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REMASTERED: Winning Plays and Game-Changing Goals, with Matthew Mayberry (NFL, Football, Sports, Entrepreneurship)
Episode 15520th January 2023 • The Action Catalyst • Southwestern Family of Companies
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Matt Mayberry, a former NFL linebacker for the Chicago Bears, acclaimed keynote speaker and peak performance strategist, and CEO of Matt Mayberry Enterprises, talks about going from a teenage drug addict to the NFL, getting a major life lesson from Zig Ziglar, creating a gameplan for his life, the strategy to coming up with your one game-changing goal, and how you will become what you believe.

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Host:

Matt Mayberry, I believe is, you know, one of the next big things in this industry of speaking and authorship.

Host:

Uh, he already is a huge author.

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He writes for entrepreneur.com.

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He's v has a very popular column there.

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Um, he was a former Indiana University and linebacker for the Chicago Bears, so he played in college, went to the N F nfl.

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Uh, he's been featured in e, espn, Forbes, N B C.

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Just an incredible guy, tremendous life story and, uh, we're excited to have him.

Host:

So, Matt, welcome to the show.

Matthew Mayberry:

Thanks for having me.

Matthew Mayberry:

Great to be

Host:

here.

Host:

Tell me your story, brother.

Host:

Like, talk to me about what life was like specifically in like, middle, late, middle school and in high.

Matthew Mayberry:

Sure.

Matthew Mayberry:

I'm a former teenage drug addict.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, at 16 years old I started to hang around with drug addicts, people that were committing crimes, robberies, um, even murders.

Matthew Mayberry:

Obviously I wasn't doing those type of crimes, but, uh, those are the people that I was hanging around with.

Matthew Mayberry:

So ultimately I adopted their habits.

Matthew Mayberry:

So right at 16, I've done every single drug you could think of besides heroin.

Matthew Mayberry:

My mother seen me do cocaine five times.

Matthew Mayberry:

Wow.

Matthew Mayberry:

Um, my best sport growing up was baseball.

Matthew Mayberry:

I was actually, Scouted by Major League Scouts to forego my college education and go play right in the major leagues.

Matthew Mayberry:

A lot of people don't know that baseball was absolutely my best sport growing up, so I got kicked off my baseball team for stealing one of my teammates wallets.

Matthew Mayberry:

Mm.

Matthew Mayberry:

And now all of a sudden, here I am, I lost my absolute best sport, which I really had the most fun playing baseball.

Matthew Mayberry:

So from that event, right.

Matthew Mayberry:

I even spiraled down further and it was to the point where I was gonna get expelled.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, there was not gonna be no more suspensions, there was gonna be no more detentions, I was gonna be kicked out of that high school.

Matthew Mayberry:

And that's when I entered a, entered a drug rehab program where I really started the process of rebuilding my life.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I would've gotten expelled if I didn't go to that program.

Matthew Mayberry:

So it was in that moment in time where I really, I didn't want to go, and the only reason why I went to that drug treatment program, was because my grandparents offered me at the time, $500 if I went, huh.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I started to think about all the drugs that I could buy with the $500 and then in turn sell those drugs.

Matthew Mayberry:

So that's kind of where my mindset was at 16 years old.

Matthew Mayberry:

Wow.

Matthew Mayberry:

And then ultimately two weeks into that program, I didn't want to go there.

Matthew Mayberry:

I was pissed that I was at the treatment program, but I, that's really when I had my awakening.

Matthew Mayberry:

When I came home one night, two weeks after dinner with my mother and father and younger.

Matthew Mayberry:

And for the first time in really three years, I had a heart to heart conversation with my father.

Matthew Mayberry:

Mind you, my father's been an ironworker for the past 40 years.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, the strongest man I've ever met throughout the course of my life.

Matthew Mayberry:

It's not 330 pound lineman that wanted to rip my head off in the N F L.

Matthew Mayberry:

It's my father.

Matthew Mayberry:

So to, to see him break down in tears and really just tell me, you know, Matt, is it something that me and your mother did wrong as parents?

Matthew Mayberry:

What did we do wrong as parents?

Matthew Mayberry:

We don't know if we could go down this road anymore.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, my, your grandparents are gonna have a heart attack.

Matthew Mayberry:

Um, so it was to that, it was that bad.

Matthew Mayberry:

But that conversation transpired me to go into the bathroom and take a shower.

Matthew Mayberry:

And when I got outta the shower for the first time in three and a half years, I had the courage to look myself in the mirror.

Matthew Mayberry:

Hmm.

Matthew Mayberry:

And that's when I saw, for the first time, I saw it so vivid.

Matthew Mayberry:

. I saw anger, I saw depression.

Matthew Mayberry:

I saw a monster.

Matthew Mayberry:

I saw the tears that I put on my mother's face.

Matthew Mayberry:

All the people that I hurt throughout the course of my life that loved me, that I loved most.

Matthew Mayberry:

And in that moment in time, that was my true awakening.

Matthew Mayberry:

In the moment of a second, I collapsed to my knees so hard, to the point where I almost dislocated my kneecap.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, just in an instant I just collapsed to my knees.

Matthew Mayberry:

And that's when I cried out to God and I just cried out to God and asked him, God, can you show me the way to get outta this dark depraved world that I've been living in for?

Matthew Mayberry:

So, That has nearly killed me, and that's when I started to hear over and over again athletics.

Matthew Mayberry:

Athletics.

Host:

Athletics.

Host:

So athletics then, you were already playing, I mean you were already doing baseball, so did you, did you just overnight get back into it?

Matthew Mayberry:

So after I knew that athletics and really getting a Division one college scholarship was really my only lifesaver.

Matthew Mayberry:

That would be how it would save my parents financially.

Matthew Mayberry:

From all the money they spent.

Matthew Mayberry:

I knew that that was gonna start the building blocks towards creating a bigger future for Matt May.

Matthew Mayberry:

And as well as giving back to my mother and father for all their, their sacrifice, dedication, and financial support that they've given me throughout the course.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, those three years where I was living in such a dark world and I, my father was leaving, he, he would always leave bible passages laying around the house or motivational books.

Matthew Mayberry:

And this book at the time was Zig Zigler.

Matthew Mayberry:

I've learned a lot from Zig as well.

Matthew Mayberry:

Uh, his book, see You at the Top, and it was actually bookmarked on the power of goal.

Matthew Mayberry:

It was in that moment in time where I really discovered that we can be, do, or have anything that we want in the world if we just put our mind towards it, 120%.

Matthew Mayberry:

Come up with a game plan on how we're gonna achieve that, and then persistently and passionately work every single day to make that become a reality.

Matthew Mayberry:

Mm-hmm.

Matthew Mayberry:

. And that's when I set a goal to get a Division one college scholarship.

Matthew Mayberry:

It was in that moment in time and I made a list of 50 things that I had to do.

Matthew Mayberry:

I had to run a 4, 5 40 yard dash.

Matthew Mayberry:

I had to bench press 185 pounds, you know, 25 times.

Matthew Mayberry:

I had to reach out to these many colleges, you know, per day.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I started to create a game plan of everything I had to do, and it was that moment in time working seven days a week perfecting on my craft, getting better as a football player, you know, cause I already got kicked off the baseball team.

Matthew Mayberry:

So the only sport I had left was.

Matthew Mayberry:

And football wasn't a sport I was extremely excited about.

Matthew Mayberry:

Um, it was just a sport that I was, you know, naturally gifted at.

Matthew Mayberry:

I wasn't a LeBron James where you say Matt Mayberry's gonna play in the n NFL one day, but I did have some natural God-given ability there.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, I think that's where a lot of people, you know, why goal setting maybe hasn't worked for them in the past, that they might set some, some huge goal that they're extremely passionate about, but behind that, there's no action plan as to how they're gonna achieve that.

Matthew Mayberry:

Just like as a football team, you gotta come up with a game plan as to how they're gonna win the Super Bowl.

Matthew Mayberry:

Everything from practices is scheduled out to the daily meetings, to meetings with your position coaches.

Matthew Mayberry:

The same goes through in the, in the world of business and in the game of life.

Matthew Mayberry:

You need a game plan as to who do you want to become, what are the characteristics that you want to develop, you know, what are your values, what are your goal?

Matthew Mayberry:

All that stuff matters.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I think when I created the plan that really showed.

Matthew Mayberry:

One extremely important characteristic.

Matthew Mayberry:

Where I think a lot of people miss out on in goal setting is to really come up with a plan.

Matthew Mayberry:

And that's what I do in all my goal setting programs.

Matthew Mayberry:

When I speak all across the world, it's not only do we set a goal, a game changing goal, as I call it, one goal that's really gonna transform your entire life that year, but also creating a list of 25 to 50 things that you have to do in order to achieve that goal.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I learned that at 16 years old, a year later, I ended up with 19 Division one College Scholarship.

Host:

And so talk to me now about how, how do we translate what you learned into the big highlights that you've pulled out?

Matthew Mayberry:

Absolutely.

Matthew Mayberry:

Well, I think you know what I just talked about.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, right there with the one game changing goal, I encourage everyone to sit down and really take whether it's during the weekend, preferably as soon as possible if you haven't already.

Matthew Mayberry:

And just sit in solitude.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, some of the greatest thinking in this world has been done in solitude.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I think when we can black out this noisy, distracting world that we live in, you know, just turn on cnn, Fox News, whatever it may be, you'll see what a, you know, what a noisy world that we live in.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I encourage everyone to turn off the news, you know, sit in solitude for 25, 30 minutes, half hour, and just really think about what do you want for your life?

Matthew Mayberry:

And I encourage everyone to pick one game changing goal.

Matthew Mayberry:

At 16 years old, my game changing goal was to get a division one college scholarship.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I say game changing because I think a lot of people, they might have 20 goals that they want to achieve and that's great.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, I think you should have a bucket list for things you want to do before the day you die.

Matthew Mayberry:

But in this instance, what is this one goal that's gonna be a game changer for you to Dr.

Matthew Mayberry:

That's drastically gonna take your business and life to the next level.

Matthew Mayberry:

And what this is doing, it's, it's creating Zoom focus as John Gordon, you know, his zoom fo focus translation there.

Matthew Mayberry:

That that's what it's doing.

Matthew Mayberry:

It's, it's putting every ounce of.

Matthew Mayberry:

Effort and time into this most important goal, and it's gonna increase your energy, your focus, and ability to get the job done every single day.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I encourage everyone to pick one game changing goal.

Matthew Mayberry:

A lot of times it's gonna be a business or financial goal, but it's drastically going to.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, make a difference, positive difference.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, I think when you, when you spend that time in solitude and really black out the noise, I think we, the funny thing about it is a lot of people will say that they might not know what that game changer goal is, but if you listen to your intuition, your heart and soul, more than likely you will develop that game changing goal.

Matthew Mayberry:

I always tell people to go what you're most passionate about right then and there.

Matthew Mayberry:

For me, I was extremely passionate about getting a division one college scholarship offer, but the.

Matthew Mayberry:

So why?

Matthew Mayberry:

My why behind why I wanted to get a division one scholarship was to pay my parents back for all their sacrifice, devotion, and love throughout the past three years.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I always tell people to focus on what are you most passionate about?

Matthew Mayberry:

And not only that, what's gonna bring the most significance to your life?

Matthew Mayberry:

Cuz ultimately that's what success is to me.

Matthew Mayberry:

Fulfillment and significance.

Matthew Mayberry:

Doing things that we love when we want with people, we.

Matthew Mayberry:

. So that's what I truly believe success is.

Matthew Mayberry:

So when you take the time to really think about what is something right now, wherever you are in life, in business, what is one thing that's drastically gonna change?

Matthew Mayberry:

Really, you know, the, the, the future of not only your business and professional life, but also your personal life, life with your family.

Matthew Mayberry:

And, uh, I think more than likely you'll be able to come up with that game changing goal is if you really do some soul.

Host:

With some of the clients that you work with now, are there any, any ideas for getting to the why behind the goal?

Matthew Mayberry:

Yeah, I mean, it's, it's, it's really all about, you know, what is the ideal.

Matthew Mayberry:

So if a company, for instance, they got their vision or mission, mission statement.

Matthew Mayberry:

So every goal, every game changing goal, you know, within that organization has to be revolved around, you know, that organization building closer and closer to that vision and mission.

Matthew Mayberry:

But ultimately, I always say an organization can only become the best version of itself if the individuals within that organization are working and striving every day to get better and grow and become the best version of themselves.

Matthew Mayberry:

Mm-hmm.

Matthew Mayberry:

. So a lot of the work that, you know, for instance with, with big corporations, um, you know, it's more of developing the people within that organization, which will eventually build.

Matthew Mayberry:

Building the organization's future even greater than what it currently is.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I encourage all of the executives and sometimes even before a keynote, I'll sit down with two days bef with the executive staff.

Matthew Mayberry:

Really going over ways we can incorporate different methods and strategies to develop the people within the organization.

Matthew Mayberry:

Whether it's a 500 person organization or 50,000 person organization.

Matthew Mayberry:

What are ways that we can help the people within this organiz.

Matthew Mayberry:

Like Apples, the Googles, the companies that are just dominating, they give back to their people and they let, they help their people grow every opportunity, every day that they can.

Matthew Mayberry:

And I think ultimately that's why those people are so passionate working towards, you know, for a Google or Apple.

Matthew Mayberry:

So developing the people is the first step to developing the organization.

Host:

So what do you think are some of the, the real poor, obviously drugs we talked about, but what else do you think people are doing that sort of sabotages the.

Matthew Mayberry:

I mean, honestly, I think it's, it's pretty straightforward.

Matthew Mayberry:

I, I think a lack of persistence.

Matthew Mayberry:

I think so many people want instant gratification.

Matthew Mayberry:

The world that we live in today, whether it's in the business world, athletics, whatever it may be, Everyone wants to put forward minimal effort with instant gratification in return, and I think that is the biggest mistake for a lot of people that are going after their game changing goal or really to make a major success of themselves make a tremendous difference in the world.

Matthew Mayberry:

I think a lack of persistence and focus is the two things that is sabotaging people left and right every single.

Host:

Hmm.

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Talk to me a little bit about where do you want people to go to connect with you?

Host:

Uh, where, where can they find ya?

Matthew Mayberry:

Uh, you can go on my website, Matt mayberry online.com.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, feel free to connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, all those social media outlets.

Matthew Mayberry:

And, uh, you know, I think that's a good first step.

Host:

All right, so here's my last little, my last little question for you.

Host:

So let's say that there is somebody out there listening right now, and either it's them or maybe it's their kid and they are going through what you were going through.

Host:

They're making all the wrong decisions, they're hanging out with the wrong people.

Host:

What would you say directly to that

Matthew Mayberry:

person?

Matthew Mayberry:

Oh, man, that's a, that's a great question.

Matthew Mayberry:

Uh, there's a lot of things that I would say, but I think that the two most important things I would say is number.

Matthew Mayberry:

Hang around champions, you know, do everything you can to hang around positive like-minded people that believe in your vision that are gonna help, you know, uplift you and take you to the next level.

Matthew Mayberry:

I wasn't raised in an environment where I was gonna become a teenage drug addict.

Matthew Mayberry:

It was because of the people I was hanging around with.

Matthew Mayberry:

Hmm.

Matthew Mayberry:

It wasn't until I passionately and persistently worked towards finding champions, people that were gonna help bring out the best in me to my life, really started to get.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I think association is everything.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, whether I'm talking to executives or a college football team, I'll always say, you are who you hang out with.

Matthew Mayberry:

Association is everything.

Matthew Mayberry:

The second thing I would say is probably one of the most important, and that's to create and expand a beautiful vision for your life.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, Oprah Winfrey once said, create the highest grandest vision for your life because you will become what you believe.

Matthew Mayberry:

And at 16 years old, I saw myself as a, as a scumbag drug addict that didn't have a bigger future for him.

Matthew Mayberry:

, and it wasn't until I was really to create a grand vision for my life until my life really started to change for the better.

Matthew Mayberry:

So I think once you can see yourself succeeding as a victor, as a champion, that's when you'll really start to achieve those results that you never thought was possible.

Matthew Mayberry:

You know, create a vision board, a notebook, you know, set goals for your life.

Matthew Mayberry:

Look at those every single day.

Matthew Mayberry:

Post quotes throughout your computer, bedroom, mirror on the, in the bathroom, whatever it is to move you and inspire.

Matthew Mayberry:

Listen to audio books while you travel.

Matthew Mayberry:

Read good books every single day.

Matthew Mayberry:

Do whatever you can to expand your vision from your current level of thinking.

Matthew Mayberry:

I think that's one of the, the biggest thing that holds people back is they, they stop expanding their vision for what's possible for their business and their life.

Host:

Ladies and gentlemen, Matt Mayberry, what I tell you.

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So Matt, we wish you all the best.

Host:

Brother, thank you for, thank you for your story.