There are seven primary areas of life that you can empower and master: Mentally, Vocationally, Financially, Familially, Socially, Physically and Spiritually. To master each area takes authenticity, sustainable fair exchange and equity in your daily transactions.

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All seven areas of life are impacted

by sustainable fair exchange and

authenticity.

In all probability,

you've heard of the term

sustainable fair exchange.

This is a absolutely essential

component of the mastery of life.

I mean, in every relationship you have,

whether it is at home with yourself,

with your spouse, with your

children, with your loved ones,

your parents, your social

interactions, your employees,

your customers, the people you work

for possibly, your vendors. I mean,

I could go on and on.

Almost every area of your life is

affected by relationship dynamics and

transactions. And unless you have

sustainable fair exchange with them,

the probability of mastering

and maximizing your

potential in life goes down.

Because anytime you try to get

something for nothing or give

something for nothing,

others or yourself will be in

disincentivized to continue.

And so transactions will be short-lived.

And anything that's short-lived that

is immediate gratifying is not as

empowering as long-term vision.

People that have a longer term vision and

longer term relationships tend to have

more stability than people who don't.

So I'd like to talk about how do we,

how to maximize our

sustainability and fair exchange,

and its impact on all

areas of our life. See,

I divide life into seven

areas, our spiritual quest,

our intellectual or

mental development quest,

our business or vocational

quest, our financial independence

quest, our relationship

and family, familial quest,

our social leadership quest,

and our physical wellbeing.

So I'd like to address how does

sustainable fair exchange help all those.

So we'll start with the mental.

When you are exaggerating yourself

and looking down on somebody,

thinking that you're superior

and they're inferior,

and possibly minimizing

them and exaggerating you,

you tend to awaken inside

you a narcissistic persona.

The thing that thinks, well,

I deserve more than you,

and my opinions are better than

yours, and I'm superior to you.

A superiority complex. When you do,

you tend to think, what's in it for me?

But you don't think of

what's in it for them.

You devalue them and overvalue

you. When you do, you end up,

if you're in business,

that means you're not caring

and listening to the customer,

or if you're in your mental faculties,

that means you have noise in the brain,

and you're inauthentic. Anytime you puff

yourself up and exaggerate yourself,

you have an inauthentic persona.

And anytime you minimize yourself,

you have an inauthentic persona.

It's when you're being yourself

that you have an authenticity.

So if you puff yourself up and minimize

them and put them in the pit and

exaggerate you on the pedestal,

you've lost your identity.

And anytime you infatuate with you

and minimize them or resent them,

they occupy and you occupy your

space and time in your mind and it

distracts you and you have brain noise.

So your mental faculty is

not clear minded. It's noisy,

it's got static, it's got

emotions. It's inauthentic,

it's unstable.

And when you try to get something for

nothing or try to give something for

nothing, you end up with a

narcissistic pride or altruistic shame.

And so the pride and shame

is not a clear consciousness.

So your mental faculties are clouded,

they're not clear, they're not stable,

they're not inspired,

whenever you are exaggerating

you and minimizing others,

or exaggerating them and minimizing you.

When you minimize yourself and

exaggerate them, you're altruistic,

you try to give something for

nothing, you're out of fair exchange.

So anytime you're out of fair exchange

and you try to get or give something for

nothing, narcissistic or altruistically,

you automatically have noise in the

brain. So from a brain function,

the static in the brain, the noise in the

brain, the instabilities in the brain,

the preoccupation,

when you're highly infatuated with

somebody or highly resentful to somebody,

it's hard to sleep at night.

Your sleep is affected,

your brain function is diminished,

and you're in your amygdala,

which is not the place where the executive

function is where you're most ordered

and governed. So from

a mental perspective,

it's important to have a sustainable

fair exchange and to see people

reflectively and see them as equal to you,

'cause you put them on pedestals or pits,

you're not going to be yourself and

you're going to have all the noise. Now,

from a business perspective,

if you are puffing yourself

up and thinking you're

superior to your customer and

don't meet their needs, they

don't buy, which humbles you.

And if you think you're superior to

your employees and you don't meet their

needs,

they'll create a union to counterbalance

you to get things back in balance.

The symptoms of business

are feedback mechanism,

just like the symptoms of your brain and

mind are feedback mechanisms to let you

know when you're not authentic and

not in sustainable fair exchange.

And you're either exaggerating or

minimizing yourself with narcissistic or

altruistic behaviors. So in

business, if you exaggerate yourself,

you don't meet the customer's needs or

the employee's needs, which humble you.

And if you're altruistic

and you exaggerate your

customers or your employees,

you'll have anarchy in your business and

you'll have a lack of profits in your

business with your customers.

So you won't want to continue to do

business if you're minimizing yourself

altruistically and they won't want

to do business with you if you're

narcissistically exaggerating

yourself and trying to be, you know,

get something for nothing.

So what nature does is create symptoms

in your business and to bring homeostasis

back to your authentic self where

you have sustainable fair exchange.

So all the symptoms in your mind and

your brain and all the symptoms in your

physiology for that matter,

'cause your brain with its autonomics

and epigenetics is affecting your body.

All those symptoms are feedback

mechanisms to get you to be authentic,

to not exaggerate or minimize yourself,

to not judge people and to love people

and to have reflective awareness.

When it comes to finances

if you exaggerate yourself

and get emotional exuberant

and get cocky and extroverted

and think you deserve more,

and you start borrowing other people's

money and getting over leveraged,

and you buy when the market is

skyrocketing and get elated,

then you end up getting humbled,

and you eventually have margin

calls and decline in returns.

That's why Warren Buffett says,

until you can manage emotions,

don't expect to manage money.

So there you're trying to

get something for nothing.

You're trying to use other people's

money to get you extra money,

and you get a little

bit on the greedy side,

and that eventually humbles

you and catches you.

Or if you minimize yourself and you're

at the bottom and you're basically in

fear,

and now what you'll do is you'll sell out

at the bottom 'cause you're frightened

of losing more and you'll

let your emotions run you.

So if you exaggerate yourself or minimize

yourself and don't have fair exchange

with the company and the the

employees and also the buyers,

the customers again in the business,

when you're buying company stocks or

real estate for that matter, again,

when you have emotions and

you're unstable like that,

you're foolish usually in your behavior

and you're not able to maximize your

financial position in life. But if

you're in your executive function,

you're thinking long term, you're

more neutral, you're more fair,

you try to have a

sustainable fair exchange,

you'll have a lasting

relationship with money.

There's a gentleman here that I've,

very close friend here that

lives on the ship that I live on,

that says the number one rule

that he has in all transactions,

and he is a very wealthy man,

is to make sure it's a sustainable fair

exchange with the people that he's doing

business with. He says that's the one

that allows you to have a reputation,

to build a brand, and to

eventually make great fortunes.

In the next area is relationships.

If you think you're superior to the person

that you're in relationship with and

talk down to them and not meet their

needs and think that you're more important

than them,

eventually they'll might surprise you

by having an affair or divorcing you,

, which will cut your

economics down, affect your business,

distract your mind .

So it's wiser to communicate what you

value in terms of what they value.

And you won't do that if you devalue what

they value and you overvalue what you

value.

So taking the time to see how whatever

they're dedicated to is helping you

fulfill what you're dedicated to,

and seeing how what's highest on their

values is helping you fulfill what's

highest on yours, and vice versa,

that increases the probability of having

a transaction that's sustainable and

fair exchanged, and allows you to have

a long-term relationship. You know,

there's an equity theory that's keeping

an eye on everybody inside is keeping an

eye on what they've exchanged with people.

And if they feel that you owe

them something, they retain it,

that information in their mind. You know,

a woman's memory is more

powerful than any intel chips.

They'll remember everything,

of course men do too.

So they basically remember anything

that wasn't a fair exchange,

and they'll store that in

their subconscious mind

and download it on you when

you don't have a fair exchange to

get you back into fair exchange.

So it's just trying to

get you to be authentic.

People want to be in

relationship with who they are,

and you want to be loved for who you are.

And so authenticity and sustainable

fair exchange is the key in

relationships. It's the key in

finance, the key in business.

It's key in your brain. And

when it comes to social life,

even though you may want

to wake up your leader,

it's when you live by your highest

priorities, you're most objective,

you're most walking your talk, you're

most authentic in your expression.

It's in that state that you actually

have the most powerful social leadership

position.

In that case you're capable of doing

something really extraordinary as a leader

and guide people. And in

the process of doing that,

you automatically draw and

magnetize charismatically people to

you. And in the process of doing

that, you lead. And the question is,

is when you're living

by your highest values,

you're more focused on what it is that's

meaningful and you're be more in the

leadership position. But

leadership position is really,

and the charismatic and magnetic

description of people that are in the

leadership position,

are people who are automatically living

congruently with their highest value and

are walking their talk.

And that's where they're most authentic

and that's where they have the most

sustainable fair exchange.

They are able to communicate what they

value in terms of others. So as a leader,

if you want to actually

have a social influence,

it's caring enough to take

what's inspiring to you and

what's most important to

you and communicate it in a way

that meets the needs of others.

You know, on social media, if you go out

there and you share a message on there,

when I share a message, it meets people's

needs, the numbers grow. When I don't,

they don't. It's that simple.

So if I am caring enough to communicate

my values in terms of their values,

I have an audience and I have an

influence, and you make a difference.

So the same of principle again.

But if you exaggerate yourself and think

you know more about what they need and

it doesn't meet a need, it humbles you.

Or if you end up doing something

that is inspiring to people,

but it doesn't mean anything to

you, you don't want to do it.

So you have to find a balance between

you and them, the self and other,

the sustainable fair exchange,

win-win as the key says,

in order to have that sustainable.

And on your physical health,

whenever you have exaggerate

yourself with narcissism,

your glucose level goes up in

the brain because of glucagon.

And when you minimize yourself,

insulin comes in and it it goes down.

So your blood sugar, your blood

pressure, your physiology,

your autonomic nervous system is

a feedback system with symptoms

to let you know whenever

you're not authentic and in

sustainable fair exchange.

So you're creating illness, if you will,

as a feedback to let you know when

you're not authentic and not in a fair

exchange with people that you care about

in these areas of your life. And so,

all seven areas of life are impacted

by sustainable fair exchange and

authenticity. And again, on the

last one is your inspiration,

your spiritual direction.

When you are authentic,

when you're in sustainable fair exchange,

you have the highest degree of gratitude

because you can't wait to get up and be

of service, people can't wait to

get it, and your brain is clear,

you have a no clouded mind. You're

inspired, you're doing what you love.

You are spontaneously

inspired from within.

You're now fulfilling

your spiritual mission,

'cause your highest value is

your teleological mission.

So you empower literally all seven

areas of your life to the degree

that you live by priority,

communicate your highest priority

in terms of other people's priority,

do it in a, not a narcissistic

or altruistic manner,

trying to get something for nothing

or give something for nothing.

But giving a sustainable fair exchange,

where giving something for

something that's fair. When you do,

you have the least amount of noise in

the brain, the most amount of business,

the most amount of wealth production,

the greatest relationship

endurance and win-win,

the greatest leadership skills,

you have physiological

wellness instead of illness,

and you're inspired and

you're on your mission.

So sustainable fair exchange can

empower all seven areas of your life.

And that's why I wanted to make a

take a moment to talk about that.

In the Breakthrough Experience Program,

which I've been teaching

now for 35 years almost,

I go in there and I teach people how to

identify what their highest value is,

how to live according

to their highest value,

how to have more adaptability

and resilience and objectivity,

and therefore come from

a state of authenticity,

walking your talk with

integration and how to

communicate and do linkings of values and

communicate what you value in terms of

other people's values, so you

can empower all those areas.

How to dissolve the noise in the brain

so you have a clear consciousness,

how to maximize the business transactions

so there's sustainable fair exchange

with the people you work with and the

people you work for, the customer.

How to have more wealth potential.

And just that in itself in

Breakthrough is worth the class.

And then also how to communicate

effectively in relationship.

Because you're going to be in relations

with people all over your life.

And if you know how to communicate

your values in terms of theirs in a

sustainable fair exchange way, you're

definitely going to go farther in life.

And if you can do that in social circles

and grow your leadership and leverage

yourself now in whatever way through

public speaking possibly, or social media,

this gives you a competitive

advantage and comparative advantage.

And that will help you in have more

wellness quotient and have you have more

vitality in life.

Because when you're living by your

highest values and being authentic,

you have the most energy and

vitality and health and wellbeing,

and you're most magnetically attractive.

And you'll be inspired and you'll

feel like you're on a mission.

And those that have an inspired mission,

literally are their spiritual path.

Your spiritual path may or may not be

religious and institutionally religious,

it may be whatever inspires you. In

my case my spiritual path is teaching.

But all seven areas of your

life are impacted by it.

And that's why I tell people to

come to the Breakthrough Experience,

so they can empower that. That's

been my dream since I was 18,

to help people empower all seven areas

of life. That's what I wanted for myself.

That's what I wanted for my students.

I didn't want them to just be

lopsided and have a wheel that's flat,

you might say, but have all seven

areas of their life empowered.

To do original ideas and bring them to

the world and to grow whatever vocational

business that's meaningful to them.

And that may be raising a family,

'cause that's a business.

Your customer may be your spouse and

you're having children as your products.

But whatever it is in business

to be able to grow that,

I want people to be able to

be prosperous in their life.

I want them to be able to have a loving

relationship and have social influence

and physically fit and be inspired.

And I believe that that's what

everybody's looking for in a relationship.

They're looking for somebody

that's physically fit and

inspired by what they're

doing and, you know, have some

ambitions in life and goals in life.

And somebody that's intelligent and

somebody that's resourceful and somebody

that loves them and somebody

that's socially influential.

You're looking for the

best package possible.

And that's why in the

Breakthrough Experience,

I teach you how to awaken those powers

have sustainable fair exchange so you can

empower all areas of your life.

And I'm certain that you can do it.

I've seen it, I've worked

with it. I know its impact.

And I've seen thousands of people with

their feedback and comments back from the

program, the impact it has.

So come and join me at the Breakthrough

Experience so you can have more

sustainable fair exchange and live more

authentically with less noise in the

brain, more productivity at work,

more income and financial empowerment,

more stable relationships,

more social influence,

more physically well and quotient

and energized and inspired.

And I know that if you do that,

I know you'll be able to say thank you

to yourself and look in the mirror and

said, Hey, amazing individual you are.

And it's all comes from

learning how to be authentic.

The magnificence of who you are is far

greater than any of the fantasies you'll

impose on yourself. So don't

exaggerate or minimize yourself.

Don't exaggerate or minimize others.

Bring reflective awareness into operation.

And that's why I tell people to

come to the Breakthrough Experience.

I show them how to do this so they

can empower all areas of their life.