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First of all, every human being,

regardless of gender, age,

or culture lives moment by moment,

by a set of priorities set of values,

this set of values is unique

to them and this set of priorities or things that are most valuable to least

valuable, most important to least important,

is the thing that they are driven by.

It's their value structure and whatever's highest on

the person's value list, the thing that's most important,

they are spontaneously inspired to act on.They do not require

any extrinsic motivation. They spontaneously act.

They feel certain, there's no hesitation. They're disciplined, they're reliable,

they're focused. They take action. As they go down the list of values, they

become more extrinsically driven and they require reward to do it,

punishment if they don't.

And they require more advantages than disadvantages to get them to move.

Now, because of that basic structure of the values that each individual has.

Anytime you set a goal that is aligned with the highest

value, or in at least the top two or three values,

but the highest value, particularly, unless you do,

you're going to do some degree of procrastination,

And anytime you do things high in your value,

your self worth goes up and your self confidence goes up.

Anytime you do something low on your values,

your self worth goes down and your self-confidence goes down. And

let me elaborate why this goes on.

When you're in living in, according to your highest value,

you become more objective. You become more reasonable.

You increase the blood glucose and oxygen into the forebrain,

and you see your vision of what you want to accomplish.

You strategically plan it because you waken up the executive center in the

brain, which is the forebrain.

You tend to execute it without hesitation,

and you have self-governance on the impulses and instincts that normally

distract you and make you hesitate.

But if you live in lower values or attempt to set goals that are lower on your

value list, because you need motivation to get you to do it,

you won't spontaneously act.

You'll have to be extrinsically driven to get action,

and you'll have to perceive way more advantage than disadvantage or you won't

act because you'll be looking for more of a pleasure and avoid a pain down

there. As a result of it, you'll tend to set a fantasy and then have self doubt.

So self

doubt is a feedback mechanism to let you know that

what you're pursuing is not really congruent with what you value most.

And many people think there's a weakness and they want to blame things

in the past for this. But I've worked with thousands of individuals.

And the second they are setting goals that are not higher on their values or

that they're fantasies, and they're not strategically, objectively, structured,

they're going to have self doubt.

Self doubt is not a bad thing.

Self doubt is a feedback to let you know that what you're pursuing

is either got pleasure without pain,

positive without negative and it's skewed to one side with some sort of

subjective bias, and it's not really an objective,

which means even minded and balanced,

and it's not aligned to your highest value.

So the second you set a goal that is truly congruent with your highest value,

you are anticipating the challenges that are going

to be experienced along the journey of it,

and you've already planned out strategically with foresight;

'What are the downsides and how do you handle them and how do you mitigate the

risks?' Your brain automatically doesn't have self doubt. It has confidence.

Now, let me give you another example here.I've

used this before.

So some of you may have been online when you've heard this in a different

context. If I walked up to you and I said, you're, you are always positive,

never negative. Always kind, never cruel. Always generous, never stingy.

Always giving, never taking. Always peaceful, never wrathful.

Always considerate, never inconsiderate. As I'm saying that to you,

there's a part of you whispering in your head and thinking of all the times

you were exchanging negative doubtful questions, et cetera.

And you would automatically have a kind of a internal psycho stat,

like a thermostat letting you know that that's not exactly it.

I'm not always that way.

And if I was to come to you and I would say in other words,

you would not have certainty.

And if I came to you and I said, you're always mean,

you're never nice.You're always cruel, you're never kind.

You're always wrathful, never peaceful. Always negative, never positive.

Always inconsiderate, never considerate. Always stingy, never generous.

You would immediately have memories of times when you were being generous and

kind and stuff. You'd go, 'no,

that's not true.' You couldn't be certain that was true. But if I said to you,

sometimes you're nice, sometimes you're mean. Sometimes you're kind,

sometimes you're cruel. Sometimes you're positive, sometimes negative,

sometimes one side and the other side. You'd immediately go, 'yes,

that's true.' You only have certainty when you

are setting objectives when you have a balanced orientation,

the executive center in the brain is designed to

mitigate risks,

deal with probability of outcomes and make

you foresight and think out with strategies to neutralize fantasies that's

going to have a one side without the other.

And anytime you are not living objectively and living by highest priority,

where you have the executive center comes on line,

the amygdala wants a pleasure without a pain,

and it sets up a fantasy.And the moment you set up one side of a pole of a

fantasy, your other side of doubt and anxiety and fear come in,

not as a mistake, not as a weakness,

but as a normal biological response in the brain to get you

objective, to get you centered again,

if you're not meditating in advance on the evils,

as they used to call by the Stoics and thinking of the downsides and preparing

for and mitigating the risk, and you're setting up a fantasy,

you don't have a real objective and you're designed to have self doubt.

So anytime you set something that is not highest on your values, as a goal,

you're going to have self doubt. Anytime you set up a fantasy,

that's one sided and not both sided, you're going to have self doubt.

Self doubt is not a weakness. It's not something, that's something you go, 'Oh,

I got it because my mom was that way or that' none of that,

don't ever blame anything on the outside,

understand that everything is on the way, not in the way.

That behavior, just like negative thinking, just like

phobia, all of these are not weaknesses. They're feedback mechanisms,

guiding you to set real goals in real times with real strategies that are

objective. And the moment you do,

and you're living according to your highest value, because that's where it is.

You take action.

Anytime you're setting a goal that is,

you haven't strategized and broken it down into smaller bites,

and you assume that there's going to be all upsides, no downsides,

your brain is going to bring out the downsides intuitively.

Your intuition is always going to reveal to you the side you're unwilling to

see. So it's designed that way.

So I just want to make sure that that's clear,

because people thinking 'I've got a weakness,

I've got...' There's nothing wrong with the,

I take the same individual that's been running a story that they've got self

doubt for 10 years and that's stopping them and sabotaging and everything else.

And what we find is that they're injecting the values of others,

that aren't really highest on your values. Let me elaborate on what that means.

We've all been probably in some infatuation,

somewhere in our lives.Where we've been really enamoured,

really infatuated and put somebody on a pedestal and then stopped doing what

was normally important to us and gone into lower values and

try to meet their needs for fear of rejection,

fear of loss of that person we're infatuated with.

And we started doing things that weren't normally our daily routines in order to

fit in and try to be like them and be with them. And the moment we do,

we go down to lower values and we self depreciate.

And then we wonder why we cannot consistently do that.

And then we think 'oh okay we're sabotaging', we're not sabotaging.

We're getting feedback that we're attempting to be

to be in a relationship that we've got on a pedestal instead of a match,

not somebody that's a match. So anytime you put people on pedestal,

inject their values in your life and try to live by their values,

you're going to have self doubt.You are designed to have that,

to let you know that you're putting people on pedestals instead of putting them

in your heart and you're not.

And you're going away from your highest value into something that you think that

they expect and you fear of losing them if you don't do it,

and you're trying to be somebody you're not and you're imitating them instead of

living true to you.

And the moment you do self doubt and fear and anxieties are all those

compensatory responses to that outcome,

that objective or that goal.

If you set real goals with real time,

with real strategies that are balanced and are objectives that are aligned

with your real values, that don't have fantasies, the self doubt disappears.

Because I've taken people who thought they had self-doubt for years,

crack their fantasies, got them out of subordinating.

In The Breakthrough Experience that I do,

when I had people up on pedestals like that,

or people had people on pedestals and then they inject these values and they try

to live into values thataren't theirs, they automatically self depreciate,

just like the cat, as Einstein said,

if you're a cat and you're expecting to swim like a fish,

cause you're admiring a fish's ability to swim and you beat yourself up because

'I can't swim', well,

If you're a fish expecting to climb a tree like a cat and go,

'I wish I could do that' and then you beat yourself up is because you're trying

to be inauthentic.

When you are setting authentic goals that are congruent,

self-doubt dissolves, and it doesn't matter what you've been through,

your childhood, whatever. It's not what it is,

unless you've been subordinating to somebody there,

unless you're trying to live in their expectations,

unless you're trying to live by some tradition convention and some morality

that's not you.

These are all symptoms of not being authentic to ourselves,

not living by our highest value. So anyway, that's just my opening line.

And then Dr. Demartini, some people feel that self belief is vain.

They see it as a negative thing.

Is that a shame and the guilt that is driving that and is that a

belief hindering their growth?

Self-belief, every time you set a goal that is aligned with your highest values.

See, I have a, I have a high value on researching and teaching.

So anytime I have a goal in the area of research and teaching,

I tend to act on it, get it done, achieve it. And I believe in myself,

I believe I can do it. I know I'll walk my talk and I'll get my result.

There's absolutely any,

there's nothing unwise or un-wellness oriented about self

belief. Now,

cocky pride and an exaggeration of self and a perception that you're successful

in things and exaggerating that will humble you because the second you get

cocky, you'll attract events to humble you, pride before the fall, the hubris,

but self-belief is not, it's not cocky.

It's just confident and certain that what you say you're going to do, you'll do.

I'm certain that I'm going to be researching daily.

I'm certain that I'm going to be doing some sort of an educational process

daily. I'm not certain that I'm going to go and work out every day.

Although I do periodically, I don't do it every day. I'm not,

that's not my highest value. So if I set a goal, that's going to do that.

I'm going to hesitate. I'll procrastinate, I'll frustrate.

And if I have an expectation I'm supposed to be doing that.

I should be doing that. Anytime you hear yourself saying, 'I should, I ought to,

I supposed to, I got to, I have to', it isn't you,

it's an injected value by some outside authority that you may not have

identified. And whenever you're setting those,

you're guaranteed to make yourself self depreciate and lose your confidence

because you're setting your goal that's not really important to you,

you just think it is. So self belief, true self belief is a healthy response.

Nothing unwise about it.

I have confidence and belief that I will do what I say when it comes to

researching and teaching, but not cooking or driving, or the workouts.

Although I do bit, it's not high enough of my values to expect that for myself.

But if I have an expectation to do something that's low on my values,

I'm going to have self doubt. I'm going to depreciate myself.

You are designed to depreciate yourself anytime you do low priority things.

That's why,

if you're not filling your day with high priority actions that inspire you,

your day is going to fill up a low priority distractions that don't and your

self worth and self belief are going to go down. And that's not a, again,

that's perfect,

you couldn't have asked for a more magnificent feedback

you're not living concurrently. You're not authentic.

And the universe is giving you feedback to try to get you authentic.

Your physiology, psychology,

sociology and theology around you is all trying to get you to live

authentically,

live with equity and live not putting people on pedestals or pits,

but put them in your heart. Not trying to get them to live in your values.

Not try to you getting to live in their values,

but you living according to your values and honoring them doing them,

living theirs. So self-belief is healthy. Cockiness,

self righteousness, inflated, pride, exaggeration of self,

will be humbled, cause it's not you.

The proud you is not you, the shamed you is not you,

the exaggerated or the minimized isn't you. There's a difference between

pseudo elevated self esteem and pseudo depressed self-esteem and true self

worth.

Your true self worth is the synthesis of those two polarities where you're up

manic and you're down depressed. You're elated, depressed, high, low, inflated,

deflated. Self righteous, self wrongteous, proud and shame.

Those are the two polarities. Neither one of those are you. Those are personas,

masks, facades that you're wearing,

trying to cover up the real being and true self worth occurs at the center of

where you are being yourself. So if you live by your highest values,

where your identity revolves around and live by priority and delegate lower

priority things so you're not doing low priority things,

your self worth is going to be strong.

Your image of yourself is going to be confident.

You're going to have certainty and you're going to act and you're going to get

an accomplishment and that's not cocky, in fact,

you're grateful because you're doing what you love and you're loving what you

do. And you're getting, you're seeing things as a feedback to get there.

It doesn't make you cocky. It makes you grateful for what happens.

Cocky is when you're actually assuming that you're living one sided fantasies

and humbleness is when you're actually having to face the other side.

So the center is not a high or low. In fact,

if you start to think you're successful,

you're probably on your way down de-purposing.

And if you start to think you're a failure,

you're probably going back up and repurposing.

But if you just stay focused on highest value, you're maintaining purpose.

I call myself a man on a mission, not a man of success,

a man on a mission. I don't get attached to the idea of labels,

success or failure. I don't even like those terms.

I think those terms are distracting. And when you think you're successful,

you have a short term gratification, you think you've arrived,

you have little experience and you have a small vision.

When you have a longterm vision and there's something

the planet, it's, it's all on the way and you're grateful for the next step. So,

we're not here to go boasting you know, exaggerating,

we're here to be centered, authentic,

and true self worth and true self belief automatically occurs

if you're setting goals that are congruent.

So Dr. Demartini, how do we keep ourselves centered?

That we don't get cocky or deflated in terms of what we want to do?

Well, the addiction to inflation creates deflation,

the addiction to pride attracts humbling circumstances.

You know, I think that that's, one is narcissistic, the other is altruistic.

And one brings on the other.

If we go into our business and we think narcissistic, we're better than that,

we eventually get humbled. If we go in altruistic,

we eventually get pissed off because we're doing something for nothing.

So if we're trying to get something for nothing or try to do something for

nothing, neither one of those are sustainable.

We have to find equity and authenticity in order to have sustainable fair

exchange with people. And so, yeah, that's a, how do we do it?

By living by priority. I'm sure some of you have been on with me before,

and you'll know I say this over and over again,

but if you're not filling your day with high priority actions that inspire you,

that you spontaneously,

can't wait to do and love doing your body and mind

and, and your life is going to have entropy. It's going to,

break down because it's going to let you know that you're not being authentic.

And that is not a mistake. It's not a weakness. It's not a problem.

It's not a flaw.

It is a normal biological response for living organisms to do that

when they're not being authentic to what they're designed for.

Each of us have a structure and a mission and a hierarchy of values and if

we live according to it,

our highest value is the one that allows us to maximize the most amount of

transformation of judgments into love, from chaos into order,

from self depreciation to appreciation. So if we don't live by priority,

we have no one to look at other than ourselves,

we're just not choosing to do it and we're going to have chaos.

Chaos is a feedback system. Let us know we're not living authentically to

what's really valuable to us.I learned a long time ago to make a list of every

single thing on a daily basis,

write down the highest priority actions you can do today that can help you

fulfill your mission on earth.

And if you haven't defined that you need to go into my value,

determination process on my website and go do the value, determination exercise.

It's complimentary, it's free.

You can do it again a week from now and a month from now and every three months

to keep it current, but take a look at what your life really,

really demonstrates,

because if you're setting a goal based on fantasies and whims,

instead of what you actually have as a value that's really highest on your

value,

you're going to get symptoms and the symptoms are going to give you feedback.

And the self depreciation is going to give that feedback,

but this doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

It just means that you're not listening to your intuition and not going by

what's inspiring to you and you're letting the world around you do its job to

give you feedback, to let you know, you're not being authentic.

Everything is kicking your butt to get you onto what's, out of the rut,

into what's really true for you. So the prioritization is the key,

identifying what's truly highest on your priority to what is really truly you

feel is your calling and mission in life, whatever that may be,

don't judge it relative to anybody else.

Just go after what's true for you and prioritize your daily basis,

do something that serves people so you can get paid to do it,

and then delegate with the cost, with the, the income you get,

delegate everything else, the lower priority things.

Cause if you're not delegating, you can't live an inspired life. Pardon me.

Unless you've got somebody around taking care of everything around you,

which is delegating,

how are you going to live an inspired life if you're doing low priority things

and desperate things? Not going to happen. You have the responsibility.

The universe rewards people for living by priority, living authentically,

doing it in a way that serves people,

having a fair transactional exchange of it economically,

having a portion of that, investing a portion of it and taking the rest of it,

to pay people, to do lower priority things that they're inspired to do, not you,

but they're inspired to do it. And then you help the economy. You help yourself,

you get rewarded, you serve people, you have fulfillment in life,

and it's deeply meaningful to be able to make a difference in other people's

lives.

So if you're doing something you really love to do and getting paid for it,

you found your niche in life.

And that does give you confidence and self worth and all the things we're

talking about it. So self doubt is not an enemy. It's a feedback.

And I have to pound that into some people.

Cause some people are so programmed by the self-help movement,

the positive thinking movement,

which screws people up because it makes them think they're supposed to be a one

sided world out there. Always nice, never mean always kind, never cruel,

your grandmother tells you be kind, don't be cruel, be nice, don't be mean,

be positive, don't be negative. Nobody is one sided.

And it's a waste of time.

A waste of time to go and pursue fantasies about how your life's going to be.

You're not going to get it. Face the reality you have both sides. Embrace it,

use it wisely, embrace your hero and villain,

embrace other people's hero and villain. If you support people's values,

they're nice. If you challenge their values, they can be mean,

don't expect anybody to be one sided. Don't expect any goals to be one sided.

Don't expect anything in life to be one sided. It's got the pair of opposites.

There's a dialectic in the pairs of opposites known

the wise individuals knew that. Be wise, understand it,

set goals that are real objectives,

which means even and neutral and not polarized and not subjectively biased with

one side.

Our amygdala misleads us into the idea of getting a prey without a predator.

Our objectives know that's not possible.

You need prey and predator to have fitness.

If you had a prey and you over ate and you had gluttony,

you get no fitness. If you had a predator and you had emaciation and starvation,

no fitness, but you put the two together, you get fitness,

maximum growth and development occurs at the border of support and challenge,

positive negatives, objectivity. So live by priority. Live objectively.

Use your executive center, the forebrain,

not your hind brain and quit going after fantasies that aren't really your

values and quick one after things that don't have strategies and you're not

ready to handle the downsides or otherwise you can have anxieties,

self-doubt et cetera.

And it's going to stop you from wanting to take action because you're anxious

because you're going after something that's not obtainable and you intuitively

know it. And that's your body doing its job and your psyche doing its job.

Dr. Demartini through these times that we're going through nowadays,

a lot of people that's going after new ventures and new ideas or businesses

how can they effectively prepare for that? You know,

they've got a bit of uncertainty and doubt around if it's going to work or not.

What advice could you give around that?

Well, that's called planning. Foresight is better than hindsight.

You're not going to plan every detail possibly,

but you can know that the more you put into the details,

the higher the probability, the master is one who focuses on ever detail.

You know, Phelps, the swimmer, 22 gold medal, 22 medals anyway,

he used to visualize in his mind's eye, his ideal swim,

and he would take everything, every movement, every stroke, everything,

every possible obstacle, if there's a disturbance in the water,

if there's anything that ever happened, he thought, how would I handle that?

And how do I use it to my advantage? And with this happens,

how do I use it to my advantage? How do I reduce this probability?

He thought things in advance and he was the most medalled individual,

but he saw it in his mind's eye.

So planning the business and making sure you think through and make

sure that there's a real need.

I'm amazed at how many entrepreneurs go out there having a fantasy,

borrow money, take all the risks on a fantasy.

They haven't even found out if there's a real need for it.

They're projecting self righteously an assumption that they know what the market

needs instead of finding out what the market's asking for. And if they do,

they're going to end up flopping because they're going after something that

nobody wants and they're having to push marketing and cost and they burning

through cash flow.

And then they burn themselves and they get stressed and then they're out of

their executive center. And then they're into impulses when they want to,

they look for a magic bullet to save them. And then they go out under.

It's wiser

to be patient and to perceive in advance and

make sure that you really have a market.

Make sure there's a market out there or make sure you're doing things to create

the market and plan it out. When I opened up my practice,

I had a business plan and I went through about probably 40 plans of other

people and took the best of the best of everybody else's plan and integrated

into my plan and thought of stuff that wasn't even in those plans and then went

to the bank. And I got my money from the bank, but in the process of doing it,

I had in my mind a clear idea what I was going to do the moment I opened up my

office.

Now there was some things I didn't anticipate and some

so well that I was, it exceeded my expectations when I, the results,

but I, I, I thought it through and I took out the risk.

Our anxiety, our phobias,

are result of our philias and our philias are fantasies.

And therefore we create a nightmare. Every fantasy has a nightmare,

every philia a phobia, every elation a depression.

And so anytime you're setting something you haven't thought through,

what are all the downsides and meditated on all the evils as they call it,

thinking of all the downs, what all could go wrong.

That's the problem with positive thinking. It really screws your head up.

It's going to make you think, 'Oh, I don't want to look at all that'.

If you're not looking at that and mitigating it,

your brain is going to intuitively bring it up to make sure you're thinking

about it. And that's what anxiety is and fears are.

Those fears are feedback to you that you're setting a fantasy without thinking

you don't have a plan. And so you have an anxiety. What could happen?

Fear is an assumption that you're about to experience in the future,

more drawbacks than benefits.So if you haven't anticipated them,

thought of how you would use them to your advantage,

find out the upsides to it and how to mitigate them and reduce those

probabilities, then they're going to show up in your mind to let you know,

you're setting a fantasy and you're afraid to face them.

Cause sometimes you're afraid to face them cause you might not want to act on

the fantasy,

but you need to do that Or otherwise you go after a fantasy and then flop,

and then your fear came near.

Wiser to think in advance and get mentorship and preplan

and if you're not clear about it, get some advice, read some books,

get some mentorships, ask questions, do these types of you know, these webinars,

but make sure in your mind,

you've got a clear pathway where u see and you make sure there's a demand for

your service. And then when you know, there's a demand, you don't have anxiety.

You only have anxiety for the things you didn't anticipate and you're

anticipating. And by the way, there's no fear of the unknown.

There's fear of what you're anticipating because you haven't planned.

There's no fear of the unknown.

There's fear of the content in your mind that you're assuming could happen,

that you don't have mitigated and you don't have,

you don't know how to use it and turn it into on the way or how to reduce the

probability of it. So you didn't plan. And the moment you plan it out and say,

'okay, if this happens, here's what I'll do'. You don't have a fear about it.

That fear is gone, and you think, okay, what else do I have an anxiety about?

Well, this could happen. Great. How do I do it? If I do, I tweak the product,

if it doesn't and if I now know what it is now,

I don't have the anxiety cause I know I've got a demand.

So all of your fears are your friends, all of your self doubts or your friends,

they're feedback to let you know you haven't planned an objective.

You haven't strategized it out. You're going on a whim with,

some degree of upsides without downside. You're not anticipating those.

And you don't have a real objective. Again, objectivity means even minded,

not positive thinking. I know I beat this dead horse,

but I get so many people coming in from the

positive thinking movement that are anxious and sabotaging and frightened and,

and then hesitating and then flopping because they don't use their objective

minds

The executive part of the brain is there for a reason.

Your amygdala is a subcortical area of the brain that we havethat's in common

with the animals.

Our executive center is something we have that gives meaning and purpose and

direction and inspiration and planning. And we create things.

Elon Musk just got, made his own spacecraft,

working with NASA to go up to the space station.

That was 100,000 people thinking of every possible

thing that could go wrong, plan it out, mitigate it, precision it,

practice it, perform it. That's why they're successfully doing it achieving.

That's not because they whimmed it not because they had fantasies.

Not because they had positive thinking,

it's because they thought of everything and they dealt with every single thing

that could go wrong and they're prepared for it. If you do that,

you're going to go on and you're going to launch to the space station.

You'll be in the stratosphere with your achievements.

And Dr. Demartini, how do we distinguish between emotions and intuition?

If you're going after a project, do we know it's true or not?

Okay, I'm going to define an emotion. First of all,

an emotion is a subjectively biased perception, that's lopsided.

So if you're infatuated with somebody you're conscious of the upside,

you're unconscious of the downsides.

So you have a subjective confirmation bias for the upsides,

a subjective disconfirmation bias on the negative side,

you have a false positive on the positives,

you're seeing things that aren't there when,

you're seeing things that are there, that aren't there.

And false negative on the negative,

you're not seeing things that are there that are there, not seeing what's there.

So when you have these biases like that, you have an emotion.

And if you have resentment, it's the opposite.

You're conscious of the downside unconscious of the upside,

and you're having a false,

a bias on the negatives and false positive on the

negatives and false negative on the positives. And again,

a confirmation bias, disconfirmation bias. So anytime you have bias,

anytime you have subjective opinions, anytime you are skewed,

and you're not seeing both sides, you're going to have an emotion.

Emotion are polarized feelings that offer you feedback to

let you know you're not on objective. And most people think, 'Oh,

I want to get my emotions out'. Well, if you want to do it,

you want to be a fool. Fools live with emotions. You're not going to,

you're not going to manage money with emotions.

You're not going to manage relationship with emotion,

not going to be a social leader with emotions. You're going to be a,

you're going to be, feelings yes, but don't confuse feelings with emotions.

Feelings have two types, polarized feelings,

which are emotions and synthesized feelings, which is gratitude, love,

inspiration, enthusiasm, certainty, and presence.

Those are leadership roles. Those are transcendental feelings.Those feelings,

are what just took Elon Musk to space. He was inspired.

His heart was open. He was grateful. He was enthused.

Those are the signs that you have a real objective and you matched it and

you got a result and it's a confirmation that you're living authentically,

but the second you get a polarized emotion, you get infatuated,

or get resentful, attractive,

or repelled or skew things and distort things.

That's an emotion. So emotion is a subcortical response to a skewed,

subjective bias and transcendental feelings are an objective response and

a confirmation that you're living authentically. So

I just want you to understand that emotional feelings are feedback.

They're essential in your life. Cause whenever you have a distortion,

they're going to be there for you as a feedback to let you know,

you're not centered.

So you have impulses for pleasure and instincts from pain.That's a subcortical

area. It's the nucleus accumbens and striatum pallidum.

And they're basically wanting a pleasure without a pain, trying to avoid a pain.

And they separate into polarities, which is polar,

like poles of a magnet, they get farther apart.

They're positive feedback loops that get further dramatized with emotion.

That's why these riots that occurred in America are classical emotional

polarities, it's irrational and subjective and bias. It's just irrational.

Then what happens is a person that actually has intuition.

Intuition is trying to neutralize those polarities.

So your impulse and instinct is trying to dramatize those polarities and

your intuition is trying to neutralize it.

So if you're cocky or if you're infatuated somebody,

your intuition is trying to point out the downsides.

When you're resentful to somebody,

your intuition is trying to point out the meaning.

There's gotta be meaning in what's happening.

There's gotta be a downside to that guyI'm infatuated with.

Your intuition is trying to bring it back to the center to get you in objective.

Your intuition is a negative feedback loop.

Negative means it's trying to bring you back to homeostasis and bring you back

to objectivity.

So your intuition is trying to take you back to reason and trying to make an

objective.

Your impulses and instincts is trying to get you out of reason and going into

impulse and instincts,

they're designed for fight or flight responses and rest and digest responses.

They're there to accentuate the emotions to get the adrenaline going so

we can capture the prey quickly,

run after the prey and run away from the predator.

So if you're in a fight or flight and rested digest,

and you're highly polarized and you're subjectively biased,

the world on the outside is going to run you because anything you infatuate or

resent is going to occupy space and time in your mind and run you.

You're not running you, the world outside you, because of your misperceptions,

are running you.

But the second you're poised and you're present and you're purposeful and you're

prioritized and you're patient, you'll be productive. And in that state,

that objectivity, your intuition is guiding you to do,

but most people confuse feelings with intuition. No,

it's a neutralizer of emotions. Intuition is a neutralized emotions.

There's so much crap written about it, but it's a neutralizer.

It's a negative feedback trying to bring you homeostasis and trying to bring you

balance to life.

It's trying to help you bring wellness and it's trying to help you empower all

seven areas of your life. In the Breakthrough Experience program,

I'm distinguishing these two things, the impulse, the instinct, the intuition,

and what it does to master all seven areas of life.

And there's absolutely no reason why you can't empower all of them by knowing

the distinctions and knowing how to ask questions,

which is what the Demartini Method's for, to ask questions,

to equilibrate the mind, to bring it back into objectivity,

so you can set real goals and achieve real things.

Instead of these impulses and instincts that are fantasies.

So many people are impulsive and then it peters out,

weeks later they give up on it. You want to,

if you're having to be motivated to go after what you say you want to do,

it's not what you want to do. I don't need motivation to do what I do.

I get inspired daily to get up and research, write, travel, teach,

even though lately, I haven't been travelling as much.

And Dr. Demartini,

it's quite popular now that people say you have to get rid of your ego or,

or get rid of the ego. What is your definition of ego?

And what is your take on that?

Well, the Eastern Buddhist mysticism,

some of the new age infiltration of that,

has confused the original Freudian language on ego.

The ego, according to Freud,

there were three partite aspects of the psyche by Freud.

One was the ego, the other one was the superego and the other one was the id.

When you're living by your highest value, you're waking up your ego.

Your ego is your 'I', the 'I', the identity that you wrap your life

around. It's not pride. It's not shame.

It's your I. It's reasonable. It's objective. It's authentic,

et cetera. That's what the true ego meant. Meant identity,

it's meant the essential self, the true I.

It has been turned into in nihilistic Buddhist constructs that they turned

into the idea that there's a universal ocean and this I is insignificant

and it holds you back. No,

what happens is when you're living by lower values,

you have what is called the id, and the id, when you're living by lower values,

you shrink, you're objectives. You don't go after objectives,

you go after impulses.

And it's an impulsive and instinctual center that's ungoverned and uncontrolled

and that's why they call it the 'idiot', because iota meant tiny id,

tiny psyche, shrunken psychic.

Because when you live by your

highest values,

you tend to achieve things and you tend to set bigger goals and just keep

setting bigger goals and building momentum,

that was associated with an expansion,

and the id was a contraction of psyche, of potential. Those are accurate,

but because of misinterpretation, the super ego,

which was the injected values of outer authorities,

that then makes you feel proud if you live by their values and shamed if you

don't, confused the false ego of pride with the true ego,

because that's an inflated part.But when you're living by your highest values,

you have self worth and you can continue to go and expand who you are.

But when you go proud, you tend to exaggerate what you do.

Set goals that are too big in too short a timeframe, and then get humbled.

The true ego doesn't humble you, it sets real objectives.

The false ego automatically humbles you and you get pride.

And it's that pursuit of the fantasy and exaggerated,

that is the one that the Buddhist are really referring to,

the false ego and not letting that interfere with the

second you're objective your human will matches the

order of the universe, cause you're not judging,

you're not trying to change your relative to others or others relative to you.

You're seeing things in order and you're grateful and you're using in a sense,

you're aligning with what actually is, om tat satas the Eastern mystic's said.

In that state you're graced, you're inspired,

you take action spontaneously, you tend to achieve things,

you tend to want to tackle bigger problems and solve bigger mysteries.

You want to keep probing. That's an expansion of your being,

a greater pursuit of the grand divine design as you will,

the master plan of the universe.

But the false ego is the one that's gonna make you go into pride and cocky and

think you're successful.

A man on a mission or an individual on a mission is different than a person who

thinks they're successful and cocky.

So that's where the false ego has been confused,

'you need to get rid of that', but you don't, what it is,

is a symptom to let you know that you're not living authentic and that you're

subordinating and trying to live in other people's values.So that's a symptom

that will get humbled automatically,

you don't have to worry about it being humbled. It will be humbled.

And it's there to try to get you back into your own center.

When you're centered and not eccentrically polarizing to pride and shame and

exaggerated and depressed self image, whatever self esteem,

and you're really authentic with true self worth, you grow. So,

your true ego is not something to be ridding yourself of. The false ego,

which has been confused in all the literature is a

you have to transcend.

You have to sacrifice that animal nature for the angelic divine nature inside

you.

And Dr. Demartini. You mentioned positive thinking.

So do positive affirmations have any impact on self belief?

If you say to yourself, 'I'm always up, I'm never down. I'm always positive,

never negative, always kind, never cruel',

you're going to beat yourself up and your bullshit meter is going to go off in

seconds. Just prove it, try it. You'll see that you'll go, 'No'.

You're going to have uncertainty. So a positive statement is not an affirmation.

As much as the mass market and the new age people think,

the word affirmation comes from its root in Egyptian, words of power,

which are basically to make firm in one's mind.

Affirmation meant a condition of firmness in one's mind. So if I say,

'I'm always up, I'm never down, always positive. Every day,

I'm getting happier and happier and everything else'.

I will never have firmness in my mind, I'll have uncertainty in my mind,

but if I say that, 'whether I'm supported or challenged,

whether I'm praised or reprimanded,

I know that both of them are synchronous and guiding me to my authentic self'.

Now it's a statement,

a checkup from the neck up to letting you know what what's going on in your life

to make sure you're real. But if you say that 'every day in every way,

I'm getting happier and happier and happier',

your bullshit meter is going to go off and its going to go, bullshit, bullshit.

So that's not what an affirmation meant, and affirmations, look,

what's happened in our world today, the masses believe that love,

they confuse love with infatuation.

They confuse enthusiasm with excitement.

They've confused a mission with passion.

And now they've confused the true ego with a false ego because our

animal nature wants to avoid a pain and seek a pleasure and it wants fantasies.

And then it sets up anxieties and fears and self depreciation to try

to guide it back to the authentic self. Everything's a feedback system.

So all of that is trying to get you to live authentically.So positive thinking

by itself is delusional. I mean, positive thinking has a place,

when you're down and you're not seeing, and you're angry and resentful,

you need positive thinking to find out and balance that out.

When you're infatuated and you're gullible and somebody is selling you smoke on

Mars, a special deal and how to get rich overnight, kind of thing,

you need a healthy skepticism.

Skepticism is designed to break down the gullibility,

and positive thinking is designed for negativity,

but you're not to get it above equilibrium,

you're trying to bring them both into equilibrium.

You need skepticism when you're gullible and fantasizing and you need positive

thinking to get you up. So positive thinking is only half the equation.

By itself, it's not. Now if you're sitting there beating yourself up,

it's because you got a fantasy.

So adding more positive thinking to that is not going to help,

going and find the upsides to what you're fearing will,

and find the down sides to the fantasies will, and homeostat,

which is what your intuition is attempting to do,that will help.

But one by itself, no. And that's been proven. I mean, I've got,

I could show you article after article, article and book after book,

just debunking some of this positive thinking myth. So,

and people say, 'well,

weren't you on 'The Secret and didn't you talk about that?' I never said that on

The Secret, other people may have, I was trying to balance people even on that.

I'm not a promoter of that.

I stopped that when I was 30 years old and I gave it up after two year research

on myself about positive thinking. And I, I gave that up.

I realized that was that's for neophytes, not for masters.

I love what Picta said,

picture said that at first people are go on life and they blame others,

then they blame themselves, and then they realize there's nothing to blame.

Everything is actually doing what it's designed to do,

including the people around you responding the way they do that you don't like

because you're addicted to praise and somebody criticized you, you're hurt,

but the criticism is breaking your pride down and making you back into

equilibrium, gets you authentic.

If you understand that you realize there's nothing there to blame.

Nothing to blame in you or them, it's just something to understand.

The wiser you are, the less the blame and the less the credit.

The more you are centered and the more objective you are,

the more grateful you are because you achieve and you help other people be

themselves by not trying to fix them into fantasies that you impose on them.

And Dr. Demartini my last question I've got for you is you talk about the three

things we have control of that.

Can you please elaborate on that - what we've got control over?

Well, we have control of our perceptions,

decisions and actions - our sensory nerves, our inter nerves,

our inter neurons and our motor neurons. And anytime we have a goal,

that's not one of those three. We don't have control over it.

So when somebody says, 'I'd like to make a million dollars a year'. Okay, fine.

That's not a goal. That's a nice result,

but you don't have control over a million dollars a year.

What you do have control over is,

let's say you make 10 calls and every 10 calls, you make a close on a sale.

And the average close on the sale is a thousand dollars.

So every 10 calls gives you a thousand dollars.

So if you want a thousand thousand dollars, which is a million dollars,

you need to do 10,000 calls. So you have control over making 10,000 calls.

You have control over possibly the how well you use your

articulation and motor responses to word things in a way that matches their

values to fill a need and maybe increase the closing from one to 10 to two to

10, then you have less calls to make,

but you don't have control over the million.

You have control over the actions to get you that million.

You have control over the perceptions that it takes to get that million.

And you have control over the decisions of the actions and the perceptions to

get you there.

If you're not going and doing what you love and filling your day with high

priority things and delegating the rest,

or you're not linking what you're doing with your perceptions.

So no matter what happens, it's on the way to help you fulfill that.

You're not going to be using your potential to the maximum.

So learning how to take control over the things you do have control over is the

key and not go after things that are delusions.

You have no control over somebody else's actions.

You have control over how you interact with them and how you can increase the

probability of them being engaged and what you would like them to do

if you give them enough benefits in their values to do it.

But you have to look at what you have control over, and that's your perception,

decisions, and actions. To make sure that no goal is anything but a perception,

decision, action, and you'd be surprised how impactful that is.

You can have a result attached to a goal, but the goal needs to be broken down.

And that's different between a strategy and a fantasy.

A fantasy is 'I want to be a million dollars a year'. A goal is,

'I'm going to make 300 calls or a thousand or 10,000 calls.

I'm going to average one out of 10. I'm going to do that.

I'm going to do it so many a day. I'm going to call between these hours.

These are most efficient hours and plan it out and implement it.

And I get my million dollars'.

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Do you have any last words for us on this topic we discussed today?

Yeah, when I

first was 27 years old,

I was still into the positive thinking and still into the, you know,

impulse and elation kind of mode. And I kept getting slammed.

It wasn't until I turned 30, when I finally broke that illusion and my life

became stabilized from that point on compared to what it was before,

it was a highly volatile, I'd go after fantasy, I'd try to be always positive,

try to be nice and always one sided and just get slammed and kept attracting

events that were humbling me. And I thought that somehow the, you know,

there's something wrong with me. Please know, there's nothing wrong with you.

Nothing. You just been pursuing something

that's probably a bit not congruent with what you really value.

By finding out what you

really value and setting set sail as captain of your ship,

and going after what's really, really important to you,

You change your life. My life changed when I finally got that message.

I've been doing an uphill game, trying to educate people on that,

that change, the masses want the opium,

the masters know it's a fantasy. Let's get grounded.

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Thank you for that, Dr. Demartini for those that joined us on this livetime,

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