🎙️ Let’s Talk About It (All of It)

Episode 1: “Let’s Set the Vibe”

Welcome to the very first episode of Let’s Talk About It (All of It) — the raw, real, and unapologetic show about sex, relationships, situationships, and everything in between.

In this episode, we’re setting the tone with wild listener confessions, surprising stats, red flags you keep ignoring, and a fire playlist drop powered by Cornbread N Loud Muszicc.

💬 We’re talking:

- What is a situationship?

- How many people are faking relationships to get over an ex?

- Is still talking to your ex a red flag or a sign of maturity?

- Why the streets stay messy — and what we’re doing about it.

🎧 Segments You’ll Love:

- Pillow Talk Confessions – Real anonymous submissions from listeners like YOU 👀

- Red Flags / Green Flags – This week: Still talking to your ex

- CBNLM Playlist Drop – A vibe curation from Cornbread N Loud Muszicc featuring “Hundred Different Ways,” “6:11,” and more.

🔥 Highlights:

- 65% of young adults say they’ve been in a situationship

- One listener dated someone for months… just to forget their ex

- The messy church hookup we weren’t ready for

- A breakdown of relationship behavior we *shouldn’t normalize*

🎶 This Episode’s Playlist:

Listen now → https://music.apple.com/us/artist/t-sqizz-hpic-hogg/1715075505. https://open.spotify.com/artist/1e6RZTzPALGcajWBEpt8Ts?si=L2yFxWuWS1SYCZspv8lh_g

- "Hundred Different Ways"

- "6:11"

- "Circle Dat" ft. Froze Ony

- "That’s What I Do" ft. CEO Rifeman

- "Great State of Texas"

🔗 Links & Resources:

- Submit your Pillow Talk Confession: IG HostedbyDestinyshanee

- Follow us on IG/TikTok: @LetsTalkAllOfIt

- Partnered with: Cornbread N Loud Muszicc 🎵

💌 Let’s Connect:

Subscribe and leave us a 5-star review to keep the convo going.

Next week’s topic? The “What Are We?” Talk – Why It Scares People Off.

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What's going on? Welcome, welcome, Welcome, welcome. Welcome to pillow talk. This episode is called, let's talk about it. All of it. The show where we get into sex relationships situationships and the messy in between Now, put that under your pillow, right? I'm your host Destiny Shanae and this space right here. It's for the folks who've been ghosted. Gaslit are the ones that are booed up broken up with or plain confused, knows, he or bored, right? This podcast is for everyone. Whatever your reasons. So glad you found me. Welcome. This ain't your polish PG podcast, okay. This is for grown folks where laughed through the pain growth through confusion and keep it all the way f****** real. I started the show because I realized and I'm f***** tired of it. Everyone is going through something but not enough. People were really talking about it. Or too many people are talking about it in the wrong way. So today we're setting the tone. I'm a share little bit about myself. So while stats, that will blow your mind or will it because these stats about you guys and not me, don't know what you thought. You better go look under your pillow, right? Because we're about to pull out. All those secrets that you whisper We are diving straight into the good with pillow, talk, confessions red and green flag, wisdom, and a fire playlist. Drop featuring my favorite family, cornbread and loud music. So let's get into it. So,

all righty, guys. We're gonna start with some statistics and some real talk, did you guys know you guys are gonna? Hold on, hold on, to your phone, hold on to your radio laptops. However, you're listening to this. I want y'all to collect it. because 65% of people aged 18 through 34, say they've never I'm sorry, they say they've been in a situation ship. I believe that but also believe that it's a higher. 65 of all have been in a situationship, man. Look, Okay, these ages are 18 and 34 that includes the whole. 20 group population. Correct. And we know how crazy you guys are 65% of, y'all know. I'm sure it's more like 85.95% of you all have in situationships. But then again, coming to about it, half guys about you guys were in relationships, okay, okay, I'm gonna stop picking up my young folks, I'm gonna stop. I'm gonna stop 78% admit they had unspoken expectations in casual relationships. Now, I will have to say that I have a time or two falling into that 78% category. I think that's pretty accurate. If not, it may be a higher, I'm just gonna say to you. I all these stats are higher, but I think we've all been into a casual relationship where we had expected expectations. Like, for instance, I had casual relationship for a whole year. The expectation that I had was that you were only sleeping with each other. I let's get real, right? We're here to get real I just had that expectation. That we was leaving with each other, you know, after three months, we started sleeping together, unprotected. So yeah, well, boy, was I wrong, very, very wrong. One night.

I over there and it really dawned on me. How much I was wrong, his phone blew up all night and it was crazy is because it was towards end. Anyways, probably after like eight months, his phone blew up all night. One night, a two weekends in a row. Yeah, it pretty crazy. Now let's on 38% say they feel comfortable, talking about sex honestly with the partner. I find that very sad and believe that's why we have Bad relationships, bad, sexual relationships. I that's why why you a bunch infidelity because people are afraid to say what they like, or they are afraid to say what they don't like. You there's some people that go along with with your partner likes and then there's other people that because you don't go along with it, you say, I don't like that, I like the only like but you tell your partner, what you like. So therefore the infidelity comes in and our last statistic, over 70% of people, say they've ignored red flags because they wanted it to work over 70% you should have said over 90%, I would believed that statistic. You're right. We all do. We've there. I've ignored some red flags because I wanted it to work. Ignore red flags in a marriage. I come on. Now, we all do because we're thinking we're to, we're being too sensitive or, you know, you have people out here that talk about women. Oh, you guys are too this. You guys are too. That emotional. You guys were too. Everything. So as a you do ignore some of those red flags because you think, man I just talked about this over here. Now, I see something else so yeah, I think that's 70% is way more of us that ignore red flags, but it is what it is, right? If that's you, don't worry. We're not judging. We're Helen and we are laughing through it. Baby. Tell me about it. Go put that under your pillow, right. so, just,

Stop it. And thinking a bit about those stats makes you really, it makes me really think about okay? Having those conversations. Having those unspoken expectations. Do I still have any of those in my life? And in the answer is, yes, I have those at work, I have those with my family. I have those with, you have an unspoken expectations in every situation ship, that you don't deal whether it's a co-worker, whether it's you anybody else, family, everybody So, yeah, those who this word, where that was real, that real. So we're move on from those to test because what, what do we have? We have some Pillow Talk. Confessions coming up, y'all, this is okay. You guys are wildin In these Pillow Talk confessions, I chose three confessions that I didn't want jump in and scare you guys right at the very beginning because whoa, we this one confession. Just wait until your next couple of episodes. This one particular confession. That want to are I want the person to on and say the confession because I so really want to hear the whole entire story on this one confession, guys, when she wrote in she emailed me by the way and she wrote in to and she was like oh I have a confession and I just want to know. Did look at it, right? What you just gonna have to stay tuned for that confession but let's get into our Pillow. Talk confession show we

All All right. Let's slide into our first first segment, Pillow, Talk. Confessionals. These are real. Some them Anonymous. Some them have their names. There's some missions from our listeners. I went through. Instagram Facebook when was building this. And I asked for a of, you confessions I proposed. I was like, Hey, we're talk relationships. Do guys have anything you to confess? I went to some friends. I went to some non-friends. I went to some co-workers and man, like I said you guys are Walling first confession. This one is a I once faked a whole relationship for three months, just to over my ex They never found out. This one was Anonymous, by the way. So okay, so basically you guys were she was in a with someone who thought y'all were. They all were really dating.

okay, I have questions but Okay, so You know what do what got do to heal, boo? Right? Because I have so many questions. Like when you mean you were a fake relationship that's like one fake relationship for three months. Boo, you was in a whole relationship. You, I don't know what y'all call relationship and I what your definition relationship. I would love to know more of the information because in a relationship where you guys going on dates, where you guys sex scene, where you guys just talkin', where, you just text friends, where you just The male Partners, mean, I know, I don't, I don't know what a fake whole relationship is and that's that's one the books. Somebody definitely write and tell me about that one and Anonymous please write in and explain to us what? And how and did this feek relationship look like right. Okay. Yo, I think I have kept under my pillow, okay. Confession. Number two comes from Mark in Saint Louis. Well, what's up? How you doing marking Saint? Louis already, we matched on an app slept together that night and never exchanged last names, but we ran into each other two weeks later. Oh, guess where they ran into each other at Church. Church church. Church Somebody say, Amen.

Okay.

Wow. Mark in Saint Louis. The Lord said, hi. Did remember me y'all out swiping and repenting swiping and repenting

Okay, Mark. Saint Louis. To me, that sounds like what you guys have been doing to us. Every single day you just she to get her rocks off, you know, women got rocks to it, we need get off sometimes sometimes it's always about being emotional, no how good the sex wasn't no what we said during the It is not always about being in a with us. We do not always want you guys in a relationship sometimes. We just want f*** too. Yes. I said I'm a and trust me, there was one time where I had just got divorced. I was married for 15 years and had just got divorced. And so I know I want to get back in relationship, but I know I just needed to get my backbone out, guys. And boy, did I pick wrong? And boy, did pick wrong? I told him straight up, what it was? I just need to have sex. I'm in married to the man, 15 years, same sexual partner for 15 years. I just need to have sex throwing up in the air call and are all kinds of different things, right? And he was a football player and you know, Send my professional one and it we just happened to be at the party for the Atlanta Falcons. um, And it so because I ran my ex-husband there and was, he texted He like, what are doing here? I'm like what? You're not. The only one that has friends. Okay, so anyway back to story. Um, yeah. So anyway,

I him. We talked Just for a bit. We didn't even exchange numbers. All I was I told him I just got out of a All I want do is f***. That's all I needed for you to just blow my back out. Can you do that tonight? Or is that too much for you? He laughed and his friend said, oh, he can do that. Here's the information. Here's his hotel number, here's everything. Matter of fact, here's his room key park in the garage parking anywhere. The room key. Get in garage, tell everything. Well let listen to that I'm bore you guys with the

Non-sexual activities that we did and we did not have. Let's just say we didn't have any sexual activities, it very disappointed. But when I was leaving early that morning, me and his teammates did go to breakfast and we had a f****** ball at breakfast. I think we stayed there.

Because kids were coming home around 3. I think we stayed at the breakfast spot until 1:30 and then I went home, took a shower and you hey acted, nothing ever happened and was very disappointed. Yeah, it crazy. So, but anyway, the Lord said, hey, y'all, that's what y'all get. Y'all better start asking these people where you go church, have you be running into people, you be doing handstands with at night in the house. Okay, amen, amen. Last confession. Okay, so, this last confession is coming in Anonymous, right? He told me I was the one and you believed it. Oh, that's so cute, baby! Okay, no, I'm just playing. I'm really just f****** you until I met his girlfriend at his birthday party. Y'all.

Can say Birthday Bash turned into an episode of cheater's? I hope you got some cake before you the chaos because you we all know. I love birthday cake and

Real icing. Absolutely, we all I love birthday cake. But baby girl. Did you some cake before you left? A of did pack, you a to-go plate we all know I'm a fat at heart too. I would apply to packed a whole plate. I would have cut half that and I would have took it home. Do some ice cream? Did get some ice cream? Because you cake is not any good without ice cream. Okay. Okay, I'm just playing. I'm playing anyway. Um, that's a lot. How did you find out? She went on to say, She said to his mom. Oh, I'm going to bring his birthday cake out. I had his birthday cake made and this is it his mom said, who are you? His girlfriend already made his birthday cake.

Oh,

Okay. So that's how you was broken to your boyfriend having a girlfriend by his mother who asked who you were Oh child. Yeah, you definitely was not the one because this mother asked who you were. No, baby. You was never the one. How did you think you were the one? That's what I want to know. How did think that? What happened? What led up to it? How long were you guys to get there? See you guys just be throwing in little bitty stuff but you don't throw in all of it. I need to know it information, baby. I need to know details. So if y'all want drop any confessions slide into my DMs or hit up in link. In show notes, we it Anonymous but unless you leave a name and say you mine us you know saying your first name but we definitely go talk about you, okay, okay. All man. Yo, I cannot wait to hear some of these other confessions. I cannot wait until we get next season. We're gonna have live confessions. So just remember that next season live confessions, this gonna be so fun, because then that way you get people, I get to ask the questions back and forth. Like I want to know the whole thing. Yes. You know, I'm nosy like that. So anyway who those confessions? You guys have me? You guys have my insides one to everything like I'm even knows you person but want reach out to all three of these people would be like oh what happened? Fake relationship. What happened and one night stand at church. What happened? And not the one. Not the one. Well. Okay guys. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, guys. Up. Next we're gonna have our second segment. The I know you guys been waiting for red, flags, green, flags, coming up, y'all

Alrighty. Alrighty. All right. Time for reflect green flags because sometimes it's not toxic. Sometimes, it's just a test that you keep failing. How y'all think about that? What y'all feel about that? So, let's talk about it. when they're still close with their EX, y'all like that. What? They're still arguing with their ex constantly but claimed that there are over it. To me, that's a flag, straight up red flag. How long you guys been together. Are you know what? Let me just go back. It should I I'm not gonna date anybody who just broke it with somebody. That's that right there is not gonna happen. You've got to have been broken up with them for at six months to a other than that, I'm not gonna date you. I don't mind you saying yeah, I was a w**** for last six months or was a horror been a horse. Okay, that's understandable. You're a single, you do whatever you want but to say that you just broken up with somebody a month ago and you want get with me. No thank you. I will not be your rebound check understand. Okay. That a red flag to me. Like I I if you say you're over your ex and you guys are constantly arguing, how long have you guys been to broken up? What are you guys? Are you about? You guys have kids. There's so many things that would go into that but that is a red flag for Green flag. They've co-parented successfully and it's all about boundaries and respect. You all can see where there's boundaries. You can see where there's respect. You know, does he answer the phone when says these are my kids calling? You know, just the answer, the phone in front of you and then it's his kid's. We're talking about green flag here. His kids call him. Oh, this is my Baby mama or whatever you want to title her you know this is this this they say this is the b****, they don't say this is this is that know what they say is. This is my baby moms. This is children's father, this my children's Mother.

Let take this respectful. Hello, how you doing? Okay, the need this, all right. That's what's up? Put them on phone. Or you know, it's not this long drawn-out conversation co-parenting is a blessing for everybody in. Falled when I have successfully co-parented for a month and my kids are in their 20s. Um yeah I successfully co-parented for 30 days and yeah so yeah I yeah yeah another red flag they can compare you to their ex are they bring them up and every argument if you can pair me to anybody that you have been with in the sense of hey, you know, they did this or you gonna do that or anything negatively. That's a red flag, and I'm gone. if they compare me anything positively, That's a red flag and I'm gone. Yes, I said it. Leave your ex in the past because I'm not going to sit here and you what my ex did. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna tell you anything about my ex. I'm going to tell you what, I do not like that works for me. And what I do like that works for me. And it has no bearing on what somebody did in the past. That's why I think we go wrong. In this relationship thing. We think we need to share every single thing. I just need open it honesty about certain things. I don't want to know that you're in your Xbox up against the Every time you guys f******, you always f****** side of a I don't need to know those details. I need to know. Are you over her? That's all that matters. Are you over him? So yeah. All this talking about the exes, I don't date any. I also throwing this out there. I don't date men with children. I did one time and did not end the correct way. So He was an.

I say, I did not know he had a kid. Let's just put it that way will be started. Dating, I did not know he had a kid. And that was a red flag. Number one, I didn't even you had a kitten. When we started dating, let alone moving in together, and getting married. This is the second husband. Yes, I've married twice. So yeah, I would not have dated him if I would have known, he a I don't date men with kids. It's because

sometimes you guys are not really honest about your baby mother and your baby mother thinks that she has this over you. So I don't really date men with kids at all when and I know some people say well you have kids, you're right. And if you don't date women with kids and that's why we don't date. I I'm not gonna sit here and apologize for saying I don't date men with kids when I have kids. That has nothing to do with you guys if you want to date me crate, great, great great. Great, come date. Me if you don't want to date me, then you can keep it pushing. I probably don't even know that you don't want to date me because we probably have never crossed paths. Anyway, right, okay. Last green flag. They've healed and they're open about what they've learned but not obsessed. I that's what I trying say earlier you, if you're telling me what you've learned in relationship, your last relationship that's totally wonderful. If I see what you've learned in your last relationship that's totally wonderful. It's still a little bit obsessive if you're going to keep saying well in my relationship, it taught This my last relationship my last relationship, my relationship. That is the words. I don't want to hear I want to see what it has taught you. I don't want to hear about your last relationship teaching you. I want to see that you're a better person than your last relationship, right? So what's y'all's is it maturity Army manipulation? Let know for next week's segment. This going to be pretty interesting

and what you guys say.

So next up are very last segment of the evening. Thank you so much for You know, talking to me. Thank you all for listening for tuning in. This is gonna be exciting. I have so many good things coming up talking to you guys in next coming up weeks. We have A show with two guests, we're going to be talking about relationships men versus women. That is one of our next episodes coming up we have another episode all this episode's are going be about relationships, right? About getting better with relationships about knowing how to talk to each other in relationships.

Again, questions concerns. Hey, I know what to do with this. I don't what to do with that. Why you keep falling for this same type? That's an episode situation. And so ties situationships and soul ties. OMG, I cannot wait that episode. That episode is going be really juicy that episode touches my heart, because I have had situationships that I thought was so ties. Right, man, I've had a situationship to where I thought, there's no way I am gonna come out of this situation alive because it is breaking my heart not to have my soulmate. It's breaking, my heart not to be with the person or and it was just a lot that, that, that one is is going to be a lot, man. I just, I, I don't even know what say about that when that was just gonna be so much sex spectation, the conversations you're not having sex with. If you don't know, you will soon know because you might not be You might be new to me. You might not know about what's going on with me. But anyway, I love sex and I talking about it and it's just amazing. He killed people date differently. Hey, that the truth, put that under your pillow, right? Because when you're healed you don't put up with a lot things when you're healed. You know exactly what you want when you're healed. Nobody can trick you into believing. something that, you know, is a but is really B. You can't get that you. You don't fall for the same type when you're healed. You have those so ties. When you're healed, you have sex expectations when you're healed because you know how to conversate and talk them out, you do not keep falling for the same type when you're healed. Hence the title,

he'll people date differently, right? And of course we have is it lust is love or is it loneliness? That's right. That's right. You know we have this season is going to be super dope with all our guests coming on with all of your emails that you have coming towards me talking about it. You guys heard what I have coming up, don't forget to DM me and hosted by destination May on Instagram hosted by Destiny. Shanay on Facebook, DM me about your Pillow Talk confessionals, DM me. Let know what topics you can't wait to talk about. Let me know if you want to come and be a guest on the show, you know? So, let's just jump into this playlist. Like, I told you guys earlier, there was gonna be a playlist by my family. Yes, and bias cornbread and loud music. That is our record label company that

They wow, the music, the music, the music, the music, I call it boy music, and they always laugh at me because it's nothing but a of men. I need some women, any women rappers women singers, want come and join our group or come and join our company cornbread and allow music. Everything is done in house, we have a studio. We also have endometrial Galaxy which is our video production so you guys get backgrounds. You guys get up close and personal. You guys get your interviews. You guys get so much just come join. Cornbread loud music, right? Shameless plug, okay. so, We can't in episode without setting the mood, right? Okay. So This is cornbread in loud music Vibes, vol 1. It's a situationship soundtrack created by my family right? Even though the song is are not about what they're saying but these songs were going to explain to you what these songs are about and how you can match this song with this app. But these episodes, right? We got about Well, four or songs for you.

First one, we're going to listen to a Snippets. Remember, these are Snippets of the songs, guys. 100 different ways. You always go and you can find it on iTunes Spotify. It's gonna be under T. Dash, squeeze, s q u, i z. I'm sorry, I spell that all wrong guys that's so crazy as cute. I z z t dash s q. I z z Space h p. I c space h, o w g you'll know on every Place you play me music. First song up is a 100 different ways that song says I love you, but I'm confused. It does it. The title says, I love you, but I'm confused. The song. Basically is just about getting paid 100 different ways, right? So go ahead, let's listen to it for a little bit.

All right, all right. That's 100 different ways. I like that. That's one of my favorite songs by T, squeeze. the next song coming up by froze only. Right. Circle that.

Circle that is like a bot for when you peep the double standards. You know this is so cool. How it matched up the songs with the things that we were talking about. So it's as Bots for when you peep the double standard Circle that feature Pros only.

Okay. Okay, you know. And then we got the next thing by T. Squeeze 611. This is like quiet Vibes, healing tears play this post situation ship right.

Okay, okay, of next. Y'all and I know we going fast with this playlist, but I just wanted to give you guys a snippet. This playlist matches, you know, this episode, right? Something different. So, the step by CEO Rifleman featuring, T, squeeze. That's what I do. Pretty much you're saying walk away with confidence. That's what this this title is saying, right? Walk away with your confidence up because what? Because that's what I do.

All righty, alrighty, coming at you. Last but not least this song gives you Hometown Vibes piece reclaimed because, why? Because it's the great state of Texas. That's what's up.

Okay, okay. So, how did you guys like that? Little short, intermission, intermission with some music, right? Like I said, the songs match the titles, the titles match the episodes, and what we're talking about, we had a different ways that song says, I love you but I'm confused. The title says, I love you but I'm confused, right? Song about making that money. Circle that right bop for when you peep that double standard. You guys 611. You the quiet Vibes, you got human tears, right? You're gonna play that song. Post relationship, post situationship. That's what I do. Walk away with your confidence up because what, that's what you do baby and the great state of Texas because we write here in the state of Texas. Hometown Vibes for you guys under in Texas. You know, this is my second Hometown Phoenix. Arizona straight up my first Hometown, but, you know, we gonna go ahead and clean great state of Texas. So tap, the playlist in the show notes, tell me which ones are your Anthem right now? Hit me up. DM me send me a message which I think about the music.

Oh, thank you all for listening. That is a wrap for first episode of. Let's talk about it all of it. If you laughed related or said, damn, that's me, then I'm doing my job. Make you subscribe rate US five stars and share with someone who needs to know that what they're going through. They're not alone. Next episode, we're to dive into some situationship rules, do they exist? Should they, let's talk about it. Follow us on IG and tiktok and drop. Your confessions questions or even your playlist mood? Until next time, stay bold, stay honest, and stay out your ex's. DMs. Piece.