How many times do you stop to think about “what am I learning”? We all want things in our life and work so hard to create results and results are gold!  I love results, especially the ones I want and you know what I love even more?  The lessons learned along the way and here’s why.  We can leverage lessons, what is working, what is not working, and that’s where we grow!  I always say lessons are PLATINUM because we can leverage them. Today I will walk you through how to leverage your lessons so that you truly can create more of the results you want in your life. Ready? Let’s GO! 

Highlights from this episode:

(04:13) Different results = lesson learned

(06:09) Overachievers miss important signs

(09:28) What is the difference between a light bulb moment and new results?

(13:23) Stay present, stay patient, and stay persistent

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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it, and go out and make an impact in your life and the

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lives of others. This world needs your leadership, your

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gifts, your unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders

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don't wait. They create. I know firsthand that life is going to

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throw us curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness,

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our ideas and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe

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in yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world. So let's jump in. Hey, there, everyone, this is Coach

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Kelly, welcome to episode 156. Of let's be honest, before we

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start pretending, how are you this mid April, actually

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working? We're kind of moving more towards the end of April.

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How are you doing? How's April going the first month of the

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second quarter of 2023? I always like to say that and remind

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myself exactly where I am.

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All right. So how did you all resonate with transformations

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Made Easy, and the five P's that really helped you have

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transformation become easier to help you stay out of the how not

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that how is not important. It's just not necessarily the place

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that we want to start, right? But like really understanding

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what our purpose is, and what we're up to creating, being able

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to prepare for that, which includes planning, to stay

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persistent to practice, right, all of the things I only named a

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few peas, you gotta go back and listen to the episode to get all

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five peas because they're golden. What did you think about

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that I'm so curious to see where you can utilize that as you are

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creating change in your life. So today, what I wanted to talk

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about is something that I think is super important. And that is

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leveraging the lessons that you learn along the way, through

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transformations through creating the change that you want to

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change. Because I always say this, that our results are gold,

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they are gold, and we love it. We love it. When we create the

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results that we want. We don't always love it when we don't

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create the results we want. We don't we don't love that. But

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man, there's still so much platinum in there. And they're

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called the lessons either way that you go. And I don't know

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that we always stop and take time to really capture. What am

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I learning along the way, as I'm working through these things.

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Because we get so busy doing right we are human beings doing

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things to create things that we want in our life, right, and the

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impact that we want in our life, the impact that we want to

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create in other people's lives, all of that. And so one of the

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things when I'm working with clients, that is really

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important, and we talk about this, whether it's in group

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coaching, whether it's an individual coach coaching, I

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talk about this when I'm working with leaders and doing

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leadership training is what are you learning, because lessons

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are important. We do not pass go we do not move through this life

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without creating lessons almost daily. If you're really paying

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attention, we're creating lessons we are we are learning

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lessons, almost daily, true story. And so you want to be

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able to leverage your lessons. I also look at it this way,

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looking at what is working or not working, and being able to

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leverage that leverage what's working shift what's not

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working. These are really important things to pay

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attention to to keep you conscious to keep you aware, and

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really staying in the driver's seat on all the change and

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transformations that you want to create. And so you all know that

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I have been going through transformation this year, and

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like we've only just begun we're only just getting started. And

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it's so interesting because there have been some things that

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I have learned along the way I truly, truly have learned along

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the way. Now here's a fun fact. And this is a little caveat. You

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know that a lesson has been learned when you begin to create

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different results. Stay with me here, you know a lesson has been

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learned when you begin to create different results. So lot of

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times I'll hear this with people oh, here's this like I've had

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this lesson has been in front of me and I think I've got it. I

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think I've got it and I'm like, How do you know you've got it?

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Well, I had this epiphany, okay, and epiphanies and Epiphany.

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It's like, whoa, like, I just Whoo, I just saw this. That's an

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epiphany. It doesn't necessarily mean the lesson is learned yet,

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you'll know if it's learned when you start creating different

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results, different results in alignment with what you think

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that lesson is. Okay, I'm going to give you an example. I have

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always thought that I was a very patient person. Okay. Most

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people would tell you that is true when it comes to other

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people. Right? Other people, I have a long line of patients a

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long, long line of patients, when it's worn, you know, then

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not so much. But I have a long line of patience and with other

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people. Now, funny thing when it comes to me, suddenly my

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overachiever will kick in. And I have zero patience. For myself.

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No, I have worked on this. I have worked on this. I've had

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many opportunities to confront this in different parts of my

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life along the way. And I thought I had arrived, I

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thought, like I had figured it out. I will tell you what, with

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the knee replacement, recovery, not the surgery, but the

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recovery, I have learned that I am still incredibly impatient,

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incredibly impatient with myself. Now I'm holding that as

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an opportunity to shift that, and to really lean into being

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patient with myself so that my overachiever is not driving the

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bus. Okay, because when she does, we miss some stops along

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the way. Okay, we miss some very important stops along the way,

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we miss some important signs along the way, we miss important

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signs or information, we miss some things because we're like,

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boom, going. So I've noticed that, you know, I, you know,

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when I'm recording this, I am seven weeks, seven weeks post

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op. And I'm like, why is it still not like at 125 degree

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range of motion? Why am I not like, I'm like really focusing

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on these things that I'm not versus Hold, please. Here's

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what's actually happening. You know what, you're walking

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without assistance, and you have been for a little while, what

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you are learning is that you're walking like you used to prior

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to the knee replacement surgery. Hmm, interesting. Now, I could

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go two ways with that, shoot, I'm doing it wrong. Or Wow, I've

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got to retrain myself in how to walk in a way that is going to

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support my balance my posture, the rest of my joints, my body.

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And that's going to move me closer to this transformation

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called Dancing, hiking, active, right? Like all the things that

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I want in my vibrant life. Okay, are you following me? Now, if I

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let that overachiever come in, she's gonna focus on every thing

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I'm doing wrong. And she's gonna be pretty harsh and pretty

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judgmental. Versus when I let the patient side of me come in.

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I'm gonna go, okay, hold on just a second. Here's what you're

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doing well, and here's what you're learning. And here's what

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you get to leverage and course correct. See what I mean?

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Because if I'm like, focusing so much on what I'm doing wrong,

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guess what, I'm focusing on what I'm doing wrong, and I'm gonna

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keep doing it wrong. versus going back to let me lean into

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patient me. Let me lean into her and see what she can tell me.

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Okay. Again, I'm dropping this in. Because we don't walk

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through life like this. We really don't we often walk

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through life very autopilot. And, you know, we've got these

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conversations with the committee's in our head that are

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coming in and yapping at us. Okay. So in order to be able to

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leverage lessons and leverage learning, and again, it's two

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different things. What am I learning along the way? Where

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can I leverage it? And what was a lesson that is completely

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learned? Meaning like, I'm already creating different

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results. Okay. Lessons I'm learning along the way is one,

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I'm learning them. I'm practicing new things. I'm

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studying it, I'm examining it, I'm being conscious with it. And

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then there's lessons learned. It's internalized. I'm creating

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new rules. All new things are happening. You know what that's

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going to require? Patience,

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patience. Let me say it one more time, patience, okay? So

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whatever tendencies you have, whether they're like

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overachieving or perfection or pleasing are, you know, there's

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a million tendencies out there, right? We can combat them by

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leaning into being patient with ourselves and understanding that

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we are on a journey, we are on an adventure, right? And that

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there's a difference between a light bulb moment and new

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results. Okay, there's a distinction between the two, a

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light bulb moment, I have an epiphany, whoa, like, the first

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time I literally I was like, Oh, I'm being really hard on myself,

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shoot, apparently, I have, like, I just got this epiphany, I am

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still not patient with myself. A fun fact, I thought I had really

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been working on that and had arrived, I had not yet that's

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okay. Doesn't mean that by the way, when the lesson gets

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learned that I may not have moments where I am not patient,

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or whatever that is, okay. But in the evolving in the becoming

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of me, if you will, because that's part of my transformation

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this year, this healthy version of me, mind, body, soul, you

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know, mentally, emotionally, physically, I feel really solid

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mentally and emotionally. At times, sometimes, maybe not so

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much. But it's the physical, that's really the transformation

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that actually is contributing to the mental and the emotional

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part too. It just all works together. So what I want to say

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is, whatever you're up to, in creating the transformations

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that you want in your life, which essentially is the change

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that you want to create, you're going to notice that you want to

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leverage lessons that you are currently learning, and that you

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are working on having learned put a period on the end of that,

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right, and that there are two two to two different things.

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Lessons I'm learning, I'm still in the learning. So I'm still in

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the learning of patience. Fun fact, that's going to require

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patience, yay, this is so efficient. It's so efficient,

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learning to be patient with myself so that I create that

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vibrancy that I want in all areas of my life. Okay, this is

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how it works. Are you following me? Are you getting any

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lightbulb moments? Are you getting any like, oh, aha,

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something that might be occurring with you, I'm giving

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you a real life example. That's currently happening with me, and

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an area that I get to work on and the leverage to find out,

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the more that's going to get revealed with this, okay? So

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leveraging our lessons requires us to a number one, be

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conscious, Hey, be conscious be present. Because when you're

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present, you're going to start to see things you like, don't go

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to autopilot, because we're going to miss a beat. Okay? Stay

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conscious, stay present, it is going to require you number two

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to be patient. My lesson right now happens to be in the area of

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patients. So isn't that great? That that's number two. That's

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the second one present. Number one, P number two, P is patient.

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And number three, is staying persistent. Okay, so going back

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to what we talked about last week, and transformations Made

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Easy, the five P's, okay, in really being able to work with

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learning, and continuing to learn, I like to bring in those

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three P's. Stay present, stay patient, and stay persistent.

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Okay? Because what I love about this is like every day is a

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brand new moment of now, every opportunity is a brand new

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moment of now, and I will tell you what, in staying with those

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three P's, right, present, patient and persistent in

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learning what we're supposed to be learning here, right in

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Greeley grabbing the lessons so that we can leverage them in our

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life. And when I when I say leverage, it just means utilize

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them to your benefit. i Who doesn't want to do that.

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Therefore, that kind of helps us well, let's say that actually

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does help us not kind of that helps us stay in the game. Stay

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in the game. It makes it more fun. It helps bring out

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curiosity versus our judge. Right? It's like I'm more it's

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gonna get revealed or I cannot wait to see what happens. It

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gives us a different mindset. It gives us a different attitude,

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as we're moving through whatever is in front of us. So you know

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sometimes when you see those people out there that are very,

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you know, they're out there. They're like moving through

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things and they make it look easy. I am not suggesting that

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it is easy for them. It's that their mindset and their attitude

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and stay In, you know, very present very patient and very

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persistent is assisting them and having it look easy to anybody

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else, anybody out there that might be watching, okay, that's

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their secret to success, that is the secret to success. So that

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is what I've got when we're talking about leveraging

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lessons. And I am going to really dive into this so much

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more in May, and really bring this even more to light for all

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of us. Because anything that's going to help us create the

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success, we decide, I am here for it, and I'm here to help you

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take the lead in your life with it. So remember, you have a

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choice to lead your life or follow your circumstances. Life

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is about KNOWING passions, purpose, values, creating that

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impact in your life and in the lives of others. And really, who

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emerges from that are authentic, vulnerable, courageous and

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willing to stay in the learning of life. Okay, so that they are

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slaying those outcomes and goals that they want. It almost always

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never looks the way we think it's supposed to. And we get to

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trust that more always gets revealed as we move forward. So

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remember, take pauses, let go of worry, let go of doubt, let go

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of fear, and live fully the best version of you. You guys, thank

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you so much for listening today. I know there was great value, I

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cannot wait to dive into this topic even more. It's so juicy,

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juicy. Good. And we're going to do that together. So have a

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great week ahead and you know the drill if it's not shaping up

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the way you want it to take the lead and create a fantastic one.

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I'll talk with you all next week. Take care. Thanks for

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listening to another episode of Let's be honest before we start

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pretending for more resources on taking the lead in your life,

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head over to Kelly J mobic.com. And connect with me on Instagram

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at coach Kelly Mobic. If this episode was helpful for you,

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please feel free to share it with friends rate and review it

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or what you're working on. I'm happy to help. Thanks again for

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listening. And here's to you taking the lead in your life.