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Embracing the Multifaceted Self: A Heartfelt Conversation
Episode 8217th August 2023 • Momma Has Goals • Kelsey Smith
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Today, I want to dive deep into a topic that hits close to home for me: honoring my multifaceted self and embracing my humanity as a mom.

As a mom, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of daily responsibilities and lose sight of our own passions and desires. But here's the thing—I've come to realize that it's vital to find time for activities that bring me joy and fulfillment outside of motherhood. That's exactly what we're going to explore in this episode.

As we dive into the discussion, I'll be sharing some of my own experiences as a mom—the moments that make me smile like serving up breakfast in bed, and the times I've had to soothe my child after a nightmare. I'll also touch on a powerful truth: every beauty has another layer of difficulty. Motherhood is no exception. While it brings immense joy and fulfillment, it also comes with its fair share of obstacles. But don't worry—I've got some practical insights and strategies to help us navigate these complexities and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever.

Trust me, celebrating our achievements beyond motherhood, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care are crucial steps toward unlocking our true potential. So, if you're ready to reclaim your identity, honor your multifaceted self, and live life to the fullest as a mom with goals, then you don't want to miss this episode.

What you'll hear in this episode:

[1:30] Honor your multifaceted self and be a human.

[3:10] What do you like to do for fun outside of being a mom?

[5:05] Sometimes being a mom looks like breakfast in bed, other times it looks like calming a child after a nightmare.

[8:00] Every beauty has another layer of difficulty.

[9:20] How can you make yourself say that you are multifaceted?


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Kelsey Smith 0:00

Because here's the thing, why are you hiding your hobbies at work? Why are you hiding who you are outside of motherhood? Why are you hiding a part of you? It's because you're not understanding that you can be multifaceted and that they can come together. It's because you're not allowing there to be darkness when there's light. And that doesn't mean that it's darkness. But for some reason, somewhere, you've put a label on something that you can't be both. So what do you need to unpack? What T chart of negatives and positives do you need to work through? To find that layers go together? How can you make yourself say, Okay, I

Kelsey Smith 0:49

welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys, wife, an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how.

Kelsey Smith 1:43

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Kelsey Smith 9:09

So what do you need to unpack what T chart of negatives and positives do you need to work through? To find that layers go together? How can you make yourself say Okay, I am multifaceted and these things go together. I am a mom and more. I am a career woman and more. I am a business owner and more I'm a wife and more I am me and more. You are all of those different things and sometimes it's going to look beautiful just like I read sometimes it looks like maybe breakfast and bed and cuddles and beautiful memories and it's that Instagram highlight reel. And other times it looks like a hot mess. And maybe that's when you're pulling out the journal. Maybe that's when you're sitting there and you're like gosh, am I doing anything right? What am doing, how am I going to make this better. But when you're in those moments, if you can remember the positives and you can say, Okay, I may be feeling this way today. But my blessings are this, I am grateful for this. This is what is good right now, this is what I know I am doing well. And if you truly can't find any of this yourself, if you can't find that other layer, that multifaceted portion for you, then find someone in your life to pour back into, it might be the mama housecalls community, if you don't know anyone in your life that can do that for you. It doesn't mean that you don't have any one good in your life, right? We can't expect that one person in our life to be everything. This was such a learning for me, I absolutely adore my husband, he is such a pillar. He's everything to me. But I cannot expect him to do everything that I need. It's not fair to him, even when I forget that sometimes. So find your other people to support you and uplift you find the other people that you need to remind you that you are more than whatever it is that's currently holding you, you are more than your job, you are more than just a mom, you are more than just a wife, you are more than your house, you are more than that title, you're more than a friend, you are multifaceted, you are probably at least five different things, if not more when it comes to titles and badges that you were positive and negative. So on the days that it looks really great, acknowledge those, acknowledge what's so great about those different layers. What does it look like when it feels so good. And when it doesn't feel as good when you're wondering if you're doing it right? When you're wondering if you're in the right job or in the right business. Or if you're doing the right thing. Then think about that to acknowledge those layers, because they're all pieces to the puzzle. They're all portions of your story. And when you know what feels really good, and you know what feels tough, you can honor both sides of it. And then you can be the multifaceted person that you are. And allow yourself to be a human. So sending you so much love mama. Keep going after those goals. I want to know what came up for you in this conversation? What were you thinking about as I read these different things to you? I would love to know. And I have a visitor so yeah. And sometimes multifaceted mama looks like recording on the podcast and giving hugs. Want to say hi. See you next week, Mama. There's so much more where this came from. Take the next step and download the mama high schools app or visit our web platform. real authentic, full supportive community is available at your fingertips and we can't wait to create space for you mama