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Raising Independent Children
Episode 4620th April 2022 • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids • Dr Maryhan
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Doesn’t every parent want an independent, self motivated, resilient child or teen who takes ownership of their learning (and revising), their bedroom, their behaviour and their choices??  

Sound too good to be true?  It’s really not but the secret is starting early and please don’t worry if you’ve already got a teen - all is not lost!!  

Independence breeds confidence and confidence leads to resilience. What distinguishes those who are the most successful in life is their ability to pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and start all over again!! I’ll share my top seven tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(02:42) Are we too risk averse with our children? 

(06:36) Our role is to raise independent children 

(11:12) Set growth-appropriate expectations 

(13:58) Reflect on your own attitides towards risk 

(17:31) Your children should contribute around the house 

(21:29) Encourage children to do tasks in their own way 

(24:26) Help them to problem solve independently 

(26:04) Teach responsibility through an allowance 

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