sensitive people, as a way to connect with you and to share how we can all learn to navigate and embrace our sensitive energies. An important part of the podcast that's going to that's going to be for all of us is turning our awareness to the cycles of nature, and how it how having that understanding comes with an awareness of our own cycles as human beings. And it's through these awarenesses, these conscious connections with nature that really deepen our recognition of our place, within the energy of the planet. And Amber, you have a lot of experience with this. So if you want to share some of your thoughts about that,

Amber 1:31

yeah, this is something that's been become really a big part of my life and through my training, so I'm a nature based life coach. And, you know, as I've deepened that awareness, and that connection to the natural world, I noticed over the years, the same time a year, I'd have some similar experiences or feelings or energy levels. And it's really become clear how much that's all related to seasonally what's going on the different cycles that our Earth goes through that we go through. And the more I have worked to live in alignment with that and helps clients live in alignment with that, the less of that, you know, dysregulated anxious energy I get, because I'm now in alignment with the energy in the natural world around me. So I'm really happy that this is a big part of kind of the underlying stuff we're going to talk about here. Because it's, I think so fundamental, but often so overlooked. So, yeah, I'm just really excited to, to have conversations around this.

Tonya 2:30

Yeah. And I think something that's important for us, especially as you and I are both highly sensitive people, right. So I think this is something that we really miss in kind of our modern lifestyles, right? Is this disconnection with those rhythms. And I feel like that's a lot of where some of our maybe struggles really come from, is we're missing that connection. And we're not taught right? How to how to make that connection. And so it's almost like something's missing. And we don't really can't maybe put our finger on it all the time. And so it can be difficult unless somebody says, Oh, yeah, you know, when I like, for me personally, when it when the season shifts to bottom like it is right now. I can, it's almost like a light switch, where I can actually feel it in my bones in my body, emotionally. And I can feel that change coming. And it gives me a little bit of anxiety sometimes, because, you know, I live in the Pacific Northwest. So we get a lot of cloudy days, a lot of kind of wet damp days. And so I sense that's coming, and I have to really prepare myself for those changes coming up.

Amber 3:55

Yeah, yeah, that's, I think, for me, one of the big things that awareness of the change coming and or that this is the energy of this specific season, whatever the season might be, has been able to allow me to be with maybe some hard emotions are some anxieties or know that these things are going to pass. It's part of the cyclical, you know, energy that we're in. It's been a huge awareness for me. And I do think for those of us who are very in touch with our sensitivity, especially to the natural world, these things are outside of our control. So when we know about them, and we have the awareness of them, it can really help us just understand, oh, this is going on, and then I can consciously prepare for it. Or I can know what's going to pass or be it just gives us a different way of working with it that I think is really powerful for our live so

Tonya 4:50

e autumn equinox this week of:

Amber 5:51

Yeah, yeah. And I just have to say autumn is my favorite season. And there's something special about all the seasons, but autumns always held that special place for me. So I'm kind of happy, we're starting with this one. And a lot of my training has been an around how this also lines up with direction. So being with the land in general in different ways, so both energetically but physically on the land. So when we're talking about different seasons, each season corresponds with the direction, it corresponds with the time of day time in our life cycle as humans. And then we see the similar patterns in animals or plants or whatever is going on. So for autumn, that is the West. And if you think about the sun setting, typically sunsets in the West, especially this time of year, and at the end of the day, and at the end of the day, if you look at to like the birds, or whatever, you know, they're starting to congregate, they're going back to their roots for the night for safety. And then as humans, we're also coming back home, you know, most of us, come back to our homes, we'll have dinner oftentimes, that's with loved ones, and we're kind of celebrating our day, or talking about what happened in our day, which is really what autumn is all about. It's about harvest in celebration and community. And as Tonya was talking about food, you know, nourishment, and the nourishment isn't necessarily just the food we're consuming, right, but also the mind, body, spirit, all of that which does come so alive in, in the autumn. And my my favorite thing about autumn is just how the reminder of how beautiful change is as the leaves. So I'm in. I'm located in Maine, in the northwestern part of the state in the mountains. And so we get these incredible, vibrant colors this time of year. And it's just so special. And just that reminder that we often you know, resist change. But change is actually very beautiful if we are open to it.

Tonya 7:51

Yeah, for sure. And you know, so I'm in outside of the Seattle area in the pacific northwest of the United States, but I grew up in Southern California, right, so seasons, it was summer. And then last summer, I would say there weren't really a lot of seasons. And so I think having that kind of awareness to of living in some different environments. I feel like I'm maybe a little bit more sensitive to to some of these changes that come up as well. But then for a lot of people too, don't you think Amber that depending on where you live, right? Sometimes. January might be the best month to be outside, for example, because it's actually cool outside if you're in like Florida, or you know, Mexico or something like that, it might be a little bit more tolerable.

Amber 8:47

Yeah, for sure. So that's something to that. I'm glad you pointed out because it's important to note, as we talk about different seasonal stuff, and what's going on, you know, we're gonna be talking a lot about what's more of the, like, common, maybe more cliche anyway, I hate saying cliche, but ties to these the seasons. But what I think is important and I what I hope listeners really get out of this is thinking about it from the maybe what we're sharing, but then also really reflecting on their own lives and look at the land around you. And what are autumn, what is the land around you saying? What are the animals doing where you live? What are maybe the birds saying or the plants. It's so important because that's the energy that's surrounding you. It's very different than maybe the energy that's surrounding me here in Maine or Tonya in the Pacific Northwest. So really bringing it into what intuitively feels right for you and trusting that in the process is really important as well.

Tonya 9:45

Yeah, because no matter where you're living so like I mentioned, you know, Southern California so the desert, no matter where you're living, though, if you if you really take that allow yourself to take that time to kind of get quiet and be observant, then if you really don't think maybe necessarily things are changing around you, you really can start to make that connection. If you do take that time to get a little bit more quiet and just aware and observe.

Amber:

Yeah, absolutely.

Tonya:

So even we're talking about the weather and like environmental stuff that can also impact us. But also, I feel like another thing to think about, and maybe I don't know, ever, what do you think that if we think about to kind of our ancient cultures, right, they were a lot more in tune with the seasons, and all of that, and they didn't have the distractions that we have, right? Like, obviously, technology, but we think about artificial light, maybe in the times that we wake up and go to bed. And we're, you know, at least this time in our culture, we're kind of tied to the 40 Hour Workweek, and all of these things that kind of take us away from those natural cycles. And at least, I feel like as a highly sensitive person, kind of the little bit older I get, and a little bit, you know, how I am developing my awareness of all of these things, I'm really starting to notice how they kind of put me off balance, really, and kind of start to struggle with kind of the, I don't know, if push and pull maybe is the right terminology, maybe you have different words, Amber, but of how I feel. Not how I feel, but what my body needs, what my mind needs, what my soul needs, and what the world is telling me, I should be doing, or I need to be doing to get all the things done that I need to get done, or all to play my part, I guess, in this modern society, does that make sense?

Amber:

Oh, it makes total sense. And, and what's really, I love that you brought this up, because this is something I think you're really passionate about. But we have this modern society, this modern world, right? That's telling us how we should be we should be working these hours, or we should be going to bed at this time. Or we should be doing all these things. And the second I hear the word should I'm always all over that. Yes, I'm really

Tonya:

good all over ourselves. Right? And

Amber:

so there's that, but when we think about the modern world is so recent compared to our actual humanity, right? So yes, for our lifetimes, we came into this lifetime already in this modern world. But our DNA is based off of much more ancient human beings than the modern, you know, human world. And so, and they've actually studied this, and there's, it's in our DNA, certain things that are related to living on the land. So one of them was, I don't remember who it was, but they did a study on, they showed I think they showed babies, pictures of spiders and snakes and stuff like that. And they still had, they're trying to figure out was this a learned response or so? Okay, interesting, right. And they learned that, it's that we come into this world with a fear of certain things. And in this case, it was snakes and spiders, whatever else they were doing in that study, and it was in the DNA, because those were the things that would kill us, you know, if you live in a place where there's poisonous snakes, poisonous spiders, whatever. And so, that's just one example. But you can extrapolate that to all these other things, right? That at the cellular level of our bodies were supposed to be and I don't like to say it's supposed to be right. But we were originally were animals. So you know, essentially, we've just figured out how to Yep, inside. For better or worse, you know, everything has its pros and cons but so at the cellular level, our bodies our systems want to be in alignment with the natural world because we are part of nature. So the more we have pulled away from that, the more out of alignment we can be and I do believe that very energetically you know, it's it's very present for us. And so I know I personally have to make a very conscious effort to get outside and make sure I'm not getting swept up in the shoulds in the what we should be doing as a society. And I'm looking at what do I need what's my body telling me and also what is the natural world teaching me and reminding me that this is an important time for that has been huge for me so to feel that is completely normal and I would be shocked if other you know, other listeners didn't feel the same way. Because it's, it's very, it feels very harsh energetically the world we've created compared to the natural world. And the further we get away from the natural world, the bigger that change that differences that we have, that we're feeling, and it's hard, it's hard if you if you are an aware person. It's pain trying to live consciously.

Tonya:

I think it's hard, painful. It really is. And I have like that is. I mean, obviously, I can't speak for all HSPs, right for all sensitive people. But even people who don't identify as highly sensitive, we all have sensitivities, right? So you know, if you get really, if you get really angry, or really frustrated or confused about something, I feel like, a lot of those things come from this very basic connection that most of us are missing. Right? Yeah, even those of us who are striving for it, like you, especially in your work is very specific to this. It's like a constant, I would imagine a constant. I don't know if battle is the right word, but to you know, you have to like really work hard to make how

Amber:

to keep you in that focus that that very intentional intention at the word that keeps coming to me. Yeah, so easy to get pulled into the status quo, right? Yeah. And it's a little bit jarring to to be living differently than most people in that way. And there's tons of people out there who live very connected to the natural world. But there's also a big portion of society that that's very disconnected and even maybe judgmental on that, which is a whole other topic we could get into

Tonya:

other topics. I think, you know, yeah, I think it's important, though, that you mentioned that, and even if we just speak about it briefly, that something that I've learned in my experience, is that, you know, just a short little thing is that, you know, I am very much on the path of seeking these things out, for example, my husband is not, right. So we are we love each other. We are partners in life and in love, but we have very different spiritual, if you want to call it that, you know, whatever word you're comfortable with journeys. And so that can be something that can be hard for people to navigate, because I feel like as sensitive people we can so easily be influenced, not all and not in a bad way, but just kind of go with the flow of other people's needs. Right? And some sacrifice our

Amber:

own affluence, that overactive empathy that

Tonya:

we Yeah, exactly, exactly. And so I feel like that's when we really need to find ways to ground ourselves and kind of be firm is that no, you know, you know, Tonya says, No, I need to, you know, spend this hour outside in the park, you know, by myself, and I can't do this for you right now, just as a, you know, example to throw out there. And so finding ways for us to make that time for ourselves, even if other people like you said, Amber don't necessarily agree or understand. They don't what I'm learning, and maybe you feel this too, I don't know, is that they don't need to, hmm, right? I don't need I don't need my husband or someone else's approval, I don't need their understanding of what I need. I just need their respect that these are the things that I need for myself.

Amber:

Yes, absolutely. And it's all about us owning who we truly are, what our journey is here, nobody knows what our journey is just like we don't know what their journey is. And really embracing you know, we're all unique. We are all individuals. And when we no anchoring into our knowing of this is who I am, this is what I need. This is it's really just stepping into power, your own power. Yeah. And use of power in the positive way. So absolutely, it's and it just that for me, the connection to the natural world is really what is given myself back to me. So there's just this back and forth for me with the natural world. But at the end of the day in my journey, it has really empowered me to truly be who I am. Be okay with who I am, love who I am, and also let go of other people's shoulds or societies at the same time. It's been that's been a big part of my career. process. So I think it's wonderful that you that you shared all that.

Tonya:

I mean, we definitely we all have, like you said, our own journey and our own work to do, right. Excuse me,

Amber:

and that I was just gonna say that, you know, just brings up being on that own journey and our own work, you know, that shifts through the cycles to energetically and with our process. And so I think, you know, the tap being tied to the natural world, but also the cycles that we're talking about, it just fits perfectly with that. Yeah.

Tonya:

And so And since we are talking about just kind of the equinox, in general, and all of that that comes with it, we'll share some ways that maybe we can find ways to connect with this transition, right, that takes place during this time of year. So one of the things for me, is once again, coming back to balance, at the same time, knowing that we're never 100% truly balanced, right, there's always going to be some movement, there's always going to be a flux that we're always kind of changing, we're just really doing, at least for me, doing my best to get as close to balance as I can. And a lot of this comes from the shift, at least in our area, and is the shift between the shorter days and the longer nights. This is something that I really have to work with, is that shift in, because it can really start to make me feel kind of off kilter off balance when the when the you know, starts to get dark at like, you know, 530 in the afternoon. Another thing for me is really trying to the best I can and this can be really hard I think in for even for people who have access to a lot of resources as far as food goes. But especially if you have trouble accessing healthy food, we want to make sure that we didn't ensure you mentioned that as well. But just eating seasonally. Right, as as much as you can. So because I think easy, eating seasonally really helps our bodies physically adjust to the change in weather. And it can also be a sense of comfort as well. I don't know, Amber, what do you think about that?

Amber:

Yeah, I think that's a really good point, I wanted to back up, I loved what you were saying about the, the balance, I hadn't really thought of the equinox from that place as much just because I focus more on on the, the animals and the plants and the birds and stuff. But the light the day, you know, the equinox being almost equal light and dark day. And so as a time to think about balance, I think that's really interesting. So thank you for bringing that up. That's really fascinating. And yeah, it does go into also the food. And you know, I do think you know, when you think about the light in the dark, you also that ties into the seasons, right? And of course, we're talking about the northern hemisphere. So I just anybody who's listening in the southern hemisphere, you know, obviously they're on the other side. Yeah. Going into autumn, they're, they're coming into spring. And so I just wanted to mention those people. But yeah, that I think the longer days or the shorter days, you know, also prompts us for the season and what we're supposed to be doing in the season, because with the longer nights that's getting into winter, which is more of a going inward quiet time anyways, yeah, get to that at some point on the podcast. But you know, so I think it's just as relevant to that living trying to find balance is listening to the natural world. And you mentioned, you know, now we have all of the artificial lights and ways of not living in that alignment. So, and then with that food grows based on the conditions, so the more food you're eating, that's more local to you, if you can, and seasonally appropriate. There's also importance behind that for what it does to the body. And I'm not a nutritionist, so I don't want to speak too much about it, because it's not my area of expertise, but it it really does those foods that are available, I do believe have some nutritional value for that season. And especially when we were living on the land and what we needed to be able to sustain until, you know, up here like when the snow melts in the spring and you can go back to whatever it was that you know you're seeking that so yeah, the nourishment is a is a big piece.

Tonya:

It is for sure. And I think yeah, we should definitely talk about that in the future as well. I think I think it's important even to share a little bit of the the resources that we have and to help people just kind make that a little bit more of a connection because right food is essential, right? And what we put in our bodies really affects our set our sensitivities in so many ways that that we don't even really think about or unnecessarily put at the forefront of things. Because we are in this modern life. And we do always kind of go go go and don't really necessarily slow down to nourish our bodies as we could, as we should be. Should

Amber:

I know? Right? It's hard to get away from that work. And sometimes it does feel accurate. Like good, a good. Yes. And yeah, on the food thing, I think that'd be a great thing for us to talk about some kind of for sure. Well, think about they they're even studying like the energetics of the food you're eating. So cared for before. You know, it's all everything's connected. And so, and that's what's gonna come up in this podcast a lot. Yeah. Great.

Tonya:

So what are some other things like I know, we probably both try to get outside go walking, as the season changes, I know that I do. I try really hard even on cloudy and rainy days, which is, you know, six to eight months out of the year here, depending on how Mother Nature decides to greet us. So yeah, getting outside, I think that's a big thing for you to Amber as well.

Amber:

Absolutely. And so I'm trying to think like fall seasons, you know, the biggest thing for me is, like I said before the colors, but also, there's something to for here, because our we have the leaves that change and fall, the sounds right the like going out for a walk, but not walking on pavement for me. But actually walking on the lead, the crispness of the leaves that have fallen is very rich, and all of those sensory pieces. And this, the smell of the air is a big one for me. Just there's so many changes to all the sensory stuff, it's just really just really lights me up and fills me up. And then, you know, for my family, it's you know, it's things like apple picking and pumpkin picking into you know, normal garden Harley's kind

Tonya:

of like quintessential,

Amber:

yeah, there's just feels so good. And when I go to those places, and like go apple picking or whatever, right, I look around, and I always see lots of other families, whether that's with or without kids, you know. And when I say families, I also mean friends, those families that we choose, and gathering together, right, and they're actually going to gather and harvest food together. And then there's often after that there's some sort of creation. So maybe it's an apple pie dessert, or, you know, eventually we'll be moving into Thanksgiving, where we share the food together. And it's all of the celebration around, we've been working really hard. What are all these things that we've been doing, bringing that in, and then gathering with our people and connecting with them over this harvest? And that is just something that's so beautiful to me, I've always felt deeply connected to people when I'm connecting to them with them over food. Yeah, that's huge. Other or, you know, and I think this is a big time of that. It's bringing in all the pieces. We worked really hard, you know, planting, growing, whatever it might be. And then we're coming together, and we're nourishing our bodies, and we're nourishing each other in this connection over the harvest. And that's just, I think that's why autumn for me, it's

Tonya:

Yeah, I love it. What

Amber:

are your thoughts on that, Tonya?

Tonya:

No, I mean, I totally agree. You know, that's something that I really miss about living in New England, we lived in the Boston area for gosh, I think, over five years, six years, something like that. And so that's something I really miss is apple picking and just kind of this it's a different, it's a different feeling there when the seasons change as it is here. And like it's going to be different everywhere. And so I think, as a sensitive person, I'm really starting to recognize those. Those changes the nuances of it, and feeling them energetically, and all the layers of my being right physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. But yeah, and we have a very small family unit. But we still do those things. You know, and it's a different feeling in the home.

Amber:

For sure,

Tonya:

I agree. I agree.

Amber:

Yeah, it's hard to describe because it is such a feeling it is and it's your Yeah, yeah, it's so if you feel it in your bones, it's it's there.

Tonya:

Your heart hurts. Yeah. And I never felt so strongly as I did when I lived in New England. And it was like, I woke up one morning I went outside and it was like somebody flipped a switch. I was like, I feel this I can sense what is coming. And it was such a strange but also beautiful feeling at the same time, it's really hard. It was really it's, I can't that's the only way I can describe it.

Amber:

You're doing a good job of describing the last couple of days here have been really hot we're having and we always get this in September's we get the last few hot day, they come up out of nowhere. But we've had already had a week or so of these chilly colder mornings where yeah, it's just like a switch. Like you said, I walk out in the morning, I'm like, Oh, my goodness, it's fall, like fall is coming. And it's just really exciting. Because that whole celebration harvest. Yeah. And not just physically Right. Like, this also ties into metaphorically. So I'm curious for you what's kind of brewing on that front or for you with this whole season of harvest and celebration. And,

Tonya:

um, you know, one of the things that I won't say I like to do it, but I find is really kind of healing and helpful to me, is decluttering. And I know that we really typically think of like spring cleaning, right? Kind of cleaning out the cobwebs and all that kind of stuff. But I really find that this is a great time for me for decluttering, we just did a big kind of declutter in our house over the last couple of weeks. And it's kind of like, clearing space for spending so much more time. Inside, I feel like you know, because we will be inside a lot more probably most of all the time not so much, probably as you would be in Maine. But it's still not very, you know, it's kind of wet and soggy out for a long time. And so just having that extra space, getting things getting things getting rid of things that we are no longer using donating things. So it's, I think it's also a really good time to do those donations, right to come from a place of service to people, you know, who might have find use in something that you no longer need in your life. So whether it's, you know, an old blender or whatever it is, you know, something that you don't need that somebody else could really use, I find that this is really good time for decluttering in our house, and then really just taking the time to be more present. To really focus on a lot of those feelings and things that you were talking about Amber's just really taking the time to notice what's going on around you be more present to slow down. Which is kind of hard because, you know, with holidays in the West coming up, it can be a really overwhelming time. And a lot of you know things going on social things, whatever it is that you have to deal with, or that you get to participate in taking as much time as you can to slow down I think those are two things that really that I like to focus on. Yeah,

Amber:

you know, your, the, the stuff you're saying about decluttering makes so much sense. And that you know, winter becomes more of a hibernation period and some animals actually do hibernate right so you are essentially nesting and preparing your

Tonya:

for that hybrid Oh my case my bear cave

Amber:

exactly it's It's spot on and then the donation piece of it right autumn being all about community and harvest and you know coming together and and that service to the community it is so spot on and I think this is one of those great examples of our modern world has told us spring cleaning, you got to do your spring cleaning, right it's all about that that's the focus, but what your body isn't naturally telling you year after year is no fall autumn, that's when I need to be doing this cleaning and decluttering and I'm giving back to my community all these pieces at the same time and it makes perfect sense. That's really cool.

Tonya:

That helps to have that validation Thank you.

Amber:

Like it you know, it was one of those things I was you were saying it and I was like wow, like I hadn't thought of it from that lens either. I'm sure I'm sure our listeners are gonna have a similar you know, a lot of people that probably feel the same thing you know, and have felt weird for doing it. Exactly. All right. But that's so much of what our modern world has done. Exactly. But it's in there it's in, you know, in your being knowing that the know this is the time that I'm supposed to do this to prepare

Tonya:

about listening to our inner voice, our inner instinct or intuition. And putting that above all these other expectations, yeah, that other people, society, whatever it is, that kind of just grinds on, right? And we get caught up in in all of it, and saying, we, we, we I pull myself out of that. And I don't need to do it that way. Because it doesn't feel right. For me. This feels right for me.

Amber:

Yes, that's beautiful.

Tonya:

So, for our lovely listeners, we'd like to invite you to maybe think about a couple of things. So here's some questions for you. So what have you accomplished so far this year that you're really proud of? Just some things to think about so far this year, calendar year? What have you accomplished so far that you can be really proud of? And also, what can you maybe start to say goodbye to? Is there something in your life that you want to say goodbye to before the end of the year? Amber, what do you think about these questions? Do you have answers for what you've accomplished so far this year that you're proud of? Yeah, and

Amber:

I'm gonna kind of elaborate just a little bit on that. Sure. No, no much just to tie back to this autumn season, and, and that it is harvest. Right. So you know, we've all been doing something in our lives working towards some sort of goal or, and it could be as little something, you know, like, it could be a big goal, like I'm seeking a career or this big life change, or it could be I'm surviving, you know, I'm getting up every day with this is just survival. So it doesn't have to be anything big. Yeah. When I say anything big like that. Sometimes just getting up every day and going on is huge. So I just wanted to kind of reframe what big, like the goal is, whatever the thing is that people might be thinking about, but what is it that you've really been working on cultivating in your life, and we're now at that point of harvest of it. So what has now come to fruition that you can really celebrate? And tune into, because we often just move on to the next thing. And so it's just such a time of harvesting, and celebrating. So identifying what is it that you've gotten out of these things? How is it serving you all of that stuff with the question you asked Tanya. And so to kind of answer that for myself. I've been I so it's kind of, I have a background beyond the coaching, which was my, my formal education is in engineering and construction. And so I had a lot of years doing that work, I was a professor for a while, I've worked on, you know, big bridge projects, stuff like that, and then eventually moved into this nature based coaching. And with that, I've also recently started doing some of that project management work at a local ski mountain. So I'm really blending all of this nature stuff with my more structured engineering background. And for me to see now, because none of it made sense before, you know, I had this part of me and that part of me, and it's very separate. And so I'm now seeing how all of this is coming together as a whole. Just a culmination of all that work I've done. And so right now I'm very much seeing these threads and celebrating with that has come this amazing community that I'm now a part of, and just people that I have around me in a lot of aspects of my life that I you know, a year ago, six months ago, maybe even three months ago, would not have fathom being present. So I'm really focused right now on internally, like really, just, I'm so grateful that all of this has come together, seeing this community grow, being able to contribute to the community, just embracing all of that, for me is really, really present and just a great sense of joy for me right now. That's amazing about you, Tanya.

Tonya:

Um, you know, for me, I would say the thing that I'm probably most proud of myself for so far this year is really listening to my inner voice about shifting the focus of my teaching as a holistic wellness guide. So yoga, teaching yoga, teaching holistic nutrition, and just shifting it from focusing solely on the healing portion of it, but really taking that and then helping other sensitive people find their own way to the only way I can describe it as step into the light right step. into the fullness of yourself and to really embrace all of yourself. So yes, your sensitivity is definitely part of it. But too, and I, you know, I've learned this through my own journey is that, you know, sensitivity is definitely part of it. But it's one part of all of the wonderful things that make you you. But I feel like we hold it back a lot. And dim it for a lot of times for a lot of people in a lot of situations. And so I think there's really positive ways to, for us to rise up sensitivity rising, and share that with the world because I really do feel like it's a light inside of us. So I've made that shift in my business, which was difficult, you know, for me to do, because I was heavily invested on that in the path that I was on. But I found that, you know, since I made this shift, the light inside me, has gotten brighter and warmer and stronger. And so, yeah, really listening to my intuition on that, for sure. Is there anything Amber that you are working on saying goodbye to?

Amber:

Um, so this is? Well, first, I wanted to say that that was really beautiful. And one, or both of them I just loved it was that both what you shared, what I shared was this combination, and this holistic piece of things coming together, which I just think is really cool. And I've noticed in working with people around the seasons, that even though everybody's situation is different, these patterns, so often show up, or it's the same thing, it's just different for each person. And I was seeing that in acid, I just always think that's cool. So I wanted to comment on that.

Tonya:

And start living proof that it is a thing.

Amber:

And the more aware you become of it, the more you see it, yeah. So for me, I've been doing a lot of work, you know, part of cultivating all this other stuff was also for me working on letting go of attachment to things. So not necessarily in the form of the way we usually use attachment, but being more in acceptance of things as they are. So letting go of attachment and moving into acceptance of the present moment. And with that, is releasing a lot of suffering and just making my relationships healthier. And I think that's also what I'm harvesting right now is, you know, these dynamics with the right people are coming in because of that letting go of unhealthy attachments and embracing acceptance. And just, it's just a, it's a big energetic shift there.

Tonya:

Yeah,

Amber:

that's been what's really present for me these days, and what I'm continuing to work on, going forward.

Tonya:

That's amazing. I love that. I love that. Um, you know, for me, I guess saying goodbye to probably my top thing, and this is, I say goodbye to it every day, but she keeps coming back is she comes back every day to remind me to say goodbye, is definitely trying to say goodbye to second guessing myself. second guessing my first instincts about things. And, you know, when it comes to making decisions, whether it's like the one I just mentioned about, you know, making that shift in my teaching, to my you know, whatever it is just, you know, I find that my first instinct is usually the right one. Absolutely, if I can just find a way to really tune I'm really trying to tune into that and not give myself all kinds of reasons why this first instinct isn't correct. And that's a lot of work for me.

Amber:

It is a lot of work. That's hard. Yeah.

Tonya:

Yeah. And it just goes back to Yeah, something we can also talk about in the future but it just kind of it's basically tied to all of the stories you know, that people have told me throughout my life about who they think I am and who they think I should be. And so you know, listening to my own voice and trying to distinguish my voice my inner guidance system from all of the other noise and stuff that people have you know, put on to me and so that's that's what I'm really trying to say goodbye to is stop second guessing my my first instincts on things Yeah,

Amber:

I just something that that I kind of, you know to think about that. second guessing I kind of love I love finding humor in the hard stuff that we're doing, and that we're dealing with that. Just the fact that she shows up every day. She does. Are you sure? Are you sure? Like second guessing again? Almost Right? Like that is what that part is supposed to do. And so every day, it's like, are you? Are you sure? And you have that commitment every day like, Yes,

Tonya:

yep. Yep, I see you. I hear you. I can see her. Right. In my mind. I can hear her in my thoughts. But I can choose not to listen to her. Yes. And that's wonderful. And humor of that coming back

Amber:

every day. Yeah.

Tonya:

And, you know, I'm not saying it's easy, because it's not, but definitely not, it's, you know, we just get up every day and do the best we can. Right? Exactly.

Amber:

It's hard work, but it's so worth it. And, and I know you well enough to know, you know how you're living proof of the work you do. And and it's just a really beautiful process to witness

Tonya:

you as well. But we can have, we can sing each other's praises for hours. So for those of you listening, if you'd like to think about these questions, so what have you accomplished so far this year that you're proud of? And maybe you start to think about some things in your life that you want to start to say goodbye to. So if you want to share those answers with us, we'd be we'd love to hear from you ever, and I both you know, you'll find all of our information, of course, in the show notes. So you can always reach out to us with any questions. And like I said, if you want to share your, your thoughts on these questions as well, we'd love to hear from you. And so just to you know, just to cap everything off is that, you know, Autumn really is a time to like Abra was saying right to harvest all of these things. And to start to notice that as the planet shifts, right as, as the Earth shifts, that we move with it, right, and that as we make this progression, towards the end of the year, through the seasons that we can start to take this time to slow down a little bit. And to really think about the people, the situations, the things that we can't control. And just moving from a place of self compassion, self love, and finding ways to give ourselves this time to get quiet and listen. Anything else you want to add Amber's

Amber:

note, just wanted to reiterate that, you know, I'm looking forward to hearing what really resonated with our listeners and, and what they're harvesting this time a year. And, you know, or maybe what their favorite things are about the season or Yeah, notice that or whatever it is, you know, I just I love it. Let us know. Yeah, and thank thank you for, to all of them for you know, listening and and I'm just really excited about this project. We're starting together.

Tonya:

Yeah, there's so much we can cover. I know, I know, we have so many things to talk about coming up. And, you know, we're just so grateful that you've chosen to spend this time with us. We have so much gratitude in our hearts for you just sharing this space with us, especially as sensitive people. And you know, you can follow us on Instagram On Facebook. Like I said, all of this information will be in the show notes. And so follow us for all of the latest stuff coming up. And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any of the good stuff. And we will see you next time.

Amber:

Bye. Take care. Bye.

Tonya:

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