Emotional resilience, overcoming self-doubt, and mindset shifts with Kim Ades
Welcome! Today’s guest is Kim Ades, who designed The Frame of Mind coaching program to provide executive coaching clients with a powerful infrastructure to help them achieve higher levels of success. Kim is here to help us understand emotional resilience, overcoming self-doubt, and mindset shifts. Join us!
“We are successful every day, but we don’t give ourselves credit for that.” Click To Tweet
Tell us about the first job you ever had.
I was the salad bar girl at a Subway shop in Montreal.
How did you start coaching and doing all that you do today?
I am really a serial entrepreneur; I owned a company and found that a higher degree of emotional resilience is the determinant in success. This is what led me to coaching.
What does “having emotional resilience” really mean? Is it being completely relentless that is the ultimate success factor?
We all know that life experiences knock us down sometimes. Those who can get back up will have a higher level of success than others.
Do you think that failure is important to experience and understand your resilience?
Yes, failure is important to success. Failure helps you get better, sharper, and tougher. You have to be aware of your strengths and weaknesses.
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How can people get over self-doubt?
We ask our coaching clients to journal in an online journal that goes to a coach for a response. This allows the client to write down the story about their failure. We want to teach people to reinterpret the events that lead to failure.
How does journaling through a failure help me?
We want to see how their thinking affects their outcomes and see where the self-limiting beliefs impact them. We are looking at how you respond to what happens to you.
Can you give us some tools of thought-mastery in journaling?
One exercise is to write down, in paragraph form, your answers to the following questions:
What do I really, really want?
Why don’t I currently have what I really, really want?
After writing these down, challenge every reason you’ve listed; this tells you where your thinking isn’t aligned with your goals.
Is emotional resilience being able to overcome whatever adversity you go through?
Absolutely! When the negative occurs, we shut down and close in. We teach clients to examine the negative and use those experiences as a contrast to gain clarity on what they really want instead.
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Do you have other ways besides journaling to get over the self-doubt after a failure?
We all experience some form of self-doubt, even the most successful people. People with a high degree of emotional resilience recognize the self-doubt, but don’t allow it to paralyze them. A mindset shift takes place. It’s about understanding the risk and mitigating it.
What is a strategy for success for women entrepreneurs to keep in mind?
Many entrepreneurs are doing too many things! Identify and focus on core strengths. Work hard to eliminate and outsource the rest. Start to believe that you can find the resources you need.
Do you have any techniques you can recommend for women entrepreneurs?
I have two tips: Try things out before going full-fledged. Take care of the way you think.
Lightning Round Questions:
What trophy do you want on your mantel? “Best Mom Ever”
What is your guilty pleasure? Getting facials
What are you currently reading? Scaling Up by Verne Harnish
What is your favorite productivity hack? Make a list!
What is your personal motto? “Do your best and keep trying.”
What would you do differently if you could start all over? “I’d be a little less averse to debt and be willing to take on some to grow at a faster rate.”
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