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"Not Burnout..., but Going at a Good Pace" with Del Duduit (did-way)
Episode 525th May 2021 • Addressing the ELEPHANT in the Room® • One Light Ahead®
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Addressing the ELEPHANT in the Room® is a ONE LIGHT AHEAD production made in association with Eric Ballestero.

© Copyright ONE LIGHT AHEAD® & April Ballestero & Eric Ballestero 2021. All Rights Reserved.

Host: Coach April Ballestero

Guest: Del Duduit

Produced by: Eric Ballestero

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Coach April Ballestero:

We are officially recording our next episode of addressing the elephant in the room.

Coach April Ballestero:

It is season three and we have another amazing guest with us today.

Coach April Ballestero:

First of all.

Coach April Ballestero:

Everyone know it is all about addressing elephants because there's an opportunity.

Coach April Ballestero:

There's a need, there's an opportunity for people to discover what they want to talk about, how they want to address it and

Coach April Ballestero:

And so my name is Coach April Ballestero, I'm the founder and the Strategic Leadership Coach for One Light Ahead.

Coach April Ballestero:

I get to work with people daily on learning, how to love what they do again by owning their leadership, helping them defeat

Coach April Ballestero:

And I get to choose to host this, Addressing the elephant in the room podcast and I have this amazing guest.

Coach April Ballestero:

Let me see if I do this perfectly,

Coach April Ballestero:

Mr.

Coach April Ballestero:

Dell Duduit.

Coach April Ballestero:

Did I do it?

Coach April Ballestero:

I did it wrong.

Coach April Ballestero:

I know I did.

Dell Duduit:

It's okay.

Coach April Ballestero:

Dell pronounce your name for me.

Dell Duduit:

It's pronounced Did-Way.

Coach April Ballestero:

Duduit (did-way).

Coach April Ballestero:

Okay, I'm going to get it.

Coach April Ballestero:

I have so much fun.

Dell Duduit:

Nothing like it looks.

Dell Duduit:

Right.

Dell Duduit:

Dell is an amazing multitalented individual that has a publisher a multitude of books, we got to meet at a recent writing

Dell Duduit:

Del what's your elephant.

Dell Duduit:

If I could just choose one, I've got like 75 of them.

Dell Duduit:

I can bring up the line here, the elephant I think for me is it's a combination of things, but a lot of it

Dell Duduit:

So you're not burnout and juggling a lot of balls.

Dell Duduit:

So, that's what I'm trying to learn, how to do a little better job on, because it does have, some can have

Dell Duduit:

You know, getting too many balls in the air and have them instead of juggling and having crashed out on your head.

Dell Duduit:

Um, that's, that's what I'm, that's what I try to deal with.

Coach April Ballestero:

So Dell you're claiming the fact that you're not a great juggler.

Coach April Ballestero:

You don't, you're not to handle 15 balls in the air at the same time.

Coach April Ballestero:

Even though we all believe that we are capable of doing that, right?, And yet one of the gifts of recognizing before you get to burn out,

Coach April Ballestero:

How do I want to handle it?

Coach April Ballestero:

And how do I want to recognize?

Coach April Ballestero:

I think one of the terminology uses pace.

Coach April Ballestero:

What do I want my pace to look like?

Coach April Ballestero:

So if you were to say the, the biggest elephant that you really have watched happen is.

Coach April Ballestero:

How do you maintain all that?

Coach April Ballestero:

Correct?

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, because when I was first started out as an author five years ago I was doing anything and everything I could

Dell Duduit:

And it just is time consuming.

Dell Duduit:

And so I can multitask pretty well, but there comes a point in time where I just, I didn't tell anybody.

Dell Duduit:

No.

Dell Duduit:

Hey, can you write this?

Dell Duduit:

Sure.

Dell Duduit:

Can you write that?

Dell Duduit:

Okay.

Dell Duduit:

And then they weren't paying you and you're just meeting all these deadlines and you're just like,

Dell Duduit:

I have a family.

Dell Duduit:

So it was, uh, a lot of times.

Dell Duduit:

I was working every night harder than I was during my day job.

Dell Duduit:

And so it came a point in time, trying to get my social media, trying to get my platform up, go to writers, conferences,

Dell Duduit:

So it was a lot of things going on.

Dell Duduit:

So instead of juggling balls, a couple of people threw in a couple of like chainsaws toothpicks I'm trying to juggle.

Dell Duduit:

So it just came a point in time who recently has had to step back and tell some folks know and to just take a break for a little bit,

Dell Duduit:

So that's a big, that's a big you know, the aha moment is, when you're not enjoying it anymore, you'd have to take a little break.

Dell Duduit:

It's not saying you won't, let's take a little break.

Dell Duduit:

Everybody needs a break.

Dell Duduit:

It's so powerful.

Dell Duduit:

And so let's talk about the process of how the conversation really came up for you because everyone listening it,

Dell Duduit:

Somebody recently mentioned, I feel like I'm drowning and that's not a healthy place to be.

Dell Duduit:

There's an opportunity to really recognize, how do I, how does this conversation come up with ourselves personally?

Dell Duduit:

And how does this conversation come up in just the arenas that you're in, especially in the author arena you've

Dell Duduit:

How has it how do we see it come up?

Dell Duduit:

It's just a build up of frustrations a little bit.

Dell Duduit:

I didn't shoot anybody, but it's just a buildup of frustration.

Dell Duduit:

Junior's you know, your time's being demanded from a lot of people being pulled from a lot of different directions and

Dell Duduit:

Um, again, I love being busy.

Dell Duduit:

I'd rather be busy than bored any day.

Dell Duduit:

I wrote, I think four or five years straight on my blog every week without missing a blog and do any shows all the time.

Dell Duduit:

And I just had to just step back and say, you know what?

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, there's other, that's important.

Dell Duduit:

It's all important, but there's a couple other things, a little bit more important.

Dell Duduit:

And so I just, talked to my wife about it and I decide when I seem to , I just need take a break for a little bit.

Dell Duduit:

I'm not quitting.

Dell Duduit:

I'm not giving it up.

Dell Duduit:

I just had to take a little.

Dell Duduit:

Vacation from my keyboard for a little bit.

Dell Duduit:

And that included social media.

Dell Duduit:

I went dark for several, a couple of weeks, and I'm still not as active as I was, but it's still there, but

Dell Duduit:

refresh.

Dell Duduit:

It's so important.

Dell Duduit:

So many things you just said there in the way, I love to explain it to people.

Dell Duduit:

It's like a juice box.

Dell Duduit:

You remember those cardboard juice boxes that they're still around.

Dell Duduit:

I'm sure.

Dell Duduit:

And yet, if you contemplate everybody that needs something from you is a straw.

Dell Duduit:

What happens to that juice boxes.

Dell Duduit:

It becomes depleted and literally collapses and people are just like that.

Dell Duduit:

So your awareness is that if my juice box is going to collapse, I need to take time to figure out how I put juice back in it.

Dell Duduit:

Right?

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, exactly.

Dell Duduit:

And I'm starting to revisit those emotions where are probably going to get back into it pretty soon and start writing

Dell Duduit:

I just had to, because it was affecting some of my writing.

Dell Duduit:

My, one of the last books I wrote I had a deadline and I wrote it and I thought this, I wasn't real happy with

Dell Duduit:

It was just I was just getting through it.

Dell Duduit:

I would just get in that deadline and just, okay.

Dell Duduit:

So I thought to myself, I, I didn't really.

Dell Duduit:

Give it what I could, because I was for one, I was empty and I was, I've written so many these great, these books, and I'm so

Dell Duduit:

But, after a while they all sounded the same.

Dell Duduit:

And so I just had to reevaluate my time right now.

Dell Duduit:

And I have a couple of projects I'm gonna start working on soon.

Dell Duduit:

Maybe in the next month or so, and some events coming out, almost go back to uh, yeah, it was just stepping back.

Dell Duduit:

And, and

Coach April Ballestero:

Dell, what are the opportunities and I've quoted, or you know, shared your pictures of your books.

Coach April Ballestero:

I adore your writing.

Coach April Ballestero:

I love and even in your conversations about juggling chainsaws and ice picks, that is just how you write.

Coach April Ballestero:

That's how you verbalize these visual opportunities to process what's really happening, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

You take a story in your, in one of the books that I comment on is the dugout devotions and take people's real life stories

Coach April Ballestero:

And that pace that you want to manage you don't get it operated to, to share that kind of message.

Coach April Ballestero:

To share that kind of story and inspiration.

Coach April Ballestero:

It, it, it requires a place of being fulfilled and abundant and knowing how you want to share that.

Coach April Ballestero:

So everyone listening.

Coach April Ballestero:

Has the opportunity to recognize the gift of knowing their pace and knowing how to slow down and knowing how

Coach April Ballestero:

If you're starting to get your to barrel, you're starting to have these things.

Coach April Ballestero:

So as you, you hear that come up and you, like I said, very invested in the author world.

Coach April Ballestero:

How how have you seen that in other authors?

Coach April Ballestero:

How have you seen that conversation come up with the publishers, the timelines, the deadlines, the platform.

Coach April Ballestero:

There's just so many conversations when you become a writer, which, I'm excited to be.

Coach April Ballestero:

No you know, that, that is just you know, I've been writing blogs for years, and I've been writing all kinds of different things, but

Coach April Ballestero:

The.

Coach April Ballestero:

Depth of preparation, the depth of, oh, there's just so many pieces of the puzzle.

Coach April Ballestero:

I hadn't, I didn't know.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so in your, in that arena, you're really well exposed so that, what do you hear the conversations?

Coach April Ballestero:

How do you help them?

Coach April Ballestero:

You know, Just work through that.

Dell Duduit:

Yeah.

Dell Duduit:

And there, there, there comes just a point in time where you just have to tell yourself you know, it's not too much.

Dell Duduit:

It's just, you've got to start saying no to some things and you have to take a breath because you can get it, sucked in to where

Dell Duduit:

try to maintain it andI was talking to you prior to our recording that, I'm seriously thinking about hiring somebody to run my

Dell Duduit:

I like the size of it.

Dell Duduit:

I like my following but it's refreshing.

Dell Duduit:

I went off one of my platforms for about two or three weeks and it was refreshing to wake up to my

Dell Duduit:

And it was just become a, part of it was refreshing to have some peace and quiet and not my phone dinging about every 30 to 40 seconds.

Dell Duduit:

And so I just thought this is just wear me out.

Dell Duduit:

And so, and I hear other, some other friends of mine go through the same thing too.

Dell Duduit:

They just stayed a step back.

Dell Duduit:

A good friend of mine last year.

Dell Duduit:

Just went off the radar for a little while and he said awhile and I'm going to recharge.

Dell Duduit:

And I thought and that kinda, I thought I'd love to do that.

Dell Duduit:

And then about a year later I was doing it.

Dell Duduit:

I just said, I called him.

Dell Duduit:

I said, I'm taking a break.

Dell Duduit:

He goes, "yeah.

Dell Duduit:

yeah.

Dell Duduit:

It's good too.

Dell Duduit:

So cause you can get so rammed up in it and that's all.

Dell Duduit:

And it can to the point where I, it wasn't controlling me, but it was, I was paying a whole lot more attention to it than I should have been.

Coach April Ballestero:

And there's so many pieces of that puzzle because in your, in the author arena, you want to

Coach April Ballestero:

That includes social media, email marketing.

Coach April Ballestero:

Just so many pieces of that puzzle.

Coach April Ballestero:

And yet, being a business coach.

Coach April Ballestero:

I get to help people.

Coach April Ballestero:

Understand that.

Coach April Ballestero:

Being an author, you are running a business.

Coach April Ballestero:

Your book is a business.

Coach April Ballestero:

Your book is an opportunity in the publishing world.

Coach April Ballestero:

Publishers require authors to help process the sell.

Coach April Ballestero:

And and we learn all that through these amazing writing conferences.

Coach April Ballestero:

And yet I love how you said, I heard somebody say it.

Coach April Ballestero:

I heard somebody say, I chose this in a lot of the offers have to be willing to say, am I willing to release some control?

Coach April Ballestero:

Am I really to allow somebody to be my voice for a season to help with social media, to help with marketing?

Coach April Ballestero:

Because that's a big.

Coach April Ballestero:

Commitment when you think you've got to be the only voice?

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, you're right because, and what you touched on was right.

Dell Duduit:

A lot of publishers do expect the author to be a big part of the marketing plan and I enjoy that and I've made some really good friends that way.

Dell Duduit:

And I'm going to continue doing that.

Dell Duduit:

It's just not going to be full force.

Dell Duduit:

Day and night as I've been.

Dell Duduit:

So, Uh, and another good friend of mine, who's a very successful business person, had a post the other day and

Dell Duduit:

And this wasn't to me, it was just out there.

Dell Duduit:

If you're able to hire somebody to run your social media and I went, aha, that's a validation.

Dell Duduit:

So we're I am looking, I am exploring that option to, look at maybe like a college intern who needs some experience

Dell Duduit:

And then.

Dell Duduit:

We'll work with them on that.

Dell Duduit:

So I'm looking forward to that and

Coach April Ballestero:

you can serve supervise the whole process.

Coach April Ballestero:

You can actually require in the systems too.

Coach April Ballestero:

Allow, you have to give permission over what they create.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yes, exactly.

Coach April Ballestero:

There's so many different opportunities for that.

Coach April Ballestero:

That a lot of authors don't recognize there is you can still be involved.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

You can delegate some of the work and that's true for all business owners

Dell Duduit:

and, we'll, we'll line up times and schedule posts and things like that.

Dell Duduit:

So I just, it would be a welcome.

Dell Duduit:

Addition to, what I'm trying to do.

Dell Duduit:

Cause I don't free up some more time for me to maintain, stay fresh and creative because man tell you while social

Dell Duduit:

And it takes so much time.

Dell Duduit:

Yeah.

Dell Duduit:

And it

Coach April Ballestero:

takes energy and pace as you started off the conversation with is that, Only

Coach April Ballestero:

And saying, I get to be a marketer.

Coach April Ballestero:

I get to be a writer.

Coach April Ballestero:

I get to be a creative.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I get to do all of that at different times.

Coach April Ballestero:

And sometimes all business owners, which I love to remind people, attempt to do it all at once.

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, I would, yeah, I would do that a lot.

Dell Duduit:

Speed at times nonstop because I want to get the book sales up and I want to get this up and then meet my deadlines and then work my job.

Dell Duduit:

And so it got where it was just like, very hectic for.

Dell Duduit:

A couple of years actually.

Dell Duduit:

So nonstop.

Dell Duduit:

People told me how I did it well, you I didn't sleep much.

Dell Duduit:

Uh, I started noticing and the ma-made the necessary adjustments because I still want to continue to write.

Dell Duduit:

I have a lot of good ideas and projects down the road.

Dell Duduit:

I'm going to get through this year.

Dell Duduit:

And I have a couple of book releases later this year, one next year already.

Dell Duduit:

Um, I want to start to work on some other projects soon and I think.

Dell Duduit:

Here in a few weeks, I'll be ready.

Dell Duduit:

I'll be ready to get back.

Dell Duduit:

Cause it got to the place where writing was just like, okay, I gotta get this done.

Dell Duduit:

Instead of, I want to, as I got to get this, I gotta meet this deadline.

Dell Duduit:

And so work suffered a little bit.

Dell Duduit:

So you, I want to get back to the poor.

Dell Duduit:

I'm saying, Hey, I can't write, I can't wait to get home to finish this.

Coach April Ballestero:

And the joy of writing, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

Is that.

Coach April Ballestero:

Yeah.

Coach April Ballestero:

And one of the gifts that one of the authors gave at the conferences, you've got a message inside.

Coach April Ballestero:

You get an opportunity to share it, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

If you make that commitment and, and I loved how you said, I want to be at a pace where I'm excited about what I

Coach April Ballestero:

I want to be at a place where I truly enjoy each piece of the puzzle.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I commit to having boundaries around those pieces of the puzzle.

Coach April Ballestero:

That's what I'm hearing you

Dell Duduit:

say.

Dell Duduit:

Yeah, because, I kind of made light of it a few months ago, but there, there is writer's block.

Dell Duduit:

I I've been, I didn't go through it, but there were times where I just sat down and I thought I can't do this right

Dell Duduit:

Um, I do like a deadline cause when I was in newspapers and in sports writing, I had a deadline and I liked that.

Dell Duduit:

The game was over.

Dell Duduit:

I had too have much oriented to hours.

Dell Duduit:

I like that.

Dell Duduit:

But yeah, so there's a little difference on that to where you, that was a thrill, it was fun, but here are the last several months

Dell Duduit:

So that's where I just realized I needed to just step back.

Coach April Ballestero:

i Iove that you're willing to share that and be open about that because all authors go through this, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

All business owners go through this.

Dell Duduit:

Probably I would think so, but yeah, I mean, I I I've put out a lot of, I've put out a lot of material

Dell Duduit:

I had to Google and explore each go pull it in the station for a little bit and get, and get refueled.

Dell Duduit:

Did your battery charge to?

Coach April Ballestero:

Exactly what you said if I heard you right.

Coach April Ballestero:

In the last four years, you've had 14 books published, that you wrote or been closed?

Dell Duduit:

Yeah.

Dell Duduit:

And um, it was, I'm very fortunate and blessed for that.

Dell Duduit:

We've actually got 11 now.

Dell Duduit:

We've got three more coming out this year, so it'd be 14.

Dell Duduit:

And then One next year already, it will be out released next year.

Dell Duduit:

So we've got a busy year ahead of us as fun year.

Dell Duduit:

We just had the one release back in February, we're back in March.

Dell Duduit:

And then we have one in July, one in August, and one in October.

Dell Duduit:

So not too far apart from each other.

Dell Duduit:

So it's going to be a hectic few days, a few months.

Dell Duduit:

I'm glad I'm getting recharged now because it's going to be a whirlwind of the next four or five months

Coach April Ballestero:

And, and so to begin the wrap-up processes, I gave you a heads up because we'd like to be concise and we'd like to

Coach April Ballestero:

The question that I love to leave people with is, elephants are big, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

And so many people attempt to take it all on and take everybody out of it.

Coach April Ballestero:

And I remind people, we just.

Coach April Ballestero:

We get a bite one bite at a time.

Coach April Ballestero:

And so, like you said, that recharge concept, educate the listeners.

Coach April Ballestero:

If you were to say, what was the biggest bite or the best bite that you would really recommend to people that are really resonating

Dell Duduit:

I would say, recognize it, see it, see the need for it.

Dell Duduit:

And stop be so anxious.

Dell Duduit:

Don't be so anxious to please everybody and learn the word.

Dell Duduit:

No, that's a great word.

Dell Duduit:

Learned to tell somebody I don't, I can't do this right now, or I don't want to do this right now

Dell Duduit:

I was telling everybody, yeah, I'll do that.

Dell Duduit:

I'll do that.

Dell Duduit:

I'll do that.

Dell Duduit:

And then You know, I got to, you got to the place where I just, my page was crazy.

Dell Duduit:

It was just off the charts.

Dell Duduit:

And so I would say recognize it.

Dell Duduit:

Because it could really take the fun out of it.

Dell Duduit:

So recognize your pace, set a good pace.

Dell Duduit:

If it's slow, go slow.

Dell Duduit:

If you're used to that way, don't adjust your pace.

Dell Duduit:

Go at your pace.

Dell Duduit:

Don't let others dictate your pace for you and go that way.

Dell Duduit:

Go down that road at your, whether it's full-blown.

Dell Duduit:

If you affect your way, you've worked better.

Dell Duduit:

Do it.

Dell Duduit:

If it's slower, do it go slow, but you dictate your pace.

Dell Duduit:

Don't let anybody else do that for you.

Coach April Ballestero:

You get to lead yourself, you get to choose how you eat and I love the way you said, if your pace operates at

Coach April Ballestero:

And then I go do another sprint that might work for you and you need to do the study, slow turtle, then do the slightly slow turtle, right?

Coach April Ballestero:

Whatever that is for you.

Coach April Ballestero:

I love that.

Coach April Ballestero:

And that's a real bite of the elephant really.

Coach April Ballestero:

It is a gift to have you with us as a gift, to as a publisher and, working to be very influential author.

Coach April Ballestero:

You are, you get to make impact that's what we always work to do.

Coach April Ballestero:

How do they get ahold of you or how do they find all your books?

Coach April Ballestero:

How do they find all the different opportunities?

Coach April Ballestero:

I very much enjoy everything you write and I'm really excited to share it with our audience

Dell Duduit:

They can go to my website, which I'll spell it's D E L D U I t.com.

Dell Duduit:

There I've, kinda been dark for a couple of weeks, but I'm getting ready to light it back up, but it's still there.

Dell Duduit:

I just haven't been paying on it lately so they can go in there.

Dell Duduit:

They can go on Amazon.

Dell Duduit:

They can find my books there.

Dell Duduit:

They can.

Dell Duduit:

Any major bookstore Barnes & Nobles, Books-A-Million wherever books are sold?

Dell Duduit:

Most of my books are there New Hope Publishers, Iron Stream Media.

Dell Duduit:

They can go to Indiana University Press for some of the other books.

Dell Duduit:

So yeah, there's, just put my name in and it'll, there'll be ways to get ahold of me.

Dell Duduit:

It'll pop up and you can follow me on Twitter @DelDuit and so forth like that.

Dell Duduit:

I'm typically available in here the next few weeks.

Dell Duduit:

I probably a little bit more available.

Dell Duduit:

Once I come out of my hibernation,

Coach April Ballestero:

you're getting you're, you're making sure that all the, the parts have been well-fueled and oiled and all the pieces that are,

Dell Duduit:

Okay.

Dell Duduit:

Yes.

Dell Duduit:

It's been a fast and furious four or five years, so it's been just nonstop.

Dell Duduit:

So it's been great to have enjoyed it, but I want to keep producing and if I didn't recharge, I wouldn't be able to produce right now.

Coach April Ballestero:

Well the exciting thing is you're deciding what that pace is for you and how you want to

Dell Duduit:

Exactly.

Dell Duduit:

And I've got a good support team around me as well.

Dell Duduit:

So that's the main thing, have a good support team of three or four or five people that you can reach out to and just

Coach April Ballestero:

I love it.

Coach April Ballestero:

Thank you, sir.