This episode introduces the Soothing Survival series about Herbal Support for Fight, Flight, Freeze & Beyond. It dives into the flight response, with more information about helpful herbal support for shifting this state.
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Welcome to the Frontline Herbalism Podcast with your host, Nicole Rose from the
Nicole:Solidarity Apothecary.
Nicole:This is your place for all things plants and
Nicole:liberation.
Nicole:Let's get started.
Nicole:Hello. Welcome back to the Frontline Herbalism podcast.
Nicole:So it is the last week that the Herbalism PTSD and Traumatic Stress course is open.
Nicole:So I'm going to be releasing a kind of short episode every day this week for from something
Nicole:I created earlier in the summer called Soothing Survival.
Nicole:So this was like a kind of email series, like a five part email series that people could
Nicole:sign up for and you still can if you want to get like a kind of written overview of what
Nicole:I'm sharing this week.
Nicole:All about like the different nervous system states in the body.
Nicole:And yeah, it was kind of,
Nicole:you know, introducing that nervous system state and then looking at a kind of one hub
Nicole:for each state basically.
Nicole:And today I'm going to be kind of reading through what I wrote in those emails, but
Nicole:sharing it in a bit of a kind of deeper, richer way and talking a little bit more about
Nicole:the plant that was mentioned.
Nicole:So if you've signed up for Soothing Survival, I think you'll still find this helpful.
Nicole:And I know sometimes like listening to things, it goes in better than reading.
Nicole:And if you haven't signed up for Soothing Survival, you're still like super welcome to
Nicole:join it.
Nicole:And then you'll get a nice kind of like bullet
Nicole:pointed overview of what I'm talking about on this episode.
Nicole:So but before I dive into the first state that I talk about, I just want to kind of give like
Nicole:a gentle introduction and maybe some disclaimers and that, yeah, like, basically
Nicole:our nervous systems are like incredible and they have evolved over thousands of years to
Nicole:kind of keep us alive.
Nicole:And this concept of like survival,
Nicole:like it isn't ******* abstract, right? Like it is a daily reality for so many people
Nicole:to be on the edge of survival.
Nicole:You know, whether that's like the unspeakable
Nicole:horrors being experienced in Sudan or Palestine or like, you know, loads of other
Nicole:countries in terms of, you know, what people are experiencing in prison and other
Nicole:environments and people on the move and you know,
Nicole:like, survival isn't like just like a kind of nervous system state that we have to like
Nicole:unlearn, if that makes sense.
Nicole:Like even people who feel very like resourced
Nicole:in the world and have a lot of,
Nicole:you know, economic privilege, for example, are still often living with a nervous system where
Nicole:they're feeling that kind of capitalist scarcity of like not enough and fear of losing
Nicole:it and,
Nicole:you know, just Kind of, yeah.
Nicole:How do we keep afloat in this world?
Nicole:So yeah, I just want to say that like our nervous system states are like very protective
Nicole:and I don't want to pathologize them.
Nicole:Like the sort of, you know, fight or flight
Nicole:response, for example, isn't a ******* bad thing.
Nicole:Like it's a life saving thing.
Nicole:But I think some of the challenges come in when these nervous system states get sort of
Nicole:stuck.
Nicole:So instead of serving us,
Nicole:you know, they can kind of begin to take away our joy.
Nicole:Like a sense of safety or just like a capacity to feel alive because we're being sort of
Nicole:dominated by that stress response.
Nicole:And yeah, in this series I'm going to be, you know, talking about these different states but
Nicole:like they're not ******* binary and it's not as simple as fight or flight is bad and rest
Nicole:and digest is good, which is, you know, the parasympathetic nervous system.
Nicole:Like we don't want to be in a parasympathetic state like all day, every day.
Nicole:Like we would get nothing done.
Nicole:Like we wouldn't also feel that aliveness that
Nicole:can come with being sort of like activated.
Nicole:And you'll sort of learn like there are nervous system states that aren't that involve
Nicole:the sympathetic nervous system that involve this kind of activation, but aren't
Nicole:necessarily like quote unquote bad.
Nicole:Like you know, like the play state for example, or sexual intimacy often involves
Nicole:like a mix of like activation and kind of you know, like adrenaline and a sympathetic
Nicole:nervous system response as well as like a lot of pleasure hopefully.
Nicole:Okay, so yeah, so I just want to emphasize like they're not a binary and that we also
Nicole:don't like we can experience many sort of states at once.
Nicole:But I think the sort of state that is the one that is enabling of us to live a full amazing
Nicole:life is this sort of safe and social state where we are able to feel like connected to
Nicole:other people and non humans as well and where kind of like care and like intimacy and
Nicole:kinship like feel possible.
Nicole:Because when we are in like an activated state that stuff just goes out the window, right?
Nicole:Like we don't trust humans, we're full of fear.
Nicole:And so yeah, like I think I don't want to feel like quote unquote calm, but I want to feel
Nicole:able to connect with other people and also be like a kind of air quotes, like safe person
Nicole:for other people.
Nicole:Like I want people to interact with me and feel warmth and calm and safety and not be,
Nicole:you know, not feel threatened by me.
Nicole:So yeah,
Nicole:and I Think like in this kind of work, like one of the most helpful phrases that I've ever
Nicole:come across around like polyvagal theory or like nervous system state stuff is like story
Nicole:follows state.
Nicole:So if you were in a fight or flight kind of activated sympathetic nervous system state,
Nicole:the world will feel threatening no matter what's going on for you.
Nicole:Like the world might be genuinely threatening, you know, you might be like fearing that
Nicole:you're apartment building is going to get ******* bombed by *******, you know, Israel.
Nicole:In which case like it makes complete sense to be in that nervous system state.
Nicole:But for someone who isn't in that kind of life or death situation but still feels activated
Nicole:like that, like you will perceive the world as threatening.
Nicole:Like you will see other drivers as taking the **** out of you and threatening you.
Nicole:You will think, oh, that person looked at me wrong.
Nicole:You know, like maybe you'll be kind of getting into conflict because you perceive the world
Nicole:as threaten.
Nicole:Um, whereas when you're in a more like safe and social state, you will perceive it as,
Nicole:yeah, like safer.
Nicole:I remember coming out of a EDMR and trauma
Nicole:releasing exercise session where you like induce shaking in the body which was like
Nicole:extremely life changing for me during like a very intense period of like prison related
Nicole:ptsd.
Nicole:And yeah, I remember needing to go to the shop after this session and just smiling at the
Nicole:person at the checkout and I was like,
Nicole:wow, this is nice.
Nicole:Like this is actually how people feel when
Nicole:they feel in safe and social like that,
Nicole:you know, the world isn't a threat.
Nicole:Like not everyone is out to get you.
Nicole:And yeah, so anyway,
Nicole:I think this story follow state premise is really, really.
Nicole:Yeah, it's really valuable to kind of hold through these, through these episodes.
Nicole:But yeah, it is this intimacy of noticing these states and how to work with them that
Nicole:can change like everything.
Nicole:So for me, for example,
Nicole:when I know that I'm activated, I can for example text with a partner and be like, I
Nicole:don't want to talk about this right now because I feel really activated, like can we
Nicole:come back to it?
Nicole:And I will have that insight now to go and self soothe, you know, to go in the garden to
Nicole:play with my baby or whatever, to then be in a better place to have,
Nicole:you know, a potentially more like difficult emotional conversation.
Nicole:Whereas I feel like when you don't have that intimacy of what's going on for you, you're
Nicole:kind of, you're like a wildfire rather than a blowtorch.
Nicole:And I remember a therapist saying to me like, we have to make you A blowtorch.
Nicole:Like not someone that is like ******* angry at everyone and everything,
Nicole:but someone who can like use that anger and that fire with like, skill and focus.
Nicole:Okay, so yeah, so anyway,
Nicole:just, yeah, before we dive in, I just want to kind of ask some questions of like, which of
Nicole:these states,
Nicole:as you listen to the episodes,
Nicole:feel most familiar to you and yeah, what for you helps you move into this like, safe and
Nicole:social state.
Nicole:So anyway, I'm gonna dive into the first one and just.
Nicole:Shameless plug.
Nicole:The herbalism PTSD and traumatic stress course
Nicole:closes on 13th October 2025.
Nicole:If you're listening to this in the future.
Nicole:So please, please check it out and don't miss it.
Nicole:It's no one turned away flag funds.
Nicole:So yeah, please kind of access that resource
Nicole:if you need it.
Nicole:All right, let's get stuck in.
Nicole:All right, so the first nervous system state that we're diving into is the flight response.
Nicole:And you know, like I emphasized in the introduction, all of these different nervous
Nicole:system states serve different functions and they aren't a binary.
Nicole:They're not like bad.
Nicole:And you know, the flight response is brilliant when you need to escape danger and you need to
Nicole:flee to kind of seek safety.
Nicole:And as I mentioned in the introduction, there are like shitloads of examples of real world
Nicole:trauma where that is really, really, really, really helpful.
Nicole:But when it gets stuck and starts to kind of affect our lives, like when it doesn't need to
Nicole:be kind of activated, if that makes sense, that's when we have challenges.
Nicole:So a kind of stuck flight response can look like anxiety and worry and nervousness,
Nicole:apprehension,
Nicole:feelings of dread, panic is a really big one,
Nicole:you know, like avoidance.
Nicole:So yeah, I'll talk about that more in a minute.
Nicole:Procrastination and just like a big sensation of pressure.
Nicole:And so when we're in this state, the world can feel very overwhelming and unsafe and very
Nicole:stressful.
Nicole:And the kind of embodied habits that we might
Nicole:notice in ourselves in this kind of stuck nervous system state are fidgeting and a kind
Nicole:of constant feeling of restlessness.
Nicole:The kind of impulse to leave situations when they feel too much.
Nicole:Maybe there is behavior around avoiding conflict to protect emotional resources.
Nicole:You just can't cope hopes so you're just gonna turn off that difficult thing, if that makes
Nicole:sense.
Nicole:Bursting into tears is a very common kind of flight response in my experience.
Nicole:Especially when things feel really overwhelming and when that kind of like,
Nicole:yeah, sense of overwhelm has kind of hit its limit, we might see kind of like catastrophic
Nicole:or like worst case scenario thinking and yeah, like, in any kind of fight flight state,
Nicole:we might sort of read or like, perceive neutral expressions in someone el else as
Nicole:threatening.
Nicole:So, yeah, you know, if this sounds familiar, like, you're really not alone.
Nicole:Like, I think the flight response is.
Nicole:Is probably like the most common response.
Nicole:And I think there's a real gender dynamic to it as well, of people kind of socialized as
Nicole:female are often more in this response.
Nicole:And, you know, it is, like I said, it's a way of keeping yourself safe, but when it lingers,
Nicole:it can be really, really exhausting.
Nicole:So just to build on that a little bit, like, I think,
Nicole:yeah, like, anxiety is such an interesting thing that lots of people have come to me in
Nicole:the past seeking herbal support around because,
Nicole:you know, it's something that really affects your life.
Nicole:Like, it really limits what you want to do in the world.
Nicole:It can limit your access to, like, social support.
Nicole:You know, like, when we're in these states, we're not in this, like,
Nicole:safe and social state where we feel able to socialize, to connect, to trust other people,
Nicole:to feel joy.
Nicole:And I think anxiety is an interesting mix because, you know, for example, having
Nicole:financial anxiety might mean that,
Nicole:you know, you take some action, you know, you apply for a credit card, you try and get a new
Nicole:job, you know, you do something or whatever to get money, and that is going to keep you safe
Nicole:in the sense of getting money for food or heating or whatever.
Nicole:And so there is like, a function to anxiety, if that makes sense.
Nicole:But say, for example, you actually do have your basic needs met.
Nicole:It might become, like, unnecessary to be, like, put like, you know, kind of aggressively
Nicole:ruminating about something, for example,
Nicole:you know, like.
Nicole:And I think social anxiety is very interesting
Nicole:as well in terms of that, like, background activation and like, background buildup.
Nicole:I think the flight response can unfortunately lead to other responses like, freeze, which
Nicole:I'll talk about in another episode.
Nicole:But yeah, basically we are trying to protect, like, a very overwhelmed system,
Nicole:and the flight is like our first approach to safety.
Nicole:It's like fleeing in danger, you know, like, it's the guy in the screen mask coming at you
Nicole:and you running away.
Nicole:You know, that makes much more sense than trying to, like, fight off this.
Nicole:This guy.
Nicole:Sorry, that's a really weird example.
Nicole:I think it's because Halloween is coming up
Nicole:anyway.
Nicole:Okay, so, yeah, how the do we shift out of the
Nicole:flight response?
Nicole:So, you know, that is like a whole other field of,
Nicole:you know, work and study and learning about the body and all the things and different
Nicole:things will work for everyone.
Nicole:But you know, it might look like breathing
Nicole:exercises, you know, with longer kind of exile exhales.
Nicole:It might look like shaking,
Nicole:like trauma releasing exercises are incredible at inducing this kind of natural shaking in
Nicole:the body.
Nicole:It might look like walking or running or you know, or like moving in any way your body
Nicole:allows.
Nicole:I'm aware that not everyone can walk or run.
Nicole:I remember this is, I'm just ad libbing here but like way back in the day there was this
Nicole:kind of constellation called Reclaim the Fields and maybe it's still going on but at
Nicole:least in the so called uk like there was like quite a,
Nicole:you know, a big crew and like different things happening under this banner.
Nicole:It was like a constellation of kind of like anti capitalist food growers and people that
Nicole:cared about access to land and things.
Nicole:And like there was this amazing squatted farm in the Forest of Dean that was like under
Nicole:threat of eviction and everyone was on such high alert for like weeks slash months and
Nicole:there was a lot of stress and then there was like a big eviction attempt and, and I
Nicole:remember a friend,
Nicole:I won't say his name because he might want to be anonymous.
Nicole:I don't have his consent to plug him but they ended up once this kind of threat subsided,
Nicole:having this like big game of like capture the flag where they could just like all run around
Nicole:and like it just relieved like so much kind of tension and I think,
Nicole:you know, like if I've had a stressful morning, like if I get the chance to walk the
Nicole:dog on my own, for example, like it is very therapeutic.
Nicole:Like I will try and like, I mean I'm not a ******* runner, like I hate running but I will
Nicole:try and like do some sprinting to just like get out that,
Nicole:that kind of like activation in my body.
Nicole:So yeah, so movement, you know, and that's like very natural for people in this state.
Nicole:Like that's what they want to do, like they want to escape, if that makes sense.
Nicole:Grounding practices can also be useful.
Nicole:Connecting with the land, you know, kind of
Nicole:spending time with someone else who feels safe.
Nicole:Like we never talk about the importance of like the collectiveness around accessing
Nicole:states of safety.
Nicole:Like if you're in fight or flight, like many people just need to voice, note a friend or
Nicole:have a friend come over and that will help them like shift or you know, even like
Nicole:listening to music for example.
Nicole:So yeah, so that's a little introduction to the flight state.
Nicole:And the herb that I've included in the Soothing Survival series,
Nicole:which is like a herb for each state is actually Motherworthy.
Nicole:So motherwort is like part of the mint family.
Nicole:It's like one of my real kind of go to's for this state.
Nicole:Like I include it a lot in my.
Nicole:Well I include it in my panic attack guide which is like a free guide on my website for
Nicole:herbal support for panic attacks.
Nicole:But it has a very instantaneous kind of strong
Nicole:relaxing action.
Nicole:You know, like it's not, I mean it is a fantastic herb for longer term use sort of.
Nicole:But it's not like our kind of hawthorns that are,
Nicole:you know, working slowly over time.
Nicole:It's like really this instantaneous kind of
Nicole:like relaxant action.
Nicole:And it's really fantastic for calming kind of heart, heart palpitations.
Nicole:And I find when people are experiencing the flight response, like it's often very chest
Nicole:based, like very.
Nicole:Yeah, anxiety in the chest, like worry overwhelm, like you know, fast heartbeat, like
Nicole:that kind of anxiety.
Nicole:And I think motherwort is like really strongly
Nicole:indicated for,
Nicole:for that kind of state.
Nicole:Yeah. So say for example in a panic attack blend, I'll often take just like 15 drops of
Nicole:tincture or the glycerite like in that kind of acute moment of distress.
Nicole:And just a safety note like motherwort isn't,
Nicole:you know, isn't.
Nicole:It isn't safe in pregnancy because of its like
Nicole:a menagogue action which means it kind of helps stimulate menstruation.
Nicole:And it's also very kind of like cooling herb.
Nicole:And I think anything where there's like fight, flight, sympathetic activation, it's often
Nicole:accompanied by kind of heat, heat.
Nicole:But yeah, mother war is quite kind of like
Nicole:cooling and you know, and it's a little bit drying.
Nicole:So it's not like ideal for everyone.
Nicole:If this like weird energetic stuff is like random and doesn't make sense that it's
Nicole:something that I talk about in the herbalism PTSD and traumatic stress course.
Nicole:Like what do these terms mean for example?
Nicole:Yeah, the other thing with mother war is that,
Nicole:yeah, it's just really brilliant around people that have this kind of increased flight
Nicole:response when they're like pre menstrual for example.
Nicole:It's got a real affinity for people with a uterus who are experiencing premenstrual
Nicole:tension where there's a lot of agitation and frustration and anger.
Nicole:It's a real amazing antispasmodic imperial pains.
Nicole:It's fantastic for people experiencing hot flushes.
Nicole:It's also useful for people experiencing hyperthyroidism, like a overactive thyroid.
Nicole:And that's quite interesting because I feel like that as a Health challenge often
Nicole:correlates to a very activated flight response because of these manifestations of, like,
Nicole:faster heart rate, anxiety,
Nicole:like nervousness.
Nicole:So, yeah, so I think that's kind of interesting,
Nicole:interesting thing.
Nicole:It's also motherwort is an amazing kind of
Nicole:like, gentle bitter to help the digestive system.
Nicole:So bitters kind of communicate with our body to trigger sort of digestive enzymes that can
Nicole:help us digest our food properly.
Nicole:Motherwort's also really interesting because it's been shown to be like, quite a good,
Nicole:like, antiviral and I think very underestimated in that, in that context.
Nicole:And I do again, another random side note, but I recently was unwell and my.
Nicole:I was kind of experiencing like,
Nicole:much more anxiety than normal.
Nicole:Like, I think I'm a little bit prone to
Nicole:anxiety, but then when I meet people who are really suffering with anxiety, it makes me
Nicole:think like, like, I don't have anxiety at all.
Nicole:Like, I think I'd probably just like,
Nicole:on a baseline worrying about things that are, like, practical and necessary and I'm not
Nicole:having my life limited by,
Nicole:you know, like, a lot of, like, intrusive thoughts and worry and panic and certain
Nicole:situations definitely don't trigger that in me,
Nicole:you know, Like, I think a lot of my panic attacks and stuff are very, very prison
Nicole:focused.
Nicole:But yeah, anyway, so mother war is also got
Nicole:this kind of sneaky antiviral property.
Nicole:And I think when people are dealing with a virus in their body, there are obviously in
Nicole:kind of like sympathetic mode as well, like as you're resisting this infection.
Nicole:And I think viruses have this tendency to also cause like, intense anxiety and more of a,
Nicole:like, flight response in people.
Nicole:But that's just like my work in theory.
Nicole:And I'd love to hear other herbalists and
Nicole:people's experiences anyway, but that is the herb that I recommended for this nervous
Nicole:system state.
Nicole:If you're interested in all of this malarkey, the Herbalism PTSD and Traumatic Stress course
Nicole:is open for enrollment until Monday, the 13th of October.
Nicole:And you can also access everything I've been banging on about in this soothing survival
Nicole:email series.
Nicole:So, yeah, please check that out with the links
Nicole:in the show notes.
Nicole:And thanks for listening.
Nicole:Thanks so much for listening to the Frontline Herbalism podcast.
Nicole:You can find the transcript, the links, all the resources from the
Nicole:show@solidarityapothecary com.org podcast.