Hello and welcome to the not so travelling introvert. Today
I'm going to talk about dealing with difficult people or more to the point, how
to tips for dealing with difficult people. No matter where you go in the world
world you will find difficult people and difficult to you might be what's not
difficult. For me, difficult can mean various things and while we go out in the
world and maybe we socialise and socialising is a beneficial activity that most
people look forward to, it can also come with a lot of stress as there are many
difficult people that you have to deal with out there in the world. Just about
anything you do will require dealing with humans and some of those humans will
be difficult at some point from colleagues at work to the people you cross on
the way.
While fulfilling simple everyday errands like grocery
shopping. Dealing with difficult people is frustrating, stressful and can be
downright eggsofting, so there are things that you can do to help deal with
them. And so I want to talk about six tips on how you can make it easier to
deal with difficult people. Don't have high expectations. Don't expect anything
from anyone but yourself.
You can't control others no matter how destructive or
difficult they may be. So lowering your expectations decreases your stress and
allows you to keep control where you can. If you expect nothing then you don't
need to waste your time worrying about what ifs. Stay calm and recognise the
fans. Unfortunately, some situations will require you to work with or be around
difficult humans.
Avoiding them will not work in these situations, so instead
focus on the facts and data and always draw attention to that. Don't add your
emotions to the situation and be as calm and direct as you can be. Using facts
and data to your advantage puts most difficult humans to rest as their only
trying to cause a fuss and don't have supporting facts to help. You can also
practise assertive communication. So assertive communication can be direct and
clear about your boundaries while also being respectful of the needs of others
as well.
This helps difficult humans understand that while you have
boundaries, so do other people. And so you should respect other people's
boundaries as much as you should hope that they would respect yours. Another
thing you could do is maybe find common ground. Many times there are situations
where you can find that common ground that makes it easier to cope with a
difficult human. For example, when you're completing an important work assignment,
both parties have the goal to get the work done and hopefully get to the work
done well.
So putting your differences aside and focusing on that goal
is one of the best ways that you can hope to get the work done successfully.
Another thing you could practise maybe is ignoring their demands or negative
responses. Difficult humans want to get under your skin and cause a reaction.
So don't allow this to happen. Simply ignore them and don't give them that
pleasure to gain control over you and your emotions.
Overall, their opinion or idea of you is really none of your
business or important to where your life is going. This is only a temporary
moment of your life and you have control over your body and mind not to
respond. Sometimes the best response is none at all and you can avoid defensive
and negative behaviour. Don't respond poorly. Take responsibility for the
situation and your actions and reflect on the more you reflect on that other
person's behaviour, the worse the interaction will become.
So just don't just let it go. Practise these things. Next
time you come across a difficult human, remember you are only in control of
yourself. While you cannot change the difficult person, you can control your
all reactions and responses to them. The more confidence and control you have,
the more difficult they will become.
Thank you for listening. This is Janice at
Janice@thecareerintrovert.com helping you build your helping you build your brand
and get hired. Have a great rest of your week.
