Sexy isn’t a look — it’s permission 🔥

In today’s tea time sesh, Amanda steps fully into Sexy 27 Chapter and names her intention for 2026: freedom — the kind that comes from choosing yourself without apology.

If you’re done performing, people-pleasing, and living by rules that were never made with you in mind, this tea time sesh is your permission slip to redefine sexiness and freedom on your own terms. Amanda spills the tea on her four-step framework for designing a life that feels energizing, aligned, and unapologetically yours.

From owning your version of sexy, to building daily rituals that fuel your energy, curating relationships that honor your growth, and choosing play and joy without guilt — this episode is equal parts reflection and action. No perfection. No aesthetic pressure. Just intentional choices that support the version of you you’re becoming.

And because this is Dare To Be Iconic, Amanda isn’t asking you to become someone new — she’s challenging you to come home to yourself, out loud.

If you’re ready to stop shrinking, start choosing pleasure and alignment, and step into 2026 with confidence — this one’s for you. 💫

🎧 Press play and dare to own your sexy.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Dare To Be Iconic

01:23 Connect with Amanda

01:43 The Sexy 27 Sale

02:25 How to Design A Life That Serves You

02:44 Step 1: Own Your Sexy

08:42 Step 2: Build Your Sexy Energy

12:58 Step 3: Curate Your Relationships

15:25 Step 4: Embrace Play and Joy

19:20 Discover Your Signature Scent with Oakcha!

21:17 See You Next Week!

What's up, radiant icons and welcome back to Dare To Be

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Iconic, the podcast made for icons

who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli.

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And for today's tea time sesh, we

are spilling the tea on freedom

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and sexiness because freedom

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And how are we doing that?

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Radiant icons.

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Well, I am so glad you asked.

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We are designing a life

that actually serves us.

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So this is about building habits.

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This is about designing your energy.

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This is about living intentionally

because you know I love me, some

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intentional living so that you can

truly design a life that feels aligned,

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magnetic, and unapologetically you.

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So by the end of today's tea Time sesh,

you will have a simple four step framework

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to start designing the life that actually

serves you this year that is filled

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with freedom and sexiness, and I am so

excited to dive into it, radiant icons.

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But before we get into that.

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Make sure to connect with me on

socials, on Instagram and TikTok.

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It's @amandapaolicelli_

and @daretobeiconic_.

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And if you're on LinkedIn radiant icons,

you already know what I'm gonna say.

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Make sure to connect with me on there.

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It's Amanda Paolicelli.

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All of my show notes are linked

in the description below.

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And speaking of show notes, radiant

icons, I mean, we can't talk

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about freedom looking sexy without

talking about the sexy 27 sale.

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That sexy 27 sale is still

valid as of right now.

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I don't know when I'm gonna end

it, but I think it's gonna be soon.

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So make sure to grab that exclusive bundle

deal offer, which is one copy of our

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breakup journal, breakup with the past,

fall in love with the future, and to one

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piece from the Radiant Reign collection of

your choosing for an exclusive bundle deal

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price that you cannot find anywhere else.

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All that information for the Sexy 27

sale can also be found in my show notes.

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All right, radiant icons,

that's enough chitchatting.

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Let's get to the piping hot tea

because I know that's what you're

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here for and I am going to deliver

like I always do for you, man.

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I just love spilling the

tea about my life on here.

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But any who?

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Anyway, let's get to that tea time

sesh, shall we, radiant icons?

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Are you ready?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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I do not think it is a secret to

anyone who listens to this podcast

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or follows me on social media that

this chapter of my life is dedicated

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to reclaiming and figuring out what

sexiness and freedom mean to me.

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And well while I've been on this

journey of figuring out what.

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Both of those words, those

intentions mean to me in my life.

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I have created this four step

framework that allows you to

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dive into that sexy freedom.

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So let's get into step number one.

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You need to own your sexy.

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Sexiness is an energy that you

possess that is unleashed once you

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embrace the freedom that you have.

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Freedom starts with this clarity

about what you want and who you are,

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you just have to be willing to listen

radiant icons- to your body, your

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intuition, to those parts of you

that have been quiet for too long.

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So for instance, in this chapter

of my life where I am owning my

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sexy, right, I am owning my freedom.

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I am learning how to

reclaim it for myself.

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I grew up learning that sexiness was

something to be tucked away, hidden, or

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only unlocked for the pleasure of a man.

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That being sexy for myself,

being desirable for myself was

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something that was dirty, that it

was a sin, it was a risk, right?

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It was something that wasn't encouraged,

so I had no idea what the hell sexy

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meant to me until I made that intentional

choice last year before my birthday to

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dedicate this chapter of my life, chapter

27, to figuring out what sexy means

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to me, and I crafted my own personal

definition of sexy, which is, if you guys

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don't remember, is embracing all parts

of becoming, because every version of

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Amanda, whether she went through some

really hard shit or she went through

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some really great shit, all versions of

me were necessary to become the version

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of Amanda that I am right now that is

giving myself permission, giving myself

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that freedom to explore my sensuality,

to explore my sexiness, to explore my

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voice and my body and my choices when

it comes to that intention of sexiness.

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And maybe when I think of sexiness,

it's a little bit daunting because of

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something I'm currently working through.

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Like I am in therapy right now working

through a sequence of traumatic events

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that has happened to me and sexiness and

freedom are so tangled together For me.

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Like it's hard to explain without going

into the details, but for me it's a very

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personal journey that is very difficult

because I don't know how to own my sexy.

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I don't know how to be free.

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Sorry, radiant icons.

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I didn't think I was gonna get emotional.

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It is a hard journey owning your

sexy when all you have been taught

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is fear and survival when it

comes to those two distinct words.

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It's hard to own your femininity, to

own that freedom of expression with

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your voice and your body when all you've

been taught is that it is a sin, that

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it is dirty and it is a risk, especially

paired with trauma that kind of fucks

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up your brain, if I'm being honest.

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So when it comes to this step

of owning your sexy, right?

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That mindset and identity, I challenge

you to write one core belief that will

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guide you in this sexy freedom journey.

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And mine is that freedom to me

means giving myself permission to be

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sexy in the way that is true to me.

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I can apply that in so many areas of

my life, not just through the hardship

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that I'm dealing with right now.

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I can apply that to everything.

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How do I possess this?

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Energy that is within

me, how do I unleash it?

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Right?

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It starts with allowing myself to reclaim

this narrative and break free from the

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expectations that have been put upon

me since I was a young girl, right?

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Like.

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It's breaking these trauma cycles.

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It's breaking these societal norms.

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It's breaking what everyone

expects me to be and just be me.

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Just own my sexy.

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I really didn't think I was gonna

get emotional, but you know what?

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Fuck it.

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It's sexy being emotional.

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It's sexy owning your emotions.

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It's sexy just being you, right?

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I mean, that's the whole

concept of dare to be iconic.

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You need to dare to be yourself.

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How can I dare to be sexy if

I don't lean into what makes

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me so magical and powerful?

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Me leaning into my emotions

is pretty fucking sexy.

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And it's freeing.

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It's freeing to own the bad

shit that has happened to me.

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Reclaiming it for myself,

taking my power back.

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So yeah, that's my one core

belief that I'm leaning into and I

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challenge you to do the same radiant

icons when it comes to this step.

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Step number two, radiant icons.

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I promise you, I will not be

getting emotional is about

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habits and daily rituals.

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You need to build your sexy

energy, your routines shape your

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identity radiant icons, okay?

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Freedom plus sexy equals habits

that serve not drain you.

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Remember last week how we spoke about

protecting our peace and how we really

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have to audit our energy and see what

not only we do and do not tolerate,

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but we need to see what drains us and

how we can remove it from our lives.

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And so building our sexy energy

goes hand in hand with that.

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I mean, honestly, step two and three,

again, they're a little one, two for

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you, but I won't get ahead of myself.

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So building your sexy

energy radiant icons.

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I need you.

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I challenge you to pick one

daily ritual that makes you feel

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alive, magnetic, or grounded.

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So that can be some

morning movement, right?

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It can be a stretch, it

can be a hot girl walk.

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It can be yoga, it can be

Pilates, it could be dancing.

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I mean, it doesn't even have

to be in the morning, right?

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It could be whenever feels

right for you to move your body.

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You just need to move your body movement

is so essential when it comes to building

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that sexy energy because you are getting

in tuned with your body and falling

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in love with the way that it moves,

figuring out what feels comfortable,

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what doesn't feel comfortable for you.

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Feeling safe in your body is essential

when you are building this sexy

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energy and honestly, radiant icons.

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I know that is hard because our bodies

hold and store so much trauma, right?

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No matter what type of trauma you went

through, our bodies hold it so figuring

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out a way to release that trauma

physically allows you to build that sexy

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energy that you possess in the inside.

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Again, it's only unleashed when you

allow yourself to be free, so allow

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yourself to be free through movement.

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Another thing that you can

do is some power journaling.

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You know, I'm gonna drop in our breakup

journal because I think that is one

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of the best journals on the market.

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I mean, I may be biased,

but I know it's true.

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Our breakup journal allows you to break

up with your past, break up from that

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past version of you from that trauma that

you still hold onto, so that you can fall

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in love with the future, with the life

that you are designing that serves you.

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So I'm gonna recommend the breakup

with the past fall in Love with the

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Future Journal that you can get in the

show notes, but any who anyway if you

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feel like writing is therapeutic for

you, it is a cathartic experience then

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I recommend journaling as your daily

ritual to build up that sexy energy.

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And lastly, and I, I, I, I am

guilty of this radiant icons.

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I mean, I'm guilty of all these

things because all these things

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help me build my sexy energy when

I'm not feeling so sexy, right?

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Creating a signature outfit, a lip combo

or scent that makes you feel unstoppable.

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As you know, radiant icons, it's me

and my lip combo against the world.

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It's me and my lip

combo against the world.

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When I put on this lip, I feel so sexy.

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I know I look hot.

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I know I am that bitch.

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When I have this lip combo on,

I'm like, damn, I am that girl.

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Even if I don't feel like

it, when I smell good, right?

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When I use my signature scent of

that sinful and that girl viral

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vanilla from Oakcha, that allows me

to build that sexy energy because

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again, I am just feel unstoppable.

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So pick one daily ritual that makes

you feel alive, that makes you feel

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magnetic or makes you feel grounded.

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Sexy energy is a habit, not a

permission slip, radiant icons, okay?

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So create those habits for you that

allow you to build your sexy energy

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and go back to step number one:

it allows you to own your sexy.

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And building off of

step two Radiant Icons.

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Step three focuses on

relationships and energy.

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You have to curate who gets access

to you as you are owning your sexy

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as you are building your sexy energy.

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Because not everyone gets access to this

version of you, to this life that you

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are designing that feels so magnetic.

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Not everyone gets access to that, okay?

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It's, it's an honor and privilege

for someone to get to know you and

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for someone to have that access

of your sexiness and freedom.

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So, what are we gonna do?

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We need to now look at our

relationships and energy.

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We have to curate who gets access to us.

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You have to be selective and sexy

with who gets your time and energy.

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True freedom comes from this freedom from

toxic energy and sexiness equals right?

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If we're doing a little math

equation, sexiness equals being

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magnetic to the right people and

you're repelling the wrong ones.

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You don't need any toxic energy as

you are designing this life for you

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that is so intentionally created to

the path that you are going down.

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Last week we looked at who

and what drains us, right?

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Who and what does not serve us.

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This week, we're taking it a step further.

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I want you to look at who

and what energizes you.

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Once you have selected on

who or what energizes you.

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I want you to dive into that deeper.

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I want you to spend more time with

those people who energize you.

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I want you to spend more time

doing the things that energize you.

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I want you to do the things that you

know give you true freedom because

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that is sexy freedom, radiant icons.

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You cannot be free and sexy if

your energy is being borrowed

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by people who don't value it.

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So now that you have curated what

your life looks like without those

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distractions, without those people

who just drain you, it's time to

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pour into the people or situations.

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That energize you, that allows you

to keep on creating this sexy energy.

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Last but not least, radiant icons.

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We have made it to step four and step

four I am not gonna lie, it's my favorite

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step in this four step framework.

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It has been so transformative and vital

to me on this journey of reclaiming my

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sexiness and my freedom because when

I think of sexy freedom, I think of

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thriving and I think about joy in action.

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And for the longest time, I think

honestly, my whole life, I have

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never let myself truly be free.

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I've never truly let myself

thrive when it comes to sexiness.

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I've never let myself be free

to explore my sexiness, right?

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I've never allowed myself to

truly thrive in this joy in

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action that comes with being sexy.

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As you guys know, as I mentioned earlier

in today's tea time sesh, sexiness to

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me was something that I've always been

taught could not be desirable for myself.

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It always has to be for the

pleasure of a man, right?

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Being sexy for myself was

something that was dirty.

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It was a risk.

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It was a sin.

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And maybe that's because

of my Catholic upbringing.

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Maybe it's because of the traumatic

events that have happened to me.

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I like maybe it's a combo of that.

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It probably is, and that has really

stalled me on this journey of allowing

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myself to thrive in owning my sexy and

being free in it, point blank and period.

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It really has been a big

roadblock and obstacle for me.

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When I think about taking my power

back and reclaiming my narrative

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and redefining sexiness for me and

freedom for me, I think about play

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being the ultimate power move.

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I think about me being playful and me

having purpose with being playful, right?

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Or being intentional, maybe

that's a better word for it.

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With this play aspect of sexiness

is really the biggest f you to

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the person that has caused me

trauma in my life when it comes to

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that area, you know what I mean?

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And so for me, creating a life that feels

good comes down to picking one thing a

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week that makes me feel alive and free.

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And that is my challenge

for you, radiant icons.

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And when it comes to picking one thing

for you, it could be a dance class.

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I don't think it's a secret.

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We all know I, I love me heels dancing.

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It's really.

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It really has been so instrumental

in my healing journey, um, and really

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has allowed me to be connected back

to my myself again and my body.

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But, you know, it could be a dance class.

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It doesn't have to be heels dance,

even though I recommend it to everyone.

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Um, it could be a creative project that

you have been itching to start, right?

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It could be a spontaneous adventure.

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It could be a luxurious self-care

ritual, whatever it is that

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makes you feel alive and free.

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Radiant icons, Think about it

as a little solo date, right?

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Making designated time for yourself to

be alive and free, and picking something

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that actually truly does feed your

soul and make it something that is a

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constant, constant thing in your schedule.

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For me, I know every Wednesday I'm

going to that damn heels class.

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I'm going for two hours.

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And I'm gonna, you know, my

knees may be bruised, my body may

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be hurting, but you know what?

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My soul feels good.

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And that's what I want

for you radiant icons.

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Ad: Okay, radiant icons.

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I'm gonna let you in on a little secret.

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As you know, we are in our radiant

reign era and for me in this era, I have

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been finding little things that make me

feel powerful, that make me feel sexy,

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that make me feel unapologetically me.

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And one of those is my

iconic signature scent.

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I have crafted mine with Oakcha.

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I do sinful layered with That

Girl Vanilla and it is delectable.

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It is sinful and it is

sexy if I say so myself.

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Every spritz just feels

like confidence bottled up.

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It is my reminder that I am evolving

for myself, not anyone's dusty ass son.

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And you can have that too.

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Radiant icons.

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Make sure to build your own fragrance

through Oakcha, use the discount

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code linked in the show notes

below to save yourself some cash.

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Because icons do not follow trends.

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We set the standard.

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Amanda Paolicelli: Oh my goodness,

radiant icons time really does fly

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when you are having fun and I was

having so much fun for today's tea

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time sesh, but any who, any way.

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If you enjoy today's episode, make sure

to subscribe, to Leave a Rating, A review,

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to tell your friends about us, to tell

everyone and anyone, radiant icons because

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you know, we love what More radiant

icons in our iconic community of ours.

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I truly cannot wait Radiant icons to

see all the habits and rituals that you

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are creating and choosing for yourself

that represent your sexy freedom.

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So make sure to share it on

socials, whether it's TikTok,

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Instagram, LinkedIn, wherever it is.

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Make sure to tag Dare To Be Iconic

and myself because we want to see it.

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Okay?

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We love this sexy freedom Journey

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because you are just iconic like that.

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Let's spill the tea about

what to expect next week.

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Next week is an episode rewind,

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It is one of my favorite episodes

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Um, it's about reclaiming your narrative,

something we spoke about a lot in today's

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tea time sesh, and it is something that we

will be speaking a lot about in February.

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I'm scared for February because it

is a very personal month for me.

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But before we dive into that vulnerability

that I will be sharing about for the

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first time ever, anywhere publicly.

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We are bringing it back to the foundation

of Dare to Be Iconic, which is reclaiming

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your narrative or rewriting it.

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And I am so excited to do a little

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But any who, anyway, I

love you guys so much.

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Thank you for listening.

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Thank you for being here and I can't wait

for next week, so I'll chat with you then.

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Remember, radiant icons dare to be iconic.

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Bye.