Old souls carry a profound gift: depth, intuition, and awareness that others rarely match. But this gift comes with a sharp edge: the loneliness of never feeling truly met, whether in friendships, family, or love.

In this episode, Lorin offers a way for old souls to stop fighting the cycles of peak awareness and grief, and to undergo a spiritual death and rebirth, so that the very depth that once isolated them becomes magnetic, drawing the right people, circumstances, and love into their lives.

Without this process, we stay trapped in the loop. We keep experiencing transcendent moments only to collapse back into old wounds of isolation.

This is an invitation to let that grief of not-belonging carve out deeper space for your truth.

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Why does the journey for old souls feel so challenging at times?

Why does it have to be so challenging?

After all?

It should be a gift that you have so much maturity, that you can see things that

many don't even register, that you have an incredible depth and sensitivity to you.

Why would that be challenging?

Now, it is a gift, but also it is a challenge.

It is both at the same time, because for many old souls, it feels like you

are the only one experiencing that.

And even though that experience of depth and a very deep intuition and

sensing energy, even though that is a powerful experience, no one can argue

with that, it doesn't mean that you cannot feel lonely in not being able

to share this experience with another.

So old souls don't struggle because of their depth, because there are awareness,

because of their consciousness, because of their souls and spiritual maturity.

They struggle because they don't feel truly met in the world,

whether it's in friendships, whether it's in your romantic life.

And, and, and that's the real struggle.

So you have a gift.

And yet why does it feel that this gift isn't fully met?

Today, I'm gonna go very deep into this, and it has a lot to do with our

wounds because just because a soul is old and mature and conscious, doesn't

mean there aren't spiritual traps or, or wounds that this soul can fall into.

I'm gonna get very practical and also I'm gonna go very deep into

why the journey for old souls can be so incredibly challenging.

What is the deeper purpose of this?

And also how can you make the journey feel less challenging

and expand that gift of yours?

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I am Lorin Krenn, founder of the Core Method.

I help people identify the true root of their challenges

in relationships, purpose, and life, and shift it at the core.

From elite leaders and couples in crisis to women healing their connection to

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depth, truth, and lasting change.

Many old souls have experienced a very complicated childhood, and by

complicated I mean that many old souls simply did not get to be children.

Because most likely, very early on in their life, they became space holders.

They became coaches, therapists, spiritual guides, delight.

Rather than a child who is unconditionally loved and held.

They were doing the holding, they were doing the taking care of others.

And this is somewhat a paradox because yeah, maybe the child, wasn't putting a

roof over the family's head, et cetera.

But even people who are not necessarily conscious or identify as spiritually

awake or whatever that means, right?

I don't wanna put too much language to that, people can instinctively

feel when someone's soul has a lot of light, a lot of maturity.

Because you are not what you do, even though what you do is

important, but you are the, the light of your soul, so to speak.

You are, you are something much deeper, and, and that depth is not

something you convey in words to others.

That depth is not something that you do or say.

That depth is in your energy, it's in your frequency, it's in your

authentic vibration, so to speak.

And, and, and people can sense this.

And then old soul naturally has this heightened awareness and, and an

expansive light and energy to them.

So people sense that and, and naturally at a spiritual level, even though from

the outside it looks very different, the family is taking care of the

child, et cetera, at a spiritual level, it's actually that child is

much more mature, most likely than the parents, than its peers, definitely

than its peers, or any other one or most people in the family, really.

So they do a lot of holding, they do a lot of caring, they do a lot of

things except being a child, really.

That is being stripped away.

They take on too much too early.

They saw dynamics that maybe they weren't meant to see, but they saw

them, and these dynamics created a sense of responsibility and created

a sense of losing innocence as well.

Not that they were no longer innocent, but they saw all the spectrum

and things that were painful.

They felt like the emotional adults in relationships to parents, to caregivers.

They became the ones holding and stabilizing others.

Very early on, specifically, old souls learn to hold space.

And that's beautiful, but if you're holding space for everyone and no

one is holding space for you, that is painful even though you have a gift.

And underneath that gift and that light is often a deep grief, because

there's a grief about, for the childhood that never fully happened.

There's a grief for the innocence that was interrupted.

There was a grief for never having been fully met in that depth, in that truth,

and always being somewhat of an outsider in the family, in peers, in whatever.

And as old souls grow older, of course, that the pattern continues,

they feel older than their peers because at a soul age, at a spiritual

age, they are, and again, some people collapse this idea of old soul, with

souls, with spiritual superiority.

Please know, this is not the space where I'm coming from.

If someone believes they're spiritually superior to other people, uh, they can

start from scratch on the spiritual journey ultimately, because there

is no spirituality around that.

What is that supposed to be?

An old soul doesn't come and say I'm spiritually superior, you're all peasants.

An old soul feels something so profoundly and deeply and wants to share that gift

with the world and feels it doesn't belong fully and doesn't feel fully met,

and it's a very different experience.

Very different.

So as old souls grow up their pattern continues, their depth feels misplaced,

their sensitivity may feel excessive, their intensity and truth might be seen as

extreme, even though it's just conviction, it's knowing, it's, um, devotion to

a deeper purpose, to a deeper path.

It's alignment, but it might be seen and labeled as extreme and judged.

They might even be bullied, and if they're not directly bullied, there can be a sense

of disconnection and they're an outsider.

There's a sense of feeling isolated.

And there is this experience then of there is no place for for my depth here.

Then you also still have a human being who is even though much older at a soul

level, but still a child, a teenager who wants to belong, who feels abandoned, who

feels rejected, who wants to be loved.

And adults, of course, want the same.

But it creates a very paradoxical experience because you have both worlds

and at times there might even be direct invalidation ,where you shared something

with people around you and, and people said, what are you talking about?

Why do you think that is the case?

That doesn't make any sense what you're saying.

Or really directly speaking against them.

And potentially even feeling anger towards what you're saying just because it

doesn't fit into the familiar narrative.

Maybe you're pointing something out that is really uncomfortable for people.

But then rather than of course conscious people owning that, acknowledging

that and working with that, what happens is that they, they, they judge

you and they, they pull you down.

And specifically growing up, you, you might be very mature, but you

don't yet discern at that level.

And the, the need to be belong is greater than the understanding of what it means

to be an old soul and align with your, with your deeper soul's journey, right?

So this can be very challenging.

These invalidating, exper invalidating experiences that are not always

direct, but they feel directly at a sole level where, wow, okay, if

I really let go and allow myself to be fully who I am, I become a

walking trigger for people around me.

I make people feel uncomfortable.

That must mean there is something wrong with me.

There's nothing wrong.

It's just you don't have that shitty filter that a lot of people have

and beyond that, many people are just not aware of those things.

Being the one who is aware is powerful, but it can also feel like a burden.

Because if you overshare or if you speak from this unfiltered, truthful

place to all the people around you, you can then start doubting and

second guessing yourself, ultimately.

When your awareness is not mirrored, you often begin to question it.

And this is quite painful for old souls because you feel it, you know

it, it's there, it's so powerful.

It's you.

It's your essence.

And yet your essence is seemingly being rejected.

But it's not your essence that is being rejected.

It is people feeling uncomfortable feelings and emotions.

And the number thing, one thing the shadow or ego does is it will find anyway to

avoid that uncomfortable feeling, and that is usually by pushing other people away.

Pulling, mocking other people, putting other people down.

It's a survival mechanism ultimately.

And then throughout that experience, many old source eventually realize, fuck I,

I don't belong to any of those places.

And wherever I go, you might even go to spiritual communities and

you feel you still don't belong.

That is also often a very challenging experience for old souls because they

think, wow, finally people who speak my language, and then you realize,

yeah, maybe they use similar words, but we don't speak the same language.

And obviously there might be a spiritual community where you feel deeply met, but

usually the experience for old souls is that in any community where they are,

whether there's a spiritual label attached to it or not, they just don't fit into it.

They don't fit into that framework, they don't fit into the spiritual

hierarchy, come in level beginner, then this, all this bullshit.

I mean, I don't wanna say it's bullshit.

I understand that there's certain elements of being initiated and all of

that, but it's just very often old souls don't, don't work with any of these

frameworks because these frameworks don't meet them where they're at.

They assume they are just at the beginning, but they aren't.

And again, this is not about thinking, one is beyond others, but I just

see a lot of old souls who don't fit into spiritual communities,

which often introduce hierarchy and structures, which to some degree I

understand this is necessary, right?

But at the same time, is still, feels often very superficial and doesn't

fully meet the old soul at its depth.

And then many old also enter an isolation period.

On the journey of attracting their tribe, attracting their

conscious or divine counterpart, whatever language you may use.

And, and that journey is isolating, it's a different sense of isolation

because now you, you have the resources to, to actually be on your own.

You no longer depend on your parents or whatever.

You're an adult now.

You've created your own life, your own path, and now you're

on a journey of, of finding your tribe, of finding your people.

And that journey is a journey where the old soul goes through very deep lessons.

It's lessons that are challenging and painful.

And lessons of discernments, boundaries, rooting in your truth and intuition,

truly following your heart, all the way, self-trust, regulating your emotional

state and, and, and, and working with your energy at a, at the deepest level.

It's, it's, it feels like that the journey home feels endlessly

long or infinitely long.

It can feel heavy and, and even layered with grief.

And it's this paradox on this journey that, as an old soul, you have a

heightened capability or capacity to experience depth, joy, love,

abundance, expansion, but at the same time, you also experience the grief

of of, of not being matched and not being seen fully at the same time.

So.

It creates this paradox where you experience both, and your journey is

somewhat a wild mix between heaviness, confusion, grief, and heightened

states of love, heightened states of awareness, heightened states of

depth and and beautiful intensity.

And usually many old soul find themselves in this loop where they have moments

of deep awareness, beauty, they see beauty that others might not notice,

and then those peaks are often followed by waves of grief, because you keep

touching something transcendent.

You keep touching something so infinitely powerful and sacred, but you

don't fully know what to do with it.

It's, it's, it's elusive.

It comes, but then there's grief, there's heaviness, there is the journey.

It's a wild one.

It's just a wild one.

There's no other way to say it.

And you touch something transcendent, you touch that sacredness of life.

You touch that peak, and then you fall back into the ache of not being fully met.

Here, the nervous system or your system in general does not yet know how to stay

in this heightened awareness without collapsing back into the old wound.

Now, I'm not talking here about staying in some perfect peak state.

Life unfolds in cycles, and we are cyclical beings.

So we will have moments of heightened joy and we will have moments that

are a bit more neutral, where we're not feeling some unbelievable bliss.

When you're cleaning your home, you might not feel most unbelievable bliss,

but you also won't feel hatreds or deep sorrow, you just, it's neutral.

But what I'm saying is you go through cycles of emotional peak experiences

and then through cycles where you are working through grief, annoyance,

frustration, tension, irritation, resistance, you name it, big

things, small things, subtle things.

It is part of the journey.

I'm not talking about entering this enlightened state and

staying forever blessed out, whatever that is supposed to be.

But I'm talking about not going from one extreme to the other, from

heightened awareness to deep grief.

And yes, also struggle with that.

Just because you have that gift doesn't mean you're always

in a full embodiment of that.

That's a journey.

That's a journey to, to, to, to find your roots in that.

So let's get really practical.

What, what can you do at the deepest level?

Number one is to accept this journey as it is, to accept the paradox.

Don't fight with the paradox.

Don't try to change this paradox.

Don't try to stay in this peak state and then judge yourself when you

are experiencing some form of grief.

This is part of the experience, ultimately, it is part of the

depth that, that you are meant to bring into this world.

It is part of your medicine.

And when you accept that, what starts to shift is that you are no longer being so

hard on yourself in those moments where you fall back into an old wound, perhaps,

an old wound of never feeling that you fully belong, that wound of isolation.

Because that wound of isolation remains an illusion.

You are not isolated and you are far from alone.

And your journey shows that with your spiritual awareness, with that

divine guidance, that is ultimately working through you and carving the

path and, and showing and revealing and illuminating the path for you.

And yet we keep falling back into that because it's as deep as it can get.

So what is a very powerful practice is to make space for that grief.

Allow yourself to fully grieve the childhood you might have never

had, and all that comes with it.

Because in that moving through grief, there is so much love and even deeper

layers of depth available to you.

I like to say that grief is the chisel and your soul is the sculpture.

Grief just chisels away to make that sculpture uniquely or to let it shine,

to allow it to be what it truly is.

And.

It seems that grief and even heaviness and the challenging experience of

being highly sensitive and attuned, which is a beautiful thing, but can

also draw you into picking up a lot of energies from other people and

feeling the heaviness of the world.

And yes, there's an element of identifying with that and losing

yourself in that, but just by feeling it.

That can be a heavy, a heavy experience.

And by allowing yourself to, to have that grief, something in you shatters,

something in you undergoes a spiritual death and initiation ultimately.

And that is an incredibly liberating process.

To really allow that grief to take a hold of you and to do what it must.

Grief is a master teacher.

If you push it away, it will come back stronger.

It's not about being stuck in that grief, it's just allowing it to take

the last bits from you where you are still holding onto belonging

or wanting things to be different.

When that grief is metabolized, so to speak, which is a journey, your depth

is the thing that stops isolating you.

It's what makes you magnetic.

Because then your medicine and then your truth and your true power

is able to fully shine through.

And that creates resonance.

It creates resonance with the right souls, the right circumstances, being

in the right places at the right time.

It creates a chain effect, ultimately, a domino effect, where so many pieces

suddenly fall into the right place.

But it isn't suddenly, it's a deep spiritual journey and the building of that

structure or a sprouting of that seed, so to speak, the opening of the flower,

Being an old soul is not a life sentence of loneliness and being

spiritually and emotionally unmatched.

It's really more about a journey of fully surrendering and accepting

your deeper path, grieving for what needs to be grieved.

And every old soul has something that needs space to be moved through,

to be grieved and released fully.

And from there unapologetically to allow your medicine and your depth

that once isolated you to become the very thing it was always meant to be.

The thing that makes you magnetic, that things that creates the right

circumstances, that draws the right people, the highest love and

highest abundance into your life.

There is much more about this topic, of course, and I will

make more episodes about this, but for now I'll leave it here.

It's a true honor to be here with you, to be of service, and thank

you for listening all the way to the end, for giving me your focus, your

presence, your attention, which is the most valuable thing in this world.

It means a lot to me, much more than you might think.

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