There are seven primary areas of life that you can empower and master: Mentally, Vocationally, Financially, Familially, Socially, Physically and Spiritually. To master each area takes authenticity, sustainable fair exchange and equity in your daily transactions.
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All seven areas of life are impacted
by sustainable fair exchange and
Speaker:authenticity.
Speaker:In all probability,
Speaker:you've heard of the term
sustainable fair exchange.
Speaker:This is a absolutely essential
component of the mastery of life.
Speaker:I mean, in every relationship you have,
whether it is at home with yourself,
Speaker:children, with your loved ones,
Speaker:your parents, your social
interactions, your employees,
Speaker:your customers, the people you work
for possibly, your vendors. I mean,
Speaker:I could go on and on.
Speaker:Almost every area of your life is
affected by relationship dynamics and
Speaker:transactions. And unless you have
sustainable fair exchange with them,
Speaker:the probability of mastering
and maximizing your
potential in life goes down.
Speaker:Because anytime you try to get
something for nothing or give
Speaker:something for nothing,
Speaker:others or yourself will be in
disincentivized to continue.
Speaker:And so transactions will be short-lived.
Speaker:And anything that's short-lived that
is immediate gratifying is not as
Speaker:empowering as long-term vision.
Speaker:People that have a longer term vision and
longer term relationships tend to have
Speaker:more stability than people who don't.
So I'd like to talk about how do we,
Speaker:how to maximize our
sustainability and fair exchange,
Speaker:and its impact on all
areas of our life. See,
Speaker:I divide life into seven
areas, our spiritual quest,
Speaker:our intellectual or
mental development quest,
Speaker:our business or vocational
quest, our financial independence
Speaker:quest, our relationship
and family, familial quest,
Speaker:our social leadership quest,
and our physical wellbeing.
Speaker:So I'd like to address how does
sustainable fair exchange help all those.
Speaker:So we'll start with the mental.
Speaker:When you are exaggerating yourself
and looking down on somebody,
Speaker:thinking that you're superior
and they're inferior,
Speaker:and possibly minimizing
them and exaggerating you,
Speaker:you tend to awaken inside
you a narcissistic persona.
Speaker:The thing that thinks, well,
I deserve more than you,
Speaker:and my opinions are better than
yours, and I'm superior to you.
Speaker:A superiority complex. When you do,
you tend to think, what's in it for me?
Speaker:But you don't think of
what's in it for them.
Speaker:You devalue them and overvalue
you. When you do, you end up,
Speaker:if you're in business,
Speaker:that means you're not caring
and listening to the customer,
Speaker:or if you're in your mental faculties,
that means you have noise in the brain,
Speaker:and you're inauthentic. Anytime you puff
yourself up and exaggerate yourself,
Speaker:you have an inauthentic persona.
And anytime you minimize yourself,
Speaker:you have an inauthentic persona.
Speaker:It's when you're being yourself
that you have an authenticity.
Speaker:So if you puff yourself up and minimize
them and put them in the pit and
Speaker:exaggerate you on the pedestal,
you've lost your identity.
Speaker:And anytime you infatuate with you
and minimize them or resent them,
Speaker:they occupy and you occupy your
space and time in your mind and it
Speaker:distracts you and you have brain noise.
Speaker:So your mental faculty is
not clear minded. It's noisy,
Speaker:it's got static, it's got
emotions. It's inauthentic,
Speaker:it's unstable.
Speaker:And when you try to get something for
nothing or try to give something for
Speaker:nothing, you end up with a
narcissistic pride or altruistic shame.
Speaker:And so the pride and shame
is not a clear consciousness.
Speaker:So your mental faculties are clouded,
they're not clear, they're not stable,
Speaker:they're not inspired,
Speaker:whenever you are exaggerating
you and minimizing others,
Speaker:or exaggerating them and minimizing you.
Speaker:When you minimize yourself and
exaggerate them, you're altruistic,
Speaker:you try to give something for
nothing, you're out of fair exchange.
Speaker:So anytime you're out of fair exchange
and you try to get or give something for
Speaker:nothing, narcissistic or altruistically,
Speaker:you automatically have noise in the
brain. So from a brain function,
Speaker:the static in the brain, the noise in the
brain, the instabilities in the brain,
Speaker:the preoccupation,
Speaker:when you're highly infatuated with
somebody or highly resentful to somebody,
Speaker:it's hard to sleep at night.
Your sleep is affected,
Speaker:your brain function is diminished,
and you're in your amygdala,
Speaker:which is not the place where the executive
function is where you're most ordered
Speaker:and governed. So from
a mental perspective,
Speaker:it's important to have a sustainable
fair exchange and to see people
Speaker:reflectively and see them as equal to you,
Speaker:'cause you put them on pedestals or pits,
Speaker:you're not going to be yourself and
you're going to have all the noise. Now,
Speaker:from a business perspective,
Speaker:if you are puffing yourself
up and thinking you're
superior to your customer and
Speaker:don't meet their needs, they
don't buy, which humbles you.
Speaker:And if you think you're superior to
your employees and you don't meet their
Speaker:needs,
Speaker:they'll create a union to counterbalance
you to get things back in balance.
Speaker:The symptoms of business
are feedback mechanism,
Speaker:just like the symptoms of your brain and
mind are feedback mechanisms to let you
Speaker:know when you're not authentic and
not in sustainable fair exchange.
Speaker:And you're either exaggerating or
minimizing yourself with narcissistic or
Speaker:altruistic behaviors. So in
business, if you exaggerate yourself,
Speaker:you don't meet the customer's needs or
the employee's needs, which humble you.
Speaker:And if you're altruistic
and you exaggerate your
customers or your employees,
Speaker:you'll have anarchy in your business and
you'll have a lack of profits in your
Speaker:business with your customers.
Speaker:So you won't want to continue to do
business if you're minimizing yourself
Speaker:altruistically and they won't want
to do business with you if you're
Speaker:narcissistically exaggerating
yourself and trying to be, you know,
Speaker:get something for nothing.
Speaker:So what nature does is create symptoms
in your business and to bring homeostasis
Speaker:back to your authentic self where
you have sustainable fair exchange.
Speaker:So all the symptoms in your mind and
your brain and all the symptoms in your
Speaker:physiology for that matter,
Speaker:'cause your brain with its autonomics
and epigenetics is affecting your body.
Speaker:All those symptoms are feedback
mechanisms to get you to be authentic,
Speaker:to not exaggerate or minimize yourself,
Speaker:to not judge people and to love people
and to have reflective awareness.
Speaker:When it comes to finances
if you exaggerate yourself
and get emotional exuberant
Speaker:and get cocky and extroverted
and think you deserve more,
Speaker:and you start borrowing other people's
money and getting over leveraged,
Speaker:and you buy when the market is
skyrocketing and get elated,
Speaker:then you end up getting humbled,
Speaker:and you eventually have margin
calls and decline in returns.
Speaker:That's why Warren Buffett says,
until you can manage emotions,
Speaker:don't expect to manage money.
Speaker:So there you're trying to
get something for nothing.
Speaker:You're trying to use other people's
money to get you extra money,
Speaker:and you get a little
bit on the greedy side,
Speaker:and that eventually humbles
you and catches you.
Speaker:Or if you minimize yourself and you're
at the bottom and you're basically in
Speaker:fear,
Speaker:and now what you'll do is you'll sell out
at the bottom 'cause you're frightened
Speaker:of losing more and you'll
let your emotions run you.
Speaker:So if you exaggerate yourself or minimize
yourself and don't have fair exchange
Speaker:with the company and the the
employees and also the buyers,
Speaker:the customers again in the business,
Speaker:when you're buying company stocks or
real estate for that matter, again,
Speaker:when you have emotions and
you're unstable like that,
Speaker:you're foolish usually in your behavior
and you're not able to maximize your
Speaker:financial position in life. But if
you're in your executive function,
Speaker:you're thinking long term, you're
more neutral, you're more fair,
Speaker:you try to have a
sustainable fair exchange,
Speaker:you'll have a lasting
relationship with money.
Speaker:There's a gentleman here that I've,
Speaker:very close friend here that
lives on the ship that I live on,
Speaker:that says the number one rule
that he has in all transactions,
Speaker:and he is a very wealthy man,
Speaker:is to make sure it's a sustainable fair
exchange with the people that he's doing
Speaker:business with. He says that's the one
that allows you to have a reputation,
Speaker:to build a brand, and to
eventually make great fortunes.
Speaker:In the next area is relationships.
Speaker:If you think you're superior to the person
that you're in relationship with and
Speaker:talk down to them and not meet their
needs and think that you're more important
Speaker:than them,
Speaker:eventually they'll might surprise you
by having an affair or divorcing you,
Speaker:economics down, affect your business,
Speaker:distract your mind
So it's wiser to communicate what you
value in terms of what they value.
Speaker:And you won't do that if you devalue what
they value and you overvalue what you
Speaker:value.
Speaker:So taking the time to see how whatever
they're dedicated to is helping you
Speaker:fulfill what you're dedicated to,
Speaker:and seeing how what's highest on their
values is helping you fulfill what's
Speaker:highest on yours, and vice versa,
Speaker:that increases the probability of having
a transaction that's sustainable and
Speaker:fair exchanged, and allows you to have
a long-term relationship. You know,
Speaker:there's an equity theory that's keeping
an eye on everybody inside is keeping an
Speaker:eye on what they've exchanged with people.
Speaker:And if they feel that you owe
them something, they retain it,
Speaker:that information in their mind. You know,
Speaker:a woman's memory is more
powerful than any intel chips.
Speaker:They'll remember everything,
of course men do too.
Speaker:So they basically remember anything
that wasn't a fair exchange,
Speaker:and they'll store that in
their subconscious mind
and download it on you when
Speaker:you don't have a fair exchange to
get you back into fair exchange.
Speaker:So it's just trying to
get you to be authentic.
Speaker:People want to be in
relationship with who they are,
Speaker:and you want to be loved for who you are.
Speaker:And so authenticity and sustainable
fair exchange is the key in
Speaker:relationships. It's the key in
finance, the key in business.
Speaker:It's key in your brain. And
when it comes to social life,
Speaker:even though you may want
to wake up your leader,
Speaker:it's when you live by your highest
priorities, you're most objective,
Speaker:you're most walking your talk, you're
most authentic in your expression.
Speaker:It's in that state that you actually
have the most powerful social leadership
Speaker:position.
Speaker:In that case you're capable of doing
something really extraordinary as a leader
Speaker:and guide people. And in
the process of doing that,
Speaker:you automatically draw and
magnetize charismatically people to
Speaker:you. And in the process of doing
that, you lead. And the question is,
Speaker:is when you're living
by your highest values,
Speaker:you're more focused on what it is that's
meaningful and you're be more in the
Speaker:leadership position. But
leadership position is really,
Speaker:and the charismatic and magnetic
description of people that are in the
Speaker:leadership position,
Speaker:are people who are automatically living
congruently with their highest value and
Speaker:are walking their talk.
Speaker:And that's where they're most authentic
and that's where they have the most
Speaker:sustainable fair exchange.
Speaker:They are able to communicate what they
value in terms of others. So as a leader,
Speaker:if you want to actually
have a social influence,
Speaker:it's caring enough to take
what's inspiring to you and
what's most important to
Speaker:you and communicate it in a way
that meets the needs of others.
Speaker:You know, on social media, if you go out
there and you share a message on there,
Speaker:when I share a message, it meets people's
needs, the numbers grow. When I don't,
Speaker:they don't. It's that simple.
Speaker:So if I am caring enough to communicate
my values in terms of their values,
Speaker:I have an audience and I have an
influence, and you make a difference.
Speaker:So the same of principle again.
Speaker:But if you exaggerate yourself and think
you know more about what they need and
Speaker:it doesn't meet a need, it humbles you.
Speaker:Or if you end up doing something
that is inspiring to people,
Speaker:but it doesn't mean anything to
you, you don't want to do it.
Speaker:So you have to find a balance between
you and them, the self and other,
Speaker:the sustainable fair exchange,
win-win as the key says,
Speaker:in order to have that sustainable.
And on your physical health,
Speaker:whenever you have exaggerate
yourself with narcissism,
Speaker:your glucose level goes up in
the brain because of glucagon.
Speaker:And when you minimize yourself,
insulin comes in and it it goes down.
Speaker:So your blood sugar, your blood
pressure, your physiology,
Speaker:your autonomic nervous system is
a feedback system with symptoms
Speaker:to let you know whenever
you're not authentic and in
sustainable fair exchange.
Speaker:So you're creating illness, if you will,
Speaker:as a feedback to let you know when
you're not authentic and not in a fair
Speaker:exchange with people that you care about
in these areas of your life. And so,
Speaker:all seven areas of life are impacted
by sustainable fair exchange and
Speaker:authenticity. And again, on the
last one is your inspiration,
Speaker:your spiritual direction.
When you are authentic,
Speaker:when you're in sustainable fair exchange,
Speaker:you have the highest degree of gratitude
because you can't wait to get up and be
Speaker:of service, people can't wait to
get it, and your brain is clear,
Speaker:you have a no clouded mind. You're
inspired, you're doing what you love.
Speaker:You are spontaneously
inspired from within.
Speaker:You're now fulfilling
your spiritual mission,
Speaker:'cause your highest value is
your teleological mission.
Speaker:So you empower literally all seven
areas of your life to the degree
Speaker:that you live by priority,
Speaker:communicate your highest priority
in terms of other people's priority,
Speaker:do it in a, not a narcissistic
or altruistic manner,
Speaker:trying to get something for nothing
or give something for nothing.
Speaker:But giving a sustainable fair exchange,
Speaker:where giving something for
something that's fair. When you do,
Speaker:you have the least amount of noise in
the brain, the most amount of business,
Speaker:the most amount of wealth production,
Speaker:the greatest relationship
endurance and win-win,
Speaker:the greatest leadership skills,
Speaker:you have physiological
wellness instead of illness,
Speaker:and you're inspired and
you're on your mission.
Speaker:So sustainable fair exchange can
empower all seven areas of your life.
Speaker:And that's why I wanted to make a
take a moment to talk about that.
Speaker:In the Breakthrough Experience Program,
Speaker:which I've been teaching
now for 35 years almost,
Speaker:I go in there and I teach people how to
identify what their highest value is,
Speaker:how to live according
to their highest value,
Speaker:how to have more adaptability
and resilience and objectivity,
Speaker:and therefore come from
a state of authenticity,
Speaker:walking your talk with
integration and how to
Speaker:communicate and do linkings of values and
communicate what you value in terms of
Speaker:other people's values, so you
can empower all those areas.
Speaker:How to dissolve the noise in the brain
so you have a clear consciousness,
Speaker:how to maximize the business transactions
so there's sustainable fair exchange
Speaker:with the people you work with and the
people you work for, the customer.
Speaker:How to have more wealth potential.
Speaker:And just that in itself in
Breakthrough is worth the class.
Speaker:And then also how to communicate
effectively in relationship.
Speaker:Because you're going to be in relations
with people all over your life.
Speaker:And if you know how to communicate
your values in terms of theirs in a
Speaker:sustainable fair exchange way, you're
definitely going to go farther in life.
Speaker:And if you can do that in social circles
and grow your leadership and leverage
Speaker:yourself now in whatever way through
public speaking possibly, or social media,
Speaker:this gives you a competitive
advantage and comparative advantage.
Speaker:And that will help you in have more
wellness quotient and have you have more
Speaker:vitality in life.
Speaker:Because when you're living by your
highest values and being authentic,
Speaker:you have the most energy and
vitality and health and wellbeing,
Speaker:and you're most magnetically attractive.
Speaker:And you'll be inspired and you'll
feel like you're on a mission.
Speaker:And those that have an inspired mission,
literally are their spiritual path.
Speaker:Your spiritual path may or may not be
religious and institutionally religious,
Speaker:it may be whatever inspires you. In
my case my spiritual path is teaching.
Speaker:But all seven areas of your
life are impacted by it.
Speaker:And that's why I tell people to
come to the Breakthrough Experience,
Speaker:so they can empower that. That's
been my dream since I was 18,
Speaker:to help people empower all seven areas
of life. That's what I wanted for myself.
Speaker:That's what I wanted for my students.
Speaker:I didn't want them to just be
lopsided and have a wheel that's flat,
Speaker:you might say, but have all seven
areas of their life empowered.
Speaker:To do original ideas and bring them to
the world and to grow whatever vocational
Speaker:business that's meaningful to them.
And that may be raising a family,
Speaker:'cause that's a business.
Speaker:Your customer may be your spouse and
you're having children as your products.
Speaker:But whatever it is in business
to be able to grow that,
Speaker:I want people to be able to
be prosperous in their life.
Speaker:I want them to be able to have a loving
relationship and have social influence
Speaker:and physically fit and be inspired.
Speaker:And I believe that that's what
everybody's looking for in a relationship.
Speaker:They're looking for somebody
that's physically fit and
inspired by what they're
Speaker:doing and, you know, have some
ambitions in life and goals in life.
Speaker:And somebody that's intelligent and
somebody that's resourceful and somebody
Speaker:that loves them and somebody
that's socially influential.
Speaker:You're looking for the
best package possible.
Speaker:And that's why in the
Breakthrough Experience,
Speaker:I teach you how to awaken those powers
have sustainable fair exchange so you can
Speaker:empower all areas of your life.
And I'm certain that you can do it.
Speaker:I've seen it, I've worked
with it. I know its impact.
Speaker:And I've seen thousands of people with
their feedback and comments back from the
Speaker:program, the impact it has.
Speaker:So come and join me at the Breakthrough
Experience so you can have more
Speaker:sustainable fair exchange and live more
authentically with less noise in the
Speaker:brain, more productivity at work,
Speaker:more income and financial empowerment,
more stable relationships,
Speaker:more social influence,
Speaker:more physically well and quotient
and energized and inspired.
Speaker:And I know that if you do that,
Speaker:I know you'll be able to say thank you
to yourself and look in the mirror and
Speaker:said, Hey, amazing individual you are.
Speaker:And it's all comes from
learning how to be authentic.
Speaker:The magnificence of who you are is far
greater than any of the fantasies you'll
Speaker:impose on yourself. So don't
exaggerate or minimize yourself.
Speaker:Don't exaggerate or minimize others.
Bring reflective awareness into operation.
Speaker:And that's why I tell people to
come to the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:I show them how to do this so they
can empower all areas of their life.