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Free yourself from the ongoing destructive inner chatter.

Discover who you are without all this clutter in your mind.

Quit “shoulding” - on yourself

I noticed that who ever I work with, no matter where people come from we will talk about productivity at some point. Being productive is just as important for a dad/mum as well as for a young start up entrepreneur or senior CEO trying to fit into the new world.

What I have learnt along my journey is that with productivity and high pressure people tend to think and act as If self- abuse or self-punishment in the form of thinking like:

I should accomplish this

I should be better at this

I should make more time for this

I should get this done by then and then

Is an absolute MUST to achieve goals?

Here is my question though ? How much pressure and running around is sustainable ?

Can a more gentle approach combined with resting and relaxing times be more desirable and be more productive at the same time?

Think about this: 

How much does your body care if you are successful or not?

How much does a child-relative care about how successful you are?

And last but not least :

How much do you care about being healthy and good to be around when achieving/ getting to your goals?

Sleepless 10-14h nights at the office are NOT COOL anymore.

Studies and research is coming out about important sleep really is and how radical you should take care of your mental health if you struggle with insomnia.

Let’s dive in and find out more about this juicy topic that will most likely affect you in one way or another. 

In this episode and many other episodes I touch on topics that I usually work on with my clients. Here in my podcast it will be targeted to a broad spectrum of people. If you'd like to go more into depth with a topic I address, reach out to me.

Also please check out the: https://www.sleepadvocate.com/blog/

SleepAdvocate promotes your intrinsic right to sleep well, be rested, and enjoy life’s awakenings: provides evidence-based, practical, professional, medical guidance for persons and for organizations.

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. And with my podcast here,

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I'm hoping to bring your piece and insights about yourself that

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you haven't known about yourself yet. Today, I want to talk about

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productivity, how to be super productive, less burned out,

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more kind to yourself and others. In my coaching, I offer

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one on one sessions, to people that are entrepreneurs, young

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mothers, young dads, young individuals who want to tap into

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their true potential. And oftentimes we talk about

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productivity because we want to accomplish more, but feel less

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stressed, less scattered, more focused. So that's what I

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noticed in my coaching is that everybody benefits from talking

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and learning about productivity, no matter where you come from,

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no matter what you're struggling with, or no matter what your

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superpower is, productivity is key. This is why we're also

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going to talk about quit shooting on your self shooting

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like in should. What I noticed, not only in men, but also in

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women is that we put extra pressure onto ourselves. And we

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don't do that because we want to harm ourselves, we want to do

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that, because we feel that is going to make us more

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productive. So we add that little bit of extra pressure, a

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little bit of extra guilt. And then we think we can fully

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function and be productive and accomplish things and be the

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awesome vibrant person that we want to be in our community. But

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what does that do to your self esteem to your over all, mental

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and physical and emotional? Let's call it environment, it

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creates tension. And tension to some degree is awesome. Tension

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is what pushes us forward is what brings us closer to a goal

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gets us out of bed in the morning. But if there's too much

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tension, we are blocking ourselves off and restricting

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ourselves. So let me give you an example. Let's take woman 35

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years old, she is running a successful business. And

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whenever she gets home, she feels like she has to do more.

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She cannot relax. She has to think about the next day she has

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to think about her employees how to make make them work harder

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and smarter and be careful that they don't burn out. She also

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wants to be a good wife and she also wants to be a fun friend to

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be around. Doesn't that sound very exhausting already? And

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does it really make her more productive that when she gets

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home and could be relaxing and taking real good care of

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herself? She keeps brainstorming about stuff that she could do

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better?

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I don't think so. I think that this woman is going to sooner or

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later burn out because she is punishing herself into success

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in stead of thriving and relaxing into her success and

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appreciating every baby step that she's making towards a set

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goal. She is pushing further and further and further. And chances

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are that she is struggling with insomnia that she has no time

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for her husband and his life and his roblems to listen him out.

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And she has a hard time to relax when she is with her friends,

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because she never relaxes. And when she is with her friends,

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she is expected to be fun and light. So she kind of puts on a

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show to be that persona. So that sounds very exhausting to me

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already. And the thing is that if she was to come home and

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just, you know, lay down on the couch, read a book that is non

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related to her job and give herself a break. She could not

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only be a better partner, but a friend, she could also be way

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more productive, because it is not sustainable. For anybody to

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push through and to overwork and to be stressed out all the time.

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And your body is so intelligent and so awesome, it's going to

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adjust to the stress, and we're going to make you more

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resilient. But if you keep burning your candle from both

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sides, you are going to pay the bill at some point. And if not,

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in your youngster years, you're going to pay a heavy bill in the

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years to come when you are in your 60s 70s 80s maybe even

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earlier already in your 50s with heart attack with Bernard with

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depression with what ever you can invent whatever your body is

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going to do to force you to stop to finally have a break. So what

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I love to do is to help people prevent these states to help

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people relax before it is too late. And to make people realize

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that they are way more valuable to society, when they are

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productive and relaxed. At the same time. It is really, really

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important to take breaks to be in silence to reflect to look

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back. And there's this famous man, he's a multimillionaire,

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I'm not going to drop his name here. But I've learned a couple

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months ago that he takes a week of holiday each month, sometimes

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every two months. And during that week, he has no contact

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with anybody. He has no cell phone, he has no laptop, he has

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nothing except a pen and a piece of paper. And he says he needs

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that break, he needs to turn off the volume around him like the

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noise, the volume of the noise around him. To be clear in his

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mind to find out, hey, is my company and I still on the right

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path is my employee, my assistant doing the right thing

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for us to be most productive. So he goes through his life

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reflects about everything, his personal relationships, his

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friendships. And after he comes back, he's extremely clear and

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what he wants. And this is helping him to be super

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successful and productive, also relaxed, and clarity. And my

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mind is relaxation. And when you have clarity, your mind can

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relax because your mind is not going into survival mode and

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trying to problem solve. Right, left and center. It can relax

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because there's structure and clarity and you can not

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underestimate the value. Another thing I want to talk about that

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I think it was in the 70s or even earlier that it was

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glorified to not sleep. Read people would say oh yeah, last

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night i i worked until 2am. And this morning, I got up at 5am

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and started working out and started brainstorming and people

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would just be like, Holy shit, that person is serious with

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their business and the swell they are successful. And those

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exact people now are struggling with hard to you know arrhythmia

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with heart attacks with severe health problems and the research

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is being done right now. And it's all coming out, that you

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cannot underestimate the importance of sleep. I'd rather

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you take a nap 20 to 30 minutes in the afternoon, instead of

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cramming in another coffee, I'd rather have you sleep nine

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hours, right seven or six to nine hours, instead of telling

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me that you had another sleepless nights of being

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productive, because that's going to cost you severely. And,

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again, those studies are only coming out. Now. There's a lot

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of research being done around sleeping patterns, and how

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important it is not only for your body to recuperate, but

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especially for your brain, your brain needs to detox needs to be

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in a state of full relaxation. And, yeah, I find that very

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beautiful and so awesome that people are coming out now and

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talking about their sleep patterns and their insomnia

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problems, and it's not stigmatized anymore, but we're

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finding solutions to that problem that is affecting us

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severely. So stop shooting on yourself, stop telling your self

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that you should be doing the next thing and you should be and

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you should be achieving this by age 35. Or you should be this

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specific person at 65. That's not gonna, it's not going to

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make the journey better. And it's not going to make you

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achieve your goals faster. If you achieve your goals, you'll

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be exhausted, resentful. And what's the point if we can relax

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a little more and be just as productive and I feel a lot of

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people in their 30s 40s, especially men, but also women

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now more and more women, we have to learn to step back to trust

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that everything will fall into place, and to take a break to

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allow playfulness and love. Because without that we're just

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going to be bitter. And people How do I want to say that? I

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don't want to swear too much here on my pockets. But people

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are not fun to be around. And what's the point then of being

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successful? If nobody wants to hang out with you? All right, my

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dear. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you so much for

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making the time and leaving me a review on Apple podcast. You

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don't know how much it means to me, and how much it helps in the

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podcast community to rank higher to have more listeners

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benefiting from my free content here without any advertisement.

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and how much you appreciate my content. Yeah, that would mean

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the world to me. All right. take really good care of yourself.

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And I will be out there very soon again. Bye.