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2. What has held me back? Who am I looking for permission from to start living out my purpose?
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Most women struggle with their self image and self confidence. Her self expression provides knowledge, support, and insight to help women on their life journey to self-empowerment on the inside and out, so they can confidently and successfully take on the world. Today I have these questions for you to ponder.

Do you know what your life purpose is? Have you tapped into it? If not, do you know how to get there? Well, my guest today is Gabrielle Boche, who is going to talk with me about how to step into your purpose and get paid as an expert for what you know. Gabrielle is one of the most book millennial speakers in the world.

She has been called The Next Generation of Motivators by Tom Ziegler. Is a pop popular two time TEDx presenter, bestselling author and founder and president of the Millennial Solution, her work. Yet this has been endorsed by the likes of Dwayne the Rock Johnson. Brian Tracy Lewis house and co-founder of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Mark Victor Hanson.

Gabrielle has worked with everyone from presidential campaigns, the US Navy and Air Force, and the top brands in the world. Gabrielle has been featured in major media outlets including Success, npr, Sirius XM Radio, Bloomberg Radio. Glamour Magazine, Business Insider in Los Angeles Times. The better question is where has she not been featured?

So and is frequently call on to speak and consult on millennial motivation and engagements for Fortune 500 companies. Gabrielle now utilizes her 11 years of millennial research to provide high. Solutions to a broad range of clients from automotive giants to boutique media shops to the US government.

Her books include the Purpose Factor, Extreme Clarity for why you're here and what to do about it. Five. Millennial Myths, The Handbook for Managing and Motivating Millennials. Second edit. The millennial entrepreneur side, hustlers, startups and disruptors restarting America, keep them longer. How to gain, train and retain top talent?

I'm exhausted just. Telling you all about her. She's so talented. If you want to feel empowered, find your purpose and step into it, then listen to our conversation. Hi Gabrielle, thank you so much for being my guest today. I'm honored to have you on our show.

Thanks so much for having me on.

So my mom was a bit older when she had me. She had me when she was 42. And so I think that really gave me a perspective of, of you know, really utilizing your life and living your, your, your life's purpose at a young age. And so because of that, she would, you know, and she was a business owner, she was very involved in politics.

She was a community activator. And so she would take me outta school and be like, We're heading down to the capital. Hey, you know, like I'm, I'm working on this business deal, you know, send these faxes for me, which, you know, kids these days don't even know what a fax machine is. And, and I just remember seeing in real time what it meant to be an empowered woman.

And so for me it wasn't whether or not I should be empowered, it was really to what extent. So I did what most young people do is I wanted to go change the world. So I studied in my undergrad politics and theology. So like the two things that people don't really talk about in point conversation, controversial.

I decided to do both of like, let's be the most awkward person at Thanksgiving. And so jumped full tilt and at the end of that journey ended up getting what I thought was my dream job as an education consultant in the California State Capital. Was really excited about what was next for me, but a series of events happened where my boss, who was a state senator, decided to not run for election again, and political speak.

I was unemployed, so I, at 23, I kinda had to reimagine myself. And I've had those points throughout my life where I had to reimagine after relationships, after after moving, after starting companies, after losing companies. And so each time that happened, I really had to come back to that core response of, what's my purpose?

because like most people mm-hmm. , and I'm sure like many of your listeners, I, I had multiple dreams, I had multiple opportunities. I could have gone one of 19 different directions and Right. And because of that, I felt very, I felt very stuck by the overwhelming options in front of me. And so if it wasn't for my clear understanding of my purpose, which purpose is really just the best of what you have inside of you to help other people.

If I didn't understand what that was and how to find it tough into it, I really would've lacked the, the direction necessary for me to ultimately get to where it is that I am today. Wow.

It kind of came at a time where I was really frustrated that everyone kept telling me to find my purpose. You know, that's such a, a throwaway line at, at graduation ceremonies or at, you know, when you're transitioning into something next and, and people kept telling me, find my purpose when I was trying to figure out what to do next, but no one would explain to me how to find my purpose.

And so a researcher by nature, I kind of looked at, well, how is it that I can actually apply how I research to find my purpose? And so I applied the scientific method to interesting finding my purpose and, and decided, you know, maybe it didn't just work for me, maybe it could work for other people. And so slowly people started showing up at my apartment.

Friends of friends started showing up. My husband and I started doing these weekends away where we would invite people and help them find their purpose and. Truly in helping people find their purpose, I found my own, which is really empowering individuals to not only discover, but utilize their purpose.

in a way that creates a clear transformation in the lives of other people. You see, I think people have really made purpose all about them. Like, Hey, how does this make me feel? Or what am I passionate about? And, and it, it really isn't. When you make purpose about you, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment.

And setting expectations on other people that will never be there, that can never be fulfilled. But when you make purpose about you recognizing what have I overcome that I can help someone else overcome? Answering that core question is step zero on the path of finding your purpose.

And so what I want to do is give back to women and show them how they can cope through those life changes and come out better mm-hmm. On the other side. So it's a, a service purpose that I think is embedded.

Your story becomes that authority that you then have a duty. If you listen really closely, you have this duty whispering to you saying you have something that the world needs. and being able to redeem that pain and turn that pain into a purpose, whether it's a divorce or a layoff or a job that you started and didn't work out or, mm-hmm.

or a direction that you thought you were gonna go. All of those things, all of those failures. So that actually created muscle memories, just like going to the gym, right? You build muscle from tear, making little tiny tears in your muscle. You build a, a platform to help people by all those little tiny failures that the, the ability to pick yourself back up and say, Well, what would I have done differently?

When you have that context that you didn't just go through that for yourself, you did it for, you know, your sister or your brother, your friend, your cousin, someone who you may never meet in person so that they don't have to experience things the same way that you. . And, and that I think is ultimately the true test of, am I living at my purpose?

Because I think some people think that they are, they're like I, I, I'm living out my purpose, you know, I'm providing for my family, or, you know, I'm a good mom, or, you know, I'm a good sister or daughter. And, and the role that you play in your family is not your purpose. That is the people you're serving with your purpose, right?

But that in and of itself is not the only reason you're here on this planet. And, and I think just speaking life and permission into the fact that you have a purpose. All of those things that have culminated, yes, you are a mom, you're a sister, you have all of those other elements in you as part of your identity, but what else is there?

Who else could be impacted if we look beyond just what's right in front of us? . That's the stuff that I get super excited about.

But I think for a very long time we've confused duty with purpose. And I think that that confusion has really delayed so much of the progress that I see really coming to speed right now where I'm seeing a huge movement of women stepping into their purpose, saying, Yes, I'm a mother, and yes. Mm-hmm , I'm a sister, and yes, I'm a wife, and yes, you know, I'm, I'm a widow.

And, and those roles that hy think society is placed on us just cuz it's a little bit easier to pick a, to pick a title and move. I think that women are now saying there are so many facets to myself that I have so many lessons. I have so much wisdom that I have earned through, through tears and crying and prayers in life that I know that if I package these things in a really intentional way, that there are people's, these lives will ultimately be changed simply because I said yes to my purpose.

Wow.

Cuz we scribble something on the back of our notebook and we get home back. Dishes and traffic and bosses, and then we lose sight on that emotional high. So, right. So purpose is not an emotion. I think purpose has really been confused a lot with passion. So if you actually look at the dictionary definition of passion, passion is defined as a fairly controllable emotion.

So when people tell you what are you passionate about, well that changes. You can be passionate about pickle ball or you could be passionate about, you know, saving someone from a, a particular disease. And so passion, I think, has just become so confusing and I think has really. Misdirected many of us on our, on our pathway to purpose.

And so the way that we teach purpose, there's four steps. Like I said, we attack purpose from a scientific angle where we say, Hey, what is that core thing that you have inside of you that you can then help others with? So I don't have time to go through all four, but one of the first that we really focus on is what we call origin story.

That moment that really shaped your perspective. And so we analyze it one of five ways. So it's kind of like Enneagram meets purpose discovery, where you start to really figure out what type am. So there's five types. There's rejection, overcomers, people who felt like because of who they were or what they believed, they were rejected by someone in their life.

We have trauma overcomers, someone who experienced a physical or emotional trauma. We've lost overcomers. Someone who. There was a core person in their life, and that loss ultimately shifted their perspective. There's failure overcomers people who were maybe going one trajectory, and because of a personal choice, they experienced that failure.

And then there are betrayal, overcomers folks who put their trust in a person or a process and ultimately had that, that trust broken. And so just finding what type of or and story you have does a couple things. Number one, it it sha, it helps you see how you've shaped your decision making process. The majority of people I talk to have some sort of rejection overcomer in their OR story.

That means that most of their life, they're trying to find a way to not feel rejected. And that's my story. I, you know, workaholic, overachiever, gotta be number one first in line, right? All of those things, we do everything that we can so that we look good enough, act good enough, sound good enough so that way someone won't say that we're unworthy.

And so just finding just that one of those elements of what kind of Oregon store you have then shape so much of your perspective where you can ultimately, Okay. I have authority in this space as a rejection overcomer. I know I could go in and I could help millions of other rejection overcomers identify that moment in time, that shaped their perspective, redeem it, and replace it with the truth.

And so that personal insight, having that structure of identifying what's happened to you is one of the first steps that we go through when we help people find their purpose. That sounds

And what we found is people typically have a primary, and it's usually something that happened before the age of 18. So it could be a trauma loss of someone in their family or rejection by someone in their family. It could be a betrayal by someone in their family or close friend. So typically that primary happens before your your age 18 and creates that muscle memory that you then experience other elements from.

So you may have be a rejection overcomer, for example. And then during your early twenties, maybe become a failure overcomer or a loss over cover. Each of those elements certainly play a role, but the primary, those light bulbs go off. I love it when I get text messages or calls or connect with people after our conference and they say, Oh my God, should me just finding out.

How it is that I, I process that difficult moment in my life shaped every other key moment of my life. Those aha moments are, are some of the most beautiful currency that I could ever

Once you discover your purpose, it is that understanding of what's the best I have inside of me to help someone else. Now, you may change who it is that you serve, Your primary people that you serve with. Your purpose may be your young family. It may be aging parents. It may be you're in between a job.

Just because you're not in a particular role doesn't mean you no longer have a. Who you help with. Your purpose certainly changes, but what your purpose truly is, that thing that you have inside of you that you can help other people overcome, it really doesn't. And so you learn new skills along the way.

You see new perspectives. You get better at it over time, hopefully. But in all of those things, recognizing that your purpose isn't something that changes dependent upon the role you play or how many kids you have, or you know whether or not you're employed or. And I think that the idea, the theology spoke, so to speak of purpose has really confused people because they feel incredibly depressed when, when they don't have a job, cuz they feel like, I don't have a purpose.

Of course you do. Right? Or, you know, my, my, my kids have have left for college. I feel like I don't have a purpose. And so if we so attach our purpose to a role, of course we're gonna be disappointed and depressed. But when we realize that purpose that we have is inside of us all along, we're so empowered and frankly excited about who it is that we get to help next.

So

We then set ourselves up for failure because we assume, well, I can only use my purpose if I become a professional singer. I can only use my purpose if I get that particular job at that particular company, or if I get married or if I don't get married. And so we, we put all of these caveats on our fulfillment.

And then get frustrated that we're not fulfilled. And so if you take a step back and, and look at it like, how fun is it that I get to choose how it is that I wanna use my purpose, right? I run two companies, but I could be working for someone else and still be using my purpose. I could work at Panera Bread and still be using my purpose.

The, the platform is what will change. And so stepping into your purpose, the power is in the specific. So you knowing that you wanna help and empower women is great. That's kind of the first part of it. And then it's with what, right? Mm-hmm. , which is the things that you overcome that you can help other people overcome.

And then with how, And so determining what's that platform? So for you, it's this podcast, It's the coaching, it's the, the core elements. It's that we call it the tool. That thing that you've developed. Whether you knew it or not, when you were going through that hard stuff in life, you were creating systems and processes.

And so digging into that, saying, Hey, when I was going through that really hard saying, These were the things that I was going through. Here's actually how I got from A to Z in reverse engineering, what that looks like. And so the application is the fun part, cuz also too, it changes depending on what kind of income that you need.

It depends on what kind of season of life that you're in. And so I think giving yourself permission to lean into the curiosity of the application of your purpose. , I think is one of the funnest parts of, of being purpose aware.

We'll be right back. Hi, beautiful Beverly Price here. If you want personalized guidance on your journey to confidence and empowerment from someone who's been there and don't want to go it alone, then my signature coaching may be just right. With a confidential approach and one-on-one personal support that has helped hundreds of women, we'll work together to move you forward.

Whether you are looking to deal with a major life change or an overall life overhaul. Schedule a free discovery call with me today at her self-expression dot com to learn more and say yes to the ride of your lifetime. Now, let's get back to the show. We're back. Gabrielle, what three actionable steps would you give to the woman in our audience to step into

their purpose?

And the third question that you need to ask. Who is currently waiting for me to step into my purpose? If you ask those three questions, you are going to identify, number one, that you do have authority. So many times I think we shrink back and assume who am I? Or you know who's gonna listen to me. But when you actually go into the crazy things, you have gone.

Horrible things. You've gone through hell and back, and the things that you've learned along the way, whether it was a bad relationship, a bad boss, a bad economy, you've learned things that you can help provide insight and an influence into other people. The second question of, of really understanding what is holding me back?

So oftentimes we're waiting for permission from our partner, from our kids, from the universe saying, Well, I can't move forward until. . And so giving yourself permission, realizing that that purpose that you have inside of you is your permission is one of the most important gifts you can give to yourself.

And finally, when you've fallen in love with the people, you're supposed to help with your purpose. Doubt, I call 'em doubt, demons, that that imposter syndrome, So many of us talk about those things that are holding us back, no longer have a grip on us because we're like, shut up, doubt demonn. I've got people in wanna health, There's someone on the other side of this that needs me to step, ands waiting for me.

And so when you start, stop making it so much about you and how you feel about it. And start making it about the people who were, are waiting for you to step into your purpose. It, it accelerates your discovery and, and I think would be an incredible place for your listeners to start.

And that'ss another way to look at it too. Yeah. Mm-hmm. . So how do you think taking these three steps impact a woman's journey from self-expression to confidence and self-empowerment?

I want to act and dress and be accepted and seen and be loved how I truly am. And I think when we make that shift of purpose aware to purpose fulfilled, it really is us being fully self actual. It's us truly understanding and redeeming the hard craft we've gone through, or the, the insight that we've experienced or the solutions that we've created for other people.

I think it creates that confidence because we know that who we are is enough and that what we have done isn't just about us, but we can take it, redeem it, rewrite that story, and then help other people. How

And when you ask most people what they think success is, they may say, you know, financial freedom. They may say time freedom. They may say, You know, my family's healthy. So everyone has a very personal definition of what success is. But I would argue if you don't know your purpose, you're not successful at all.

Because you're taking and pulling what other people see as good enough and saying, Well, that's, they're good enough, is good enough for me. But when you know what your purpose is, you realize that what you have inside of you isn't just good enough. It's the best. and you really start to have, I think, what so many people are looking for, which is that self love, that self acceptance, right?

That piece that comes at the end of the day that I showed up and because I showed up something really positive happened. Mm-hmm. , So we call them fulfillment transactions like most people think of just financial transactions. We talk about fulfillment transactions. How is it that, you know, I'm able to show up and know that because I've done the hard work and written six books and, you know, done the TED Talks and help other people do the same.

It's not just about me being able to say, Yes, I know, you know, other people are able to make money because of what it is. I've been able to, to talk to them about. That's a financial transaction. The fulfillment transaction comes from the stories, the notes, the, the feedback that I get from their audience of saying, I'm so thankful that you're here.

So I think that's kind of the underlying superpower of people that when they're fully in their purpose, There's this aura of success around them because they've defined success for themselves and they're fully living it out.

When I think about self-expression, I'm thinking about you. Expressing who you are, what you believe, and where you're going in a way that is like fully resonated. So I'm talking a lot about authenticity because I think mm-hmm. , that that's something that we, not just as women, I think as humans, we really struggle with.

And so when it comes to self expression, it's you showing up as your true self, Andy, showing up as your best. So sometimes our true self isn't our best self. We're like, I'm a hot mess today. Mama's tired. Mama needs a snack, right? And, and I, and our, and our best is us saying, Hey, I put in the work, I know that I have to, you know, work hard on this project and start this business or write this book and make it the absolute best because that's what the people I wanna help deserve.

And so think self-expression is that really perfect marriage of showing up as your truest self and showing up as your best.

So that's, that's a, a good problem to have, I suppose. . Yeah. I mean, our folks in your community, which by the way, thank you so much just for inviting me in and getting to, to meet and chat with the, the good folks that you've created a community around. It's such an honor. Thank you. But yeah, I mean, we've got tons of ways that we love to give back.

I mean, folks can check out our book. The Purpose Factor, it just came out on, on paperback. So the purpose Factor is on Audible, and then we've got a free community. I do free training all the time on how to find your purpose or how to get your first paid speaking engagement or how to write a book.

Stuff that I've been able to learn along my journey that frankly, I wish someone would've helped me. And so we've got a free community. It's just you can check it out@sevenfigurepurpose.com. It's the number seven figure purpose.com. And come join us, come hang out with some of our free training, and, and that's probably where my favorite place is to be.

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