In this episode, we explore the intriguing world of romance novels and how they can inspire new romantic approaches in real-life relationships. Discover the hidden secrets of romantic heroes and learn how to integrate these insights to enhance your relationship and boost your sex life.

Part 1: The Cultural Impact of Romance Novels

- Romance novels are a $1.5 billion industry with a rich history dating back to the 1700s.

- They offer a unique perspective on relationships, providing insights into emotions and motivations.

Part 2: Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Dynamics

- Romance novels serve as a masterclass in emotional intelligence, showcasing real-life relationship dynamics.

- They help readers understand mixed messages, conflicts, and motivations in relationships.

Part 3: Creating Intimacy and Connection

- The balance between crisis and intimacy in romance novels highlights the importance of deep connections.

- Practical tips on how to incorporate these elements into your own relationship for a stronger bond.

Key Takeaways:

1. - Romance novels provide valuable insights into real-life relationship dynamics.
2. - Avoid constant crises; focus on creating moments of quiet connection.
3. - Examine and rewrite the stories you tell yourself to align with your desired relationship.

Call to Action:

Explore romance novels to gain new perspectives on your relationship. Try reading together with your partner to enhance your connection.

Closing Thoughts:

Romance novels are more than just entertainment; they offer lessons in love and connection. Embrace these insights to enrich your relationship.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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Ellen Dorian [0:00 - 0:56]: Hey there. Welcome to make more love. This is the show for driven, entrepreneurial men who want their life to be about more than just business success. They also want a passionate, aligned and fun relationship with their spouse that lasts a lifetime. I'm your host, Ellen Dorian, and this is your space for straight up, judgment free conversations about creating a life where you handle the demands of business, relationships and everything else in a holistic and fulfilling way. We're all about helping you be extraordinary in every way that matters. If you're new to the show, be sure to hit that follow or subscribe button right now so you never miss an episode. If you're serious about transforming your relationship and your life, staying connected here is your first step. And if you find today's conversation helpful, please share it with a friend who could use some new ideas for their own relationship.

Ellen Dorian [3:24 - 3:26]: Works, what they do to get out.

Ellen Dorian [3:26 - 6:52]: Of the bad situations, what creates attractions and desire in their partners, what happens when they share their emotions, and how do they make it through those tough times. They are a masterclass in emotional intelligence, but they are way more fun to read than self help books from the pop psychology section of your favorite book site. The second thing is it helps you make sense of mixed messages, misunderstandings, and conflicts. These things are the lifeblood of romance novels, and as such, you get to see how they play out from beginning to end. This kind of emotional insight can be eye opening, especially if you're the kind of person who tends to focus more on actions than the underlying feelings driving those actions. The way people behave in relationships is often a reflection of what's going on inside and that isn't always visible to others. So if you feel like you're often getting mixed messages and mixed signals from your partner, an ideal way to fix that, of course, would be to ask for clarification. But sometimes asking directly only leads to more conflict. So instead, try asking your partner to tell you how they see the situation and ask for examples so effectively getting them to tell you a story and that can lead to clarity for both of you. The third thing they do is deepen your understanding about people's motivations in relationships. These stories explore the core themes of love, desire, conflict, and reconciliation, the same themes that play out in real life relationships every day. They offer a glimpse into what drives people how they love, fear, get jealous, and find passion. They remind us that relationships are high stakes. Seeing a hero make sacrifices for love might reconnect you with what's at stake in your own relationship. So take a moment now and ask yourself, what do you do to make your partner feel like you're fighting for them? That the stakes are high, and what makes you feel like your partner has your back, and that they feel like the stakes are just as high for keeping your relationship healthy and happy. The fourth thing that romance novels tend to do is balance crisis mode with intimate intensity. Most of the time, the romantic hero gets to prove his love by showing up in multiple crises, fighting off evildoers, rescuing their lover from sinking ships, from burning fires, from cursed castles, abandoned planets, zombie invasions, or some other kind of imminent danger. But the best novels dont just jump from one crisis to the next. For one thing, the reader gets burned out if there are no breaks between the crises, and it really gets old. Besides, we need that breathless, bodice ripping, earth shattering sex. That's the main reason we read these books. And those things can't happen in crisis mode. It's those moments of intimate intensity when the hero and his lover truly connect. They let their guard down and see each other clearly. All those things that keep the hero willing to sacrifice himself over and over again for his partner. In real life, those deep, quiet connections make everything feel worth it, even when times get tough.

Ellen Dorian [6:52 - 6:54]: What do you do to create those.

Ellen Dorian [6:54 - 8:03]: Moments of connection and intimacy in your relationship? So those are four things I find interesting about romance novels. I hope by now I've convinced you to give the romance novel thing a try. If so, here's a few things to get the biggest bang for your buck. The first one is actually read the books instead of listening to audiobooks. Audiobooks are great, but they come with someone else's interpretation, their voice, their tone, their timing. When you do the reading, you're in control. You set the pace. You pause where you want, you reread the parts you want. Your imagination will pull elements of your real life into the story, like the characters, the places, the experience. They'll all be built on things that are familiar to you, kind of like a holodeck. And if your partner is participating, here's a few ways you can share the experience. You could just read it on your own, and then read out loud the passages that you like best to your partner. Or you could both read the story separately and talk about it together. Maybe even on date night. Or over drinks and dinner, like a.

Ellen Dorian [8:03 - 8:05]: Sexy book club for two.

Ellen Dorian [8:06 - 8:11]: Or you could read to your partner out loud, or take turns reading out.

Ellen Dorian [8:11 - 8:12]: Loud to each other.

Ellen Dorian [8:12 - 8:30]: My husband is a talented, dramatic reader, and I love to be read to, so this approach works for us. But you know you do. You so read the book. You might just fall in love with falling in love again. Next, we're going to look at how these stories could impact your outlook on your relationship.

Ellen Dorian [8:30 - 9:52]: But before we jump into that, I want to let you know about something special I offer to my listeners. A lot of you have been reaching out with questions about your own relationships and I want to help. So I'm offering this free relationship reset call. It's a quick 15 or so minutes, just you and me, where we get the lay of the land and we sketch out a plan to get you moving in the right direction. If you're thinking about scheduling a call, here are a few questions to ask yourself. Would you like to be sure that you're focusing on the most urgent and important issues in your relationship? Would it be valuable for you to learn how to apply skills you've already mastered in your work to increase the passion in your relationship? And would having an experience guide help you stay on track as you implement new strategies? If you answered yes, then let's connect. Just head over to relationship reset call, grab your spot and we'll jump on a call and figure everything out. Because honestly, and you know this as well as I do, if you let your relationship slide, the cost to you, financially, socially, emotionally, and in every other way is just enormous. It will truly put a dent in your armor. So let's not let that happen. Let's get you on a trajectory to make more love in your life and with your wife.