18 “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
God. Genesis 2:18. Hi, it’s Nathan, and this is Day 15 of 30 Days to a Better Marriage.
Ultimately, marriage is not about sex, or paying the bills, or having kids—it’s about companionship—a companionship of equals. It’s about somebody to walk the road of life with. Someone to learn to love. Someone to grow with. Make this the focus of your marriage. Recognize that it’s not winning the argument, or getting the most attention—it’s strengthening your companionship. Learn to walk together, to press into that companionship. To revel in it. To build an unstoppable team of two. Now, I know some of you can’t hardly imagine experiencing this—injury and pain have nearly obliterated any sense of connection with your spouse. I’m no prophet. I don’t know if hope is a futile enticement or if healing is a real possibility, but I like to think it is. I’d encourage you to choose to be committed. Choose to see your spouse differently. Choose to forgive. Choose to take the steps toward wellness that you can take. Love lavishly—yet with no strings attached. You, too, may yet be able to experience companionship in a marriage that you fear is lost.
