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Ep. 3 Do you even like yourself ? self-acceptance [self care]
Episode 3 • 7th May 2021 • The Borealis Experience • Aurora Eggert
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Hello there,

What do you see when you look into the mirror?

Do you like what you see?

It is tough to realize that our very self critical thoughts and our mind are our strongest influencers on our well being.

How can we live in more acceptance with ourselves?

I believe the more we accept ourselves

the more we live in contentment and balance

the more we live in balance the better people we can be

the more forgiving we are with ourselves

the more forgiving we are with others

Louis CK is a Comedian that I love to mention here.

He effed up tremendously in the past but managed to learn from the consequences and was able to forgive himself

he is now back out there making people laugh..

life is too short and precious to get hung up on a mistake from the past.

let go of your self punishment behaviour and paint the picture of your future-better self

enjoy this deep dive episode to soothe your soul and busy mind

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aurora



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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

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with you today. This podcast is your mental health podcast.

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Maybe mental health is something that you've been avoiding in the

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past something, something that, yeah, doesn't really ignite good

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feelings. But trust me, a healthy mind is so sexy. A

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healthy body is so attractive, and a person who's just

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confident with who they are. So chances are if you figuring out

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your life, you want to change things. You landed on my website

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here or onto my podcast. So I welcome you warmly. This is a

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beautiful pass you on. And I'm very happy to be part of it. You

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can always reach out to me on Facebook, my name is Aurora

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Eggert. Or on Instagram I'm active to under the Borealis

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experience as podcast category.

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Alright, let's dive into today's topic inspired by Richard, he

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requested this episode, he wants me to talk about acceptance. And

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I'm assuming Richard that it is self acceptance that you're

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talking about. So I will talk about this. But I will also talk

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about, like general acceptance, on how we can become more

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accepting of situations, circumstances and other people

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I feel it all begins with you, the better you feel about

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yourself, the better person you're going to be to other

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people out there. And the more positive of an outlook you have

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on the future.

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A person who looks into the mirror in the morning and is

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very conflicted doesn't like to look at herself or himself.

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Those people have a really hard time to be self accepting. And

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also accepting of others, the more critical you are with

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yourself, the more harsh your inner chatting is, the harsher

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and the more radical you will be with the outside world to that's

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just a given. The happier you are with yourself and content,

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The more relaxed you are, and the more relaxed and content is

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your environment as well. Because everything is energy,

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you attract what you put out there into the world. And when

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we feel very insecure about ourselves, when we feel like we

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can forgive what we've done in the past, then I understand it

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is a very, very position to be in. And then you can exercise

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you can put makeup on you can put on a happy face. But

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internally, you still feel like not enough. Not belonging. Not

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okay. You feel troubled inside, because, yeah, you're out and

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about and you're trying to go do good things. But you still feel

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guilty or shame for things that you've done in the past.

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And it doesn't really matter that I don't know a person or

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you for instance, Richard, but I know especially if you listen to

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his podcast here if he listened to my videos, and not because

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they're so awesome. But because of the content that you are

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willing to let go that you are willing to move on and to

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forgive and to be okay with what was and to look into the future

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with more hope and contentment.

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So I want to invite you to

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go into bird's eye perspective now. hover above yourself. And

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when you close your eyes, sometimes that's easier. But if

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you're driving, of course not.

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We're operating any machinery, of course nod. But look down

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onto you.

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And what do you see?

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Do you see pain?

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Do you see regret?

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Do you see anger? resentment?

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Is it sadness, suppressed feelings,

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or maybe even depression that you see.

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And now imagine

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me

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looking down onto you.

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And I know nothing about you.

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But I can see you.

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And I see a person

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who is ready to move on.

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And who's ready to forgive?

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Or who's ready to accept

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and just be content with

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what you have.

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Now, again, if you're operating machinery or walking, driving,

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don't close your eyes.

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But I want to invite you now

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to listen to your thoughts.

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Are you really still angry

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at yourself

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about something that you've done in the past, I do feel like

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intense shame,

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then we have to start an air this.

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And what I mean by that is

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that you have to find somebody that you can talk about this

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with.

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And sometimes it's okay to sit with it and to

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be

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with those feelings. But if they are too intense,

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then seek help.

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I'm not

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a medical adviser. I'm not a mental health counselor. I'm

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just a normal person, a very, very regular girl

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who has gone through stuff and who learned to let go and

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forgive herself. And all I can do here is to invite you and do

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the same.

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You have to trust that the person who has done something in

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the past that you're not proud of that you scared off maybe

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even today didn't know better. You had your reasons.

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And maybe you had to go to jail. And you had to sit down and make

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some time.

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Do sometimes sorry.

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But now you're out and about again.

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And this means that the government trusts you. And this

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means that the people around you can trust you to

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and it's unfortunate how many people are in jail for really

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nothing and

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sometimes even unjustified. But I'm talking about the people who

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got out again

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and are given a second chance. And you have to fucking give it

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your all. You're given a second chance. And you have to start

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forgive yourself first. You can't expect that from society,

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from your family, from your friends. You have to forgive

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yourself first. And to go out there and be confident with who

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you are.

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So now when you sit in meditation here with me when you

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do these little

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meditations and reflection when you listen to the interviews,

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observe your thoughts.

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And when it is about you, when you make it about yourself,

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see how self destructive, your thoughts are so against you, you

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wouldn't even talk to your best friend, like you do to yourself.

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And this is where we have to hack into,

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we have to start changing the conversation that we have with

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ourselves.

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That is the first step of forgiveness. When you make a

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little mistake,

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forgive yourself, when you make a big mistake, see it as a

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lesson, learn from it. And then forgive yourself.

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You know, the thing is, the longer it takes you or the

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longer you stay in that position of being a victim of not being

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good enough,

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the longer we are missing you as a society out there, because you

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have so much to offer, you have so much potential, and in

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drowning and your shame and your regret and your sadness and your

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anger and your resentment.

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you're depriving us to see you, the person that you could be out

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there.

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So, set with your thoughts, look at the conversation that you

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have with yourself and start there, start being okay with who

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you are. start trusting yourself again. And know that every day

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you wake up, every hour, even, you can become a better person.

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You can, you know, like

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the compass, if you imagine a compass, you can imagine that

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needle and put every little bit of energy that you have into a

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direction that you want to see yourself walking.

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And tonight, when you go to bed, I want you to picture the you

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that you want to see in a year and five years, maybe in 10

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years, maybe you want to give up an addiction. Maybe you want to

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give up on those nasty, self destructive thoughts that you

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have all day long. Maybe you want to start forgiving yourself

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and take better care of yourself. Because nobody is

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going to do it. People are only going to treat you the way they

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feel about you. And also the way you feel about yourself. If you

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feel you're not worthy of a beautiful, happy relationship,

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you will not get it. You might have it for a certain time. But

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then it will vanish.

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So you paint that picture, you paint that frame that you want

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to see yourself in.

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And every day, every hour of the day even you take baby steps

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towards that person.

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Ever, every time you have a choice.

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You think about what would my best version decide in this

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case?

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And it is not somebody out there that you're trying to copy and

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paste their behavior from it is you your version of yourself?

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What are you capable of? You're capable of so much you're

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capable of being forgiving with others relaxed with yourself

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content, even successful. But you have to start listening to

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your ongoing chatter in your mind. What is it that you're

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still insecure about? What is it that you're scared of showing to

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people?

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You know, there's people out there who've done

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terrible stuff in their life.

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And they went through pain, they went through

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the consequences that were needed, they learned and then

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they forgave themselves.

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And

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when you think about people like Louie CK for instance,

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Louie CK a comedian who has gone a little bit too far when it

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came to his sexual fantasies. look him up. Maybe there's

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nothing left on the internet.

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about that, but

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he was in deep trouble with some sexual assault stuff.

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And it went so far that he had to leave the country because the

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pressure, the aggression against him was so bad.

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And you know what I really admire this guy today, because

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he came back, he had a show not long ago, and talked about it

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openly talked about the mistake that he has made.

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And sad. And you can see it in how he adds that he learned from

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it, he had to go through so much pain,

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and knows now that he was in the wrong, and he's gonna do

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differently now. But he was able to step out there again, and be

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in front of an audience. And I don't know, maybe there's women

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listening to this, and they think Aurora, this is for

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bullshit. He's supposed to be locked up, and is a bad person.

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But I think he learned from his lesson, he is going to be a

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different person

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nowadays, and he expressed his regret. And he's out there

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again, and he deserves a second chance. So this is just one

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little example of a person who has done the work, who is back

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out there now. And yeah, he will encounter people that are going

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to try and make him feel shitty. And they're going to shame him

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and blame him for what he's done in the past. But he cannot let

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this

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affect his life, he has to know himself that he has become a

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better person. And then you will be come

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invincible, to those kinds of

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attacks. If you know you're giving your best every single

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day and you're stepping towards the person you want to become,

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then you are invincible to people who are trying to bring

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you down, it is going to be challenging at times. But when

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you have that anchor inside of you again, and you know who you

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are, what you want to do in life, and how you want to

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support people be out there and shine, then nothing will be able

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to shake you anymore as it used to.

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So I hope this all made sense to you. I hope you understand that

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the work has to start as soon as possible because you're wasting

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so much time in not living a life of full acceptance, where

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you know that you deserve goodness. You deserve

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unconditional love. You deserve all the food you need the water,

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the shelter, and goodness that life has to offer.

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I lost my train of thought, but I know that you got me.

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You have to forgive yourself. Okay, I will be out there very

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soon again. I'm posting my episodes now on Wednesdays,

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Fridays, and Sundays. And we'll be putting out Life videos for

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you on Facebook. So please join me there. And if you haven't

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already, leave me a review on Apple podcast. The strongest

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currency for us postcards cost us out there. And I leave you

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now with hope and encouragement to love yourself a lot more than

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you're doing already.

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Take good care of yourself. Thanks for listening to the

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