Join me as we explore the art of embracing change and making things work. Together, we'll discover the power of new perspectives, the thrill of acquiring new skills, and the exhilaration of seeking out exciting opportunities. By breaking free from our self-imposed limitations, we'll unleash our true potential and soar to new heights.
We'll also explore the secrets of inviting change into our friendships. Imagine cultivating relationships that inspire personal growth and uplift your spirit. Get ready to harness the power of open communication, embrace fresh ideas, and transform your social circles into catalysts for positive change.
I'll be sharing inspiring real-life stories of individuals who dared to trust in the power of change. Prepare to be motivated and uplifted as we uncover their remarkable journeys of personal and professional growth. Get ready to believe in the possibilities that lie ahead and ignite your own transformation.
What you'll hear in this episode:
[1:25] How often do we push onto ourselves our friendships and careers that we don’t allow growth?
[3:15] How can you allow yourself to change and evolve to make things work?
[5:35] How can you invite change in your friendships?
[7:10] What are some examples of people who have trusted change?
[9:05] Where are you shutting down opportunity? Where are you allowing yourself to not pursue what could be better?
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Kelsey Smith 0:00
If we allow ourselves to look at change in evolution as a positive, and we allow ourselves to say, Okay, this is inevitably going to happen, I'm going to change and evolve that person that job, that role, it is going to change and evolve. So who do I need to become to fit within that? Do I want to, and welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys. Why an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how
Kelsey Smith 1:13
to friend the other day, and another friend of mine ran into us and the friend that I was with after she left, she's like, Wow, your guys's relationship has really evolved. It's really something beautiful now, because this friend specifically and I have grown together. And one has been my friend for so many years since I was a young child. And the other one is a newer friend. And our relationship has had moments that we didn't really get along, there just wasn't like a lot of depth to our relationship. We didn't see how we connected what we had in common. And now she's one of my best friends. And it is something that I talk a lot about with her and other friends how I'm so grateful that our friendship has evolved in change, because I would have missed out on what our friendship is. Now, if we didn't allow that to happen. And it had me thinking about just how often do we push onto ourselves, our friendships, our careers, that we don't allow growth that we don't allow change. And maybe if something hasn't worked previously, to the best of our ability, we just kind of counted off and don't go back to it. And in this situation, it made me really think about that. Because if I had just been like, oh, that person is not for me, that person is not meant to be one of my best friends, I would now not have one of my best friends because of that. And I think that we so often expect ourselves to click with an idea, a person or a job instantly. And then if it's not for us, we just decide to count it all off. When we are always changing. We are always evolving. And in this friendship, at example, when we first met each other, I was a different person, I've become a better friend, I've become a better person in so how she and now we have this beautiful friendship that we've both shown up to we've both worked on. And we've both allowed it to become what it is. Now I see this so applicable into everything, though. Let's say it's a job. Let's say it's a business. Maybe you try something out and you're like, that's it this isn't working, it's not for me, Well, did you just need to change a part of it? Did you need to pivot or shift a part of the role, part of the offering a part of the business the way that you're executing it in maybe you needed to change part of you, I think, you know, you are beautiful and wonderful, just as you are, you're inherently worthy. But we are meant to grow and evolve. And if you've been listening for a while, you know that we talked about this here that the there's beauty and power and evolution and change and growth, because you are meant to step into all of those different things. So how can you allow yourself to become the person that you need to become to be that friend or to be that person in that job? Or to be the person that has that business? What do you need to change? Now if you get started on that process, and you're just like, This is not bringing me joy, this is not bringing you happiness, there's a big disconnect here, then you want to get really curious and figure out where's the disconnect? What is it? What do you need to change? Because you won't know? Is it the job? Is it the type of job? Is it showing up to work working in person verse remotely? Is it that specific person or is it just where you're at in your friendship? How can you allow yourself to change and evolve to make things work? Well, I see this happen all the time in marriages and relationships that we change. And you know the common saying of that person is not the person I married will probably not we do change we do evolve. But how can you change yourself to work within the This relationship positively, that doesn't mean conforming to something that you're not supposed to be. But that means allowing yourself to find the skills and the resources in the growth as an individual as well as a partner in your role. And there are so many good resources to help you work through this. I'm not an expert. But I know that this shows up in all of these different places, that if we allow ourselves to look at change in evolution as a positive, and we allow ourselves to say, Okay, this is inevitably going to happen, I'm going to change and evolve that person that job, that role it is going to change and evolve. So who do I need to become to fit within that? Do I want to? And how can I invite change as well, because let's say you get into a job, and you want to work yourself up to another role? Well, if you don't invite change in that role, you're gonna find yourself unhappy. But you could maybe stay in that role and invite a lot of change, you can allow for opportunity. Let's say you find yourself in a friendship, like we said, and you are like, You know what, this maybe isn't working for me right now, how can you work on it? How can you change if you want to? Because what if that is a really good friendship? What if it's going to work out for you. Now, if you do some work, and you work through things for a period of time, and you set some boundaries around it, right, so you're not pouring everything at this person, when you're like, gosh, I'm not getting anything in return. But you're setting some boundaries and some opportunity for that friendship to bloom for that job to bloom for those different opportunities to grow. Because if you just push that flower down, it's not gonna grow, right. So when I was thinking about this, I was thinking about how there's definitely some famous people out there that have made some really cool pivots in life and to mamas specifically, that I wanted to point out today, just for you to see like, how real this is that so often we find ourselves in something and we're like, well, that's not for me. Well, it's not for you yet, but if you want it to be for you, then it could be so you got my example of a friendship, right? And I'm gonna give you two career examples. And you know, I could be that example to what I do now, hope for Mama has goals is very different than my background in the wine industry. But there is comparison. There is overlap. There are things that I've learned, and I've allowed myself to grow into a new business and a new, completely different industry, a completely different role. And two of these names that I think you'll probably know both Mama's Martha Stewart so Martha Stewart initially worked on Wall Street as a stockbroker. However, she transitioned into the realm of homemaking, cooking and lifestyle and becoming a renowned businesswoman, television personality and best selling author. Her pivot allowed her to build this media empire focused on the household and cooking and she's really known as a really strong businesswoman. She even has some really great collaborations with like Snoop Dogg and some other really good business people. Very Wayne is the other mama example I want to give you very Wayne started her professional journey as a figure skater, and she later became an acclaimed fashion editor at Vogue. And at the age of 40, she decided to pursue her true passion and launched her own bridal wear brand. Today, ver Wayne is internationally recognized as a leading bridal fashion designer. If you haven't heard those names, then that's okay. But those are some big names of people that trusted change that trusted evolution to go from being a Wall Street stockbroker, to stepping into homemaking and cooking and lifestyle. That is it to some a giant pivot, it wouldn't make any sense. I'm sure Martha Stewart had people questioning her decisions. And I'm sure she's gotten feedback on all sorts of different fronts through her career. And Vera Wayne, same, you know, she had this amazing fashion editor job at Vogue. She had a background as a figure skater into then she says, You know what, I want to start making wedding dresses. There are so many people that I'm sure gave her feedback that she had to push through. And there are probably moments for each of them, where they're like, maybe this isn't for me, maybe it's not for me. And maybe it wasn't, maybe they had to shift something, maybe they had become the person to be able to do that. But if you don't invite the opportunity, and you just squish the opportunity, you're not going to have that friendship, you're not going to have that opportunity, you're not going to be able to step into what's there for you. So this week, I want you to look at your life and see where are you shutting down opportunity? Where are you allowing yourself to just not pursue what could be better? Where could you invite someone else into your life? Where could you nurture a friendship that maybe hasn't been showing up the best way that you wanted it to lately, but you believe that there's maybe opportunity there. Allow yourself to be curious, allow yourself to question where you can find opportunity because As I promise you, I promise you, there's opportunity for any of these aspects of your life. Sending you so much love mama. Keep going after those goals. There's so much more where this came from. 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