Your words are not just words; they are the blueprint from which your life is being built.

Kimberly Rash opens up about the painful mantras she carried from childhood, including the belief that she had to leave before she was left, and how years of negative self-talk kept her stuck and unable to love herself. Drawing on personal stories, the science of vibration, and Dr. Masaru Emoto's famous rice experiment, she shows how the thoughts we repeat daily shape our neural pathways, our beliefs, and the entire direction of our lives. The shift begins the moment we start choosing words that reflect who we are becoming rather than who we have been told we are.

You do not have to change everything overnight. Start small, catch yourself, and choose one thought that speaks life over who you are becoming.

Kimberly Rash: Hello, this is Kimberly Rash. Welcome to Rooted Rise. I just wanted to talk to you guys today, about speaking life over your life. the positive thoughts, the positive words spoken over your life and what that looks like, because I bet you if I asked you and I could hear yourself. Talk to yourself.

I feel like the way I would hear it, it would sound like someone who doesn't always believe in you. Yeah. Or maybe it would sound like someone who's constantly doubting, second guessing, tearing yourself down, or complaining about everything and everyone, because the truth is the way we speak to ourselves.

That matters more than you think. Those quiet thoughts, those things that you say in your head, they shape how you feel and how you show up and what you believe is possible over your life for your life. And a lot of time we don't even realize we're doing it. We just repeat the same thoughts, the same doubts, the same stories over and over and over again.

And today I wanna shift that with you, uh, not in like a fake, just say something positive kind of way, but. In a way that you understand that the words you speak over your life are shaping it more than you realize. Not just the things you say out loud, but the things you repeat in your mind every single day.

And if we're being honest, some of those words are not helping you move forward. They're keeping you stuck. So today I wanna talk to you about, different ways that we can go about shifting that and what that looks like, because have you ever just listened to someone like. Always speak negative over themselves.

Always speak negative over their lives, the negative self-talk. I'm guilty. I've had to do it too. I'd be like, oh, I'm fat. Oh, I'm ugly. Oh, I hate my teeth. Oh, I hate my smile. Uh, oh God. That was stupid. Kim. You're stupid, dumb, stupid. you're poor. I'm poor, I'm poor, I'm poor. You know, I'll, I'll never have, I always speak from a sense of, of lack, you know, or at least I used to, comparison and comparing myself to others and just never saying anything great about myself.

I'd look in the mirror and be like, Ugh, God, it's you again. Instead, you know, every morning now I just say, good morning. You are beautiful and I love you. Even if there's days when it's hard to say that I do it because it's not fair for me to not love me, and if I don't love me, how do I expect other people to love me?

That's for all of us. And some of it is like the talk that we have spoken over ourselves all our lives, right? So we're gonna go back and we're gonna talk about like some of like childhood things that like have stuck with us, that have become mantras in our lives, right? That, that became beliefs in our lives.

And for me, I can tell you, I. I had one, like really messed up one, and, and from a personal note. So my father left when I was four and my parents were divorced by the time I was six. or they divorced when I was four. He left, uh, he was around for I think like two years. but he was gone by the time I was six.

He moved to California and my dad loved me in the best way. My father knew how to love us. But he was in California. And of course, way back then, there's no, like, we're not Skyping, we're not like talking to each other on Zoom. My, I would get a phone call and, and try to remember what my father looked like.

and I remember innately by the time I was, I don't know, I, maybe it came more. My father also died when I was 12. Out in California and there's a whole thing, a whole many episodes I can go to about all of that stuff and feelings and growth and healing and all that stuff. abandonment and all the things.

But what I can tell you is I had words that I spoke over myself. I had a mantra of leave before your left. Yeah, I know that sounds like really screwed up that a 12-year-old would actually even understand that but that was the thing, and I just ran through people, ran through them, and I would get close to whether it was friends, like girls that were friends and or.

boys and I would like boys, and as soon as they would start to like me and really get to know me, I'd dump them. because I was afraid that if I actually had emotions or I've actually tied myself to these people, that, that they would leave and then I would hurt the way that I hurt when my dad left.

That's like in growth retrospectively, by the way. Like I didn't figure this all out when I was 12 years old. this is growth. But speaking that, I literally would speak that Lee, before you left, Lee, before you left, those words shaped how I could not have normal relationships for a really long time.

the power of life and death is in our tongue. It says it in the Bible. It says it in many other facets throughout time in history of how powerful our words are. What that looks like. that they can be used for wisdom or for war. You know that it can be sharper than a two-edged sword, that we can cut and slice people down with our words, And that is true because there were times in my life when I was in a domestic violence situation, and I remember telling people I would rather a punch in the face or a slap or whatever, than one more person telling me that I wasn't worth something I was used goods and because I had four kids, nobody was ever gonna want me and I was not good enough.

And then you get those, again, those thoughts in your head, and then you just sit there and be like, I'm never good enough. I'm not pretty enough, I'm not smart enough. I'm not, these things, the power of your words people. It is powerful. Your thought process is powerful, but you know what? We can take it back.

We don't have to to believe those words, and we can turn those negative words into self-love and healing, and then we can use those moments when we were down like that and we spoke over ourselves like that, and we can pour into others and say, don't you ever speak about yourself like that. Don't you ever let somebody tell you that you are this, this, or that.

I don't care who they are. Say, no, thank you, sweetheart, and walk away. And if they're not good and they're not pouring into you, if they always tell you you're a bitch, or you're a this or you're a that, stop talking to them. Stop talking to them because their opinion is making you not love yourself, and that is unacceptable.

It just is. So we just have to sit there and take back and take moments where we can sit there and say, I love me. I am beautiful. I'm strong, I'm smart, I'm intelligent, I'm well-spoken, I'm loved, I'm cared for, and speak it over yourself. I am prosperous. I am abundant. I have joy. no one can take that away from you because every time you speak it, you are building a belief system.

The neural pathways in your brain are all starting to connect, and they're all starting to believe what you're saying because they don't, the vibration and the, and the positivity and what you were saying, it is making new connections and the vibration of that is higher and it's lovelier and it's lighter, and people will notice it, and you're brighter.

You won't even be able to help it. You are just a brighter being when you speak life over your life and it's okay.

When I think about,

words, they create the direction of your life. Your brain listens to what you repeat. Your body responds to what you believe. You'll move in the direction of the words you keep speaking. That is a hundred percent. There's, there's no lie there. That is, that is what it is. I would like you to take a moment and if you get some time, there's some shorts, reels on different things like TikTok and YouTube.

and then if you're really interested in the power of words. In a scientific manner. So that way it's not just, you know, I worry when I speak sometimes because I know that there is, religious people, people of the church, whatever that would be listening to me. And I don't want them to think that because I believe in science.

that I disregard my church upbringing 'cause I'm in a, in a weird place where I'm floating in between. I don't participate in an organized religion anymore, but I loved some of the churches that I went to and I loved the people there. And I just don't want them like thinking that this can't help them too.

Because it can, because it's science and you just have to open your mind up to know that God made us these very powerful beings. If we only use 10% of our brain, what do you think the other 90% is doing, and why are you not trying to tap into that? Because he didn't give it to us to not be used. But none of us get quiet enough.

None of us search enough. none of us talk to him enough to find out how we do that. And I'm not gonna say that I'm gonna be the one to teach you how to do that, but I definitely can share my experiences from what I've done to be able to understand how to connect my mind, my brain, my body, and my spirit better.

So go on to YouTube. I'm sorry, small little rabbit hole there. Go on to YouTube. And Dr. Massaru Emoto, in Japan did these amazing experience, and I think one of the more popular ones is the rice experiment where he filled up rice and water into these containers, and he spoke. Horrible words to one, just like more disgusting language, way lower vibration to one something a little neutral in the middle, and then really positive things to the other one.

And you could see the changes and how the rice actually grew mold and the one that was spoken, where the negative things were spoken over. Its poor little existence. The neutral one kind of just meh, stayed the same and the rice one just flourished. Same thing with water. And then when you examined those water particles underneath a microscope and what that looked like after speaking life, and speaking negatively over them.

And I do think, I think it's in Freakonomics. I don't know. There, there's a book out there and, uh, my boss and I had talked about it once, where this father had named one of his children, like Loser and Winner, something like that. And Actually, now that I think about it, I don't know if loser ended up being better because loser worked harder to get what he wanted.

I don't know. Strike that. Reverse it. Ignore that one. 'cause I'm not a hundred percent sure. It just popped in my brain and I said it. Now I'm gonna go look at it when I'm done talking to you. But that being said, there's science to back up. Life affirming, speak over your life just.

Love yourself. Speak life over your children. Speak life over your mate. Speak life over everything. Your home, your dog, everyone you meet, you speak life over them. I used to work with somebody who was negative all the time. I used to tell her, she's my little eor and I know she's listening. So I love you, and yes, I'm using you as an example because you are one of the biggest examples for me for growth that I got to see just by me being me and you being you.

Every day. You know, some days she would just just be so like me, you know, and everything was horrible. Home was was not great. Or like that day she got in a fight with maybe her spouse or her kids were driving her nuts and money was tight and things and blah and blah, and sadness. Then come to work and the patients are crazy that day.

Like they're just complaining a lot. The one person in the office that she didn't really get along with very well was just really irking her chain. Like there was just so many things, and slowly but surely I would talk to her about speaking life over herself and I'd be like, no, no, no, no. We're not saying that today.

We're gonna say this instead. And for some crazy reason, she actually listened to me when I see her now. She does not work with me anymore. But when I see her now, people say she's different. She's joyous, she is happy, and she is lovely. And you know, part of that was needing to change environments and she was scared to do that, but she believed in herself enough to do it and it was good for her.

But when I speak to her now and she comes and visits me and my grandson on Fridays. She's got great, happy stories and she talks about even if something's like not a hundred percent in her life and not going exactly the way she wants, she says the thing, but then she pivots and she'll say. She'd be like, but you know what?

I'm grateful because of this, this, and this, and you know what, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna say like, I can't wait. Like she's gonna, she, gonna repaint my bathroom, her landlord, or these kind of things. And she's learned to pivot her thinking. And I'm not saying we all do it all the time, but it is one small step at a time.

That is what we do. That is what we're for. So I am just so grateful. As always that you guys join me today, and you don't have to change everything you say to yourself overnight. Literally just catch yourself in the small moments, but you can start becoming aware and choosing something different because the words you speak over your life are the direction your life will follow.

speak with intention, speak with awareness, and speak in a way that supports the version of you you're becoming. Because why? 'cause you are not stuck. You are becoming. And I'll see you in the next episode.